Knowing the difference between a man who wants a piece of you vs. The man who wants to be a part of you will save a bunch of headaches, heartbreaks, and time wasting.

My husband passed away in 2017 & he wrote me a letter months before he passed away from cancer. I happened to have found the letter a few months later in my nightstand. There was a specific part of his letter that will always be in my heart and cherished forever! He wrote.... “There will be many men who want you, but only one will “DESERVE” you”! 😭❤️

Nothing makes a man stay faithful but his own will. ❤

If ur absence doesnt make them want u, then ur presence shouldnt be around them...

Men are exhausting 🤦🏽‍♀️ I gave up. Life is too short for all these mind games 🤷🏽‍♀️

I had deleted all contacts that were no good for me going into this year. Today I was watching my motivation videos and all of a sudden a phone number with no contact name texted me saying oh hey I haven't talked to you in forever , and I thought we were friends and this and that. I was like I don't even recognize the number and if I deleted you as a contact last year you will not be coming back into my life this year. I blocked the number and deleted the message. I'm not a convenience to any man when they think they can just randomly text me because they don't have anyone at the moment. Learned that from you. Have to be strong in your convictions because you are worth your weight in gold if you chose to be.

Just walked away from a girl i was dating. Asked the exclusive question after we kissed she paused and waited like she needed to think abt it but in my mind there was nothing to think abt. I had been dating her for 7 months spending time with her and more importantly stopped dating other girls because i thought she was most special. I asked her if she would be my girlfriend she paused for a while i broke the silence and said dont worry abt it(i was pretty hurt that it was a question she had to think abt it) i ended the date a little early stated i had to be up early. She texted dont take my silence as a no(but i knew better than that) i told her how i felt and that i wanted a relationship with her and that i don't want to force it if it's not something shes ready for right now. She replied her ex boyfriend is crazy and wont leave her alone. In other words shes back and forth on the fence and wants to get back with her ex that left her but shes uncertain if she should leave him for good. I could tell from her answer she wont let go of her ex so i did a favor and said hey well i told u how i felt and....went on a paragraph..and said well hey it was really nice knowing you for the time but i rather just focus on my individual self and improving my life from this point forward i hope nothing but the best on you and your journey. Have a good one. She texted back i meant i cant be your gf right now what do you mean? We can still talk i care for you. I didnt reply back. The fact that she went that long of a time without telling me at least after the 2nd date that "i like you and want to date u but right now im healing or something like im hurting or something. It was as i felt being used to get her mind off of him. I'm dating another beautiful girl at my college now. It took a whole month not to wake up feeling like my heart weighed 40lbs and feeling sad it was almost uncontrollable that i felt that way first thing in the morning but being an active young male I would compete playing sports and doing other things to occupy my mind like i always did after school and work. It hurt but I really started to love her and had the thought of possibly marrying her in another year or 2 after dating a good time. Moral of the story dont be afraid to walk away from lukewarm girls who are on the fence about 2 or several guys bouncing back and forth playing with all of their emotions.

I learned this the hard way one year ago after my 3 year relationship ended. I actually thought we were in a relationship but his last words to me were “I can’t remember ever asking you to be my girlfriend”. Yup, after traveling the world together, being introduced to family members as gf etc. I was obviously his option until he found something “better”. These days my heart stays guarded!!!

You just helped me make a decision.

Intuition is everything!

Wasted time is something we cannot get back. Do no allow anybody to waste your time know when to walk away and close the book. Protect your peace and sanity.

I was talking to a guy for months and he played mental gymnastics with me, we went through an emotional rollercoaster just for him to recently tell me he’s not ready for a relationship and he just wants a “sample” I told him we want different things and I’ll save my body for a king who wants all of me. I cut him off for good two days ago.

"Don't confuse their desire with them valuing you!" 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌You said a word right there!!! Passing the collection plate right neowwwwww!!! Just ended a relationship because although he said he wanted me and our relationship, he want putting in work to keep me or this relationship! He couldn't see my worth and I shouldn't have to keep proving my value to him! If he cannot and couldn't see it, let me remove my whole self out of his view! I have no more time to waste!

Looorrrd I just went through this 😭😭 He talked to me everyday for a month, complimented me, vibed with me, we hung out, and just when I was excited about our connection and thought he was ready to start dating me..he backs away and starts talking alot less, treats me like I'm not that important and eventually ends things with me. I was devestated and depressed for over a month...just starting to try to move on now. Guess he "wanted" me but didn't value building anything with me like that. Crushed all my hopes for having an actual relationship

This video is so on time! I just decided this week to stop wasting my time with a guy who obviously isn't that serious about me. His name in my phone is "He not ready sis" lol as a reminder 😂

ive been hanging out with a guy for 7 months and he doesnt want nothing but a friendship/ sex buddy when he isnt entertaining other woman....i had to step back because i actually really like him, and it sucks when u know they dont feel the same...

