This video inspired me to write a book! It will be called; "Stay single, trust no one, avoid large crowds, and dedicate the rest of your life to life long learning and personal development." Kinda long but has a nice ring to it!

I had a friend like this in college. She would treat me like her best friend, then find a new friend, ignore me, and blame me for something. I would pull away and she would love bomb me by apologizing, making excuses for her behavior, and buying me things or inviting me places. She continued yanking me around for about a year when I finally said enough. She would contact me constantly after this, but I ignored her. I felt bad because I was always taught to be patient and kind but she was toxic. She finally gave up a few months later. Her behavior toward me was abusive. I hope people can identify these behaviors through Dr. G’s helpful videos and get out of a harmful relationship, romantic or not.

It's a pity that Kimberly didn't put all of that energy and planning into actually being a good mom.

The fact that she was a nurse is scary too .

I remember seeing the story of Kimberly Cargill on two different reality crime shows. During the penalty phase of her trial one of her younger sons testified that "there was never a day when he wasn't afraid." It was heartbreaking. That woman was a monster.

It’s horrible what happened to Cherry but her bravery in standing up for those kids might have honestly saved their lives. Good on her.

I've worked with a mother like this in my field of work. Very black and white thinking. She could be the nicest most loving person but once her partner or child threatened to pull their love away from her, it got ugly. Quick. She couldn't control herself. Very sad.

"Poor decision maker of the year", that hit home with me Dr. Grande. Life is a learning process and I was a slow learner.

The fact that people can look into incredibly obvious cases like this and come out thinking, "nah, I'm still pretty sure she's innocent and telling the truth" is downright mind-boggling. It is beyond evident that this woman spent her entire life lying and manipulating people, but then when she finally snaps and murders someone, these people somehow decide to overlook all of the facts and assume she just happens to be telling the truth this time around? I don't get it.

Thank you for having such a soothing voice Dr Grande. I can still listen to your videos while having a migraine. ❤️ Sounds like a tumultuous case.

I have ‘BPD’ & I WISH I had been Diagnosed sooner!! I went through several erratic Relationships but, I have been in Counseling for about 15 years now~I can ALWAYS see the EPIC mistakes in my rear view mirror….Luckily❤️ My Psych-Nurse Practitioner (She’s Wonderful:) gave me the BEST advise!! She told me “I am NOT defined by my past.” ‘THIS’😘 Therapy, Exercise, Antidepressants & being Mindful has made such a difference!! I still have ‘BPD Depression & PTSD’ (VIOLENT Childhood) but?? I can have AWESOME Days, A Good Life and MAKE The Right Choices!! Today I was Sad but please know? Your Videos are Fantastic, Your Voice is Calming, Your Sarcasm is Epic & Your Podcasts bring a much needed light to the complexity of The Mind & The Soul🌿

This woman is scary. Knowing what her children endured, as well as anyone else in her life, is horrifying.

I like Grande’s videos about chaotic families bc I come from one. I bailed out of my crazy family and away from my destructive mother 40 years ago. Phew! These videos are great reminders for me of how well I’ve done despite those chaotic beginnings. What a horrible story this is. Horrible.

My ex-husband was diagnosed borderline personality after years of being told he was just bipolar (most psychiatrists thought because he was male he didn't have it, they never even considered it until our couples counseling) he had 8 of the 9 borderline traits and ranked high on the narcissist spectrum. After years of gaslighting and manipulation I finally got out of there but I realized as much as I went through that nobody knew went on behind closed doors I'm lucky I'm still here. These individuals on the more extreme side of the spectrum can be very dangerous. The time when the divorce was about to be finalized was the time I feared the most for revenge against me for whatever imagined slight he held or because he didn't want me to get away unscathed. And he was the one who initially asked for a divorce but weeks later after I moved out acted like I was the one who was doing this to him. I still sometimes will get a strange feeling and worry I will look over my shoulder to see him there but I don't constantly have to walk on eggshells anymore scared to do or say something or do nothing at all and set him off. So I can't even imagen what it was like for these poor kids with Kimberly and what they had to endure. And the poor woman she murdered.

