so awful

That’s a little xenophobic. Clearly it’s because English is not her first language

@@summerschoening56 xenophobic how? no one said anything about the country the CEO comes from, she was gonna say "adopted baby" with her whole chest but then realised it would come across as bad BECAUSE IT DID. even in another language it's not necessary to say "adopted baby" unless you're distinguising it from being somesones legitimate child..

⁠​⁠@@summerschoening56nah. i’m also chinese. adoption has a long history in our culture and it genuinely does sound like she doesn’t see adoption as the motherhood.

⁠@@summerschoening56lmao she has a slight accent but her english is perfect. it wasn’t even necessary for her to say “adopted” baby, she chose to

Nah, my brain gets ahead of me sometimes when I'm stressed and start saying one thing, think better of it and then stumble. She started saying adopted baby, maybe thought it would be taken the wrong way and should just say baby, but she'd already started and had to carry on so it came out stuttered and stilted. I can relate xD I wouldn't read anything into it beyond that really.

Same. And I’ve seen people who give very genuine scripted apologies and nobody says anything about it. Peoples issue isn’t scripted apologies. It’s disingenuous scripted apologies.

@@therisingsun1081 yes exactly!!

Yeah!! I just commented about this too and was curious if anyone felt the same. I’m better at communicating my feelings after having written them out and processed them for myself

yeah tbh i never understood the hatred for a "scripted apology". not that it applies to this situation but if someone has written an apology to read out, that means they took the time to sit down and really reflect on the situation. ofc with a lot of celebrities and wealthy people someone else is writing it but just speaking generally, i think a scripted apology straight from the source is actually the most appropriate course of action

I didn’t know that. Cool info!

i was about to comment the same thing!

Yeah. In our country, it's literally the law to take time off when youve adopted

Seriously! Even in a situation where the baby wasn't a newborn/in the NICU, adopted older children need time to adjust to their new home, and first time parents often have to adjust to being parents! I see no reason why people shouldn't be given parental leave for that

This company behaved like maternity leave is only because the woman needs to heal. It's not, it's also a time to bond with the baby, get sleep, set up a routine. And we're talking about a family with a baby in the NICU. It's insane. She only apologised because she got caught.

yeppp

when im anxious i feel like that too, i hope ur feeling better now ❤️❤️❤️

yes!! I literally had to pause the video could I was a lol surprised how panicked and out of breath she was

I think she got backlash over the word adopted!

@@ereristark425 the issue is how she said it with the context

I know right?? I'm like, "how bad could it be?". It's BAD 😭

Exactly, it’s like “we support mothers and babies, but only if you go through the pain of actually giving birth”

Yeah, I think the script itself was bad in her apology and that made it seem even less sincere. Lots of people script their apologies and they are not always nit picked about it being scripted or not. I think people just pick on that aspect more if the context and script is already bad/not optimal.

I write myself a script even when just making a simple phone call. So a script for an apology doesn’t come off as insincere to me. Some of us just aren’t good with words 😂

Exactly what I was thinking. She's the CEO of a company. I would expect a script because she has to remain professional. Definitely could've sounded more sincere, though

Thinking the same thing

@@KatzeWire it's the script that's the problem and how it was done, she didn't make it a PR team did and it sounds like she was reading it for the first time

That’s what I thought - it’s even more evil then for her to not allow it

Also with how much the owner is admitting guilt, I feel like since adoptive parents can get FMLA in the US, the woman who got fired can probably sue Kyte for big bucks for not accommodating her request.

@@krysnikolIIRC, she was with Kyte Baby for only 10 months, so KB wouldn't be required by law to honor FMLA. By decency, sure, but I don't expect much decency from a company that's CEO can't even say 'adopted' without making it sound like she smelled something bad

@@krysnikol She can't sue and she wouldn't have been able to use FMLA because she didn't work for the company long enough. Plus, FMLA would have put her in the same situation. Unpaid time off.

I think it is perfectly acceptable to script an apology.

I don't have TikTok, do you have your own site?

Also, a lot of the other brands are cheaper!

thank you 😭🩷

Yess, I thought the same! I’d look like I have pink eye lol but it looks so great on her

Usually, you need to work a certain amount of hours and be with the company a certain amount of time before you can qualify.

