THIS is why a Dismissive Avoidant won't CHASE love

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In today's video, Coach Court talks about why a Dismissive Avoidant won't CHASE love.
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@IamCoachCourt 2 күн бұрын

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@clara7920 2 күн бұрын

Thank you for such an informative video I finally ended my 5 yrs with a DA I just couldn’t do another year of the disappearing reappearing. I’m now working with a wonderful therapist for myself to heal as well

@IamCoachCourt 2 күн бұрын

That’s great to hear! ❤️

@clara7920 Күн бұрын

@@IamCoachCourt I was reviewing your coaching

@staceykline7291 Күн бұрын

& neither will I. My mental health has been compromised. God Bless him and his endeavors. I will always love him but I love God & myself before & after anybody. God is sending me better.

@13sprintuser 20 сағат бұрын

Same. God bless my DA ex gf. I hope she finds what’s she’s looking for. She couldn’t be vulnerable enough to pursue me after she broke things off (several times), so I need to respect myself and let her be. God will send someone better my way!

@GodHelpMe369 39 минут бұрын

Narcissists and avoidants are "reframing experts." They can, in an instant, reframe any situation to where you are at fault, they are the victims, and you are falling down in your responsibilities to them and to the relationship. They are character slayers. They go right for the jugular. It is really fascinating to behold, if you can step out of the way of taking ANY of it personally...

@JaneRI12345 21 сағат бұрын

This is true but at the end of the day, love can’t exist with pride. Them being afraid of being vulnerable is also rooted in pride and ego. If they really love you deeply that should break through the attachment style which is ego versus heart based. But if it’s not strong enough love then they’ll stay away and watch you from afar.

@aspiringrootwoman24 12 сағат бұрын

Respectfully, I don't think it's fair to say if they loved enough. It's a self love and healing issue, not about a particular person, which is why the pattern happens in multiple relationships

@JaneRI12345 6 сағат бұрын

@@aspiringrootwoman24 it’s true it’s a self love issue but there is a certain depth of love that once felt can inspire change in a person to heal, I’m just speaking from experience.

@Mermaid03_03 22 сағат бұрын

He’s a DA and I’m an FA. We would go back and forth to each others for years. Most recently, last month. So toxic. I think it’s finally done now. lol

@dinakindred 2 күн бұрын

This kind of person isn’t for me 🏃🏽‍♀️ no thanks

@annyaboyd3141 2 күн бұрын

For myself I have done a lot of thinking about myself. I have realised that the reason I don't love back is that I don't feel that anyone loves me and have felt this way all through my life. Deep down I think my family loves me but I don't think it is important to me, I don't know if my husband loves me or just doesn't want to be on his own/ needs a wife to do the cleaning etc. With my kids it is different, the love just is there and I don't have to work on it. For me the biggest event in my childhood was being sent to boarding school which I feel damaged my view on relationships.

@IamCoachCourt 2 күн бұрын

Wow!! I’ve seen that a TON with boarding school evidences. I hope this comment helps people.

@annyaboyd3141 2 күн бұрын

@@IamCoachCourt my parents split when I was 7, never even noticed my dad had gone. My mum ran her own businesses and is quite proud of the fact that she went back to work the next day I was born (I am eldest of 3 girls). We had nannies, au pairs, my grandparents lived next door was the most stable relationships I guess and then boarding school aged 11. I got expelled from the first one and it was not discussed! I then ran away from home at 15 and moved in with a 28 year old man. I have done my best to give my own kids a stable normal life but I worry that my relationship with their father is superficial and that this will affect them

@clara7920 Күн бұрын

It is great that you see and can admit you’re an Avoidant now the question is what are you going to do to start healing. I really hope your working with a licensed therapist to start