Because the wife on dialysis took those substances, she will have a harder time receiving a new kidney. The alcohol wouldn't help her chances either. She'll be pushed to the end of the list, and the only way she'd get a kidney sooner is if she is the only one combatable with the kidney to be transplanted. So now she'll lose her husband and have a worst time of it.

Omg I feel for the husband😢 there was no reason for her betrayal

they literally drugged and took advantage of her while under the influence. sex is going to feel good especially when drugs are involved. and she told him the day after. she did everything right AFTER SHE WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF AND MANIPULATED INTO IT. She even said she kept taking the husbands hands off of her AND FELT HELPLESS BUT TO LET IT HAPPEN BC THEY FORCED HIM ONTO HER.

I am so glad that I am single, I cannot for the life of me think of a single good reason to get into a relationship these days. I am perfectly happy living on my sailboat with my Siamese cat, no drama, no arguments, no trust issues, no problems, just Marinatude. Three years ago, my last GF, left. She had quit taking her psych meds after 7 years of getting along fine, and within 6 months she went completely off the rails. She left, cut the propane hose to the heater on my sailboat I lived on then, a week and a half later I fired up the heater for the first time of the season and it blew up in my face, destroyed my boat, burned me up pretty good, and killed my Siamese cat. Then later, she stole my car and destroyed the engine. She ended up in a psych ward for a few months and got released to her family and is now far away from me. I got my current boat 3 weeks later and 11 months later a dear friend brought me a Siamese kitten that was born just days after the explosion, it is the same cat again, not the first time she has reincarnated to come back to me. I am never getting into a relationship again, my previous ones were nightmares as well.

TL;DR: I originally believed the wife cheated, but now I'm starting to believe this was SA. Hmm, I've seen more comments point out that this could be SA and I'm starting to agree. For starters, the wife was under the influence of drugs and alcohol; you CANNOT consent to any kind of sexual activity while drunk or high. You just can't. Moreover, there's also the fact that the wife did seemingly refuse the friend's kiss and also tried to resist the friend's husband, but the friend encouraged their husband anyway. The wife also stated that she felt "helpless" and that she felt like she was watching someone else's life unfold. I'm no mental health expert, but that sounds a lot like disassociation. Maybe the wife genuinely felt like she was watching someone else's life unfold at that moment just to survive. Also, we don't know how much of the wife's recollection of these events are her genuine recollection or reconstruction of what her friends told her. I mean, memory is questionable even on a good day, but under drugs and alcohol? Definitely hampered to say the least. Moreover, of course the friend and her husband are going to try and absolve themselves of any responsibility; they knowingly gave the wife drugs and alcohol then took advantage of her to fulfill some kind of twisted sexual fantasy. Of course now they're going to say it was "accidental". Now I've seen some people argue that it can't be SA because the wife "enjoyed" it. Now it's very possible that the wife was aroused, however, AROUSAL DOES NOT EQUAL ENJOYMENT! Arousal is simply a physical reaction. Nothing else. One can still experience arousal while being assaulted. Moreover, it's very possible the wife convinced herself she enjoyed it because she didn't want to face the fact that her friends assaulted her. Granted, I've never been a victim of SA, but I imagine that's something that's extremely hard to come to terms with, even more so when the perp is someone close to them. It's very possible that they could convince themselves they enjoyed it so they don't have to face the trauma of what really happened. So it's very possible that this is what the wife is doing; she's convinced herself she enjoyed it because to her, that's better than living with the fact that the people she knew for presumably a long time assaulted her. Honestly, the more I go over this story, the worse it gets. Honestly, how could the friends be so unbelievably cruel? First, giving the wife drugs and alcohol, knowing she has kidney problems, then forcing her to take part in this? The friend and her husband deserve jail time.

Ok so genuine question but would this be considered SA on OP’s wife? One cannot legally consent to having intimacy when not sober but combine that with drugs and the husband potentially not being under the influence and also having s@x with her when his wife was asleep/passed out is also sketchy to me. Now if she was fully aware then yes that is cheating and OP should divorce her but it’s such a grey line here that it makes me really uncomfortable and feels like the friend and husband did this on purpose.

That woman was ambushed that was premeditated planned rape. I think I would have charges brought up against that couple. First they could have killed her with those drugs. No I don't think that wife would have done it on her own if she had been sober that was totally entrapment. Never trust people that are into drugs not even marijuana. I don't know if the story goes on the complete your whole time on this post but I don't want to listen to anymore I've heard enough.

She should have had enough sense to not drink or do drugs.

The husband is the only victim here. The wife knew what she was doing. She even admits it to the husband. Also, she should have known better than to drink when she is on dialysis. I dont believe this was SA. Home girl knew what she wanted and admitted MORE THAN ONCE she enjoyed it.

Did her friend not know that she has dialysis? She herself knew she has dialysis but still decided to do drugs? Even drinking is bad for her condition, but doing drugs is just..... Poor husband.

