That’s exactly what happen to me. He tried to take my friends away from me. Last night he said he got bit by a Coyote and sent me a pic and it was sauce not blood🤦♀️
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW
@sarahcook9082 жыл бұрын
Wtf omg. Good for you for getting out! That's nuts.
@ar90452 жыл бұрын
Ask him if he abused and cheated the coyote too..
@shannamarie88162 жыл бұрын
He called me today and tried calling my kid to demand her to “bring het stupid mom “ to his house. He is so drunk. Nobody wants to be around him anymore
@sarahcook9082 жыл бұрын
@@shannamarie8816 You deserve better ❤️
@utube77762 жыл бұрын
I feel sorry for the people In a relationship with an narcissist thinking they can change them or that they will change on their own IM HERE TO TELL YOU ITLL NEVER HAPPEN CUT THEM OFF AND LIVE YOUR LIFE
@empress98572 жыл бұрын
You can be the most loyal/faithfuliest Give them phone codes Stop being who we are drop our friends/family and social life Cater and give them our all Undivided attention money supports the list is endless A N D Still end up hurt betrayed and the most Dumbest people on earth dealing with
@azaz5758 Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏
@tammyfitzgerald5336 Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜😎😎😎😎😎✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
@angieholt736 Жыл бұрын
@@empress9857 Schools should have taught this in primary classes to high school!
@deniserandall43978 ай бұрын
PREACH
@lakiajohnson45082 жыл бұрын
They abuse even if they discarded you. 🤦🏾♀️ You taught me to weaponize my silence and it has worked to keep me sane. Thank you
@tasharonharris8915 Жыл бұрын
I.just found him since I was listening to another KZfaqr who said a celebrity was liking his posts and now I'm trying to get help getting back to me. He's an abuser and he blames me I just want to be left alone. I'm growing closer to God and he uses it against me when I just want to be a better version of who I used to be. I've been isolated from my son's who are adults and my grandkids he's threatened to send pics of me in questionable ways to my boss and he uses my enabling to get me to continue helping him even though he beat me down with his fists,words and actions. I now have to find a new place to live and he feels I owe him a place since he is out living in hotels I have a protective order but it's too much. I'm tired
@Redwine-hb1pr2 жыл бұрын
I’m getting a protective order and also putting him on child support
@christinamarmol24752 жыл бұрын
Girl same here
@heatherlindsey9712 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it’s better to not mess with child support. I’ve seen them vindictively try to take the kids when they are wounded like that. And a restraining order won’t always stop the courts from giving them 50/50.
@jocelyncurtis8826 Жыл бұрын
Same!
@natashajones688110 ай бұрын
Be careful when you put them on child support they can get your address and keep reporting on your case my daughter 18 and got her own place he still on my case paying support just to keep up with me 🤮
@shebutter31952 жыл бұрын
My ex still guilt trips me and blames me for not taking him back even after 3 years. I’m in a new relationship and he wants me to end it. After years of lies, cheating, abuse, I’m the bad person and wasting his time. He knows his worth and he deserves more🙄 he triggered me all over again because I actually gave that fake relationship my all. He can go to hell. Even if I wasn’t single he wouldn’t be a option he’s the worse. Whoever the new chick is girl get your man.
@lovelylife18962 жыл бұрын
Right. You nailed it when you said fake relationship...that's basically what it is so glad you said that .
@finallyfree38472 жыл бұрын
I know that's right!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@SassyDiva532 жыл бұрын
Love that!!!
@sandraevans83372 жыл бұрын
I shook my Ex new supple hand and told her Good luck and I heard she going thru it with him I tried to give her a head up.
@gwenwood61362 жыл бұрын
Hey, thank you for saying this, I feel like I'm going mad! At this point feel like I'm still making excuses for him, still sad and lonely, just went to get all my stuff from his this week, did he help get anything in the car? No of course not, 'I got myself here so I have to get myself out' and he is thinking I'm with someone new....like no, I'm 36 weeks pregnant with YOUR child, who you don't think is yours and discarding the oldest currently.....like wt actual heck! Wow, the nerve of these people, of course I am the narcissist one! Crazyyyyy making! Used that therapy you got really well, to make things worse for me? I'm actually really angry that the team he worked with didn't even talk to me! He used it all against me. Thank you, peace and love on your journeys xxx
@angieholt736 Жыл бұрын
Being married to them was a walk in the park compared to the abuse afterwards! SERIOUSLY!!!
@robertestep74402 жыл бұрын
The black narcissist guy with dreads lol. I’m glad my wife showed me you. Gave me hope in life. I to have NPD. Only thing sucks is the wife really believes I never loved her. We’re separating. I have yet done gave her the space she needs. Idky in the hell I can’t just let go. I am going to therapy tho. On my 3rd week and this is about a month of learning how and why I think the way I do. So I appreciate you bro.
@tinawalker5335 Жыл бұрын
Did you truly love your wife? Did you cheat on the marriage? Did you ever have feelings for others? I’m dealing with a narc and I had no idea he was seeing other women. I definitely don’t believe our 20+ years were real now.
