When my brother described his "ideal girl" he started listing traits I recognized our mom had. I told him, "You do know you just described Mom, right?" His face went 😨and he all but yelled in disgust, "Oh my GOD!" He ended up marrying a girl who was nothing like our mother. 😂 But, he's very happy with her though.

There’s a story that came out about this man who got sexually abused from his mom since he was 8 or something and he grew up thinking it was normal until he met his girlfriend and he learned how bad it was because his thought process on it was “but my mom needs this from me” he went into therapy and got a restraining order.

Story 2: "He left to stay at a friend's place." I'm gonna assume he wasn't staying at one of his tiny house friends' homes lol

i love that morgan yells “i can hear you” from the bathroom or wherever she was bc makes me feel like i’m at a sleepover

Parents in story 4: we’re getting a divorce The baby in story 4, thinking that “dada” is just what you call grown men because they’re a baby: 👁️👄👁️

"A lot of men end up with women who look like their moms" Me: *slowly turns my Caucasian self to look at my husband* Hubby: *Slowly turns his Korean self to look at me* Hubby: "Sorry you had to find out this way." 😂

I’m only on story #2 so far…I can tell SO easily who the guy is in each scenario, without thinking the blanks just fill themselves in. Men have a different kind of audacity LMAO

Let me preface this by saying I love you all equally. I just wanna show some love to Lauren. Lately she's been my favorite with her takes because she's so upfront and blunt lately. I can tell she's putting herself out of her comfort zone to give the honest thoughts on her mind. I don't even always agree with her takes. You can just tell she's really engaged and open where in the beginning, she was more reserved. 💜

From the first story. I’m Latina. I had a boyfriend that was white and he called me mommy and I thought it was the weirdest thing and I asked him to stop. Then when I had a Latino boyfriend he called me mami or mamacita and I was fine with it. I loved it. Idk if it’s because we are from the same culture or because mommy is just weird

One time my younger sister (she's 6 and I'm 19) called me her 'second mum' and you could feel the colour drain from my mum's face... partly because she felt ignored by my sister and partly because she realised how much I take care of my sister that she put two and two together and assumed I was her parental figure. It's an interesting thing to experience, for sure.

DEAR LAUREN as a fellow 'annoyingly vocal' person who gets frequently called out for being blunt and harsh, knowing and trusting yourself deeply enough to be truly authentic and outspoken is a strength. people are very anti women who are self assured, but you aren't alone or wrong for communicating clearly : )

I'm on Story 3 and I love Morgan being so careful not to reveal any pronouns when she said "his" in the title, bless you Morgan!

Okay for the first story…as a redhead I would find it so WEIRD if I looked identical to my significant other’s parent. It’s already so wild to have someone close to me also be a redhead BECAUSE we’re a dying breed haha but if I looked IDENTICAL and they called me mommy…absolutely not.

for story #1, my concern would actually not be that my partner wanted to fuck his mom, but rather he wanted ME to become the mother figure in his life. so many men are actually looking for mommies to take care of them, cook for them, clean for them, and not full-fledged partners to go through life with. by picking a woman who reminded him of his mom not just physically but also in terms of personality, i worry that he's just looking to be a little boy again.

Did anyone else think the Tiny House was about power? If they sell OPs house and buy a Tiny House together, spouse is in better position financially right?

Yay!! All three of them together!!!

Now I wanna hear about Lauren’s ulta story. Come on now Morgan, let her share the story :(

I love Alejandra’s takes , she always seems to be collective and articulates her thoughts pretty well 🤍 Also Lauren saying “suck d***” and everyone reacting on that was hilarious

As a nonbinary person who has meet and befriended other gnc and trans people. Personally don't care what pronoun I go by, but most trans and gnc people usually are okay if you use the wrong pronouns as long as you correct your mistake. Don't beat yourself up as long as make an effort to correct the mistake which I've seen you all are

Please do an entitled parents or an entitled passengers (ie. Flight) episode

As a step mom: in the beginning it was rough I’m not going to lie. It was bickering a lot in the beginning. We’re now at a time where everything we do is for our baby girl. I took her shopping for her moms Christmas present and we had hot cocoa and wrapped it. Last Halloween we baked cupcakes for her and cooked earlier this year too. When her birthday came around she was invited to the party and accidentally forget her price of cake. I brought the cake to her job because I wanted our daughter to see all 3 of us do it for her. When your with someone with kids they take priority always end of story. You cannot expect to get in the way.

