You girls should have stood your ground and not hand them any money. It was obvious that they don’t care for you and were just planning to use you. Duh. Common sense.

Idk why you guys still chase after him after what he's put your mother and you all through. Fk that shit y'all dont some owe him and the half siblings anything!!!! Gosh story like this makes me boiled. Y'all not so smart....

They Have A Saying, "A Lot Of Girls Was Already Broken From Their Dad, Before Any Boy Ever Made Her Broken." I Believe This So Much ... I Also Know How You Feel Bout A Dad Not Loving You!! I Never Had A Father Figure ... The Brothers Have No Right To Ask The Sisters For Help! Their Dad Has Never Been There For The Sisters!! So So Mean & Rude ... With A Family Like This Is Horrible! No Wonder, The Dad Can't Protect You Girls! The Brothers Is Worst As Well!! Even Tho I Don't Have Much In Life; I'm Grateful For 2 Girls + 5 Boys!! So Sad For Stories Like These For Dad's Who Don't Love Their Daughters!

Stay away from your step siblings. May your mom rest in peace.

Wow wow wow another story from the community! Lesson learned daughters! Please let this be lesson!

Wow ya gave in to your dad and step siblings so easily. I would not help a penny to a txiv dev or those stingy half siblings. Ya are not smart at all. That’s all on ya bad decisions.

Shame on your dad, your brothers, and your dad's family!!

I don’t understand why Hmong funeral have to be so expensive

I have a say! Per my understanding, the sisters do not need to contribute to the parents' funeral! It belongs to the brothers. It's their responsibility and beside this thaub laus did not even love these girls. To him they were just burden to him. I've stood my ground and never help with the funeral. SMH. Ntxim ntxub kawg tus thaub laus thiab nws cov mes nyuam no nas.

From my personal experience who lost both mom and dad, dealing with your parents' funeral is one of the hardest events in life when there's so much drama within the family.

Why you guys gave them even a penny is beyond me.

If u don't like American why did u come here for what i believe American governments is the best❤

You don’t need those brothers. You know they don’t love you because they don’t share the same mom. Txhob tog puab os. Mej cov viv ncaus hab mej coj txiv yuav tau sib sib hlub ua neej zoo zoo rua puab saib hab ntshaw xwb mas.

This story is a mess! The father is a selfish bastard and the sons are useless!

Not only is your dad an evil Dad, and husband and also a racist. I don't understand why we as Hmong children are always trying to have relationships with parents like this dad. He didn't do anything for you ladies...didn't care. Give back the same energy.

Sister why made a big funeral cost. You should just stay your ground. Hmong funeral just create problems.

Zaj neej neeg no tu siab tshaj plaws li os.niam hlob niam yau kiag los niam loj cov tub yeej hlub tsis taus niam yau li os yom

The unfairness between sons and daughters. Them elders.... glad this view is changing with the new generations.

The title is misleading. It should be called “Neeg Ruam Ces Thiaj Tshuav Luag Nqi.” Stories like this are annoying. Not sure why you want to come in here to complain about how bad your dad and step siblings are but at the same time dumb enough to want to kiss their asses and pleased them. Expect that most listeners are going be annoyed with you versus siding with you.

ทำไมพวกคุณต้องไปช่วยงานศพพ่อหมาๆแบบนี้พวกคุณโง่หรือเปล่าเขาไม่เคยใส่ใจพวกคุณเลยฟังแล้วรู้โมโหแทน เราเป็นแม่พวกคุณเราจะไม่ให้พวกคุณเสียเงินแม้แต่บาทเดียวให้พ่อเลย

This story pisses me off so much. Everyone including the sisters too.

This man is cruel to the core. These daughters do not owe him anything.

Your mom should've continue following Jesus.

I feel your pain

Ob vivncaus aw yuav yus tug txiv nrog thiab mas 3 leeg thiab lom zem os yog twb ua tau li ntawm ces 3 leeg ua kev thiab lom zem o mog

Tsev neeg no tsis muaj tus coj thiab tus noj taus hais taus lawm los ua li cas tsis muaj tus los hais li. Nrog nej tusiab thiab khuv xim os cov sister. Think positive es cov nus thiab neej tsa yeej hais tias nej Yog cov ua neej muaj lawm no ces yuav lo ntawv xwb. Cov niam cov txiv uas tsis pub cov menyuam yuav life insurance tuav pov fwm rau yav laus es pheej hais tias lawv yuav muab cov laus coj mus ua luam ces ua tau li cas yuav li ntawv xwb. Don’t expect too much from the children. Nco qab ntsoov nyob teb chaws no tub thiab ntxhais los yeej ua tau 1 txoj hauj lwm tsuav muaj nyiaj xwb. Tha niam tha txiv los yeej tau tib yam nkaus. Nej cov me viv ncaus sib sib hlub nawb.

