Do you know that the most painful thing a parent could say is " I fed you, clothed you and gave you good education." ? Because it means you are a string of bills and expenses in their eyes.

When she said, "lying was my best thing as a kid." Totally understood her character, it was the same thing for me. Lying and denying what I really wanted for myself just to please my narcissistic controlling mother. Nothing I did could satisfy the level of perfection she demanded. I learned to self-sabotage as early as 8 years old as a way of coping with the stress and anxiety in keeping up with her demands. This went on for most of my life until she passed. Never got an apology or an admittance of the physical, mental & emotional abuse she inflicted. Still struggling with the trauma even as an adult.

there is a huge difference between being grateful to someone for something and allowing them to suffocate you because of it.. parents are supposed to feed and clothe you. It doesn't mean they get to control who you love, where you go to school, or your job. Having a mother like that must have been exhausting mentally and emotionally for her till now. The guilt trip after is awful when you finally stand up for yourself.

齊明月演的真好，讓我都心疼她了，太辛苦的女兒了

Mingyue just released years of resentment towards her mother in one go.

Unfortunately, this behavior is almost ingrained in most Asian cultures. This is not always the case but generally the norm. I grew up this way, devalued although never to this extent. Because I felt I couldn't meet my parents expectations, I stopped trying. In return, they didn't expect much of me, considered me a disappointment., and I stopped expecting anything of myself. So I didn't give them what they wanted but in the process, I gave up on myself.

Wow the mother was really a witch> Can't believe that she bullied her daughter for 25 years and expected her to still bow down and jump when she said so. Really can't believe that she said that she fed, clothed and gave her a good education. I always thought that when you decide to have children, it was the parent or parents responsibility to take care of them. So glad that the daughter stood up for herself.

I can connect with Mingyue so much and the behavior her mom is showing is pretty norm in the Asian Culture. Growing up, always have that impossible expectation set right there. They never see you trying but only when you stop and give up. And how she's saying that she fed her, gave her clothes, and education tells that most of the time we're only seen as a money maker for the family once you are of age. And some may even have planned their kids future partner cause I know that's what my parents did when they found out I was a girl and the only girl in my family. My future was set and who I end up with is too. I remember how they would talk about our wedding as the two of us sat there at like the age of 12 and how my relatives are all fawning over when I got my first menstrual, how I was of age to marry and shit. So yes, seeing this play out in dramas really hit places after so many years.

Mingyue's mom is so toxic & like a dictator. I will surely"die" if my mom is like this. She has the nerve to even put the blame on Mingyue's housemates for Mingyue's problems. At last, Mingyue stood up to her mom & put her foot down. Mingyue's mom drove her daughter to a corner. Hopefully, one day both mom & daughter can reconcile in love and harmony.

這場衝突戲演得真好，四個演員演技拿捏真是沒話說！👍

雖然許多中國媽媽會以稱讚別人孩子來激將自己孩子。但是像明月媽媽這樣，除非得第一名，永遠把孩子貶得一文不值。從不考慮孩子自己想做什麼，有什麼願望.....

Gosh, this drama is always making me cry. It’s so realistic. Parents should never go to this length. It’s so sad that some parents still see their sons/daughters as a kid and not as an adult when they grow up

This woman has No boundaries. You say she is an adult but still treat her like a 5 yr old child. Good on you for Finally standing up for yourself. The whole ‘fed you & clothed you’ thing is crap. You brought a child into this world. You are Obligated to care for it. Clothe it. Feed it. Shelter it and Teach it. That is your duty. That is your Obligation. It is a parents duty to do so till this life can take care of itself. Be a productive, good member of society. The child however is not obligated to put up with you for its entire life. It is not obligated to follow your order for its entire life.

" I fed you , clothed you and gave you a good education " that’s what’s you’re supposed to do , like it’s the literal bare minimum. I wish parents will realise all the things they do is because the chose to have us and is the bare minimum of having an actual human.

my relationship with my mother portrayed so perfectly in this scene

The common theme in this is mother’s acting like the victim when they are the problem.