"Romance has a way of clouding judgement!" This statement qualifies for entry into the "Understatement of the Year" Awards.

My maternal grandmother was borderline and always beat up my grandfather. I know it doesn't make it right, but they loved each other. They were married for forty eight years until her death. She was deeply flawed, but loved children and volunteered so much in her community to help kids. There was good in her, and there was real love between her and my grandfather. I miss them both so much.

can we just talk about how adorable it is to watch dr. grande cook dinner?! the little bunny salt and pepper shakers are killin me! 😂🥰

Terrifying that she was a mother and nurse.

"The relationship was characterized by violence" followed immediately by "they had a son" is so tragic.

"in order to win poor decision maker of the year, he decided to move in with kimberly" thank you for that killer one liner, dr grande

I never found listening to someone talk about Hello Fresh to be so relaxing until now. Another great video as always Dr. Grande.

It took me 3 X’s playing this case in order to keep track of all of the characters. I’m so sorry that anyone has fallen into this woman’s web.

I really hate it when parents weaponize their children to hurt their ex-partners, it’s selfish, irresponsible and immature.

Very sad. Cherry didn't deserve that. I feel bad for those boys too. I wonder what kind of childhood Kimberly had that she was repeating with her kids. No one wishes to grow up with mental illness nor be abused. I hope her sons are healing and happy now.

My mother had a violent form of BPS. My brother was the victim of the worst of her outrage, but my sister and I were obviously victimized as well. Borderlines are exceptionally good at convincing outsiders of their rationality and justifications. But behind closed doors, all decent behavior is off the table. Thank you for your concise profile of a violent and deceitful borderline mother. The catharsis is truly helpful.

I think of an unpredictable person like a popping fire. At times, it’s safe to be close and at other times a hot coal jumps out and burns you, but it’s hard to walk away because at least the fire is keeping you warm. You hang in there hoping the popping will stop, but there’s always another one right when you start to relax. How long should you sit there hoping/worrying? The answer seems to be different for everyone.

Nice, two Dr. Grande videos in one day. That's what I'm talking about.

"Romance has a way of clouding judgment" .. Excellent analysis Dr. Grande! Thank you! 🖤

OMG HE DID IT! I asked on a pervious video if he’d cover this case and he did! OMG I’m in total shock! THANK YOU SO MUCH DR. GRANDE! JOINING YOUR PATREON RIGHT NOW!

Love this channel. No frills. Just calm reason. And cacti.

I am very familiar with the borderline personality . They can ruin an entire family . No medication for a personality disorder ! Ugh they can be so nice but they will an do use everything you say against you . They twist your words . So unpredictable it's very sad

Is it just me who gets chills up my spine that people like this exist in society!! :((

How odd to be "inside" of this woman's thought processes. The "bottom" must have always been falling out for this woman. Deadly personality profile.

I will never be able to understand how a Mother or Parent's thinking and actions can become so twisted like this or other cases. Thanks for another quality video and cautionary tale Dr. G, you are incredible as always! 🤓🌵❤️

Pure evil is a way to describe Kimberly. I find learning about the human brain (limbic system) interesting along with psychology highly interesting in understanding human behavior. Thank you Dr. Grande for explaining the details of her personality.

What an absolute walking nightmare she is! Just spent her life leaving a path of destruction! It's beyond heartbreaking what her children had to suffer from their own mother, not to mention poor, innocent Cherry! Incredible video Dr. Grande, your work is always incredibly captivating! ♡ (Always love your Hello Fresh videos too) :)

Fails at becoming a nurse (the first time anyway) and still manages to kill a disabled person. I guess somewhere along the way someone decided oh yeah she’s totally fine to be a nurse. As a disabled person, I feel that’s typical, but it also pisses me off. 🤬

I live in the same town as she did and often pass the area of road where she killed that poor lady. So terrible.

