How to Let Go of the Past - 3 Steps for Regret

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"Regret can be your worst enemy or your best friend; you get to decide which." Regrets are like a hammer, they can hurt you or you can use them to build the life you really care about. In this video, you’ll learn how to channel the emotional pain of regret into action to create the life you want.
So many people have a hard time dealing with "what ifs" and it can be really hard to let go of the past or get over the past. I get asked all the time how to deal with regrets. A lot of people, as they start to make progress on their anxiety or depression, they start to feel intense regret about the things they missed out on in the past. Or when people start to improve their relationship skills, they regret past mistakes.
Or missed opportunities, lost connections, or late starts.
And regret can really hurt, it’s a painful emotion. But here’s what’s important- You can learn how to transform regrets into energy. Let’s walk through how:
1. Regrets are in the Present moment, get very clear on what you specifically regret
2. Regrets show you what you really care about, they show you what you value- so clarify what you value.
3. Find how to take action in the present moment to act on that value.
You can learn how to let go of past regrets.
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@sharathrao9605 6 ай бұрын

Pro tip: dont just watch video & feel good for a moment. Do the work, do the exercises she recommends. It really helps.

@Sashas-mom 6 ай бұрын

😊 exactly what I’m telling myself as I take notes. These are powerful steps to take if one stands a chance of success.

@JP-ve7or 6 ай бұрын

I kept a notebook throughout watching her series on processing emotions. I still look through it from time to time. It's wild to have evidence of how much better I feel now (and still be able to redo an exercise if the mood strikes me.)

@osamaqtaitat 6 ай бұрын

Nothing matters really! It’s bigger than “work” or this “norms”, plus you can’t guarantee shit with all the talkings and “norms” or “laws” which’s all over the place and everywhere! It’s endless cycle of drama and bullshit!

@rethap3612 6 ай бұрын

@@osamaqtaitatdoes your exclamation marks indicate shouting or frustration? When I first visited my therapist one of my opening statemens was to describe how deeply angry I was... I can only say my life started changing for the better when I started learning new coping skills, incl. not creating drama, but recognising the triggers and responding in more approproate ways.

@whitepouch0904 6 ай бұрын

I can’t even continue watching without regretting 😖😫

@bmay282 6 ай бұрын

1) Get super clear about what the regret is 2) Get super clear about what you value 3) Take action in the present moment

@jamesschultz8222 5 ай бұрын

@RepentandbelieveinJesusChrist_what a bunch of B.S.

@jahangir_khan_30 5 ай бұрын

you have become my new therapist

@jahangir_khan_30 5 ай бұрын

i have ocd what should i do i cant get rid of past and it haunts me

@_Lazare 3 ай бұрын

Well said

@1979France 2 ай бұрын

Thanks!!

@arabiclanguagelessons5177 6 ай бұрын

Dear Madam I am from remote village of Assam, a state of India. I am here to tell you that your videos helped me a lot to recognise and manage and overcome my prolong anxiety and depressional mindset. We low class indians do not have the social awareness about cognitive disillusiones or psychiatric problems. But my search and hope brought me to your channel and video by video a change began within me and now I much much better in thinking, feelings, and socializing. God almighty have given you everything, but please take my heartiest thanks for everything that your videos have given me. May god almighty fulfill all you dreams, hopes and give energy and time to continue your good work. My English is not good, so please excuse my mistakes. At last thank you thank you thank you...and love and regards. Take care, bye MUSADIQUE AHMED

@akshaynair2274 6 ай бұрын

Good luck Ahmed on your life journey. Have a good life.

@damilolaolaitan-rafiu 6 ай бұрын

Same here. Emma's videos have helped me deal with anxiety disorder. I recommend it to as many people connected to I. I'm planning on recommending her video to my church. I love you, Emma McAdam. Love from Nigeria. ❤

@bronsonmcdonald5473 6 ай бұрын

This is a beautiful thank you. And your English is very good.

@vegan_joyce 6 ай бұрын

This message itself gives me hope. I'm so glad you are getting the help from these great videos and best of luck to you! Thank you for sharing!

