Thrive from Failure! | 3 Life Lessons I've Gained from F****** Up!

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Failure! Everybody experiences it, nobody likes it. Tonight I got a rejection slip for a piece I submitted to a magazine, and instead of crying in my beer, metaphorically speaking -- well, AFTER crying into my metaphorical beer, that is -- I came up with 3 life lessons that I've taken away from my various failures in life.
1) Let failure soften and open your heart and mind. Your project bombed. Your pride is gone. Which means? Your blinders are off. You can see the world not through the narrow focus of your ambition, but as it IS! Failure is like drano for pride, it cleans your system out! Don't let disappointment make you bitter, don't let it close you down. Use it to open your mind, your eyes, and your heart. If failure's good for anything, it's good for opening and softening you up.
2) Hit! Back! Harder! Some projects are born under a lucky star. Some aren't. Your job is to keep putting stuff out there, keep trying, so that when the time comes for you and your project you'll be there to greet it. I've come to believe that the successful people are simply the ones who throw themselves out there over and over, and while most of their projects bomb, some don't. And low and behold, the success story is born!
3) Go with the people who believe in you. When you fail it's a message from a certain segment of planet earth, who do not wish to support you. So find the people who do! They're out there. They might be the ones you've been ignoring while trying to get that other segment to believe in you. Find your allies and let them do their job!
In the end, the point of life is not to succeed. The point of life is, well, to live. Which means a little bit of success, some failure, and hopefully the opportunity to keep putting yourself out there, to keep trying, to keep experiencing new things, and to keep living on the edge where you can grow as a person and share that growth with others. To misquote the great Leo Tolstoy, Every success is exactly the same, but each failure is a unique opportunity to learn something entirely new!
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@tessapirnie 23 күн бұрын

Failure is Drano for pride... perfect. Thank you.

@zenconfidential25 23 күн бұрын

It is, yes?? My pleasure!

@WJSpies 14 күн бұрын

I read this recently: One does not learn by experience, one learns from reflecting on the culmination of many parts of one's experience. My Summation: "Failure" is not failing, it's a failure to not reflect on one's own many culminated sum of failures. Own your failure, learn and grow from inside it.

@zenconfidential25 13 күн бұрын

I like this, it's very expansive and generious. Thank you

@marcosantagata5847 28 күн бұрын

This KZfaq channel has given me and others so many valuable insights. I post poems on X and Instagram. Some get a lot of "likes" and some do not, but I keep posting. I'm not even sure why but there is a small group of people that consistently enjoy them. That's my success. Those are the people that believe in me. Even though it's an admittedly small group of readers it feels good to know someone out there values my words and perhaps those words help them to feel a little less lonely in this isolating world of ours. As usual, thanks, Jack 😊

@zenconfidential25 27 күн бұрын

Thank you so much Marco, you're such a fine person and a fine poet too.

@marcosantagata5847 27 күн бұрын

@zenconfidential25 Thank you! Much appreciated 😊

@pearlyung 28 күн бұрын

Rejection remind us of nothing and that we are nothing. Acceptance strengthens the ego or identity of the person.

@yvyvyvyvyv 23 күн бұрын

thank you

@zenconfidential25 23 күн бұрын

You're welcome. Thanks for watching my friend.

@fhoniemcphonsen8987 27 күн бұрын

Congrats on being a successful failure. "You have to go where the love is." as the great Dr. Allan Pearl says.

@zenconfidential25 27 күн бұрын

Thank you old friend! Go where the love is, I like that.

@Nalber3 27 күн бұрын

You're right, we don't perceive failures, but man, the pain is really felt! Thank you 🙏

@zenconfidential25 27 күн бұрын

Absolutely! Thank you my friend.

@dr.jeffreyzacko-smith324 28 күн бұрын

Important stuff here! ❤ As someone who taught creativity and innovation and such, there’s zero chance you won’t fail a lot … it’s just part of the process. No risk, no failure = no reward.

@zenconfidential25 28 күн бұрын

Zero chance you won't fail a lot! I need to print that out and put it above my desk.

