Tamera's whole look is ON POINT. The hair, the burgundy and gold....yassss! That is your color, Tamera. 😃

JEANNIE SHOULD START A TED TALK OR ONLINE TV SHOW! She's so wise and well spoken and filled with great advise! LOVE YOU JEANNIE!!!

Dr. Tamera, Evangelist Adrienne, Pastor Jeannie and Apostle Loni on planting yourself in the right environment crusade, only on the Real!

I need more of this.. like an entire podcast of this 😂😂😂

I just left an 8 year relationship. Was with the guy since I was 16 years old!! It was a STRUGGLE. I was completely co-depandant and my therapist says that I was Trauma Bonded. SO GLAD I got out of it. I am now happy & single! Living life alone, doesn't mean I'm lonely! Love you ladies

The REAL is always dropping Knowledge!!! You Know better... You do better!

Jeannie is so wise. That flower/environment metaphor is so true

"Theres a difference between what you want and what you really need in a relationship"

*snaps* Tamera spoke some knowledge. I loved this segment

We as women all need to realize that we aren't rehabilitation centers for badly raised men nor shelters for men who are lost & need fixing. We accept the love we think we deserve. Remember ladies you deserve the exact love you give.

I agree with Loni. Online dating has creeps and can be very dangerous but there’s SO much variety of men. Be careful ladies when you date online

*two halves don't make a whole, two wholes make a great team* 👌🏽

Almost 5mins of amazing convo. I relate to struggle love and co-dependency. Please more of this.

This is the the real talk

At 28 I got my self out of a 11 year struggle love... slowly getting my self love right. Making small moves and changes for the better

See how God works. I really, really needed to hear all of this. And it actually has nothing to do with my relationship - I’ve finally found someone who is amazing and treats me like a queen but sometimes I find that I don’t value myself, I don’t take care of myself and feel stuck in certain areas of my life and this is important. What Jeannie said really spoke to me about the environment and being able to be strong enough to uproot. Thank you ladies. This is the lengthiest comment I’ve ever left. #NumberOneFan

I love the saying of 2 wholes makes a great team!! Love love love ladies 💕

Sometimes the person you have to break up with is your old self.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Jeannie really needs her own talk show, that woman is so wise and insightful it’s insane

Jeannie needs to write a book of analogies.. She's deep and meaningful

I dated a total user, abuser and loser for so long. He had no car, no job, 2 kids, but he gave me such great lip service that I felt as if he needed someone to show him compassion. I wanted to step up to the plate and show him he was worthy of love. I said yes for so long that when I finally started saying no, he couldnt handle it. After 3.5 years, I'm finally done with him. He will continue to use and abuse women for his own benefit until the day he dies. It doesn't have to be something I put up with any longer.

Powerful!!! Where's the love button?!

Jeannie had me snapping my fingers with the whole flower quote! We need more of these conversations!

I agree with Tam ! I feel like we have to be fair in a relationship and also look at the fact that just because my partner isn’t perfect doesn’t mean I am and we should own that ! If you’re sitting here just saying “ my partner doesn’t ... & ... “ what do you do , how bout that ?!?! Look at yourself FIRST before u decide to throw stones and hide your hands ! We all have flaws

I’ve been through struggle love. what allowed me to get out of it was deciding to develop myself mentally and spiritually also looking at people around me to see what a good and healthy relationship looked like. Once you know who you are and what good is, it’s so easier to decipher who/what is good and who is going to enrich your life.

This was my absolute fave girl chat segment so far. That culture is truly something I think many women are now actively working on changing and it's good seeing conversations looks this is this this forum. Love all these women. 💓💓

This just spoke into my life

SELF LOVE IS KEY.

Am I in church cause that was the kinda sermon I be putting my praise break on to

Put YOURSELF first is the first step to getting out of THE STRUGGLE LOVE. When you learn to love yourself and put yourself FIRST and KNOW YOUR WORTH, you’ll be fine

jeanne I hope you found peace. do not change for anyone but you. I did not know you were miserable in your marriage. stay strong and stand for what you believe in. I support you both way.

This was a good conversation! Good job, girls!

Wow Adrienne is more opinionated now..♥♥

These are the topics I'm talking about . Bring these encouraging, uplifting, and educating LIFE topics back please. Thanks for keeping it REAL.

Sister sister struggle 🤣

are yall ladies on the real looking at my life? cause these topics got me crying over here

Loved this video in general but really felt the last part from Tamera: "There's a difference between what you WANT... and what you NEED in a relationship." There is a huge conversation that could jump off from that particular point. It's something I would personally like to investigate in my own life. Thank you ladies, LOVE the show xx

Amen! Yesss Jeanie now say it again for the people at the back 👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾

Wow Tam, I got chills on this one! 100% that was me in my past relationships. And each one failed for the exact same reason (with the exception of one). I think that has everything to do with the reason I am no longer seeking a wounded boy. I want a grown man that can return the same level of love, communication and respect that I give him. I wasted so many years being overly soft with men that I needed to be firm with.

