TREATED LIKE THRASH OVER MY MIXED RACE BABY, SHEILA O'BYRNE'S STORY

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21st September 2020
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Brave Sheila O’Byrne lovable tells her powerful story of her life in the controversial St Patrick’s Mother and Baby Home.
The Dubliner was cast aside for falling pregnant at 19 with a mixed race baby. She spent 41 years looking for her son.
Don't miss Sheila’s story tonight Monday 22nd September at 7pm.
Video Journalist Alison O'Reilly
Post Production Alison O'Reilly
A Hardshoes Production 2020
Photos used in St. Patrick's mother and baby home are archive images, already in the public domanin and used to advertised adoptions at the home. They are not Sheila O'Byrne's child. They are archive images that I came across while writing my book on the Tuam mother and baby home, 'My Name Is Bridget' in 2018. These images were kindly given to us by Bernie McKendry who owns the rights to them and holds all original copies. Her late mother, Margaret Moloney, was in St. Patrick's mother and baby home on the Navan Road in the 1960's.
Children in many homes like St. Patrick's who were placed for adoption were advertised in some national papers. Their records will be sealed. No one will know the truth of this.
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@Lilly_Rose. 10 ай бұрын

It must have been terrifying especially when your pregnant and see another girl having her baby taken away. As a mother we see our baby and fall in love with them instantly. My heart goes out to you x

@BugnBuddysMom Жыл бұрын

I am so glad that Sheila was reunited with her son. ❤

@Rozalina-yz2xv 3 күн бұрын

💞🙏🏻💞

@blessedbev1 10 ай бұрын

Sending you love Sheila, I am glad you got to meet your son. I am mixed raced and thankful to God, I was not born over there.

@felicitydavey2371 11 ай бұрын

11 year old pregnant 😢😢😢😢 . This video is truly heartbreaking . Sending you lots of love Sheila ❤ xx

@swampophelia2098 3 жыл бұрын

I like that she calls it being Incarcerated because that’s what it was, what terrible cruel women those nuns were.

@ellioshiem7892 3 жыл бұрын

yes....nazis those evil nuns....

@meadowm1742 Жыл бұрын

It was society that rejected these women but the nuns who picked up the pieces are pilloried. Certainly some nuns were cruel but there were many more who were very good.

@sarahwyn2739 11 ай бұрын

@@meadowm1742how do you know that was true for her?

@Trish-ql9kz 10 ай бұрын

@@sarahwyn2739 they can’t all be lying can they? you hear these similar stories from these young woman at the hands of the church over and over again so why would one assume she’s telling lies!

@lisagreene6155 3 жыл бұрын

Sheila you have a heart of gold I thank you for showing the little babies love in their short time in this world. X

@StayWithMeArtshow 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your comments

@annsalaunrondou3676 2 жыл бұрын

Amen. With the love you gave those little ones I'm sure it would helped many to survive.. It is a proven fact that when a child an infant is loved it will thrive

@Camgagh 3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou Sheila for sharing your story....for speaking out & giving recognition to all the babies who died & were buried in unmarked graves....for giving insight into the cold harsh reality of life for the mothers in those homes run by the nuns.

@ellioshiem7892 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you......

@gemmameenan675 3 жыл бұрын

God be with all the women who suffered so much ...And many still suffering because of abuse received

@thedisabledwelshman9266 11 ай бұрын

god has nothing to do with it.

@carolinerowles5951 11 ай бұрын

@thedisabledwelshman9266 god is used as an excuse for many evils.

@Rozalina-yz2xv 3 күн бұрын

💞🙏🏻💞

@aine2058 3 жыл бұрын

Delighted you found your son!

@StayWithMeArtshow 3 жыл бұрын

Yes it is great and they’re very happy

@emmetnolan7081 3 жыл бұрын

All as it should be.......happiness is everything...

@Rozalina-yz2xv 3 күн бұрын

💞🙏🏻💞

@AlanODuffy 3 жыл бұрын

Repugnant unloving judgemental church state and some in society, were the force behind your incarceration. Then to steal your baby, truly a tragedy on an epic scale. Thank you for telling us all your story x

@ellioshiem7892 3 жыл бұрын

I hate the catholic church. I was badly abused in a care home in London for 5 years. by an Evil nun......

@tonykelly4913 3 жыл бұрын

Well done Allison and well done Sheila. It's a heart breaking true life story of what exactly took place in these notorious mother and baby homes and no doubt in other institutions as well. And this is a True Life story told by a real survivor who had to give her child away. Sheila is a true and real survivor an actual real mother who was there and saw it all. This brings to mind the words of a poem by Robert Frost. " The woods are lovely dark and deep, and i have promises to keep and miles to go before i sleep, and miles to go before i sleep ".