She hadn't worked there a year so she didn't qualify. Also, the company is less than 50 employees so they don't even have to honour maternity leave. Absoluly shitty for a baby company imo

That just shows how awful USA laws are.

FMLA is for everyone, not just new parents. And the leave is unpaid. If being paid while unable to be at work is the issue, FMLA wouldn't have helped anyway.

@whitneyk3708 she hadn't worked for 12 months, so she didn't qualify. Also it's been said that they had less than 50 employees so they don't have to either. Morally it's wrong but legally it's fine

Also making a tictok instead of just talking to her😳

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How do you find bamboo holds up? I’ve always heard bamboo is difficult to wash and stretches like crazy. Maybe this is just a yarn thing? I use cotton yarn instead of bamboo to have durability but I’m open to switching if it’s comparable

@@rachelf973 Actually it holds the shape pretty well, I've never had issues working with it, it also dyes beautifully, it's a wonder you have heard it stretches so much because it tends to shrink more than cotton does, but you can fix that with a water and baking soda solution, it helps to losen up the piece. Give it a try! Just make sure it is 100% Bamboo (It can be made into linen or Rayon) because sometimes they would mix it with synthetic fibers and that is what may cause the issue c:

@@rachelf973 it's also softer than cotton. I use it both as a fabric and to crochet garments!

@@amikireicraftstore Thank you so much for the info! I definitely will try crocheting with it, I always need a new beanie 😂

That’s not a law

That's FMLA and it's unpaid time off that anyone with a medical need can take after working for the same company for at least 1250 hours in the previous 12 months. Parental leave is not required by any federal law in the US.

It’s the fact that in the second apology she fully admitted it was scripted and it wasn’t sincere.

2 weeks? Every job I’ve ever worked at was at least 6 😳

@@K1k1Cupcake I love that for you!!! Two weeks is maybe an exaggeration, although I do know lots of people who only had that 😂 Six weeks is still barely anything though

Well one thing that people aren't happy about and didn't sit well with me was how when saying the employee had to stay in the NICU instead of just saying "her baby" because at that point the baby is hers biological or not and instead specified "adopted baby." Though perhaps she didn't intend, it can be taken as her trying to distance the employee from the baby and come across as she doesn't see the baby as the employee's. Also the way she praises her, saying she loves her, and says how good of an employee she was kind of doesn't sit right with me because...if she was such a good employee WHY didn't you try to work with her? Comes across disingenuous to me. Now I'm not the one to accept this apology, but if I was in the employee's position, I'd probably not accept it. Like I'm glad she admitted she was selfish, but again, as the employee I'd be asking for more specifics as to why since now you're suddenly praising and love bombing me. In the end though, no matter how good an apology is, it will mean nothing if the person doesn't do the work to change. I hope this doesn't come off too heated lol. That's not my intention. I'm not always the best with tone and when I try to be direct I come off harsh. Edit: Additionally, I think people picked up on her being panicked since she seems out of breath which could be a sign she's just trying to save face even if she technically hit the right points.

@@koolkat9464 you didn’t come off as heated at all! Thank you for sharing your perspective, that makes a lot of sense. Her words say one thing (like the I love you and you are great to work with) but her actions directly put that into question. And her avoidant language around the baby sounds sus as well.

I would definitely agree, ultimately I hope the apology is genuine and I also kind of hope sincerity makes it to the mother. Despite how we feel as customers and an audience the position and the pay offer would seriously help that family so I think it’s a wonderful idea. Regardless it is awful and I hope this sets a standard for all businesses not just baby centred businesses. Note; outside of this situation I often wonder what the goal of certain criticisms are. Is it “punishment” or genuine change and accountability. I will definitely be keeping an eye on the business and whether they publicly update policy’s to protect employees and how this plays as an overall study on group mentality’s.

That’s because the government provides it outside of the private sector

@@summerschoening56 The federal government provides no parental leave in the US. FMLA ≠ parental leave.

The CEO claimed to care about family values yet her maternity leave policy clearly shows otherwise

There’s also another issue of she was told she couldn’t get mat leave, so asked to work remotely and they told her no and fired her. Also forcing her to come in immediately after her miscarriage where she ended up needed surgery.