Think Faster, Talk Smarter with Matt Abrahams

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Stanford Alumni

5 ай бұрын

Many of us dread having to convey our ideas to others, often feeling ill-equipped, anxious, and awkward. Experts help by focusing on planned communication experiences; yet, most of our professional and personal communication occurs in spontaneous situations that leave us flustered and stumbling for words. Together, we’ll explore science-based strategies for managing anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, and making content concise, relevant, compelling, and memorable. By the end of this class, you’ll know how to navigate the situation like a pro and bring out your very best.
Matt Abrahams, ’91, lecturer in organizational behavior, Graduate School of Business

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@swaganomiks
@swaganomiks Ай бұрын
For everyone that is watching this video. Your time for greatness is coming!
@yarugirl
@yarugirl 6 күн бұрын
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
@dianacao4431
@dianacao4431 4 күн бұрын
I appreciate this, thank you. Right back atcha!
@zc1122
@zc1122 Ай бұрын
Key titles #1. Tame the Anxiety Beast. #2. Maximise Mediocrity. (So you can achieve greatness) - Reduce cognitive load. #3. Mind Your Mindset. - i) Not yet ii) Yes, and. iii) Next play iv) Missed take #4. Don't just do something... stand there - Listen; Pace. Space. Grace #5. STRUCTURE Your Spontaneity - What? So What? Now What? #6. The F-word: FOCUS - Have a Goal: Know, Feel, Do. (What do I want the audience to Know, How do I want them to Feel, What do I want them to Do) - Sentence starters, pitch (structure): What if you could... So that... For example... That's not all...
@davidr4523
@davidr4523 2 ай бұрын
Excellent video. The best tips for better speech I have ever heard include 1. Be knowledgeable on many topics and be a subject matter expert in your area. 2. Prepare your speech. Think about what you are going to say. There is no shame in writing your speech out. 3. Read out loud every day. Just as a singer will not improve with mouthing the words silently an orator needs to practice saying words. 4. Speak slow. 5. Smile and look very comfortable. 6. Concentrate fully on your speech to get in the zone. Don't get distracted and don't lose focus. 7. Role model a great speaking. Watch videos from Obama, Jay Leno, Josh Hawley and other great speakers. Watch their head, hands and other body movement. 8. Practice giving speeches preferrable out loud or at very least in your mind. 9. If you are given a tough question, answer it in frameworks rather than being potentially wrong with the answer. 10. Ask clarifying questions before you give your answer.
@cocoarecords
@cocoarecords 2 ай бұрын
Thx sir
@Phileas_40
@Phileas_40 2 ай бұрын
It's funny because your advices may work but are very rigid and prepared in advance. But the video was about improvisation, being in the present, truly listening to your audience 😅
@davidr4523
@davidr4523 2 ай бұрын
@@Phileas_40 except for my #2 all of the guidance I gave prepares you advance for when you have improvise . Other guidance gave like smiling and focusing helps you during your speech.
@muel6294
@muel6294 25 күн бұрын
😅😊
@lesleymhlanga4324
@lesleymhlanga4324 18 күн бұрын
exceptional advice....I appreciate 🎉
@singlepointdc7749
@singlepointdc7749 2 ай бұрын
I always try to remind myself that I’m just trying to help the people I’m presenting to. If you’re just there to help, and focus on that, you can take yourself out of the equation.
@SCharlesS
@SCharlesS Ай бұрын
Yes that is his step 3.
@adventurist86
@adventurist86 Ай бұрын
Absolutely, agreed!
@user-kf8jb6fr4n
@user-kf8jb6fr4n Ай бұрын
This is God sent. I blush and perspire and it has really destroyed my life. I am 38 years old now and still faces this issue. Somehow as a younger person I thought, that it would go away as I grow older, but it never did. I just came home after having dinner at a friends place and while socializing my anxiety kicked in and I blushed and started perspiring again. Went home dejected, fired up my P.C and decided, my time's better spent learning Japanese then wallowing in self pity, but for some reason the app won't open. So opened KZfaq and this was in my recommendation. I will use this knowledge and better myself from this day onward. Thank You
@mrjohncrumpton
@mrjohncrumpton Ай бұрын
Came here to say I blush over my face and neck too. And the sweat from my armpits drenches my shirt lol.
