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“You don’t need gurus, you know what’s best for yourself!” This is the absolute best

The Four T’s to Trauma Healing 1. Thank your trauma responses. Thank your protective responses. Thank drinking. Thank binge eating. Thank suicidal thinking. Thank the depression and anxiety. Thank your responses bc they’re just trying to stop the pain. 2. Trust that you have what you need inside to heal. Don’t need a guru. Trust your gut. Trust your intuition. 3. Transform. What doesn’t serve you doesn’t belong to you. Witness experience and share the story, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations. Share whole experience without reliving it but be with it but not in it. Disconfirm the trauma. I’m loved. I’m seen. I’m important. Relational repair. I love myself. A friend loves and cares about you. Can love the other person who harmed you. Corrective experience after share. Release is possible. Body shakes. Feel lighter. Energy releases. Pain dissipates. You become you again. It’s freeing to let go of trauma. Reclaiming yourself. 4. Take back your power. Become you. You’re more you every time you release something. I can love and move on despite… Forgiveness is not condoning. If you choose to it’s more for you but you don’t have to. Who hasn’t harmed or been harmed? Forgive self. Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.

Thank you. I've been on a healing journey most of my adult life. The last few months were dark, I was in my head in a negative way. I remembered a skill given to me during counseling. I needed to go back and rescue me from my trauma, and love me and tell me I am safe and loved and whatever else that me needed to know. So I started to do this with every trauma I could remember. I thanked me for the trauma response because it protected me, and told me I didn't need it anymore. Oh and a whole lot more. A week ago I looked in the mirror, smiled at me and felt peace, and I felt me, for the first time. I looked at me and loved me, I am 61, and proud of me. Then I found this podcast, and you supported me and gave me more guidance. Thank you.

Your nervous system IS the "master key." It impacts everything... Your cells, your blood vessels, your immune system, your endocrine system, your muscular system, your digestive system, your brain and signaling pathways... EVERYTHING! But most of us are still ignoring it.

"You don't have to carry stuff that isn't yours". This idea of trauma as holding somebody else's negative energy resonates with me. It makes sense for trauma as a relational injury.

A psychiatrist who doesn't push drugs and is relatable. I admire him and I loved this podcast. Dr. Anderson, thank you for your dedication to help those with trauma. I have the utmost respect for you.

I talk to my parts in the car all the time. I don't need to close eyes or meditate. I talk to my inner parts just as I would a close friend. ❤

When you think you could never have had any more deep, thoughtful healing podcast from Lewis and his guest.... I love his podcast more and more

Wow. I'm not even 20 min in and this is powerful. Your mom apologized for not protecting you. That is what I wish I could hear.

Whenever a negative emotion triggered by trauma takes over my body, I stop and i talk to it" I hear you, i aknowledge you but i don't need you today. You are from the past and it is ok to leave.We are safe now". I then sit and feel where it is in my body, breath, and feel it leaving my body. I am no longer trying to carriy it around.

Still working on this journey called life... i hit rock bottom 3 years ago and have had therapy since...so many feelings I kept inside, no boundaries, door mat,abuse, yelled at my kids, alcoholic parent , alcoholic myself...etc. Boy , have I come a long way since then. Learned alot of great things about myself.

He’s genuine and doesn’t hold back on what’s important and helpful. He whole heartedly cares and wants to help. You can feel it.

"Awareness does nothing for healing when it comes to trauma because it's still in you and comes out of you." Now i don't feel like a failure when I get blindsided & overreact. Now I believe healing is actually possible. Thank you for giving me that hope -- it's been 62 years in coming.

As a random lady, I'm so proud of these two men. They are putting in the work to heal themselves. Thank you for all you are doing to help others on this path. Hugs to you both!

Pleasing others is really a protection of self.

One of THE best interviews I have ever listened to. No doubt this came across my feed for a reason.

Generally speaking people who face their life trauma will get better. Those who don't choose to go on a personal quest will become bitter. Choosing to become better rather than bitter has served me well. And I'm still working on getting better.

