Treating the Angry Client: 5 Anger Management Techniques
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Күн бұрынIn the first part of this video I talk about the impact anger can have on a person's health and why anger is addictive, using the example of an anger management client I saw. Then (from 12:11), I share 5 anger management techniques, including an hypnotic exercise you can use to help a client become less angry, less often.
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Video highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:11 An anger management client
02:00 How anger steals from you...
03:16 How anger affects the brain
07:20 Anger kills (not just the other guy)
12:11 Tip 1. Discover what pushes your client's buttons
13:47 Tip 2. Insert some distance between clients and the source of frustration
15:48 Tip 3. Use rehearsal to help your client see wider
17:11 Learn this hypnotic exercise to control anger
20:29 Tip 4. Don’t get angry, for pity’s sake
21:52 Tip 5. Help them deal with real frustrations
23:45 A short story on Heaven
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@chrispapa2782 2 жыл бұрын
And anger is something we choose to display, show off so that we ca scare others bully them and control them. So do not believe that anger is something that the person cannot control. Anger is their way of taking control of displaying their power, to get their need met over yours, to get their wants over yours. They are not nice and the fact that they regress is so that you can excuse them and they want you to believe that they were “out of control” but no ! They were taking control - thank you very much.
@chrispapa2782 2 жыл бұрын
It’s easy to get angry and hurt your relationships but it’s very hard to mend them afterwards.
@meropale 2 ай бұрын
I love that this video started out with a quote by the Buddha. He is the ultimate therapist.
@garyhondel9020 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I’m reviewing resources for my anger management clients and this video has been very helpful.
@mike.legare99 3 жыл бұрын
Like your channel. Takes a lot to hold the listener on any psychology KZfaq channel: You accomplish holding your audience. Thank you.
@PM-zw9xz 2 жыл бұрын
You are a wonderful colleague!!! Thank you, thank you!!
@mitchelthinks 3 жыл бұрын
wow I was just thinking of this. Thanks mark
@stevenmartinez9127 17 күн бұрын
Thank you for this. I needed something like this in my life.
@tyanaz1498 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I needed this for work tonight
@elviedavid8250 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the useful techniques and the beautiful stories you share, Mark.
@chrispapa2782 2 жыл бұрын
This is good looking into meeting their needs.
@chrispapa2782 2 жыл бұрын
I loved the samurai story xxxxx
@Kombo-Chapfika Жыл бұрын
The allegories are fantastic
@limewalk6719 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@Medietos 2 жыл бұрын
TCM has the best empirical theory of at least a large percentage of chronic anger. Liver/ Gall Bladder involvement is a medically well-known cause since centuries
@carollucialopez9952 6 ай бұрын
Thank you. I learn so.muchbfrom you in these videos.
@trisha3856 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mark! As usual, your timing is providential!
@drsandhyathumsikumar4479 2 жыл бұрын
Habian learning so clearly explained ..loved the metaphors of angry gorilla .brilliant !
@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын
Mark, thank you
@tarzieh2010 Жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻 very helpful 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻🥰
@batyazissu5858 3 жыл бұрын
You enrich my world and my practice in so many ways, thanks! Would love to hear more ... Batya from Israel
@ices3456 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing yourself and your insight with us.I am so happy to hear all of this wisdom that I can apply to my life immediately.Simple practical teaching. Now I would like to ask you.Have you ever given counsel on envy management? Seriously it is such a common problem millions if not billions deal with it, no one can escape it.It's a problem. Are there any insights, tools, skills that can help people manage this problem?I would really appreciate you looking into this.Thanks again for everything.
@Nyx773 2 жыл бұрын
The way I personally deal with it is that I have never been and never will be on any social media platforms.
@alejandramori679 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks really!
@sunithab.j2839 3 жыл бұрын
Wow this is so amazing ! Thanks much for this.
@jesseskellington9427 2 жыл бұрын
Anger increases cortisol cortisol increases inflammation through the entire body thus making it harder for the heart to push the blood through the system causing heart failure
@TheInfiniteCorner 3 жыл бұрын
My anger is equal to the projected stupidity around me LMAO...no seriously.
@bethetruth1842 3 жыл бұрын
😆yah.
@tadhiatt2627 2 жыл бұрын
So, if you were the smartest person on Earth, you would automatically be the most angry/miserable ? I can relate to what you said...but I am trying to change my thinking. I am not only outnumbered here, but surrounded to boot !
@rachellaird6667 Жыл бұрын
@@tadhiatt2627 $
@jesseskellington9427 2 жыл бұрын
The stress response from anger also turns off the hippocampus for long-term memory this way when the lion tiger bear eats you your body is protecting your psyche from the experience but when it's your parents or boss this proves to be dysfunctional from The learning experience required given by your boss or parent if they stress you out also test for the exaggerated startle state that will give you indicators of how much aldosterone is being pumped in the system the awareness hormone
@hritiksingh1996 3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely love the tools and guidance that you provide. Thank you so much. Would love to see your new videos more frequently on this channel! 😄
@Medietos 2 жыл бұрын
Expressing grievances assertively rather than angrily/enraged didn't work since I was not heard and even less respected This had increased the anger by the feeling-thought of being diminished disregarded, and there was no support or defense.
@alxdgr8806 Жыл бұрын
I know this comment is a year but I had to reply to say I completely agree! Only when I showed anger is when I got respect and toned down the way people treat me 🧐
@Friendlyzone99 2 жыл бұрын
I recently found your channel-thank you for this valuable and enriching content!