@Nic03187
@Nic03187 17 күн бұрын
The symptoms you describe are actually an indication of your intelligence. Only frauds and really stupid people are convinced they´re smart.
@user-lk9pp9il9u
@user-lk9pp9il9u 2 ай бұрын
Step 1. Manage Anxiety, Step 2. Get out of our own way, Step 3. See it as an Opportunity Step 4. Listen Well Step 5. Messaging
@claudiajimenez380
@claudiajimenez380 4 ай бұрын
I found you in KZfaq by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge 🙏
@salimjamal7985
@salimjamal7985 2 ай бұрын
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@user-ps6wr9fi8s
@user-ps6wr9fi8s 2 ай бұрын
Yah! You are the One of greatest speakers I have ever heard.
@PriyankaRay-ng8bu
@PriyankaRay-ng8bu 2 ай бұрын
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@bhineshwartidke4249
@bhineshwartidke4249 2 ай бұрын
​@@user-ps6wr9fi8smind if I ask to share the link please 🙏
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087 2 ай бұрын
Cool Thanks...
@Deanforbes
@Deanforbes 2 ай бұрын
It always surprises me how many people have a hard time with small talk. This info is necessary!
@noorazimi1299
@noorazimi1299 2 ай бұрын
To this day, i didn't know what small talk means. I am glad i have searched it on here and came across this treasure of communication skills.
@pratimamishra2391
@pratimamishra2391 Ай бұрын
I really love the way he narrated I'm like when I have to talk I go freeze so it's really good for me to exercise this to reduce my condition
@OoggzUgi
@OoggzUgi 2 ай бұрын
I believe I’ve seen him do this lecture before and still amazing.
@johndymen4580
@johndymen4580 Ай бұрын
One of the rare time I open my note book to study a talk. Thanks for the content. It’s so valuable
@user-xz5vf7ct3j
@user-xz5vf7ct3j Ай бұрын
I’m brand new to sales and struggle with social anxiety. I really appreciate your videos. They are very helpful!
@user-fv7qz5so1b
@user-fv7qz5so1b 4 ай бұрын
Amazing presentation again from Matt!! I've been trying to follow him since the presentation 9 years ago and it really helps me
@angie_weinberger
@angie_weinberger 9 күн бұрын
“I’m still a Work in Progress” love your openness here. 😂
@ninadgandhi3733
@ninadgandhi3733 Ай бұрын
These are really good advices. "Structure is a tool", I love this.
@LoveeDooUniverse
@LoveeDooUniverse Ай бұрын
I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.
@JayhawkGuitar
@JayhawkGuitar Ай бұрын
Outstanding lecture! I wish Matt had been my professor in college. Very engaging to the very end and extremely useful. There are clear applications across my life communicating with my family, in my roles in business development and in podcasting. Thanks, Matt!
@rabiulhussain1083
@rabiulhussain1083 2 ай бұрын
Thank you Matt. I hope to one day come back and repeat, reflect and seek feedback, from others and myself. Anyone else what like to share there feedback?
@AlimFlood-jh5gc
@AlimFlood-jh5gc 29 күн бұрын
🎉 Thank you KZfaq and Stanford Alumni for this free lecture and class... I've learned what was much-needed for my success in the future ❤. #thinktillyousweat
@philrincon
@philrincon 2 ай бұрын
Purchased the audio book. Thank you.
@yuanson1989
@yuanson1989 3 ай бұрын
I really appreciate for sharing this great lecture.
@MrDiegoDaza80
@MrDiegoDaza80 2 ай бұрын
Matt thanks a lot for this conference and video resource. It's super useful, loved the pitching framework... I'll practice practice practice!
@traviswebster4622
@traviswebster4622 2 ай бұрын
This was also a wonderful video to learn from. I get real tense when attempting to "say the right things"; so thank you for uploading this content for others to evolve from
@OptimisticMedia23
@OptimisticMedia23 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing!
@aN0nyMas
@aN0nyMas 3 ай бұрын
thank you Steve Martin!
@amirahaidary4187
@amirahaidary4187 2 ай бұрын
😂 lol he does look like him
@jycegaming8530
@jycegaming8530 2 ай бұрын
This is Matt Abrahams
@aN0nyMas
@aN0nyMas 2 ай бұрын
@@jycegaming8530 Hi Matt Abrahams! This is dad!