I feel like the issue is less the fact that she did it, considering she was drunk and on drugs, but the way she's talking about it and her solution of "You can sleep with my friend" or whatever is just yikes

Ummm.... What type of drugs were those??? This goes beyond cheating, how are you going to skip a life-saving treatment, do a bunch of stuff that the doctor would not aprove and then cheat in like 10 different ways in one night?

Usually, when a spouse does something out of the ordinary, this can be an indication that something's up. I mean, why else would she suddenly decide to do the laundry when she never did laundry in the first place? Plus, doing drugs while on dialysis? Do I even need to point out how truly dumb that is? Was she trying to kill herself or something? She basically threw her life away with this awful decision. It also kind of makes you wonder about her friend and her intentions.

She ruined her life is less than 24 hours. Wow.

drugs & drinking are no excuse to cheat & i feel so bad for the husband

This is a terrible story. Drinking and taking drugs while a dialysis patient? Some friends she has, to provide her with those things. Then the cheating. The poster’s wife cheated twice, one with her so-called friend and again with her friend’s husband. That took things from bad to worse. Then she told her own husband and that made her problem into his problem. On the one hand she can blame the drink and drugs but on the other hand she knew at least on some level that she was doing something wrong. The friend and her husband have a lot of blame for this situation, too l. I wonder if the two of them planned this situation. It would not surprise me if they did. Cheating never ends well. The question isn’t whether it will end badly, but how badly will it end. Now that she told her husband she has to expect the worst. A better thing for her to have done would have been to keep it to herself and regret it every time she looked at her husband. But then she would have to worry constantly that her friend or her friend’s husband would tell. Aren’t extramarital affairs fun? I have seen a lot of people make this same mistake over the years and it always ends up in a huge mess. As for divorce, well, that is a natural reaction but since she’s got end stage kidney disease it almost seems pointless but that’s his decision to make. Then there’s the memory of the mother that their child is going to have. What a disaster. I hope that the three way hook up was worth it. Sounds like she’s going to lose a lot more than she imagined.

The wife was clearly SA'd. She tried to stop it, she wasnt sober, she was coerced, her actions with the clothes weren't something a cheater would do I don't think but is something a survivor of SA would (I've been SA'd multiple times and reacted like this, as has some of my friends. Ofc not everyone acts this way). The wife did not give consent. Coercion is NOT consent. The husband should have realized his wife was SA's, especially after she said she tried to stop it, and supported her. SA is already hard, but when you get aroused during it, it's even harder because then it confuses you and you start thinking "Maybe this wasnt SA. Maybe they didnt mean it and thought i was ok with it." She may have thought she enjoyed it just because her body responded that way or she may have said she enjoyed it to try to cope with the trauma. This is 100% SA. And before people mention police: police dont do anything about it and she is probably confused from being aroused and genuinely thinks it's her fault, so why would she report someone she thinks is innocent?

Babe you do not have the kidneys to be taking drugs or alcohol. You need a machine just to process regular waste

Also the "right the wrong" thing, she's offering him to sleep with someone _she_ finds attractive to make it even? The husband wasn't there first time she cheated, why tf does she think she should be there the second time? Selfish ah just wants to doubledip.

Yeah, thumbnail story is definitely giving cheating vibes…I’d be careful if I were him (Op)

TL;DR: The wife is definitely wrong for cheating and taking drugs and alcohol, however, I suspect this encounter was planned on the friend and her husband's part. Why, I have no idea. I want to start by saying I am not excusing the wife's actions at all. Cheating is always bad and as a general rule of thumb, it's a really bad idea to mix pills and alcohol, but even worse considering she had kidney disease. She should have known better than to drink and do drugs with kidney disease. That being said, I can't help but feel the friend and her husband planned for that to happen. I mean, why else would they have drugs and alcohol? And coke and MDMA specifically? MDMA is a well known party drug; you don't buy that and expect stuff not to happen. Plus, a lot of drugs and alcohol tend to lower inhibitions, so the friend had to know that they might be more likely to partake in activities they otherwise wouldn't sober. And now, the friend and husband are trying to play dumb and say it was an accident? No part of this story seems accidental. They knew they were taking drugs and drinking alcohol. They know the effect those substances cam have on inhibition and judgment. And to give those substances to the wife, knowing she has kidney failure? That makes it so much worse. What kind of friend does that? What kind of person does that? Now I want to make it clear again that this in no way excuses the wife's part in this. She took drugs and alcohol knowing the effect it would have not only on her judgment, but her health as well. However, I still can't help but feel this was some kind of sick ploy on the wife's friend and husband's part. They had to know mixing drugs and alcohol was only going to end badly. I mean, what did they expect? Mixing pills and potions never ends well. And if this was deliberate, why? What would the friend and her husband have to gain from it? All they did was destroy the wife's marriage and worsen her existing health issues. Was it some way to feel young again? Maybe try the things they didn’t get to do in college? Was the friend secretly jealous of the wife and cooked up this plan to destroy their marriage? Did the friend and their husband just want a threesome and roped the wife into it for some reason? Or was the husband and friend already doing this and roped the wife in? I just for the life of me cannot figure out why the friend and her husband would do something as stupid and reckless as this. This is honestly a story I would expect to hear about a college frat party, not about middle-aged adults. I'm sorry this was so long, I just genuinely cannot wrap my head around how middle-aged adults could behave so stupidly.