齐明月是典型的黑色孩子每个孩子都有自己的不同的色彩。当然，每个颜色都有不同。就像每个孩子都不同。黑色孩子面对这样的父母的时候，父母总会说啊，你应该加一点红色，这样你才会更加的热情，你应该多加一点蓝色，这样你才会有朋友。你应该多加一点灰色，这样你会更加的帅。你应该多加一点黄色。这样你会更加的绚丽。可是黑色终究是黑色，黑色越来越大，其他的那些颜色都不是他想要的。父母当然会想着为孩子好，想要孩子一个很好的前提，想要他健康长大，想要他无忧无虑。但是孩子可能就是想要一个白色，想要自己变成一个灰色。想要自由，想要自己一个人去闯出自己想要的东西，齐明月想要的东西只是一个单纯的白色。但是父母一直否定他说你穿白色不好，说你选择这个，你能吗？你就这么点分数。明明想要自己的东西。自己想选择，但是又被否定。齐明月长大以后从来没有向父母说自己想要的东西，因为他知道，反正说出来了也要被否定，黑色孩子。你只要尊重他的选择，有的过分的想法，你可以他一起商量。看完这真的觉得原来真的会有。我想的（黑色孩子）

Not all parents are like this egg donor and human incubator (I refuse to call it a mother). What she is doing is a clear invasion of privacy and is disgusting. My daughter is 24 and we've always told her that so long as she's happy , doing her best and earning enough to pay her bills we're happy for her. She's saved and is now going into coding and studying that for a career. She's currently working in a theme park to earn a living and she loves it. If she decided to stay there instead we would still support her. At the end of the day our kids don't ask to be born and feeding them, clothing them and helping them (ie in education, etc) is the MINIMUM we can do as parents. We are NOT here to control their lives, to have 'do overs' of ours, or to live out our dreams through them. They are individuals in their own right, doing their best is ALL they can do. No one is perfect, no one should be expected to be to be perfect. The graveyards and crematoriums are full of souls who lived their lives trying to be perfect and/or to please others and not themselves. So long as you're doing your best and not hurting others BE HAPPY. Whatever comes next, this life is done when we die, don't look back with regret.

My mum used to be so controlling and didn't even care about personal space until I have had enough and stood up to her and today she is silently there looking at how my life is slowly growing

All my life, I failed all my exams from elementary to high school. Which resulted me in resitting my high school's final exams years later just to get into college, which I did(although, it was a bit later). & finally, managed to get my college qualification which resulted in a better paycheck + work position for me. But what I got from my mother is, she(my own mother) called me a "slut" because that's still not good enough for her - but, it is for me.

When china’s young generation become moms the country will be so happy 🎉

飾演斉明月的演員，演譯的真到位🎉

Prefectos doramas amiga :3

每看一次哭一次！

You go girl. Momma wont be the only person you'll have to argue with, for your independence. A YES girl is not ready for the real world.

哭超慘，雖然我爸媽也是這樣，但沒有他母親那麼極端，極吝嗇給孩子鼓勵的父母真的很傷孩子的心，我記得當時我努力找工作時候我爸也是一直拼命的蔑視與否定，最後是我哭著求我媽，然後通過朋友的幫助下找到了理想的工作，一直以來我記得這件事情，今天看到這一幕，我忽然發現也許有些父母是怕極了孩子最後一事無成，這種怕極了的焦慮父母用強硬的態度安排他認為正確的道路，其實吵架後月亮媽媽的哭泣真的很揪心，不過這好像是這類父母與孩子必經的過程

Im expering this right know. Whats worst is we are both working in the same environment. We have same schedule and everything that i do she has a say in it. I feel that i have a chaned in my neck i cant move and decide on my own both on work and at home from choosing what to wear to what to eat. If i dont di what she wants she will say that ive been too proud of my self now. 😢 i dont have anyone to share my feelings because almost all of my friend is away chasing there own dream they are almost achieving it while me here stuck.

I FELT SORRY FOR ALL CAUSE FAMILY IS FOR LIFE IT GET'S TO ME OMG 😭 RESPECT TO ALL LIVES

As you all know, the mothers in this drama are the worst. Qi Mingyue and Tantan's mother are present and didn't abandon them, but they were controlling and suffocating. That's why Mingyue became like that, she is a good girl, especially in academics. They just had to break free from that sMothering to become who they really want to be. They were lucky to have Jianjian as a friend, who despite having no mother growing up, the love of her father is everything and one of the best in the world. They have each other and that helps.