@sickofya
@sickofya Ай бұрын
Steve martin without jokes
@LiveForeverFitness
@LiveForeverFitness Ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@shrikantpawar8269
@shrikantpawar8269 3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much sir 🙏
@nmdusama
@nmdusama 2 ай бұрын
Structure mindset and messaging..thanks
@dihett
@dihett 3 ай бұрын
This was useful-thank you.
@Vuistic
@Vuistic 2 ай бұрын
I have been listening to your podcast on spotify for 2 years...now i get to see you :) thank you for the show...and love your voice and pace!
@ahsanmohammed1
@ahsanmohammed1 Ай бұрын
Thank you! Appreciated.
@nickpetrock2710
@nickpetrock2710 Ай бұрын
Love this guy! He's like a serious Steve Martin, very engaging speaker!
@JayhawkGuitar
@JayhawkGuitar Ай бұрын
Well said! 100% agree.
@yuzhou8316
@yuzhou8316 2 ай бұрын
Very helpful! Thank you!
@kenken6550
@kenken6550 2 ай бұрын
When i was teaching HS Drama 1, i was not teaching acting... i was teaching "how to speak publicly" and "make friends". Sure, we did it through games and scene work, but i think it helped.
@kandutho
@kandutho 2 ай бұрын
It’s dificult to gasp the fact that we as a society need a “ how to have a conversation” course. It’s like teaching droids how to behave. Makes me sad. I appreciate the content nonetheles
@jamalperry4281
@jamalperry4281 2 ай бұрын
I was thing this??? Why is it a class to talk. Everyone is different and every situation is subtly different… I feeel like he’s teaching how to be deceptive!!!
@JoelTanSG
@JoelTanSG Ай бұрын
@kadutho because being able to communicate under high stress situation is a important skill set that should have been taught when we were kids but unfortunately was not. It’s not about “how to have a conversation “ but how to effectively bring across what’s in my mind to someone different from me and be able to connect with him through words
@user-nt3nh7ur2s
@user-nt3nh7ur2s 2 ай бұрын
Love is a gift that comes to my mind 🤔
@lesleymhlanga4324
@lesleymhlanga4324 18 күн бұрын
🎉 thanks for the advice, as we speak I have a problem my mind just shut especially presenting sermon
@ejikeasogwa9699
@ejikeasogwa9699 2 ай бұрын
Knowledge is power
@ahedyemen
@ahedyemen Ай бұрын
Thanks more for this tips ,thanks again you faced me to the right way
@user-ts9nk9bi3u
@user-ts9nk9bi3u 2 ай бұрын
I found you in KZfaq by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge
@dukeyin1111
@dukeyin1111 Ай бұрын
1)What? So what? Now what?. 2)Tell me the time, don’t make me a clock. 3) Structure/focus. pitching: what if you could, so that, for example, and that’s not all
@Vulture402
@Vulture402 4 күн бұрын
Remember to do the following six things each time someone puts you in the spot. Brilliant. Edit: Okay most of this stuff is actually pretty good.
@guidovanbelle8516
@guidovanbelle8516 2 ай бұрын
Wish I had this lecture fifty years ago.
@uuyy5993
@uuyy5993 2 ай бұрын
Hopefully u may have 50 years after this.. So 🥂
@julietableichmarholman518
@julietableichmarholman518 2 ай бұрын
Seriously, pretty fantastic! 🎉
@choodeshb7723
@choodeshb7723 22 күн бұрын
Great Teacher ❤
@MOHDREHAN-pq3ny
@MOHDREHAN-pq3ny 2 ай бұрын
I have heard many talks on this talk and this is the best so far, it makes the sense straight away. I have already watched it multiple times and will listen to it again and again. Thanks a lot for such a life changing coaching on communication skills
@BrainMartian
@BrainMartian 2 ай бұрын
27:55
@BrainMartian
@BrainMartian 2 ай бұрын
30:52
@BrainMartian
@BrainMartian 2 ай бұрын
p 43:53
@youngskunk
@youngskunk Ай бұрын
His pitch was awesome 👌
@riskyhn2145
@riskyhn2145 Ай бұрын
I watched his video 9 years ago, and still good till this day
@rocketcal6326
@rocketcal6326 Ай бұрын
Sick ass time traveler lol
@Kkviolet1822
@Kkviolet1822 2 ай бұрын
Absolutely need to slow things down!
