How and why is it a burdening to tell someone you are Trans? I thought you was living in your truth Raquel Willis 🤔 YOU SHOULD TELL A INDIVIDUAL YOU ARE TRANS AT THE MOMENT YOU MEET THEM. HOW ARE YOU DEMANDING ANYTHING WHEN YOU ARE HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF. STAND ON IT

I love this conversation!! I now feel like these conversations surrounding trans women should be had amongst intellectuals capable of handling the sensitivity topics like these require. Otherwise it tends to turn into a circus act further perpetuating stereotypes and ignorance.. Thanks Raquel and Toure!!

If I was those trans person , I wouldn’t waste anyone’s time & or energy with them taking me out on a date before I informed them of what I was born as. You can’t compare this to someone not informing you that they have children. It’s totally different. Sounds like this trans person is trying to low-key trick men into liking her

No need to tell men they’re trans but it’s necessary to disclose in the work place 🤷🏻‍♀️ make it make sense please

It is 1000% important for a Trans person to inform a man they are Trans before going on a date. Biologically a trans person can never offer certain things that a biological woman can offer. A man should be provided the choice up front to determine the route they want to take. They should not be tricked by a trans person. (Yes many women have fertility issues however a Man could NEVER birth a child. So a trans person could never be considered a WOMAN. It’s okay to think and feel you’re a woman, but biologically you are not a woman. It’s SELFISH to not share your transition upfront with someone who may seek an imitate relationship with you. A man does not have a womb so you can not be a woman. It’s your business who you are attracted to but a person should not have to get in the bed with you before knowing you are not a biological woman.

That’s crazy , you don’t wanna tell a man but yaw are the same people that cry when yaw get hurt

Stop using cis

She's definitely acting like a woman she lacks accountability.

The strides trans folks have made cannot be reduced to one interview. The Risk It Takes To Bloom Memoir is a must-read. Every trans person is their own experience.

Great interview. Very insightful

Thank you for being a voice for us Raquel ❤

This interview was beautiful and i can’t wait to read Raquel’s book. I’ve been seeing her here and there on social media and loved her points and her work so it was so dope to learn more about her perspective and her background. as for the dense weirdos in the comments plz go touch grass. Y’all r mad lame, repressed and close minded. I can’t even feel bad for u cause it’s literally a waste of time. The world and society is just gonna keep evolving and y’all just gonna get left behind and all you’ll have to keep u warm at night is ur pure hateration!!

You are supposed to tell a heterosexual man upfront, period!

Great interview. I love different perspectives and outlooks shared. God bless then both fir this candidate conversation.

This trans person playing with death talking about you not sharing your trans. There’s no nonsense dudes that’ll kill you because of that. Be careful who you playing with

Dude trying to get illed fast pulling that on wrong person talkin bout i dont feel obligated

So what about the man’s choice. Does that even matter.

Amazing and enlightning interview. Thank you to you both.

@50:30 She’s playing a dangerous game! 😮You gotta give men the option to decide to continue talking/dating you. That’s a huge part of someone’s dating life. Some men will not respond to that very well

the conversation about disclosure is very thought provoking. I assumed safety was the focus, but the idea of anyone discussing any private information at the initial meeting... spot on. people don't do that and it stands to reason that our collective (some, not all) expectation around that is skewed. Loved this conversation! Found it on Spotify too

Saying surgery isn't happening to young people is an unfair statement. And placing the sports issues just on Republicans or political issue is also unfair. The WPATH standard of care supports medical affirmation of kids, including mastectomies as early as 16. There are private providers doing it. And these surgeries don't require as many prerequisites such as multiple letters of medical necessity. Letters have been reduced to 1. Her generation of trans people had a much more intricate standards of care. And there are Democrats and people with no political affiliations that have valid concerns about sports issues. It would be nice to see her acknowledge that these issues aren't myths.

figuring out when to disclose something like that is really hard. I have herpes (which ~10% of people do) and I usually tell people on the first date. my family and therapist tell me I should wait longer so people can "see who I really am" first but I have found that people feel misled and will get angry if I do that. but it's also really awkward telling them too early because it seems presumptuous and like it comes out of nowhere. one time I was on a date and I felt like it was too soon to tell him during dinner but then he tried to have sex with me in his car and I told him and he was upset that I wasted his time.

