I'm an Asian American, and I found the book hilarious. I was laughing out loud reading it. I certainly didn't grow up with strict parents, but my dad did spend his time teaching me Math and English when I was in grade school, which helped me to gain confidence in academics.

I see her as an amazing parent and she absolutely loves her children. She really wants her to do great things. Think about it,she's sacrificing her time also watching her daughter play the violin and creating those handwritten tests. She is working hard too. And you can tell she's also compassionate because she let her daughter drop the violin after she was so very miserable, while other tiger parents would have beat her and continue to force her to play it. She's a perfect balance.

I think this woman has a clear and quite agreeable point.

Balance between Asian and Western parenting! Then you almost have a perfect child :)

My ex-husband has two kids, when they were 12 and 14, i was shocked to find out that these two didnt even know the time-table, and the bigger shock came when my ex-husband was like "no big deal". Then I met my boyfriend, whose three adult kids at the age of 30, 28, 25, all live in his house, he's also make their car payments, car insurance, food. The lights in the house are always on 24/7, they dont give a damn because they dont pay for utilities.

My parents were American tiger parents like this lady and her husband. They set extremely high academic and behavioral expectations while being very loving and allowing me time to pursue my interests in art, archaeology, drama, creativity, etc. I am so incredibly grateful for this type of parenting! It has made me successful and internally motivated now as an adult.

I think I can understand where she's coming from

She is what my parents were when I was in school. Not exactly a tiger mom but one that instead of patting her child on the head, showed them a way to strengthen a weakness. My parents used to make hand written tests on all my weak subjects before making me practice on them. It really helps and once you get it you feel so much better. In a way it also taught me not to give up but to keep trying and practicing until you got it. They never forced me to do anything I didn't genuinely want to. Parenting at its finest

What annoys me is the fact that people are here criticizing Amy for her past parenting choices and acting like she's saying that Asians are better, Chinese parents all do it this way, do it my way or die. No. It may be slightly implied but that NEVER was the original purpose of the book. The smartest thing to do it just to treat it as a book, something for enjoyment and comedy. It is NOT a guide to parenting "Chinese style" and doesn't really assert that Chinese parenting is better. Also, there are some "cultural" differences addressed in the book about Western vs Asian. It is wrong. Everything, parenting wise, has to do with the parent's personal beliefs and and what they were taught. It doesn't really have anything to do with culture, but this certain style of parenting has been found in many Asian families. That doesn't mean it's Asian. Parenting styles are almost always the choice of the parents, not the culture. Asserting otherwise is generalization. That is where Chua went wrong. Also, if she is American she also many identify as Chinese, culturally. She grew up in a Chinese immigrant family, giving her CHINESE parentage. Citizenship does not equal cultural identity. Addressing Amy Chua as an "idiot" or a "moron" is not the best course of action. You may not like her, but does that give you the right to assert that she is incapable of logical thought? She did graduate Harvard and is a tenured professor at Yale. She has proven to be quite capable. Whether or not this style of parenting is right or wrong is up for individuals themselves to decide, everyone will have differing opinions. It has been proven that this style has increased rates of suicide, however that doesn't mean that it WILL cause suicide. It means that there is a HIGHER chance of developing depression. There isn't an ABSOLUTE chance of creating a suicidal teenager.

This mother is proud for doing what a mother should be doing?

👍👍 she is amazing, she is a wonderful mom who is strict with boundariesbut loving with understanding and support

I did grow up with a tiger Mom Cons: It came with a lot of emotional scars, you miss out a lot in life You grow up scared of being honest to your mom thinking youd disappoint her Everything was by the numbers, from the amount of time needed to study, to how you budget your lunch money You had to excel in activities, you dont even enjoy doing You feel like a walking trophy Pros: It kept me away from gangs, many of my friends who I used to envy did not get to be successful It helped me be reslient in a very tough and unforgiving world I have good discipline when it comes to routine, and even my finances I ended up have a respectable profession and a financially stable income Would I raise my kids the same way I was? Not exactly. I do not want them to have the scars I had. I do not want them to grow up afraid of being honest. But I will instill discipline, and explain to them why that is important. I will not forget to tell them that I love them, and sometimes I need to be hard on them. I will never force them anything. I wont demand that they excell in everything just as long as they do not flunk their subjects. I will however nurture where they are good at enjoy doing. I will assure them that they have my full support as to whatever aspirations they wanna be. If they wanna be a Lawyer, cool! If they wanna be in a rock band, cool also. BUT they have to finish school. Take perhaps a business course so that record labels wont rip them off. Most of all, I will encourage them to excel in the stuff they like doing

Good points and it is a balance. I have always said a parent's unwavering, unlimited, devoted love can also be damaging to a child/person. I personally have seen two examples in my life of people who had parents who just let them do whatever they wanted, no discipline or struggle and never had to earn anything. As adults, they have struggled with employment, relationships and finances.