@trudyzire 5 ай бұрын

Your English is very, very good. May God continue to bless you with gratitude and the ability to express it! Congratulations on all that you have accomplished with your mental health🎉

@terryosowski8143 5 ай бұрын

No amount of regret can change the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future!!!! Done.

@Dani-ICU-RN Ай бұрын

I keep trying to tell my panic attacks that ♡♡

@estheradao 24 күн бұрын

Period.

@GetSlappedPlease 24 күн бұрын

And that’s the issue

@user-ws1bx5xb8s 15 күн бұрын

Your comment was better than the video thanks.

@launderedcotton8070 6 ай бұрын

Others don't feel better because you feel bad. They aren't thinking about you at all! Stewing on regret is self-punishment and cannot undo what's done.

@scrubjay93 6 ай бұрын

very helpful comment

@sandybowers5085 3 ай бұрын

Hard to hear sometimes but it’s the absolute truth! Thank you!

@user-yo7jf6rp6f 2 ай бұрын

My reality has shown that going noncontact is impossible bc my partner is best friends with my childhood bully. The talk almost every day and her narsastic ways bring my hubby down They always talk about my baby steps forward are a joke, and they both laugh that I found a church Even joking to ea other Hubby, I can feed her puppy to your dog, lol Narc He wouldn't even have to bite lol Both laugh Im trying to heal. I want this desperately but have nowhere else to live Any ideas? I have no peace, and they both steal my joy whenever theres a call

@TheYazmanian 2 ай бұрын

@@user-yo7jf6rp6f it sounds like your husband is a bit of a bully as well. I'm so sorry 😢 You deserve respect

@efremteenagebento6701 Ай бұрын

So true❤

@elainegoliszeski276 6 ай бұрын

Im so tired of living in the past. It makes me so depressed.

@marionwest3661 5 ай бұрын

Worrying about the future is the real bummer. Bleak.

@cookietastik603 2 ай бұрын

Well, what are you gonna do about it? Every moment is a fresh start, not ever hour or every day, but every second. You can choose again.❤

@elainegoliszeski276 2 ай бұрын

I do have regrets. It Hurts so Bad!! 💔

@cookietastik603 2 ай бұрын

@@elainegoliszeski276 everybody does, what, you expect you're going to live your whole lifetime with no regrets? That's a lifetime lived in fantasy.

@HopeMusunsa-uw4yd Ай бұрын

Same 😭

@khaledhamadi7720 6 ай бұрын

Just yesterday I was searching for "Therapy in a Nutshell Regret". I can't believe the timing of this. Thank you so much! As someone with no access, to therapy you are literally saving my life.

@TomWard-sx2ip 6 ай бұрын

Me.tooo.?

@yowanehakuuu 6 ай бұрын

I'm deeply regretting the time I wasted and the opportunities I missed. I have adhd, ptsd and severe depression. I am wasting time today I know I'm going to regret this days as well. I wish I could remove this sickness like a coat.

@sandybowers5085 4 ай бұрын

I’m so grateful to know that I’m not alone in these feelings. I wish you the very best in your future endeavors❤️🙏🏼❤️

@Thenogomogo-zo3un 3 ай бұрын

I so feel the same

@c.a.FlemingAK 2 ай бұрын

I hope to encourage you to seek Jesus, you will find Him and His grace will empower you to put off the old and put on the new. He paid it all for you and me too, and I’m new because of Him so you can be too. 😊

@Rachel-kg2cw 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like shame. There’s a guy who did a video, break free from the shame that binds you. Also, YAHUAH is a merciful Elohim. His son Yahusha died that if we walk after Him and follow His ways, He would heal us and renew us and give us rest.

@Rabbinicphilosophyforthewin Ай бұрын

Wait-are you me? Re. the transcendent: I love Jesus too. He’s the reason I’m not dead. But I def have work to do.

@matthewtikka5133 6 ай бұрын

You can only do the very best with what you know in that moment. There is no benefit in judging yourself for something you had not learned yet. I live by these words and this has brought me much peace.

