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Therapist Answers Relationship Questions From Twitter | Tech Support | WIRED

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Licensed family therapist Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile answers the internet's burning questions about relationships. How do you know if someone is gaslighting you? Can a relationship withstand cheating? Do open relationships really work? What causes a marriage of fifteen years to fail? How do you know if your significant other is "The One"? Stephanie answers all these questions and much more.
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@StephAnya Жыл бұрын

Thanks for having me! I'm loving your comments. Thanks for the kindness, everyone!

@rootkite Жыл бұрын

You were wonderfully concise and helpful, thank you so much ^_^ I recently realized I ascribe to ethical non-monogamy, and the way you answered the question about cheating felt very inclusive and open to all relationship styles. You pointed out that shared guidelines and communication are key. I was also happy to hear your narcissism answer, that was very integrative for me. All the best!

@uberDukkha Жыл бұрын

u have twitter we can follow ?

@NDObeats Жыл бұрын

@@uberDukkha she has a KZfaq channel. Steph Anya, LMFT

@Orange0Monkey Жыл бұрын

You were great, thanks for doing this.

@jaydub5515 Жыл бұрын

I'm somewhat insecure in relationships, but I am usually trying to stay detached and not wanting to be in need of validation... What's wrong with me? Hah!

@Rosalynn78 Жыл бұрын

Love her advice to use someone who you’re tempted to ghost to instead use them as practice for having difficult conversations!

@yakb.7690 Жыл бұрын

yep honestly ghosting is such a cowardly thing to do and its usually a red flag for this reason. Even if they love you, if they ghosted a lot of people before they generally arent good at communication in relationships

@gators9570 Жыл бұрын

@@yakb.7690 All the people with the whole “I don’t owe them anything argument” are really contributing to how inconsiderate people are becoming in general. Yeah, you don’t owe them, but it would be kind of you to politely end it

@n0nenone Жыл бұрын

@@yakb.7690...what if I told them that it's enough and they just wanna drag it out longer?.. it depends but if I don't have any better solution, opting to ghost won't make me coward.. as your comment might suggest.. mr/miss.KnowItAll

@yakb.7690 Жыл бұрын

@@n0nenone if you say no and they keep going just block and ghost..? lik still decent to just say no first

@jonnyOysters Жыл бұрын

@@n0nenone that's not really ghosting. Once you tell someone you don't want to interact with them anymore, you can leave it at that. Ghosting is more, sudden. That's what makes it hurtful. Honestly when I got ghosted it was like I mourned the person.

@survivedandthriving Жыл бұрын

I really like this expert. Please have her on again! Common sense, expertise, layperson-level presentation without dumbing down, pleasant to listen to. I think people that see her for therapy are really lucky to have her in their corner.

@survivedandthriving Жыл бұрын

@@anthonyguerin7659 Thank you for letting me know - I will look her up.

@zbd7938 Жыл бұрын

😅

@fanartasmr9190 Жыл бұрын

This felt truly well studied and spoken! Agreed 🎉

@euls02 Жыл бұрын

I really liked how she did not explain anxious and avoidant attachment styles as inferior or worse than secured like what most say. They just seemed like differences in people and hoping that your partner would be able to provide that needed security/space for you. I love that

@lavan6298 Жыл бұрын

anxious and avoidant styles are 'worse' though, since they're insecure. they exist because of unfavourable childhood experiences. wanting space and wanting closeness are both valid and necessary, and are included in secure attachment. wanting an EXCESSIVE or unhealthy amount of space or closeness are what mark avoidant and anxious attachment respectively

@DianaHsu1 Жыл бұрын

Of course a therapist wouldn't say that something is "worse." But of course it's worse - they're maladaptive behaviors as a response to not feeling consistently safe, protected, and loved as a child.

@LegendoftheGalacticHero Жыл бұрын

I don’t understand people’s need to make a ranking of EVERYTHING. Attachment styles are tools to understand someone’s way to relate in order how to tackle your relationship or others with you. Attachment styles are not goals to attain, but the consequence of a million things that define a human being. And at the end of the day, maybe someone doesn’t want to deal with an anxious or avoidant style of attachment but for others, that’s ok.

