That not everyone with a disability comes in a wheelchair, we can look like everyone else. Disabilities are mental as well as physical. People just tend to forget that

I've seen my oldest sister who has spinal bifida cry because people look at her differently. It drives me crazy sometimes :/

Not everyone with a disability feels good about themselves, I have muscular dystrophy and a lot of the time I don't feel good about myself because of it - I think it's natural, and it's okay to not be okay sometimes.

*"let me earn that word"* yes sis loud out for the world to hear

"If one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me....im gonna burn your house down" I love her so much already xD

I don’t think anyone is qualified to say most people love their disabilities. I have several family members with lifelong disabilities that would tell you otherwise.

As someone with invisible illnesses/disabilities I’m so happy you started doing these videos. Thank you BuzzFeed!

I have a severe disability as well (in a wheelchair), as well as OCD. I have absolutely come to accept my disorders and carry ZERO shame with them, but I don't LOOOOVE my disability like she said. And, I wouldn't say that "most of us feel that way". A lot of us have accepted ourselves and love ourselves, but that doesn't mean we love our disabilities. It would be just about impossible for me for to LOVE the thing causing me so much pain and suffering. ...but I'm also not ashamed of it. I found her firmness on that remark really misleading and uber personal to just her.

My daughter is 6. She is nonverbal and in a wheelchair. She can crawl but cannot walk without her walker or our assistance. She has heart issues and has had open heart surgeries and her chromosome deletion causes all of her struggles. I wish people knew all this! This video is really amazing. One thing that hurts the most is parents shushing their kids, parents talking nasty, kids talking nasty and parents allowing it. My daughters disabilities do not define her. Thanks for this amazing video!

About 7 years ago, i was like 8 years old, i was in a wheelchair for a year because of my arthritis. Everytime I went for a drink with my mom the waiters would ask my mom what I would like to drink, literally looking at me and ignoring me, thinking i was mentally disabled and couldnt say a word. I think thats a thing that belongs in this list. Being disabled doesnt mean being isolated from the world or anybody and people should be thinking about that more often instead of ignoring it...

Not all disabilities are visible. (🦓)

You can’t blame parents for telling their kids to not stare. Maybe not everyone is ok with getting attention for their disabilities. It’s not their fault for thinking that their kids may say something that could hurt that person’s feelings.

I was born with a learning disability and I am an entry level architect im 27-year-old this June.

Once my friend asked me to describe this guy friend I had so I described his personality and features. When she met him she took me away and said "Omg, you could have told me he was in a wheel chair" and my only reply was, you asked me to describe *him* , not the chair. Edit: this comment got so much backlash! If y'all must know, we literally went out to eat in the mall and that my friend didn't even have to come, she told us last minute and we where already sat down when.she came so ifshe wanted to be awkward about a chair with wheels that wouldn't effect her day, thats her choice.

I don’t have anything super serious like these women, but I have a radial club hand, scoliosis, and I’m deaf in my right ear. This video is nice!

If you have a physical disability, some people treat you like a flower that dies if air touches

THANK YOU FOR THIS. Tremendous insight, and very helpful!!! Pamela is awesome!!! as well as the others, but Pamela's freaking hilarious.

I am a decent man that has MS. I FREAKIN HATE IT! I am one of the fighters out here too. I am different now than I used to be. I'm pragmatic. I also can still use my hands pretty well to play guitar pretty decently but I am realistic in all the limitations that being disabled can bring. For example, I like to travel. Cobblestone roads are not Mobility scooter friendly. Frustration and anger ensues. I think I'm just human. To say I'm happy with the entire situation would be a bald faced lie. I also like to date and need companionship and love. I think dating is primal whether we admit it or not. A female lioness is not going to go for what appears to be the weakest lion in the pride. So an arduous process has ensued, but I guess that's love for all of us, disabled or not.. Looks can be very deceiving I'm strong. I prevail every day in so many tasks that most people TOTALLY take for granted. I did. Don't assume ANYTHING with a disabled person. Simply ASK. We're all human. Be Human

Yes!! Thank you for putting out this video. Now can you do one on people with invisible disabilities? That would be great because I love getting the question of “But you don’t LOOK disabled!”