Story 4: I’m unsure why they are like anti doctor intervention. Like the wife never got evaluated and it’s been 3 years ! And their child has a speech delay but it wasn’t mention if they have taken their child to get evaluated.

I’ve watched from the beginning and I NEVER realized the two co host were two different people I always thought they were the same perso. 🤣

Speech language pathologist here! I hope they get that child speech therapy. Awesome they’re starting to babble dada and mama at 3 years old but…they should be producing simple sentences already🙂

Every time I hear more about the story of Jerry and Morgan, it melts my heart. That’s exactly the kind of person you want in these situations.

Poor Lauren.. she got cut off every time she tried to talk and you can see when she gave up.. 😢

I really hope you guys see this because I stopped everything to tell you guys. I want to remind you guys of how GOOD OF JOB you’re doing. It lowkey breaks my heart when people in the comment say rude, judgmental things and you three bring it up later in episodes. Please know for every bad comment, there are much more people who love your show and may not even say anything. You guys literally make my week and I get so excited for Thursdays! I wish people wouldn’t “come for you” for the smallest things. It is an opinionated podcast! Even when I don’t agree with the points you make, I will love listening and be entertained. You all do such a great job of being real people, it feels like honestly you are friends with your listeners and we are just having a chat. You guys seem so realistic, in a world where a lot of stuff online is unrealistic. I really just wanted to say I love the show, and I wish so much people understood that your “takes” on topics are just opinions. It isn’t like you preaching what is right and wrong. I feel for you guys so much when people comment mean things. I hope over time it has been easier to brush off what people say. I can’t wait to see you all continue to grow and thanks for putting on such an entertaining show!

I would like to hear Lauren’s thoughts uninterrupted ❤

Alejandra, I relate so much to you. I am also a female who is not naturally maternal. I never had those instincts or desires growing up. In my teen years I never babysat, didn’t want to hold kids, never felt motherly etc. I told every guy I dated that I did not want kids. I even told my husband on our first date that if he wanted kids to date someone else, because it was not what I saw in my future. 10 years later, and two kids later, things obviously changed. I did feel pressure once I was married to have kids, it’s kind of a long story, I won’t go into. What I will say is, my husband was very supportive of not having kids if I did not want to. I think is really important for people to know how much this pressure to be maternal and have an instant bond affects women’s mental health after birth. I ended up having severe postpartum depression with my oldest daughter, for years. The first year was the worst, I honestly don’t remember much because I was in such a dark place. I didn’t feel connected to my baby, and honestly relate to the woman in the story. I too did not get help, or a diagnosis until years later. My husband didn’t know what to do, and when you’re in that mental state, part of you doesn’t realize it and the other part feels like it physically can’t get help. It breaks my heart for the woman in the story, because it sounds like she was me. My husband could have easily been upset with how I acted and didn’t connect, but there was nothing I could do. I was literally just trying to stay alive. My husband did feedings, baths, bedtime, story time, he did everything. I didn’t resent my kids ever, and I absolutely love them. I now can’t imagine not being a mom. My oldest is eight, and my youngest is five. the early years were extremely difficult, not just because they were babies, but because I felt such guilt and shame for not instantly feeling connected, maternal or motherly. I broke up with any man that said, maybe one day I would change my mind. That’s super rude and extremely one sided. Women should be respected for their decisions about their own bodies. If they decide they do not want kids, they should not be pressured into it, or Told they’ll change their minds. Some people choose to live happy and fulfilled kid free lives, and that is 100% OK. For me, it turned out well. But I know that I got lucky. Some people never recover from the depression of not feeling the things they thought they were supposed to feel when they have a baby. I came very close to ending my life, and I’m so thankful I didn’t but it could’ve been so much worse. To anyone else who may be reading my comment, and maybe relate to my story currently, I urge you to summon every ounce of courage you have and make just a Teladoc appointment. They can prescribe medication‘s over the phone, you deserve to live a better life than this.

