I do but my practice is full with. a waiting list.

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Since the driving force of such compulsions is typically unconscious, it will be difficult for you to get to the source without help. What is your resistance to seeking therapy?

Feel your feelings around the source event. They were likely suppressed.

Hey, thank you for your answer. I just saw your respond today. It's been 9 months since I wrote this comment, and in these 9 months I've had psychotherapy and worked on my traumas. In conclusion, well, I am doing just fine :) By the way you asked me what was my resistance to seeking therapy. It was my misbelief that therapy would do no good and was just a waste of time and money. As it turns out, it was not a waste.

​@@alperendogan9854 Good Can u help me doc

​@@alperendogan9854 Thanks for sharing that even a psychologist may not truly believe psychology can help them. But you're encouraging more people to try!❤

This tends to be an internal conflict, rather than an interpersonal one. When we feel rage and have violent impulses toward people we also love, guilt is evoked. Yet guilt is the most difficult of all emotions for us to bear. We avoid it with rationalizations or simply punish ourselves. The only healthy way to deal with guilt is to acknowledge the harm done and make a repair. Of course, guilt (and the rage that evokes guilt) is often unconscious and must be brought to light through therapeutic intervention. Patients (and therapists) make up reasons for the guilt that are often inaccurate. For example, "I feel guilty that I let down my father by choosing a different career path than he had in mind." This is conscious guilt that often covers the deeper unconscious guilt about the rage toward her father for exerting so much pressure on her. Hope that helps.

@@patriciacoughlinphd1852 So much! Resolving the internal conflict starts the vital untangling... Thanks for your rich, nuanced response!

Sounds quite similar, to the: "Five Phases of Guilt." The parent(s) etc. guilt trip and blame, or blame- shift... leading to "projective identification" with the abuser(s) 'projected' negative thoughts, and emotional 'dumping?' So then the "interjects" from say a narcissist(s) leading into "repetition compulsion" (due to CPTSD from say "reactive abuse...") and then perhaps 'perfectionism' to OCD, etc.? (That would also 'explain' why going "no contact" and/ or the 'passing' of a parent, etc. would leave the 'survivor(s)' still "caught, in the loop.") I'm reading Peck's: "People of the Lie..." which if written today... would likely be a 'breakthough' in understanding what's truly BEHIND the narc's mask. (i.e. This is MORE than a mere: "dis-order!")

Q.: "In psychoanalysis, projective identification is a defense mechanism in which the individual projects qualities that are unacceptable to the self, onto another person... and that person interjects the projected qualities (onto the targeted individual) and believes him/ herself to be characterized by them, appropriately and justifiably..." UnQ.

If everyone knew this core psychological pattern...! ❤

Not the whole Standard Edition, but classic papers like this one Remembering, Repeating and Working through, Mourning and Melancholia, and Inhibitions, Symptoms and Anxiety as well as the Introductory Lectures, The Psychopathology of Everyday Life and The Interpretation of Dreams.