The Surprising Symptom of Depression- Anger and Irritability

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Media portrays the depressed person as struggling to get out of bed, crying, drowning in despair. And while sadness is indeed a key symptom of depression, it’s not the only way it shows up. Anger or irritability is actually one of the primary ways that depression shows up in children and teens. But that anger doesn’t just turn off when you turn 18. So, today we're going to peel back the layers and explore how depression manifests as anger and irritability.
Irritability and Anger are Symptoms of Depression
Depression isn’t just feeling sad, it’s a whole-body experience that can impact every aspect of your life. Symptoms include losing pleasure in activities, changes in appetite or sleep, and often feeling sad, empty or hopeless. But researchers estimate that 30-40% of people experience rage or anger as part of their depression. Sometimes these emotions can be so overpowering that one researcher calls them “Anger attacks” he relates them to panic attacks. Other research showed that of 500 people with depression, over half of them experienced anger attacks, but that when they received treatment, like antidepressant medication, that anger subsided for the majority of them.
Another long-term study found anger is associated with more severe or chronic depression, higher rates of substance abuse, and it’s also linked to familial bipolar disorder.
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@abbsorad 10 ай бұрын

i feel like i come off as angry or irritated because i’m stuck in survival mode, im so tense sometimes the littlest things set me off in big ways

@ernstthalmann4306 3 ай бұрын

Me too

@brianortega8185 2 ай бұрын

I need you in my life

@sludgerat666 2 ай бұрын

Bruh @@brianortega8185

@NightXof 2 ай бұрын

Word!

@mina-fq8vf 2 ай бұрын

I can relate

@Erin-ho8qu 10 ай бұрын

I feel like people have sympathy for the sadness part of depression but not other symptoms

@Fro10079 Ай бұрын

I agree with you to a certain extent, but in my opinion, I feel in general people don’t have sympathy for sadness , or any other emotional outbursts, nor is it their problem, especially if you mention depression .

@gerrardanderson6376 6 күн бұрын

Yeah you’re right , when I’m lazy and or angry nobody cares anymore

@Chickaqee 10 ай бұрын

I see depression as helplessness that arose after the world hurt you, you tried to defend yourself and cope, and you were unable to. I think more than anything, more than any theory of depression I can learn, I just want a hug in my darkest moments. A little compassion for the wounded part of me that was taught that I was powerless. After all I've been through, of course I'm depressed. It'd be much weirder if I wasn't. Please, just see me, offer me compassion, hugs, love, for the pain I have felt, not pills or pathology.

@caitrinhall-turpin4324 10 ай бұрын

You are not alone. It's almost as though you took the words from my own mind. I hope you get the hugs you've been longing for 💙

@moniqueengleman873 10 ай бұрын

Come on into these Granny arms and know I am hugging you from afar. Breathe. Let go. Forgive. 🤗❤️

@kewlenjo219 10 ай бұрын

Yeah they say talk to your doctor...mine asked if I want drugs...no compassion or like it sounds like you are having a hard time...nope, do you want drugs? Then I finally reached out to a Crisis Center, it's been 2 months, no therapist. My Care Coordinator...sighs, I actually give HIM information. I agree, though, I just want someone to actually give a damn, hug, listen. I think depression is definitely where you try and try to deal with something and get hurt and it seems like no one cares, no one is in your corner. So I agree with everything you are saying.

@sarac.3259 6 ай бұрын

The fact that you can work that out and understand it, is surely a really positive thing - even though it still hurts. I sometimes feel like the only people who really understand me are not here any more... (they died) and some people who think they understand me (because they have known me ages) don't at all. So I have this sense of frustration and disappointment - it is managing that that is sometimes exhausting. I have other friends and relatives who are great.

@sonya_natasha 6 ай бұрын

Hugs, hun ❤ I really know what you feel + social anxiety and panic attacks are in my daily routine ...you're not alone and you'll never be❤

@askNatasha82 10 ай бұрын

Internalizing can also be “brushing it off” or “suck it up” or “it’s not that bad” and when you avoid those feelings long enough it builds and explodes in anger.