@StayWithMeArtshow 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for support of Sheila.

@tumbel99 3 жыл бұрын

My mother can relate to that.I am one of 10 children,I was born in 1966 and my eldest brother was born in 1962.Yes my mother was treated terribly by other people just because she was with my father who was black and with mixed race children.

@sarahann530 Жыл бұрын

@Filoli Mentally ill people have been thinking that nonsense for years .

@sarahann530 Жыл бұрын

@volcanocafe1357 Take your meds you are posting bullshit again

@sarahwyn2739 11 ай бұрын

I feel so sad for you ... I feel mad at the haters here .. go away

@kathwelch3267 11 ай бұрын

Aww bless x

@hautecouture2228 9 ай бұрын

Your mother is a victim of the Kalergi plan

@50bfloyd 3 жыл бұрын

I was born in St Patricks too my mam was 14. Rough times😞😭 im still here so I am very lucky

@josetusingwire9541 Жыл бұрын

Who impregnated the girls? ...I need to understand...why were young girls treated like that?

@elanasharich8538 Жыл бұрын

Wow, that was powerful, well articulated and painfully truthful. May you find peace. Hugs.

@blossom1643 10 ай бұрын

That was such a sad story. If there IS any justice those “holy nuns” have their place in hell.

@maureenwatt4066 Жыл бұрын

I was one of these babies so so sad these lovely ladies had to go through this ,means nothing these days so much to answer for ///

@kathieoray2990 10 ай бұрын

I was raised Catholic but left the church in my early teens because I did not believe what they were ramming in to our heads. I'm 🇨🇦 and 61. I had heard of these Institutions in Ireland but never from someone who had actually been held there and forced to give up her baby. Those nuns would have had much to answer for when their Karma came calling. Such pure evil perpetuated by this patriarchal church and society left out a key component. Where were the men who participated in the creation of these babies? Where was their punishment, banishment? The Catholic Church has a lot to answer for the crimes committed against these women and babies. At the bare minimum, restitution needs to be paid, Judicial Enquiries held, etc. Maybe some of this has already happened as I said, I don't have a great deal of knowledge on this subject but believe me, I intend to learn as much as I can. Sending my respect, support and love to any woman who has been affected by this travesty. ❤️

@beckymesterhazi4624 10 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I had my baby aged 15 in 2005..!!! I wouldn’t be able to cope with what they’ve been through.

@marietcabrera896 3 жыл бұрын

Thank u for your story. It was so heartbreaking how these evil heartless people do this to babys.. God bless you always and God bless all the other mom and all the children.

@dibble2005 3 жыл бұрын

Sheila you are a true modern saint.

@ladylaois8184 11 ай бұрын

Wonderful Sheila, I’m so sorry you suffered this , unimaginable grief. I recently lost a son and a Grandson. There’s no pain like it. Your so brave to speak so eloquently. Thanks 🙏

@ellioshiem7892 3 жыл бұрын

they should of helped mothers and CARED for them. CRUEL EVIL NUNS.... lovely sheila... so so sorry for you and the other girls. 🌹🌹🌹🌹

@lesliesmith5797 11 ай бұрын

I truly hope that Sheila and her son found each other❤. Church and state are so evil 👿. They have no right to judge anyone with the evil they have been up to for hundreds of years. God is everyone’s judge. So many lives destroyed by their judgemental ways. My heart breaks for all the young mama’s and their precious babies 👶. 💜💜💜. I continued reading comments and found that Sheila and her son were reunited 💗💗💗

@louisemerriman1079 11 ай бұрын

This is part of the reason I turned my back on Catholicism

@daliasmith9557 11 ай бұрын

You are not trash you are a child of God and he love you den and hallways don’t forget that 🙏🏽🙏🏽💜❤️

@miketwohig7265 Жыл бұрын

Well done Sheila straight talking

@mharryvan5324 2 жыл бұрын

A lot of those nuns were poorly educated girls/women. They hadnt much going for them, if the farm was gone to the eldest son and a few of the girls were fortunate to be married off, then there was probably nothing left for these plain janes with no future. So its an endemic problem, these nuns were treated badly and brought their anger and resentment with them to the convent. Like, WHY were they so cruel? Inherent neglect on all sides and this produces barbarism by those nuns fear and a sense of dreadful loss among the women and worst of all NOT ONE MAN held to account for this scandal. Sheila, you are an inspiration for having survived this. Stay strong.