@Sashas-mom 6 ай бұрын

That’s beautiful

@debh2634 6 ай бұрын

I ❤ that. Thank you.

@xkz92 6 ай бұрын

Great way to see it, it’s always easier to see it in hindsight but every missed opportunity present-me did not take a decade ago, past-me was never ever going to take any of them. I was in no way, shape or form in a situation to do better so I’d rather think that knowing I could now so better if I was magically sent back then is proof of growth, and not cause for regrets.

@crystalclear6864 6 ай бұрын

Yes thats true

@Barbara-yj5tl 6 ай бұрын

@matthewtikka5133 That’s so true I’ll remember that. However some of the things I ‘regret’ from the past was caused by me being too sensitive …something I still have a problems with now that I’m much older.

@Sashas-mom 6 ай бұрын

Wow I’m taking notes I guess the only thing I can do is work on regret instead of being defeated by it in the present. Seriously this is a new concept for me. I actually never knew I could do anything about regret. This is wisdom. Thank you.

@oneworldonehome 6 ай бұрын

_"Real forgiveness is a process of transforming something old into something new, something that was useless into something that is useful, something that is meaningless into something that is meaningful. Here your mistakes, instead of being a source of pain and inner discomfort for you, become a means of reaching other people, for everyone has made mistakes, and many people have made the same ones that you have."_ Living the Way of Knowledge, a free book by MV Summers.

@brianbrenton1025 20 күн бұрын

She is healing her own self. In that process, she is also helping a great many other people

@ChubbyUnicorn Ай бұрын

I have been torturing myself with regret lately and was lost about how to stop it. Thank you for the actionable steps.

@wallaceribeiro8164 6 ай бұрын

Dealing with regret is something I've been working on for more than a year now. Thank you for this video.

@wallaceribeiro8164 3 ай бұрын

Small decisions, omissions, and other things I could have done if I wasn't too afraid.@@Tendertroll1

@Damaged_Otaku 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. I wasted my 20s being an internet troll in order to defend my favorite video game character’s honor who is constantly hated on. This character saved my life from childhood abuse and neglect. I wasted so much of my time arguing with people on the internet and I’m so ashamed and disgusted with myself. I’m now on a spiritual journey to figure out who I am and what to do with the rest of my life.

@annelbeab8124 5 ай бұрын

Just feel into being alive each day. And THEN it comes more naturally without forcing oneself to become something. We are already.

@Damaged_Otaku 5 ай бұрын

@@annelbeab8124 Thank you, I will do my best.

@Damaged_Otaku 5 ай бұрын

@@annelbeab8124 Thank you, I will try.

@AngelBien 11 күн бұрын

Hey, at least you’re pretty self-aware and wiser now!!! This could’ve been a permanent thing but you found a way to change course. The wasting in your 20s was from a place of just gratitude for having something to hold on to during difficult times. I hope as you move forward you realize that the wisdom to choose a better path was always in you and you learn to see the depth of your story instead of only labeling yourself as an internet troll. You are so much more, always have been, always will be. It doesn’t matter whether you believe me or not, it’s true

@Damaged_Otaku 9 күн бұрын

@@AngelBien Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that. If this was real life and not the internet, I'd give you a hug. ^_^

@TysonASMR 6 ай бұрын

This channel has helped me so much more than the “therapist” I went to for a month and paid $150 per session

@autumn111155551 2 ай бұрын

It sucks when the regret is something you can’t change

@ISayNukem 6 ай бұрын

A while back, you set me on a path to healing, real healing, and ive been running with it since, building and learning! Thank you so much for doing this, and for being a healer. You are definitely in the right line of work!