I met Pam when she spoke at program about discussing disability and no joke she is the funniest person I have ever talked to. I literally got so excited when I saw her in this video!

This makes it look like having a disability is such a fun time. For me, it's not. I hate being disabled.

I don’t like it when people look at people with disabilities and act disgusted.

I have "invisible " disabilities. I look fine until you see me walking and it's worse after five minutes. I have Psoriatic Arthritist and Ankolysing Spondylitis. Both are advanced. It's painful and has drastically altered my life physically, but I am still me. Yes I freaking hate it, but I have learned to embrace it. So if you see a seemingly healthy looking person park in the handicap spot with a placard, or use a motorized scooter in a store, stop and think that they may just have a "invisible " disability. It hurts to hear oh look at that lazy woman. When I don't use one, I am in tears and cannot even stand straight as I walk and I get jokes like it's Igor. Please think before judging and if you are curious, just ask me.

This video is so close to home my 5 year old brother has cerebral palsy and everyday I worry that he will pass earlier than the normal age. Too see how well these people are with their disabled lives reassures me that my brother will grow up strong and healthy just like them.

You should do a video with service dog handlers. I think there needs to be more info on them open to the public. As a service dog handler myself there a different pet peeves that I have. Most are pretty common among other service dog handlers

I wish people knew that disabilities aren't always a thing you can see. You don't need to PROVE that you are disabled if it's not a visible disability

I think this video is really good because lots of people can’t understand how to properly react to people with disabilities.

“I’m gunna burn your house down” hahaha I love her

OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! mainstream/abled bodied people are NOT educated enough on how to interact with persons living with disabilities! My mother was an RN for et years and i grew up going to the nursing homes and eventually the homes of the choldren she cared for and became family to so many of her patients (not encouraged behavior by the bosses) but she believe she treats the WHOLE FAMILY as well as the patient. I have also dedicated my life to working in many fields: blind, wheelchair bound, CP, amputees, deaf, victims of child abuse, polio, scholiosis and spina bifida and other vertebral issues, mentally challenged. I also love being a Hugger at Special Olympics. I LOVE SN adults and children alike and I am THRILLED to have things like facebook where the "layman" can learn how to better the lives of themselves, their families and all those around them! WAY TO GO BUZZ FEED!!

This is a good video buzzfeed. Keep up the good work!

I LOVED when she said she’s 4”7…… I gave spina bifida and I’m 4”7 too!

Things People With Disabilities Wish You Knew = Not all disablilities are visible.

#1: Having a disability sucks

This video is so mature and needs to circulate everywhere. Thank you for this wonderful insight and being so strong 💘

about dating i have rejected many times because im disable

it really annoys me when people talk about disabilities as a good thing, sure you may be fine and happy with your disability but as a disabled person i would not wish it upon anyone because as the name says it disables you from doing many things and generally makes life much harder

i mean my disability definitely makes me feel different. i’m 16 and have CRMO (chronic reoccurring multi focal osteomyelitis) and i wish i could feel as accepting as the women in the video. It’s hard to love my disability when it prevents me from going to school and being a normal teenager

I have mild Cerebral Palsy, and I am not in a wheelchair, but I am in a gym class where students in mainstream classes get to help the kids in Special Ed classes. It makes me upset when kids in my classes make fun of the noises that the SE kids make when they try to speak; I've become accustomed to those and I know the exact sound they make when trying to express happiness. But then on the other side of the spectrum there was a girl in my school who knew me and didn't even know I was disabled until my best friend told her. You never know how people will react.

