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God Bless your beautiful family, Amen! 🙏❤🙏

You know it's not Fall yet, right? 😛

@@englishatheart, leaves are changing where I live.. that's fall to me.

Exactly Same for me as well!!!❤

Congrats! I'm a few months from 28 myself and am starting to panic too. Single, (which doesn't really bother me) but I really want kids and am starting to feel like I'm running out of time. So I hope my future pans out like yours!

​@@islandgirl7925Be encouraged!

@@islandgirl7925 I was 34, he was 38. We were married 6 months later. And that's the thing. Once it happened, it happened very fast. Because we were older and knew what we wanted, there was no need for delay. Stay in faith 🙏

@@poseidon_demeter I felt the same way. And honestly, when I met my husband things had been silent for several years. It truly felt as if nothing was happening and that fueled my frustration. I wasn't meeting men, I wasn't talking to anyone, not dating. But I believe God did that purposefully so that I wouldn't become distracted by thr wrong men. When I met my husband I experienced a clarity with him that I had never had with anyone before him. If I had been dating several men at once, that likely would have added a lot of confusion. So my advice would be to keep God at your center and be in your purpose. I promise things will eventually fall into place, even if it takes a little longer.

You're absolutely right. Some people choose to dedicate themself to a larger sphere of influence. These people become missionaries, scientists, inventors and the like. Identify your unique purpose and pursue it. The world needs you in another way. There is truth to this.

​@@johnstagl5651u can be married and still do all of these isn't it

@@FerryBem absolutely! This usually depends on the level of focus and determination one possesses.

If you're unsure, stay single and childless. It's hard enough to divorce if you're childless, but with a child, it's agonizing.

The most noble thing anyone can do is raise children though since none of us would exist otherwise.

You are 100% right. I'm almost 28 and single. I just want to serve people. I try to give as much as I can since I live alone with no kids. I got time and some money. It's better to think about others because that brings true happiness. It is more blessed to give than to receive.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I honestly have a slightly morbid fear of losing my husband. I was so independent before we met, when I was 39, but after 14 years together it's not that I can't live without him, I just don't ever want to. I'd be so broken. How are you doing with it all today? ❤

@@katashley1031 I was the same - news articles about someone’s spouse dying would have me in bits. My family are so supportive, and I’m a Christian, which helps me see this in the context of a plan. Widowhood isn’t just the absence of a spouse - it’s a status in its own right. I don’t know why God meant for me to be a widow, but I trust to his wisdom. Eight years in and I still miss my husband, but it does get easier.

What did you end up doing for others?

Then why do so many people post about their babies all the time? I don't care to see that either and some lifestyles simply aren't possible. If you can't have kids, then you can't have them.

@@crystalh450 they are looking for attention too.

@@crystalh450some people are just self absorbed in whatever they do. They may not be as bad down the Narcissist Train because they actually had kids and gained responsibility for someone other than themself but those photos are largely about Me Me Me Me. They want the likes, and the dopamine they get because other people affirm them. I’ve come to really despise social media, aside from the venues you’re learning something or sharing information not about oneself. Your self worth isn’t based on the fake front you put out on the internet for likes. Just live an authentic life in the real world, and save the socials for something useful. I have no issue with folks putting out content that’s about something (tutorials, sharing skills in a way to teach, maybe even news coverage or other external ideas) but the moment a creator is all about themselves, I’m out.

Exactly. Bang on.

Hit it on the head!

Only few understand that

That laundry list of a million projects I have around the house certainly gets a little shorter in anticipation of their return. Is that just me?

Especially when you “burned” your boiling water and you shrunk your favorite shirt because your wife usually does the wash. Right? 😜

So true. When my family is away, it feels like I'm being irresponsible.

Amen 😊❤

You're gonna get divorce wrecked it's guaranteed in your future. 75% failure rate for marriages so no way you'll succeed.

Beautiful and mature message. ❤️ What we all need is to appreciate what we have and grow up. Whether you happen to be single or married, enjoy it and work on yourself (not only on your body or career, but most importantly, on your mind, heart and soul) and always remember to help others along the way. I know people that are single and miserable, constantly involved in toxic drama with friends and flings-as I know people who did marry and have children but refused to grow up, so they avoid spending time with their family, cheat on their spouses, and eventually just quit. The common denominator of your life is *_you._* What are you doing to make life better for everyone? Or are you just waiting for other people to make _you_ happy?

The grass is green where you water it. Indeed. I should remind my self to say that to all my friends saying similar things to me, basically everything you've wrote only the female version. I guess I needed to read this today especially.

This is soo good.

100%! 👍

Keep up the faith, God knows how you feel.

Being alone shouldn't necessarily mean that you are going to be, or are lonely. I'm single, though haven't been lonely in decades....