@nessmarie6044 Жыл бұрын

now everyone in this reply section has a degree in psychology suddenly…lmaoo

@sadgecat588 Жыл бұрын

I think that's true because I read an anxious attachment can also make the person with that attachment super attentive to their partners needs. And I experience this myself! I don't think about my own needs enough but I am so vigilant on fulfilling my partners.

@gabrielscott239 Жыл бұрын

How did she think she was gonna get cancelled for the splitting the bill answer? It was the most balanced respectful thing she could’ve said 😂

@TheNinjapancake14 Жыл бұрын

Right, it’s what most people would say nowadays 😭

@sunnybunny1318 Жыл бұрын

there are a lot of people who believe that the person that asked the other out should pay, and it can also get dicey with gender roles in straight relationships and perceived masculinity/femininity in same gender relationships

@J.5.M. Жыл бұрын

All genders: At a *minimum* offer to pay! It's a red flag when someone assumes the person to pay without the simple gesture of offering to pay. For me it shows you're either not serious or will not be a team player down the line.

@xenophanes2807 Жыл бұрын

I was honestly so confused because to me that ice cold take seems like he most common opinion of all time

@CelestialExility Жыл бұрын

whoever asks should pay, but women almost always expect the guy to ask 💀💀💀 literally no changes

@RambleMaven Жыл бұрын

“Hey, ______ I hope this doesn’t come off the wrong way, but the way your partner talks to me when you’re not around makes me really uncomfortable” that’s a good way to start out that convo if anyone gets out in a position where their friend’s partner is flirting this them. It’s a great way to start the dialogue.

@wtfvenusss Жыл бұрын

youre so right, i like that idea. their response would tell me a lot about them (e.g. if they accuse, blame or insult you,, they do not care about themselves or you.

@nerdysweethappy3531 16 күн бұрын

Such helpful suggestions

@tae-joon Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love that you advise people not to have kids if they actually don't want to. You just prevented a lot of child abuse down the line.

@melaniesyx 10 ай бұрын

You may be surprised to see how some people who don't want to have kids actually get along with kids quite well. There are many reasons why someone doesn't want to have kids. Living in a country that doesn't support women with child raising, for example.

@tiermax1629 6 ай бұрын

@@melaniesyxYep. I have never had the desire to bare my own children but I’d like to think I’m an amazing Aunt to my sister’s kids. They’re my whole world and I think that’s good enough for me :)

@spring7643 4 ай бұрын

Strongly disagree, it won't prevent any. Most abusive people want to be parents, usually desperately so.

@rickymorales5524 Жыл бұрын

“Says a lot about your friendship”. That was the moment I liked her and decided to watch the rest of the video. More of her please! ❤️

@alexithymia6288 Жыл бұрын

I fully agree on your last point that kids are not something that can really be compromised on, as I've just had to go through that conversation with someone. I've known her for several months now, and she's practically the woman of my dreams; we click super well and have grown very close, but unfortunately we can never pursue each other romantically because she really wants kids and I really don't.

@wisdomcoffee Жыл бұрын

Good on you for being honest and not wanting to waste both of y’all’s time

@danreyn Жыл бұрын

You can totally compromise on it. Especially if the woman wants kids and the man doesn't. Just have a bunch of kids and give them all up for adoption as soon as they're born. The woman gets to have progeny and the man gets to not have to raise kids. No sane person would accept this compromise, but it technically meets the criteria for an adequate compromise

@KateandBree Жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree. I said no to a possible relationship because I knew he wanted children. It turned pretty ugly but at least I knew my gut was correct.

