Learn how to how to influence, attract and win people over from an ex-FBI agent!
Today on the show we're yapping with Dr. Jack Schafer, a former FBI special agent, professor, psychologist, and author of "The Like Switch." Jack spent fifteen years conducting counter-intelligence and counterterrorism investigations, and seven years as a behavioral analyst for the FBI’s National Security Division. He developed spy recruitment techniques, interviewed terrorists, and trained agents in the art of interrogation and persuasion. To boil it down, much of Jack's job was to convert spies into allies, by getting them to be his friend, like and trust him. Now he shares his strategies to the masses so the average person can use them in everyday situations to influence, attract, and win people over.
Tune in to learn about non-verbal cues and friend signals, how to approach strangers at a party, and what you can do mitigate a heated argument.
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09:39 - "The friendship formula, basically, there's four elements in a personal relationship. The first one is proximity, the second one is frequency. The third one is duration, and the fourth one is intensity."
09:50 - "So in order to have any kind of a relationship at all, you have to have proximity because if you're in New York and I'm in Chicago and we don't know one another exists, then there's no relationship."
10:08 - "The nice thing about proximity is if we just share space with other people, we establish a mutual liking for that person."
10:28 - "You have to be frequently proximal with somebody and just being frequently there doesn't do a lot either, so you have to have duration. So you have to have time with that person."
10:38 - "I think the most important thing is the intensity of that relationship. So that's the kind of glue that holds that relationship together."
12:07 - "The whole thing is, you can use that in your personal life if you're, if you have a person of interest, and you can just be where they're at. If they're in a bar or a gym, just be there."
14:16 - "When we smile, we release endorphins and endorphins makes us, make us feel good about ourselves."
14:23 - "There's the golden rule of friendship, which says, if you wanna make friends with somebody, you make them feel good about themselves."
14:57 - "The friendship formula is very interesting because I think it's actually a scientific fact that the more time you spend with someone, the more attractive you think they are."
17:05 - "Your big three friend signals that you went over are the head tilt, the eyebrow flash, and the smile."
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