@mlouw8218 6 ай бұрын

This was so timely. Thank you! I developed an eating disorder when I was sixteen and now I’m about to turn thirty-three. It’s not like I completely lost the past seventeen years to anxiety, food obsession etc. but I’ve lost a lot of that time, and it’s only got worse as the years pass. Even this year I stayed in my room while the family were downstairs celebrating Christmas… There are so many experiences I haven’t had, skills I haven’t developed, and character I haven’t built that it’s a bit overwhelming. What you say is a really good reminder and I so appreciate it 🙏💗😊

@seant2786 6 ай бұрын

I have a lot of shame that I'm slowly getting over and trying to forget about. Therapy could definitely help, but advice on writing your feelings and goals down is very important. I recently drove from NJ to WA to be closer to a brother I haven't seen since 2014. It took a while to prepare and get the courage to just go. It was quite a fantastic journey just being by myself and seeing new landscapes.

@scrubjay93 6 ай бұрын

Your comment gives me courage that I can do the same - there are many in my life I need to reconnect with💙

@sandybowers5085 4 ай бұрын

Congratulations on facing your new life and taking chances for new beginnings!!! What an inspiration you are!!! Thank you 🙏🏼

@stevec404 6 ай бұрын

Wonderful perspective. I am coming out of a long period of regret for a lost life due to cPTSD. My skills are becoming honed and very effective. One difficult aspect has been that of overwhelm...it seemed for a time that all of my past 'lacks' got piled together with all current (and perhaps future) tasks. Now I see the way forward more clearly, as a job to be done in the now. I used to think of tasks as vertical, like stacks of paper, and now I see tasks as a path of stepping stones. Decades of anxiety and pressure and depression are finally being set to rest. It all almost broke me. It feels so refreshing to be setting myself free. Best to you in the New Year - always a good opportunity to begin again.

@sandybowers5085 4 ай бұрын

This❣️❣️❣️💯💯💯

@ares395 6 ай бұрын

Sometimes it's so hard to think about the past that you just push it into the back of your mind and hope you forget. One thing that really breaks me inside is that I can't think about positive things in my past because I come back from them to my current life and I feel sad and more depressed. So both positive and negative thoughts make me depressed and all that's left is hopelessness. Another thing is that a lot of the times we regret things that aren't our fault, we blame ourselves that things worked out this way, I do that a lot.

@scrubjay93 6 ай бұрын

I know how you feel.😔

@fjalaguwinda8344 6 ай бұрын

Really helpful, thank you. I often struggle with the actionphase. I see what I regret and what I actually want and value, but I often slip back to habitual behaviour that isnt going in the direction that I want.

@ericlopez2911 5 ай бұрын

Aquí tienes la corrección: I always wanted to pursue a career at the university, but I couldn't face my fears, and I lacked the humility to accept some vulnerabilities. Now I'm 48, and I'm starting a career in computer science. It's hard, but I will make it! I feel better about myself for making this decision. Thanks a lot for this video, Emma. I will take your recommendations from this video to overcome some other regrets.

@jimmyhayes9698 6 ай бұрын

I'm 42, and the obstacle is not 43. The Obstacle is Now. The Obstacle is Always now. Get it ❤!

@sharathrao9605 6 ай бұрын

Hey emma! Thanks a ton!! Thanks for everything!! Your channel has answers so many questions, unblocked so many mental blocks, untangled so many messed up thoughts. Thanks a lot!!

@jadriennehoneybadger5414 6 ай бұрын

Something about Emma talking to us with that hammer in her hand makes me VERY motivated! 🤣

@TherapyinaNutshell 6 ай бұрын

😂

@Iamthesenateiwillmakeitlegal 3 ай бұрын

The more people you meet, the more events that take place, the more successful you become, the more life you live, the further your past becomes

@stevenkovler5133 6 ай бұрын

This video hits the nail on the head. I got remarried several years ago and it was abusive. It financially bankrupted me and also gave me depression and my mild anxiety became GAD. I mean debilitating anxiety. It interfered with my work etc. I have been filled with regrets about getting remarried, about letting her bankrupt me, even about my 26 year marriage eventually falling apart. Worst of all about this wonderful woman I had dated that I left for shallow reasons. I mean just a man of regrets. I am known for not following my therapists advice. I need to follow this. I just wish I could rewind the clock to Dec. 2019, which I know is impossible.