Don't confuse someone "investing" in you as love. Men will spend spend (money and time) for that 🐈 then drop you like nothing after getting it.

A lot of people want what’s quick and convenient. Let me get what I want from this person, that person... We repeat the cycle leading up to marriage. Soon as our spouse do something we don’t like, we ready to leave. The danger of a serial dater jumping into marriage.

Wow! I needed to hear this. Thanks Stephan Speaks!! 💯 I have met three guys in the last several months (all at various times) saying they wanted to get to know more about me because they were intrigued and liked who I am as a person. With each guy, the conversations were good, even the their lasts texts and conversations ended on a high note and expressed interest. Literally, a day or so later I begin to notice habits changed in regards to communication. I asked one guy was everything good, he was like yep. So I'm like how are you so head over hills one day and the next you're dry. So I begin to evaluate each conversation with each guy...I reviewed my texts and they all stated something positive on both ends and I replayed our last verbal conversations (in my mind) and the same thing we got off saying we will chat later, have a great night, let me call you back in a few minutes and etc. Nothing alarming to say I needed to be ghosted. So I got in my feelings but soon realized maybe God is covering me from the men I don't need.

You are helping so many of us! Don't stop! Praying for you! 🙏🏽

You are preaching. Do not confuse their desire with them valuing you. Man I had this alllllllll wrong. Now I know why I'm not married , because every guy wasnt my husband. They just wanted to play with me.

On time Word! I just made a major decision, wasn’t easy but I believe it’s worth it...#growth #ValueYourselfQueen

You are changing my life slowly but surely.

These men today are so superficial, I want something deep...I want something real...you feel me

This is a whole word! Especially during this corona season, loneliness is real

🙌🏾Thank you for setting a standard for many others out there who may not be able to identify that they are experiencing this situation right now. I say this because when you know better, you do better! 👸🏾

I'm sick and tired of it. My whole life I've never dated a man who really wanted a relationship just hookups. sigh.....

Some may want me but may not be for me. Deep 💞🙏

👏🏾👏🏾 I tell my clients this all the time 🙏🏾 many are called few are chosen

That's why I stay by myself and don't put my trust, love, faith, etc. in a Male or anyone else but GOD. 🙏

I love this! Confirms a current situation I’m facing. And to add, it doesn’t make the person a bad person _ you just gotta be willing to embrace the better you deserve! Took me a veeery long time to do so.

Honestly I don’t need anyone to invest in me. I just want my peace. God’s timing ❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥

'Don't entertain temporary people' …well said!!

There is a difference in seducing you and pursuing you.

Sooo true

You’ve been put in favorites again, I’ve chose not to date because I’m grinding hard for my future for the past 6 years still now. But I’ll definitely keep these videos. If women truly learn to lose themselves in God, the right man will come. Waiting is not in vain, Patience is a virtue.❤️! Remember my name you’ll see it in the future breaking barriers. Much love

When I was 15yo I already knew I wanted peace more than anything else. I got blinded and distracted by this bad boy and my life changed for worse. I repeated this pattern few more times. I understood this is what I saw at home: mother and stepfather, arguments, jealousy, manipulations... I don't live a lie anymore. I try to work on myself now as I'm sick and tired of BS in my life. I know I invited all this. But no more. I'm currently single and loving my peace. Thank you for this vid Stephan :)

I believe you. For those who believe, spiritual discernment will always, ALWAYS caution u when your choice leads you away from God's instructions about a person or situation. 💙💙💙

Thank You 🙏 but I’m NO LONGER INTERESTED IN LOVE!!! STAY BLESSED ALWAYS!!!

I heard that👌 it's time to stop wasting time on ppl 💯

I wish I could have heard it like that 20 yrs ago, I would been on a different path. Bit it's neva too late. Thanks Stephen

I walked away! Today! I can’t continue to be with a man that does not want a relationship with me! He gave me so much attention! Taking me out all the time called me every day but that’s it! So today I broke it off and took my power back! Thanks to your videos I realized he was wasn’t the one!

My ex is in my ear at the moment about coming back to relationship but accuses me of starting an argument every time I bring up the root causes of the issues! Bye Felicia!

It took me a longtime to know the true value of me. Now that I've realized my worth with the help of your videos. I'm truly in love with myself and have kicked ALL of them broken..confused..waste of time..WYD men out of my life..Bye Boys!!

Identify who really desire being with you as opposed to those who just likes the idea of being with you.

So many wasters of valuable time....

Works both ways. I began seeing a lady. I'm a great-looking guy, in shape, professional, intriguing, sexy, super intelligent and she has had more fun than she has ever had - This is what she said after I asked her “ where do you see this going ?” The flattered y was followed by “ I'm not looking for a serious relationship “. I said, “ ok, I will fall back .” I dropped her that second. After 5 minutes she called then texted then called. I'm good. We are both over 40. Ain't nobody got time for that.