@dharnasahu2506 2 ай бұрын

Scary

@mwwhatever 10 ай бұрын

I feel like my rage is always just right under the surface

@badboygoodgirl 9 күн бұрын

I try to channel it out in different ways but sometimes i’m just an a hole LOL

@stephs8277 10 ай бұрын

This really resonated with me. I’ve been so irritable and tired. I tend to be very negative and feel like everyone is against me. I’ve been trying to challenge my negativity with positivity.

@nicmar24 9 ай бұрын

Same!

@tammymiller9773 10 ай бұрын

Anger is a signal that something needs to change. Depression is the feeling that it won't.

@loumcmanmon4236 10 ай бұрын

Very well said, thank you

@jillallen7786 10 ай бұрын

I worked as a therapist for 20 years so I always knew this but you have perfectly summed it up

@moniqueengleman873 10 ай бұрын

Discontentment is an opportunity for change. Just communicate with Love and Kindness.

@nomadismileseeker6611 10 ай бұрын

🙄

@Everyfortnight 10 ай бұрын

Frustration and depression when are together should be treated immediately

@MyWifeUsesMyAccount 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. As long as I can remember I’ve been the “angry child”. I’ve always had these bouts of rage that I couldn’t understand why. Extremely irritable. And with that I’ve also remembered feeling depressed as long as I can remember. This makes so much sense. I was recently diagnosed with persistent depression…so it answers the question of why am I always so angry, so exhausted/tired, so irritable. Goodness gracious.

@thorned10 10 ай бұрын

Me too but it does not stem from trauma

@novaste1238 10 ай бұрын

Sending lots of love. It can be a lonely road!

@Cheech1111 10 ай бұрын

I was an angry child also. Interesting as I recognize my depression as an adult but as a child I just felt anger. Good point to bring up to my counselor.

@jchase5158 10 ай бұрын

@@Cheech1111same....

@crystinanna7829 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@lillywho 10 ай бұрын

I can definitely relate... I'm in so much emotional pain that oversteps the boundary into physical pain, it makes me grumpy as all hell.

@chrismazz75 10 ай бұрын

Singing my truth..

@marygraceacebuche1387 3 ай бұрын

same...

@Ozziecatsmom 10 ай бұрын

I find that irritability and anger are the 2 main symptoms of my depression. It’s very difficult especially at work. My medication, and sleeping enough help. Seeing a psychologist for a few sessions a few years ago also helped.

@reptyy4126 6 күн бұрын

same i’ve had depression for quite a while now about 4 years and instead of getting sad am mad and irritated even over small things theres nothing really going on in my life i lack hugs and love i dont have anyone expect my family. i try to go to the gym but find excuses

@fembot521 10 ай бұрын

Yup. The biggest symptom of my grief from my husband dying is anger and bitterness.

@doodadofdeath5673 10 ай бұрын

I used to be depressed, but then i converted depression to hatred and anger. I used a method i call emotion alchemy. They are way more use full then sitting around feeling sad for your self.

@bindukv4197 2 ай бұрын

Bro can u help me.. I'm feeling the same way rn, depressed but the only thing I can feel is intense anger and rage. But after experiencing it for months, the rage has decreased, and I'm becoming slightly happy. Did you completely recover from your depression after releasing your anger?

@kellylewendon6906 10 ай бұрын

This is perfect to explain it all to my boyfriend! I'm not just angry person but my whole life has changed!!!

@c.a.parker5036 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Emma. As an off-the-charts introvert with depression, it is hard to contemplate counseling because of the stress of starting a new relationship. Your sincere and sensible information has helped me put it together enough to reach out to the counselors available to me. I imagine you are also a big help to those who cannot afford counseling.❤

@heisenburg8608 9 ай бұрын

Read the book - the untethered soul. It will help you open your heart and be energised by love, which gives you the power to overcome things like anxiety and depression. Try it

@SC-si9 9 ай бұрын

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@percubit10 10 ай бұрын

I am dealing with anger and depression and anxiety all at the same time. stress is killing me.

