Just make sure everything is airtight in your WILL with the help of a lawyer so your less than loyal wife gets nothing should you divorce her or die before her (I would say the same to a woman if the situation were reversed). I may be a woman, but I don't agree with what your mil did and probably still trying to do nor do I agree with your wife's bad decision to go along with her mother's bad ideas. Whether a man or a woman, if you are a victim, then you are a victim and you deserve sympathy. Protect yourself against unscrupulous people!

People were only mad when it was them who got hurt. I'm pretty sure if your wife is the sick one, you would have been those Hmong men, ua tsis taus noj tu tsis taus tu txiv lawm, yuav niam yau.

Tuaj koom koj y

I understand you. Hide all your money or transfer to your kids before anything happens to you brother. Your wife is waiting for you to die and leave with your money! She & her mom have a plan. You just don’t know!

Wow! Txawm mob2 los twb zoo lawm, take care of yourself and be healthy. I glad that you're aware of it. Hlub koj tus kheej thiab txhua yam vim yog koj tug, koj yog tus tsim cia, koj pojniam yog cov need need txiv neej los ua cas? Kuv tus txojsia tu lawm kuv nim xav tias kheevlam nws mob2 los nws tseem muaj txojsia nyob xwb ces kuv yuav hlub2 kom tag lub siab lub ntsws nawv. Niam tais yog cov need need txiv neej ces nws xav kom nws tus ntxhais ua ib yam nws ntag. Peb pojniam thiab txiv neej ces ua lub siab phem rau yus pom lawm ces YEEJ TXIAS SIAB LAWM TSIS MUAJ QHOV TRUST LAWM....Niam tais cob ntxhais

Tuaj mloog koj thiab nawb

You did the right thing, Brother!

Me tub kuv xav tias koj ua yog kawg li lawm os mog vam tias huab tais ntuj yuav foom koob hmoov rau koj kom koj zoo sai nawb

I understand you. Hmong people had a saying..."dej txiag paug siab," and I feel similar towards my husband, too 😢. You're smart and did the right thing, brother. I just hope more younger Hmong men would understand the same, esp when a man/husband starts adultery because he has an ill wife at home. Live for yourself and be there for your children as a great father. Protect yourself & anything you own at all times. I wish you the best in the future.

You doing right brother

Brother your niam tais only a small influence, your wife is what you should watch out for. I don’t think your wife loves you holly, if she really loved you no one can persuade her to do things to hurt you. So it is good that you are smart to get your finance straight for you children’s future. Good luck brother hope all is well for you.

Yes, be smart move all the money and put it in your kid's name...

Koj mother in-law ua tsis yog lawm TABSI tus ua tsis yog tshaj mas yog koj tus pojniam os. Sending you big ((hugs)) os tus brother.

Brother koj ua yog tshaj li os

Qhiav laus Qhiav ntsim. Yim laus yim khaus p....

So............ even after knowing your wife isn't loyal not once but twice and you still stay with her.....

Txhob tu siab heev2 thiab koj tsawm tshuav yav laus no tsuav koj poj niam los thov txim es ho zam txim rau nws thiab nawb tsam yav laus nws tu2 siab ho tsis xav tu koj rau thaum laus os.. tus brother oeb ua tib neeg nyob yuav tsum muaj kev sib zam txim os mog

Tus kwv tij nrog koj tu siab thiab ib txhia poj niam li koj tus ko tsis muaj siab muaj ntsws thiaj lim hiam😭😭😭😭

Brother, you did the right thing.

Txhob tu siab tas tas rau koj poj niam thiab. Koj yuav tau xav tias yog koj poj niam yog tus mob tej zaum koj cov kwv tij twb coj koj mus yuav niam yau los tu koj lawm. koj niam tais yeej ua tsis yog lawm tab sis txhob rau txim loj loj rau koj poj niam vim nws twb los nrog koj khwv khwv. Tsis hais leej twg yeej tu siab thaum thaum muaj mob es yus tus txij nkawm pib mus nrhiav sab nraud los yog tej kwv tij neej tsa nrog nws nrhiav tus tshiab. Kev mob tsis xaiv neeg tsis xaiv ntsej xaiv muag mog. Hlub koj tus kheej thiab rau siab pab koj tus kheej kom koj zoo.

Tsis tsim nyog niam tais yuav cob ntxhai tag npauv li, yog txawj xav mas tseem yuav kom ntxhai hlub tus cauv mus tag ib txhi xwb nawb

Koj tus niam tais kos tsis tas hlub li lawm nawb mog .es cov niam tais zoo li kos tsis tas cia tuaj hauv koj tsev li os mog.