@robertestep7440 Жыл бұрын
@@tinawalker5335 well this was a year ago. i have been going to therapy for a year and i was diagnosed with NPD over the last summer.. and were back together and i have gotten better. like when i act out in rage or narcissistic ways it takes longer to get like that instead of a week or day its lasting months so i have alot longer peace... did i cheat physically no but she believes watching porn is cheating so i would watch it all of the time. did i truly love her yes cause i wouldn't have put myself in therapy. now it took her 5 years to finally get across that i was being a narcissist.. i cant love her the way she wants me to sometimes for some reason i don't always feel my emotions lol. like love and things i can only do what i think love looks like. i love her in my own way of how i think it is.. like for example for the past week shes not been feeling good and had been mean. but instead of being there for her i really feel as if she doesn't want me no more.. now if i am aware of this why haven't i been there for her already well that was Monday all the way up to thursday and 1am we finally talked it out and instead of raging on her i took a drive before i and just talked to myself out loud in tbe car and did all the hollering i needed to do like a crazy person lol but she was able to tell me her side and was able to open up my eyes how i was doing her cause i thought it was just her being a jerk to me. so last night i didn't fight with her like i would've last year and i let her say what she needed to say and i listen and i gave her the love back now it took me 4 days to finally see what i was lacking or maybe doing wrong.. back in the day i wouldn't even consider myself in the wrong at all didi feel her pain in all this hell no... that is one thing i do love about being a narcissist i don't have empathy now i do for my kids sorry i was all over the place with this message best thing i can say is try to get him into therapy. therapy works if is a true narcissist this is going to take alot of convincing i only went cause i truly don't like when people says i can't do anything or tell me what to do narcissist can't change blah blah watch
@robertestep7440 Жыл бұрын
@@tinawalker5335 If you wanna talk more about it. my name is robbie estep "i am Optimus prime prime of the Optimus" is on my wall and my wife and kids are in the background i live in Wv i maybe able to help you out
@tinawalker5335 Жыл бұрын
@@robertestep7440 wow thank you for the insight. I’m going to work on getting him to therapy but he will say yes then change his mind and say he doesn’t need anyone to fix him
@robertestep7440 Жыл бұрын
@@tinawalker5335 you're welcome. it took my wife 5 years and leaving me for me to finally go and get into therapy. cause i would always change my mind and say things like "i don't need to change and there was nothing wrong with me"
@tickety-bootoyou18502 жыл бұрын
Note to self: Stay silent.
@lovelylife18962 жыл бұрын
Bingo 💯
@kamarieshines2 жыл бұрын
I have been so strategic in dealing with this person and his family. I have taken several intentional steps in order to handle this situation. My situation is incredibly delicate as I have 5 month old twins with this person. He has been emotioally abusive, not to mention reckless and impulsive; clearly not safe to have the babies for any amount of time. I have learned so much about myself navigating this situation. Be well stay strong 🙏🏻
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
stay empowered!
@eyeswideopen822 жыл бұрын
Dido Lunar! Hang in there. Very wild and unpredictable ride. Feels like playing chess game to me. May take days to make the right move.
@redafro3212 жыл бұрын
Lunar Mystic, congratulations! on your twin newborns. I’m keeping you & your babies in prayer bc it can get tricky. IDK how long you’ve been with your Narc. but use all of Lee’s advice to protect yourself/babies emotionally or otherwise. Avoid speaking trigger words that can cause him to create PETTY! arguments/upset/angry. Narcs are impulsive ppl & will drain you with nonsense communication. When you realize he’s exhibiting nonsensical behavior just politely tell him “NO❗️I’M NOT DOING THIS WITH YOU AGAIN/ANYMORE I WON’T ENTERTAIN THIS BEHAVIOR❗️" SPEAK FIRMLY & LOOK DIRECTLY AT HIM TOO❗️ THIS DEFENSE TACTIC WILL HAULT THE BACK & FORTH ARGUING THAT THE NARC WANTS BC YOUR NOT ENGAGING. The Narc can’t argue with a person who won’t entertain/tolerate the empty argument. The Serenity prayer scripture states “God grant me the wisdom to know the difference, to change the things I can & not what I can’t”.Ask God for his protection & give thanks to God daily.
@kelligray18482 жыл бұрын
Make sure the word “reasonable “ is in your custody agreement. “Reasonable visitation”, that way you can say a visit simple and as to reasonable at the time.
@kamarieshines2 жыл бұрын
Thank you all for the support! It means so much in a world where I felt alone for months.. thankfully not years. It's coming up on 2 years since we met. Thanks to KZfaq channels like Dr. Ramani, and Lee, along with guidance from spirit and a whole lot of love for myself I was able to see what was happening in the first year (already pregnant) 😬. The twins have turned out to be the biggest blessing 🙌 this relationship helped me grow and evolve in ways i never could have without the level of pressure it put on me to evolve or be miserable! We split up Christmas eve. I've started learning guitar, doing yoga and qigong and I'm starting to write and tell my story. This community is so full of healing and strong beautiful warriors ❤
@margaritales99722 жыл бұрын
Yes, many of them obsess with you if you reject them. I think it's best to let them believe they discarded you. PS happy birthday to your lovely daughter! 🎂
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
Yes! Thank you!