Tsis paub tias yog vim li cas es nej thiaj raug yuam los tshwm nyiaj ntau ua luaj los tha koj txiv es txog koj niam no ces yog nyuag nus no ho ua ntshej lag muag dig li ko rau nej! Txawm li cas los nej cov viv ncaus twb ua lub ntees zoo2 rau koj niam lawm ces nws yeej zoo siab lawm os mog!

Moob lub neej yog leej twg ruas ces leej twg swb xwb os Moob! Good thing you guy did a good job for your mom.

Wow!! So sad li os. Your mom will blessing you and your sisters.

Niam loj cov tub dev no tsi tsi nyog Nej hlub lawm

Cov niag dab ntxwv nyoo nus ntawm ko yeej yuav npam yeej tsis muaj lub neej zoo li mog cov Viv ncaus nej mam ntsia mus maj

tim leej txiv uas yog txiv aub es yus yug tau ho tsis lees paub, tim leej txiv uas yog txiv dev es yus yug tau los yus tsis ris tsis ev, cia kom tuag li aub tuag li dev hos tsis yog yus ib leeg nuv niam txiv ib plab xav ces yus tuag los nws yeej tsis tuaj nta, yus tsis yog niam txiv ib plab yug ces txawm tuag kiag los ib leeg tsis xaub ib tug od mog.

At the end of the day, the father got what he deserved. Being laid to rest with trouble🤷🏻‍♀️. My mom was lucky to have 4 successful daughters who was able to put her to rest without needing anyone’s help.

Hmong people only see you when they need your help. They don't care about you when times get hard. I knew exactly how your brothers were going to be even before they story got there.

Why do you even care for your dad? You and your sisters shouldn’t give them anything. They did you guys wrong! 😢

It’s okay, a few $$$ didn’t break you and your sisters.

Cov niag txiv dev no tuag tag tseem nyob ne

My brother is just like their dad. It’s sad that your own family don’t love you.

Cov nus dev ko thiab cov kwv tij dev ko ces ua ib siab tu siab nro tsis txob tos lawv pab yus mog cas yuav phem ua luaj li os twb tsis kom pab nyiaj li lis tseem tsis pab thiab cas yuav phem tiag tiag li

Why do hmong OGs always want their kids to marry who they like and when they die they want a big nice expensive funeral omg..

You guys do not owe your dad anything. He was never a father figure never even tried to be in you guys' lives. Your half siblings are so wrong. In your situation, I would only give to the funeral what I can, not thousands of dollars.

Tsis hlub luag thaum yuav tuag ces paub tias yog tub nyab ntxhais vauv

May God bless you, sisters. My heart hurts from this story. I'm glad you stood your ground and did not let your brothers carry your mom. They do not deserve it, and they do not deserve to be blessed by her, esp that brother of yours who lied constantly. I pray that happiness, joy, love, good health, and prosperity continue to flow to you ladies. In life, what goes around comes around. May you all be filled with peace.

Sister lawv twb tsis hlub nej li yog twb tsis muaj koj niam lawm ces txhob mus saib lawv os yog lawv hlub nej ces txog koj niam lub ntees ces lawv twb pab nej lawm

Tus muam cia lub ntuj mam txiav txim xwb thiaj ncaj nruav nrab

Fathers as this makes my blood boil...You & Your sisters owe your unloving Father, Nothing!!! The audacity your Father & your half-brothers have!!! 🤦‍♀️How come your Mother had a Non-Christian funeral? I thought you guys went to Church? 🤷‍♀️

Cas twb tias mus church Es thiaj tau vauv meskas no Es tseem ho yuav need tub ua ntees thiab ? Muab mloog mas nej too soft Es nej thiaj raug nej txiv thiab nws cov niag tub lim hiam lwg nej 1 zaug tas 1 zaug tuaj

I don’t know if you guys realize that your half siblings only want to use you and you sisters money only. Y’all should’ve told them to go get loans from the bank for your dad’s funeral if they wanted to make it so big. Plus, it doesn’t matter if the brothers are not married they can still contribute to the funeral expenses. That family did not do anything fairly. You guys should cut ties with them now that the parents are gone cause they only continue to use you guys for your money

ts thawj xyom cuab ces yog txiv dev cov niag thaub laus coj li no na

Sister don't feel bad. My mother in-law don't have any sons at all. She live with us daughter. When she die 3 of her son-in laws and her 2 daughters we did her funeral? Even one of her daughter just pass away 3 months. She did get proper Hmong funeral the way she wish.