Freud is cackling in his grave rn

51:25 Morgan: “I CAN HEAR YOU!” 🤣 almost snarfed my Gatorade

Yes!! All three together I've been wanting this for so loooong! This made my day! Edit: This is such an interesting topic too! Also, an awesome distraction from my AITA post that currently is not going the way I want it to lol

On the last story, my sister had my nephew when she was still in college. So the three of us: her, my mom and I (also in college) were a team to take care of him. And as he started speaking he started calling us all "mom". It was really sweet but we set boundaries and corrected him. In my family it's tradition aunts and uncles get call by first name and grandparents are Mama/papa + first name. It was a habit that took a while to correct, but we got it. And even tho I'm honored that he so me as a mother figure, I'm not his mom I'm his aunt and he has a mom

Not only is it so hard to admit you didn't connect with your child when you carried and birthed that child, but it's hard because we fear the *exact* reaction that OP had. The fear is that we'll be looked at like a monster and they'll run away, and he DID. I'm not saying they should have stayed together, but the reaction to Matt being another parent shows how at war with herself Sam is. She likely already hates that she isn't naturally parental, and that probably twisted the knife. PPD will definitely make someone feel like life would have been better, so treating her lile she is a horrible person because of that is only going to make it worse. I hope she got help.

I don’t think y’all are homophobic AT ALL but it’s always good to be receptive to people telling you to be mindful of the way you talk about stories featuring LBGTQIA+ people, and recognize that it should be the default to feature us in stories because we are people who exist. In my opinion you weren’t being homophobic but it can be a tough line when you are used to having the love you experience be seen as inherently comedic. Keep in mind that when you are the butt of the joke your whole life there will be a twinge of pain when you think a creator you like is doing it also, and y’all wouldn’t necessarily know that from your own experiences. I truly love this pod and the power trio y’all were this episode💜 I would love more longer episodes with all three of you please!!

I honestly feel such a sense of community in the comments. This podcast brings us together.

Okay, as someone who both loves editing text and has no gender of my own, I would RELISH the opportunity to do the de-gendering of the stories for the inevitable next time you do this! 😊 Not even joking, hit me up and I will do those edits. I’m not sure EXACTLY how it would work, but hey, I’m sure we can figure it out!

Ive worked in perinatal mental health in consulting and the partner has every right to feel upset about OPs friend being referred to as “mama/dada”. Wouldn’t be surprised if there’s something more to it such as postpartum depression (which I know we can’t be certain). There’s this ideal that when you give birth you automatically feel connected to the baby, which is a narrative that I find so toxic. It’s more common than you think for parents to struggle bonding with the baby. Definitely these parents should be working as a unit or reaching out for professional help if there’s concerns. There are senior consultants and midwives that are trained in this, including sessions which help for bonding with baby. I understand though that this may not be available to all, which sucks. OP could of handled this differently. This must be so difficult for them and their feelings of frustration at the situation are valid, but saying to your partner that you haven’t been much of a parent as the friend has is so so hurtful. Anyway hopefully they can get the best support for them and their child. Edit: happy that they have found a solution and divorced. Hopefully this resolution will make them both happier. Perinatal mental health for both mums and dads is such an overlooked issue.

without the gender, it really makes a difference. I usually side with the women because I understand them more as a girl myself. This ep was so interesting!! Also love how you promote the sponsors, it sounds so genuine ^^

HEY LAUREN the 'annoyingly vocal' person is a god send for a overthinker like me. I often spiral into what someone isnt saying or the details they must be leaving out for whatever reason. I feel like having someone who is direct speaking their mind at all times is such a blessing. You would never have to guess if their was a hidden agenda or something deep they werent saying. Ugh to have a friend like you how cool. Also Edit: GET THEM MORGAN lol just hit that rant go morgan go!!!!!

Lmao the girls looking at eachother when Morgan gave the last genders away with “got pregnant” and “breastfeeding”

I think to insinuate that, as a public figure, people don’t have the right to critique your takes as we should know your intentions is irresponsible. It is irrelevant your intension, everyone can make mistakes as there are often unconscious biases at play and should be called out for it. I’m not sure what comment your referring to but I think the most important part is how you react to these critiques even if you think they are wrong. You come across as defensive rather than being open to others perspective and experiences.

Tbh idk how Lauren doesn’t get more deflated with all of the interruptions. I LOVE her opinions and love how she has been sticking to her guns, even when she isn’t given the space to fully express her thoughts OR has someone literally walk away while she is talking only for that person to come back and not acknowledge what she said at all but what the other person said. Seriously undervalued in this episode and it hurts my heart for her because, in my opinion, everyone else was so shamy and judgy I really only stayed for Laurens half expressed opinions.

The story of the child calling the best friend mom/dad made me think really hard. I’m divorced from my ex husband (children’s dad) and my best friend currently lives with me. My kids are a little older (7&4) but when my best friend moved in they were younger and they would call her mom sometimes. I personally did not feel offended or feel weird about it at all. However my ex husband got extremely annoyed when he heard them call her mom. I don’t understand what the issue is because they know she isn’t actually their mom but she has filled the role of the other parent since my ex and I got a divorce.