@now591 6 ай бұрын

"A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials". -Ain't that true. We are all here to gain more awareness (ie consciousness) (=spiritual evolution). On a higher & more objective level it helps to view the people who come into our lives are "props" . They are means by which we gain awareness of things we didn't know before. I hope & pray you get epiphany to be able to move on & let go of the "mistakes" you made, after all without those you wouldn't have the awareness you have now. True or not?

@now591 6 ай бұрын

It's about gaining self awareness and why we make the choices we make in general. Many are driven by unconscious needs, reasons ..eg that stem from early childhood even. EVERYBODY is on similar path. I do believe in reincarnation , and we take what we learned with us, so next time we come back the lessons are different. Ever spiralling towards perfection.

@splash-qi5kn 6 ай бұрын

The real bottom line is things aren't going to work out for everyone. It's going to suck when that person is you. That's really it. As long as you have money, shelter, food you are ok if you don't things will suck worse. No doctor or book or anything will change that.

@macd.1878 4 ай бұрын

I heard a quote recently, "No matter how far you're down the road, you're still always the same distance from the ditch", or something like that. It's kinda sobering to think about.

@mexicanamerican573 6 ай бұрын

I let everything go, thinking of death and seeing people i love pass away. I don’t give a shit about the past because soon I will join them and I feel I don’t have time to waste my time with regret. Now Every day is a new beginning .

@braininjurydiy 6 ай бұрын

exactly where i am, in youth or not knowing better, we've all done things we regret, how do we forgive ourselves for that, joyce meyer said something like forgiving means not thinking about it, i kind of came to the conclusion that I shouldn't keep punishing myself by remembering the things i did wrong. I'm tired of wrestling with it or reasoning with myself about why it's ok to have made a mistake, it doesn't make me feel better.

@kayleencoward2442 2 ай бұрын

Dwelling on regrets is easier than changing the present!...wow!

@carlhershman 5 ай бұрын

You are a god send. I just realized all these years of watching therapy videos or attending therapy videos that I needed to take action. You are amazing ❤❤❤

@montereyspike 4 ай бұрын

Love your positivity and the logical way that you break things down into smaller steps. Been struggling a bit here, so thank you so much!

@tiller6750 5 ай бұрын

Emma, I needed to watch this today. Thank you for giving concrete steps to turn regret into action. I appreciate you so much!

@AlitaMee 6 ай бұрын

How you knew so many people needed this especially Just before new year rolls I am grateful to you with all my heart

@Ayusa 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video. I really needed these kind of informations and the step by step guide. I felt so held back by my past my regrets and the things I felt shameful for. Thank you for your videos they really help many people all over the world. Thank you for a better 2024

@mitaganguly3948 6 ай бұрын

Woke up feeling bad for snapping at old mom and saw this...God send is what you are. Will not toss the hammer..i.e. the unconscious me...but will learn how to hold it and appreciate its strength and power.😊

@sunnyadams5842 5 ай бұрын

Hi Emma!!! I haven't seen you come up in quite a while and I'm so happy to see you this gorgeous winter Sunday afternoon!!😊 I've been doing the work. And I feel great. It's taken me about 3 years to really get most cptsd symptoms under control and to really develop the metacognitive abilities that are necessary to exceed our current situation and really rise above, grow, in other words. Thank you for your part in my healing over these years. Thanks So Much to So many other truly giving and HELPFUL voices on You Tube. It is possible to get better just with You Tube, and God ( 'just'! Lol) and a burning NEED TO GET WELL. ❤ I'm going to watch your video right now. I love it so far. You wear that tool belt well!! Perhaps I'll send an edit after I watch it and thank you, but I'm sure it will be wonderful. God bless

@katecollins2982 7 күн бұрын

Emma, I am so very thankful for these videos. I think this is so fantastic as a public service. I value rewarding people who contribute positively, if I knew an award to nominate you for, it would be. :) So many cannot afford quality services and this is a way to access care.

