Dude, with the color of his walls, his bed and his shirt he made the trans flag lol, love you sam

Not sure if this was on purpose, but the blue walls, the white bedsheets, and Sam's pink shirt make this video look like a transgender flag and I love it. Anyway, love you Sam, and this is an awesome, powerful video.

My family claims to be supportive, especially my Mom, but they aren't. They are those types of "supporters". I still get called by female pronouns and by my birth-name. I still get called "girl". A slip now and then would be fine, but they have not made a single effort to acknowledge it. When I came out to my Dad, (very nice man, pretty much the only parent that really matters to me for very personal reasons) he just said, "You shouldn't rush into this." I told him I knew ever since I was 6, I've thought through it ever since I was 12. I finally recently accepted this when I was 16. I'm now 17, going to be 18 at the end of September of this year. My Grandma said she didn't care what my Sexual Orientation is, which has nothing to do with my gender identity. When I came out to my Mom (sobbing and having a breakdown) she was going on and on about how she supports me and everything. But I can't get a binder, because I could hurt myself, and surgery isn't really on a good note with her. At first, she kind of cared. She talked with an LGBT group counselor at a school nearby and said, "My daughter is Transgender." I wish she said Son. Mom later kept rambling to me about how she wanted me to get into a support group, and I really wanted that because 1. I am severely depressed, and have been for many many years now (my Mom being a huge reason) and 2. I don't have many friends and 3. I am in an anti-LGBT small town. My Mom hasn't done anything, and it's been 4 months. The only people that are actually making an effort are my sister and best friend. My sister is an alcoholic, is constantly working, and yet still manages to get my name and pronouns right. I never see her for months at a time. My best friend cannot use my preferred name or pronouns around other people, but called me her "big brother" and "Bro" and even wrote me a letter for Valentine's Day addressed as my preferred name. I'm going to college soon. I don't give a shit what my family thinks, but I'm going to start transitioning. I've looked up gender therapists in my LGBT+ accepting college area and I'm getting a job. I'm going to order a binder, and wear masculine clothes with a masculine haircut, and get an STP and use the men's room. I'm going to be called "Charlie" and go by male and neutral pronouns. I'm going to be me. I'll be 18 in September, at the end of the month. My family has always been extremely unhealthy and toxic, especially my Mom (she was neglectful and abusive in my childhood, and still holds those characteristics with emotional manipulation) so it's a huge relief to be getting away. Basically, I've only been a person if my family wanted something. That's my importance.

i tried my hardest to give you guys the best advice so let me know if there's anymore questions u have! ilu

I'm crying while watching this, my mom is "ok with trans people" but she keeps making me feel like shit for it. Talk about good timing, my mom called me "Kai" willingly for the first time and I started crying, I think she realizes how serious I am about wanting to be a boy now. Even though she won't call me my more realistic boy name "Jason" Kai is more than enough for me now.

My mom says that she's supportive of me (I'm ftm) but she keeps putting off getting me a binder even though I've offered to pay and such. She says that she won't call me He/Him until I come out to my whole family who for the majority are very homophobic and transphobic.

I'm trans ftm but I haven't gone through any hormones for surgeries so I'm still living as a girl Im absolutely terrified to come out to my mum so this kinda helped but idk how to deal with anger and lectures

My mom says she's supportive when she really isn't. "Don't get surgery it could be dangerous." "Don't take hormones it could be dangerous." "Don't get a binder it could be dangerous." I understand that mom. I understand that you don't want me to get hurt. I can't be happy in my own fucking body though. I can't even be called my preferred pronouns and name at home because my family doesn't know. I only have relief with my friends and even then I don't pass well. You know why? Because I don't have anything that could possibly help me! I have a sports bra but even then it's not that good. I wish I could pass.

it's been 6 years since I first came out to my mom. I don't think my mom will ever accept me. (she's a Christian lady) 😢 I'm on T and have my name changed. I'm working on getting top surgery before my 20th birthday

I really needed this video because my parents are really unsupportive and I mean they are not bad people, they are just really catholic and they consider it wrong. thank you ❤

I remember I gathered enough courage to tell my mom to call me "he" a year or two ago for the first time, but she just laughed and made fun of me, so I haven't opened up about it after that. I feel very sad and anxious because I can't get help because of that, but I just hope things will get better in the future and I can live a happier life as myself. Thank you for making this video :)