@user-iw7bl3hj1r 27 күн бұрын

"Failure" is totally normal and happens to everybody in this human realm, in one degree or another, over and over again. Nothing special about it. Was reading your books at the local spiritual bookstore (yesterday actually) and it occurred to me that you write well. Kind of reminds me of Henry Miller a little bit (who incidentally "failed" a lot and was mostly always strapped for cash). Will probably pick up a copy of one (or both) today or tomorrow. ☮

@zenconfidential25 27 күн бұрын

Thank you my friend, I love the thought of you in the spiritual bookstore looking at my book.

@tinadeemc8728 28 күн бұрын

Nothing challenges and exposes the sense of self like rejection does.

@zenconfidential25 28 күн бұрын

Amen. for me anyway.

@ThichTamPhoMinh 28 күн бұрын

Such a raw presentation. You are one complicated dude, Jack! And you are certainly nailing the wisdom thing. Faliure can help us see our true nature and lift us closer to the freedom and liberation that is our birthright.

@eiko6171 25 күн бұрын

Is there a video that explains what exactly “manifesting” is? I’ve been just assuming it means think-on-this or train-attention-toward-this but after watching dozens of these videos I feel like it’s falling more into the “grok” category… as in, the more I consider it the more I realize idk wtf it means 😂 (Oh and also… another great video just when I needed it- thank you)

@zenconfidential25 25 күн бұрын

I was once told that manifesting means to "make born." I guess there's the explanation of the jumpshot, for example, in basketball, and then there's the actual SWOOOOSH. Yanno?

@zenconfidential25 25 күн бұрын

Maybe I need to do a vid on this though, it's a really important question.

@kakamarioluigi 28 күн бұрын

You're not a failure... I AM just felt like one 😊😊😊

@zenconfidential25 27 күн бұрын

You and me both, join the party!!

@LONDONFIELDS2001 17 күн бұрын

Do you think Zen practice takes away fundemental mystery? It becomes "sufficient" for every single problem, every metaphysical quandry. In such a way, it "captures" the individual - thought ends always within its parameters, within it's walls, and we get a little uncomfortable with things beyond it. This scares me, somewhat. This is why my Zen practice is fairly small (though I have had a fair few "englightenment experiences"), but my reading of western philosophers is large. They haven't, in a way, been "captured" - Heidegger for example truly does feel like a "thin reed blowing in the wind", much more than a dewy eyed know-it all "master". The answers to my questions are, as you are probably aware, contained within the teachings - "kill the buddha" "no such thing as enlightement" etc, but then these always seem to have a wink wink, nudge nudge aspect - that if you "kill the buddha" THEN you will be englightened. Lol. So many paradoxes for one life. Anyway - are you still struck by the not knowingness, the total weirdness of the universe? Do you think Buddhists know more about methaphysical realities than, well, anyone else?

@zenconfidential25 17 күн бұрын

Wonderful thoughts, thank you my friend.

@dayamay8221 28 күн бұрын

Yes!! "Hold that pain...use that pain" that's Dukkha transformation, right there. Beautiful! Thanks man! D❤

@zenconfidential25 28 күн бұрын

Yes! Thank you!

@vikifilip 28 күн бұрын

Thank you …what is failure any way? There is a Tibetan saying that goes something like this. When things go well milk turns into yogurt, when things go wrong, milk turns into cheese. So yogurt or cheese?…. I enjoy your task!

@zenconfidential25 27 күн бұрын

That's really a wonderful metaphor my friend. Thank you.

@TYPHON2713 28 күн бұрын

I just found a good sangha with teachers, but they are Sanbo Kyodan, what's your thoughts on this style of Zen?

@zenconfidential25 28 күн бұрын

I don't know too much about it. I think what matters is that you click with it and the people.

@TYPHON2713 28 күн бұрын

@@zenconfidential25 thanks, from what I can glean off the internet is that they combine Rinzai, Soto, and Chan kinda elements. Also, totally relate to the video. As a poet, I feel the ups and downs of being published or not. It's scary putting yourself out there, "but if you don't swing the bat you never hit the ball" as my father would say. Thanks for all the great vids😊