@joannenascimento9213 8 күн бұрын

R u here still? Im the same.

@percubit10 7 күн бұрын

@@joannenascimento9213 I am here

@percubit10 7 күн бұрын

The shame cones from fanatic Christians

@astonishingmelanie 8 ай бұрын

As a teacher, I see this in students. I told one freshman that I could tell justice was important to her because she would go off on others when she thought they were being unfair. I told her that I could see she was a caring person working through a cloud of pain. Of course, she still sometimes doesn’t acknowledge that I’m talking to her, but I have seen improvement. I offer her the chance to calm down and take care of herself at the beginning of class if she needs it.

@jamiehackney5619 10 ай бұрын

Anxiety, depression, and PMS cycle = a 24/7 emotional rollercoaster 🫠 I internalize most of the time but too much internalizing leads to externalizing to cope with too much internalizing 😵‍💫

@rosaliethon6285 2 ай бұрын

depression.. is when one is stuck in a unhealthy situation.. with no support or help... and they feel like they have no more energy or resilience .. to keep going . like they want to just quit!!! when, there is no light at the end of the tunnel

@SuperRebelKitty 10 ай бұрын

You are the most helpful therapist I have ever listened to! Everything just makes so much sense

@TPGNATURAL 10 ай бұрын

I like the way Emma explained depression and symptoms of depression.

@TNLog333 10 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed with chronic depression in 1994 and have experienced persistent bouts of anger and so many of the other symptoms mentioned in the video. None of my numerous care providers during that nearly 30 years has ever mentioned depression causing anger. Why is this not more well known? This is so helpful to understand why this continues to happen. Whereas I know there are other factors contributing to my anger, most of my providers have blamed it on the Adderall I take for ADHD. I want to learn more!

@shorty63136 10 ай бұрын

It took a psychiatrist that specializes in women to tell me that. He told me that women’s tolerance for uncertainty drops when we get into our mid-30s (esp w what society tells us we should do/have/be by that age) & that contributes to it. He also said it’s especially common in Black women bc of the intersections of mistreatment, trauma. It shook me when he said that.

@161muna 7 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed with depression as a teenager and the main symptom I had was anger and irritability, anything people did would make me flip for no reason. When I found out the reason for that behavior I felt very relieved and it's concerning that people really don't talk about this.

@traciayala5044 10 ай бұрын

This explains alot and makes me feel less alone in feeling this during major depressive episodes. I thought i was just losing it or even more unhinged during my bipolar episodes. Thank you so much so this video.

@gretchenkingsley204 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I dealt with post partum depression for 18 months before getting help because I didn't realize that was what was going on. I just felt so angry all of the time. More doctors need to be aware of this instead of only asking if you have feelings of sadness.

@kd2327 8 ай бұрын

Yes, this! Had no idea my anger was post-partum 🙌

@liamtolen4216 10 ай бұрын

I have both but I try to remember Proverbs <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="915">15:15</a> when I am upset "Every day is miserable for the depressed but a lighthearted man has a continual feast!"

@amyhenry3494 10 ай бұрын

Would you PLEASE do a video for adolescents dealing with bullies ? How to process all the feelings that come with situations where people may actually be gossiping and saying negative things , etc.? Love your videos.

@bridiewright1519 10 ай бұрын

I'm angry all the time, especially wen go out with road rage, since mum died, anxiety gone up, presumably it's grief with me, thanks as always ❤

@fatemehfallahi5856 10 ай бұрын

I'm actually crying now, because i'm in this situation now. And also have been experienced this for a long time. I see this video when i needed the most and few hours ago i was searching in the internet, the main cause of my anger. Thank you and i hope to pass this unpleasent stage. Sorry for possible errors, cause i'm not fluent in English.

@debd7064 10 ай бұрын

I’m grieving the loss of my husband. It feels like my major depression episodes. It’s difficult to say the least.

@miltongopa 10 ай бұрын

All my support to you. I lost my father last year and it has been an ordeal.