A veces es difícil tomar la decisión de tomar decisiones por ellos para evitar que se lastimen o darles la libertad de tomar sus propias decisiones, yo tomé la segunda opción, rogando que haya sido lo mejor para ella, cuando se trata de los hijos nos sentimos tan inseguros en cada paso que damos 😞😞

This whole drama is all about the consequences of good and bad parenting where we see Li Jianjian who have a supportive and understanding 1 parent is emotionally strong, independent, and stable whereas Ling Xiao, He Ziqui, and Qi Mingyue even have both their parents (who are trying to overcome their faults in their back years) are not able to build an understanding relationship with their kids. Overall a good show

She should respect her daughter choice

So learning this episode, as parents do as interprenour of own kids not by controlling like own dicision

ขอชื่อเรื่อง

THIS IS MY OPINION. Reading all the comments about having an Asian mom hits home for me too. I'm also Asian, from another country and I suppose there is not that much difference between Asian moms, regardless of which country they are from. However, we have gone a long way from being just children who should be respectful towards all elders. By birth, anywhere in the world, parents have a responsibility to bring up the child until the age of majority, whereby support of all kinds end. Anything done after that is a sign that the act is done out of love and support for the well being of the child. By virtue of this, the child pays forward when the time comes for her to be a parent. There should be no repayment of any kind unless the child, out of love and respect for her parents, help them and allow herself to be responsible for them. To make your child feel guilty because you raised her from birth is not right. More seriously, if you dictate the path she has to go, on your say so, is even worse, because in the end, it is a reflection on how you raised the child, to be subjected to someone else's dictates than what she is capable of. It means you do not trust what she was taught growing up, that is why you have to do it for her. I remember a mom reasoning that she is doing it so the child will not make a mistake. The question is: How does the mom know she is not making a mistake herself? How sure is she that the path she is making for her child is the right one? Is she willing to correct it if she is wrong? And how? I am sorry, if you disagree. This is just me and mine.

Name of drama ?

I really do not understand why do parents want to control why?

What name of this drama ?

Name?

vraiment ça c'est bizar

Es que en esa sociedad, aunque ya seas mayor de edad, los padres quieren dominae a sus hijos y debe existir respeto.

Ya tiene 25 años, que hace registrando en sus cosas??

Во имя семьи. Название дорамы

哈哈😄，終於…！

М-да, хорошая мать! Довела ребёнка своей чрезмерной опекой, чуть ли не до нервного срыва. Вот как можно так давить на ребёнка, а потом удивляться, что ребёнок бунтует? Она говорит что дочь с мужем её обидели, а сама хоть раз прислушалась к ним, хоть раз узнала чего они хотят. Кроме как командовать она уже по другому и общаться не может. Всё должно быть так, как она сказала и никак по другому. То есть у её близких не должно быть своего мнения и взгляда на жизнь. И всё это подаётся под соусом, я ж для вас стараюсь.

What’s the name of the drama

ellos no crían hijos si no algo así como sus esclavos

This is exactly how my mom treat me, so manipulative. Now i cut ties with her.

That girl is me

我媽如果這樣翻我房間，我可是會生氣的，有些事情，小孩大了是不能在做的

What the name of the drama

Si j'avais eu une mère comme ça elle ne m'aurait plus vu.

Too bad there is no English subtitles 😭

Eu te alimentei vesti foi dever dela quis ter filhos e depois não querem responsabilidades

Toxic motherly love is very common in Asia

Ela desconta na filha sua vida malfadada,me poupe.

Why was the mom looking for her household registration?

I will say it again these mothers on this show are horrible human beings. I stopped fighting with my kids when they turned 18 and we lived together until they were in their 20's they paid their share of the rent and bills. Treat your teen as a teen, but your adult child as an adult give advice not try to control them or make them feel guilty when they don't agree with you. SMH

Đây là phim tên là gì cả nhà nhỉ

The friend needs to stop mediating. Not your business.

I think Mommy Dearest needs a man or a life. If you have time to search your daughter's room your probably smelling her underwear to see if see is messing around. WOW! Lady your worst then a stalker. You have had your youthful days , now it time to let daughter have hers. Young people have enough stress why add to it. Just sit back and enjoy her happiness. Mom you'll be there if she needs advice or a hug. CHILL!!!

FALTA DE RESPEITO TOTAL AÍ

🙂😘😘😘😘😘😘😘🤗

真好笑，500分已經很高了，媽媽自己考，能考幾分？給孩子吃好穿好難道不是做父母的責任嗎？難不成你要餓孩子？不給她衣服穿？

Amanhã de Myngue é ruim e mal amada

民主 專制在中國可以撥播嗎

其實還蠻像我媽的。

媽媽自己有那麼好嗎