The way Theo looks for answers to everything is what makes him special.

Theo’s like “yeah I had a buddy who was always scared of his folks… he died.”

"Feeling around for ghosts" I like that. You have such a way with words. I'm enjoying these more serious talks too. Keep up your good work man!

"feeling around for ghosts" not only as Theo the man comedically, he's got some wisdom brewing in that brain. 🥰

Dang, this sums up my childhood! My mom had 4 husbands/long-term BF throughout my childhood. Domestic violence wasn’t just an occurrence, it was a monthly event. The circle of abuse has lasting effects on those involved, especially children. I became inward and reserved. My mom would get furious because I’d be mute and not match her intensity/anger. I definitely understand, feeling for ghosts, making sure the vibe in the room is good and trying to please everyone.

Theo’s remarks about ghosts are so poignant. Quite true. It does feel like looking for ghosts and it’s just as scary.

I love that we are talking about this PUBLICLY. Finally. 😊

First two years of my life, I grew up in a toxic, violent alcoholic domestic situation by 6 years old, I was molested( by my bio father ) By 10 years old, I was molested again by a church member. 12 I was put into foster care 14 sentenced to a juvenile Youth Development Center for 2 years. ( jail for kids) 14 to 16 was sexually abused by a co at the detention center. 16 my step father then molested me. 18 my mother become terminally ill with cancer, by 19 she died. I then fell into the hands of a sex trafficker. For 17 years, he kept me for his personal use. I also did 5 years of maximum security prison and 15 years or more of black tar heroin, I’ve been sober for four years . It’s only been in my new recovery, that I’ve realized how all of these events caused me to go down so many wrong roads. My parents didn’t know any better , but I do💯

I love Theo for this. I study attachment style and has a lot to do with this forming how you enter act in relationships based on the trauma you had with caregivers

Now THIS explanation I can understand! Thank you!

Very good simple explanation. Thank you.

As a victim of childhood SA from around 3 or 4 to around 8. I really appreciate guys like this. I have 5 different mental disorders bow at 23 but ive regained hope. Just wish I wasn't affected like i am.

I had a speech disorder til 22. Everything he said is literally spot on to my subjective experience (I am cured now lol; the release of that intense tension is magical literally)

Theo and a healthy gamer gg colab is needed needed

Fucking hell is what it is

So informative thank you for you content ❤

There are so many people suffering from complex trauma or CPTSD because for years doctors downplayed the long term effects on newborns when they are born. Can you imagine how traumatizing and terrifying that would be? Add onto that the practice of inducing labor which makes the contractions harder and doesn't allow the baby to drop naturally into position. Then there's the epidurals they give which numbs the bottom half of the mother making it even harder on the baby. Of course fight or flight mode is going to kick in causing adrenaline to course through them and no way to work it out of their muscles or joints and it's very corrosive when it stays there. For many years they didn't put infants on their mothers right away which should be how they both come out of trauma. I've heard many mothers tell me horror stories about giving birth but every one of them ends it by saying how worth it it is when they first hold their baby and all the pain and trauma melts away. That's because their brain gets the signal to send in the oxytocin (love hormone) which calms everything down and the newborn feels that loving energy and safety of their mother and their brain gets the signal they're alright and everything can calm down. The harder the labor and longer time they are in it, the deeper the levels of trauma they go. Considering this is one of the first memories their brains record and how strong those emotions would be..especially if they are put in a nursery to cry it out, that's going to most definitely affect you every time you feel like your needs aren't being met..especially emotionally, it'll snap you back into that level and cause an extreme emotional response (think 2 year old tantrum or anyone with abandonment issues). It's a very serious issue that needs a major light to be shed on it. It's why we have learning disabilities, autism, diabetes, auto immune diseases, Alzheimer's, and even cancer. Seriously Theo, I'd love to talk to you about it if you're interested because someone with a platform needs to bring awareness. ✌️&❤️ #stoptraumatizingnewborns #waterbirth #followrulesofnature

Im convinced trauma is ultimately what led to my illness and consequently having my colon removed at 24, either that or skill issue

Tim Fletcher cares ! He is so wise. Thank you Theo for having Tim on the show!!!!!

It's like if all you know is neglect, how could you differentiate it from "normal" life and your upbringing. Until you can really compare your experiences to others, theirs no way of really identifying it unless it gets to a traumatic point. I still am unpacking how much I missed out on a secure living condition as an adult. Even though I don't have children, because of my experiences, I can see how if I were to apply that way of "caring" for a child as an adult now, it would be seen as multitudes of versions of neglect.

I just watched "Point Break" 1991 and Theo has got to be somehow related to Patrick Swayze, RIP. They both have that crazy glazed 👀 look.😂❤

Enmeshment is a form of neglect that doesn't get talked about enough or taken seriously. It's just as harmful and severe as physical neglect. Feeling around for ghosts is EXACTLY how it feels with enmeshment trauma and usually it causes complex trauma.

Thanks

This is the beginning of it. If this sounds familiar to you, talk to a trained professional. It’s safe(r) and the proper professional training holds value.

My sister is a Psychologist and she was just explaining this to me recently. First time I head the term “complex trauma”. Makes sense tho.

That was personaly helpfull

My school took my 7th grade class (1987) to Memphis to see Ramses the Great and some boys decided to chew tobacco. Next thing I knew they were puking in these tiny dixie cups and they were overflowing all over the school bus. Now I have this complex trauma thing about vomit. I havent puked since 2012.

Seen you last night reppin The Diamond! Great fight!!

Those beady unblinking eyes are disconcerting

🤔 I wonder if the abuse and neglect I suffered as a young child caused me to overuse the cortisol in my body by my teens... That is an interesting thought... Because when I stopped growing at 15 they did every test known to man on me, and my cortisol levels were so low I had to wear a medic alert bracelet... They told me getting in a car wreck could kill me if I didn't get a shot of cortisol as soon as humanly possible afterwards because my body couldn't handle the stress... By 21 my body had somehow fixed itself though. 🤷‍♀️ And thank God I guess... Because I have been through far worse things than a car wreck after that and I'm still here. 🤷‍♀️

I've been doing hypnotherapy. R t t. It's the best thing for CPtSD. For me anyways. I'm 50 years old and I never ever thought I had stood a chance of being able to deal with my trauma. A lot like Theo's. Not that I know when he's bullshitting and not for sure but I know that that's all based on something. I think it's worth a try for anyone that's not got any ideas for what else to do. August

Theo is 100% wearing a wig

Okay, so a lot just made sense to me 🤣

When you’re 36 and only now realizing what really went wrong when you were 8. Overdose of Adrenaline for a kid is a hell of a drug…

@theovon i love u! Go to Sydney plsss!

Ahh, the study of shifting sands

Complex trauma make you feel drealizatuin

What episode is this

June 25th 2023 me and my mom got into s accident she passed I miss her alot I. Held her yelling I love you June 14th is my 18 m9th birthday and I council care less j hate life f

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Create a fantasy world of escape with drink and drug there we have it

Whenever I had "complex trauma", a good azzz whooping snapped me out of it.

Me

It started with th dad, and then the gf cheating

I got doves btwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Checking complex

Or you choose to rip the band aide off slowly.

The cure to fear or complex trauma is being philosophical. It's not Socrates. It's sag into cap

No shit dude

That’s the state in which palestine children are living through

If alcohol fixes outside booboo then alcohol fixes inside booboo to.

He really muddling subjective terms.

Has anyone had their parent force them to feed them Dog food or get beat?

How can you say simple trauma is rape?

Damg. This hit home hard.