@DiederikCA 11 ай бұрын

Thats a hard one. My dad actually didn't want kids in his 20s, but he compromised because he really wanted to be with my mother. And he turned out to really enjoy fatherhood, and he's been an amazing dad. He says its the best thing he ever did. Not telling you to do a thing, but it is worth considering

@alexithymia6288 11 ай бұрын

@@DiederikCA I know I'd be a good dad, but it's really not something I want. It's an immense financial and time commitment that will never really go away; kids don't stop being your kids at 18 or when they move out like some people tell me lol. I don't want to gamble something like that if it turns out my current mindset sticks with me about the situation. I'll just be the cool uncle that has all the fun material possessions like off-road vehicles and fancy cars, and I'm confident that'll be satisfying enough for me.

@argoth83 Жыл бұрын

As far as who pays on dates, my wife and I kind of switched back and forth when we were dating. Basically, whoever was in a more financially-secure spot at the moment paid, or sometimes we split it. I never did understand the idea of one person always paying, especially if you're heading into what you hope is a serious relationship. That's a partnership. Everything goes both ways.

@alejandroramirez4470 Жыл бұрын

That's healthy thinking because there are some people that make it seem like it's usually a man that should. What would this teach women if they weren't capable to be on their own. I get if you financially can afford more expensive things for your date but in return couldn't get equal. Men are simple but usually never expect gifts or whatever because no one is being raised to think about them.

@RamenzillaX Ай бұрын

I would say this is a remnant of when men were the primary breadwinners/"providers"...although in this day and age, if you're both making money, it makes sense to share with each other IN MY HUMBLE OPINION.

@SuperThalberg Жыл бұрын

She forgot the most important part - bake your friend cookies like Phoebe did when she had to tell Rachel about Paolo. That helped a lot.

@Vashtibucket Жыл бұрын

That’s why she said wait til your friend is disarmed lol one of the best ways to disarm someone before delivering bad news is baking them cookies I guess

@dwidana2574 Жыл бұрын

Lmao😂

@neneenenejrkerre1828 Жыл бұрын

when your nurse gives you cookies in the hospital

@SuperThalberg Жыл бұрын

@@Vashtibucket She should have suggested cookies. Otherwise her answer was good.

@samanthac.349 4 ай бұрын

Yes!

@3starsburningbright Жыл бұрын

What she said about attachment is very true. Im the type to fall under "anxiously attached" but my best friend is a lot more avoidant than i am and hes talked to me about how the reason im his favorite friend is because i actually give him his space when he needs it and hes allowed time to himself to disengage and recharge his social battery which he doesnt have with a lot of his other friends. Pay attention to the needs of the people around you because you may be disrespecting them unntentionally!

@hc4846 Жыл бұрын

wait but if you're anxious then doesn't that mean your best friend often can't meet your needs since you need to be validated and attached more?

@3starsburningbright Жыл бұрын

@@hc4846 I have other friends that can satisfy that need for me. I've also adapted to his needs and what times I can usually see him so its easier to go longer without interaction with him. The more i talk to certain people the more I desire their presence more.

@quillsoul Жыл бұрын

Yes! I'm more secure/avoidant, and my best friend is anxious attachment. But we listen and communicate and understand our independence and when we need support! It's not about "they do or don't need me," it's more, "hey, what do you need? Space? A hug? Quality time? Just talking? Great!"

@audreyh6628 8 ай бұрын

@@hc4846 Generally attachment style only really comes into play regarding romantic partners, as these are the relationships which we rely on most for safety and security. However if you're in say a group of single friends, you are more likely to play out your attachment styles on each other. This is why friendships often change when one friend get into a new relationship!

@dioskeirydelacruz7328 Жыл бұрын

I really like the part where she mentioned that knowing your partner's love language can give out an inside of what can hurt them. Never thought of it in that way, so interesting!!

@shashavengesayi6055 Жыл бұрын

Her comments about being careful not 2 establish yourself as the enmy cause you don't know what ppl do 4 u behind closed doors is GOLD! If u think someone is low vibration, then elevate them.

@moodyxepher3729 Жыл бұрын

She has a very good point but Its not always the case. My exes best friends told him of he wanted to cheat on me then I would never find out because they won't tell me.

