The parents still haven’t learn the lesson. Be grateful your child is alive, thriving, and happy. Embrace the love and accept the relationship your child has.

Your daughter is destroyed mentally, emotionally, etc. But y'all should be glad she is still alive because if it was the weaker mind person, you guys won't see her again. Some people will die for love, or depression will lead to suicide! She is full of resentment, and the least you guys can do is support her before she cuts y'all off her life forever. You og are so old fashion, smh. Y'all supposed to adapt as life goes. Be very open minded, that's what a great leader is.

Wow u did this to your own kid. Honestly just love her now, be a better parent. Just be glad your daughter is alive.

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼I applaud the daughter! Good for you!! I love what you did and are doing! Be happy! Be alive! Be YOU!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

I’m not like the older GENERATION! I’m just going to be honest. The truth is y’all OG’s need to stop interfering with your kids relationship. I get it that you’re trying to protect them but you need to let them make mistakes themselves. I’m sure these OG’s who don’t want their kids talking to others who don’t have a big NAME in the community made MISTAKES in their lives. You can’t stop LOVE. LOVE is powerful!

Cia lawv xaiv tus lawv nyiam lawv thiaj li xav hlub os mog 😭😭

All I have to say is that we need to accept our kids for whatever they want. You live your life and let your kids live their own life.

As parents, we need to understand that we raise our kids to be independent and decent citizen. Their relationship choices and or their partner choices shouldn't be our decision to make. Hmong OG cannot swallow their pride. Ua tiag thaum menyuam tsis hlub tsi txhob tu siab thiab foom menyuam vim yus tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv.

You need to change yourself to fit reality. You are still thinking like "75". It's your fault for your daughter mistake. Your daughter is right that you have too high of an ego for yourself as your clan's leader, but you can't even lead your own family. Accept reality, or you'll have stoke and heart attack by yourself.

Don’t worry to much. Just worry about your health. It’s not only your child. There’s a lot of kids these days like that. Just accept them as they are

Txawm yog neb ua niam ua txiv zoo li neb es neb tus me ntxhais thiaj li mus yuav poj niam lawm ntag.

Thaub laus thiab pog laus aw hmong tus thawj coj ces quav dev rau peb tiam tshiab xwb o thawj coj yog thawj noj quav hmong o pog laus aw

Do you know the reason why your kids not listening to you . because you not spend time with them you focus on other more than your kids than don’t expect them better than that

What a sad story, especially for your daughter. Best of luck to her. Your job as parents is to love your kids unconditionally. I hope you guys come around and truly accept your daughter and her spouse.

As parents, we should love our kids unconditionally regardless of what they become or choose to be their partners in life.

I’d always choose my children over my pride & reputation and standing up for them against people that look down on them.

Thank you for sharing your story. This will help a lot of parents be a little more flexible with their kids.

yall mess your self up. yall broke them up but still attend the ex bf's wedding and ceremony. now she no straight. pab tsis tau.

Humiliation is a gift. Do not pride nor judge yourself or your children. Do not let peers define how you live or who you are. They don’t pay your bills, love you, or love your children.

All u can do is support ur children's happiness & dreams. The more u restrict them, the more they will hate u. Ur discrimination of her boyfriend's family is wrong. Leprosy was rampant back in the old day, but modern medicine has rid the disease.

You rather have her die than to lose face??? Wow!!!! Nes mas hlub nes tus ntxhaid tiag tiag li os yom? Yog li ces kam ntsis qlaas hluav mus dais tuag los mas nes nas. I understand May’s answers to the mom in the beginning. Its a nicer way of saying “just accept it and move on” …. Lol

Vim neb mloog neb tus muam los sis niam ntxawm cov lus thaum hauv paus.

Kawg kav liam tsuav yus tus mi nyuam tseem muaj txoj sia nyob rau ntawd os mog

I am a mother myself, and I rather do what makes my daughter happy. We need to leave what’s the past to the past!

Pab tu siab kawg os😢😢😢😢

I have four boys......I support their happiness NoT Mines......they all graduated with masters....I'm blessed

Yog lawm! Hmoob ruam, the world is changing and evolving every which way. Accept the changes and the differences that is everywhere.

Dang, "Tuag Mus!" is such a selfish demand from these parents. I can tell they are very "nkhaus nkhaus" from this story. Their daughter became the "man" she lost and could never have. 😢

Be happy that your daughter is still alive!!!

She was born to love her kind just a matter of time even when she was young and dated a man. There is nothing you can do. I strongly believe that even you let her marry her boyfriend at 16, she would divorce him and look for her kind later in life.

When you try to control your kids...