@julesservantofjesus972 10 ай бұрын

I'm praying for y'all. My dear Mama went to heaven 2 yrs ago and I already have major depression and anxiety and grief on top is extremely hard. I'm thankful for this video. Sometimes people think we're being mean but anger, outbursts etc are part of depression. 🙏🏻✝️🕯️

@Lish0928 10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for you loss

@anichols2760 10 ай бұрын

My deepest condolences. My wife and I lost our first son 20 years ago. The hardest part is dealing with grief that comes and goes when it wants and I find myself dealing with it at the weirdest times that are triggered by events, music, smells, etc. Keep holding on. And keep reaching out for help. I find most people don't understand how to empathize so I try reaching out for help.

@debd7064 10 ай бұрын

@@miltongopaI’m sorry for your loss Milton. I lost my mom 4 weeks before my husband died. It is all fresh being that it happened in June and July of 2023. Thank you for your support. It means a lot to me that you not only read but also commented because I often feel invisible. The wish for you the very best that life has to offer.

@kavitadeva 10 ай бұрын

Thank You so much for talking about this. I have COMPLEX PTSD and Severe Chronic Deppression. I get so irritable at small things, and Anger big time at the door being stuck. Not Anger that lasts but no ability to regulate my emotions. I get so overwhelmed. It doesn't help to be Chronically ill, bed-bound mostly And in severe pain.Thank You for clarifying this. I love this understanding. In amazing Therapy. Finally. You Rock 😮

@imtherapycat 9 ай бұрын

I've not been diagnosed as depressed, but this sounds SO much like me! The short fuse, chronic fatigue, and hurting all the time. My PCP ran batches of labs to look for inflammation markers (thinking fibromyalgia or lupus) but all is normal. She never discussed depression with me. Hmmm....

@jennw6809 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for discussing this. It took me so long to realize that my cyclic anger episodes were MDD. But it can be persistent MAD mood rather than sad mood! Also, I now know why I wake between 3-5 and can't get back to sleep, that's also depression. I would note that some of us actually have stuff to be angry about, especially those of us who were forced into the scapegoat role in our family.

@gregss.771 10 ай бұрын

I was this....and it cost me my marriage. I didnt understand what I was going thru and my wife didnt support me, kept blaming me for bad behavior. And it ended our marriage. Thank you so much for this video. I wish I had heard it 4 years ago.

@doreenjohnston7672 10 ай бұрын

wish my daughter in law would watch this as well would help her a lot. my grandson as well

@JennyLeigh2001 10 ай бұрын

I’m here right now with my husband. I want to help him but he pushes me and everyone away and wants nothing to do with us. Just angry at everyone if we try and help but we can’t. I don’t know what to do.

@magdapracsiu3096 9 ай бұрын

@@JennyLeigh2001 Going through the same with my partner of 7 years. Every new explosion of anger is worse than the previous. Two days ago he came very close to hitting me, which never happened before. He yelled for 20 minutes at me and I just could not say a word, I knew it was pointless to argue or contradict him. I also did not want to look at him to see him disfigured with anger. He left me that evening. The following day he collected all his things and left loving messages on my table. I can't help him, he needs professional help and his family are burying their heads in the sand. I am powerless.

@sarac.3259 6 ай бұрын

@@magdapracsiu3096I am so sorry. I hope that things can improve for him (and therefore you) - and that you have kind, supportive friends.

@cultcitysaad 2 ай бұрын

@@magdapracsiu3096give him time alone to process his thoughts if it hasn’t improved. But do let him know if he needs help he can come to you

@bizffatar5824 10 ай бұрын

Psilocybin mushrooms healed me . I can't explain it but my experience has been spiritual and eye opening . I also started micro dosing . It really helped me get rid of depression and anxiety .