He "was ok" when it was cheating with the woman then he double standard when the man came in the picture 🙄

What I want to know is if they even told the "friend" about her husband and the dialysis friend being together while she slept too! I highly doubt she'd be so supportive and defending her dialysis friend to the poster.

I’m curious to see the rollercoaster we’re about to go on 👀

although it wasn't planned she could've stopped the minute her friend kissed her, besides that friend is a bad friend for doing substances with her knowing she's not supposed to

Omg i feel so bad for both the poster and his wife. He did not deserve what happened AND the wife doesn't deserve the divorce. The ONLY reason her friend and her friends husband would've given her drugs and alcohol KNOWING she's on dialysis is because it was premeditated and the weaker the liver, the harder it hits. In the last paragraph at 2:00 She says herself that she DIDNT want the husband to touch her but felt hopeless in the situation. OP, your wife needs better friends and you need to pay attention to her wording.

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dang them ppl messed up really bad especially that last one, oh gawsh what was she thinking?!

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how can she keep saying she felt good? youre telling your husband you cheated and that it felt good??

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Damn everyone in the story pissin me off 😕 (except for the husbabd abd kyutie)

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all i have to say is...damn...

If it were me, I would say, forgive and forget, at this late date. If she truly is in end stage, there's no miraculous comeback from that, and it could be all over in a month. My wife's sister died of kidney disease this past July, and that's what her end stage took. Why add to her suffering? Nothing good can come of it, and second thoughts and regret probably will. Let it slide.

If she cheated with her friend & her husband…it doesn’t make things equal if the husband has s*x with his wife & the friend. The same women are involved…it would only make things right if the wife is left out. In her recommendation…she gets to cheat twice. Once with the friend & her friend’s husband & the second time with the friend & her own husband…it’s a win win for both women. That’s just ridiculous.

A lot of people are saying SA but i dont think so: First shes on dialysis everyday and dying waiting for a transplant, she went to party and drank with a freind and her freinds husband which is tbh is a big absolute no with her illness, but she said they were going clubing. They go back to their place and then do drugs?? Which is basically the equivalent of signing your death certificate for someone with that illness, she will never get a transplant now and she absolutely knew that because hospitals test for it and puts people who do "party drugs" like she knowingly took at the end of the list. Then had a threesome and THEN when her friend passed out proceeded to have sex with the husband alone multiple times. This wasn't SA this was someone who is dying saying fuck it and having "the last hurrah" and hoping if she blames it on the drugs and alchohol and that shes dying her husband will just forgive her for cheating and stay by her side.

what the heck

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This isn't cheating, this is even worse than that even though it only happened once and she regrets. You know I hate how a girl hooking up with another girl isn't considered cheating. The husband only considered it cheating because his wife had a threesome with her best friend and her best friend's husband. The fact that she regrets and but admits she liked it. Throwing away 30 years of marriage over a stupid hook up and what kind of friends are those. I wouldn't have divorced her right away though, I would go away and then make up some ridiculous story of me cheating saying I hook up with several girls and I got them all pregnant, also they'll move in with us. That would make her sad and feel betrayed even though it's a lie. You know my best friend is a Lesbian and she has a girlfriend so if her girlfriend cheated on her with another girl would it be considered to be cheating? Obviously yes. You know I was in a similar situation, long story short there was this girl I knew, now she got the wrong idea because she thought I wanted to hook up with her. I wasn't myself, I was like sleep and food drunk. She started to touch my shoulders,, I didn't understand why because I was confused but then when she went to take my shirt I stopped her and told her that I have a girlfriend and it wouldn't be right. She then apologized telling me that she got the wrong idea. I then passed out and the next day she told me everything and apologized. So how come I, a college student, while food and sleep drunk be more faithful to my girlfriend of 2 years than this woman?

This is why people bash the lgbt community. As a trans man, it makes me really upset to see people like this represent the community.

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How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, his wife was definitely cheating on him with her best friend. I would have immediately left or kicked her out you don't do anything like that especially when you've got a great significant other. His wife is a streaight up fr*ak but just apparently not with him though. On top of all that, they were doing the did unprotected too that's enough right there to automatically turn your heart cold. I completely get her feeling powerless about needing a new kidney and having to be on dialysis everyday, but whst does all that have to with kissing her best friend and f*ckIng her best friend's husband too. She is just trying to find any excuse not to be blamed for cheating. Bump her friend too because her friend was suppose to be looking out for her which she completely failed to do. I would've said to her "I wish you good with your dialsis treatment but fot as I'm concerned I'm a single man now". The husband doesn't have anything to feel gutted about because he never broke their vows unlike her. I love you my dear sweet friend!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!