2 Reasons: 1. They're not interested 2. I'm not interested

I'm single because I'm attracted to people who are not attracted to me. Vice versa

I’m single because I’m focusing on healing past traumas and building a healthy relationship with myself before I try again.

You forgot the 3rd reason: Trauma from past relationships.

I'm still single because I'm here watching youtube videos telling me how to live

Single doesnt always mean lonely, relationships doesn't always mean happy. Must be an emotionally strong person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling with anything just to say they have something.

It's interesting how the School of Life just says we're single because of these two reasons, but the truth is bigger, just like everyone's comments here show. We may have trust issues, we may be physically unattractive/ugly, we may be poor, we may prefer solitude, or we may just prefer to look for ourselves before investing in a relationship because some of us actually CARE about having quality relationships, perhaps because we've seen relationships that lack quality i.e. from observing our parents etc.

I haven’t dated since my first love. They messed me up that much. I hope all y’all get to experience love at least once in your lifetime, it is truly the best feeling I’ve ever known.

I’m single because i’m insecure, overly emotional, dependant and have anxiety. I am the problem and I recognise that.

Reason 1: I'm ugly fam. Reason 2: I only go out to buy groceries and for work.

What if you want compatibility? (emotionally, physically, intellectually, spiritually etc) What if you're trying to avoid dysfunctional romantic relationships?

1. I choose to be single until I meet someone extraordinary enough to make me want to be in a relationship again. 2. I’m ok with being single, I like myself and that is enough. I am the only guaranteed constant in my own life and so I will continue to be there for myself. I was curious what this was going to say, I appreciate new insight into why I am the way I am but this didn’t feel accurate for myself. I can understand that it is because I am not looking for anything. It is good to be aware of these possible mindsets in the future though.

I'm single because I'm shit at socializing.

Single because I do not want to be with someone I do not love ! To find someone you love and who love you back is like winning the lottery

All relationships are temporary - they all end by breakup, divorce, or death.

Being in love is far more painful than being single and happy with one's self. I deleted the dating apps off my phone years ago.

I'm single because I don't understand what I'm supposed to do with people.

Reason one: your choice to stay single Reason two: someone else's choice not to date you

Once you survive a narcissist psychopath, being alone but not lonely is quite pleasant.

3rd reason: you enjoy working on yourself and being single.

I am single because you can’t get dumped if you’re not in a relationship

The 2 reasons I'm still single: I'm not aware that anyone is keen on me, and I can't find anyone I want a relationship with.

When you’ve been in a strong relationship everything beyond that seems like a consolation prize ….and NOBODY should ever have to feel like they are second prize. Also When you see someone you care for as broken as you are during a break up you NEVER want to do that to anyone again, especially someone that means everything to you No thanks, I’m good. Not doing that again. Happy to stay single.

Insecurity, projection problems, intense self-hatred. My holy trinity of mental fun.

*in the comment section reading why people are single.

Unfortunately, love is a two way thing: it's not enough to love, you have to be loved back. That's how you stop being single.

Reasons I'm single: My father's land no longer needs to be joined to our neighbour's to secure a peaceful and prosperous treaty.

I’m single because there simply isn’t someone for everyone.

Her: "Your single...why? Me: *You're*

Sometimes people stay single to protect themselves from the pain and suffering that is brought by relationships and it gets miserable when our partner treats us terribly and only use us for their own purposes. Being betrayed by the person to whom you bare your soul open is the most devastating thing.Also moving on from painful memories surrounds you with sheer grief as love now a days is just confined to satisfying one's physical needs and people think of it not as an emotional bond so they dump their partners if they can't satisfy their materialistic needs because people are more concerned with outer beauty and not with the warmth of unconditional love .

I have an issue with trusting people who say they like me. I make a point to not let my insecurities determine my actions but now I realize those insecurities influence not only myself, but also my image of those who praise, desire and accept me. Yet another thing about myself to work on thanks to this channel. Keeping me busy

I'm single because I refuse to just partner with anyone not to be lonely as most people do. I'm not desperate to be with anyone.Single does not mean lonely, relationships don't equal happiness... Many are miserable in relationships.