@deadroomeyes8965 Жыл бұрын
Who they are after the relationship is sometimes even more indicative of what kind if person they are.
@Red-Iceberg Жыл бұрын
I ghosted my ex-narc, I MOVED , it eventually got back to me that he went around to my friends and hovered. I did not respond in any type of way it's been 3 years in May😊
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
😞🙏🏽🙏🏽
@SahulkaBrooks2 жыл бұрын
Took two years to divorce the narcissist. We didn’t even have kids. They just used the court system to antagonize me and get supply. I just kept paying my lawyer, remained no contact and responded to nothing except through the lawyer as needed.
@pratibhameena3942 Жыл бұрын
It hurts to even realise that my ex might have used me or got in a relationship with me just to show his ex who discarded him. Everyday I'm learning new things about what has happened to me. How sad can it get!!!
@juice_wink Жыл бұрын
It gets sadder. However, it also eventually gets better. ❤
@kristinej.41822 жыл бұрын
Your videos are so helpful! My ex is still hoovering sending flowers and calling from unknown numbers and I have gone no contact but he still finds clever ways to ask me to “just have a conversation with him.” What I don’t understand is that I found out a month after the discard that he posted on some social media that he is engaged to his new supply. So why is he hoovering me, the old supply when he’s engaged to the new supply whom he cheated on me with prior to the discard? Also what angers me is that he is telling his family and friends that I was the cause of all the problems. And I wish I could let people know the truth but like you said, Lee, it’s not worth my time with people that don’t matter to me and those who don’t care about me anyways. The ones who are really concerned about me will not believe the lies and ask me for the truth. Thank you, Lee. Your videos are great! 👍🏻
@NMTDelightfulMusic2 жыл бұрын
Triangulation. Your no contact is not working. Keep watching videos
@amallee3729 Жыл бұрын
I discarded him then he blocked me everywhere within a hour after my departure. I have been no contact Since then and he never reaches out either. I just moved on as no time for someone who just played games in life. I am sure he can get new supply anytime as he has money but she will just go through the same thing at the end. I didn’t even get closure as I wanted to save my breath. He really needs to go for therapy for saving himself. Thank you so much for this channel to provide many valuable information so educational. Greatly appreciated.
@tamstra282 жыл бұрын
Let the Narcissist convict themselves- it will happen!!!
@gaelablake26922 жыл бұрын
Yessss Mr. Lee!!! Just gray rock. A wise person once said, “if a wise man argues with fool, witnesses cannot tell which one is the fool.” -unk
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯
@devpal47182 жыл бұрын
You’ve helped me better understand my father and my ex girlfriend. God bless you. You are NOT a demon. That is others taking frustrations at others out on you. Stoked to buy your book.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
Glad I could help
@SassyDiva532 жыл бұрын
Whoever said he is a demon probably is a narcissist themself!
@mdriggins8322 жыл бұрын
I really want to thank you for this post. I was discarded by my ex posting on FB that he just got married. (This happened a couple of years ago). My response to him was wishing him well with his new life. I erased and blocked him and people we knew together. 6 months passed and he called my teenage son. My son deleted and blocked him. I was livid but I kept no contact. He reached out again this past Thanksgiving as if we never missed a beat. (He called on a different number). When I found out it was him, I kept the conversation short and surface. I didnt asked any questions about him at all. Close to the new year he reached out again and asked me could he call me. I said no. Since then, I haven't heard anything more outside of a few suspicious friend requests. You are so right not being reactivate and staying no contact is important for survival.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
stay empowered
@90stype20 Жыл бұрын
Wow. How did you heal ? Did you have pain after the discard? You sound so strong. What was your process. Asking for myself
@heavenlyprecog232 жыл бұрын
Ive met too many narcissists in my life 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️I wish they would sit somewhere and HEAL!!!
@utube77762 жыл бұрын
Feel your pain girl 🙌🏻
@trevor_mason_reed2 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@desertflowerz892 жыл бұрын
Don’t be “friends”. Issa trap
@debramarshall42932 жыл бұрын
I just end the relationships too. No explanation to them or anything. Whether it's a family member friend. Whoever. I don't have time for idle small talk and chitty chat. I'm just done. They already know what they did to you and how they treated you. So what is there to talk about. Be Done. Oh and Don't answer the Phone.
@suzanne4396 Жыл бұрын
I also just ended it, 4 days ago. Got my resolve up, said a few words then blocked and ghosted him. This has happened, hmmm, maybe 8 times in just over 8 years. THIS TIME it's the final one. ... it's funny, the last evening we spent together, he'd had a few drinks and repeatedly told me " You don't know me, there's another side to me, you don't know who I am." Yeah, I do. I know EXACTLY who he is. And WHAT he is.... A malignant-covert Neglectful narc. The trilogy of pathology.