@djfhfh 2 жыл бұрын

Some of them were also forced to be nuns , a bitter life I imagine

@lavettaluckett8297 11 ай бұрын

Ain't no excuses.

@annsalaunrondou3676 2 жыл бұрын

Heartbreaking💔❤🧡💛💚💙💜YOU are loved and cared about. YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS. Catholic church HAS EGRIOUS SINS TO ANSWER FOR, AROUND THE WORLD

@jodiescarcega1924 10 ай бұрын

I was born a Catholics not by choice . I went to Catholics school through grade schools and some high school and all I ever remember about the nuns that they were mean. I hated it. The Catholic Church has done so much harm to people for centuries and hurt so many .

@relaxationstation7374 10 ай бұрын

Total Madness! Such a wonderful woman should never experience this!

@sonicknukcles976 3 жыл бұрын

what I actually always wonder why the women and babies / children were always punished for being pregnant / born out of wedlock and men always got off unharmed I just don't understand

@ellioshiem7892 3 жыл бұрын

exactly....why all the blame on poor girls. cruel evil nuns....

@dicey8928 2 жыл бұрын

Because the boys men could always walk away no dna in those days

@djfhfh 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah sometimes them poor girls were raped too , and they were punished it's replusive

@Mandaxx25 11 ай бұрын

Exactly and why because that isn't even the teaching of the church. They have a lot to answer to God for.

@lucyterrier7905 11 ай бұрын

Because it's visible when a girl becomes pregnant.

@bernadettemurray8260 9 ай бұрын

Truly appalling, so glad you got to meet your son.

@kathwelch3267 11 ай бұрын

So happy for you that you found your son big hugs x

@eileenlocke7877 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad u an yr son found one another again god love you

@aindriuolavery8232 3 жыл бұрын

Very brave Sheila 💚

@nataliehill6406 11 ай бұрын

Sheila you and that poor 11 year old will from now on always be in my prayers

@joellenjohnson9835 11 ай бұрын

How awful, we are all people the same in Gods eyes no matter what color we are. That should NEVER have happened but I am so happy for you that you found your child.

@karenmclaughlan9128 11 ай бұрын

Bless your heart Sheila ❤️ heart of pure gold. Sending hugs 🫂 xx

@mariefinley8435 3 жыл бұрын

God bless you you’re a strong woman ! ❤️

@karenharrington2628 3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate Sharing Sending prayers & love

@lauriedmills7581 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Your strength is inspiring.

@StayWithMeArtshow 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Laurie for your support

@inspired1114 Жыл бұрын

Wow, what suffering, and to be such a wonderful human being despite it all. Wow.

@Marah493 11 ай бұрын

I think that is why so many choose to end pregnancies. The pressure , emotional and physical pain as well as lack of support are too unbearable. Women that choose to give birth should be praised for their tenacity and respect for life. God bless them all.

@ruthyvonne5240 11 ай бұрын

Again, men never get blamed! Only women suffer.

@kaleahcollins4567 2 жыл бұрын

Bless your holy loving soul mummy Sheila bless your beautiful heart.

@delphinium5555 3 жыл бұрын

I listened hanging on Sheila's every word. Can hear her torment and distress very clearly. Thank God she found her son, no thanks to the church. I love the Catholic faith but on hearing this story and other similar ones it makes one ashamed of what was done within the Catholic church. With love and best wishes to you Sheila. I hope that the rest of your days are happy and blessed. You deserve the very best that life can offer. Thank you for sharing your hugely painful story xxxx

@StayWithMeArtshow 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for your comments. We really appreciate them.

@Mandaxx25 11 ай бұрын

Same here. It's disgusting. Not church teaching at all so very shameful that they did it.

@valerieking3014 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video You are truly a beautiful women

@eileenlocke7877 Жыл бұрын

Thank u Sheila . Those nuns were bad truly bad

@RebeccaCharlene 11 ай бұрын

I am glad u both found each Sheila. ❤

@remiogunshakin9963 2 жыл бұрын

11yr old baby PREGNANT WITH TWINS!!!! How?? 💔

@josetusingwire9541 Жыл бұрын

Who was responsible? Who are the fathers

@zoedark7101 2 жыл бұрын

This is heartbreaking.

@thomashunter5707 11 ай бұрын

The Catholic Church has a lot to answer for disgraceful 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

@mefp9889 9 ай бұрын

What about the man ….how was he treated …..was he shunned….well done you for speaking out you are so strong & are passing you strength on to others 💞👍…religion causes so much pain & war,s

@bphelan6920 8 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for these women I was born in 1950 and grew up in Dublin. I had idea that this was going on.