I'm bisexual so I'm always bi-myself

May be there is also a third category: those of us who are only able to feel "safe and protected" when we are alone. We don't necessarily hate or love ourselves too much, but probably for some lack of " basic trust" towards the world , we only feel truly at home in solitude. Well, it sounds a little too dramatic, but there is nothing bitter about it. You won't have that " special someone" in your life, but you can still be a very generous, loving and caring person. I have this friend who has a strange disease and the doctors said that she should not get pregnant, because she could die if she gave birth. So, just like the people who have that particular physical condition better don't have children, others who have a certain " soul condition", probably better NOT have a partner, because it may also be too dangerous. Here is why: If you had a very troubled childhood and have too many memories of violence and humiliation, it is very probable that you will always fall for people who will make you feel "at home", which means a partner who will bring it all back to your life again. So you may as well keep yourself out of trouble and save a lot of time that you could use for more meaningful things. And here is a beautiful idea: If I remember properly it was Stefan Zweig who said that we have our love inside us and we give it the name of someone. So instead of calling it by the name of one person, you may as well name your love "humanity" and try to love and care for as many people as you can. People like Matthieu Ricard or David Steidl Rast live like this and they seem to have very beautiful, fulfilling lives. And that's why my favourite novel of all times is " El Beso de la Mujer Araña" ( The Kiss of a Spider Woman ) by Manuel Puig. There you have two people who have absolutely nothing in common ( not even their sexuality; because one is hetero and the other is homosexual ) and they are locked up in a prison cell and over time they learn to love each other deeply. It is because they have "the time and the will and the quality of focus" you need in order to know another human being. They truly listen to each other. How interesting: if they were so called "free" people like us , they would probably never find that clarity and depth of love. In German you have this word " Liebesfähig" which describes a person who is " able to love". And then you have another word, " Beziehungsfähig", which refers to the person who is " able to be in a relationship". So you can be absolutely "liebesfähig" but not "beziegungsfähig" and it is alright. As always, I have found the most consoling insight about this on an interview with Alain de Botton. On that " On Being with Krista Tippett" podcast he said: " And I think it's also worth saying that, for some people relationships are not necessarily the best place where they encounter their best selves, that actually, the person that they are in a relationship is not the person that they want to be or that they can be in other areas of life, that they feel that there are other possibilities that they'd like to explore." But for friends who do want to have a relationship but hate themselves and therefore cannot, there are very helpful videos on this channel. You can start with these three: -Self Compassion -Overcoming Bad Inner Voices -Self Esteem Thank you for this very wise lesson. The animation was incredibly cute too!

Love your content that is always well supported with illustrations illuminating the teachings. Thanks

I'm single because I have had so many failed relationships, despite all my efforts to make it work, compromises, "imagination" as he put it. And yet, it inevitably fails. There's only so many times one can hear "you are a great person but I don't think we're right for each other / I don't think it can work out". I have been broken up with more times than I would like to be. I'm tired!

I’m single because I want to. Because I do not feel the need to have someone to justify my existence. I want love when it’s real. I don’t settle for less that’s why.

what's sad is that "beautiful people with ugly personalities" have a lot bigger chance of getting a partner than "ugly people with beautiful personalities"

I've not been able to fall in love with someone I'm not attracted to. I've even given someone like that a chance and all it did was make my skin crawl and he became jealous and possessive.

dang this channel wrenches out my heart’s secrets and displays them vividly in front of me

I don't hate myself and I don't love myself excessively. I have trust issues. It's better this way.

Why does society wants to make us feel BAD and SAD for being single ?!? We can totally be single and very happy and successful in life, it just mean that our happiness doesn't need to depend on someone else ...

I'm single because I can't find what I want in a person. And I often wonder if one person is enough. I also find it super hard to get close.

I can't even begin to say how mach your videos have helped me and led me to understand myself more and in turn make me a better person toward my fellow humans :) Thank you a whole bunch from the bottem of my bottemless heart! Keep up the good work 🌷🌹

I'm single because I'm not looking, and honestly, I have trouble connecting with people. I just want to figure myself out before having someone share my life with me. I feel relationships are very special and I don't want just any relationship.

I’m single because I finally was honest with myself and admitted that the reason I’m turning down every great person is because I just want to be alone. Good friends and family is enough.

I'm single because I love my peace and quiet. I love silence and just being in my own space.

I'll tell you one thing, I envy everyone who is single. I was sad to be single too. Until I got into what I thought was the perfect relationship. Then we got comfortable with each other and the true colors started to show. Now I have wasted half of my 20s on someone who didn't deserve a minute of my time.

i know why i'm single. its very simple. anxiety and depression gets the best of me. literally no surprise there.

I've been in relationships and haven't been happy. I'm happier and much better off being single. I can do what I want, go where I want, when I want, and don't have to worry about someone else. It's a special kind of freedom really.

I'm single cause I'm content 😐 it may sound self-centered but unless I find someone who adds to my life, I'd rather stay single. Of course in the meantime, I have to work on myself so that I'm worthy of such a person. All in all, I'm pretty comfortable 😬

Being single is not a problem. Buddha was single did he need a romatic relationship to reach enlightenment. No. Being single can give you the chance to grow yourself instead of focusing on someone else.

I’m single because I believe relationships aren’t worth the pain they bring. :(

am single cause i cant do trial and error with my heart

Sometimes it's nicer to daydream about things than it is to actually experience them, I don't normally want to ruin that.