Yes mate, I can relate. I'm 57 now but was 33 before I met my wife. I kept myself for marriage in this sex saturated world and was told (by people that got married young) that I shouldn't even be looking, and that God would bring the right woman along in His time. Long story short, I married a gold digger who spent money like it was going out of fashion (while I was being told that Godly leadership in marriage wasn't a dictatorship but I should lead by example) I eventually got fed up & stopped her having access to our joint accounts. She left me just after our 13th anniversary & now I haven't seen my oldest daughter (now 19) since she turned 12. My 17 year old I used to see for just 1 hour per month until I had to move 400km away because of financial issues (at least partly caused by her mum's spending) Finally learning how to be Baddass in my mid 50s. I pray you'll find a good Proverbs 31 wife mate🙏🙏 Prayers coming from Western Victoria Australia

​@@betalife5511I agree. But I've had to wait AND marry the wrong person twice before finding the right person a few weeks before my 55th birthday. To say it wasn't easy is a drastic understatement

I'm 27, and a muslim, but other than that I'm exactly in your boat. But like the first replier said, though hard, it'll be worth it when you find the right person. Don't give in to the peer pressure around you and keep on pushing Soldier

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BINGO!!! WELL SAID!!

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What if you die tomorrow? was being a virgin worth it? Incorrect. We should live for ourselves first than others.

I married at 37. I bought a house at 30, when I couldn't stand having roommates anymore. While I rented, it took a lot of effort to fill my Saturdays. The lady in the video had a "stacked day" watching TV, but I didn't own a TV. So, i tried to spend my Saturdays doing something physical outside. After I bought a house, I was overwhelmed with tasks, because there was no one to split the responsibilities of owning a home. And yes, I tried to serve the families in my life, but I don't have nieces or nephews. Basically, I would do free babysitting for church families so they can Christmas shop or something. In short, I know that being single can be very, very busy. Or it can be too much time on our hands. I knew lots of guys who'd buy "beater" cars so they'd have something to do. Many of us bought houses to have something to do.

Love this single at 33 & hoping for this to happen.

Congratulations. Glad you got your happy life , so do I , 21 years married with 5 children. Wouldn't trade that for whatever this crazy single lady thinks she has.

Congratulations!!

Yes I am 36 right now. Want to get married but haven't met the love of my life yet. Not everyone who is single needs to be judged

​@@youareright2802lol, yeah not men but the females definitely do.

Being single is okay, but you have to have a vision in mind. She had no vision and that's the issue. It's not okay to be single for your whole life, and to be honestly most people aren't single they're just not in a committed relationship. They're seeing someone without the commitment.

Why is it not ok to be single your whole life …? How is she a narcissist? You’re the ones that care and are tearing her apart? Should she get married to a drug addict or someone she’s not in love with just to be married ?? Does being single and saying that you’re not ready to have kids make you a bad person now? I’m conservative by the way. Disappointing.

⁠@@vanessalynnx0Absolutely! My sister asked me once what’s wrong with one of my friends who never got married and never had kids. I said, what do you mean? There’s nothing wrong with him. He doesn’t have to put up with anybody’s Bullshit doesn’t have to deal with anything he doesn’t want to. He’s a good person and treats everyone with respect. I think these “ normal people “ are just plain damn jealous

No she encouraged people to live her empty life

True words have never been spoken!

There you go .. to each there own .. everyone is so quick to judge and label people for there words that are true for them .. she slept in until 1030 cause she’s hung over at a Beyoncé concert not because she’s lazy and sleeps in every day to that time .. they don’t say that they just want to rip her apart . It’s so ridiculous. Blah blah these people are pissing me off .

You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction. Childless women are menace to society.

@@tammyknipe6262 I agree.

​@@tammyknipe6262Im single and anti marriage but she sounded pathetic to me, the more she tried hard to make it sound like a happy life the more pathetic it looked. Married with kids is only a happy life in a balanced country not the USA where divorce lawyers are vultures

Lol

This is what happened to me when I felt overwhelmed when he gave the example of kids needing you all at once in the morning and they are cranky...you can be annoyed OR you can change the perspective and say ''omg they still need me, they want me to be around them to give them attention and I only have them for some amount of time where their priorities will change and they will go into the world''. When me and my husband started to think like that and be grateful on every minute our kids want to play with us, cuddle and just enjoy our company we keep saying ''we are lucky they still find us interesting and want to spend time with us than with their friends'' It made such a change in our hosehold and kn our family dynamic it's just insane.

Every single new day is actually an adventure, no matter how that new day may seem to the rest of the people. Also I could cook pizza while other people are going bungee-jumping. They live, I live.I am grateful for being alive and for being able to watch the clouds in the sky. This is one of the most amazing things in this life. Earning a million dollars means absolutely nothing to me.

@@Dandan-tg6tj People that don’t have money often say that.

So, there are no miserable people that are married with kids? 😂 You couldn’t be more naive.

Funny you, wasn't a woman part of the conversation?

So... we're pro abortion now?