@georgiavarnum8069 10 ай бұрын

This is how easy it is to be judged and forgotten. These women had to be terrified of their circumstance with no where to go or anyone to help. Lord, please forgive us or any one else who had a part in this. This place should be burnt down and erased from the earth. The nuns need to be incarcerated for her life. .

@angelaegan7511 11 ай бұрын

This makes one ashamed to be catholic. I hope these poor women find peace. ❤

@kathymarik1932 11 ай бұрын

This is heart braking. To think that these so called Brides Of Christ could treat another human being with such hatred,beggars belief.

@TheRetiredone42 2 жыл бұрын

So sad, so very sad. I am sorry.

@helenhodson3583 10 ай бұрын

I wonder if the men involved were incarcerated anywhere and if they were ever accused of committing the mortal sin ?????? Did the men ever shame their families and were they treated as "trash" ?

@user-en4mz1gj1e 9 ай бұрын

i think is good to have discussions on issues like this ,

@sentimentaljourneyproductions Жыл бұрын

God bless your sweet heart.

@1M005E1 Жыл бұрын

Sheila, not sure if you will see this, my heart breaks for you & the many who have had to go through that situation. Just remember Jesus Loves you so much, do not give up on Him. Every person will have to answer to Him one day. It's never our time, when we pray, seems you have a gentle heart. Love from the States.

@peregrine7303 11 ай бұрын

What abouf the men who got theses young girls pregnant .? What a horrible society, the heartless nuns.... also the pedophile priests... wow what a cruel lot , these catholic creatures where..

@patriciamay2690 10 ай бұрын

I'm sad that anyone could be treated like this 😢

@noelfleming3567 10 ай бұрын

Holy Catholic Ireland

@IamRoseCityCertified 11 ай бұрын

This is so sad. That poor 11 year old who passed away. A victim of child abuse by whoever impregnated her and neglected by the Church. This poor child never saw justice or knew peace in her last days.

@debraanderson7086 11 ай бұрын

Probably her own father or other family member.

@debraanderson7086 11 ай бұрын

And yet a raped impregnated 10 yr old had to leave Ohio and go to Indiana for an abortion last year because she was 22 or 23 weeks pregnant. I also met a 10 year old in the psych ward (I was visiting another patient) she had given birth not long beforehand.

@maureenwatt4066 Жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to all these ladies especially Sheila xx

@kayquiroga300 3 жыл бұрын

May God forgive the lot of those #%$&%¥¤s our Anthony was deprived of a loving mother. He and so many others, criminal!!!

@fayehughes478 3 ай бұрын

I am so sorry to hear your sad cruel story.. 😢

@lizbrown9645 Жыл бұрын

So many stories here so sad 😢

@flosslittle5231 3 жыл бұрын

You are brave. 😪

@michaeladarko223 11 ай бұрын

Love is Not a krime😢And your Baby IS so sweet😢❤❤

@brendahutcherson42 11 ай бұрын

Sheila I Pray Our Father God Richly Blessed You ❤

@hasnahabdullah716 3 жыл бұрын

Your Son must be beautiful Sheila…

@july77773 10 ай бұрын

Treated like "trash" not "thrash".

@Trish-ql9kz 10 ай бұрын

I noticed that too

@tierradoman873 2 жыл бұрын

We’ve come along way but still 🥺

@dawntaylor9995 11 ай бұрын

So sad things like this happen...

@EvonneLindiwe 11 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry 😞🙏🏿

@margueritebyrne5576 11 ай бұрын

Such a lovely lady god bless

@daliasmith9557 11 ай бұрын

Hi don’t know you but I feel you pain god Blessed you hallway’s 🤗🙏🏽🙏🏽

@SpookyFox1000 Жыл бұрын

Did you think it through ? At least the father is around to support you

@hayley_joannaperkins5421 Жыл бұрын

Did this happen in Waterford in Ireland from 1944 to 1974

@theweirdmom 3 жыл бұрын

I wish I could send Sheila a rose bush. 🌹🥀🌹🥀🌹🥀🌹🥀🌹🥀

@jackiekeegan5194 3 жыл бұрын

My friend was there 85

@StayWithMeArtshow 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for getting touch Jackie, if you would like us to do a story on her, please let me know x

@deniseblackburn33 3 күн бұрын

So sorry

@lorrinederichelieu9848 11 ай бұрын

What about the boys who were also involved

@katedaphne4495 Жыл бұрын

Doesnt seem like it was a bad shame in america, Those mulattos are beautiful You go to Venezuela, the capital of the most beautiful people in the world, Thats all there is Mixed races So sad

@debraanderson7086 11 ай бұрын

It wasn't so much After the 60s, except for mixed race babies which lasted until the 80's. At least that was what it seemed like in Columbus Ohio.

