Bro that’s what I’m saying! ✝️🙏🏾

For sure

On God.

💯

Fr fr period

Very nessasary 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

When you see the woman at those events speak up and hear his answers, how many do you honestly believe are actually listening and raking it to heart? Do you think women even wanna hear what he has to say, or is just cardi bs, red, Kardashians stallions etc that drive the social norms? I want a womens perspective. Also side note what do u think of women who have platforms, podcast etc and are shaming him the men that think like this and say go get ur bag?

​@@agetrobadassYou're pathetic 😂

In My Opinion, The Only Time I Did Find Him Miss Was When He Said Body Count Doesn't Matter Which I Totally Disagree With..

Yesssss, and thank you 🙏🏽

Pl😊) l lol

Profound statement right there

​@omargreene3048 OMG!! Hello sir What a gorgeous man u are, yeah the man was speaking facts, protecting someone you like or love from yourself is hardly understood, I've seen too many couples go below the belt because they were hurt, talking bout they love each other , 😅 where is the love in how u spoke to each other. I hate to see it, I be getting so sad.

Exactly; that’s why I firmly believe we as a whole should only search for love when we are mentality ready, when he spoke about taking pieces away and expecting him to be empathetic when she needs is a key that shows that most individuals that are in relationships are not open minded or not ready to accept their partner for who they are, this happens on both sides regardless of gender. Why it is imperative to improve yourself day by day, not only for the benefit of others but for yourself as well.

It is a No. You shouldn't cry more than me.

He is such a devine being.

Yes I love to hear him speak

What is this souls name pls?

For bro raw 🫡

Who is he?

At all

What has you being a woman got to do with this message? What was the message that you understood? Because from what I understood, he was telling women to be better. To be able to allow their man to be soft with them. Let's be honest here, it is because women don't allow their men to be soft with them, which is what he is talking about. So please help me understand what has this message got to do with you as a woman? What is the correlation and how is it connected? Women dont understand that when a man comes home to their woman and becomes soft, it is because he is letting his guard down. Because you are his woman, not a woman. Because you are his woman, that is why he is able to let his guard down. But women have constantly shit on men who open up to them, women will use it as ammunition in arguments and fights. Are you going to deny that? Do you know why men don't open up? It is because women have shown us time and time again that we shouldnt. This is very important to understand. "As a woman i approve this message." No, as a man i approve this message. Remember, you brought gender into this.

@Love-39 really? That is your argument? That just because the question was asked by a woman, so you just assume that "as a woman" Is said. What's the correlation? Please explain. What is it that women approve of when you are the ones being discussed about, when women are the ones called to be accountable for their words and actions, yet women outright refuse to take any accountability. So approving this message doesn't mean anything. It just shows women being condescending. And you are assuming things just to fit your feminist narrative. How do you approve of a message that you can't even take accountability for? That sounds condescending to me. How about you women stop lying about how you understand the point being made and that you understand men. Men can see how women don't care. Men know that women don't and can't understand men. Women can't be empathetic of men. But men are expected to be empathetic of women and help them. Again, I want to know, how is this related? The woman asks a question and receives an answer which calls women out and tells them to be better, you say you approve this message but you can't even apply the message. Why this hypocrisy? Why this deceit?

Yep... You and the 98% percent of female attendees that were there 😂😂

​@Love-39You responded beautifully. ⚘️ I am a woman, and I approve this response because like you and the other woman in the post here, I agreed 💯% with what the gentleman in the video stated; and further, you saved me from having to respond to the apparently hurt and misguided individual who desperately tried to group us all in the same proverbial basket. In fact, I admire the man in the video because he's at least striking up a conversation on a much needed topic especially in our community. There are many women who want to be a safe space for their man; and at the end of the day, allowing them to come home and be vulnerable, and know that they are completely loved. It's about being real with each other. 🕊

​@@RawEcstacy I see you fail to understand the meaning of a woman agreeing with him, as it very clearly means that she agrees that women need to do better. It only required very basic comprehension skills. And there you are desiring to be argumentative for no reason. Some men would say that's a womanly trait btw.

Facs

You better say that 🙌🏾

Your pessimism is ironic. He literally just explained why it doesn't happen in some peoples lives.

​@@jwil7954 But where is the lie? This doesn't happen in most cases

Bruh, at this point in life it’s less about the lie and more about re-membering. The gem in the video was for us to empathize and see ourselves in them. Therefore, sometimes we are going to help them heal their broken pieces and other times they are going to help us heal our broken pieces. More importantly, we need to see that the same way vulnerability can be uncomfortable for us is the same way it can be uncomfortable for them. It less about the lie and more about re-membering. 1. Re-member the stories of our ancestors like Isis and Osiris. Western religions have told us that our ancient African spiritual practices are pagan. That’s THE LIE! 2. Re-member her broken pieces. And it’s our responsibility to allow her to re-member ours. 3. Empathize and be patient, most people do not enjoy looking vulnerable and weak. Does this make sense my brother?

