Wait so Gary is human ? He’s got emotions and everything ?? The way he is so straightforward about what he feels is so wholesome, makes me appreciate him on a whole new level

You can’t be mad about the trial period Gary, although it looked funny when you did. 😂 Honestly, she is a smart girl, lots of abusive relationship for example start with what’s called “love bombing” which is basically making big commitments fast and putting the person on a pedestal of perfect and it can be confusing and difficult in the beginning when you don’t know the person well to separate genuine intentions and feelings from that. Sadly, speaking from experience. You are obviously a great guy, and it just clicked for both of you but she was really smart to give herself the time to get to know you. You both look so happy now. 😊💕

"Alright let's continue...I'm a little upset but whatever" Gary hahaha

The way that Valeria stayed grounded and unreactive even when her partner was upset is really eye-opening to me. How easy it is to confuse other people's emotions with our own. How easy it is to feel implicated in someone's emotional reaction.

I am unsure why Gary reacted this way to the first question. For him, of course, he knew straight away that he wants to be with her “for ever”. She was so much younger and you can’t expect a 20 year old to know you’re “the one” within only 2 months and think that this is it for her. Of course it was a trial period.

I thought he was the logical calculated one. It turns out she is the logical one. The trial period thing was a smart move on her part. No body should rush into a life commitment so quickly specially as young as she was. I'm glad she took her time and didn't allow him to love-bomb her.

Awe when he said “hi Benny” that was so sweet. Just little things like acknowledging someone is what makes a good human. ☺️

When they were talking about how when Gary proposed she thought it was a “trial period “ the only thing I could think of was “we were on a break” from friends 😂

A trial period?!?!?!?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Ohh Gary. I love you

It's just *so good* to see a well-accomplished man like Garry talk about his emotions and treat Valeria with such love and appreciation. I wish more young guys and girls watched this video, you guys are real role models with your relationship. P.S. I love these Miami videos you are making, they resonate with me a lot more than what you were doing lately with the whole crew. It reminds me of the old days when you were doing recipes and makeup tutorials. 🥰 Xx

"We agreed to never raise our voices", why does that sound like the answer to everything???😂💙💙

Gary, I think if you reflect more about the first question you'll see that Valeria's comment about the trial period is actually very understandable. You made a serious move on her when she was only 20 and in two months and she loved you so much that she said yes, obviously she wanted to make sure she wouldn't lose you, but she just also still needed to make sure you were the man she believed you were, that you live well together before finally getting married. If anything, it shows just how seriously she takes the marriage.

Valeria got friggin' married at 20! And at 20, I still haven't figured out if I want to keep scrolling on my phone or get some a actual shit done!

The "never get loud" part I totally get it. I have a lot of family trauma due to this, found myself in a lot of screaming coming from my parents, and now they're divorce. Keep going with this rule, please!

"you didn't try to make yourself less available to me in order for me to value you more because I already showed you that you're highly valued" this hit me hard lol, I'm gonna remember this when I meet the love of my life.

It's perfectly normal to hesitate when you enter new relationship and it was wise of her to wait and test the guy. She's younger but sooo much more mature then he is. She's also very patient with his childish tantrum over something that happened a decade ago.

Switching your mindset from noticing flaws to noticing good aspects will lead you to a better life 🥳 Such great advice by Gary, never really thought of it that way

Dear Gary, you had 18 years of trial period so don't be mad about that 1 year she had.

Gary shouldn't be upset with the trial comment. It's quite normal to feel like that when you first move in with a partner. Doesn't mean you think or feel less of the other partner. Being with someone in the beginning will always feel like a trial to see if you work.

I have a confession. When I first started watching you a few years ago and I saw you and Garry my first thought was she is beautiful and young and he is rich, that is why they are together and I was amazed, that you guys were in a relationship (even though my parents are married and 20 years apart). BUT then video with Gary came out where you guys were talking a lot and my perspective shifted as soon as I saw how you were interracting with each other. I even feel almost ashamed. It makes perfect sence that you are together. I absolutely love how healthy and mature your relationship is. And from what you put on the internet this is what I want my relationship to look like. It showed me what I want and made me ralize that there is zero amount of 'unhealthy' I should tolerate in my romantic relationship. Hope this makes sence, english is not my first language. Thank you for putting videos like this one on the internet!