Well she did say that her 13 year old was angry and miserable. But the kid started have real problems before her mother backed off. But by then sometimes a kid is so feed up they won't respond anymore.

Chua presents a balanced approach to parenting: discipline and emphasis on academics (stereotypically Asian) vs creativity and emphasis on independence (stereotypically American). It seems to be not useful and certainly inflammatory to intimate that one approach is "superior" to the other. I am surprised that the numerous individuals ( including Asians ) who dislike the book have not even read the book! Tiger Mother is actually a funny, tongue-in-cheek book.

While I hear a lot about ambition, tiger moms and helicopter moms within Chinese and Korean topics, in Japanese parenting topics they only talk about sending their kids alone to school, be polite and kind to people and putting themselves into a group-oriented society where no one should just stand out.

I just finished her book two days ago and purchased the book The Triple Package. I can't wait to read it. In all honesty when I have children they won't be attending sleepovers either and I don't think I'd regret that. I started that book thinking that she was as nuts as her critics stated. Now, I would never call a child garbage much less state at a party that I called a child garbage. But you cannot refute some of the success that comes from asian parenting.

Forgot to add I think things should be balanced emphasize eduation, activitites etc but children should have downtime to pursue their interests and have a social life this is their time to be young and enjoy. I think you can balance both. I was an honor student my last two years in high school but senior was also going out working etc

Balance is the key and not pushing the kids beyond their tolerance

she's on point. I was raised the same way and I love it

I can't believe people think she's a bad mom. She doesn't seem abusive at all, she clearly wants her children to have the best in the world and work hard to be the best.

It's good to have a balance and not be either side of the extreme. It's not good to overwork your kids nor leave them to become too careless, it's better to create a balance

I think many parents who raise their kids the way Amy Chua was raise do not care if their relationship with their children breaks, or if their children eventually grown up to hate them. Strictness is fine, there is a cultural different, yes. But I feel like parents who are only able to react this way towards their children will react the same way in many other situations, especially in circumstance where the child is badly hurt for reasons not within their control. There is a lot of guilt that comes into play

Teaching your children to believe they are better than everyone else and to look down on others is not success - it is snobbery.

That's because she knows her daughter has the potential and the daughter just didnt realize it.

I'm with Tiger Mom.

The bizarre case of Jennifer Pan in Canada should be a cautionary tale for Asian tiger parents.

Helping your kid to get better at Math is not the "Chinese way". Putting people into two boxes is simplistic.

She sounds like my mother, who was born and raised in....Ireland. Tigers exist all around the world in this sense, but if it works, it works.

I think that's perhaps the most important admission at 8:59... on how the the choice of violin and piano for her kids are arbitrary and unnecessary. That's the root of what's the problem with Chinese "tiger parenting" -- intolerance. Amy Chua looked down on other instruments out of her own prejudice. It is one thing to ensure what your kids work hard at whatever option they chose, but it is not appropriate to force the kids to work hard at something there is clearly have other alternatives. Imagine instead of musical instruments, we have career choices, how dangerous would that be? The kids would be paying the cost for the rest of their lives! Amy Chua is lucky that the crisis with her second daughter is over one extra curricular and not her career choice.

Ironically, her parenting style would agree with Tywin Lannister; that is certainly not a compliment. Try playing Rains of Castamere when you read _Battle Hymn._ I guarantee you, it suits 1000%!

Im getting ptsd

Umm Tiger parenting is not only for Chinese parents. It is part of ASIAN culture.

Through rebellion comes individualism, through individualism comes creativity, through creativity comes innovation, through innovation comes progress.

I grew up with a learning disability and my mom when she was trying to help me, threw out my homework cause I couldnt get it lol

I don't know...but Hong Kong has the similar teaching style but it's kinda of different from hers....

The difference between Asian parents n Western parents are not far away....all parents love their childs but it all about the society and the culture....

This is a lot different from her article

She has great personal charisma. I didn’t expect someone like her, a high-achieving woman, to be so witty with a great sense of humor as in her book. For a matter of fact, I couldn’t stop laughing reading the book. She is very good at getting her point across, and seemed very comfortble in front of the camera as well. My friend at Yale who knows her told me she’s a very likable teacher. I have no doubt of it at this point.

Her book was very intriguing, congrats to her for bringing the topic of “tiger parenting” into mainstream discussion and media, opening these sorts of convos are awesome!