Love Jeannie's commentary! So well spoken and authentic in how she expresses herself! Love it girl! You are amazing!

I feel this topic on a deep level. I feel like a lot of people get into "struggle love" and think they can't get out of it. In fact, I feel like people get themselves into situations they think they have no control over. The truth is they do. I think the important part of this conversation is to always practice self-love. People don't wake up loving themselves, they need to work on it every day. Even if you don't feel like getting out of bed or don't see the point in being a functioning human being. You must remember that these feelings and situations will pass. That what you are doing is enough. As someone who had an eating disorder (and thus had a terrible relationship with myself), I understand that. So deeply and completely. Also, it's nice to get some relationship and life advice from ya'll. Thank you.

What Tameras friend said is actually a thing for Cancers... (Zodiac sign) And Tamera is a Cancer so it didn't surprise me...we tend to enter relationships with toxic/negative people because we believe that we can save them with our love and compassion. We like the idea of being needed and fixing broken things. It's out nature to nurture people like that....its very unhealthy actually to live like that. So when u see ppl talking about "Oh Cancers are such victim crybabies, blah blah blah" no it's not even that simple. If you were to truly learn the mind of a Cancer, you would know that they are the most out of all Zodiac signs (besides Pisces) to have been emotionally abused and drained from their relationships since they wanna always give.

Ooooh gave me chills. Y’all took me to church today. Everything was amazing you guys said. Some gems that I def need to pass on to my friends. To get what you want out of life you gotta take a good look in the mirror. That where I’m at in my life currently and it’s going great

Do you fix the flower or the environment... I was just asking about this earlier.

Best advice from being delivered from struggle love is having zero tolerance for your deal breakers. I’ve heard of plenty of women say their dealbreakers and once they get a man they drop them. It’s scary but, the good ones will stick.

These are the topics I enjoy and everyone had valid points that were very similar but relayed differently. I too always say I'm no one's better half I'm whole and I pray that you are too because I can't "complete" you, you have to be complete first so that you better know what you want and or need in order to "compliment" you...

Jeannie made me cry. Thank you babe, your advice rlly opened my eyes.

You have to love yourself first before you can attract the right man

Not just love yourself but KNOW yourself.

This clip is 2 years old, but now it hits different. For the past eight years I’d been in relationships and therapy at the same time. I never knew why I was always confused and sad. I thought something was wrong with ME. Now that I’m fully solo, I’ve never felt lighter. Haven’t been to or felt like I needed therapy in months!

I was determined not to fall into the struggle love pattern that a VAST majority of women in the hood and in my family tend to fall into. A lot of the women I know are repeatedly cheated on, bare most of the parenting of their children, and some bear the financial weight of their mans' intentional shortcomings and laziness. I've seen a lot of potential and happiness sucked out of them for years. The result- they're stressed all the time, held back in their love lives and careers, and exhausted. They're strong but constant abuse and trauma breaks everyone. I feel sorry for the children as well. I haven't fallen into struggle love; I had a 2 year relationship in high school that was becoming emotionally abusive so I ended it. My next 2 relationships were both only 2 months long because university life got busy and we didn't have time for each other. My current relationship is 3.5 years long and my "serious" relationship; we're aiming for marriage, kids, and love till death do us part. It's nothing like what I saw growing up; my mom sent him to me from Heaven (seriously). He cares for me just as much as I care for him. He lifts me up and I hold him down. We put mutual respect, effort, and love into our relationship. I have depression and PTSD so I have a lot more hard days than someone without mental illness; being with him makes me feel less emotionally drained because he returns what I give and holds me through my pain. The usual reasons why people fall into this are because they grew up in a toxic environment that taught them it's just the norm, they are insecure and don't think they deserve better, they have something missing inside that they try to fulfill with a "project", they're stuck in previous abuse and are repeating a cycle of trauma, they're told having anyone is better than no one, or they're truly so naive that they're easily taken advantage of and don't realize. It's extremely unhealthy and unfair. You need to ask yourself hard questions when it comes to your satisfaction and make that difficult step to replant yourself in a healthy environment. It starts at the root and you must evaluate. It may hurt and feel impossible now, but there will be so much less pain later and you won't be passing down pain. You must do it and forgive yourself. Move on, move up, move forward. Good luck.

