When you lose weight and everyone says you look better 👁👄👁 💧

“wow, somebody’s hungry” when you actually finish a meal

"Youre already skinny, and youre making the rest of us feel bad."

my mom was looking through pictures of me when I had an eating disorder, and she said "Wow, you looked so much thinner here!" I told her I was anorexic and "didn't eat much" during that time and she said: "You were going through a phase, so I just let you go." you have no idea how much that hurt

When in recovery.. “Wow! you’ve gained so much weight now.”

"You eat a lot and you don't even gain weight, HOW LUCKY!" A friend told me this while i was on a binge after restricting for weeks

" You actually gain weight if you try to starve yourself" cannot tell you how many times I've heard that. So irritating lol

My boyfriend used to say, "Boy you were hungry" everytime I finished everything on my plate. It would make me feel so guilty for eating. I'm happy I talked to him about it.

I hate hearing “you don’t eat enough” like... I know I don’t eat enough, that’s the whole point I can’t eat anymore!!

"You don't look like you have an eating disorder" Is one of the most triggering things you can say to someone who is suffering. It can make them invalidate their illness and keep pushing until they're 'thin enough to have an eating disorder'. By that point, a lot of physical damage is done and recovery gets father away. Sorry for the rant, I just felt like that was important to note.

“If you think you’re fat, then what am I” Urm hun it’s not about you ... The whole way through my ED I thought larger women were absolutely completely stunning... that did not stop the irrationality of me needing to fade away and thinking I was huge when I wasn’t

i hate it when people say you’re not thin enough to have an eating disorder or i don’t look like i have an eating disorder. honestly it makes me want to go even harder just to prove myself and be validated

"should you be eating that?" "are you gonna run now?" "more???" "you havent eaten? Dont be stupid." "You can't just eat everything." "why arent you eating anything?" All things ive heard, thoughtless words out of mt mothers mouth that make me miserable.

Everything mental health related shoul not come in contact with the word "just". "It's JUST in your head" "JUST get up" "JUST do that thing" ec. NOTHING mental health related is JUST something.

"Oh mY gOD yOURe acTUally eatInG?" Well not anymore.

“Don’t you have an eating disorder?” Whenever I say I’m hungry or whenever I wanna eat for once

The most annoying statments: "You dont look as sick as some anorexics," *eats a small breakfast* --- "oh so are u healthy now" "NO karen im not and yes i do eat, because if i didnt i would be dead right now"

"If I were to make something up, it'd definitely be better than anorexia." That hit home. Like yeah, haha, I'd rather write another book. Not nearly starve myself to death.

“You can’t having an eating disorder, I’ve seen you eat” “Ugh I haven’t eaten all day, I feel anorexic” “Over eating and emotional eating aren’t an illness just push yourself away from the table” “Have you tried dieting?” “You could just stop eating for awhile”

someone told my sister she didnt look like she had an eating disorder (after like a month of refeeding in hospital) and she cried for a week. also a nurse sid she looked so much healthier and she cried herself to sleep that night

"why does grocery shopping take you so damn long?"

I was talking to someone I really trusted and I finally opened up about my eating disorder and he just said, “if you had an eating disorder you wouldn’t be so..... big.” I just hung up the phone. I was upset and that triggered me for a few weeks. I finally explained what an eating disorder was and how it worked and they didn’t even care. Please educate yourself people

*My cousin: * touches my waist * "WOW! You're so thin"* That somehow motivated me to continue starving so NEVER tell this to someone who struggles with an eating disorder.

I have a relative that I have actually never met, who has anorexia. Her family tried so hard to help her, but she just wouldn't eat. Now she's in a clinic 300 miles from home. Eating disorders are very real, and that people think that they're just "attention seeking" is really upsetting.

when I opened up about my disordered eating past someone said "oh that's not that low, that's not anorexia weight" Sorry that my unhealthiest period does not qualify as "enough" in your book??? Honestly 😒😒

I wanted the girl in the turtle neck to sing some more. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="293">4:53</a> 🤓

“eating disorders are not donald trump they do not discriminate” IM CRYINGGGGG

“I wish I had a body like yours” Me: what? Spit out blood cause bulimia tore up my throat? Or when I had anorexia and then gain weight by changing meds and having a mental breakdown? Na mate, keep your body you don’t want mine