@user-rm9bo9yf4m
@user-rm9bo9yf4m 13 күн бұрын
This was so good thank you
@mohajaamus247
@mohajaamus247 Ай бұрын
It,s First english vedio i ever completed
@olakapkowicz4743
@olakapkowicz4743 11 күн бұрын
Amazing❤
@levinsonl
@levinsonl 2 ай бұрын
I love Steve Martin
@Nicole-cf3kj
@Nicole-cf3kj Ай бұрын
Speaking in the moment - is something that I struggle the most. I’m frozen all the time 😢 And I am in my 30s
@Qrealtorpa
@Qrealtorpa 2 ай бұрын
Next play ❤️
@navinagrawal1963
@navinagrawal1963 2 ай бұрын
- manage anxiety - get out of Our Own Way - see it as an opportunity - listen well - structure your responses
@joshj3662
@joshj3662 Ай бұрын
I love Steve Martin.
@giselavila7590
@giselavila7590 Ай бұрын
That was my problem in my last job interview, I felt so embarrassed 😢
@DailyBettermentandmore
@DailyBettermentandmore Ай бұрын
Our internal thought processes may not always align perfectly with external communication. We might have a clear understanding of our thoughts internally, but conveying them to others requires translating them into a format that may not capture all the nuances of our internal experience.
@user-ps7ds8cb8i
@user-ps7ds8cb8i Ай бұрын
That's good conversation
@joaqin96
@joaqin96 2 ай бұрын
This is really great. But i fell asleep really fast also xD.
@jaems01
@jaems01 Ай бұрын
be present oriented
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087
@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087 2 ай бұрын
Ss matter of Fact: The Best Tool...
@sandeepreddy7831
@sandeepreddy7831 21 күн бұрын
00:00:01:How to speak better in the moment if you have recently had to 00:01:34:6 Steps to Be Better at Talking in the Moment 00:04:10:How do you feel when you watch a nervous speaker present now I 00:06:29:Thermo Regulators for Your Body 00:07:28:How to manage anxiety if I didn't talk about a 00:09:44:How to maximize mediocrity in the moment we get in our own 00:11:32:When I am evaluating and judging everything I'm saying as 00:12:57:How to play a simple improvisation game with me 00:15:10:Step How we want to do well and we want to make sure we 00:17:01:How to see things opportunities the first comes from this notion of growth mindset 00:19:57:How to move to the next play if you're an athlete 00:22:56:Listening most of us are not good listeners we listen just enough 00:24:51:Three Things Pace Space Grace to listen well you have to give yourself 00:26:19:How to listen better if you don't respond right away 00:28:43:Why I was teased mercilessly because Matt rhymes with everything okay 00:31:17:This is a yes thumbs up yes thumbs down no no 00:34:04:Where are we going do I have the right shoes on should I go 00:35:14:3 simple questions what so what now what the what is your idea your 00:37:19:Structure is incredibly helpful in spontaneous communication in the new book 00:38:40:It is much better to be Compact and concise in what you're 00:40:48:How to speak more effectively in the moment what if you could feel 00:42:24:Do you see how easy that was do you see how the structure helped
@prayaanshmehta3200
@prayaanshmehta3200 Ай бұрын
6:00 manage anxiety 8:00 find sources of anxiety
@MiamiHeat872
@MiamiHeat872 2 ай бұрын
exhale, cold bottle, be present with walking, song, counting backwards, and tongue twister (i slip a sheet), be mediocre, what, so what, now what
@andrewringo6794
@andrewringo6794 2 ай бұрын
Buddy made me feel like an idiot right off the bat with that Fs question
@siamakarassi
@siamakarassi Ай бұрын
I am that person Dr Siamak Baghai Arassi
@r1knd.e
@r1knd.e 2 ай бұрын
3:45 Tame the anxiety beast
@JoelTanSG
@JoelTanSG 2 ай бұрын
Me in the toilet cubicle: “I slit a sheet…” My colleague in the next one: 👀👀👀
@human-condition
@human-condition 10 күн бұрын
Executive summary: be present, be present, mistakes are the main way to learn, be more present.