Ua cas koj tseem cia koj pojniam nrog koj niam tais mus minn

I suggest u to write a will if you’re not going to divorce her. The kids can later decide what they do with the inheritance from you.

Ntuj aw brother pab hlub koj kawg li os tus niam tais thiab tus poj niam siab phem yeej yuav npam xwb mas lo txhob tu siab os mog

Cov niam tais cov ntxhais li no tej zaum yus tseem yuav yog tus nyob ntev dua nws os.

Me tub aw cov niam tais zoo li no koj twb paub thaum niam tais hais kom koj yuav nws tus ntxhais lawm ne .yog koj zoo neeg ces nws cia koj yuav yog mob li ko lawm ces nws ham tsis yuav nrhiav dua xwb mas .tej zaum koj hlub nws tus ntxhais dhau lawm koj thiaj li tsis nco thaum nws thab nws tus ntxhais rau koj lawm xwb

Love yourself brother and go on a vacation.

Peb ua neej nyob ces yog thaum 1 tug ua qee yam 6 1 leeg txias siab lawm ces yeej muaj lub maib zoo li no .yog neb g sib kho kom sib nkag siab ces ntshe nws yuav g xav tu koj ces teeb meem yuav haj yam loj or muab sib nrauj zoo dua

You’re doing the right thing. Keep your wife away from your mom

Brother txhob tau saib os, consider yourself a Blessed Person!!!

My pet peeve: when people point out everything little they do for others. If you’re expecting something in return, please don’t help at all.

Nyob zoo

Ur MIL is a bad influence on ur wife. But if ur wife truly loves u, she would stand with u. Put everything in ur kids names only.

you did good not leaving anything to your wife. If you had died before changing your will your wife will get everything and probably leave nothing to your children. She will take your fortune and follow your mother-in-law's footsteps

TBH...those Niamtais that is always pushing their daughter(s) to guys as a marriage match-maker is Always a Red Flag! Make sure your wife gets nothing for being unfaithful to you!

My objection is those mother-in-law and father-in-law who hate orphan children.

Tej laus twb hais tias noj nceb kom taug cav no sad. Yog koj pojniam hlub koj tiag tiag nws niam yeej yuav haub ntxias tsis tau nws mus qhov twg los yog ua tej yam tsis raug qhov muag li nod

Kuv kuj yog ib tug niam tais muaj ntxhais vauv tub nyab thiab koj niam tais ces ua li hmoob cov laus hais pub nab rog ces nab tom neeg xwb koj ua yog lawm

Koj niag niam tais mas liam tshaj plaws li os, hos koj tus pojniam ces ntshe nws twb laj 2 tos koj tuag es yuav rawm 2 mus ua maum nkais nrog nws niam, ua li koj ua yog kawg lawm txhob cia nyiaj thiab vaj tse rau nws muab ua koj cov megnuam kom tag…

Hoyo txhob chim thiab yog muab tim hais tias yog koj tus poj niam mob no tej zaum koj twb yuav ib tug nrhiav lawm los kuj tsis paub.

Vim koj tsis muab kev hlub rau niam tais ne cov niam tais zoo li koj tus no yog hom niam tais khaus2 nceb koj tsis ua kom niam tais pom hnub qub da dawb vog

kwv tij koj tsim nyog yuav tau rov tig los hlub koj tuspoj niam. yog nws pauv los ua zoo rau koj lawm tiag. vim ua zoo pub rau nws vim rau koj cov mes nyuam xwb. ua neeg nyob ces yeej kawg tuag xwb ua zoo sib zam txim thiab

The important question is…why are u still with her?????? I get it you have kids together, so? It’s worse for the kids to grow up and see this, And to live and waste your life with someone you don’t care about or trust anymore, how’s that even living? I say move on and find your peace and happiness but if u stay with her than don’t complain. You’re either a victim or a volunteer.

If you have no trust in your wife anymore and don't like niam tais. Divorce her. Why complain and still married to your wife??

Thaum ub NWS Twb muab NWS Tus ntxhais thab rau koj yuav CES thaum koj yuav Tau los Niam tais yeej yuav muab thab rau lwm Tus tib yam thiab hos, tsis yog muab thab rau koj yuav xwb od😅😊

Brother you did the right thing not to trust your wife. Love yourself change your life benefits to your son that you trust. Your wife has a cheated heart. Your mother in law is a bad example to your wife and family. If your wife not change and take care family I would not let her have nothing. She has to earn your the trust for you. If your wife already go to the night club with your mother in law to meet the ex mean that she no longer care for you!! Dont trust her one day she will poison you and take all your money and remarry to her ex. I won’t eat her cooking or drink what she offer dont allow your evil mother in law to your land she try to destroy your family.