I have a disability no one can see it's nice in the fact I can pass if I want to not pass No one believes that hurts more to me. I have incontractable migraines and Trigeminal neuralgia I hardly go out. I've been sick for 18 years I really can't take this anymore. I don't have any friends. The pain is worth it to hang out with my husband, Mom and niece. Thank you letting letting rambal on

For me I don’t care how people look from outside, the matter is what inside of them and their personality

"IF one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me, I'm going to burn their house down."

To the woman with Tourettes-Syndrom: You are right. Genetics doesn't make you an inspiration. But the way you see yourself and talk about your disability does make you an inspiration. I loved, loved, loved the part when you said you decided to not just love parts of your brain. This is such an important message for basically anybody!You can't have light without darkness and in the end it is the combination of both that makes life even possible. If only we could all manage to see ourselves that way...

I have fibromyalgia, which is a chronic widespread pain disorder. It causes me to be depressed, fatigues, have brain fog, confusion, migraines, IBS, along with many other issues. It’s hard for me to walk stand or sit for long periods of time, hard for me to focus at times. I am constantly in pain, sometimes it feels like I slept on my back wrong, and sometimes it feels like I got hit my a cement truck. Not all disabilities are visible. You cannot see how much pain I’m in, and might judge me when I ask for a disability scooter at the store, and I’m sorry when I seem cold or rude, I’m just in pain and sometimes I forget to be patient with others. I’m glad you ladies are talking about your disabilities, it’s honestly so great to see people be more open and inviting if questions.

I love how they speak up for themselves, and lady, you earned that word from how you spoke to all the people in this world about how we all think and treat you.

I have a cousin that has a disability everyone deserves to be treated equal

Don’t ever touch my wheelchair!!!! 😖

“If one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me....I'm gonna burn their house down!” Lol that's hysterical! I think she’d be awesome to hang out with. I agree. I'm not an inspiration just because I'm disabled.

"If one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me, I'm going to burn your house down." LOL

What a great video, thank you for stating what most people just don't understand, some common sense just eludes some people. We all need help as some point disabled or not, just simple common courtesy is needed at all times.

I absolutely love Pamela❤️( the woman wearing black top) OMG she’s hilarious😂

I've been waiting on one of these vids, I would love if you could do some more vids like this one, I'm 15 and living with Duchenne's Muscular Dystrophy, and needed this little pick me up, and this vid helped, thank you BuzzFeedVideo

I have ADHD and people in my high school always say "Why don't you justt focus" 😤

invisible disabilities exist, and they're just as much of a struggle as visible ones.

I guess the good thing about having 2 prosthetic feet is that u will never grow out of ur cute shoes!! Love this vid so much💕

Sometimes people with disabilities are faced with a lot of hate, rejection and discrimination in all areas of society, and face poverty, hunger and loneliness. Often people are ashamed to be with them. It is good people are speaking up and showing our common humanity. from a PWD.

So happy I came across this video (if not just for disabilities awareness sake). I myself am one of those with various medical conditions (which cause varying levels of disability). I was born with the rare genetic birth defect conditions called Schizencephaly & Porencephaly. The Schizencephaly & Porencephaly resulted in my developing both Hydrocephalus & Epilepsy...in addition to this, my Mom said that I was unable to walk until the age of 2 (due to some form of Cerebral Palsy, although we aren't sure which type). I was also (during childhood) subsequently diagnosed with Scoliosis (which still affects me and causes lower back pain spasms)... Additionally, I also have problems with my knees, legs (mostly my ankles), and hips. I was also subsequently diagnosed with the chronic pain condition called Fibromyalgia (in December 2017). All of this (in addition to other issues) has also resulted in my being diagnosed with moderate depression...although (as it seems) that in spite of there being times when I'm in enough pain that I am unable to sit, stand, or much less even walk short distances without being in a high amount of pain, my doctors (& even the Social Security Administration) don't believe that I'm "disabled enough" to qualify for benefits. I've dealt with the bullying and torment all my life (as has my fiancé, who he himself is also disabled). My fiancé was (like me) born with Hydrocephalus (& subsequently diagnosed with Epilepsy at age 3), plus he too also has CP (left hemiplasia) where only his left arm is affected (not amputated, but he has little to no feeling/use of his left arm), plus he's also legally blind. He & I both had gone through hell (when we were in between relationships) where I heard things like, "I want to be with you, but I can't handle it if you're going to be sick all the time. Goodbye." & my fiancé had heard things like, "You're better off looking for someone else like you (meaning: disabled)". or "You'd just be another responsibility for me to take care of, so I'm sorry, it WON'T work out." It's to those types of people that I say, "Well, it's their loss...not ours", cause in spite of our disabilities & limitations, my fiancé & I are a "team" and are each others support system...where one of us is "weaker" the other might find as a "strength" & vice versa. We've been together for 3 years now (but been friends for what will be 8 years come January 2022) & will finally be getting married next summer (planning for an August 2022 wedding, since our original plan to marry this year got scrapped due to COVID-19 & we're long distance). I currently reside in Hawaii while my fiancé is in Pennsylvania (but I'm moving to Pennsylvania after we're married). 😁💕