When I was in middle school, one time my friends mom picked me up from school, she kept complimenting me on how skinny I was (I was 78lbs at the time) she asked how I got so skinny and I told her it was because I was on Adderall for my ADHD, and it had some side affects such as loss of appetite, insomnia, sometimes anxiety, ect. And she just replied with "wow it looks like it works well for weight tho, think I'm going to try it out"

As a doctor, I'll admit I vastly underestimated the severity and impact of eating disorders before I started treating them as a psychiatry doctor. I just wish there was less fragmentation between services and more funding so eating disorder teams don't have to say no to helping so many people.

My step dad said "you're eating already??" when i was reheating a slice of pizza, after I had just gotten home from work... I hadn't eaten anything in 24 hours and felt it was okay for me to eat something. Little did he know I only eat the cheese and toppings on a pizza, and ended up puking it up later because I couldn't take the thought of actually having "bad" food being in my body. I thought about that for two days straight.

when I was in recovery, my mum hugged me and said “there’s more of you to hug now” it really shattered my heart, I relapsed and I’m still failing to recover.

An eating disorder can be very destructive, both physically and emotionally, and people can get trapped into a destructive cycle without knowing how to cope with it. It is not just about food and weight, but also about a person’s sense of who they are.

I went to my grandma's funeral when I was at my worst. The aunt I see only once ever several years walks up to me and shakes her head in disapproval and says "No, that's not cute. You're way to skinny. You go to far. It's not attractive". At that same funeral, the brother I've only seen 3 times in my life walked up and kept asking me what my workout and diet secrets were because I looked "great". He wouldn't drop it. SMH. That was an interesting day for me and my ED to say the least.

I love how you included men too! So many people think that it's just women. We never talk about men having EDs. (Currently in recovery for anorexia rn bc my family would kill me if they knew.)

Why is everyone talking about being anorexic and bulimia like there's other eating disorders like binge eating compulsive overeating like that's a struggle emotional eating is a nightmare and it's an endless loop

Should have included the eating disorders that are on the other part of the spectrum as well. Not just not-eating, but eating too much.

“just eat intuitively” i don’t remember how

I see a lot of people in this comment section who have/had an eating disorder, and to you I say have an amazing day, and if you're still trying to recover, I hope you get well soon💜

"Please eat something it's not that hard" "What are you eating?" "Are you the one who ate the last one?"

Another classic for me is getting skinny-shamed becasue people think it'll make me want to recover... It just fuels the eating disorder and hurts my feelings lol

I love the dudes comment about his periods..

The best one I’ve had is “if you put the chips in a bowl instead of taking the whole bag you won’t binge” XD

“You’re not skinny enough to have anorexia” is SUPER triggering

"there are poor people who starve and you're wasting all your food and money" UUUGHHH

Even after recovery I sometimes still get anxiety about my weight or how much I'm eating. I've just learned to live with it and keep fighting against it. It will never go away completely.

"That's not good for you though!" Gee! I didn't know! It's not like I'm SICK or anything!

I am an ED therapist at a treatment center. I play this video all the time for my patient's and their parents. It really helps them understand things in a way that is easy to laugh at. Thank you for this video.

"you gonna finish that?"

"You don't eat enough." Omg I know that's What I'm trying to do "You look so healthy!" Literally causes me mental breakdowns and panic and anxiety attacks

never NEVER say “you’re so skinny!” “you’ve lost tons of weight” “you look much better” that motivates people to lose more weight

"Do you know how hard this is for me?" Oh I'm sorry Susan I didn't realize you were the one struggling.

"Eat more, it's easy!" "Just snap out of it" "I wished I had your ability to starve and lose weight"

I am now in recovery but I had binge eating disorder to the point I became morbidly obese. I had no off switch it was no food or eat it till its gone.it was a way of protecting myself and making myself undesirable. Eating disorders come in all types.....

Gaining weight after anorexia: "You look so healthy!" "You look great!" *forced smile* WHY!?!?

What’s with people thinking that being underweight ALWAYS means you’re anorexic?