Ntuj awd, neb 4 niag ntxhais ces raug nej pab nus muab nej ntxhias kaus hlwb xwb...nej mas cas yuav zoo rau lawv kaus ua luaj li tiag lauj. T ej zaum nej yeej tseem tshuav lawv nqi xwb.

Txiv twb haus dej dab tuag lawm cas tseem tau muab ntxhais them nqi nyuj thiab maj.

Sister just take your mom go to church that the easy way. All your stepbrothers will never love your sisters.

Nej yog cov ntxhais lawv tsi muaj txoj kev cai quab yuam nej mog...Vim yus txiv uas neej tsi muaj lub hom phiaj es tej me nyuam thiaj li nyias lem nyias ces pov rau dev noj xwb tseem los quab yuam yus cov ntxhais thiab pab nej xeem hmoob txaj muag kawg li. Cov niag nus twb tsi niam txim txiaj thiab txhob tu siab mog💞👍👍

Tej zaj no mas meem txom kawg li

Tu siab tshajli yug lo ua ib tug me ntxhais hmoob….

This story brings stress to me. If you guys helped the step siblings with your father’s funeral due to the relatives or leader of the families, where were they when your mother passed. Something is missing in this story. I’m sure no one is that stupid to just let it slide. Especially when the sunshine money was supposed to be for the 2 mothers too.

Zaj no ua Kuv ntshav siab vim peb cov khaub ntxhais tsis muaj feem yuav tuaj ntau npaum no. Vim nej lub siab zoo dhau lawv thiaj saib tsis tau nej. And what happened to church. I thought you guys attend church🤔

Tus viv ncaus cas nej tus thawj xyom cuab ntsej muag yuav tuab ua luaj li, qhia kiag nej cov tsa nees rau saum huab cua no, kom 3 paub kiag sob, nej cov nus xwb twb tias ntsej muag tuab kawg lawm no, cas tus thawj xyom cuab tseem tuab tshaj thiab.😂😂😂😂

Es koj niam nej twb mus church ne . cas thaum txog koj niam lub cawv xeeb es nej ho muab koj niam ua qub Kev cai na. Koj niam twb mus church ces ua mus church thiaj tsis siv nyiaj ntau , ua cas kuv tsis to taub es tseem rov muab ua qhov qub Kev cai.

How about being on a budget for hmong funerals? Why dafuq it always gotta be 30k + for a funeral? All that money isn't for the dead. It's spent on food and those who are serving the funeral, which should be free of charge.

I wouldn't give a dime.

Ntsej muag dev laus aw koj cov niag koob hmoov phem qias neeg lim hiaj ntais ntuj zoo li ko xwb yog tso koj cov koob hmoov los yeej tsis yuav os tsam Tau koj cov niag hmoov phem lim hiam qias neeg li koj ko thiab os vim koj phem dhau lawm thaum koj yuav tuag koj ho txawj kom lawv pam koj thiab koj yog ib tug txiv dev Liam tshaj plaws li os zoo rau qhov los thawj thiab tsis tau ua koj me nyuam os yom

Hub ! Uacas tsev hmoob no yuav coj qianeeg ualuaj no ? Hmoob npab nauj no yeej siab phem lino .

These people are never be together, even at the heavy susu!

Niam loj thiab niam loj cov me nyuam yeej siab phem

Why does all these hmg stories sound so evil?!

Wow another evil step brother and step mom and dad and specially uncle still force the daughter to take the old man funeral expenses. What a shame

Nrog koj niam tu siab rau nws lub neej. Tsis tsim nyog nej cov vivncaus los tha koj txiv vim nws yog ib leej txiv siab phem lim hiam rau nej twb tsis hlub koj niam nej. Tsuas yog lub niag npe txiv xwb tsis hlub nej. Nws twb tsis pauv vauv meskas ib tug rau tes los tseem hais tias nws qias vauv mesas. Kob cov nus siab phem li koj txiv ntag. Cov nus no ces txhob cia siab rau lawm. Nej cov me vivncaus kav tsij sib2 hlub mog. Lub neej xabmaim no ces tus neeg ua zoo yeej swb tus siab phem.

I'm so confused I thought she said that they go to church? Do they do her funeral like not going to church? Something not right in this story??