Why do you have the right to be sexist and misandristic? You don't get to tell them they can't speak on a subject because they're lesser than for not being a woman. It's especially ironic because if they shaved, put on a dress and wig, and said they're real women now you would probably tell them they're so brave

I guess C.O. is a man now

I wish I could like this a million times. These people obviously live in a bubble and have no idea what reality is.

Very wise

I'm graced to be happily married since 15 years now with 2 wonderful boys and I can tell you so right. You put the words out for me. You're absolutely on point 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

What if a pedophile reads this? What a moronic world view lmao

Actually your life is not yours. Everyone is held accountable for the life they choose to live. A life of selfishness and narcissism is incorrect.

Amen 😊❤

Question. Does single people make you angry?

Amen! That is wonderful! God Bless!

@@CaroLI-lh2re I don't know about other people, but it makes me sad to see all that potential wasted.

@@CaroLI-lh2re Single people make feel sorry for them.

Right? I’m 44, two grown kids, husband of 23 years. I don’t need to worry about getting a babysitter to go out with (or without) my husband whenever I want, I still look and feel great, I wake up whenever I want on weekends.

It is miserable. I just dated hard for four entire years and just recently met someone I would even entertain a long-term relationship with. The focus on narcissism today and this video is so accurate. Dozens and dozens of women that made my skin crawl with how fascinated they were with themselves. Spoiled entitled brats. It’s really sad because I think one day they will wake up and realize how hollow an empty they are. Or maybe not.

@@WildernessMedic the level of entitlement and unrealistic expectations of constant emotional perfection are just too much. I really hope the person your found might be the one for you long term. It isn't 50/50, it's 100/100!

@@UserOfTheDay Yes! We are almost there, youngest is 12, so occasionally needs some assistance and supervision, but he is also very independent. Sleeping in on the weekends is the best!

​@@WildernessMedicYou're worried about spoiled entitled brats when you have ankle traps for animals on your channel. Incredibly cruel

Me too! 41 years old, 17 year relationship, married for 15, no kids, not through lack of trying but we have no bitterness now that we’ve moved on. I have nothing but admiration for family and friends with kids and offer to help. And my life is not without its charms also, my friend came over for coffee without her kids and was a little wistful about the luxuries we could invest in ourselves, and that we volunteer with shelters with our spare time. Her kids are growing up to be awesome people so both sets of lives are fulfilling

I am in a relationship, in my 30's and don't have kids and I do quite often think that life is amazing not having them. BUT (and that is the thing) this thought does not exclude being happy for other people and them feeling the exact same bit WITH kids. You can find life amazing having kids, without bashing on families that don't have kids and vice versa. it's not exclusive to either side to be happy

Been with my husband for 14 years, no kids and we're really glad we didn't go that route. We just knew it wasn't for us for a few reasons, not least among them money, but there were others. Still, when a loved one has children we're over the moon for them. And then we get to be the auntie and uncle, which is really great. 😊

You're gonna regret not having kids.

@@stuckatthevalley what makes you think that if I may ask? Some people just don't want kids for very specific and/or personal reasons and will live happy and fulfilled until they die.

You can Sort out your life for 5-10 years, then think about Marriage No one is forcing you to, We're just stopping this to become mainstream... So, our future generation don't follow that (cuz most kids have normal life, You've been with wrong people) Cuz, eventually life's gonna get boring & lonely if you don't have a family.... as your parents & relatives are gonna die someday There's a reason, having family is Common among all culture, in all countries in all Continents, In all of the History 🎉

​@@Jack-tk1isshut up

@@Jack-tk1is such an adequate, well-put response 🫡

Very valid point of view!

@@Jack-tk1is I 100 agree that we are social creatures and life will get boring when you don’t have physical power anymore to travel and have activities…however the people around you and the tribe you create for yourself for your later years doesn’t necessarily need to be a husband/wife or kids…if you have genuine friends around you or partners, sisters, nephews any good human beings you will not feel alone. I am looking around me and I see who suffers and who doesn’t…I have friends that are married and have kids and they crave to stay in contact with people outside of their family because that family is toxic but the friends are loving and caring people. We really can’t generalize saying that everyone should be married and have kids by 40…it is just doesn’t apply for everyone! And also in the past and in the history wasn’t applying but there were rules mostly religious and people didn’t have a choice

I absolutely agree with you but I hear Ben's point. Paul did say, better to marry, than burn with passion. There are single people who have lived a fulfilling life that is/was constructive and not all about themselves. 😊

I agree that you have to make an effort to find the right one, and it May take some time. But being single all of your life, no matter how successful you are, it would of been much better though if you were married. And that applies to everyone.

I totally agree! It’s more about giving of yourself, not being selfish in whatever state of life you’re in.

Why do you have to justify being single? You don't need a reason not to get married.

It basically comes down to the fact Ben is Orthodox Jew, and to them it is always better. I agree with Walsh, but I also profess Jesus as Lord and understand there are other higher callings that can preclude a marriage or family. No one would claim Mother Theresa was a narcissist for never marrying, for example. I do believe the majority of people would be better served and serve better in a marriage. Not everyone can be like Paul. And we are in a population death spiral right now. We simply need more kids as a collective.