Honestly I’ve considered this question for years and years and can’t come up with anything that i truly feel is a solid explanation, even after watching this video. I love myself fully without ego and have battled emotional and mental trauma alone. At this point in my mid-thirties and have never been in a relationship after encountering many unavailable men in my life. Prayer, meditation and positive thought is the answer for me currently so I don’t let the thought of potential permanent single hood consume me.

Two reasons why I'm still single: 1. I'm afraid of falling in love. 2. I'm addicted to solitude. Update: Guys, I've manifested the love of my life. He let me experience the complexity and fragility of genuine love. My mind is sometimes filled with eccentric perceptions and fragile thoughts, but he never fails to show me that I'm worth loving despite the chaos within my individuality. I won't ever banish the clarity of this purely impured undeniable love.

I just don't like leaving the house

I'll say the self-hated thing SHOOK ME and set off a chain reaction of thoughts. It made me realize I have hurt others in the past and I have let that define me. I've carried that guilt so deep within that even while I consciously have wanted relationships, subconsciously I did not out of fear of hurting that other person.

Surprisingly off the mark video here from School of Life. My feeling is that it's more often to do with extreme independence that might be inherent in character, or learned from as self protection in childhood. Complications of childhood traumas. I'm mostly single, 55 and mostly happy though.

I'm single because all i do is watching youtube at home.

I'm single because relationships are TOO complicated.

Man I could spend my entire life watching these vids!!

This is a very wise video. I like it a lot. Thank you

Three reasons I'm single : 1. I don't want to settle, I'm a magnet to abusive men and I don't want this. 2. I actually rarely find myself attracted to someone. 3. The dating culture in my country sucks. Can't adapt to it.

"Love is a serious mental disease." -Plato

I’ve always found being single has ensured no one disrupts my peace. You can lose years aiding others in finding a life they desire, with no guarantee they’ll recognise your commitment to their happiness. And, I get out of rhythm with the things that make my life enjoyable and sustainable when I let someone in and try to help them.

Thank you for putting "we're" instead of "you're" in the title of this video. I will like this video just for that before even watching the video. Thanks. 🙏

I'm single because I don't like people. I love being by myself all the time. 😬

As a 26 year old who has never really been in a relationship, I have found my singlehood has been due to a combination of shying away from social situations when I was younger, which meant I missed out on opportunities (a mistake only recognised in hindsight unfortunately); being more picky about women than I can afford to be; and also just generally being okay/happy in myself and not wanting the mess of it all unless I actually like the person (which combined with a lack of opportunities to meet women means I rarely come across anyone I genuinely desire to be with, and when I have done unfortunately they have been already romantically involved or did not reciprocate my feelings). Having recognised these factors, I am now trying to work to be a better version of myself, to be more sociable, and to try to see the good in people instead of being so picky.

This is so spot on!

I've been many things.. Never hate .. But once you love yourself.. All that crap isn't as apparent.. I seek to learn and gain my value . so my anxiety and confidence has grown into more positive attributes. People need to be willing to transform. It's painful but I feel better for going through it

I feel like no one could ever love me and that I can't ever love anyone either. I don't have faith in anyone, lol. I'm just unwilling to sacrifice my solitude and freedom by settling for someone that I can live without.

I am ugly that's why i am single

I am single because I have multiple disorders which can get even worse if I get into any relationship .it is better to be single than suffering because of relationships.

you don't need someone to complete you and people are fleeting, just as most things in life are. nothing stays still. but even if it is fleeting, we can still enjoy the moment and temporary happiness. there's a quote that sums it up: "happiness is only real when shared." don't get me wrong. it can be blissful being by yourself too but it's also nice to do things together: grabbing a coffee together and sitting on a grassy hill watching the rolling waves from the nearby beach with a mild sun warming your backs, going camping together, having brunch at a cute cafe, travelling and checking out the sights...

The minute, you even THINK that another person will complete you and make you happy.....is the very minute that you must know, you will NEVER EVER find true happiness..... Until you find it within you to begin with.

And then there’s the simple case (most recurring, statistically speaking) in which simply no one likes us or our personality, or shows any sign of interest. And the problem again is in your mind: you did not develop social skills, you are clumsy or socially awkward, so no one feels attracted to you. In this case it is not a problem of low self esteem, or better BECAUSE YOU DID NOT DEVELOP SOCIAL SKILLS AND YOU FEEL NO ONE SEEMS TO WANT TO INITIATE A CONVERSATION WITH YOU (except for duty reasons), then you start to develop low self esteem. Cause and effect should not be confused.

Returning to this random vid 5yrs later to report I am in a happy relationship❤ there are a lot of things one cannot control in life, luck is always a factor. Keep trying and don’t let the disappointing dates get to you. Otherwise take a break to focus on yourself, try again when you’re ready for it and don’t beat yourself down for being single.