@justathought...7271 6 ай бұрын

You've nailed it for me - I've turned 40 this year and have no degree, which has been halting my passion for work in education projects for over 4 years now. And I'm now working on the way to achieve getting the education I need. Also, throwing away the hammer 🔨 was both hilarious 😂 and a very helpful explanation. I'm wishing you and your family a great new year!🎉

@TIMZDABEZT 5 ай бұрын

I just did this exercise and wow, I feel a whole lot better. I just wanted to thank you for this, I have been ruminating on the past for (10+) years not knowing how to heal. Listening to this video felt like a sponge taking away all the yuck in my heart - there's still a lot to work on but it certainly helps :)

@corylcreates Ай бұрын

Definitely one of the most helpful videos I've watched on the channel! The actionable steps and examples really clarify what I can do with my life, regrets, and values. Thank you!

@DaisyOh 6 ай бұрын

Forgive You from the past and go forward knowing you are working to change Future You. Wonderful video, Emma! Healing and positive vibes to all ❤ 🙏🏼

@cherylannebarillartist7453 6 ай бұрын

This is SO well timed for me, thank you!!!! I love the association to rumble strips!

@mwp4205 6 ай бұрын

Thank you I really needed this. You are the best💙

@wendysimmons5906 6 ай бұрын

Wow. Ive been dealibg with all the negatives in this video( regret,shame etc) and have been praying my heart out on how to deal with it all. God sent me here. Thank you.

@nikolamuncan5843 6 ай бұрын

Exactly what I needed at this moment, thank you Emma for giving us guidance

@elsieoneill6181 4 ай бұрын

I'm from Newfoundland and have been having a return of my panic disorder after a year or so panic free. Your videos are helping immensely and I certainly hope you feel the light of all the souls you help across the world. ❤

@OldSusy-rc7dh Ай бұрын

It is amazing how much value I get from watching your videos! Pretty surprised, seeing as we have never met or anything. But your words ring so true. Thank you so much.

@Dashingdiva73 22 күн бұрын

I'm about to do this exercise. Can I just say this video is the only video with a clear way to let go of the regrets of the past. Bless you for making it. ❤

@Oceansoul22 3 ай бұрын

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Emma❤ I've just was doing the revision of my past and really regretted some of my choices and decisions, and your video brought me good vibes and I'm doing to do the work to help myself

@user-vu9gv6zk7w 4 ай бұрын

Emma darling, You don't have any idea how much I love you and all the stuffs you have been equipping your fellow human being a Ross this planet earth. I really am really great full about every bit contributions in my life. May God bless you with a great healthy and peacefull life. Amen.

@donnakryszak9982 6 ай бұрын

Your videos have helped me so much. May God bless you and your family in the new year. 😊🙏🏻

@meriemeelorch8311 5 ай бұрын

I am beyond grateful for the videos you make, thank you. 🙏 Happy and healthy new year.

@edmundpotrzeba6094 4 ай бұрын

I’m 74 and have experience most of what you talk about I’m also someone who has studied myself for the last 40 years so when I say I loved you video I really mean it. Regret may be from the past but the feeling is in the present is a wonderful insight so thank you and I look forward to watch all your other video . ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@reneeclyde1223 2 ай бұрын

I have watched several of your videos. I have not started the work yet, but I am very impressed with your knowledge and ability to relate your knowledge to people with varying backgrounds. I am even more impressed with your ability to teach. Great video!

@jlove7723 3 ай бұрын

This lady knows what she is talking about. It only took 4 seconds into the video to realize that. I have been in counseling and therapy for the last 19 years, so I know a thing or two about this. Thank you for helping.

@prakashmenon7370 5 ай бұрын

Thanks Emma for sharing this valuable knowledge and information. I like your energy and the way you present and express things. Keep it up

@dee5356 6 ай бұрын

Great video! Very informative and helpful! I really liked the analogies between regret and the hammer and a rumble strip.Thanks Emma!