That's why it's so important to avoid bad marriage in the first place.

Exactly! They didn’t mention this! People don’t know how to be a good spouse nor how to foster a good marriage, that’s why people don’t want to get married because most married people are either miserable or divorced.

Relationships grow. And what grows is what you water. I have observed some couples who water misery “he always does this! etc”; and some water gratitude “I really appreciate how you ______”. Miserable marriages can become happy ones with intentionality. Assuming you didn’t marry a psychopath, but statistically they are very rare

@@user-mv2tg8hc8cyour statistics are wrong. You will find most people get married and stay married. Especially if you are religious and practice your faith together, because you are invested in shared values which highly values marriage. I would also agree that it’s important to figure out how you can prepare yourself for marriage by developing personality traits (patience, a good sense of humor, slow to anger), skills (how to cook, fix a car, do laundry, manage finances, avoid debt) and values (loyalty, forgiveness, know how to celebrate and have fun) which will help you be a great marriage partner. Too many people want a perfect spouse or a person with wonderful qualities which they are not developing in themselves. My husband and I married when we both 27 and have been happily married 27 years.

I've had challenges being married. But none of them come even close to the benefits. Once I resolved in my mind that I was in it forever it was much easier. Would I do things differently? Yes, but being single isn't one of them.

How did you find this amazing women?

Why does it stink? Sounds like God gave you a gift.

I call it freedom.

@@marytudor-iw2dw “Partner” 🙄 That is a disgusting term. You either have a bf or a husband.

Is there a chance you could get back together?

I can second your view. It hurts me to pass my kids back-and-forth with their mother.

I do the same with my 1 yr old. We never got married but I agree ita extremely difficult for children and parents.

Well at least your kids have a father involved many don't you're still blessed I guess

Same. Very hard indeed!

Yeah the only problem is most men (people in general) are broke so it's highly unlikely that you will find one attractive to procreate with..

There are, but you're looking past them. The boys who are like that will grow up to be men like that. But since they're invisible to you now - you'll be invisible to them when they grow up and start to run the world. Trust me, you don't want the letterman athlete, you want the valedictorian. Ten years down the road, that athlete will be working for the valedictorian.

Exactly! Not everyone gets to meet someone they’re compatible to marry and have a blissful life

So what about when you desperately want to get married but there is no one out there for you?? Every time someone shames someone for being single, they’re causing pain in those of us who can’t find the person! It’s not fair or easy! I’m sick and tired of everyone around me who won’t shut up about how great marriage is.

@@zaram131 Maybe you're so eager to get married instead of finding a partner great enough for marriage. Would you rather be alone or in a really sh!tty marriage? Worse yet, with kids? Don't get me wrong, I wanted to find someone, I just don't believe in it anymore. So I figured how to live and depend on my own. And it's fine. It would be better if I got someone I really enjoy the company. But I like my own company more rather than enduring terrible people. I also did that long enough in this life because I didn't know better back then.

I cannot believe it is easier or better to face the world alone.

@@ruffusgoodman4137sounds like you are too picky, or have unrealistic expectations of marriage.

That's right! Love and enjoy every moment of life, whether you are married with children or not. Why so much drama over one situation or the other?

I've had three children. They're now aged 26, 23, and 21. Though I love them very dearly, I am so sad that I didn't have more children. I know that feeling of wasting time that you spoke of. How much more life and noise and love could I have had in my house, had we been open to more life? It's hard to get through the rough years when all your children are young and you feel stretched thin and sleepless and stressed. But I grieve that we had our tubes tied and snipped, now that we're 50. I cry, imagining a daughter we never had, or a son older than our 26 year old, or what it would be like to still have an 18 year old making Eagle Scout and one at 15, going to Philmont or band camp or family vacations. People, please consider being generous in your childbearing. If you are a good parent and you make good children, then your children will be a great comfort and source of love for you when you're older. (and all you have to do to be 'good' is to make the effort) And then you get to spoil your grandbabies!

You like the smell of his head because babies release oxytocin from the top of their heads. That’s why women in particular love sniffing the top of a baby’s head.

The smell of my children as babies is the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced. I was CONSTANTLY holding them and smelling their tiny heads 😍😍

We had our first after 1.5 years of marriage - it was definitely empty compared to now with 3 kiddos under 6. It’s so awesome. I quit my job as a nurse and never looked back after our first was born. My third is 4 months old and seriously, I just love the newborn months. They are so precious.

Oneperson5760 I just want to thank you for your comment it really moved me. I am already 27 so I don’t know how many kids I’ll be able to have once I get married (no prospects) but I’ll definitely keep what you said in mind when I have kids. I’d love to have a lot of kids.

And you will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. -Jeremiah 29:13 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life. -John 3:16 Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out. -Acts 3:19 :)

Yeah, it’s been ruined in modern day. Women have ruined marriage (and themselves.)