I really liked this video because I have Cerebral Palsy as well and I really appreciate that buzzfeed found people with different types of disabilities and different opinions and different points some people (including myself) may not agree with everything that was said but I'm glad this video was made there is room for improvement for people who have disabilities and for people who don't have disabilities as far as learning about each other and understanding each other (because we are all different in many different ways as humans are, everyone is an individual) overall this video in my opinion made me personally feel good and I think it's a step in a good direction some people may have other opinions and that's great hey to each their own I love reading the comments on this video and I hope that there are more mature and respectful conversations like I see here in the comments in the future Thanks for taking the time to read my comment I hope you have a wonderful day ❤

Thank you!! I have spina bifida so I think this video is awesome and brings awareness!

wow never had the right words for it. even though i no longer have my disability (not genetics) i had it temporarily.... for about 8 months. It was not fun at all. It was so hard. I saw the attention people were giving me... i didn't want them feeling sorry for me. but i'm glad i got better. being in your shoes for some time has taught me things. I won't say I def know what you guys are going through, but I know what it's like not being able to do certain things just cause but we still try anyway cause we are trying to be independent. We aren't trying to use our disability as an excuse. You guys are awesome. Glad you made this video.

I have rheumatoid arthritis and severe scoliosis, and nobody even notices unless I’m wearing my knee brace or if I’m limping and it’s frustrating because I don’t look like I have anything wrong.

I can relate to this. I have mild learning difficulties and when people see me act negatively they see it as a disability rather than my personality which is so annoying because I am a human being and have personal traits. I may be behind with my social skills by making conversation and controlling my emotions. I do overanalyse things and can be sensitive. The reason why they say it is because I sometimes don’t understand. I do usually understand. Not every thing I do wrong has to relate to my needs. Just because I behave positively, social service won’t label that as a disability. If they see a normal person do something naughty, it’s not a problem but people with disabilities it’s a problem. Every human has their negative and positive traits about them. Nobody’s perfect! Why do you think that a person with disability is expected to have all positive traits about them and not negative? By way, this is from my personal experience.

I have Fibromyalgia and Asperger's and dealing with all of them made me a stronger person I am not broken because I need a walking stick I am not unhealthy or fat i am 8st and 5 ' 3 i am a sassy witty person, I love making friends and gaining new skills or experiencing new things.

I had the absolute pleasure to hear Pamela speak a few years back, super funny and hilarious, love her!

I have invisible disabilites such as generalized anxiety disorder and severe depression and possibly have ptsd from the extreme bullying from the students and teachers and the principals from many schools. And with that I have a hard time trusting people and is sensitive to things that I shouldn't be. But it doesn't make me weak. Everyday is a new challenge for me.

Well done to everyone in this video, I LOVE how amazing you all are!