@gekiryudojo Жыл бұрын
People are anchors!
@Schwabian 3 жыл бұрын
Most probably ADD or Aspi
@TheInfiniteCorner 3 жыл бұрын
And what did the Buddha say about never ending chronically painful stimulus which is completely swept under the rug and ignored by society at large? Can you get angry then?
@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын
♥️
@gekiryudojo Жыл бұрын
Isn’t Anger Caused by fear?
@stephenkelly2779 3 жыл бұрын
One thing I've never been is angry but my mum who didn't want me was and that's how she has angina.
@jjj5413 3 жыл бұрын
You're wanted no matter what she might think.
@stephenkelly2779 3 жыл бұрын
@@jjj5413 cheers but my mum didn't want a son , never know how anyone can be so cruel and evil.
@ChrisIsMe8 Жыл бұрын
That quote is definitely in the spirit of what the Buddha taught, but I could find no source where the Buddha said that. With all quotes, best to have a source or at least mention a lack of one, more so with the Buddha than most as most Buddha 'quotes' are not from the Buddha at all. An FYI =)
@billbirkett7166 Жыл бұрын
I wish I could throw a chair at a few people in my life.
@tomwright9904 Жыл бұрын
Anger is not an addiction.
@annadw6086 2 жыл бұрын
Eminent maths professor had chronic anger issues that’s uncommon practice A man of his calibre- everyone’s got a breaking point - this kid that wasn’t getting him & trying his patience - pushing him beyond human endurance - literally was the straw that broke the camels back - obviously this professor Has had a gutfull of crapola from the outside world - bit by bit - the crap consumed him - the man exploded Beneath the rage is ongoing fear - Or inner demons he’s shoved under the carpet to painful to look at - let alone deal with - Oh yes poor people that had to thread on eggshells- Can’t have people threading on eggshells now -
@Shrink007 2 ай бұрын
This video on anger management made me fuming 😡
@PsychNurse. Жыл бұрын
I'm hearing birds. Not Angry Birds.
@leovolont 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, your another Clinical Psychologist and Anger Management isn't your specialty and so you have to do that little dance about how Anger is actually useful and healthy when it isn't destroying everything in your life. You know, Doc, do you want to be helpful or not? Look at the Client you bring up as an example: this guy is doing Violent Rage (chair throwing and a lot of broken glass) and he LOOKS angry. Doc, most Careers, Friendships, and Marriages are destroyed by occasional moderate anger that doesn't go beyond a loud voice and cuss words. Doc, do you KNOW how most Corporations do their Standards of Conduct and their Progressive Discipline? Apparently not. If you yell and cuss at a friend ONCE, that might be forgiven, but what about six months or a year later. The same thing with Marriages, where can you imagine what a man might say to a woman, or what a woman can say to a man JUST ONCE which could change the entire marriage dynamic? SO, Doc, it is MODERATE ANGER that destroys most lives. Your Rage Anger Client is actually a kind of grotesque statistical outlier, right? Also, I contribute to the Uncommon Knowledge Anger Management Forums. Never heard from you there. Fine. Stay away! I try to maintain consistently that There Is Never An Excuse for Angry Behavior. I've always been critical of the English Language for being so imprecise, where Anger is BOTH an Emotion and a Behavior. We need to stop referring to Anger as an Emotion. The Emotion is HATE! The Behavior is ANGER. Yes, Doc, we can hate whatever it is we 'like'... I mean 'decide to', but unless we are attacked by a Bear on a Camp Ground in the Woods then Angry Behavior will only make things worse, right? But, yeah, stay away from the Forum until you make up your mind whose side you're on.
@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын
Hmm why are you watching this if it makes you so angry ? Mark is just a human. It’s his opinion based on 20+ years of work. Study multiple options and form your own. Mark is just one of them. No one is stopping you from consulting with other specialists in the field of anger.
@leovolont 2 жыл бұрын
@@tatianahawaii13 Hi Hanna, how much of my comment did you actually read. Did you get to the part where I discuss that the English Language is very imprecise in regards to the word Anger. It means both a Emotion or even in Intellectual Evaluation, and then it means a Behavior. Yeah, my EVALUATION of what the Guy says is very critical. but look at the Guy's Video List. The Guy can't be an Expert on everything, right? He doesn't TREAT Anger, because if he was TREATING Anger then he'd already have run into the problems I've pointed out. So what would you have me do? Are you some Mommy treating me like a child and telling me "If I have nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all". Surely not, right? But your problem is that you think I am ANGRY. But in Anger Management we are only concerned with Anger as a BEHAVIOR. Hanna, do you think I am banging my computer desk. No. Am I cussing and swearing? No. So that means that am not demonstrating any ANGRY behavior, am I? but, yes, I'm not the guy's friend. Do you KNOW what "Uncommon Knowledge" is? It's a Forum where there are a number of Topics that the members can select from. and, Hanna, I have been a stead Contributor to the Anger Management Forum for I think it must be 10 years by now, and that GUY has NEVER gone to that page. Yeah, maybe he doesn't want to do anything without getting paid for it. Yeah, it's good thing I don't mind volunteering my time, huh?
@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын
@@leovolont no I don’t have time to read your comments. I believe you can handle your anger well because you spent so much time studying this topic. All the best
@leovolont 2 жыл бұрын
@@tatianahawaii13 Thank you.
@roseseeno2557 Жыл бұрын
Leo, you sound angry, suggest you take another listen.
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