That's fine, some people don't deserve to get married

Your loss.

You’re no different to these woke tiktok girls

because she's a narcissist

May you be blessed with a beautiful family that you so deserve!

It’s still possible. It can and will happen 🙏🏽

I hope you do find what you're looking for. It's hard out there. I've literally done the same thing. I'm 39, house, car, make good money with my full and part time jobs, 0 debt besides a mortgage. I've made a happy environment, but the family aspect is missing. I just hope it's out there somewhere.

@@jasontodd9302 probably not.

just spread the info about your poor choices. young women need to hear that

Yes, sis 🎉 preach it louder for these clowns to hear 🗣

You don't know what you'll do without your family? So you love your family more than God? Bible teaches to love God above everything. Will you still love Him if what happened to Job in the Bible happens to you? Go read the book of Job if you haven't. Matthew 10:37 "Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Jesus words not mine 😁. God bless you

It’s not because they’re unmarried they are called “narcissist”. They are called that because they are, and that’s a huge part of why they happen to be single. You got it backwards on cause and effect.

So you're a narcissist right up until the point you're married? why? if you choose to be single that doesn't make you a narcissist.the way i see it there's no difference in her bragging about being single as everyone else here bragging about being married.

@@timunderbakke8756 lol incorrect. You think finding a decent partner is easy when it's not. I am single in my mid-thirties and I can't find 1 woman interested in me, and I will not pretend to be someone I am not just to try to find a partner. Most women now days suck, and that's not my fault.

@@timunderbakke8756 That is absolutely absurd. People are single because they enjoy their freedom and independence, and do not want to settle for someone just to shack up. You’re just as bad as the girl in the video. Your chosen lifestyle is not better than hers because you say so.

Sadly the modern mentality is all about me me me not even kids matter to some people. Finding wife material women/men like you and your husband is very hard.

@@agnosticmanquestionsall2409 I feel like finding religious common grounds is very important. My husband and I are both very religious and grow up very religious. Our group of friends in college, especially the first year was primarily religious people. The men I hung out with were all in that 21 to 23 range and we're looking for wives who would be good moms-- again, it's primarily the way that we were raised and that we grew up in religious houses where most of us had stay-at-home moms. Aka Catholics, Baptist, members of the Church of Jesus Christ.

♥️ Psalm 23

it's called growing up

Yeah but what’s the point? What’s the point of being able to do whatever you want? For what purpose? Why does that even fulfill you as a person?

@@matthewgallant3622 What's the point of doing whatever you want? 😀What's the point of reproducing yourself to gain fulfillment? You act like there is no fulfillment unless you reproduce.

@@Be1New2You3 Yes, because all the abandoned/abused/poverty-stricken children in the world is a testament to all of you highly-evolved, "grown-up" baby-machines out there. 😀

@@matthewgallant3622 i think this person's comment is accurate though, they didn't say it's better to have freedom..but if you are not married with kids, you do have more freedom to pursue personal interests/goals (at least in the early years). Whether or not that is something valuable is a different thing. For the record I agree with you, and I actually don't think having so much freedom brings happiness/purpose in a true sense, being on your own is a struggle in its own right. It's not the "easy" way to live, as some people think..you have to constantly deal with existential thoughts and wonder if anyone out there will ever love you etc...I have friends who are single and in their 40s and it's a struggle, even if there are some perceived benefits.

That was beautiful and so real to read. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

Can we please stop with the pretentious "partner" crap? The term is "significant other(s)." The term "partner" reduces love and relationships to a business arrangement. Someone you care about deserves better. Not to mention calling significant others "partners" stems from homophobia, since they weren't allowed to get married and homophobic people didn't take their relationships seriously.

@@englishatheart no fucking way that was all you got from this whole paragraph- 💀

You need help.

!!!!!

She wasn’t really seeing the positive side… she was bashing on children and parents basically. Why couldn’t she just enjoy her day? Why did she have to make that video? To make her feel better about herself and to justify her lack of commitment?

@@viciousLUA Maybe she's sick and tired of people telling her she should marry and have children. It goes both ways.

​@@haasteagle4925What other real purpose does one have if not to serve humanity in some noble way by means of artistic, philosophic, or scientific breakthrough, besides the exception, if they lack sufficient resources or are simply comparably less productive or insightful, therefore a family is of highest importance representing a tribute to life itself while providing yourself someone you can love unconditionally; unless you've been culturally brainwashed with the philosophy of going out to "live your best life" at least for a while, until you've finally receive a blow to the face brought about by a gust of wisdom, hence maturing and growing prepared for human responsibility, either in genuine social contribution or upbringing a *good* family, which in turn produces good humans for society. And if one feels adamantly narcissistic and/or critical concerning these positivistic avenues of growth then they must strongly consider self-reflection and revisit the reality of their subjective views regarding life or in the end, commit to a meaningless life of existence, serving in the rat race, going nowhere happily, slaving for corporations which can easily replace you, buying things you don't need, indulging in irrelevancy, consequently leaving behind nothing of true, inherent value.