This is weird because the day this was posted when my unsupportive father texted my mom because he started noticing I was wearing a binder and my mom used they/them pronouns. He told her that he would love me no matter what, and it made me so happy to see the dad who yelled at me when I came out as pan accepts me now

Mtf here When I "came out" my mom lost her shit and went crazy on me and caused a lot of mental distress and pain She's gotten better but she doesn't still seem to care she calls me wrong pronouns and name behind my back And refuses to call me natalia only nat. She treats me bad for not being able to get a job when no places will even hire me when I've been applying for jobs for the 3 months straight. When she calls me wrong shit and it mentally hurts a lot when I'm trying so hard to feel more female everyday and just the vibes I get from her constantly make me depressed, just don't know what to do and I'm afraid I might end up hurting myself

My brother has stopped talking to me since I came out as trans he's says I'll always be a boy cause he believes a person can't "erase" their past. I haven't seen him since 5 years now 😔

Thank you so much Sam I've been struggling to come out to my dad for the past week and I'm going to try my hardest to tell him tomorrow

My mother claims to be supportive, but she also says I'm too young to know, that its a phase (bc I used to like wearing dresses, and I still do sometimes), and that I'm disrespecting real trans people by taking this so seriously. She doesn't believe that I have dysphoria. What do I do please I'm dying

thank you for caring. i jjst came out as nonbianary and on of my best friends said that she is never gonna talk to me again. ive been crying at my house for an hour

Wow... was not expecting KZfaq to be so deep this morning. *Keep going, Sam! Your helping others is so admirable!*

When I came out as transgender I got screamed at. They said I was to young and they call me more female pronouns than they did before..

An online counselor literally sent me this omg-

My Mother tried to take me to a doctor to get my brain checked, she said that I was going extreme and was basically trying to force m to say that I wasn't trans. And it really hurt the things that she said to me. The kid that she raised for 16 years she called, mental, extreme, selfish, a sinful blunder of God. It just goes to show that you can't trust some people that are closest to you.

I came out to my mom earlier today, she just said "You're stupid shut up." And refused to listen 😭

some parents are ignorant they can't understand our feelings and it sucks a lot, but we must go on and keep on trying to live the best we can🙂

I can't tell my parents won't support me my dad is a homophobic and transphobic he's also Christian while my mom supports trans people but I'm her only female child out of 2 brothers but I always act like the big brother but I don't wanna break my moms heart ;( life sucks for me

Hey, Sam! I live in a very unsupportive household, unfortunately. My mom is always acting against transgender movements, and she is also homophobic. My sister is neutral, since she is lesbian. But she doesn't support transgender rights, she tolerates it. I'm not out yet, im female to male. I've asked my mom to cut my hair, and she constantly responds with "you're not a guy. " I do wear all gender neutral clothing, and I wear boxers and I don't shave my legs or armpits because its what makes me feel comfortable. I can't bind yet, since im only 13 and I don't own a credit card. I'm extremely dysphoric, and its hard for me to look in the mirror. I do wear double sports bras, and wear baggy clothing, hoodies, and button up shirts. I'm also really short (5'2) so i wear fun colored shoes. (Does that help? I don't know) Anyways, I just wanted to thank you for all you have done. I didn't know I was trans until I started to watch your videos, and the amount of love and support you show is insane. I can tell you actually care, and I really respect you for all you have done for us! Love you, Sam. If anybody has any tips, support, or ideas for anyone else (or myself would be appreciated too) would you mind leaving them in the replies below? It would mean the world to me if I could get some support and tips on how to deal with this right now. Thanks again!

My parents don't understand it at all. My mom is trying to understand, but she is very critical about it. My dad does not at all understand it, and since I told him that I realized it after I saw a video about a trans boy and related a lot to it, he thinks I made it up as a spontaneous idea for some reason. And they both kind of think it's a phase. But I love my parents, and they love me, that's why they're critical about it; they don't want me to regret it later in life if I transition. But like I said, they love me, and I'm very close to them, and I know they'll come around eventually. But Sam, do you have any advice as to how I should confront them?

I thought when I came out they’d need time to understand so I told them totally respectful and optimistic but what was I thinking arguing with my narcissistic mom? 🤷‍♀️ On another note I’m here to support all of you and I hope you all have amazing supportive parents! If not I’m here to adopt you lol... and thank you for making this Sam

My dad read my diary found out I was trans. Told him it was a joke he didn’t believe me but didn’t pry. I only live with my dad so it’s not easy. He listens to very transphobic podcasts in front of me he even bought a book for me to convince me I’m not trans. Luckily my mom supports me even though I don’t live with her.