Txaus neb siab kawg mi ntxhais ua pauj kev chim siab xwb , Yuav txiv neej neb tsis kheev yuav poj niam kiag tsis muaj neeg txwv tau ! Mi ntxhais ua yog lawd

Keep doing that and you’ll loose your child forever. And then other story from you, the parents, will be coming out. GL

Neb ib niam txiv ces niam qhuav ntxim xwb txoj kev saib tsis taus neeg txom nyem os

You didn’t let her marry the one she loved. Now you have to live with the consequences.

Cov ntxhais hmoob kws kawm ntawv siab cov coob yuav lwm haiv neeg vim (1) Cov txiv neej hmoob kws kawm ntawv siab li nws muaj tsawg ces pojniam li pojniam tsis kam yuav tus ruam los pluag tshaj pojniam (2) College muaj lwm haiv neeg coob heev, hluas loj siab thiab zoo nraug heev (3) Txiv neej hmoob nyiam cov ntxhais mos ab, ntxhais mos ab los nyiam cov thaub laus kws muaj nyiaj... ua niam yau los kam hlo li.

Sister, embrace your daughter. Love her as she is. Do not turn your back on her. She needs you to love her and support her

Tseem muaj ntsej muag mus koom lawv thiab twb txwv2 lawv ne.

😊😊🤗👍

Us as mothers should stand up for our daughters when our husbands are strict and still think like it’s 1975. I always tell my husband “when push comes to shove” I (the Mom) will give in because I love my daughters.

You only care about your fame, you don’t care about anything else.

Tus me viv ncaus aw nyob lub teb chaws no ces kuv pom tias peb cov me nyuam zoo li koj tus kom ces peb muaj yuav luag txhua xeem li lawm tsis txhob nyuaj siab txog lawm take care neb ib niam txiv xwb os.

Txhob tus siab tsis yog tim neb o tim lub ntuj tiam no yeej yuav zoo li no mus o nawb

Another lesson learned…Hmong parents.

Neb Tsi Yog thawj coj os neb Yog cov Ua lawv hai tia ruam tsab ntse pluag tsab muaj ce Yog neb ntag ma tau Ua yam twg ce khoo kom tuag nti zoo li ruam tua tsov ce Yog neb os Lwm tu hai ce Tsi ri siab ce zaum no yu ghia yu ma txo hwj chim ceev kawg yom

koj tus ntxhais hais yog lawm. nws ua txhua yam uas koj xav tau. tam sim no, nws xaiv leej twg nws hlub. cia nws zoo siab. koj xav kom koj zoo siab? los yog, koj tus ntxhais yuav zoo siab? Is she living for you or living for herself? Be proud of her. Love her.

Neb 2 niam txiv tsab ntse dhau lawm nes kav tsij mus ua tus coj xwb txhob tu siab rau leej twg mas lo

Cas... ruam tas los ruam tsis paub kawg li os. Txoj kev ywjpheej no tsis yog tim leejtwg os. Yog tus neeg txoj kev xaiv xwb. Nws txawm yuav kiag txiv los... Nyob2 dhuav thiab ras los, yuav tig nyiam poj niam txiv neej tsis nyiam leejtwg hlo nyiam txhua nhro los yeej yuav tig. Koj kiag nws kiag yeej pab tsis tau os. Ntiaj teb hloov yuav tau xyaum hloov lub paj hlwb.

Tej zaum koj yeej xav Kom koj tus ntxhais rov yuav poj niam ne es koj thiaj li txwv tsis pub yuav txiv neej.

To the mother in this story: I cried with you during the story. As a mother, we all want the best for our children. We love them so much that we feel like making choices for their lives is love. We forget that they are individuals and want to make their own choices, just like us. We love them, we shelter them, we protect them to the point of choosing what’s best for us, thinking it’s best for them. We forget that it’s their happiness that we want, not our happiness. Sometimes we have to let them fall and learn from their mistakes. It is always wise to give them guidance and share our thoughts and experiences with them, but letting them choose their own path is the best way to show them that they are individuals. I feel for you… but don’t hurt yourself any longer. Don’t drown yourself. The best way to heal is to forgive her, and forgive yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Good luck to you. ❤

Txog thaum kawg - ob niag niam txiv tsuas tseem care txog nkawv lub nyuag koob npe. After all, these parents only care about their reputation and image, but they claim they did because they love and care about their children.

Yog kawg, tim neb cuab ntse dhau, khav neb lub npe, saib tsis lwm tus. Neb xav tias neb yuav yeej txhuayam tag tiam no, thaum kawg rov npam neb xwb.

Tab Tom haum neb kawg yom pog laus thiab laus aw neb ces tuag mus lau yog nej tsis tso tseg nej kev phem ntawm ko o tab Tom haum ua tsaug Cia nws ua Kom neb tuag mus los mas

That’s no one’s fault but yours. It’s the new age nowadays, you have to accept the new days. Although I don’t have any children yet but I used to be a person who date only females. So I can relate to your daughter. And my parents was the same way, and now I am with my man but he’s not Hmong. Sadly, they don’t accept him but it’s for my own happiness. So it is what it is. My parents are regretting just like this story.