@AnnmareeTV 6 ай бұрын

I love the hammer analogy and the outdoor opening was really creative! Love your content 🥰

@jessIe76468 5 ай бұрын

How come your words make me always feel better more than psychotherapy does lol. You treat people as humans and everyone can relate even if they have different mental health issues going on. I always feel like there's hope and big things look so small once again. Thanks again, you're special ❤ "We can never truly connect with others if we're hiding parts of ourselves that we're ashamed of." I have quite strong abandonment issues and this sentence relieved me so much. I think it's perfect for BPD too as we're striving to deeply connect yet trying not to be abandoned in the process. This reminds me vulnerability and uncomfortable feelings are part of connection, that's the right path/way to make it work and if someone walks away it wasn't going to be a deep connection anyway.

@BarlowJacob 6 ай бұрын

I've been following you a long time and didn't realize you were local to me until I saw the intro to this video and recognized the background :) love those mountains.

@ThoughtsofaTraineeTherapist 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your wonderful videos full of insight! Happy new year!

@Vaness319 5 ай бұрын

I am thankful for finding your channel today! Thank you.

@EUZRMUSIC Ай бұрын

You present a very logical, sensible perspective on how to live in a way that minimizes the effect of regret. This video is full of good thinking.

@lynnschaeferle-zh4go 6 ай бұрын

Sometimes regret is because i misjudged the people in my life. These tips are pro life, and that’s good because you have to keep moving forward. But I am done with anyone who uses me and I will never get over wasting my life. Like a narcissist I will hang only with people who benefit me. Which means nobody and there I have no regrets anymore because I learned my lesson.

@Chopsyochops 6 ай бұрын

I’m so grateful for your channel. You always offer practical tips and ideas. I was watching a channel with a girl call Katie who is a therapist and all she does is physically cry about her struggles. I don’t find that helpful. Constructive tips and advice is where it’s at! 💜🙏

@chrisragner3882 6 ай бұрын

Thank you. What a beautifully simple lesson for the new year.

@CTHD13 9 күн бұрын

I screwed it up with the love of my life. This video is affirming, I’ve been putting so much effort into becoming a better person and a better communicator so I at least never hurt someone like that again.

@Eden639 5 ай бұрын

Thank you, very useful! You are my favorite therapist.

@SuperMar10GalaxyBro 6 ай бұрын

Love the step by step methodology we can use to help improve our lives! Great examples that help, too! Hope the chickens are doing well. Thank you again for this! Saving for future reference! 🎉😊

@ravalili 6 ай бұрын

This video is pure gold

@marcine4019 6 ай бұрын

Life is a game you cannot undo past move but your next one can be better. Thank you so much for the video

@maggieshort2402 2 ай бұрын

Wow!!! Perfect advice!!! And this episode appeared at the PERFECT time!!!!!! Emma, you are so helpful and easy to understand!!! Thank you♥️

@dayemartimez97 5 ай бұрын

What the heck is this a thing going from regret to okay what do I value…I love it exactly what I needed and was looking for goodness gracious thank you Emma you are a fantastic human bean and I love all the work that you do and hopefully are continue doing.

@ddjhackers 6 ай бұрын

YOU CERTAINLY ARE A GOOD MOTHER AND TEACHER.

@_Lazare 3 ай бұрын

I learnt a lot here too

@dwaynelacy8292 6 ай бұрын

I appreciate you!!!!!! Your videos are super helpful! Now I have more work to do.

@mygrammieis 6 ай бұрын

Thank you sooo much and Safe travels and enjoy your 2024🎉 stay strong Well and warm

@sharminty3589 5 ай бұрын

You are amazing, thorough and a god send. I’m doing these right now. Thank you 🙏

@segafrog 6 ай бұрын

i don't know why i was so blind to make such obvious mistakes. mistakes that hurt others and hurt myself. i feel like i started out a really sweet innocent person and then strayed off onto terrible paths, paths which lead to darkness not light. i couldn't be more sorry for my terrible mistakes but the memories hurt me always. i don't know why i got so lost. i feel like God has given up on me, i try to connect but feel so fragile and alone. i have so much love in my heart but so much pain too. i hope you're ok, whoever you are, and i hope someday we find a place where everyone is loved and understood