Candace slags off everyone if they don’t fit into the married with kids box

You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction. Excuses doesn't help

Yes!

All of them are in successful marriages with children so.

@@Triumvirate3because narcissists don’t get married and have kids? What’s your point here?

Im single and anti marriage but I agree with you, for her to brag about getting drunk at a Beyonce concert is more than pathetic and lonely.

Im 39yoa bachelor. No fun at all. No purpose. I meet many females, but most of them are no good. Always feel lonely when i go home at the end of the day. I need to level up to meet quality women.

I bet your husband is happy by working countless hours and coming home just to see the bed..

Please consider fostering, especially older children. As a teen I was orphaned and had nowhere to go and had to learn how to be an adult without any guidance. There are always children who need loving care and guidance.

Or adoption.

or please rescue dogs or dogs from shelters, they too need to be nurtured

@@Thisismeofcourse I've got 4 rescues 💕

@@viviennedunbar3374 this is truly a great suggestion. Thank you ❤️

Absolutely

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​@@michelleguzman77😂😂🎉🎉&hh

Yep. Loved how he acknowledged the circumstances, such as being miserable on holidays, that many people face while reminding us of the reality that seeking higher fulfillment is the answer.

@@lohi172 Those of us that are not married with children have friends and extended family, and are FAR from "miserable" on holidays. It's a silly, judgmental assumption.

I agree with you that she may not necessarily be a narcissist but I have NEVER met a mother that regrets having children. I guess it depends on the quality of individuals you surround yourself with though.

@@jessdonnelly1496 just TikTok’s, I’m young I don’t have any friends with kids but thanks for the rude ass reply bum

No one in that room thinks no fault divorce is good, I promise you

Or just fair treatment in divorce. Parents should have equal custody unless one is proven incapable or abusive. Child support should be calculated based on the child's essential needs, then divided between parents either based on their earnings (he who earns more pays more) or custody (he who takes care of the child more pays less). Property should be split according to share in ownership. What you bring into a marriage you take with you when the marriage ends, unless you put it under both your names. Anything purchased or earned during the marriage should be split equally unless there's a clear owner, or unless there's a huge disparity in earnings, in which case the spouse that earned far less should receive a share of all property held by the couple that is proportional to her earnings during the period of marriage. Bringing false allegations should carry the same penalty as what the other party would have suffered if found guilty. Something like that. Fair and safe by default.

@@thainac1732 The point @jameslebeau7078 is making is that men are avoiding/eschewing marriage because of the dramatically-increased risk of divorce (women initiate 70-80 percent of all divorces, at least since no-fault divorce was instituted) thanks to no-fault divorce.

Marriage is a raw deal for men. If you marry go overseas and/or get a prenup.

The best fight against no fault divorce, is changing the society. How do you do that? Get married and have children, stay faithful, don't complain, be grateful, raise those kids right, so they in turn grow up to be good people who impact society.

I don't think they're denying that at all. Hence why they said there's nothing wrong with being 29 and single and childless if you don't wanna be and it's not by choice. If you're choosing it, that's a different story.

Finding a partner is always hard, finding an “ideal” partner is impossible. You just have to get out there and look in places where great people with strong values and virtue hang out and a significant percentage of them can be found in religious or faith based settings.

@@viviennedunbar3374 Do you have source material for that? I haven't found credible, unbiased evidence that "religious or faith-based settings" have yielded better marriage material then the general population.

Agreed. 50% of marriages end in divorce, and many more marriages stay together "for the kids, or for financial reasons. Yet, we keep hearing how the married-with-kids lifestyle is THE answer. Who is trying to convince who? lol

Right? Like.. why do other people's decisions bother them so much. I love all of these hosts and normally enjoy their channels, but when they start advising people to go get married and have a bunch of children without discussing the financial and personal consequences that come with that, I feel like they're not fully in touch with reality either.

@@samantharuiz6481 also sometimes we can think certain way at 29 and change priorities completely in the next years. At 29 I only wanted to travel, after years I want to be home. There are different seasons of life. Even those hosts married when they were in a position to do so, first they wanted to make career in show business and then life turned out differently. They didn't marry at 18

@@samantharuiz6481 Agreed.

I've had many friends in your boat. It is one thing to let people like your parents have a social pass on the pressure of having children. It is an entirely different thing to advertise that childlessness and singleness is the epitome of bliss and happiness for everyone to strive for. There are rare few people in the "ideal" childbearing years who are mature enough to be any of those qualities. In fact, I'd contend for most people they'll never have the opportunity to grow those qualities without being regularly involved with children. Why would you be anything other than a selfish narcissist if you are the only person that you ever have to care about?

That’s very true. However it’s a product of a selfish society. For years now we’ve been told to just do you and how much of a trap marriage and children are. Plus people’s parents didn’t raise them well enough so they turn out to be very selfish people who aren’t capable of having children and loving them. It’s all pretty sad. More people would be capable of marriage and raising children if they would fix themselves and stop promoting a lonely lifestyle.