“Did you get a 2nd opinion??” “…..no.” “Let’s start there.” 😂😂😂😂😂

For the first story - As a curly-haired redhead myself, I get told that I look like basicly every redhead that I come into contact with. People often mistake my brother in-law for my actual brother, and we look nothing alike, we just both have red hair. Going out with my redheaded friend usually involves at least one stranger asking if we're sisters or twins. I would think this situation was weirder if the fiance and parent had any other defining feature, but from my own experience, everyone thinks that we look related.

As an Enbee, this episode is such a delightful concept. I use these stories sometimes to avoid looking at the genders listed, so I can speculate on my own possible internalized sexism or prejudices.

Definitely a difference between mami and mommy BUT the fact that they look so similar would be a complete turn off for me regardless of how he’s saying it honestly.

I just want to say THANK YOU for all that you guys do! My family experienced a tragedy last week right after Thanksgiving. This podcast has been extremely comforting to listen to through these tough times. I don't know if you will read this but if you do, please know how grateful I am for this show. I'm sure I'm not the first person to be comforted by you guys and I won't be the last ❤️

I 100% watch for Lauren. Her takes are refreshing.

Crying at trying to make Freud's ideas at all valid when he was...interesting.

Lauren is my favorite 😂❤️👏🏼 we all need a Lauren!!!

With the third story, this is my take. I own my own home and I would never agree to a tiny house!!! It's my house and I would never let my partner rob me of it.

Story 4: I’m pretty sure OP taught the child to refer to the friend and mama/dada. Simple because usually parents introduce the name to the child.

I think you all should do an episode about looking in the mirror upon meeting the parents. The Freud thing is only partly about appearance- I think I remember learning that he thought people choose someone who looks like mom because we all are trying to find someone for a partner who will re parent us to fix the gaps in parental needs we grow up to feel weren’t filled or whatever. The odd look alike thing is some sideways try at that.. which I find extremely interesting. That would be a huge turn off for me.. imagine thinking you nabbed an awesome guy and get all the way to meeting the parents and when you see her, his mom could be your identical twin.

Only 11 mins in and I’m already laughing so hard at the fact Morgan thought the guy would shit his pants. My favorite podcast

Lauren going "leggos fall on them! 😁" is so funny 😂

I never comment on KZfaq videos, but i have to say that i LOVE this podcast. This has been a rough year for me, but this podcast never fails to bring me comfort and peace of mind, even on my worst days. I hope you guys know how much this podcast means to so many of us❤️ Sending much love all the way from Norway! Edit: I also wanted to add that i really like the longer episodes! My struggle with insomnia is reeeal, and having these episodes on in the background while i'm in bed feels like falling asleep with good friends chatting in the room. I feel safe and also have something to focus on, because you guys never fail to keep med entertained with your takes!

Hands up if you've already listened to the whole episode on Spotify, but you're here again to see the three lovely Musketeers together. 🙋 Just me, no one else? That's cool too. PS. Love the podcast, so entertaining and it really feels like you girls are bringing us along in the conversations, great job. Keep it up!

I love the podcast so much! Whenever I listen it feels like I’m talking to friends and this podcast is such a safe and happy place for me. It makes my day whenever you release an episode and I love hearing your takes on different stories. I’ve probably rewatched every episode 20 times. I have so much respect for you guys for putting yourselves out there and sharing opinions. I can’t imagine how scary that must be, but you do a great job! I don’t know if you will ever see this, but I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate this podcast, and I know I’m not the only one. Thank you 💕

Whenever Lauren says “pitcher” when she means “picture” I lol 😂❤️ love you ladies!

For the calling the friend dad/mom story, it feels like OP is punishing their partner for struggling mentally. They literally admit they weren’t planning on having a kid this early.

I would like to say on the tiny house one, I’m a single 21 yo with no dependents other than cats so it’s incredibly affordable for someone like myself to build a tiny home, and my parents were gracious enough to let me use their land so it’s affordable, close to home, easily managed, and I’m still technically living on my own but my parents are right next door. I’m certain cases tiny homes are great for 1-2 people but understandably not every family unit can be accommodated.

Wow I just realized they are two seperate people. Lauren and Alejandra are different people.

Tiny house story, the husband’s interest in tiny homes sounds like a new interest, not something he wanted before they got married but never mentioned

Jerry is an Angel. Truly God sent!