@lonestarvixen12742 жыл бұрын
I rejected and he's OBSESSED with calling EVERYONE in my family and spreading lies about me
@trevor_mason_reed2 жыл бұрын
Seriously tho, my narc loves to spoof call my family members, it's a freaking hassle, I swear ://
@samwilliams17862 жыл бұрын
Going through the same
@Creolemamiii2 жыл бұрын
This is happening to me right now. He antagonizes me all the time but he literally broke up with me...when did they stop calling your family?
@sdavis1582 жыл бұрын
Not fighting for s#!t. There is nothing worth preserving. He made that 100% clear! And go ahead and flaunt the new supply. I will tell you both God Bless and walk off happy. Now runtellthat!
@blen740 Жыл бұрын
My narc cut me off from everybody I knew. Told me it would be to my advantage if I didn't talk to people; that they'd only keep me in the bad place I was already in. Didn't know that narcs (some) find it easier to manipulate you when you're locked up and there's no one to help you make sense of their madness! There's no end to their tricks. All they want is what's good for them....
@donnahale10112 жыл бұрын
I actually kept tell my ex that he could not give me what I needed so he stopped hovering me...which I'm GLAD
@ms.affytheehumbledempress14712 жыл бұрын
Sorry sis … but he will be back 😖
@sassy46201 Жыл бұрын
True. Silence silences the smear campaign.
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
💯
@allies9772 жыл бұрын
Keep doing what you're doing.😎😉💯
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I will
@BaddGrandMa Жыл бұрын
This explains 🤔 alot . My ex best friend was a narc and I didn't understand why she was so mad . She did everything you are saying .
@kelligray18482 жыл бұрын
You are helping soooooo much Lee. God bless you.from Alaska.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏽
@shanabishop67982 жыл бұрын
You know you have NPD and you are dealing with it the best way you can. So tell your haters to kiss your a## Lee. Good video by the way.❤️Best wishes to you and your family 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Thank you
@Authenticallyathena Жыл бұрын
My mother and ex husband are both narcissists and this is true for them regardless. Narc mother lost it when I ran away and got married. She literally started calling nonstop. I couldn't even enjoy my first week being married because she was trying to get my attention constantly. Left my ex husband he randomly showed up everywhere I was. My narc mother told him where I was knowing full well he abused me physically and emotionally for 6 years but mom told him where I was. She hated I married him but had no problem working to keep him in the family when I left. He would call constantly, started telling me about dating this girl or sleeping with that one, then tried to beg me for sex at the same time. Told me these girls were the best things that ever happened to him I guess hoping to make me jealous. Failed, I was done.
@Jynx997 ай бұрын
Ive been a follower of your videos since 2021. Ive watched this video before. Watching it again after coming to this awareness and going back a year later and being stuck in the cycle again (we "coparent") it hits different. Since this last discard hes degraded me if front of our children, and has given his worst perspective of me to the relative i live with, causing drama, strife, and tension in me and our childrens place of living to the point we might be kicked out. Saying the same things to our mutual friends. The smear hes made on my name is crazy.
@MentalHealness7 ай бұрын
stay strong
@sdavis1582 жыл бұрын
Ah, the good ol smear tactic. I walk on the wild side, I laugh in the face of danger, ha ha ha ha! But for real, you have great advice. If you aren't paying my bills, feeding me or sharing my pillow, I care not what you have to say about me. Not my business.
@rayray79062 жыл бұрын
Hey Lee.🙋🏽♀️ How the fuck are you today? You have help me take back so much power that I gave away. THANK YOU!! CANT WAIT TO BUY YOUR BOOK. Is it close to completion?
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
COMING SOON! Thank you
@selinastewart9043 Жыл бұрын
After being with someone for nearly 10 yrs and their ex is a malignant narc I couldn’t take it anymore…. The levels they will go to to break your relationship dwn is unreal but equally flipping dangerous! We didn’t have all the information which is out in the public domain as it is now to help us navigate through this! But now that I have I had to make a tough decision and leave my partner. They have 4 children together I’ve seen how she has used them to no end to ensure she can still influence the relationship to the point where their eldest child now 22 smashed my car window on his fathers birthday when I went to visit him whilst he was unwell. This is after years of abuse I suffered just because he tried to move after her. They can become dangerous so for those planning to leave, move on in life and have a better future tap into all of the information u have available to u because u cannot have a great future until u have skilled urself up to know what might be coming ur way. Breaking up is the first step but moving forward In life, that u will have to fight for! Skill up and do not ever under estimate the lengths they will go to to keep their resource supply! Good luck y’all x
@RRthee12 жыл бұрын
OMG. “I’m just asking for a conversation” happened here. 😩😂
@kittie4201x Жыл бұрын
Wow! I can show u the texts today and yesterday. Holy Cow its like u read the messages. Idek how to act.