Tus poj niam zoo li koj ces txhob qhia dab tsi rau nws thiab tsis tas muab nws npe ntxiv rau yus tej account li os brother

Tooj Xob duav puas khov lawm maj? Nws niag poj niam twb khiav mus lawm nev. Koj niag poj niam los liam tib yam li koj niam tais.

You should've known your MIL was a gold digger. B/C she did to your wife's ex-BF what your ex-GF's family did to you when you were poor.

koj ua yog lawm mas niag niam taig niag poj nruam hmoov hlob laug tas li kom.tseem khaug npaum kom.koj tsw pub tuaj tom koj tsev zoo lawg.ceev faj koj poj niam.tsam lom koj tuag. lub niag noob ntoo liam li rob niag ntoo ntag

Just be careful your mother-in-law and wife just might poison you. Make a living well.

Kwvtij Yog koj yuav Hmoob kevcai, koj twb muaj evidence npaum kod. Coj mus rau neejtsa hais. Yog lawv hais tas, tus yuav nrog koj ua neej ces yeej yuav hloov nawb. Yog tsis care Hmoob dev npua cai, nrog lawyer tham kom koj paub txojcai. Lub lav Kuv nyob, yog neb muaj daim marriage license. Koj tus pojniam muaj cai los txheeb 50% ntawm neb lub neej. Koj txawm yuav ua qab rooj npau cas los yeej dhia tsis dhau Mekas txojcai.

Why are you still with her?

Yog koj khoom twb tsis work li koj hais lawm ces kam liam kav tsij zam txim rau koj poj niam mas Twb tsis tau mus deev kiag ne. Koj ho mua. Ua tshaj dhau lawm yog koj tsis zam txim es koj pheej yuav cib nyeej es koj tej nyiaj los yog koj tuag koj yuav Tsis pub rau nws no ces tej zaum nws yuav ncaim koj mus ib hnub twg ov. Koj muab xav seb yog koj poj niam mob ntshe koj twb mus yuav. Ib tug tshiab los nyev lawm os.

Your mother n law is wrong. Her new lifestyle forgotten whom you are. If your wife choose to follow her mother why are your keeping her around. Let her go and be wild like her mother. That way you don’t have to worry about what she does and focus on yourself to heal. Separate all your assets so your wife won’t get anything. Maybe then she’ll realize how much you and your love means and had taken you for granted.

I'm not sure why you're complaining about what your niam tais did. Women worked so hard to take care of their husbands, families, and in-laws, but the minute they get sick, the whole clan already help their sons look for wives. She's only looking out for her daughter's best interests, just like the clans are doing for their sons.

Koj tsis mus ntsib kawyer, you loose because you have paper trial on everything you did. You don’t have any solid evidence on your wife, only hier say.

Niam no ko diav tig rau poj niam tuav lawm tiag cov mi nyuag txiv neej hmoob 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Koj poj niam tseem nyob tu koj ntev loo ov. Yog koj ces koj twb coj tus poj tshiab los aim tsaj aim tsaj rau nws ntsia hnub nws pib tsis taus lawm las ma.

I would do the same thing as you do brother. But don’t push your wife too hard, leave her some space so the relationship still intact, otherwise the string will be completely cut off and that is no good to both of you. Just keep monitoring the situation and hopefully she changes her mind and be honest with you from now on. God bless you.

you should not complain about your mother in law. whatever she does or dates is no wrong for anyone because she has been a widow for many years. you as the son in law your support for the family is fine because you took them to your arms when they were incapable of doing anything for them and you didn’t mind so don’t complain about them. your wife’s family depends on you too much but you allowed so you have to appreciate that. it’s up to your wife if she changes to follow her mother there’s nothing you can’t do. however that’s not right for you to change your life insurance to the children. she is still with you so you will suffer more if you keep being a selfish person to her and her family. remember kev zoo yeej kev phem so don’t worry about it. always welcome your mother in law to your house so you continue to receive blessings otherwise

Koj yeej ua yog lawm os koj twb yog koj thiaj tseem yuav koj niag poj dab qus ntshav ko yog lwm tu tej zaum muab nws ncaw tawm ntev lawm

tsov tom niam tais ntawd thaum nws muab nws tus ntxhais thab thab rau koj, koj tsis muab niam tais xa ua kom niam tais thiaj li paub nco koj tus txhiaj nrim ov mog kwv tij,

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