The only thing I'd criticize her for is backing off and saying "it's not for everyone, it was right for our family" when questioned on it. Yes, there are different "good" ways to raise a child, but there are some that are CLEARLY better than others, in this case, American ways. It was obvious she was scared of being politically incorrect. I would have appreciated a lot more if she went the whole way boldly and said "Yes, this is the better way".

It's not about Asian way of parenting. It's a conservative way of parenting in a respectable and responsible way. You want Your kids to be successful - learn them to work, think, achieve.

Balance is so important. From experience, I have seen people damaged from the extremes of both the extreme Asian parenting and also the extremes of Western parenting too. Both need to be called into check.

Come on, every kid should be good at math in elementary school. It's the basics...

Where did she undergo epicanthal eye fold surgery ? And brow ridge augmentation ?

Uhm, just want to say that Amy Chua's way do not representing all the Chinese WAY. For example, Hong Kong Chinese education is different from China mainland; Taiwanese education system is different from China mainland. China alone is different from the rest of Asian countries, these facts is mostly unknown by Western view. In addition, Amy Chua's way is not a better way or approved way by any other Chinese or Asian family. Asian are mostly known for family-hood, this mean they are less likely to punished their kids like Amy's do, that's how their kids appreciate their parents love and trying hard to succeed to repay their parents love.

It is not about western or eastern, it is about how we educate kids the right way. in this context, the so called "eastern" way is the right way.

lol honestly strict parents do that to get them ready for the real world. the real world wont be lilke awww its ok lets find u something else and we will help u. in the real world if you cant do the job, ur not wanted.

I think shoving your wishes onto a child I feel is one of the worst things you can do. Let them find their own inner voice - they're here for a reason and it's only them and they who know what that is - it is there for them to discover. What you're doing is taking their own inner guidance about what resonates for them - let them find what appeals to them, not what you think they should be shoving into their heads.

She is not Chinese, her parents are from Philippines

I think parents have different ways of encouraging their child. She has her own way and I know she's very strict, more like an authoritative way of parenting. Maybe it really depends on how you weigh things. Well I'm not a parent yet but perhaps parents should be strict and lenient in some ways. But you know, children should decide for themselves and the parents role is to support, not to force them.

the way she said 'Chinese'.. i hope she specifically pointed at the China citizen.. if not.. i don't know what to say anymore because in Malaysia, we also have Chinese... well, some of her parenting methods are same as us here.. well, we both are Asians but her point of view is can't be blamed because she already highlighted that this interview is mostly about her family story.. so i have to admit that is true.. anyways, she also said that her parenting methods were influenced by the immigrant thing(@0.07)...

Havent read the book but glad she said she pulled back with her daughter a bit.

My parents never forced me to do anything. When I was little, they allowed me to do what I wanted to do rather than making me do something I didn't want to do. At age 5, I decided to pursue music on my own and i absolutely loved it. Imo, giving kids the freedom to express themselves can really benefit them emotionally and mentally in the long run.

I hate tiger parents. They are just controlling everything i do, there always don't, and after i finally obedient to them, they hate me because i was slave. I regret being born as chinese and whatever tiger mother is. What's the point of being tiger mother? They cant make me tiger too!

what she said is SOOOOO true. my mother literally raised me exactly like this except the music lessons. I believe this parenting method is superior to the tradional 'western" parenting method.

We choose our own future...not our parents...

yea right~ i see a "tiger" over there even if i havent scroll down till the last video

Equated to high incidence of suicide amongst asian communities with this unicivl occult mentality has nothing to do with true success. just ask the ancient romans and greeks about the similiarities of confusius with barbarian tribes ambition not at contribution to society but to material egotisical success.

You are sooooo beautiful!

i think we have to respect how other people want to be parents.. so if she did it that way and it was ok for her, then good for her. But I disagree when she said western people Says to their children - oh if you hate or you are not good in Maths ,no problem we find something else ...- Im sorry thats kind of ridiculous, Im from Europe and never saw or hear any parents saying somthing like that or many other things she mentioned. I must say that Sweden is probably one of the less strict western countries in education and is Probably one of the most successful countries Educationally. It is common in European universities to receive many students from China with great and impressive academic levels, but it is common to hear from profesors that in the social and working world they can be very different because they do not have great security in themselves and often have problems to the time to improvise or look for solutions under pressure.

We ought not fear competition; it's how we evolve into better beings. I agree with Amy.