@garden_3130 11 ай бұрын

Honestly as an adult biracial daughter of a black father and a white mother I can tell you that a lot of Americans regardless of their race feel threatened by mixed race couples even if they smile in their faces. There is also an insidious belief that black/Latin/Asian woman/white man couples are superior to white /Asian/latin woman/black man couples and there is plenty of very degrading and misogynistic vitriol directed towards women of any race who date/marry/conceive with black men and towards their children by extension. The same people who denounce white male supremacy make hypocrites of themselves when it gives them an outlet to express their secret worship of privileged racist white men and their agenda.

@schmi3089 11 ай бұрын

Were the men punished.. It takes two to tango

@janetdowdell7765 10 ай бұрын

So very very sad 😢

@fennellturtle Жыл бұрын

Can someone tell me the location? I just found out I was there in '81

@rozdoyle8872 11 ай бұрын

Somewhere in North Dublin I think , hope you can find more information.

@fennellturtle 11 ай бұрын

@rozdoyle8872 hi , yes it's a housing estate now called 'Kempton' on the navan road. I paid a visit there few weeks ago

@WJFK480 Жыл бұрын

I wonder if they even inquired about the babies' fathers, and if so were their consequences for them? They should have been there doing the work. Why not try to find some of their names and put them out there too. I'm still Catholic, but I take what I like (the faith) and leave the rest (the outdated politics and man-made rules). Even today women are treated as a lower class of human, not to the degree these women endured as far as I know, but there's still a great deal of female disempowerment in the church. They still don't tell us which of the male saints were virgins. That's a shame, plus it's always been the women who were more apt to bring their families to mass and the church by me has a sparse attendance.

@eileenlocke7877 Жыл бұрын

Terrible the nuns were terrible

@beverlybalius9303 Жыл бұрын

They should not have shamed their families and they wouldn’t have been there. That’s how it was then, they knew it and did it anyway… there families didn’t want them so someone had to take them in, but any organization committing crimes against the Mother’s or babies should be charged in A Court of Law. Babies are innocent and I wonder how many of those girls were raped?. The homes should have been a place of refuge and care.

@gwynethprice8216 10 ай бұрын

It takes two too make a baby,nuns are so cruel

@colleenwilliams1452 11 күн бұрын

What were they I’ll from.

@linwoodouellette413 4 ай бұрын

It doesn't matter what color you are we have all the same color blud I haet people ho are racist I'm a mixed race not menny people ii just TOLD after My Mom pasted 3 yrs ago now I have shund by My haff sister and nece yes it. Herts you know They are The ones who are suffering mour then me they are suffering do to there ignerents babys can be loved no matter whst color you are remember we all have the same color blud one more just because you have a baby without a ring on t your hand it doesn't Make you a bad person and don't let people tell other wises I wach teen moms on TV thank god those Days had past we will have a better tomorrow 🍼🍼💙💙💙🙏🙏🙏🙏

@avalondreaming1433 11 ай бұрын

The father shares blame for this as well.

@coletteellerton1840 10 ай бұрын

Brought up as a catholic I never met a kind Nun people ask how the Germans did what they did to the Jewish people in the war the sisters of mercy were just as evil as them

@pamelachubb7790 10 ай бұрын

Te poor woman 😢

@Preciouscovington 11 ай бұрын

That’s how my condominium looked before vandals destroyed it! #kcstar

@elizabethhurtado2829 2 жыл бұрын

👍

@Melynnest 11 ай бұрын

Women if god 😮 they had no empathy or kindness

@MoparMan1320 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story with us, and the world. In my heart, I must believe, that through survivors courage....a change will come. Perhaps not a change to repair the past...too late for that. But to memorialize and remember ALL who were wronged so horribly (babies & Mothers same). At the very least...that beautiful plaque with the names of those nearly 800 babies tossed into that decommissioned septic pit, should be placed and made to stand for ALL time. So that generations to come, will know what happened in that place. (as well as any other place these atrocities were committed). As a human being this breaks my ❤...but as one who's worked in medicine the past 38+ years, it hurts double hard. I wish all survivors, both here and passed on, much peace and love.