“Whatever you are doing is working you look great” Uhm I’m not eating...

My family would always say: "Just get over it and eat normally like everybody else!"

" stop calling yourself fat " I wish I could, but I cant-

I had anorexia in my teens and still can't put on weight, because food just doesn't seem that enjoyable anymore - so when people tell me they want to have my body, it breaks my heart. Yes, you can see my bones, yes, I never feel fat but I also _can't rely on my body to work properly_ . When has that become desirable? Edit: Also you never get rid of an eating disorder, you just learn to cope with it. Some better than others

You should do one with people who self harm or have self harmed cause people assume so many things about it

Please do dyspraxic people! Dyspraxia is such a common disability and most people dismiss it as clumsiness until they're diagnosed

The fact that I was a stereotypical anorexic (white teenage girl) really invalidated me. I felt like my problems weren't real because "every girl feels this way". I hid because I didn't want people to roll their eyes and say "oh typical teenager". In short, stereotypes harm everyone.

From my own experience - I had eating disorder since I was 10 and when I was 21 I became severely bulimic and after puking for 4 months everyday I finally went to the doctor and when I told her that I had been puking fpr 4 months, she SNORTED because she thought I wasn't sick enough. Luckily other doctor took me seriously and I recovered. It doesn't matter how long you've been sick or doing something, if you feel you need help, YOU NEED HELP. period.

"lol welcome to mental illness" shouldn't of laughed at that.

Social anxiety next plssssss

"Play with your puppy and just eat some more" "Go eat a burger" "Enjoy how you look right now, it won't last forever" "Just add more butter and drink lots of soda and you'll be all better" "You're a bit too skinny, skip the salad and eat some pizza" (I've never eating a salad in my life btw) These are some of the things doctors have told me on how to treat my painful stomach condition that mimicked an ED. It caused severe 24/7 nausea and bad stomach cramping that made keeping food down hard so I would end up throwing up every time I ate out of pain but I looked like I had an ED so they wouldn't listen to my symptoms or why I didn't have an eating disorder. I can't imagine what people must go through it they actually have an ED and try to get help from doctors like this. There's so much dismissal and horrible statements and I hope that doctors become more educated on it over time

"Eat it, Is healthy you are not going to gain Weight" "Did you already eat?" This are mine😪

Can we have a moment of silence, please, for that man who never started to menstruate? You're in my prayers, bud.

I appreciate these people coming forward, but what about people with binge-eating disorder who have become overweight/obese? It's tiring to see how underrepresented binge-eaters are in these kinds of conversations. Especially considering they make up a huge portion of people with eating disorders worldwide.

My response whenever someone says “Just eat” Is to just say “Just climb a mountain”

As a "chubbier" anorexic, this is my everyday thing. I've never been underweight, but I had a lack of potassium, iron, calcium... I also lost my period and a ton of hair. It was so painful when I talked about my awful relationship with food and how many kilos I lost in less than a month and people were impressed and asked me for tips, when I didn't eat anything in almost a week. Hopefully my mother noticed and I'm on recovery now. I'm battling a lot, and sometimes I restrict even if I think I'm doing great but deep down my heart I know I'm not.

"If you want attention, go streaking. You'll have a lovely time." 😂😂😂😂😂

I can relate to this soooo muuuuchh!! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ why people are so uneducated about eating disorders!! It’s not like they exist from yesterday!

People also need to understand eating disorders aren't just making yourself thin There's also binge eating disorders and stuff like that

Here to tell all the people watching this who have (an) eating disorder(s), I love you and you are strong and you are beautiful❤️

"have a banana" jokES ON YOU THEY TERRIFY ME

"of course it's happening inside your head, harry, but why on *earth* should it mean that it's not real?"

My favourite is when they try to guilty trip you with “There are kids starving in Africa and you’re throwing away you’re food” Not everyone can afford a home either but you seem perfectly fine with your mansion Karen

no one: my friend: "omg i havent eaten all day im starving" me, who ate this morning but now feels guilty about it: "well then."

i love what the man in the black shirt said about when people ask what his lowest weight was and he replied “i don’t say because i don’t wanna be like, oh, i was a gold star anorexic.” 💗

don’t say: you look healthy or gained weight people with eds or recovering can take it differently because of how our brains work

Me: “Hey can I tell you something?” My toxic asf “friend”: “yea sure” Me: “I’m anorexic” My toxic asf friend: “Yea looks like you need it”

When family’s crying and saying ”we don’t want you to die”, is such a difficult thing to answer...