The difficult thing, though, is that many people also DO grow up and get their sh*t together when they have children. And for those people to continue remaining selfish children themselves is not doing society any favors, either. It's tricky. :/

@@bryannorris8049 It is just as wrong to "advertise" to people that the married-with-children"-life is the only path to true happiness. lol

@@krystallos81You people that have children are operating out of the exact same selfishness. lol People have children for their OWN needs, as much as a person avoids having children. People have kids because they truly believe that their gene pool is superior, and their offspring is a blessing on society. In MANY cases, it is not. They are brought into the world without a thought as to how they will be cared for, and that HURTS society.

It's actually pretty simple. There's the same amount of joy as there is pain in all things. In short order, acknowledge the negative but focus your energy on the positive. Test this for yourself. When you're frustrated, seek out what's good in your life and notice how you feel.

Being even a half-decent parent absolutely does make you a better person. You have to learn self-control and selflessness. You have to delay your own gratification for the betterment of others. You have to mature and master your emotions so you don't have scary outbursts in front of the children. Maybe most of all, you learn compassion, understanding, mercy and forgiveness. Granted, that's only if you're at least a mediocre parent. Most people are.

@@oneperson5760also, God willing, you are there for another generation and get to be a loving grandparent and help your children as they learn how to parent. I am grateful for my husband and children. Being 65+ with no children or grandchildren is not a life I would ever personally chose.

@@viviennedunbar3374 A lot of people with kids and grandkids die alone because they've alienated everybody. I'm 66 and have no family and I'm okay with that. If others are happy with their lives with a spouse, kids, and grandkids I'm happy for them. Not everybody wants the same things in life, and people like Ben don't seem to be able to grasp that. And yes, I know about self-control and delayed gratification, and I'm okay in the compassion department as well.

There are nothing wrong with your choices.

@@oneperson5760 A half-decent parent is a "better person" than a childless person? 😀 That is utter nonsense, and the current condition of our society is proof that we need less mediocrity. The sheer amount of broken/neglected/poverty-stricken children are a clear indicator that we have MANY less-than-mediocre parents that decided that they would be "better" people if they had kids.

I got married at the same age but my husband instead divorced me at 39 for a younger woman who was pregnant and one day out of the blue disappeared with her and my money (meaning he stole my own money and properties I had the baddest idea to share, I found out about the other girl 4 years later so much I had faith in him after 20 years). What do you think, I want to repeat the experience of being crashed, broken in millions of pieces or I am happier single? 🤔 Before to fall in love again the sky must come down for me. All of us might have different paths and it's wrong to discuss generic issues with personal experiences. You are lucky, me I am not still I think it's a good thing for happy couples to be married and live their lives together generically speaking but I won't judge who wants to stay single... I wish you the best life!😘

So you would rather wallow in hurt and self pity and assume all men to be like your ex husband rather than trust a new man and choose to be happy.

@@VictoriaInamorati Why does she need a new man to be happy?

My spouse was 22 and I 25 and we have been married 23 years now❤.We are also each others first boyfriend/girlfriend.

Damn, I’m 23 going 24 and have never been on a date before, never kissed a girl, or anything. I don’t get it…

Well said, wish I could give you 100 thumbs up. (I'm also happily married with 2 adult children).

hey the most sense i have read these people are crazy.

I understand what you mean, though. It is important to bring up the subject because it promotes a kind of contempt for forming a family and adopting empty narcissistic tendencies.

Because young people are being sold a false story about how having kids is miserable. The reality is being alone in old age is the miserable bit.

@@lynncrf Having children is no guarantee that they will be around in one's old age. Retirement homes are full of the elderly who have no visitors or who only do a duty visit one day a year around Christmas in the hope of receiving an inheritance in their will. I have four friends/family members who work in such workplaces who witness the loneliness of their guests who actually have family that live in the same county if not city.

Guess what honey. Good luck, you’ll never met the “ RIGHT ONE” ….. you’re 36 what are you waiting for but again, I don’t blame you, you’re part a wicked society that taught you that type of garbage…. The RIGHT ONE!!! find yourself a partner and make it work. Marriage is work every day and if you’re not ready to work stay single

@yankylichtman2530 I never said anything about "the right one" society is not something I follow or worship. I do what works for me and everything is going very well. All I said was being single can get boring. How does everyone on the internet take everything out of context?

@@yankylichtman2530 and there is nothing great about forcing yourself in a relationship ship and "make it work " that's like settling for shit and dealing with it, except you have a choice in the situation.

@@yankylichtman2530 You are clueless. Finding a decent partner is VERY difficult and seems to be more of a waste of energy and time than anything else when 99% of the time it goes nowhere with that person. As a man, finding a decent woman seems impossible nowadays.

You don't understand how one civilization survive and culture consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction.