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@AlliNoel767 10 ай бұрын

Great video, I definitely agree with this. It's only been in the last 3 - 4 years that I have realized the huge link between my depression & anger. Sometimes I find myself being very angry and irritable towards my husband - many of the times I realize that my anger was stemming from a separate feeling of inadequacy or perhaps my feelings were hurt from something and I didn't realize it. Getting to the core of your emotions is such a journey. I certainly have found that in my anger, much of the time after the fact I find myself saying "I think what I'm really feeling is ___(depressed, inadequate, hurt, etc)" and recognizing that the flush of anger I felt stemmed from something much deeper. The process of calling out those deeper emotions has been huge in my trauma healing process. Love your videos as always~!

@michelleparker9591 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this. I have been struggling with actual rage for a long time. I live with my mother at the moment and she triggers a lot of my anger therefore, I continuously respond to her with emotional abuse. I feel she does it to me all the time and she has hurt me in social situations numerous times throughout my life that I just want her to hurt like I do. It’s a terrible vicious cycle that I do not feel good about. I have been on antidepressants for probably twenty years now and I really feel unhinged. I had no idea that anger could be a result of depression but it makes total sense. I am starting therapy this week and I really hope I can feel good about life again and get along with people.

@christina7972 10 ай бұрын

Situation + reaction = outcome. When you realize that you are in charge, that you have a choice, you can begin to slow down your reaction time. In that space you create is the freedom to make a better choice. Not easy to do, but with practice, it becomes easier. Notice the triggers BEfORE you react.

@indigobunting2431 10 ай бұрын

My irritable depression comes from sensory issues (noise, clothes, light, vision, bone pain, dental issues, food and smell issues). I am constantly overwhemed and physically uncomfortable. Therapy cost $190 per session and resolved no sensory issues.

@debbiecreter2005 9 ай бұрын

Sensory issues can be addressed with assistance from an occupational therapist ( the particular therapy addresses sensory integration) and a neurologist. Start with your primary physician for referrals for these.

@dinahconnell6947 8 ай бұрын

Anger is hurt, fear, and frusttration. It is very painful to watch. 😢

@aling4340 10 ай бұрын

This resonates so much for me. I feel like I’ve had to manage anger and irritability for almost my whole life. Oddly enough, when you talked about anger feeling like the only viable option because the sadness is usually perceived as shameful, I realized that I think the opposite happened for me growing up. As a kid, I saw how destructive and hurtful anger always was, and would always get in trouble for being angry anyway. At the time, it felt like the only acceptable thing was to turn it inward. Never loose my temper. Until eventually I forgot if I even had a temper. Now it’s just interesting to notice both sides of the spectrum are definitely present, both the pain and the anger/frustration. I have so much more language to make sense of it all than I did back then, and videos like yours are continuing to help me with that so much! Thank you!

@seed.meditation Ай бұрын

Healing with you

@heatherg2083 10 ай бұрын

I agree with it all. Anger is so complicated and the most satisfying. Depression is definitely a feeling of hopelessness...and I did learn and understand how depression serves as a counter balance for my anxiety. Therapy was my lifesaver...

@katiesanders96 10 ай бұрын

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="234">3:54</a> Externalizing vs. Internalizing <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="330">5:30</a> Depression Impairs Emotional Regulation <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="370">6:10</a> Depression Colors Your Worldview <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="410">6:50</a> Suppressed Feelings (Anger Iceberg) <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="465">7:45</a> Depression Causes Physical Pain and Emotional Exhaustion <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="527">8:47</a> How to Help Yourself <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="630">10:30</a> How to Help Someone Else with Depression

@161muna 7 ай бұрын

@nicoleb9088 10 ай бұрын

This makes so much sense as to how I’ve been reacting since I had my son 3 years ago.

@lisakeplinger2893 10 ай бұрын

I had NO idea that anger was a sign of depression. I think I'd always been in that state. Many years now of therapy and lots of meditation has been very helpful. A wonderful, loving husband is a gift.

@froppy4794 10 ай бұрын

this may sound very weird but your videos always get uploaded when i need them the most. i learn a lot more about myself from these videos and it inspires me to get better especially with depression (i have no funds for a proper therapist so your videos help so much). I've been feeling guilty that i feel irritable but i realize it may be from my depression and brings so much things into perspective. thank u so much!