Hey Sam, could you do a video about getting testosterone? Like the process you have to go through, costs, insurance, etc? I've been trying to do research about it for next year once I start college but the internet has been super sketchy.

my dad claims to be supportive but really isn't... I came out as bigender months ago because I thought it would go better than me saying "I'm trans, I feel like a boy" but.. it went awful. and just today, I asked my mom with homework help and she saw me put my preferred name on my paper at the top (my math teacher lets me).. she sighed and I could tell she was mad when she said "you're name is (deadname).." and as soon as she said that and left afterwards, I broke down crying... dysphoria just kinda took over my brain and it made me feel so awful about myself. I'm not allowed to do anything for myself as a person until I'm 18.. I have too live 2 more years until I can get a haircut (I have long hair), move out, start to physically transition, everything... I hate it so much....

i needed this today. thank you

And also always keep in mind that time will past and someday you'll be old enough to make your own live how ever you want and you will make the transition And try to find more trans guys or girls that understand you :)

hi my name is Stacie to my parents I want my name to be Raegan I have tried to come out to my parents about 5 times but I doesn't work and I have got to say this video made me a lot happier because I know that things will come around with or with out my parents by my side

I have given my parents 4 years to come to terms with me being ftm transgender and they are just so angry about the whole thing I don't understand.

I love how you always want to help others, doing this kind of videos and answering their questions, I love the kind of person you are, keep it up please, i'm so proud of you, love you sam!

Wow I'm so proud of you. I find so amazing how you help so many people. You're truly amazing sam

You're so inspirational, you helped my brother through his transition. Thank you! Love you! 😇

thank you sam, you can always make everyone feel better

I'm going to come out as ftm to all my friends. I'll tell my parents in 3 or 4 years.

I really needed this video today, thanks a lot Sam

thank you so much sam i honestly been struggling with my mum and her un acceptance with my transision and this just made me feel so much better. thank you so much

Thank you Sam, thank you for giving me hope. I won't give up on my transition no matter what people say :)

My parents started shouting when I asked if I could get a hair cut because i hate the length of my haid and they said I would look like a boy- like thats the point-

I found this video super calming and it give me a lot of hope,thanks Sam x:)

My family, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, are all talking about how its "confusion" and "demonic" etc, and I'm always just sitting there at the table like uhhh, as they dehumanize my entire existence

Anytime I bring it up around my mom she goes “well I know you like guys”... I can tell she won’t be supportive

Thank you so much for this, it really helped me. Love you dude!

Commend you 100% for making this video Sam. No doubt it will open minds and hearts against the sexual bigotry still prevalent in the world. Having positive support and encouragement plus confidence in yourself is really important when someone wants to come out, whether they be family or friends. A willingness to understand and accepting mindset is what everyone should have. Ignorance, internal prejudice and stereotypical attitudes only sow the seeds for toxicity that crushes a person's self-esteem.

I saw the comments and lowkey most people relate with others so let us all run away from family together and live how we r supposed to lmao

I came out to my transphobic parents.. long story short, I'm gonna need new and accepting parents😕

I love you, thanks for everything you do 💕

Omg I needed this! Thank you so much Sam! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

u are so kind still understand people who dont support :xx very rare

A video about trans advice Light pink shirt. White bed. Light blue walls. I don't care if that was intended or not, but I love it.

Thank you so much for this video! You really help me so much honestly, you are such a big inspiration and always there with ur videos to help people. I love you for that. I've been really struggling recently with my parents cause they aren't accepting me at all and call me ill for being transgender... so this video really helped me a lot, thank u sam

I came out in late 2015 and my whole family literally turned on me. I lost so many friends. On December 2016 I went back to the closet and only allowed to wear female clothes and just say it's all fine.. They even told the doctor that I don't feel that way anymore before I could speak. So, I'm going through depression badly cause I miss the past and where I used to live I was accepted a bit (in 2015 and early 2016) then I moved from Corpus Christi,Tx to New Braunfels,Tx in August 2016. My new school turned their entire backs on me. I'm still a bit hated, but now that I'm faking that I'm not trans, they are being nicer..

My parents are unsupportive as well... I'm here for you! 💕 and you're exactly right!!!

I only just came out to my friends and family. The advice here is the best I have heard so far, I have been shunned and beaten down but I will try to help them understand. Thank you.