@echo77592 жыл бұрын
So glad he is too tech illiterate to engage online. I have seen how he 'works the room' when he is in person with others. Heaven forbid, if he could do it behind a keyboard!
@lanicedavis49362 жыл бұрын
My favorite Narc...
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽 I appreciate it
@over-comer Жыл бұрын
Have you ever done a video on narcissist versus narcissist? Or narcissistic triangulation on both sides. Ever encountered this?
@madalinadelia2 жыл бұрын
I think my smear campaign may have just started. I am scared to go online and see what he has said about me. I isolated my self JUST TO NOT SEE/HEAR the audacities he says/posts about me. If no one can get to me to bring them to my knowledge, I can go through it and come out the other side safely. What I don't know, cannot hurt me. That's my thought process.
@trevor_mason_reed2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that. So far, my narc hasn't say anything "too crazy" besides talked crap behind my back. Figures. He's just mad cuz I left him and I didn't wanna put up with the abuse anymore. :/
@madalinadelia2 жыл бұрын
@@trevor_mason_reed I am sorry 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 but we both done what is right for us. And that is to take our power back and stand in our truth. No looking back 🤗🤗🤗
@trevor_mason_reed2 жыл бұрын
@@madalinadelia thank you! you're too kind-hearted! 🥰
@1badombre82 Жыл бұрын
Oh god. Yeah until the court supine gets served
@lunareclipse2553 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for all your videos! You rock. I instinctually did all of these things and am glad for it.
@abarksdale272 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday to Baby Girl! 🎂🍨💞💛💞
@marks57402 жыл бұрын
My ex just kicked me out after 17 years and two children, I suffered badly with depression during Lockdown. I had narcissist behaviour. But mostly miserable , I acted crazy when she said she had enough and wouldn't take me back . Wished I got help for my mental health before it was to late ! She is lovely and I didn't appreciate her .. Really fuxked up my family by being dickk head !
The story you told about your friend, sounds eerily familiar to my situation (me being the one he fake married). Wouldn't be surprised if it were. 🤔
@divinereflections56572 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣...Yes they become obsessed...MY GOD I have one who simply won't leave me alone...he lost his job..apartment and slept with my neighbor...NONE OF IT WORKED I DIDNR CARE💯...he is STILL obsessing!...Im.movinf to a whole new CITY
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
😳😳😳😳
@empress98572 жыл бұрын
Ikr that’s right same here now they want us to help support and give in shid let them find someone else eventually they are I’m over the Hoover ain’t got nothing to offer but cute looks swags good with her hands Sex and company Chile please it ain’t worth it…
@shwonbrooks38022 жыл бұрын
My ex just sends text messages. Gm. Have a nice day lol It feels so good 😊 getting my power back.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@kimberly92072 жыл бұрын
I feel like I am the narcissist a lot of the time. It’s so confusing.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
🤔🤔
@officially_stellarose67512 жыл бұрын
Friends family coming into play from what the narc says after discarding them or them you.. those people are called flying monkeys...their soldiers who are their enablers ect
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
🎯🎯
@koncreteroze8102 Жыл бұрын
My sons Father is a Narc, has smear campaign me to 🔥🔥and back again. He did this for years and continues to do so. My son is grown now and refuses to speak to his Father because of this. The majority of the time I remain silent and let him talk..🙄🙄
@valeriehuffman96192 жыл бұрын
Mine threatened to firebomb my trucks and sent me pictures on xmas with the text saying here are those pictures you wanted baby and they were pics of him and his amazing new supply he unblocked me just to send them I replied with laughing emojis and I blocked him .( I already blocked him off everything else) I will be filing for a divorce myself because obviously he never filed like I was told . Anyway thankyou for helping me give no reaction to his games he even brought his new supply over late at nite to try to visit our daughter and all I said was we are not doing this closed the door and he left! Thankyou for all your help Lee
@shama9279 Жыл бұрын
I am in a smear campaign now. I am letting him make a fool of himself. I don't care about status or reputation or what others think. I know myself and my boundaries. I know the commands of our Lord and will not move. My ex is trying so hard, bless his heart.. and yet failing. People know me, and know I am blunt and have little patience for stupidity. I am not hurt he is gone, actually glad. Sometimes you just have to walk away.
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
stay strong
@shama927911 ай бұрын
@@MentalHealness appreciate it, thank you. I always stay strong walking with the Lord, with Jesus leading my path there is not a mountain I can not climb. I wish you well on your journey. 1. Always think of others before self. 2. Always have complete honesty on all things. 3. Jesus is the way to a life we wish for, peace. 4. Never move from boundaries. 5. Fear no man or what they can do. Judgment will be the Lord's. 6. Never put up with manipulation. 8. Do no harm to others. 9. Never take what isn't yours. 10. Be mindful of one's own behavior. These are my rules for myself and family. These rules are in place as well as the Lord's words. This is strength. Just think it over. These things have made my family strong people, who value truth over fantasy. Let the Lord guide you. I see you are wanting a change, and it is possible. Through Christ, all things are possible. Peace be with you in all you do.