@maroroarocha
@maroroarocha 2 ай бұрын
Think faster , talk smarter
@eduvidio
@eduvidio 2 ай бұрын
Anyone can explain to me about the 6F?
@eduvidio
@eduvidio 2 ай бұрын
Nvm I got it in my fifth replay 😂😂
@munmundey3768
@munmundey3768 2 ай бұрын
Here you go - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years
@thatsnotme5574
@thatsnotme5574 Ай бұрын
Despite the title talk faster I feel like this video is 2hrs long , may because I'm a slow listner 🙂
@jamilmahammad3203
@jamilmahammad3203 Ай бұрын
Abhi 2024 meh aa video dak raha hoo
@moemenace5345
@moemenace5345 Ай бұрын
Instructions unclear, I failed the interrogation for the triple homicide
@TiyibAbdat
@TiyibAbdat 14 күн бұрын
👍
@luismata3328
@luismata3328 2 ай бұрын
I am seeing this and I think they are actually 5 Fs in there
@marlonhans7122
@marlonhans7122 2 ай бұрын
are those his...?😂 btw it's a really nice lecture..ill apply this in my work😊
@Chrisjavier2604
@Chrisjavier2604 2 ай бұрын
“Of” los of OF
@nikkii7203
@nikkii7203 2 ай бұрын
MQU❤
@shrikantpawar8269
@shrikantpawar8269 3 ай бұрын
Good morning sir
@audacious8866
@audacious8866 Ай бұрын
still findinf only 5 "f"s
@jo8188
@jo8188 2 ай бұрын
More then 44 minutes without using mmm, hmm, aaand , incredible🎉
@Sainthosh_
@Sainthosh_ 2 ай бұрын
How did he find 6 Fs in that "quote"?
@asararulhaque8391
@asararulhaque8391 Ай бұрын
Search again it's 6F Count "of" also contacted F
@Limbuuriya
@Limbuuriya Ай бұрын
I freeze 🥶 ?????
@drishtim2848
@drishtim2848 Ай бұрын
Takeaway tongue twister : I slit a sheet , a sheet I slit , and on that slitted sheet I sit 😅
@blakethom
@blakethom 2 ай бұрын
there are 5 f’s tho
@philopolymath
@philopolymath Ай бұрын
9/10 Indian telephone scammers agree
@HoffM-mc7qj
@HoffM-mc7qj Ай бұрын
Pretty good stuff, I just realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's crazy! Although what he previously talked about was pretty decent, it was difficult to follow, I just go'ogled the latest in Mario's Thunderous Erections, it's so much simpler and potent now!
@michaelnyenty
@michaelnyenty Ай бұрын
Am I the only one? But I can only find 3 Fs not 6😢
@fene241
@fene241 Ай бұрын
you probably skipped over the word “of” it was in the sentence 3 times
@DeborahFESQF-jf4gw
@DeborahFESQF-jf4gw 28 күн бұрын
👍🐝🦷🌹🍻
@NagyMedia
@NagyMedia Ай бұрын
Speak* smarter.
@thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep9986
@thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep9986 Ай бұрын
Don’t think about it…
@mysticery
@mysticery 2 ай бұрын
You can find Ariana grande's music here - yes, and? 😂
@bhima_durga
@bhima_durga Ай бұрын
How many fs?
@noeltellsall
@noeltellsall Ай бұрын
Just 1, Me. I did not pass the intro quiz.
@OfficialTypeOne
@OfficialTypeOne Ай бұрын
maybe a tip on keeping nips from getting piercing hard... 🤣
@user-qv5tm3fo3p
@user-qv5tm3fo3p 2 ай бұрын
nnnl
@user-no3lu8ex6n
@user-no3lu8ex6n 2 ай бұрын
This is useless. This is why the US is not what it used to be. I always run into people who love to talk but are lazy as hell when it comes to actual delivery. I prefer nervous presenters over car salesmen.
@myles5158
@myles5158 Ай бұрын
Really?
@hayien
@hayien 2 ай бұрын
Bro did not name his kids right lmao
@user-be5ks3tv1w
@user-be5ks3tv1w 2 ай бұрын
Wait there aren’t more than 3 F’s? Dafuq is he talking about ?! 😅😂
@munmundey3768
@munmundey3768 2 ай бұрын
If that helps - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years
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