Nwg has yog lawm. Meb laam ua thawj coj xwb meb tsis paub coj le meb tug ntxhais has lawm.

It's ok she happy

Hmong tus coj ces coj dev dev twb tsis yuav ob nyiag niam txiv laus kav tsij mus tuag o neb na tuag kom neb menyuaj thiaj tsis nyuaj siab nawb.

Neb mas lub paj hlwb ruam dhau lawm. Tseem mloog tej niag lus ruam thaum ub thaum i. Yog Tim neb xwb.

Cas neb ob niam txiv koj ua thawj coj es ua li neb xwb puas tsim nyog ua thawj coj vim neb xav tau ntsej muag thaum kawg neb thiaj tau taug txoj kev tnawm koj ne neb lub hlwb tseem qub dhau lawm os av tsij kho neb tus kheej xwb zoo dua

Karma to the parents! ❤️🥰

Poj niam thiab poj niam sib yuav txiv neej thiab txiv neej sib yuav yeej tsis txhaum tsis ua cas nawb tab si ntawm kuv yus kheej yog kuv cov me nyuam ua li ntawv kuv yeej txai tos tsis tau thiab yus yug es yus hlub tshaj tab si mus ua li ntawv yus yog niam txiv yus yeej txhai tsis tau

Kav tsij txais tos qhov tseeb tswm sim nawb, xaj maim tshiab lawm xyoog raws lub ntiaj teb.

Neb hai yog tshaj plaw lawm os mog

txhob tu2 siab yeej tim neb thiab yeej tim neb tus ntxhais thiab txhob khuv xim neb tus ntxhais lawm neb tus ntxhais los yeej yog neeg guy

Let them choose their own partners

Mloog xiam sij hawm

Leej twg los yeej xav kom me nyuam lub neej zoo tab sis peb yuav ua tsis tau li peb nyiam, peb tsuas qhuab qhia thiab pab kom me nyuam lub neej zoo xwb; txoj kev mus ua neej zoo muaj ntau txoj rau yus xaiv, tsis txhob xaiv ua neeg siab phem xwb. Neb tus ntxhais txawm yuav ib tus poj niam thiab los yog tus nws xaiv, nws nyiam thiab twb tsis yog tias nws lub siab phem. Cia nws mus raws li nws nyiam es kav tsij sib2 hlub neb thiaj yuav tsis plam neb tus ntxhais os

Nej cov lays yuav tau hloov xwb ces zoo lawm...vim nej tseem nyob lub ntuj 1975 ne....

Wow! Your daughter taught you n your husband a good life lesson! She has a good point, you refused her boyfriend then n now you refuse her partner. Wth

Ob niam txiv no xav tau ntsej muag xwb twb tsis hlub nkawd tej ntxhais tej tub li. Ib qhov ob qhov los xav kom menyuam ua kom nkawd tau ntsej muag xwb, menyuam kev zoo siab ces tsis tseem ceeb li. Ntuj aws....cov niam thiab txiv zoo li no mas muab lawb xwb.

This is why our generation is different from our parents it's not that we are all living in the life of 1975 anymore we have to listen to our parents for a better life. Mental abuse in a child is more suicide back than, then now.

lol 😂u guy over control

Oyo pab tsi tau os, niam qhuav ntxim!!!!! Txoj kev txim txim txiaj, ua thaj saib tsi taus luag lwm tu. Nco ntsoov qhia rau tej tub tej ntxhai mu ua neej txhob saib tsi taus luag lwm leej lwm tu. Thaj no ces yog neb tu ntxhais ntse mu kawm win siab los qhia neb xwb os

OMG....funny and nrog neb tu thiab os. Tab sis tus uas tu siab tshaj plaws ces ntshe yog neb tus me ntxhais lawm. A lesson to learn.

Neb txhob tias neb hlub hlub mi nyuam os, qhob tseeb tiag, neb tsuas hlub neb tus kheej xwb.

Tim neb xb

tus me niam laus e kuv los tub zoo ib yam koj thiab o kuv muaj ib tu me nthais xwb o

I applaud your daughter for being strong. As for you guys, u got what u deserve. Maybe people can judge u guys the way u judge others. Karmas a B!!

Kids nowadays you think koj yuav ua kom koj yeej lawm no, you die you.😅😅😅😅😅 They don’t care, you die, you be lucky if they faus you.

Kuv tus txiv lo phem ib yam li neb thb kuv ob tug tub thj tsi muaj neej li thb os phem dhau lm ces lawv ntshai yuav tsam g haum niag laus siab

Kavliam os ntiaj teb no yeej muaj cov neeg zoo li ntawd coob coob os mog… tsis hais neb tus Ntxhais mus ua tus tub os twb muaj cov mi tub mus ua Ntxhais thiab os es Tseem mus tham mus yuav lwm hauv neeg lawm thiab es kavliam lees txais tej uas tshwm sim kom lawv Txhob tuag lawm xwb os mog.