Going through school is difficult and I at times can feel alienated and alone. Your podcast is something I look forward to so much. You and father knows best have helped me through so much and helps me not feel so alone throughout the day ❤️ thank you!

I just love seeing you three together, you can feel the love and complicity. I've never had girl friends because when I tried to I was let down so it's amazing seeing your dinamic. ❤️

If someone calls me mommy...they're getting dumped. Nope! I ain't doing that! If I didn't birth you/Whatever I'm not your mommy. If someone calls me daddy...I'm going to either feel butt ugly or I'm gonna start questioning things. The first story has me messed up! Freud can't keep getting away with this! 😓

Story 4: I have a speech impediment that I will probably always have because I grew up in a time before free services. If my family wanted me to get evaluated it had to be through the school who did not want to have me evaluated for some reason. I have a stutter now that comes out when I’m stressed/relaxed and don’t slow down and properly process my speech. Get your kids evaluated for anything that feels off. Better safe than sorry.

Honestly, the way the stories are written give OP’s gender away every time! 😅

The moment I saw the three of y’all, I grabbed my popcorn. Ready for a great episode!

respectfully touch grass is honestly something that just needs to be the slogan to the internet honestly LMAO. like, there have been things i have disagreed with that have been said on here, as that is just a fact of life because everyone doesn't always agree. i think its about being able to (like y'all said) know people's intentions, and i think most importantly, i've noticed that you guys have ALWAYS been open to constructive criticism and learning new things especially in terms of lgbt+, gender identity, etc. which i personally (as someone in the lgbt+ community myself) think means much more than always knowing the perfect terms to use

I'm an outpatient medical coder who works remotely and your podcast gets me through the long days! Thank you for all that you do 💕

I was mentally preparing no two hot takes for a week.... this made my Monday for sure 😭😭😭 plus the trio too 😭

I'm home with covid, I'm so happy you just posted a new video 💕love you guys

I get so excited when a new episode pops up on my phone. Also love episodes with you three together!

Please never stop this podcast. These videos are my comfort videos lmao ♥

Lmao in the tiny home story I was like “yeah that’s definitely a man” and then when you guys made that same comment I was like SEE YOU GET IT 😂 and we were right

About the parent date night thing I'm 24 now so i definitely wouldn't call it "date night" but when I was younger we would go on "daddy daughter dates" or "mommy son dates" and i think we called it that because when our parents when on dates it was a "special date night" so calling it that made us as kids feel like we were also going on a cool date too😊

Ahhhhh perfect timing, just about to do some mindness tasks for work and this will make it much more enjoyable ❤

Morgan, I will say, in regards to your first story: I always thought your brothers wife looks just like you lol

I don't think you all are homophobic, but there is a natural disconnect. There are things you all say in different context that just exhibits that you don't really understand that perpective, while it can be eh; it's not your lifestyle so there is going to be a disconnect there. It isn't a bad thing, especially because you all do want to be understanding and respectful of other people. You still have a lot of learning in that department, but I wouldn't chastise any of you for it. You know?

At work, losing my mind, I'm so glad I have something fun to spice up my shift!!!

I love looking up from the chores I'm doing and seeing Lauren zoned out in the eyes cause the ears are so focused

This video is really impacting and super super good! love to have you all 3 there Morgan absolutely love you. And also love the longer videos and different perspectives!! Proud of u 🥲

Lmao my ex was jealous of my dog (who I’m obsessed with). She was insecure and abusive. My next partner had dogs of her own she was obsessed with and therefore we meshed better lol. She didn’t yell at me for spending too long at the dog park or out walking. She understood my dog came first and hers did too. I know it’s not kids, but, my only relatable experience 😅

Enmeshment is like empathy between parent-child, friends, relationships times a 1000. You could say toxic empathy. You are just too close that you are not moving forward in life or doing anything for yourself without worrying about what the other person will feel about it. You also can lose your sense of self almost completely and get a lot of anxiety but can't really pinpoint where it's from. It's the enmeshment of course. You may think over and over: "If I do this will they approve? Can I do this alone? They think I'm not ready so I will wait till next year"

Ladies- excellent episode. Fabulous vocabulary and patience in letting each other speak their minds. Truly a wonderful watch A+

AGH i love you guys so much!!! i was so ready for this weeks vid❤️❤️❤️

Yay! These are always great because I am a delivery driver, and these make my day easier because I feel like there is someone else with me in the car.