@teesahurt207411 ай бұрын
REJECTION DEFINITELY BREEDS OBSESSION. STALKING ETC ETC ETC. PEROID. OMG.
@empress98572 жыл бұрын
Someone commented it quotes ‘ I ran into my ex narc and their new supply/back burner and they looked just like me when I was with her .. LIKE A GODDMAN FOOL 😂😂😂 Fact 💯 🎯 Just to give y’all a laugh 😹
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
😅😅
@kimmcmillan9886 Жыл бұрын
😃😃😃 good one
@alexanndraarmijo2497 Жыл бұрын
Please have a one on one with me because I need to talk to you! How do I do that
@barbarasanders39882 жыл бұрын
For now I don’t hear from my ex narcissist it’s been a month I am still no contact. I am glad no Hovering.
@lovemywife6982 жыл бұрын
I want the mf to HOVER !!! I hope im haunting TF out that mf! Let every waking THOUGHT!!! be CONSUMED by MY MFN MEMORY 😱!!! 😂🤣😅😆 hell yea...am i wrong to wanna see the torture invoked in them😳?🤭
@jynx7254 Жыл бұрын
bruh im pretty sure all of this happened to me but ive been just ignoring and reporting to the police and not speaking to them, only to my lawyer.
@jillallcock2 жыл бұрын
HEY...u r the 💣💥. So refreshing. ...dealing w this ..... 🪖😚🚬🙏 BEAN
@suzanne4396 Жыл бұрын
No, he won't hoover, won't pursue or chase Me. The words I wrote to him, the things I said will prevent him from any attempts to get me back. ... and that was MY intent. To keep him away. PS. And he wanted it to happen ...
@tammyfitzgerald5336 Жыл бұрын
Little D oh oh it hit him so so low 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@tamstra282 жыл бұрын
Happened to me!! After 9 years I finally called the DBag out and left!!!!! Thank God he’s out of my life!
@ChevyC-jo9pw2 жыл бұрын
I love my kids and I miss them dearly but one thing I have learned is that if I contact her during her stages of rage I will pay the ultimate price. All I want to do is see my kids pick them up on Friday after school drop them off Monday at school would think that would just be a simple task 🤦♂️ But like I told you another videos she's gotten no contact because in the past I've chased her down gone to her family's house is because I want my kids but I have learned my lesson, last time she tried to put bogus charges on me because I used to be an Xbox or I was a golden gloves and I have two charges for assault they were both set aside but she knows a third charge puts me in prison so I have to be extremely cautious of her
@anncrosby61572 жыл бұрын
Don't say that Lee 🙄2 hoover attempts and I told him I am not going back he lost the plot then went suddenly calmed down call me in a few months and don't make the same mistakes you made with me 🤣he is totally on another planet he threatened my life last year the smear campaign it continues feck it I don't care now anymore he knows and I know what went on behind closed doors take care Lee 💯
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
take care Ann!
@emmaharper8602 жыл бұрын
My ex kept talking to other womem etc, had enough, So the next morning he came up with a good narrative and post this on f/B "his truck hydroplane,my wife cheating etc" that was his cover up and how he narratived his lies. Sad how it was believable because that don't see his true self. Only the one's who lived it. Glad I'm gone🥰
@brendaperson38902 жыл бұрын
She recently tried this the once upon a friend of mine, recently told me she's engaged to another CHICK, 🙃 I said good for her, that ship with me has sailed. Then, she texted me about the anniversary of her mother's death and how she felt my loss around this time of the winter season. Lee, I never responded . No. rym of reason, girl. Bye. Thanks, Lee, on point. She uses her Grand son to temp me or punish me I PRAY for my lil friend ,I once use to fall for it but I just let it go
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
oh my goodness. stay strong
@pandariver9233 Жыл бұрын
My Christian mother thinks she’s a good person, got baptized two years ago and still calls her passive husband names. He’s my stepdad and she’ll call him stupid and tell him to shutup and she constantly speaks over him, she tells him to shutup anytime he trys to get a word in, now my brothers picked up her narcissism traits, she abused us as kids and that resulted in some damage, im positive my brothers are narcissistic because of the way they act, the lack of accountability and the insensitive insults they’ll throw at me or one another unprovoked, they lie, steal and manipulate to get what they want as if they’re 5 years old, and my gosh the way they treat their girlfriends are even worse, also how argumentative they are and how mean they treat me, each other, friends and strangers. They treat people closest to them the worst, brothers are alcoholics and get into fights at bars or inside of our home or in feomt of our house, they fight anywhere, they have no class, when it comes to basic decency its like they have to be taught because they never were. because of his pride it won’t allow him to walk away from arguments, my brothers and same with my mom too love loyalty even in times where they’re wrong, they want me to lie to hide and cover up for their bad behaviour, the want me to be loyal to a default. Yesterday I removed both my brothers from my Facebook to teach myself i can forgive them from a distance, its not my job to “fix” what went wrong and even if i forgive them doesn’t mean They deserve to be in my life, they don’t care how what they do effects me so Idc to be in contact with these cold hearted soul draining vampires. They degrade their girl friends to the point where if it were my daughter id tell her to get a restraining order and document everything, they’re extremely abusive. I can say the destruction of our family and my brothers personalities would be from the relentless verbal and physical, emotional psychological neglect/abuse they endured by our mother, she’s worse than anyone I’ve even known, she’s evil, shes break body parts on her children if she could get away with it. Thats the type of persom she is. She Could care less about how her abuse effected her children, she created addicts, buying them liquor throughout their teenage years, she sabotaged her children and grows up denying it all. Now my brothers abuse me and their girlfriends and lie about it, i blocked my mom and brothers cause they scapegoat me and they deserve to stay blocked, she’s so delusional to think she’d have access to my Children before she gets help, id never let her anywhere near my children, she’s a devil.