The problem with this is with complex trauma and dealing with narcissistic abuse is that loving them doesn’t work. It’s the opposite of helpful. Love isn’t the answer with them. Yes you can love yourself but loving them only In turn hurts you more in the long run.

I'm with Dr. Ramani. My forgiveness must be earned. It is not a door prize for the undeserving. Love myself when they didn't, yes i do. Those who deliberately made my life awful deserve and get nothing from me.

This is an episode that everyone should see, if not for themselves then for those they love! There is plenty for everyone to take away from this episode! I will rewatch this one again and again. You provide so much healing for those that follow you and I for one am greatful. Bless you Lewis and Frank!

I agree with Frank about releasing trauma makes us look younger. Stress energy and trauma energy age humans. And makes us sick. There is no illness in healed humans. Only love and complete health. And youth. 🙌🏼❤️

I have CPTSD. I’ve done everything possible to get rid of the trauma. Then I turned 50 and I got traumatized! I couldn’t bounce out of it! I decided that I had to get away from the toxic person in my life. I took a self sabotaging path but it worked. I got better than divorced. Now I’m working out again & I’m dreaming of my next journey on a continuous basis!

Awesome information. At 71, am still trying to breakfree of residual trauma conditioning. This is so valuable & I so appreciate both of you for sharing this with us all!❤❤❤

Exactly, when a parent realizes that their triggered trauma self wounded their children, it feels like a moral injury. The shame needs to be healed also. I am also a Repairer. Wholeness is when we have re-integrated and self parented all the parts of ourselves. Ty for such an insightful interview! :)

I was once told that "Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free. And then realizing the prisoner, was you". Carrying that anger or hurt or negative emotion does not hurt them or affect them. But it hurts you. It affects you. That has always stuck with me.

“Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma.” Sounds like quite the conundrum to me.

Frank Anderson is a huge leading voice in the trauma treatment field. I appreciate him so much for all his beautiful work. He is truly amazing

As parents we give our kids what we thought we needed to be happy and because we haven’t healed we feel resentment, overwhelmed, impatient, etc when they don’t behave as we want. The only way to teach a child to be emotionally healthy is to model it. Empower them and their self worth. You can only do that if you yourself are empowered and know and feel your worthiness.

Wow! This was so powerful! I have been working on trauma recovery for years but this really hit home. I would love a follow up with Frank Anderson on how to help out kids early so we can help release any trauma already caused and how to prevent further small t traumas with our kids. ❤

Repairing starts with forgiveness and understanding. Forgive what was done. Seeing how it effects your life. The hardest is to understand when it pops up.We learn what to do till we are in that trigger . If we fall back. We have to forgive ourselves for not being perfect and tap ourselves on the back when we do overcome a trigger or a emotional response. We have to take into consideration that others we deal with might be masking their trauma as well. So you might trigger them. I get the wounded walk away or ghosting. When things are difficult to address we run. We all have that fight or flight response . It's freeing when we face it .Thank you for this video. Lots of trauma in my life. It bothers me when others say your using it when your trauma when your not ! This is only because you told them and they are using it to beat you with or put you down. It ticks me off. It's hard to confront when the people are no longer in your life. My father beat the hell out of my Mom and even tried to kill her. My easy memories are sleeping in the basement hiding behind boards with my Mom as he came in drunk and dragged her upstairs by her hair beating her ! He was a product of his childhood. My Mom was a product of her childhood. Both were broken and created broken next generations. It stops as you see how in your life that trauma effects you . I learn that it's like a dopamine hit to emotionally go back to that same negative patterns. I see when I do it but it's a best that I created. Healing In my thoughts starts with you. My fight or flight is what I have to identify more. That need to run or react to negative things. To not get into your own head or follow patterns that lead you to tgat sane kind of abusive situations. People are good to talk to but do not live your experience. They can offer a shoulder only. Drugs are a bandaid. All drugs keep in mind came from nature. Now keep in mind that most qho went off were on strong drugs and therapy. Like I said it's a consistent effort for those who are in a deep mental breakdown. The problem in this Society is we give drug's like pez dispensers. To people who don't need it and end up addicted or doing more drugs ! Do not address the root. That is a desire and finding the tools to heal. Natural cures for depression. Medical treatment for complete breakdown only. With follow up. A majority of us are in imbalances because of our diet and lifestyle as well. Once again thanks for this video .