@userx578 10 ай бұрын

YES. The timing is extraordinarily strange. That makes me even crazier. But glad to know that I am not the only one experiencing that. The experience makes me more spiritual. There is a secret in this world, I'm sure, but I understand nothing.

@mwwhatever 10 ай бұрын

If someone's been through narcissistic abuse, and that contributed significantly to their depression, then I would say another person (the narcissist) absolutely played a role

@AnthonyTolhurst-dw1nc 10 ай бұрын

Excellent! I have been going through self demolition of a lifetime of depression/anger and slowly rebuilding valid emotions and thought patterns. Not easy task, but I see a light at the end of my efforts. I just grew sick of myself and desired a better me.

@thisgirl5539 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Emma, I’ve been struggling with anger lately and now it makes so much more sense. ❤

@juliejarmusch2421 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for making this video. I have noticed myself becoming more and more irritatable and quick to anger. This will be something I will speak to my therapist about.

@katiesanders96 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Emma. I really needed to hear this explanation. It helps me make better sense of why I’m “suddenly” more angry inside.

@kimreid1781 9 ай бұрын

This explanation was a HUGE lightbulb

@nancyk8790 10 ай бұрын

I tell me clients that depression can often can be anger turned inward. I liked all this extra info as well and will be sharing. Great video as usual!!

@mditt7 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Emma. Just what I needed to hear. So well articulated and delivered. I am so grateful. I feel finally less alone

@rummy692 10 ай бұрын

You're so kind Emma. Thank you

@auntylinda7640 10 ай бұрын

I recognised my anger for what it was. I had to work through it. Love your podcast. Xxx

@EnviroBelle 10 ай бұрын

This is the most helpful information I've learned in a long time. Now I can understand what is going on with me!

@HelovesU-we4qh Ай бұрын

Wow! That was so incredibly eye-opening! I have been looking for a remedy to this anger for so long. Watching videos on how to not be so angry, and trying to find ways to learn to be calm, but I will start looking at this as a possible symptom of depression, and deal with it from there! I will not take any medication but this has given me an insight that I had not been able to see for myself! Thank you most kindly this is life changing and very enlightening!

@lisamuse574 9 ай бұрын

thank you for this thoughtful analysis.

@TheAdhdGardener 9 ай бұрын

BINGO BINGO BINGO!! no one knew I was depressed(since a child) cuz all people saw was the immense anger I had. I was even diagnosed with bipolar just cuz of the anger. No one questioned why I was angry n try to figure it out. Heck I didn't even know why I was angry. Got sober n got deep into my Christian faith for help to help me with sobriety. My prayer was answered n I finally figured out "why". Who knew it was from trauma that I didn't even realize I had. I took it out on everyone cuz I suppressed my emotions all my life.The anger dissipated n now I can finally see the sky through the clouds. I don't have bipolar due to being misdiagnosed n i doubt i have depression anymore🙌

@RD12349 3 ай бұрын

Can you share what type of trauma?

@jamielee7430 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for this! I have always thought that I had anger management issues but it is actually the manifestation of my depression.

@Chysp010-sd7nt Күн бұрын

I love your attitude--I think your field is the much-needed evolution of the physical fitness boom of the 90s and on, for now, in addition to "muscular fitness", we can really address "cerebral fitness". After working your biceps, you can see the results, but the brain remains hidden in the skull, so results appear in things like behavior and emotion. Videos like yours help remove unhelpful stigma from mental issues--nobody really feels embarrassed by limping when they have a strained tendon, and now they don't have to feel embarrassed about behaviors caused by insults to a portion of their nervous systems/brains. Now we can work even more on fixing the actual problems; not just covering up the symptoms. Thanks for posting!

@RU8YB_ 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video, this just explained this issues with me. My friends think I'm just aggressive but I will send this video to them and show It's not aggression. Thank you ❤

@musethx1 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Emma! This is such a helpful video!

@sagek7949 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this.