@paristhompson4312 жыл бұрын
My daughter really went through somethings with her Ex and two yrs later he still try to hold on
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
🥺🥺🥺
@tammyfitzgerald5336 Жыл бұрын
I have deleted all people in my life close to any negative
@sdavis1582 жыл бұрын
No second chance when you lie to get me arrested when I'm 4 months pregnant and I spent 12 hours in jail with no food or water...good luck getting someone to fix their lips to give THAT another chance...
@lynnwashington7355 Жыл бұрын
I'm going through it now and just when I think I'm through the storm they hit again. Same sadistic script more actors
@mikekrueger3262 Жыл бұрын
I broke up with her 5 days ago. I have not heard a word from her.
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽
@mikekrueger3262 Жыл бұрын
@Mental Healness maybe she thinks iam going to contact her in a day or so. I have never done this to her before. We she sees iam not contacting her,she might break the silence
@marshamartin76669 ай бұрын
I broke up with my narcissist ex six days ago and I'm concerned. He keeps waiting outside my home around 2:00 in the morning when I come home from work, so I have to chat with him. I keep blocking every number he's calling/texting from and even all his emails. I just don't know what is left to do. I don't want to get the authorities involved. 😢
@alexandriasimone61592 жыл бұрын
Don’t cough to hard that’s how my lung collapsed anyway good vid
@alesiayw2 жыл бұрын
😮😳 New fear unlocked
@kamarieshines2 жыл бұрын
Wait what? Is that a thing?
@alexandriasimone61592 жыл бұрын
@@kamarieshines yes my left lung collapsed I cough too hard and put a hole in my lung it’s called spontaneous pnenouthax I spelled it wrong but yea
@kamarieshines2 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness that is absolutely horrible. I hope you are doing better healing vibes 🙏🏻
@vickymoore25202 жыл бұрын
Mr. Lee I love following you , you are very informative . I find it a little ironic that you and my ex narc are very much into Tony Robbins who I think is a good book tapes etc. 🤔 Why is that give me some insight ! Tony Robbins was also in the movie shallow Hal , besides my ex narc bbeing a chameleon he was a whole lot like shallow Hal ..
@barbarasanders39882 жыл бұрын
My daughter was in relationship with a narcissist this person literally call and text her from other numbers, watches her home. He said the same thing trying to use the kids,
@empressb4442 жыл бұрын
Refusing to believe he's no longer in control... in his mind he owns her, but her boundaries shatters his illusion which causes him to continue to obess in order to continue to feed his delusional narrative. She needs to get a protection order against him and only communicate only when it comes to the kids by text or email.
@pagemastrogiovanni91952 жыл бұрын
When does the obsession end? Don't at some point they move on?!!!!
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
it really depends
@mermaids20302 жыл бұрын
Maybe when they find someone else …..they think is better then us …they Thinks have something better then us , like money 💰, looks better etc , I think maybe they move , but for how long time….. I don’t know 🤷♀️ hard for knowing 😞😞😞
@stephaniecanepa4655 Жыл бұрын
I find this contradicts another video where he says narcs hate being exposed. Should a person not expose the narc? I feel like they would deserve it.
@teesahurt20749 ай бұрын
I will tell you this. Exposing the Narc can lead to serious injury up to and including death. PEROID. This. Is not a game. It is BEST TO JUST DISAPPEAR . NO CONTACT. And if he /she Hoovers job or anything. Then you know it’s time to relocate PEROID….
@starrblayze2 жыл бұрын
Great vid but Lee that cough...I'm going to need you to not. Just not!😒🤣
@hisenseks2 жыл бұрын
Yeah,my father manipulated me to get back to my mother. He asked me to convince her to get married to him, so that he could stay in the country (he is foreigner). Unforunately I did it, because I thought that he is changed and that he realy needs help. Ended up, that it wasn't necessary, he just wanted to gain his control ower her back.
@smarternow2 жыл бұрын
Ok. Reality for me. I am barely treading water now. I Am in the middle of an annulment! 16 years knowingly them. I am worried about my safety
@trevor_mason_reed2 жыл бұрын
Just get a restraining order, it'll save you time. Plus, it'll be on their records too!