Ooh! I have an even better one! Stop asking me if I wear diapers or have a poop bag. I don't, but..That's none of your business! 🙄

I think this video is a good start when it comes to representation and giving us disabled people/people with disabilities a spotlight, but, just like "not every disabled person is the same", I think it is incredibly important to talk about how not every person with a disability/disabled person likes person first language. Some of us prefer saying we are disabled. And no one has a right to tell you how to identify. If you want to say disabled, person with a disability, or even differently abled, that's okay. However you want to define yourself. Just as long as you don't try to tell anyone else how to identify.

I loved this video. I'm diagnosed with CP and also in a wheelchair and most of what the ladies were saying happens to me on a daily basis. I especially enjoy when kids are curious enough to ask why I'm in a wheelchair. But I do dislike when the parent scolds the child for asking a question. Children are intuitively curious. Just again I LOVE this video.

2:45 love her so inspirational

Amazing women. Amazing messages. Sending love from the PT world ✌🏼

I hate when you treat someone with a disability like you would anyone else and someone trys to call you disrespectful for treating them like you would anyone else

Never treat people with disable different cause put yourself in there place n feel what they feel. Love you guys

This really helps understanding their perspectives, keep it up buzzfeed!! Sending love from India ❤️🇮🇳✌️

Love these videos!

This actually spoke to me...❤️ I am glad I know these things!

Awesome, ladies! Thank you for the video

Very interesting and informative as well!

I think every single person in this video is very beautiful, Mentally and physically

Great to see this type videos and that it should be educated on these important topics such as these and health along with other areas. Thanks for sharing...

Love love love all these vids lately on disabilities, chronic illnesses, etc. 💗

2:43 "burn their house" I just love this quote

Pamela has so many great points aaa I think I love her

I’m really glad you did this video, it just clears the air for a lot of people.

Very needed! Thank you!

this needs to go viral

Love the lady with terrets 😂❤️ she’s like the narrator of the video

Good job Buzzfeed! As someone with spina bifida, these videos are extremely important for creating dialogue. Also Pamela is fricking awesome :)

I feel that the best way to put it truly is that no one is greater or less than another, we are all truly one. Yes, no one wants to be disabled or unable to do things in any way. Some people have better, more able bodies than others, but again, no one is truly greater than the other. If you say that you want to be disabled, that is unhealthy, if you say you don’t love yourself, that is also unhealthy. Love yourself, ALWAYS. And tell the truth. It isn’t ok to have a disability and that is exactly why you are perfect for your true self is limitless and free. It is not ok to settle for anything other than getting better and hanging on to a disability and inability to do things is not ok. If someone is unable to walk and in a wheel chair, their goal should be to get up and walk. If someone is able to walk but not able to run, there goal should be to run. If i am only able to run 3 miles rn, my goal should be to run 4. To accept any disability as it is and to not continue to get better is an absolute crime against who we truly are.

For someone who has a disability and who has a family member with a disability thank you so much! Very inspirational video!

This video should’ve spread around 🙌🏻

I'm so glad at a young age my sat me down and explain to me we don't feel sorry for people who are different. Everyone is special in their own way and instead of sitting and staring you ask them and you find out their story. And one of my nieces were young and made the same mistakes in a sense that I had made as young child I told him the same thing. We are all different and unique in our own ways

Thank you for this video!!! It has opened my eyes!!!!

Luv this

love you bro keep it up

I love this video so much. Honestly, everybody looks at people with disabilities as someone who is "less" and we should all feel bad for them. But we shouldn't do that anymore and considered them as someone normal. Of course, I wouldn't say that everyone is happy about having their disability. But I still love how positive these people are and hope they have a happy life!

I just look at people with disability and i feel like i really wanna help them and i wish that they can be healthy

One of my friends has a disability and so does my dad so it’s nice to learn what they think bc I never thought to ask 😹😁👍🏻♥️

Everyone is amazing

YAS BUZZFEED Make more KZfaq videos about disability! 🙌🏼

I hate having a disability, it drives me crazy when people feel bad for me or look at me weird. Maybe because I am in high school it makes more of a difference to me, but I hate it and sometimes the braces on my legs and me feel depressed.