"Romance has a way of clouding judgement." Dr. Grande, you've spoken words to live by as usual. Will you cover the death of Taylor Hawkins? I love the Foos and Nirvana. Of course, I didn't know Taylor personally, but my heart is heavy nevertheless. Maybe you can shed some light on addiction, and why some of us over identify with celebrities. As always, I'd appreciate your perspective. 👍

Wow! My past relationship with a woman was clearly BPD. Flying into a rage over imagined slights, with violence then begging for forgiveness, phew! Not in favor of capital punishment, Kimberly is right where she belongs.

OK so she picked the two worst jobs she could for herself mother and nurse? That is frightening. Thanks Dr. G Have a great week😉

It's amazing how many people are willing to give just about ANYBODY the benefit of a doubt

"A situation like this" Why yes, just last week my wife tried to kill me with the family automobile

I used to be close friends with someone who has borderline personality disorder until she chased me around the basement with a butter knife.

Borderline Personality Disorder is so destructive for the individual as well as those around him/her. It’s very sad. DBT can help if person really wants to change-but the person should be around otherwise “healthy” people.😔

In my opinion just hiring Cherry as your babysitter should be proof of neglect. (She was subject to seizures and needed a caregiver herself!). That Cherry was soooo much better than his actual mother is horrifying and heartbreaking.

I get a feeling of a pit in my stomach when I start Dr. Grande's videos and I already get a visceral response to the outrageous crap people do to each other. Especially when it involves children!

Dr. Grande, I thoroughly enjoy your analytical humorous sensitive precise analysis… Never once have you failed me! Thank you so much for your hard work and dedication.

Wow what a story. I like how you tell it with mostly “just the facts ma’am “ as I was instructed to in DBT.

Kimberly was very able to convince people that she was fine and they kept giving the kids back to her. Surprised she didn't end up killing any of those kids during her many violent attacks.

I just have to pause the video so say your Hello Fresh ad is so sweet. Just knowing there's a professional man taking care to methodically prepare his dinner makes me feel grounded.

I just might get hello fresh now! I love watching you cook, Dr Grande. omg is that weird? Did I just make it weird? 🤦🏻‍♀️. 😊

It would be very interesting to get a count of how many times people have been killed or injured because the police have returned them back to horrifically dangerous environments. I have hear this theme in a few stories. Especially with children. I forget the child's name, but one little boy ended up being killed by his mother and her boyfriend after the child services and the police refused to save him. The police officers told him he was a bad kid. So this 2nd grader dies because of all the adults who failed him.

Watching these videos makes me so much more tolerant of my own shortcomings.

It should REALLY be harder to become a nurse. My mother was in the ICU after major surgery and there was literally only one nurse that seemed sane out of all of them. There needs to be some kind of psychological screening.

Wouldn’t be surprised if Cherry’s disabilities factored into the murder. With BPD/NPD many can see people with disabilities as less than or even disposable. Truly despicable what happened to Cherry, especially given Kimberly had such a long history of violence it’s shocking she got away with so many aggressions for so long. An innocent person lost their life because this woman was devolving unchecked for so long…

How about don't beat and strangle your kids if you don't want to lose them? I don't understand how people can be this awful. That's why I am always watching these videos.

Wow!!! How could she keep finding boyfriends???

Wow! Great timing, I was in the middle of watching another video of yours when this one popped up!

This case is heart breaking. I’m diagnosed borderline, and prior to treatment I was volatile and hard to manage for anyone in my life. But I never physically hurt anyone, only emotionally. I would lash out from an extreme fear of abandonment. Post treatment I had amazing recovery from symptoms, no mood swings, no out burst, able to start and run my business the last 3 years. Married now, we talk all our disagreements out. Two fights in two years. I have a son with my husband, and I never raise my voice or hand to him. I adore him like the treasure of my life and hope to raise him in a way that he doesn’t suffer with a diagnosis. But cases like this, it’s hard to think I share a diagnosis with this person. I don’t let anyone in my life know of my diagnosis outside of my direct family. Just because I don’t want them to google it and find this..