@angiecas8180 10 ай бұрын

This couldn’t come at a more perfect time for me. Thank you! It’s funny. I have read dozens of books and hundreds of articles on psychology. Yet nothing sticks better than your videos!

@TherapyinaNutshell 10 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@dee5356 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Emma for another great video!

@LeahStorm 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video.

@Amandaa779 9 ай бұрын

I have dealt with this my whole life my parents would always just tell me to go to my room and stop throwing a temper tantrum when I was a child so I grew up holding in my feelings a lot and had relationships I couldn’t talk about my feelings with either because they would just tell me I’m crazy I have tried so many different anti depressants/anxiety medications and none of them help they make me feel worse and I end up having no emotions after while and become more irritable i don’t know if anyone can relate but I’m glad I found this channel ❤

@RainbowObsidian777 10 ай бұрын

Anger is a secondary emotion is what I learned at a very young age. great video! thanks for sharing❤✌

@Ilovesushi123456 2 ай бұрын

What’s hard for me is the anger comes up in my sleep and I wake up in rage and can’t fall back asleep and ruins my sleep, then I’m more tired and more angry and it’s a terrible cycle😢

@stephbraz8427 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. Great video. 😊

@dad102 10 ай бұрын

I remember my mental health meds guy asking if I had problems with anger or irritability when he first diagnosed me with anxiety and depression. I just didn't have the energy for anger, so that didn't ring true for me. He asked me a million different questions. He couched his questions in less-direct terms, but it was clear what he was asking.

@BallinBunBun 10 ай бұрын

Long COVID made my anger rear up so bad, I never used to get angry and now I can go from 0-100 instantly. I don't feel like myself, I hate it.

@nauxsi 10 ай бұрын

What is your trigger event...

@SarahBramham 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this Emma. So timely that it appeared as I had literally just been asking myself “why am I so angry?” I have depression and a lot of different things going on so I think you may have hit the nail on the head! I am going to reach out to a couple of Christian therapists to see if they can recommend a psychiatrist as I’m probably long overdue for a meditation review. Thanks again ♥️

@krystalestrella9098 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video it was helpful and insightful .

@nancyfrustaci9721 10 ай бұрын

This was a fantastic video thank you

@novaste1238 10 ай бұрын

Super helpful. Thank you so much ❤

@A6R1AN_ Ай бұрын

Thank you for the video I have felt like this for a long time and you really broke it down

@user-em8rw7nn8l 9 күн бұрын

I have redefined anger management. Depression is just a frame of mind. Being nice to idiots is the cousin of anger. We all get depressed. My backpain hurts so bad that I am depressed and re-defining anger management cures it deep inside my intelligence. Xanax, morphine sulfate, and medical marijuana are gifts of God for me to use in moderation. Alcohol works good for me. Makes me happy instead of depressed.

@michaelbarrymore5349 2 ай бұрын

This video has blown my mind. I could relate to nearly everything you said.

@christopherglans8962 9 ай бұрын

OMG! I had to look for a while, but I knew you had to have a video on anger. Bravo! And, it was more right-on than I thought, since I hadn't been focusing as much on this particular client's depression, and he ended up agreeing with everything you said about the relationship between anger and depression (duh!). I use your videos all the time with my clients, since you're much better than I am at explaining all this stuff in a way that is clear and understandable. I work with all men, so it helps that you're prettier than me, too. I don't know your ed. background, but you're evidence based and solidly CBT to me! Thank you for all that you do! CG LMHC, SUDP

@sarahmanners4420 10 ай бұрын

Your videos help me so much . Thankyou

@remedypath5941 10 ай бұрын

great video - thank you!

@tamiwatchesstuff 9 ай бұрын

I swing between externalizing and internalizing my depression then because I'll have a rage/anger attack and then internalize my pain and swing into the sad depressive phase. At my lowest part of it I experience passive suicidal ideation that I subconsciously fear I'll act on one day.

@tpbchocoholic Ай бұрын

Thank you. This made a lot of sense.