@smarternow2 жыл бұрын
@@trevor_mason_reed I have one called an Order of Protection here but my trust level is zero. He cannot carry or buy guns. That’s why he had lost it…
@brimakaylaxox Жыл бұрын
Just went no contact again after telling my ex what he has done to me and also I gave in to him triggering and he got the reaction he wanted but have not heard from him in two days
@PeggysCorner Жыл бұрын
Lee will he come back for round 2 and 3 with the calling social media trashing. He just did that . Tried to post about a new girl.. she ran.. will he start trashing me again.
@makenziepolston12202 жыл бұрын
True 👍
@svjetlanabrezo3342 жыл бұрын
What if they discard you, but you don't show ANY kind of sadness, or not any move to reach them, not react? And, after they really work hard to SHOW you they discard you, you still not react at all?
@blackroomzar29702 жыл бұрын
I did this
@svjetlanabrezo3342 жыл бұрын
@@blackroomzar2970 and?
@blackroomzar29702 жыл бұрын
I stopped interacting completely cause I realized my feelings don't matter and his not taking accountability of his actions. Stopped wasting my time
@svjetlanabrezo3342 жыл бұрын
@@blackroomzar2970 that is the thing - YOU stopped..that is totaly different then when THEY stop ;)
@fireice61662 жыл бұрын
Zero contact 👊
@ryanreagan60732 жыл бұрын
I waited until the very first smirk immediately was gone trashed her exposed her everything she did backfired then her bad karma kicked in she got seven and a half years just for being a lousy person after a month of no contact I came back for a couple over the top days of Love bombing she provoked a reaction she was dumped again then she went to prison her first 18 months were solitary confinement due to the covid where she came off of fentanyl heroin methadone all by herself with nothing to do but read my letters that were strategically written to induce self-reflection
@mandycandy311 Жыл бұрын
Now, you sound like the narcissistic. A normal person would not try to inflict even more pain of another is already suffering. You might need some self-reflection yourself. Sounding pretty vindictive!
@tomikoeaton97862 жыл бұрын
Correct
@lauriem96582 жыл бұрын
Next time you have a cough like that, chew 2 peppermint Altoids. It helps, for real.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@csdjcuvr84832 жыл бұрын
Mine is ok with me leaving him.
@indiadelon87712 жыл бұрын
Mine is too, well that's how he's acting. He's glad he gets to do what he wants now he said.
@erikar.54722 жыл бұрын
My ex tried using the kids against me after I left him .m
@dawnserrano737 Жыл бұрын
Blked 7yrs..no contact..and he pays rent..in My House now..
@myrnagordon3409 Жыл бұрын
Smear campaign he called my job. and he said horrible things about me and guess what I got fired 😢.
@jadeshouseoflashes Жыл бұрын
I’m a very clumsy person. I’m an Aries wat do u expect? 😅well yesterday I accidentally left the gate for the dogs unlatched and the dog got ahold of some pretty insignificant things. A hat and a duster. Anyways he didn’t speak to me all night after he called me an effing idiot. Well after 24 hours he barely started talking to me again. He alienated me from everyone so I’ve been so lonely. Well we were getting ready to go eat and talk and he found a burn spot on the carpet where I put an incense in a candle and it fell out. I know thats dangerous. I’ve never accidentally almost burned the carpet or anything really. Wtf?! Why?! Anyways he slammer the door on my face and told me to not talk to him for the rest of the night. I can fix the spot like new and I told him that. But alas he wants to be mad at me. He’s probably cheating but idc. I just wanna be somewhere where I’m not in the presence of an enemy. I’m so lonely. 😢 I’m not going to talk to him. He can go to whoever it is that’s making him over react to me and my mistakes. I can’t live like this. I’d rather be dirt poor on the streets.
@sweetbabycherae38172 жыл бұрын
I’d like a one on one.
@shakirasavage74342 жыл бұрын
Me too
@rithas1802 Жыл бұрын
Hi Lee. How can I get a narcissist to agree to go to therapy and become a better version of themselves like you.
@tammyfitzgerald5336 Жыл бұрын
Never it’s the devil 😈 u will never change this person
@TheBossLady85 Жыл бұрын
You can't
@smarternow2 жыл бұрын
I know when my soon to be ex Narc husband gets his FINAL papers he will make my life hell.
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽
@palmgirl5712 жыл бұрын
What if they discarded you? After he disappeared, he tried to call a cpl x but I blocked everything, no hoover?
@MentalHealness2 жыл бұрын
HIM CALLING A COUPLE TIMES IS A HOOVER
@django22642 жыл бұрын
I discarded my ex 3 months ago, no contact for 3 months. Since then she has stopped me seeing my kids, recruited my family for smearing and flying monkeys and has a new supply. I'm in strict no contact moving on happy.
@sashanoel1672 жыл бұрын
Yes, no contact has given me some amount of peace. I don't have to worry about him calling or texting.