I don't even have an eating disorder, but some people believe I have anorexia because I'm skinny (I've always been) and I'm a picky eater. They basically come to me like "hey, are you anorexic?" Wtf??? You just don't go asking people those things!

I have a large ribcage so even after I didn't eat for a year I was still "big". My partners where really the only ones that saw it, when I was laying down you could count every rib. My BMI (which is actually honestly bullshit) was never at a "healthy number" even when my stomach caved in from my ribs, I was still 5"3' and 152 at my absolute lowest. To this day when I tell people then I had a eating disorder they say "well you look pretty big in those pictures, so you definitely didn't have an eating disorder". Like, no I had a eating disorder, sorry I don't fit your ideal. Doesn't mean I didn't stugfle

I hate it when someone says, "So you're eating again" it's , making you feel like throwing the food u just bought away-

I've never struggled with an eating disorder. But I do have digestive disorders, (IBS, food intolerances, etc) so eating can be frustrating and complicated. Once after I had been sick for a whole week and hadn't really eaten anything, a friend asked how I lost so much weight and raved about how good I looked and how jealous she was. I facepalmed, and then explained I'd been too sick to eat. I can only imagine how much more frustrating it is for someone who has an eating disorder when people make those ignorant comments.

being in recovery and hearing “i can tell you’ve gained weight! you look so healthy”

How about: 'Things not to say to someone with bpd'?

"I wish i looked like you!" Me, someone who suffers from bulimia: n... no you don't...

I felt so much relief when one of the guys said it took him 3 years to recover because it made me feel less alone. I'm about a year into recovery and I feel like I have long ways to go even though I've gained a lot of weight because too much guilt and other physical problems from my eating disorder are still here. I am getting better though. Much love to everyone here and in the video💕💕 One day I will no longer be guilty and will be better again❤❤❤ step by step we get better😊😊

"Just have a banana" Bananas are one of my fear foods. Lol

I don’t have an ED I have something wrong with my gut but I lost 10 pounds in a month and people where saying congrats and I was just like on what planet is this good

“I’d love to be as skinny as you” is always the kicker when talking to someone

My anorexia has made it so that every time I go to the doctor and she begs me to put on some more weight, it makes me feel so incredibly happy. Every time someone tells me “you’re so small and skinny” I feel proud. Every time my mom says “you’re so thin a gentle breeze could sweep you away” it makes me feel better about myself. Looking down at my legs and seeing a huge gap between my thighs, my collarbones so defined, the bones in my wrist, the bones in my spine all visible, my ribs showing... it’s such an amazing feeling. When my hands are always freezing cold no matter the temperature or what I’m wearing reminds me that I’m making good progress. I know it’s ruining me physically but starving myself for days at a time gives me such a high. I tried to recover once but couldn’t bring myself to do it. Trying to recover from anorexia feels like having to kill your best friend. If you feel at all like you’re starting to go down my path, stop it at all costs no matter what. Don’t let it overtake your life like it did mine.

“They’re not Donald trump they don’t discriminate” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

People who admire anyone's control with food either have an ED themselves or are on their way to developing one. Seems a strange thing to think, let alone say, from the perspective of a person with no eating disorders.

So I have a peanut allergy, and my friend offers me a snickers and I turn it down and I go to explain and she just goes “oh for god sake a snickers won’t make u fat stop pretending you have an eating disorder its pissing me off” and I just go “yeah I have a peanut allergy but alright” she just goes bright red and puts the snickers away 😂

"Are you gonna eat just that??" "Why don't you eat more??" "Just eat more!" "Just stop eating when you're full." "Why do you eat so much?" "How does all this food fit in your little stomach?!?" "I didn't imagine you could eat all this food" "Why you never come to eat with us? It's just lunch/dinner!" "You just gained a little weight don't worry! You're just growing up" "You're so grown-up!" "Look at your boobs!"