@heatherlxnn Жыл бұрын

Thank you for talking about "Ghosting"! 100% the reason I stopped using dating apps. I'd much rather hear that the vibes were off, you are no longer interested, etc rather than have my time/energy wasted.

@levimyles7025 Жыл бұрын

This was one of the best ones yet. I feel like this is such practical knowledge for everyone.

@xiaokhat Жыл бұрын

My husband always tells me I have my own version of reality. I never realized he was gaslighting me until I was out of the relationship.

@landonkenisell2874 Жыл бұрын

The first problem is going on Twitter for relationship advice.

@Readraid_ Жыл бұрын

Never a more accurate comment

@otterruin Жыл бұрын

Yet here you are giving relationship advice on KZfaq

@Readraid_ Жыл бұрын

@@otterruin hes not really tho

@simplylethul Жыл бұрын

Do you think people coming to you for relationship advise is a better option? 🤣🤦‍♂️

@ImaErick Жыл бұрын

ong

@Live_Laugh_Loathe Жыл бұрын

I've never been in a relationship nor do I really care for one but it's really nice seeing her explain things so well

@coalblooded 4 ай бұрын

Things like these make me so glad I'm single and solitary lol

@lovingcix9273 9 ай бұрын

2:17 she rephrased the question in such a kind way!! she’s also just extremely knowledgable and genuine it seems. pleasure listening to her!

@katfromdenver Жыл бұрын

I would only tell your partner that their friends are "losers" if those friends are actively causing harm - like your partner makes really bad choices around them, or they're damaging your relationship in some way. But if you just don't like the friends or you don't vibe with them or agree with them or whatever, but they're not having a tangible negative impact on your partner or relationship, I'd keep your opinion to yourself.

@cloudslady3400 Жыл бұрын

Yuppp I agree telling your partner who to be friends with is so controlling and disrespectful to who they are as a person..

@ComedyGlor Жыл бұрын

Facts it’s giving mean girl/boy. Like you just want to humiliate your partner and assert power in the relationship by saying your friends are better than theirs. Weird

@elanafelberg1733 Жыл бұрын

That the best 14 minutes ever!! She is so soft spoken and sweet that I could listen to her all day. Does she have her own channel?

@Vanessalonda Жыл бұрын

She does! @stephanyalmft

@tanyawriter13 Жыл бұрын

Yes, look up Steph Anya LMFT

@amazinggrapes3045 8 ай бұрын

"This is one of the things that needs to be discussed in the beginning of the relationship" For real! People say it's a red "red flag" when someone wants to know right off the bat whether this is a viable commitment or you'd be better as friends rather than waiting years down the line and finding out when you're super invested in each other that you're incompatible in a fundamental way 💀and then WONDER why their love lives are crap! If you are too afraid to have those uncomfortable conversations, you're probably not ready for a relationship!

@HouseMDaddict Жыл бұрын

As person also working in the mental health field, I appreciate what she says in the video. Legit how I respond to a lot of my clients and I'm glad she's showing how insightful and awesome mental health professionals are!

@r0zugorudo Жыл бұрын

The advice about ghosting is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard! The more you practice having difficult conversations, the easier it gets is so incredibly true. Unfortunately in the age of technology it makes it so easy to ghost people, which in return is hindering people’s social skills.

@ManLikeMatts Жыл бұрын

This was too good to not have a part 2

@wyattguina3702 Жыл бұрын

YAAASSS STEPHANIE MADE IT ON HERE. I love her channel. Stephanie is so informative, insightful, and helpful! Yet again, another 10/10 banger video. Keep them coming!

@sunnyday6679 Жыл бұрын

What's her channel name?

@seabisqit Жыл бұрын

@@sunnyday6679 it's in the video description :)

@doriginalkillua99 Жыл бұрын

If you have (those) self love practices.. it makes it a lot easier for the people around you to show you that they love you and it feels like an add on instead of a "need". Words to live by.