Sister…. Don’t worry about your child now a day most people man become women, woman become man, marriage same forest let them be. Just support them one day they get old they will realize everything already too late. Take care you n your husband health the most important thing for now…. except whatever in the front of you, pray for them more n harder….. that’s all might hurt you so bad but you’re not ganna die easy too.

Nej cov thawj coj no uacas ho tsis nrhiav kev pab rau tsevneeg Hmoob no mas es yuav muaj kev ntxub luag ua luaj. Nej yog hom thawj coj dabtsi? Yus yog thawjcoj yuav tau hlub pejxeem laiv.

Support your daughter and worry about your health

Tus niam tsev txhob tu siab txawm yus tus minyuam txawm zoo li ko los tsuav nws tsis ua neeg phem xwb os

Ab tim neb ua niam ua txiv a thaum tham txiv neej neb txwv ne neb ntseeg tug ub tug no hais ce tsam no thiaj tau vauv poj niam ntag neb heev dhau lawm os

Cov tibneeg kws hais kom neb accept qhov neb tus ntxhais yuav pojniam ces hais hais xwb yog lawv tus ces lawv los yeej tsis txaus siab ib yam. Thov kom cov tibneeg kws hais kom neb accept 1 hnub lawv cov ntxhais yuav pojniam thiab cov tub mus yuav txiv kom lawv paub.

Mi niamtij aw... neb yog niam yog txiv lawm neb yeej muaj cai chim, qhia, hlub, ntxub, neb tus ntxhais kg. Tabsis qhia rau neb paub tias neb txoj kev ntshaw yog ibyam rau neb tus ntxhais Tabsis nws pheej xaiv qhov neb tsis nyiam. Tsam no xav thov kom neb ua siab loj tsis yog neb xwb ntiaj teb neeg muaj thiab es neb yuav tau lees txais neb ntxhais txoj kev ntshaw mog. Neb yuav tsum txais thiab txhob ntxub Tabsis yuav tau txhawb nws zoo tshaj nlqhov nws tuag tsis muaj ntxhai tsis muaj vauv mog. Txhob xav neb lub meejmom xwb yuav tau ua siab loj tej menyuam thiaj tsis tas kev cian siab rau neb no mog. Es neb yuav tau txhawb nawd mog..

Tus me viv ncaus, txhob tu siab os mog. Ua ib leej niam ib leej txiv los yeej tsis yooj yim li. Yus tsuas yug tau lub cev xwb yug tsis tau lub siab. Yus menyuam yus yug ces yeej mob yus siab. Xav tiv thaiv npaum li cas los tam sim no, lawv tiav lawv niam lawv txiv ces yus yeej cheem tsis tau lawv lawm ces ua ib siab mog. Yog yus lees tau ces yeej meem lees nkawd yus thiaj li ib nyuag kaj siab os mog.

Kuv xav tau ib tug txiv neej ib yam thiab pua muaj tu lo pom kuv e kam tham nrog kuv os hmoob😢😢

Yus rov nrhiav kev nyuaj siab rau yus ces li no

Tus.me.niam.tsev.tuaj.txog.rooj.teb.no.tseem.muaj.cov.neeg.mob.ruas.thiab.tam.sim.no.tsis.muaj.lawm.thxob.tsai.tsam.pam.mog

Txhob muab lub txim pov tag nhro rau neb nawb neb ua txhua yam kom neb tus ntxhais tau lub neej zoo ua xwb. Lub weekend yuav Los no tuaj pem church we all gonna help pray for you both

Ntxhais aw txhob ua li koj os 😢

If you really love your child, then love her as who she is. You're too obsess about controlling to the point your daughter thinks becoming a man was the only way to control her own life. Shame on you

Koj mus dab tsi lawm koj puas nyob zoo..ob hnub no tsi pom koj lo tso dab neeg es nco koj kawg os niam laus aw..🥹🥹

😢😢😢😭😭😭pab koj Tus me ntshais tu siab mus tag tiam neej no os mog😢 vem Tsi Tus neeg yug hlub es ua ib siab mus yuav ib Tus poj niam Le yug los ua yug khub os 😢xim neej no kuv mas ntsub cov niag niam tsiv ua phem2 Le neb ib niam tsiv no xwb os

Niam ntsuab teev cas 2 hnub no tsi pom koj lo li tsi muaj dab neeg mloog li os 🥹😭😭😭

Nej twb nyob meka cas neb tsis qheb nej lub siab kom loj thiab coj kev txwv tub txwv ntxhais nej ua tsis yog lawm

Jacky Cheung disowned his daughter.