When Jeanie drops 'Think about it' ♡

OMG I just got out of a "struggle love" relationship. I'm tired of taking care of this person. This segment spoke to my soul.

come on pastor Jeannie! 👏👏👏

This is the first time since I moved in late May, I felt vindicated in why I did it! I completely left my comfort zone by way of states, just to let go of someone, NOT GOOD FOR ME. A whole new pot for my roots. 😉 Great topic

This is the first real segment Ive seen from you guys in a while, just like how it used to be. Great girl chats less news broadcasting

On a personal note, I really needed to hear this. Just left a long term struggle love relationship. I like how Tamara explained codependency, because I was thinking he was codependent on me but in actuality I was codependent to think “he needs me”. Being with him has drained me mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I finally got feed up and just told him I’m done. God pulled away the blinders I had put up and let me see the truth about myself and I hated what I saw. I feel some much better after freeing myself from this man and his issues. It’s been only 3 weeks and we have 2 kids together so pray for me that I don’t fall back into that same toxic cycle. I know I deserve better.

I agree with jeannie for sure!

You guys dont understand how badly i needed to hear this. I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH

This is one of your best videos. Love you ladies so much. 😘

thank you ladies for having a segment on this topic. I am in struggle love and have been for 5 years, but God is moving things around for me now and this is what my inner self has been trying to say, but I have been ignoring her. ❤🙌❤🙌

Tamera and Jeannie's hair looks amazing today! All 4 ladies are absolutely beautiful 💖💖💖

You can’t change the people who are around you but you can change the people who you are around. 💯

I am a 29 year young man and I relate so much to these women. To be clear I don’t associate myself as a women but these topics are so true for any form of relationship whether between men and women or men and men/ women and women... I appreciate the real ness these women show and how transparent they are. I would love to sit with them and represent what us a gay men deal with and how it relates...

"you have the power to change the environment" love that

Loved what Loni said about improvement none of us are perfect even if you think you are you’re not

YES! More of these important topics!!! We love you The Real!

I’m a guy, and I stumbled on this. This is just good advice for everyone honestly

I love you guys, I was truly mediating on this topic and all of your answers just validated the moves I’m making in my life thank you so much for confirmation 💃🏽💃🏽👑

I'm focusing on my son and myself ❤👏🏼life has been real good. Even during the bad times; It all works out.

Tamera I felt that on a spiritual level

This was great ladies. I love when Loni takes these conversations serious because she really does give good advice

This topic is so needed!

Preach!!! This is so true. Such good advice , I wish they could do a segment where tell just give advice to people and talk like this.

THIS IS MY FAVORITE GIRL CHAT OF THIS SEASON YESSS!!!! SPEKAK THE TRUTH!!! #FACTS #TRUTH #LOVEYOURSELF

Women hear love yourself so often but they don't know how to translate that into action... It's sometimes boil down to sitting alone, in silence and asking yourself: do I want this, what I am putting myself thru, do I want it for my daughter (or any other female family member or friend you love dearly)... If it's not right, it's time to move on...

I'm here today needed to hear this podcast. Thank you ladies,24/01/2023

Preach Ladies 🙏🏽

This is such important truth. Preach sisters! This is the best sermon on love I have heard so far!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Whenever Jeanie says “think about it” you know she speaks STRAIGHT FACTS😂😂😂

I’ve been going through a breakup and this really hit hard. But it really opened me up. Thank you for the great advice ladies.

I been loving these topics recently.. I can resonate with that on such a high level. This combined with the ''If I knew back then..'' segment hit me so hard. But you know just like J.Cole said don't [him, he] don't wanna be saved..

When Adrienne said ‘that any of us can go through this’ I was kind of feeling a little shade thrown our way. We are categorized in Adrienne’s mind 😏 🌴. The viewers are poor and they rich. Kind of feels. 😤

They forgot to mention prayers. Prayers will make your life 100% easier.

Y’all better preach ladies!!

JEANNIE...thank u for ur words of wisdom!!u gave me smth to think about

It would really make a difference if people could see the patterns they continue to put themselves into. I have a friend who ended a 10 year relationship because the man wouldn't comment. Within months she was in a new relationship. Five years later this man won't commit either. Respect yourself enough to not put yourself in the same situation on repeat.

yessss. this is the content i subscribed for! more of this please

So much wisdom!! Love these girls!

I RECEIVE THIS HARD IN MY SPIRIT! Preach to me sisters! This was me!!!

Where was the REAL when i was younger ?!?!?! I so needed to hear this back then

Ugh, what would I do without you ladies. So much love. 💗

These segments are always on TIME

This topic is good .. now making me think 🤔 and ask myself ...

What a great conversation !!

If the show ends up not working out for you ladies (which is close to impossible because you guys are so awesome)...PLEASE START A PODCAST!!!

I literally never comment but Loni looks great

I def love this segment! Came at a good time! Keep keeping it real, ladies!!!

It’s like they’re talking directly to me and my situation but I’m not ready to uproot yet 😩😩

LOVE YOURSELF!