@stephh1228 Жыл бұрын

More of her please!! I need her as my marriage therapist for me and my hubs lol

@Rosalynn78 Жыл бұрын

She has a KZfaq channel!!

@stephh1228 Жыл бұрын

@@Rosalynn78 ohhh, I'll check her channel out! Thank you!! :)

@xoMishkaa Жыл бұрын

5:37 I totally agree. Having men pay 100% of the time on dates is so antiquated! This isn't 1950 anymore, women have their own jobs and can pay for themselves. But ultimately I think context is the most important. If I drove 45 minutes to meet in his neighborhood, I would expect him to pay for dinner and vice versa. It's all about making it equal!

@LA-cm9uo Жыл бұрын

It's sad that they care more about what their mom decided for them 40+ years ago than the actual feelings of their date

@hannahhester8376 Жыл бұрын

Yep, I usually do it, I invited you? I pay. You invited me? You pay.

@ashleygolden1994 Жыл бұрын

I agree. I usually do deutch in parts. If I paid for movie tickets, he'd pay for the dinner afterwards. Or if he got the tickets to the event, then I'd pay for the merchandise we got at the outing.

@bigmofarah9084 Жыл бұрын

@Hannah Hester do you ask people out as often as they ask you?

@luminis6950 Жыл бұрын

So true! I also love going dutch in order to not create the pressure that I owe something to the other person since they paid for my food and allows me to be more objective. Once I'm comfortable we just take turns paying for outings :)

@iridiumSerpent Жыл бұрын

Love how this all boils down to : communicating with your partner

@meetkareliya9943 Жыл бұрын

She was so fluid and easy to understand with her explanations..! It shows how greatly she understands psychology..!

@ChadGardenSinLA 9 ай бұрын

This presenter hit on every major topic that's relevant in everyone single person's life today; Values are the most important thing, DBT, 5-stages of grief, love language, self care... we NEED MORE of this please.

@alexasama4434 Жыл бұрын

she's so well-spoken! perfect speed, perfect wording and super educational!

@pamelaarvelo5161 Жыл бұрын

The nails with the hand mannerisms were what drew me in but what she was saying kept me watching! You may never read this but thank you for your insight and expertise, it definitely helped!

@camiojeda1927 Жыл бұрын

I find it interesting that most of the answers in this video are having a honest conversation with your partner. Really comes to show how communication is key 🔑

@name5876 Жыл бұрын

Ghosting existed before the internet, people go their own ways, that's not the problem at all. The problem is that they don't give any kind of feedback while they are still present, so it stays unclear what the problem was. Leaving is never the problem. I was actually always surprised when someone started to become destructive on purpose in a friendship, giving a clear sign they've actually left, yet got offended when I closed the door behind them as if I was the one who left. Most people have no idea how they are percieved by others and they are stunned when they actually learn it, yet most people also dont give a flying hekk about giving any kind of feedback (because they assume others are better mindreaders than them), so after all these are connected.

@17Haru17 7 ай бұрын

Really great advice about ghosting. I understand that those situations exist, but I don’t like when others assume that anyone who gets ghosted is some kind of toxic monster.

@calumv988 Жыл бұрын

I think she articulates so well. I would feel comfortable letting my walls down with her

@savesoil3133 Жыл бұрын

Yes, she seems understanding #SaveSoil #ConsciousPlanet

@csgaiao33 9 ай бұрын

Not all therapists are this wise. She learned well! Wish my therapist was this good

@xmidsummersky Жыл бұрын

uhh as someone who's been ghosted on by her (now ex-)best friend, i wholeheartedly agree with this woman. in fact, i consider it rather rude to ghost someone and i'd rather you just tell me what's on your mind instead of suddenly letting everything slide.