I am so proud of Sam,Thanks

Thank you so much for this video omgg.. It's been almost a year since I've come out to my mom and when I did she unfortunately didn't believe me and I've been too scared to bring it up since. I'm planning to talk with her again after I turn 18 this May to discuss everything and.. I hope all goes well. Thank you again, you're amazing and I always enjoy your videos

i haven’t come out yet but i remember many times when my dad was transphobic like when i was nine and playing a south park game where you picked if you were trans or cis and i accidentally picked trans and he said “thats bad unpick that” and he insulted one of my trans friends :(

thank you. I needed this a lot

tell us the story of the first time u cut your hair !!

I appreciate your realism Sam. Too often I hear unrealistic advice like just do it anyway you can't really do that when your under someone elses roof and not financially stable. Im not trans but I amvunsure of my sexuality. I knew for a while I was sexually attracted to women more so than I'm attracted to men. My moms side of the family is extremely religious they condemn homosexuals all the time and I know if they ever knew what was going on with me they'd condemn me and try to "pray the gay away". It just makes me sad because I am closer to my mom than my dad and it makes me feel like she can never really know me because of her homophobia.

thanks for this video man. my mother wll provavly never accept me, but ill try and make connections w supportive ppl. once she heard alex g sing "i am not the boy" (from song called boy) and she heard "i am not a boy". yelled at me for 2 hours after that. and before that one time where i came out as queer(not trans) she made me go to a public park (i have extreme social anxiety) and yelled there at me. idk for how long. it felt like it was hours. when i tried to walk away shed yell to come back and i did because i was scared. she banned me from all the rainbow ever since (2019). she thinks that "fixed" me, but im on my third attempt to yanno, not exist, and she doesnt know.

I came out to my mom this week and she was awful with it, so this video was appreciated thank you! 💕💕

w0t the heck sam. this was such a nice and safe video and you honestly are so helpful! thanks, i love you boii :)

thank you for this video sam ive been struggling with this and im an adult i live on my own but my mom right now is in control of my financial situation since i am having hell finding a job right now this video has given me hope of transitioning soon 😊 thank you!

ok, so I the type of person that keeps thing hidden from people because I have really bad anxiety. i myself for years was figuring this out. I'd known I was trans for two years and the 2 years before I was figuring out what it was. I finally got enough courage to tell my mother and she doesn't believe me because I've never said anything about wanting to and that there's not story's of people that "just turn trans". She feels that this is a phase. Do you have any ideal of how I could change that? if you reply- Thank you. love your videos btw-

im eleven years old and i am a demi boy (or so i think). Ive know i was trans since i was seven, but my parents dont support me. They told me i have to be born acting like a boy in order to be trans.. but they dont understand because THEY chose whst i weared, THEY always pressured me to fit in with girly stereotypes! (Sorry ik its a stereotype, not all girls are like that) I always told them i hated dresses and skirts and tights and dress shoes and high heels, but they thought it was a "phase". I came out when i was ten and i was crying, and then they told me they didnt beleive me and that i was wrong. That night i lost it. Ever since then my parents have always mocked my gender choice, and used it whenever we were angry at eachother. They even took everything in my room away from me a couple days later after i came out, what a coincidence./: to be fair i am eleven, i may be to young to be thinking about this. Ive researched along time but their is still a chance im wrong Idk tho, maybe i am rushing into this? Do you guys think im to young to know, because that might be true?

I just watched this with my friend josh who is trans and has unsupportive parents and he says thank you, this helped him so much. We love you Sam! 💖

Thank you for this ❤️😩

Surround yourself with people who accept you for who you are.

I love your videos Sam they are probably very helpful for people who are transitioning

such a thoughtful guy, love ya x

THE COLOUR SCHEMING IS BOMB

Aw, I came out to my parents the day you posted this. (Unfortunately I didnt see this video before hand) My parents told me I'm crazy and that it's all because I spend too much time on the internet. I assumed that they didn't understand so I told them what it means. My parents didn't bother to listen and just told me that they don't want that in their family. I'm scared to tell my friends (some know already) because I over-heard some kids in my class making fun of transgender people and making rude jokes about it. I'm also not quite sure if I should even tell anyone because I'm ftm but I am attracted to guys.. I'll try to remember the poinyts made in the video when I try again. Thanks x

you are such an inspiration!!

Thank you. This video really helped me. 😢

Thanks for the tips, Sam...personally I think if someone wants, they can write an email to their parents so that they can get out what they wanna say without getting interrupted or anything. I would find it much easier...then afterwards you can have a chat based on that email...idk just my opinion.