"Do not confuse desire with value" Stephan .. WoW!!!!

What Stephan? Did you read my mind or something? This video is right on time and the truth!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Short and sweet and straight to the point. Excellent and insightful video.

I really needed to hear this ❤

many will want you but few will invest in you , wow... great way to put it

WOW!!! Thank you, this described my previous relationships and I really appreciate you sharing. Learned that people want you to settle for their standards and as long I I believed things were going somewhere as far as a potential marriage, I made myself believe I should stay. I also know I'm in my growing stage and becoming more healthy to be in a relationship. I realized the more unhealthy relationships, the more my healing process is going to be held up. No more settling, no more entertaining people that don't really value me or not healthy enough for a healthy relationship. #HealthyHealingGrowth

The two men I have Dated We're Faithful to me. I have met numerous men In my life and they were All Gentlemen. I have No regrets from my past Relationships.

Gee I just love the truth that you speak! Thank you! 💕

Yes, Yes, Yes...Stephan you spoke the truth...

Theres a woman I go on casual dates each time I visit her city. We met 7yrs ago but I lived across the country. She wants a relationship with me but doesnt want a LDR as Im away in the military for 2 more yrs, then Im moving to her city. We've each dated others in the meantime so I'm not exactly putting my life on hold, but she is the one I truly wish to be with.

Facts

Being single now, you are helping me to figure this one out! Thank you so much, I appreciate you

Absolutely! I'm not wasting anymore time on temporary people. Value over desire, indeed. Grace and peace!

It’s so hard .. especially when they’re actually a great person .. and a Loyal friend :: but they don’t want more ❤

Phew! I mean... Wow. Short, concise, and LOADED!!

Very well said my beloved brother ✌️ and God bless you

Let the church say Amen....what a word! Confirmation again that I cut off someone before I waisted my time.

Thank you love! You have given me hope with your wonderful words of inspiration.

Every time you post...it makes me cry! I appreciate so much your insight and how you often times bring it back to prayer. I have to believe that the past four years were not a waste with this man...but instead...a stepping stone to something better! Thank you for all you do.

I think this was my last relationship of 2yrs 🤦🏾‍♀️....Keep telling him about his time and it just never gotten better and I kept waiting for it to come together on its own.

Wow, you did that! You’re so smart man of God🙌🏽

You are teaching. I wish I knew this years ago. You have to be patient or those temporary people will use you up

I am probably 15years too late....Nowadays i feel like i should just up and leave after trying to hold us together and its like he still doesn’t get me!!!.....It is well 🥺🥺🥺🥺😢

Beautifully... said... I just backed off... No explanation..was needed... I appreciate those Words of Encouragement...

Your video seems to speak to everyone and not a specific group. Much respect, King

“Oh, the love that thought it; oh the grace that brought it.”

True about that am going through that now looking for the one who really want to play their part in a relationship

Omg give this guy a Nobel price he speaks all the truths without deceiving people.

Very true! My only problem is that the ones who normally want to be with me (and willing to go above and beyond to be in a relationship), I’m not attracted to 😫.

That's so true.

Plrase expand on this, its really important to figure out quickly what man is worth it

Yessss👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 preach it!

So true💯

Agree ✔️

Amen to those willing to put in the work 🙏🏾. Thanks for sharing!

Yes I agree it can sometimes be more to it than that .Not always how we are seeing it.

Short & Snappy yet more in this little video to save lives lol 👏🏽👌🏾 People sometimes ask me “why someone like you not got a man?” my response often, they compliment but leave it at that. Ngl I’m tired of sweet words that don’t go anywhere, I’m so over it 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️ Keep them to yourself Brandon if you ain’t willing to graft! Thankfully I’m only 21 so I got some time on my hands 💃🏽

Thank you so much for this message.

This spoke to me so loud,this is so true...I realize people are so artificial at times...needed this motivation.

That's good, that's important, see what they really want, yes my time and money was waisted... One year and half gone, he really wasn't ready, listen to what there saying and how they, I think he wanted marriage, but four months before the wedding, he broke up with me, saying it's not God's will.... Wow it's been since February he broke up me, I'm still healing its a process, he was telling he wasn't ready after he ask to marry him on December 25th, 2019. There was signs but I should have broke up a long time ago

Thank you I needed to hear that

So clearly put.. excellent advice for discriminating the Kings from the clowns

Wow this is powerful

He wants parts of me.. But not all of me.. 😔

I could have listened to you for hours on this topic.

I see you Boaz!!!! Thank you! Keep standing on the word of God and your Ruth is coming. One of my favorite love story in the Old Testament

Stephan: Exactly! By the way, I did get two of your books.

Amen!!! Real talk, so true! Thank you for all of your videos with encouragement for true peace and a healthy relationship.

Great content❤️❤️❤️

Who would dislike this video? I agree with what he’s saying 💯

I am happy I came across this channel..badly needed it

Excellent Advice! Totally agree!!!