FINALLY SOMEONE speak about IFS internal family systems. Thank you 🙏🏼 is the absolute best therapy for trauma. Not only because is so extremely effective but because the therapist’s goal is to teach how to do it to yourself and let you go. Brilliant work discovered by Dr. Richard Schwartz

This is the best explanation of dealing with trauma I've ever heard. Thank you guys!

I love Dr Anderson! I love his interview with Terri Cole as well. Such wonderful insights

I feel your spirit doing this interview Lewis. Stay strong brother 🙏🏼

Sometimes it’s not just protective. It’s necessary to distance yourself from family members for sure. When you’ve tried everything but the pain they keep inflicting on you doesn’t stop you have to have a healthy boundary. You do not have to stay in those situation’s and there’s nothing wrong with you when you need to do that.

Dr. Frank insights on releasing negative energy from trauma are truly transformative. 💫 Understanding the role of shame and embracing the journey of healing can empower us to live more fulfilling and authentic lives.

Frank is a great teacher. His transparency is very refreshing. I've just ordered his book 'Transcending trauma.' Thank You.

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.💜

I was a y care taker of my parents.My mom was prescription drug addict.My dad just worked all the time.Had to take care of my siblings.Unlike other people I no longer wanted to take care of people when I got older.

His honesty is refreshing What a great episode ❤

This has been one of the best interviews I have seen.

This one REALLY hit home! Dr. Anderson is such a gift. Lewis you are one special person with a HUGE heart. Thank you for bringing hope and healing to this world. ❤❤❤

I just can't believe he's 60! He looks amazing! Healing really does wonders.

I'm about the age of Frank and similar in the drive for intellect etc. and I had several of these shames and I think that the neglect is the worst. Yet, after 20 plus years of therapy and every other health protocol known to man, its been totally worth it. Going from "I'm nothing" to mental health is the best feeling in the world. Please continue everyone and thank you Lewis for bringing these great helps to the fore.

This is the BEST podcast I’ve listened to! Thank you thank you thank you!!! 🙏 😊

On the last day I want to spend it with a person who really loved me,appreciated me and will make that day one of the best in my life,that way I would die happy knowing that person deserved to be with me on that day.

Kids totally know correct behavior. At 10yrs, I remember a trip to Europe with my mom, watching her not being nice to the “help”. My daughter at 10yrs said to me, “I don’t like the way your mom speaks to you.” Ugh!

This is the first time I ve heard Dr.Anderson...I will now seek out his books and more videos....I appreciate his honesty...I wish both my adult sons would do self work like this....we all need it.

I'm in therapy now processing my trauma. I realized that I'm the only one who can do the work.

That guy is versatile and inspiring the way he learned to help people in his job. Picked a lot up from this . 🙏

cried my way through to the end of this episode . 😔 thankh you so much for this conversation and creating the space, Lewis and thankh you to Frank for sharing his experience & wisdom . blessings . 🙏🏾💚

What a beautiful conversation. Thanks so much ~🌟

Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you. Find a way to forgive it’s so healing

❤❤❤ YES! When we can release the trauma stored in our body, not only can we enjoy life more, but we can show up as a compassionate leader and create an entirely new version of reality. Thank you Dr. Frank and Lewis for inspiring so many people through your dedication to increasing awareness and having conversations like these!

The chemistry and attunement between the two of you is off the charts!!! How you just "felt" each other was priceless. Such an amazing interview. Frank is one of my IFS heroes!

OMG. I've still got a limerence object that is the compilation of my abusive narcissist parents. I know on every logical level that he's a creep; I haven't gone a day without obsessing over him for over a year. What I would give to feel that release! How truly wonderful.