So many layers to this. Sometimes laziness plays a part, regardless enjoy your situation as you see fit.

I've given up, that's why I'm single. i wont settle for just anything and incredible things are hard to find and are never meant to be in my experience. sadly.

I love being single because I can do what I want when I want and when I was in relationships in the past I felt more alone than I have ever felt so that’s why I’m single by choice

Love comes suddenly, it goes suddenly, and love keeps coming and going eternally. You do not happen to it, it happens to you. So relax, enjoy your aloneness in the mean time and live your life. And only when you're able to enjoy your aloneness can you love another truly. Because then you won't try to possess, you will allow the other to express themselves.

I needed advice like this when I was in high school

Just two? I can tell one thousand more.

I'm single because I'm unbearably shy.

This video really hit the point. I have had plenty of occasions to find a girlfriend but every time I got close to doing so I felt like I wasn't deserving that and so I pulled away. Instead when I've been asked for love by a girl that took the initiative I have felt like I was wasting myself, even if she was pretty. I have experienced both ends of the spectrum because I have changed a lot during my life. But, at this point I can say it's a better idea to stand in middle ground. If I were coming back in time I would say to that girl "Yes! Yes! Yes! I want it! Yes! Let's go out, let's spend some time together, let's cuddle, let's do things that people in love would do. Why not?" I have always been a bit snobby because I thought love was a scam. I thought it was a thing for naive people and that the only love worth living for was going to be the perfect kind of love with the perfect person. But there is no perfect person. Especially when you're young there is no need to feel stupid while doing the cuddily cuddily things. There is no need for long term love at all costs. I had always thought Love was something that would have to be "forever" but in truth there is no such need. You can have short term love. You don't have to feel unworthy or too snobbish for that. And I've realized it now. I basically lived with the "Schopenauer mentality" for years because I felt I was "Too sophisticated" or "Too special" or "Too intellectual". Nonsense. I was feeling insecure because I was afraid of making mistakes. My life always had to find the "perfect fit" but in this way I always isolated myself from the life that I could have lived. I still like Schopenauer thought on love. It's true. Love is a scam in that sense. BUT, since you know it's a scam you can have all the RIGHT to live love without too much expectation and without suffering too much about it. But YOU CAN LOVE. You can BE LOVED. One year, one month, one week. Doesn't matter. You can love and not feel bad about it. You can do the cute stuff that feels so cringe. You can hug, you can kiss, you can call yourself strange names. Yes. You can! And you know why? Why not? By the way, I am still single. But I will not anymore think about love in the same way I used to. I thought love was "Not for me" at first because "I was not worthy" and then because "I'm too good for that". But now I know better. I'm not perfect, but I can be loved; she might not be perfect but I can love her. This life is too short. This world too cruel. This existence too meaningless to be filled with fear of being silly and superficial. I am human, I have the right to fall in love. Thank you for reminding me that TSOL

Meditation, practicing calmness, integrity, courage, strength makes me attractive to all. When I know I have the love of the Spirit within, through meditation and prayer, then my partner came. Romance is not the purpose. Finding our spiritual self is our purpose - but a serviceful, unselfish relationship based on deep friendship makes this journey more enjoyable and easier (for those who this lifestyle fits). That's been my experience so far.

I'm single since birth 😂 and I'm 28 now?! 😱

"the problem of singlehood"? How is it a problem? It isn't!

Why am I single? I can't have what I want, and I don't want what I can have. I've come to accept that I'll never accept myself. My physical drawbacks have been too much for my mind to overcome. Fortunately, I'm old enough to accept my situation, if not myself.

Amazing!! I like of the narrator's voice :D

Why should it be WRONG to be SINGLE ?!? I've known many single, fine, well-balanced people who were perfectly happy. The one thing they had the love-addicted ones didn't possess was self-love, acceptance and in-depth knowledge of who they were. In other words they were their own best friend, they didn't run from themselves which is what those who go from relationship to relationship are doing. Before you can be a friend/spouse/partner to someone else, you need to be at ease with just yourself. So some singleness isn't a bad thing before getting into couple status.

I'm single since I was born... I feel like I'll remain this way forever... and ever

One of the very best SOL lessons.

Love the animation

I guess I'm single because I'm an unsophisticated engineer...

Another good reason someone is single is because he wants to form a meaningful relationship rather than one that is bound to crumble. And to do that, it must be with a person that is capable of loving you for real, and not many people have that capacity.

I'm still single because I have so much time that I need to learn how to grow as a individual. Building up self confidence and self Love Is My ultimate goal, and I don't need anyone to do that. Self-reliance and solitude has more value then romantic relationships! Everytime I see my mother and father's unhappy marriage, that's a constant reminder that I'm much happier alone!

The animations are top class