Tour'e when she said "Gilda", I thought the same thing..so , don't feel bad.😂😂😂😂😂

Notice she never brought up the mans choice.

I really tried to watch this interview...I REALLY tried Toure. As a black woman I refuse to cosign ANY of this, because I AM a biological black woman in America who is STILL bearing the weight of...America's BS. Par for the course. I'm SO over ALL of this.

This is why you don't ask complete strangers out, sir.

Jesus I hate this planet

This made my head hurt

Wow! I think a lot of us are seeking Black love, for the same reason

Please do not equate revealing birth gender, with other character flaws

I'd have a difficult time trying not to ask the more personal and sex-related questions that I do not have the right to know.

I do appreciate this brother showing a trans persons point of view but honestly for me This is really scary to watch because it's so many trans people. I'm sure walking around with the same point of view of they feel like they shouldn't have to tell someone up front and it's a lot of heterosexual men out here who are coming in contact with these people and develop a rapport and then later find out which that probably could cause psychological issues. I feel like it would be more safe on all parties involved for that to be the base of the first conversation to prevent potential problems . But at the end of the day I just don't understand our black race right now. we seem to be at the fore front for all of these type of issues and leading the charge .and I must say I do not like when black people of the lgbtq+community compare their struggle or experience to the black struggle I totally disagree cause it's not the same

The Thebe Magugu top brought me here

I think there’s space for all stories and experiences in life. Just like cis women won’t ever fully understand a trans woman’s experience, the inverse is true. There’s space for everyone but authenticity should be first and foremost.

Take risks? Selfish.

This person is so confused. Lord help him to see he was made in your perfect image

Respect to her on her Journey.

Being transgender is not new. IDK why people are acting like this is a new phenomenon.

Toure is weird. He did nothing but proved the Republicans right with this interview.

I may not know “HE’S” on probation, HE’S hit a woman, but what I can ascertain is that HE’S a male…I would be turned off if a trans man kissed me and did not give me that choice to make for myself to kiss, not a man, but a trans man.

Definitely before there is ANY physicality.

51:09

Yall didn’t even hear nothing they said… Trans people aren’t tricking anybody. “Cis” Ppl love to pick certain parts of what a trans person says and use it to justify their own personal narrative. Ya’ll love and live to say that a trans woman or person still and always looks like their birth sex, so how are so many people being “tricked”?? People are always told when it’s safe to do so is what she said.

She believes to take a person values, cause she feels like God took hers and never gave her what she desire. So she rather hurt and distrust other men . Either looks or lies 😢

Toure has the mad scientist look lol

I love this interview. Raquel is very smart ❤❤

I am confused by the editing choices with the dramatic music in the background and the beginning clip. It just feels like its throwing gasoline to flames, instead of coming from a good place. I found this podcast originally when Ali Siddiq was interviewed, and it made me feel that the intension of podcast was to have a feel good conversation with somebody even if the topic was difficult (aka Ali's time in prison). Maybe i'll give this a shot later at 2x speed and no sound. Even if the podcast crew doesnt agree on the topic (comparing this intervoew with Ali's), I am still expecting them to do a fair edit...

If you didn’t learn something or get an introspection from this interview then you’re the problem

What accent is that ?

That is not fair! Do not kiss, touch, fondle a heterosexual sexual man without telling him first! Let him choose! Otherwise, the consequences can be severe!

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Im not your "CIS." Gilda had a great head of hair.

People take a lot for granted….. EVERYBODY TAKES RISK when meeting and starting relationships with people!!!!! Trans Cis Het Gay it don’t matter. What’s your HIV status.. people don’t ask that on first dates even if they sleep together… what’s your credit score…. Did you graduate high school. She’s right. Meeting strangers and building a relationship or engaging with the sexually is A RISK period

Notice she never brought up the mans choice.