Well that is Ben Shapiro - what a miserable mess he is. He needs therapy.

Is it tho?

Who is she selling? She bought it--- now wear it.

Lets see in the next 5 to 10 years how is right.

Why is that fun for you? It seems cruel to me.

As someone who married at 19, I agree with this advice. 2 kids and 19 years strong this month. I love and respect my spouse more now than I did when we got married.

​@justbecause9049 lucky for you however not everyone gets the privilege to find the right person at 19. You meet the worst people during those ages

I found someone to love who said he loved me. But I had to drop him when I found out he was married and didn't want an annulment. He was Jewish, and thought he deserved more than one "girl." But yet, after 45 years, I still love what he might have been if he had become a Christian. He died soon after we parted.

Finding a decent partner is almost impossible nowadays.

It’s not psychologically healthy to spend decades dating. Having a 20 year dating career is not natural. We’re not designed for it. This is a huge reason people are so unhappy today.

I married my high school sweetheart, bought land, built a beautiful house, put her through college, had 2 kids, etc. After 17 years she "accidentally" fell in love with a guy friend and decided she wanted something different. She said that she still loved me and said that I was the best father she had ever seen, but she still wanted something different. We never fought. Our home life was great and filled with happiness, but it was no longer new.

❤ How wonderful! 🍺 Here's to another ten!

@@just_me2797sorry to hear this, her loss.

This awful culture. Sorry

Welcome to the club. And it's all by design...it's startling how quickly a certain population may be weaponized simply by feeding their ego.

I definitely think ppl need to wait long enough to know who they are. I see so many ppl change. Yes everyone changes but some ppl go along with the crowd in their 20's and don't think about principles and values then they are in a relationship and become a different person. I'm so sorry. God bless.

I’m 26 and my life sounds a lot like yours. I have no regrets so far and I’m glad you shared some of your experiences :)

Single and childfree 😂

You can't

Definitely if you want kids!

Yeah they're lumping her in with people who aren't even trying to settle down. Not fair to her

Exactly this. Why do these married people feel so entitled that they need to shit over a single girl? Single women already have to deal with the judgments of society, and like you correctly pointed out - usually not single by choice. Some people are not lucky to meet the right person. Why is it wrong to be happy being single while you’re waiting for the right one to come by?! What’s the alternative, shakshuka girl should just grab the next random dude that comes by, marry him and be miserable for the rest of her life? Become a nasty depressed lady who tells everyone she hates her life? They say the shakshuka girl is narcissistic, yet - they fail to see they are the narcissistic ones themselves. Very disappointing analysis.

@@RibbitpleaseI agree

couldnt agree with u more on this. some of the times ive noticed candace is wayy too judgmental and self righteous that she comes off as a narcissist herself.. no one asked to be single. just trying to stay positive in todays environment is causing people from left and right to get unhinged

@@inlovingfavor Agreed. Just because you have plenty of suitors, does not mean they are the right person for you. Many people would then say: “your standards are too high, lower them”. But I would argue that wanting someone kind, compassionate, affectionate, emotionally stable and does not play games, authentic, serious and fun at the right times, responsible with strong values is NOT having too high standards. It’s incredibly difficult to come across someone like this to spend the rest of your life with, to have kids with. I don’t want to eventually be a single mom. I love the idea of a close knit family. So partner choice is critical. My ex was nice and fun in the beginning, but later showed his true colours after some time (temper problem and started to physically hit me). I had my suspicions that he may be capable of that, but I naively withheld my judgment of him. By the time I found out, I’ve wasted years of my time and needed to start from scratch (with resentment and baggage, but managed to have it under control). My current partner who I met after a year, is the most amazing person and checks 95% of what I want in a partner. I’m thankful I didn’t jump into a marriage with my ex just because of societal pressure. Agree that some conservatives encourage men to use women if they don’t think she’s marriage material (which differs very much from person to person). But they are just creating the problem and I find it disgusting too - to think of people as objects you can use, regardless. I emphasise with single women and I don’t think married people should shit on them. Candace even saying “it’s loser behaviour to sleep in until 1030am”. shakshuka girl said she CAN do that, not actually doing that everyday. What’s wrong with wanting to sleep in sometimes over the weekends when you don’t have to work especially if you have no children? I hope you find your special person, without compromising your standards ❤️

Amen! 🎯

You don't understand how one civilization survive culture and geopolitical consequences of demographics changes European are a dying civilization compare to Indian Chinese and Arab. So your world view is wrong because it's taking western civilization into extinction.

Exactly. No one is havinf kida for the betterment of society. They (if they do so by choice) do it because they want kids. "They want". It's a selfish choice. I'm not saying it is wrong or right but let's not pretend that it isn't just as selfish as choosing not to.

A lot of people have kids by mistake ! Aka one night stands! Happens all the times when dudes can’t wear condoms like responsible adults! 🙄

@@OrganizationXIII women get pregnant man don't why she is having sex with random dude. She should take precautions man shouldn't.