This woman has very good points but she takes it too far. Just find a balance bros

hello, amy, you sjould teach them math is sex, you add the bed, subtract thw clothes and BOOM=kids

Long Live Amy Chua. Loyal People's Disciple and Incarnation of Mao Zedong.

chinese should listen to what their kids want like let them parties non stop and get high...that will be good.

wouldve killed myself if my mom was like that. in any case, when the offspring of tiger moms becomes an adult, these tiger kids are gonna move very far away and break off most forms of contact with the parents.

She’s really creepy

Не такой я ее себе представляла...

I have a feeling that this tiger parenting doesn't come from "love conditioned on success" but from the history of China. The Chinese had these legal exams which were nearly impossible to pass in the old days. They also had Confucianism which stressed filial piety but it was balanced by Taoism. Then you have the Jurchen empire in the north and the Song empire in the south, both of which were savagely crushed by the Mongols during Genghis Khan's reign of terror and Kublai Khan's 97 year Yuan Dynasty. After some time, you have the Russian Cossacks bringing warfare and disease to Siberia, Mongolia, and Manchuria. Then Japan invaded Manchuria. Then you have the Russo-Japanese war that devastated Manchuria. Then you have the Civil War between the Kuomintang and the Communists, both of whom knew nothing but terrorism, thanks to the influences of Leon Trotsky of the Bolsheviks and Alexander Kolchak of the White Movement. Then you have the Japanese terrorizing all of Eastern and most of Central China between 1937 and 1945. Then you have more of the Civil War. Then Mao Zedong decided to starve his people with the Great Leap Forward, erase the cultural legacy of his homeland with the Cultural Revolution, and murder innocent people by ordering a massive genocide in Tibet. While I strongly believe in an authoritative parenting style far different from Ms. Chua's authoritarian style, one can see that Chinese parents love their children dearly, and thus behave like total drill sergeants because China is a country choked with jerks and surrounded by jerks.

If she was tiger mom then American mom would be hawk moms who kick their kids out of the house and let them to fly alone like jump off the cliff.

You forgot to show the beating scenes

Kann die mal aufhören zu reden?

Im with tiger mum

She seems creepy to me. JMHO. It was only when her daughter turned "cold" as she says, and thought she might "lose" her daughter, that she dropped the mean stuff. But by then, isn't it too late? Also, in this interview, we see a public face. I'd like to hear secret audio records of this mom enforcing all the tough stuff, on an hourly and daily basis. My guess is there will be shaming on that audio, threats from small to large, name calling, anger outbursts, nagging, etc. Am I right?

There is an Korean word for her: Boji. It is a very nice word to say to a female.

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Cheers to an extremely smart, flexible, sensible, insightful, kind, funny and beautiful woman!

WE "traumatized " our kids into professional careers and now they are "suffering" from high pay and prestige.

After reading about the book and a review of it, I feel really bad for her children. It seems to me that her own experience with bullying has left her emotional trauma that she's never dealt with. Instead she's taking on this narcissistic way of treating her daughters. She reminds me of a certain D. Trump. This is the review: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201102/amy-chua-is-circus-trainer-not-tiger-mother

Personally, I am not a parent but I am sure that kids need someone who believes in them

This woman looks as though she has two layers of skin on her face....

Read everyone The Atlantic Magazine, Dec 2015 edition, page 63, and find out what this Tiger parents weather of foreign background or not, are influencing in their children.

Im chinese, im quite chill

Could she say that louder for people in the back; “BALANCE IT!” And when the kid couldn’t handle what she was dishing out, pull back.

She is a tiger mom who doesn't neglect her kids' emotional needs!!

If only my parent can each me basic elementary school math. NOPE.

Violin😱 That’s a red flag 🚩

my mom is the same and she is latina ❤

My friend with tiger parent mostly not love their parent that much compared to normal people, and they tend to compare people base on their material achievement and education, sorry mate, they ate too robotic and achievement driven, no love, no basic humanity whatsoever, not saying that white people method is the best, what more important is to be a healthy human being with humanity, teach them this first, thats why you can see asian ate good in piano, but they are not a true pianist, because people know that they had been forced to enyer music classes when tbey are young, its just a synthetic version of successfull human being

she has those crazy eyes lol

''Battle Hymn OF THE TIGER MOTHER'' What a ridiculously pretentious title.

That Amy Chua! That Amy Chua! I do not like that Amy Chua!

cool!

Hunger Game ? Hunger Game !

She sounds way more logical and sensible and convincing in this interview than the book. In the book she sounds like a crazy person. I wonder why did she show that side of herself in the book.

How to kill creativity 101

She scares me

To Amy: Oh my goodness! Our 10-year-old son has brain damage! How on Earth did that happen? Well, you forced him to practice football since he was 8 years old. He's lucky to be alive.

I clicked on the video because of the messed up witch face.