@madelines. 10 ай бұрын

I'm someone with autism. I have a relationship but in mine, everything is always so explicit and overall healthy, that i struggle to put myself in other people's shoes and understand how people have such issues when solutions seem so obvious and tend to be answered by: how about talking about it (in a constructive manner and in a state where you are both able to emotionally regulate if you get triggered). But in that one video, you helped me understand what others feel like in those situations better than most of the psychology books I've read. Thank you

@level_ken5231 Жыл бұрын

Great questions, especially the one about attachment styles. The answer she gave is a deeper understanding of how we see ourselves in light of our attachment styles, said style(s) not necessarily being a negative mark on one’s individuality and character (if they are of good character). It all leads back to effective reflection and communication.

@TheBigtrev1234 Жыл бұрын

A book shoutout - the book "Eight Dates" by the Gottmans that Steph has on her desk with her is a FANTASTIC book which helps create space for a lot of these conversations. As a future LMFT (about to start my residency years) I can't recommend that book enough for no matter what stage of the relationship you're in with your partner(s)

@jessemason91 Ай бұрын

Wish you were my therapist....so open, so smart...so easy to talk to.. You make ALL therapists look good! ty

@jamesrichie3188 Жыл бұрын

If you’re going to ghost someone. COMPLETELY ghost. DONT post, say or do anything in person or on social media that might be confused for continued interest. Cut off contact ALL THE WAY…. You’re not being cute or alluring. It’s causing unnecessary hurt by not making it a clean break.

@marinkovcomedy Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Stephanie! It was a pleasure to hear you talk! I hope they bring you back soon and more often!

@andrea.dandelion Жыл бұрын

This was spectacular! I really loved watching this video, and you can really tell how knowledgeable Steph is. Thank you for making this video and for providing all these insights. I love it!

@briankelly1240 Жыл бұрын

1:22 titlecard question

@jordanvaldez3470 Жыл бұрын

Love it! I would like more advice or a professional/scientific POV on relationships outside a romantic context like families, friends, and the like. 😊

@hkaleemdar8208 Жыл бұрын

Amazing choice of words .... This is the first time I have seen such a sensible therapist

@rev.rachel Жыл бұрын

I love the advice of investing in conversations with people you probably won't see again as practice for when you need to have tough conversations with people you love and care about.

@angelafrench3780 10 ай бұрын

I had one experience with a first date and I was like "if you don't want kids that's fine, but I eventually do" not in those exact words, but I was forward with it. She never wanted kids and we still hung out, but it's better than investing years to find out that.

@rmy_Youtube Жыл бұрын

Ayyyyyeeee It's Steph Anya! I love her videos! She's always so real and informative. Please bring her back!

@deebzeal8204 Жыл бұрын

Really love all of your answers Steph!! And some of them are even relatable to my past and current situation... Thank you very much.

@nehalgupta2057 Жыл бұрын

Wow! Never thought I could actually enjoy listening to a therapist so much. Great one WIRED. Please do a part 2 as well :)

@chrisd3637 Жыл бұрын

Great video- love her explanations and personal touch. Thank you!

@WipeOutROKO Жыл бұрын

what a well spoken woman! She really communicates her points well, first time I've ever enjoyed a video this much, would LOVE to see more of her!

@cramp4221 Жыл бұрын

Really appreciate your fresh perspective! Bonus points for the eye/nail colour coordination 👌

@navd1488 Жыл бұрын

This was amazing. This woman really is brilliant. Didn't think I would get so much clarity on things. Thank you.

@deeps6979 Жыл бұрын

Great questions and answers! Added bonus is the point that attacking a love language can cause a lot of hurt.

@alitzzy Жыл бұрын

Super helpful! Hoping for a part 2.

@vanessaeven Жыл бұрын

This was great. Deserves part 2.

@santieldasavage Жыл бұрын

She's perfect so clear speaking and knows her stuff thank you 🙌

@sedimoonchild Жыл бұрын

This was so great we need another part please!

@glebrao Жыл бұрын

OMG she is so well spoken, i love that!

@captainlovebug Жыл бұрын

Thank you for all the advice! I am in my first relationship ever at 32 years old. Thank you for answering some of my questions I've had. OMG Self Love and Self Worth is what I needed to build and has been the goal in my 3 years of therapy. I can finally say, I got there!