Yes. I found that i have trauma that i kept trying to tell people about. Nobody understood so i would just shut down and panic more. But i started recording myself telling the story and ranting, and i would go back and give myself advice, because now that the emotions are out, i can tap into the inner wisdom and actually work on fixing

This guest has such a gift of love and empathy...

Thank you so much for asking if it's okay not to forgive and then breaking down that forgiveness is not about condoning the behavior. I've been stuck on thinking forgiveness is saying what they did was okay and kept me from being able to forgive. This helped me so much.

Yes , feeling like you are nothing because of seeing yourself as only having Value because I accomplished this or that thing.

I don't have anyone to share. So I stay in my body imagine Cristal Lord Buddha inside me give me compassion that I can feel with my whole body. I took me tree years I keep releasing many feelings I never know I have.

I am dealing on daily basis with trauma that has happened to me in the past .Dr Anderson's gives me comfort when I listen to him and how he explains everything......🙏

Awesome guy, nobody never shared the knowledge about healing in such practical way. That’s what I need!

Wao this got me crying. Journey to self healing on its way! Thank you!

Thank you so much for your venerability and honesty. This is such enlightening conversation! This gives me hope for the world because you two are holding this frequency. Heal yourself heal the world. And I love how these two men are expressing their feminine and masculine energy in balance. Love it so much.

This man is a sweetheart. His voice reminds me of the guy on Schitt's Creek. Comforting♥️

Yes, you can look younger releasing trauma. I had a client who was told after a session she looked like a 16 year old. She was in her 50's at the time. I am constantly being told i look 10 years younger than i am

I loved this interview. I have not heard another guest refer/defer to other experts as much, it was so refreshing!! I also loved all the experts he was referring to..Brene Brown, Dr. Shefali..Dr. Becky..Dr. Dick S.... etc....

THANK YOU DR. FRANK ANDERSON ❤ You are Great! ❤

'who hasn't harmed or been harmed?' woowww so much packed in that

Òmg this man is incredible. From a people pleaser because of a very dramatic childhood.i have spent all my life until the past 4 years,I only stopped because of more trauma of being bullied the past 9 years, I am angry at myself worrying about the very people that have bullied me..their loss they would have had if I had told on what they did/ doing. Now I am being kind to myself,don't be angry,it's the last part of the people pleaser experience, Now the voice inside says your being silly,snap out of it...let it go. Lewis you are a lovely gentle,kind beautiful man,I am so very sorry for all your hurt...you had to live thru, You are helping so many people with what you are doing,with the guests you have, You are loved..

Thank you ❤ I always belived that all of us have love (the light) inside of us. No matter how many borders, or walls, we have- or the experiences made us- build arround. LOVE ❤

Cranio Sacral Therapy is also a wonderful therapy that brings a somatic release

A huge YES to this. I love Frank Anderson’s work and this interview is truly a must. Thank you Lewis for bringing him on. I am a big believer in the IFS model and have myself experienced a whole lot of healing, transformation and release from it. Those four Ts Anderson walks us through are tremendously helpful and practical. I love it.

The questions Lewis asks is exactly what I ask myself before he asks. Bless you for being a good interviewer. You were born to do this😮

Well done!!! This was one of the best videos I' seen on social media. It's caused me to reflect on myself as a child whois now a parent. 🤔 "To Be Loved." who does not want or need that? Thanks to both of you for this insightful, deep, and open conversation. 😊🙏

IFS is such a powerful and beautiful therapy, if done correctly then healing will inevitably follow. I have really enjoyed the interview!

❤ what a blessing from such a beautiful man ❤ I completely understand and agree how and why he looks fantastically young at 60!!! I'm 46 and have experienced similar results... went through the divorce of 22 years long marriage in 2017-2018. I begʻan therapy then and was diagnosed with CPTSDwhen I was 39,my dad died in a car accident during that 10 months long divorce process. I look 35 at most now, I look back in 2013-2017 in photos like I was 55 then. I was in constant physical and emotional pain for decades.