I love the concept for this episode!! I had a feeling the first one was gendered the way it was… I feel like I hear more emotional incest stories going that way instead of the other way around. Also can I say all three of you are looking so pretty in this ep!

I love the moment somewhere in the middle where Alejandra goes mom mode. It's funny she says she doesn't have maternal instincts, but her telling Lauren we need to start by getting a second estimate to fix your doors was definitely giving parent 😂

You guys make my day so much better I was so excited to go to work today knowing I get to hear your takes , and as a double blessing you have my favorite hosts on , I love you Morgan, Lauren and Alejandra!!!

even though you ladies did not say the gender it was pretty obvious, I like the regular format where you read the stories as they are lol

Im kinda upset with the take on the friend being called mom/dad. I feel like we completely neglected the fact the this has been years and op’s partner wasn’t just dejected but showed no interest in the child from the start. Keeping that in mind even if the dejection was at fault of postpartum depression if it’s been years and you haven’t even gotten checked out to see if it was depression you have a responsibility to yourself and your child to get help! And to a certain extent I completely understand the hardship of that however op seems to be putting all of themselves into helping to care for their child without the support of their partner, and the gang only speaks, in this scenario, about supporting your partner in the instance of op supporting their partner in their mental health but ops partner isn’t taking the proper steps for their mental health to be there for op or their child. Unfortunately, your mental health is your responsibility, and with a partner willing to help with the majority of the childcare and other responsibilities, you have less reason not to have already taken those steps. Op is also an asshole for saying that their friend is more of a parent than the partner, they helped create said child and in the instance ops partner was the one carrying the child he’s even more of an asshole however I don’t blame op for seeking solace in a person whom could support them in ways their partner can’t and although allowing your child to think of them as a parent is far fetched, in this instance I do feel that if the friend has stepped up in a way that was so impactful that the child sees them as a parent I think that is indicative of the disparity between the care the child is receiving from op’s friend vs op’s partner. I would hope they would find a way to fix things but op needs to be honest about how their feeling and op’s partner needs to get help with their dejection, both for the sake of the child. I don’t think it’s fair to say the friend is taking advantage of the friend or making them a pseudo isn’t fair because as we know the friend adores the child and sees it as an honor to be in such a role in the child’s development. All in all I think both of the parents suck and the friend is an angel for stepping up lol

That lil “yeah” harmony from Alejandra and Lauren tickled my brain in the best way

literally whenever i start to get kind of glum and notice that i can't listen to a single podcast amd no video is doing it for me... this is where i go. luv it

Listening to the story about the mother who ended up not wanting her children makes me sad. Sad for her, sad for him, sad for the child. But ultimately, this sounds like the best scenario. I have four sisters, all half sisters. All of our various parents wanted children and I do believe they love us very much, however love is no enough to be a parent. They all had different ideas of what parenting would be like and what their children would be like, none of it matched up to reality, at least not fully. None of them handled it well. Some liked us when we were small but not when we were preteens and teens. One had major mental issues and becoming a mom didn't solve that, it made it worse. One wanted to be a distant father, but still fully respected and loved as an involved one. Also many of our parents suffered from addiction and trauma. I'm not saying people can't work on that and become good parents, I'm saying ours didn't. We also saw how miserable our parents were for different reasons. They tried, that wasn't the issue. The issue was that their best wasn't enough. That doesn't make them bad people, just people who shouldn't have been parents. It led to me (oldest sister) having many serious conversations with my sisters throughout our lives about making sure we wanted to be parents. Not just wanting kids, but wanting to be PARENTS and understanding everything that's involved in that. From labor to finances to children having mental health or disability issues to your children being someone very different from you. Only one of the four of us have decided to have children. Multiple family members have said I have scared them away from being parents. As a child who had parents who loved us but didn't like us or still resented us or thought they were entitled to our feelings -sometimes all three, I believe it is important to the person and potential child to not make that decision lightly.

I look like fiancé's parent story: This would be a major deal breaker for me. I would be constantly wondering if my partner was secretly fantasizing about doing physical activities with their parent, 100% since the mommy/daddy kink is in play. Regardless of gender it would still give me the ick, also if after they start gifting me clothing that they know their parent favors like the red hat, then it goes to specific types of shirts they like to wear. OP should test this by doing something to slightly change their appearance just to see how their partner reacts. Say partner's parent has red hair, OP dyes it a different colour. WAIT I commented that while they were discussing the post