@amirah2675 4 ай бұрын

We're all on respective, unique life journeys where no one is exempt from making regrettable mistakes. Those "obvious mistakes" that you were so 'blind' to making can awaken you to enlightenment. There is power in knowing the pain that your mistakes caused because now you have the awareness and ability to do better. God never gives up on us. Keep seeking. Listen for a calm inner voice that speaks to you honestly but without judgement. It can also come in the form of conversing with people around you, witnessing an experience in front of you, and many more. Watch videos on rumination so you can more effectively cycle out of the negative thoughts you're experiencing. Sending love your way

@segafrog 4 ай бұрын

@@amirah2675 thankyou, and happy to say that i'm doing better now, i read the book 'the search for significance' which is Christian based ,and my thought process has improved now that i now strictly & firmly follow a rule that basically i answer to no one except God, which is pretty much the same as removing all judgement. it's amazing how things are working out much better since making this relatively small change. i feel like i have the right to just be a good person now because i now realise no human has any authority at all to judge me and i don't judge myself either because God says we must not do that, and i'm more than happy to trust that instruction because it clearly makes a huge difference to how i function

@segafrog 3 ай бұрын

@@amirah2675 thanks and much love to you, . .you're the best ❤

@Vxruxxss 2 ай бұрын

God will never give up on you

@segafrog 2 ай бұрын

@@Vxruxxss thanks x I have turned to God and i must admit things have improved

@Sashas-mom 4 ай бұрын

I love to think of all the hurting people she helps. ♥️

@melss94ish 6 ай бұрын

I love your videos and how you share information! I recently recited that phrase about planting a tree! The years are gonna pass anyway and it is better to have a tree at the end of all those years.

@lilove6560 6 ай бұрын

Timely advice, thank you for this video 💗

@jessIe76468 5 ай бұрын

If you’re scared to ask something or to disappoint someone my advice is do it now! I always tell myself it's better to disappoint in the beginning a person and they'll forget than after 20+ of loyal friendship. It's good that problems come up at the beginning and get sorted out.

@QueenARPoeticSongs 5 ай бұрын

Thank you, love your delivery.

@jamieshaw8971 2 ай бұрын

This morning was awful for me. I was trying every technique I knew - mindfulness, breathing, etc. and I couldn't get out of my head. I went for a long walk and instead of feeling better, I had a panic attack. On the walk, I listed to this video which I incorporated into my-talk to calm down and get grounded again (in her voice, but my words - so it felt both authentic and authoritative!). Thank you for helping me get through a tough moment :)

@el0blaino 2 ай бұрын

This was a great video, thank you! Easy to see how to start putting it into action.

@HAPPYSTUFFANDFLUFF 6 ай бұрын

Love this video - I especially like when you said - 'if you hurt yourself with a hammer you don't throw the hammer away - you learn how to use it.' (Or words to that effect) Powerful. Thank you

@kellyjackson4973 6 ай бұрын

Happy new year can’t wait to see what the new year brings. God bless.

@21monalisapleasa 5 ай бұрын

Wow, she’s an amazing teacher.

@jademaruko8585 6 ай бұрын

Hi Emma, as always, your videos are superb, and even more this one. Consistently very good explanations with clear practical steps to take. Lovely, thanks for your contribution to make this world a better place, well done and keep up the good work!

@cocoin013 Ай бұрын

I've written letters to myself from the person (s) I felt I never got closure or resolve with and my reply to acquire the closure of that energy drain... it's been very satisfying and effective!❤ Thank you!❤

@AdrienneWarren-vv9uf 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for this clear breakdown!

@GranPaMark 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much - this was a very timely message for me to hear. Like when I go to church and the message sounds customized for my needs at that time. 😊 You have hit the nail on the head. (No pun intended)

@johnmcadam619 3 ай бұрын

Just found a namesake and a key to help me handle my losses. Thanks

@shellwallace10 6 ай бұрын

You and the crappy childhood fairy have helped me. You have been played on my phone about anxiety coping and grounding and understand where I am coming from better. From all of us nutshell people.