This is amazing! I had so many aha moments! I just wanted to add as people may find this interesting, I suffered abuse my whole childhood but managed to push it away to the furthest part of me & bolt the door shut. Then in my adulthood after my father died, I married & had kids then slowly things started to arise. I was very confused because I had the symptoms of feeling unworthy & not good enough, but didn’t know why. After my first child was born my father came to me in a dream, he was crying I realized that this wasn’t just a dream, it was a message he had planted the first seed to my recovery. & this was the beginning.

This here is a lesson in humanity.How love @compassion wisdom liberates.I❤ ur both. The peaceful calm is felt in their spirits

THIS WAS A GREAT EPISODE! I feel everyone should watch this, so much we may take in and learn from.

This message is so huge. It could possibly be the missing link to my healing. Thank you for giving me the gift of internal freedom 😊❤

I am a trauma recovery coach. So much of what Dr. Frank has said I applied to myself. My kids have called me out when I was like my narcissistic mother. Transformation and releasing is so powerful to begin to love ourselves. "Heal first, confront second." This is a powerful truth. We do see the wounding in our perpetrator that way. I can't wait to get your book. I turn 70 this October. People say I look 50. It is releasing the trauma!

Everything he says, makes sense and have dealt with most of his points.

You're welcome Lewis. I would love to hear another talk from Dr. Anderson again! However many of your podcasts have such amazing content!! Thankyou for all that you do!! Your work is sooo important!!🙏💖

Not that I wouldn’t have loved to have been able to sit through a therapy of someone that understands all this like yourselves. I happen to be in the category of I just flat out can’t afford it, so I did it the way available to me. I am so grateful For interviews like this because I learn so much. Someday maybe I can do those therapies that bring memories back and and totally heal.

YES! Cried every “aha” moment. I love your channel! Please continue to share insights and healing practices into the world. I have so much interest in your work. Love and kindness be… Thank you !

One of the most important conversations I have heard and I am very schooled in the topic…Love and follow closely Dr Shefali, Dr LePera, Dr Ramani and Dr Mate as well. I work as a school counselor within a trauma informed setting and so many adults need this working with the children who are in crisis! I am going to reference this on my local channel “Sage seeking sisters” too when I speak with local leaders who are working within settings where community violence and crisis are rampant. Can’t wait to read your book too! Will be sharing this with my colleagues tomorrow! ❤🙏🏽

What a lovely conversation on healing with Dr. Frank. His loving kindness and compassion shone through. Thank you Lewis and team for bringing him to your platform.

Excellent talk!! I am so grateful that finally a credible Truma doctor explains everything in layman and easy to understand terms!!!! He is so real & down to earth!!💖 Love this talk!!!! You give me hope!!!🙏💖

One of the best interviews. I really enjoyed listening to Dr Mark. Such a lovely authentic man, with so much insight and knowledge to share. Would love to hear more of him. Thank Lewis!

Yes. I enjoyed listening to you sharing the conversation you had with your younger self..so beautifully articulated & very moving Excellent interview from listening to you both sharing experiences and how to heal our traumas.

Was so ready for this at this moment in time to understand someone I love so very much

Just listening to this had a breakthrough/release effect on me 1/3 of the way in to the discussion. Thank you.

Thank you...this makes so much sense. Dealing with my adhd child especially when I eventually lose patience (after having a considerable amount), usually the thing I bring up is that I had the same issues and no one to help and was alone to deal with it. And that makes me feel guilty all the time. Thank you for the message and guidance!

Wow, really feeling the intellectual compensation! Getting my second degree plus other diplomas and certifications, wondering how many degrees will it take to prove my worth..damn, that hit home!

Thank you Lewis for sharing the experience of the popping sensation with your release of past trauma

I loved when Dr. Anderson broke down IFS. I grew up in a big West African family and it’s easy to get swallowed in the group dynamics!! Another great episode Lewis!

As a boy naturally playing, discovering, experimenting what he little time sees of life was taken abruptly the possibility of to just continue playing life as if it was totally wrong. Children often sees and understands when adults are wrong but often learn what life presents . It shocked him attracting to so became what he could have learned . It’s somewhat almost an unconscious , and conscious revenge power . Trauma : you either learn or repeat.