I love u sam u have helped me to come out ...thank u

Thanks for this man❤️ I’m almost in tears cause my parents don’t support me.

I hate not being out as trans because before I accepted myself and came out to a friend of mine who is the only person who knows; I was in such a bad place mentally that I wanted to hurt myself every minute or every day. I accepted myself as trans a bit ago after questioning for a year and a half for certain trans but was questioning my gender 3 years before that and only came out to my friend not too long ago as trans at least. But since then I haven't even thought of hurting myself and I've been happier because I started dressing how I wanted and stuff. Next step is getting a plan b before coming out just in case I get kicked out because if my family I live with won't accept me than no one else will and I mean like no one. But thank you; your a big inspiration to me because you've been such a big help in me finding myself. :D Have a lovely day!

My parents don't understand that I don't care about them enough to fear disappointing them. If they roll around in their graves disappointed by me, I could care less.

First (love you)! ❤️

My mom doesnt accept me and she just refuses to believe that I'm trans. It sucks,, but I'm not letting that stop me,, I made an appointment for me to start T on the 14th since I dont need her consent

I agree with Sam on all of this video, but majorly on the part where he states that if someone truly loves you, they will come around to accept you eventually, whether this be 3 months or 3 years. As a early teen transguy, I deal with a transphobic & homophobic mother. She's the only parent I live with and she is completely unsupportive. I came out to her last August about being pansexual and transgender and she was not having it. She said many things I'm not going to list here, and she claimed that she would never accept me for that no matter what. It's March and she is currently ignoring it and when I bring it up she acts like she has no clue what I'm talking about. Personally from knowing my mother, I know she's more than likely never going to come around to accepting me. I'm perfectly fine with waiting until I'm 18. that's like 3 and a half more years, but I can handle it. I've surrounded myself with people who love and accept me and people who care about my happiness, so everything is good. I don't believe my mother loves me in the way a mother should love me due to many other reasons, not just ones regarding how unsupportive she is. but... I do believe that if she did truly love me, she would accept me for this. this is just my story for this video, so ye c:

love u and thank u for all ❤️

"2 years have been enough mom, stop being a bitch!"

I got in trouble for watching your videos. I love your videos and I feel like they help me.

Lmao coming out was my bigest mistake I wish I just ran away and NEVER told my dad. Im tired

My parents act like they’re supportive but aren’t. They won’t even let me cut my hair or get a chest binder, they claim to do research but only are trying to find counselors, and they don’t acknowledge i’m sad. My brother bullies me even though he doesn’t know i’m trans and i’ve gotten into self harm. My life is falling apart.

Really informative videos juss wat I needed thanx

10k til 100k!! Letzzz goooo

Thank you so much. I’m terrified to tell my parents because of religion. What you say always helped me feel amazing. I want to be male though my birth gender is female I don’t know if I’ll look good as a male. I don’t know if it’s just a phase. I’m going to wait about a year to make sure I’m 100%. Thank you for your love and support to your fans.

I told my mom I was trans a little over a week ago, maybe a week and a half now. right off the bat she wasn't accepting. I do get that it takes time for people, especially parents to get used to the new names and pronouns, but my mom told me she will not enforce the new name or pronouns, and she thinks it's a phase but I've been in denial for 2 years. she told me she will forever call me by my deadname and my old pronouns, even if I change my name. So at the moment I feel unsafe in my home, but not a bad unsafe. just like a... uncomfortable unsafe.

love you, i thought your advice was great .

Its ironic because my transitioning boyfriend is named Sam. But...my parents don't like the thought of me being trans and so that's great...but my Friends are beautiful people. My friend Alex gives me tips while IM transitioning and I give him tips from yours and Miles' videos. Your videos help me and I went through gender disphoria but now I'm putting myself in a place of comfort and getting a binder soon. I love my friends and I had one of them say "This is Tobi and he is one of the cutest boys I know. He is the green bean." I love this so much and even though my parents don't support me, and won't even let me step into target *cough*...I love what you do and I appricate everyone who is trans, queer, androgynous, bi, gender fluid, and even straight as a stick. Thanks Sam. -Ukulele Gay Boi

i have unsupportive parents, im not even allowed my hair cut or wear gender neutral clothes. only my friends are supportive, and from my experience, just having a few people who accept you is better than none

❤️❤️❤️😭 love you Sam