I always say willingness is a huge factor in relationships if not the biggest. You don’t have to be healed, perfect on paper or know psychology. If you’re willing however you can go a long way. If both parties are genuine and consistent in willingness the partnership will be fulfilling and go the distance. Mature people want both. ❤

This is one of the biggest reasons why I accepted the breakup between myself and someone I thought was my twin flame. He gave up so quickly when things got rough. It alerted me that “maybe this person doesn’t think I’m worth fighting for” and it y to come to that realization but I also know it would have hurt more if we both stayed in a situation where only one of us was willing to work things out.

AMEN 🙏

No man ever gave you guys that title. You woman called yourself that and society followed. Let’s be real. A strong black woman is what you guys want to be. But when things get tough and tough for a long time now you don’t like being labeled that. Am I wrong?

​@brentie2604 yep

If I have saw this once I have said it a million times. I do what I have to do

It always goes back to being about you... Is there ever found to be a video about men where some woman comes in and tries to make it about her or women in general? It is sickening actually... Why most of you are miserable, inability to empathize with anything outside of your own narrative or agenda.

Agreed 💯 facts. It goes both ways I guess, but remember ladies... and I say this with all due respect... Never ever...ever ever ever use whatever he told you when vulnerable with you against him in any way shape or form. Men don't forget that transgression. Ever. That's why when it happens a man will simply shut down. Period. Much love and respect from a brotha in the Motherland Kenya 🖤

A partner should provide a safe space for their partner.

I’ll never forget when my then BF said he did not feel safe coming home to me. Boy I took that shame and ran with it. Ran to KZfaq, books, relationship coaches. I got my life together. It changed my whole life. I had to learn to inspire him. And all the men on my house. 2 sons and a now husband. They need to feel emotionally safe when they walk through those doors to Me. My sons included. Once I did that. They gave me the world.

@@raymondomollo6748shut all the way down. My BF went to homies house for 4-5 Hours everyday after work for 5 years. My family thought he was cheating. I didn’t though. That’s too much work for him 😊. I used to be so mad until I realized he just didn’t feel safe coming home to me.

​@honeyisnatural5❤

You are like a prey to his softness, he has to be all tightened up around you, you aren’t wired to deal with his challenges, you’ll run and see him as unsafe fit yourself

Shit you ninjas destroy you mean. Any woman would be stupid to be soft with yall ninjas. All yall know how to do is take advantage of the soft and feminine. Not protect. As soon as yall have yall vulnerable moment about yall insecurities or whatever, yall will have the audacity to weaponize your ignorance against your girls’ weaknesses. Just a bunch of snakes.

Hi Mr. Bey...I'd like to point out to you that ignoring someone can be the same as physically hitting them in a harmful way. With that in mind think of the conversations you mentioned...when you "project your anger and frustration" you may in fact not be yelling but she can feel some of that and what or how you are feeling in the moment. We all as human have more than 5 senses and one of the extra senses is to feel or sense energy around us it's what helps us know if we should be careful or run away when danger is afoot among other things. So, possibly, to her it feels frustrating too and maybe she hears your words louder as well because she's feeling for you and picking up on that energy. Also women are nurturing by default so she probably wants to comfort you in your time of frustration or anger. I know I can ask alot of questions because that's how I understand what's going on and the answers help me but often people get frustrated with me for trying to understand. So I always offer those people the space to come talk to me when they are ready. With that said maybe when you've had a hard day, explain when you get home to your lady "babe (or whatever you call her) I had a really bad day, I know you'll want to talk about it but I just need some time to myself to process it, then we can talk. Something like that may help avoid any arguments. Because who wants to be frustrated when they're already frustrated. Right? You guys can also seek counseling for other methods of communication. Counseling doesn't always mean that things are bad sometimes it can mean we want things to become even better so we're seeking help from someone outside of us to improve on what we've already built. You guys put in 17 yrs. Y'all should be having lots of fun together now the older you guys get!

Notice fellas how she said zero about what he said and EVERYTHING about how he said it.

Maann😮‍💨

Only the wrong women.

This is very true in alot of women. But a good, strong, understanding woman will hold her man, n hold it down. It's sad to say that, they r few n far between, but they do exist

Men do the same though

The ole men do it too reply from the woman. So they wont feel alone in having to be accountable.

Facts! I’ve learned to one give my kindness to those who deserve it. Peace my brother

Be careful who you give your heart to….Self awareness & self consciousness once you crack that you’ll know who to open up to

You are around the wrong women, bruh, change your environment

Please heal but have more discernment in the next partner you choose. A match would not take advantage.

​@@Manoftomorrow6491I'm guessing that HE IS the wrong environment.

Ah well…

Are you doing anything to help?

You were together for 14 years and he never opened up? Sounds like you werent the safety he required. You were the problem

@@stefanmatton8778I’m saying sound like he don’t trust her with his feelings 😂

Same bro, it’s like bleeding to a shark, I hope bro closes up and gets sensitive around his bros or real peeps, since you’ll judge him if he gets soft and judge him

​​@@GrowUp-zx3lcThis is a clip of a clip. In a longer video she calls her man "soft" so I believe that could constitute "beratement".. although I think there's a better word to use here