This is actually one of my worst fears. You usually never know who people really are after it’s too late. Had a close call with some one super unstable, but luckily it never went any further than being sent incredibly manipulative texts

I always sit forward and concentrate on these videos. Feel as though I learn so much.

What great presentations EVERY TIME. Thank you very much. You're a fantastic story-teller.

“Romance has a way of clouding judgment,” is the understatement of the year!

"Divorce support group at the local church" 😄 How appropriate

I remember this case but your analysis & insights always bring new light to them. Happy Sunday. Thanks Dr G😊🤎🤎

Your sense of humor is great! As always, this was very interesting. Thank you.

What her son , Jamie, said about Kim in another documentary, was quite compelling! He doesn't call her his mom or call her Mom, he hates her!

I just came here from another channel. I’ll drop any great KZfaq video for a Grande video … it’s Grande time. Let’s do this.

Dr. Grande, you cook in such a gentle manner. If I compare it with how I cook, my way certainly looks barbaric next to yours.😰😣🙁 Excellent review as usual, I hope you have a great Sunday.❤️

Happy Sunday Dr. G! 🤍🇨🇦🌵

These videos are so, so educational and helpful. Watch enough of them and you see really clear and obvious warning signs, it's helpful to know when a situation could be dangerous and when it likely isn't. Thank you for these!

Do the Will and Chris situation please

DR. GRANDE...Did you see what happened at the Oscar's....we need your analysis!!!

I've been super busy recently and haven't kept up with the videos. So glad to be back! Always here to support our favorite content creator! 😊❤️

“…..perhaps SHE left it in the wall to remind HIM of what SHE is capable of…” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Many times no matter time of the day he uploads just wanna get cozy and hear terrific cases,so i suppose i am a weirdo my self💙

My ex-wife was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder about five years after we were married! It messed me up and the relationship was absolute hell. She did really good at hiding it until after we were married.

I am so glad to have this soothing voice when I get off work.

Dr. Grande, I don’t know how you keep a straight face. I am only halfway through your analysis and I am cracking up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I feel so sorry for her children. Traumatised for life by the person who should be their protector.

She became a nurse?!

Great episode!

Excellent analysis as always. Thank you so much Dr Grande.

Who else would watch "Cooking With Dr. Grande"

We’re doing an analysis of the Will Smith Chris Rock situation right??? I’m so interested in your take. Were they likely showing signs of an old feud that we never saw? Showing true colors? Was it ego? Show boating? Was Will Smith truly fine until Jada looked at him? Did he feel panicked into doing something? So many layers.

That's sad that the four brothers probably won't know each other. If I were Kimberly's former employer, I would absolutely thoroughly check out each and every one of her patients that were worse off than when they went in for treatment. What a dangerous human being.

Excellent analysis and spot-on diagnosis

Hello Dr Grande, would you please make a video on Will Smith and the psychological background that lead to him snapping and slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars?

Just spent 5 years with a Borderline, single for the rest of my life...........still reeling 2 years out. I cannot imagine living with this disorder, hell on earth and certainly for anyone in your orbit. If someone seems too good to be true, run like your hair is on fire. Trust your gut. You will never be the same otherwise.

I spent 4 years with a women diagnosed with BPD. It was the most stressful period of my life.

Thanks for putting me to sleep, Dr. Grande! Literally, your low-key voice helps me drift off. I also enjoy your videos when I'm wide awake. 😴😃

You should do a video speculating on the people that watch your videos.

Are you doing 2 videos a day now Dr Grande? your work so hard..do you ever sleep??????? Thank you for all your hard work and great content.

Your humor is Delightful. 👌

Another Dr. Grande video another needed reminder of how much I have my act together.

What a selfish, vile woman. At least CPS and courts took custody away from her on several occasions.

Hey, Doc, we got a slap we need analyzed.

Dr. Grande, I love watching your videos before bed. You can make the most horrible stories sound wonderful. You should do some sleep hypnosis tapes.

Good Afternoon, Dr. Grande. Trying to keep up. What a pleasant way to spend the evening after cleaning all day.