Nej cov ntxhais ruam dhau. Leej twg hais tias nej cov ntxhais muaj phuv 9 pluag sib luag 8 pluaj sib ntev nrog rau nej cov nus thiab cov kwv tij nas? Thaum yus paub tias lawv take advantage of you lawm ces, tsis txhob quav ntsej lawv li lawm xwb los pob. Dab nim yuav quaj qhov twg tuaj. Tos Hmoob xav tau tub, thiab hlub tub xwb los twb vim yog tej no xwb los sav. Koj txiv ib txwm tsis nav nej, tsis suav nej, tsis hlub nej. Qhov zoo ces ua ib hauv qhua mus hlub xwb. Twg kom nej tsab tsab muaj nyiaj nas. Ruam tiag tiag. Tus ntsej muag lim hiam laus ntawd, thaum ua neej nyob nws twb ntxub nej ti txha nkaus, thaum tuag lawm nej tseem cia siab tias nws yuav tso koob hmoov rau nej no. Nej mas ruam tshaj plaws.

Tus me ntxhais aw koj cov niag dab laug no yog ib cov neeg siab phem siab lim hiam huab noj huab haus tiag tiag li os

I don’t understand why Hmong people still fall for this kind of bullsh*t. If that person wasn’t there for me to begin with then I wouldn’t even care to help. Hmong OGs need to stop forcing the kids to buried their parents. If you don’t have $$ saved to bury yourself then don’t do a dramatic funeral.

Sis you sad That your family go church but when you mother leaved why you do Hmong kev cai 😂😂😂😂

Kuv mloog ma ruam ib yam

Cas nej ruam ua luaj noj quav xwb nej

These stories do not encourage me at all to value the hmong culture. Paid your debt so your children can be free from this curse. Why are hmong funerals so darn expensive?

Ib leeg txiv siab phem tag lub neej hlawv pov tseg kiag xwb

Ruam xwb os nej na mus thab plaub dab tsi naw tau zoo byob tsis nyob nej txiv tuag ces celebrities tsa khob haus cawv xwb mo

Koj niam tsis tuaj nyob rau hauv KZfaq no nawb. Koj cov lus fi rau koj niam yog koj yuav tsum mus hais rau tom koj niam lub ntxa xwb. Koj hais rau hauv KZfaq no los nws tsis hnov tsis paub. Hauv dab teb tsis muaj KZfaq laiv.

Nej cov viv ncaus ruam zog lawm lawv siv nej tha nej txiv xwb.

Thaum twg es txawm siv pauv hmoob txoj dev npua cai mus yaum cov ntxhais cov vauv los thas cov niam tais yawm txiv lawm nas. Hmoob mas liam tiag yog zoo li no ces tus qaib xwm kab cias rau cov ntxhais noj xwb nawb thiab nyiaj tshav ntuj mas cias rau cov ntxhais xwb.

Tsis nca nceeg rau nej cov nxthais lawm.

I would’ve cut ties…not even give a penny. If roles were switched u wouldn’t see a dime from those narrowminded people.

I would never have given them a penny

Xav nrog tham o niam me

😭😭

Daughters and son-in-laws are not obligated to split expenses for funerals with the brothers! It's the son's responsibility to bury the parents! I wouldn't give a penny to a help a shitty family like that!

Yeej tsis tsim nyog nej nrog nej cov niag nus siab phem no tsa nej txiv siab dub no lub niag ntees kiag os! Ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag os txoj kev zoo yus ua yus yeej yuav tau txais thiab os

Heck, NO Way!

Hmong os Hmong ossss. Such terrible sons and daughters from the first wife. Incapable and hopeless.

this story got my blood boiled hard. F these half pathetic brothers. they ain’t sht that’s why they can’t pull money but constantly drain money from you sisters. tsis kk nug lawv moog. hnub twg lawv tuag los tseg. ua nus muag es ua li no xwb ces muab xoblaim kiag.

Peb hmoob mas coj ti phem lim hiam tshaj tseem nyob qhov twg los yeej tsis tau pauv li

Pab hmoob no muaj thawj xyom cuab thiab. Tus thawj xyom cuab rau pab hmoob no tsis yog noj mov hlob. Nws noj quav loj hlob xwb os hmoob aw...😁😁😁

Can’t believe this old dog want the girls to take half the cost of his funeral

I wouldn't pay anything...

I’m confused, if what you’re saying is true why do seek love from someone that claims to be your father but all he is a sperm donor. I have a sperm donor (that’s what I call him) and will never seek him out.

You are not smart. Why do you need your half siblings. Even girls can do your mother’s funeral. You say you guys go to church. They used you and your sisters. You guys go to church, get your church to do a fast and simple funeral. Not smart at all.

shameless father, sons and relatives. cov txiv dev coj kev cai dev, nej ces tsis zoo ua neeg, nyob hnyav av. yaj ntshis mus

I hate traditional Hmong drama