@alisaa3999 3 ай бұрын

I used to be full of life but lately seeing so many messed up selfish, jealous, ugly ppl on the daily really is taking a toll on my outlook on life. Gotta admit it is a pretty messed up world that we live in.

@joseph8468 10 ай бұрын

McAdam! Once again, your work has helped this viewer. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

@Kidmarquezz 10 ай бұрын

This is something that has truly been bothering me, and ik it’s not me but I hate how it makes me feel and think and act

@kalisk-9s576 11 күн бұрын

So glad I stumbled on this video. Thank you so much ❤

@christelleu.u2460 28 күн бұрын

Thankyou soo much for this video.🎉

@ddd1dorin396 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! ❤

@PowerOfAIandMotivation 10 ай бұрын

Truly great content 👍🏻

@kristywhited8857 10 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this. Something to discuss at next doctor's appt. Medication helped (a lot) in the beginning, but a few years later it doesn't seem to help much at all. Angry and irritable seems to be my middle name. My mom always blames menopause or the full moon. LOL! Or sometimes she just thinks I'm mean. The tiniest things.....anger is always my first reaction. It's hard to live this way.

@veryberry39 10 ай бұрын

For what it's worth, if you haven't looked into perimenopause stuff...I was shocked, anyway! So many stories of women who reported that they started feeling like they were going crazy, that they were angry all the time and couldn't stand their spouse or their kids. And it's not that they actually hated their family, but fluctuating hormones were just making them angry almost all the time! Anyway, I know you were joking and I don't mean to come in like a party-crashing nerd. 😂 I'm entering perimenopause myself, and there's surprisingly little that's known about it. All I knew about were hot flashes and irregular periods. The mental/emotional toll, as well as other symptoms, were a complete shock to me!

@vampirebarbie_ 3 ай бұрын

finding out that anger was related to depression was so relieving because when I started to improve I kept thinking I was a horrible person because I used to have these anger attacks I simply couldn’t control no matter how hard I tried to push them away, and I always felt awfully guilty once I finally just exploded, but during it it was as if I almost was in the backseat watching it happen… I still feel like a monster but, at least now I can feel the difference and don’t get that anger anymore, and can also understand what provoked it and why its so important to keep those factors away

@DrPamFullerton 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for the insightful video! I believe that anger, while a natural and sometimes useful emotion, often serves as a protective veneer for more vulnerable feelings, and uncovering these can lead to profound personal growth and healthier relationships. It's crucial to cultivate emotional intelligence and self-awareness, as they are the keys to not only managing anger but also to fostering deeper connections with ourselves and others.

@SusanaXpeace2u Ай бұрын

my parents have been giving me the silent treatment because I tried to give them some feedback. they made themselves the victim of the hurt they caused me and I have been so angry for four years. It's my mother really, my dad is her foot soldier. I spoke to my dad the other day and even though the bottom line is that MUM CANNOT BE HURT, and he parrots her belief that my pain is my problem (but I cause hers?!?!?) it's so weird, my anger was protecting me for getting sucked back into this refusal to see reality. I felt some empathy for my dad and it scared me that I was letting go of the anger when nothing has changed.

@elinek5470 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. I feel depressed, for a reallllly long time - i feel like a bomb that is about to explode and sometimes i really explode towards my boyfriend or my parents. Then I feel bad about that and myself and the circle goes on. Stressed out and tired all the time, I don't want to be in this world where all those bad things happen and we exploit eachother & those lovely animals and nature. It makes me very sad and feeling helpless. I try to look at the positive in things, but then I feel like I am fooling myself bc that bad sh*t also happens. :( it is hard

@autumnm.4254 10 ай бұрын

You look gorgeous! I love your hair! ✨

@celiaescalante 2 ай бұрын

I feel exhausted, sometimes. Weakness to eat. I don't want to burn out.

@SevenUnwokenDreams 10 ай бұрын

That manifested as a symptom for me 16 years ago, though I've been at this for 21 years. My mom has this irritability and anger, but for her it is anxiety.