@luvu4eva16 Жыл бұрын

She's so eloquent! Loved all her advice :)

@themistoclesnelson2163 9 ай бұрын

I really like the advice instead of ghosting, to use it as an opportunity to practice tough conversations.

@FrozenNoiseSakuraba Жыл бұрын

This video helped me very much. Thank you Steph!

@Drummasterjay Жыл бұрын

Absolutely loved this video and Therapist!

@davidspierenburg1197 7 ай бұрын

She hit the nail on the head with every awnser. Really well done!

@sepiajoy2871 Жыл бұрын

Her hair, nails, style, and thoughts... all so beautiful and well put together!!

@DaredevilDemitri Жыл бұрын

Fantastic video. A lot of great information well said.

@LILLIANARTE 10 ай бұрын

Loved your answers! Very wise❤️

@johanmalm8378 Жыл бұрын

You give good advice in a nice, friendly and relaxed way.

@tramanhnguyen9100 Жыл бұрын

her advices are so good omg

@whatsydney22 Жыл бұрын

I love Steph Anya and her channel! So exciting to see her on here

@TheAsiaFM 2 ай бұрын

She knows her stuff. Great answers!!

@diahrahma6294 Жыл бұрын

Pleasee bring her againn! We need tons of this

@ItsAnInsideFing Жыл бұрын

Steph you are a blessing to this earth

@victorcraraujo Жыл бұрын

Love this video and her insights!

@THEKNIGHT108 Жыл бұрын

The words of affirmation but made me see things differently in myself and I really appreciated that!

@NotAMuse Жыл бұрын

Love Steph! Super excited to see her here!

@CarpeDiem601 Жыл бұрын

You are amazing!!! So so on top of your game. Bravo!

@CrystalKayann Жыл бұрын

Yay!! Love you Steph!!! Please keep coming back

@rossrussell Жыл бұрын

Wow! A few minutes in and I'm enjoying this already. This is great :D

@WatchKek Жыл бұрын

This was a great vid, would like to see another!

@Only1WithAnE 12 күн бұрын

This was common knowledge to me but still very insightful. She's very well spoken and gave great responses to the questions

@Macieks300 Жыл бұрын

We want more Stephanie!

@kaylagordon6776 Ай бұрын

I really loved her approach.

@DaniNopanties Жыл бұрын

Love this! Going to go follow her now. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@judyl.7811 Жыл бұрын

0:45 she's probably very embarrassed and humiliated. 1:05 let the chips fall when they may: allow events to happen without trying to change them 1:50 a person to practice with to prepare the romantic one: a person where you'd be fine never to talk with them again. 2:20 people that you think uninvestable. 3:20 flirting to be ego-boosting. partner can still pull. in early dating process, defines what's cheating and not. 4:00 look at yourself at an introspective way, not Narcissist. 6:45 making you second guess yourself. make a scene. 9:35 open relationship is connected to the attachment style. still have the consistency to long-term goal with. 10:00 reconfiguring of identity. 11:10 the relationship to be a safe haven to weather the storms outside. 12:30 love language. 13:10 if whether want to have a baby. this is first discuss in the relationship.

@MaiAmezquita Жыл бұрын

Very useful video thank you

@psychedupbruce 7 ай бұрын

She was so good! Loved her thoughtful answers.

@AnaCristina0412 Жыл бұрын

Love this, thanks ❤

@ojematines Жыл бұрын

"When my depression works graveyard shift all over the people I've ghosted stand there in the room. " i don't know how or why just this lyric feels related somehow

@katherinecooper8694 Жыл бұрын

What a great video :) Thank you for sharing

@calliekate8322 Жыл бұрын

I usually never ghost someone however I was dating a guy that gave me serial killer vibes, so I up and blocked him on everything…. He still ended up contacting me. To this day I still believe he would have did something bad to me I had to flee the situation.

@calliekate8322 Жыл бұрын

Even had to change my phone number it was so crazy!