I got that when Valeria said she thought that was a trial period , as a girl we become more cautious with our partner maybe bcs our past experience with our ex boyfriend didn't work out so good and make us less trust to man , we don't want our time and life to be wasted anymore we just want to find and marry the right one for us

I really like this kind of videos with you and Gary. I'm 35 years old and still didn't find the right person to me and sometimes it worries me. Seeing you both give me a little hope. 💜

Is this old guy seriously getting pissed over her not knowing that he was the one at 19/20 after 2 months? After a decade of being together he still gets upset by this? I don't want to judge a relationship I don't know, but this sounds like he is not very mature. Which would also explain why he had the need for a young wife. Also the comment about she only javing female friends - dude it's perfectly normal for people to have friends of the other gender

Hi Gary, please don't forget when you met her and gave her the rig to seal the deal she has been just 19-20 which is basically still a kid trying to figure out what she wants and doesn't want for life. So it's completely natural and logical that she has not been so sure as much as you had been with 37 back then.

Love how Gary is funny and insightful

I love these Q&As with Gary. He is so insightful and even without being too obvious or showy about it, you can tell how much he loves and adores you!

I love love love these q&a’s!!! I think it would be really helpful to me and probably a lot of other people if you did a video specifically about boundaries in the early stages of a relationship. Like what were checkpoints that you both had in your minds along the way and how long did it take you guys to open up to each other on deeper more vulnerable levels. Basically just any more wise pieces of advice on starting a healthy relationship and caring for a partner and your own self during that stage.

Same with my boyfriend, we’re not married but after 2 months dating we started to live together and 6 years later we are super duper good! I mean, some couples work this way and that's fine! people must understand that! emotional understanding is something unique that not all couples have ❤️🙌🏻 lots of love Valeria! loved this video!

I love how mature this couple is like honestly serious goals right here

Loved the relationship dynamic! Would love to see more videos where we can see you both interact in different contexts haha

It is so clear that you both take working on the relationship as one of the most important aspects of your life. Sometimes people think that if it is the right person then it doesn't take any work...which is absurd. Anything of value and anything that can stand the test of time takes work. A lot of it. It may not feel like work (and hopefully it doesn't) but it really is. And it is work you do on yourself. By being a better person you can be a better partner. I also love the part where Gary said that if you are just focusing on the flaws of the person then the problem is you. So true.

Love how you appreciate each other and the way you love each other😍 Have an amazing day🤗

I love how you look at Gary when he's speaking, it's such a little thing but it shows relationship maturity I think

💕 Valeria! Please make a video on you styling Gary, you guys have very different styles. It would be so much fun!

I've been married for almost 2 years now and you guys are my couple that I look up to !!!! Xoxo

To be honest when I see you guys I could see how efforts are made from both sides how it's a partnership in true form.... You made me learn so much about me and made me understand how I want my life ahead.... Now I'm on my way manifesting my partner

WOW, loved this video. Especially the part about not raising your voice. Think I needed to hear it, haha. Just watched your other Q&A from 4 months ago too.... So wholesome :)) Maybe one day you will make one on how couples can do business together successfully but still have their own lives

Dear Valeria i'm so glad you're in my life... you really do serving humanity with your channel

loved this raw interaction between you two

*9 years and 3 kids later* is it real for you now?! Haha I really appreciate all the advice and experiences you shared, excited that you'll be doing q&as more often. Congrats on your relationship and your awesome family! 😁✨

I love the no raising voices during arguments thing! That’s great! A lot of people when they have a strong disagreement, it doesn’t take long for shouting to start and even some insults.

This made me cry!! 😭😭 A beautiful understanding marriage full of Love. God bless, you guys are goals❤️

Why is he so bummed out at the trial thing lol. If anything thats what a logical person would think.

I honestly loved this video cuz' I've never seen such a moody side of Gary and it was really nice.❤️ Also the bond you both share is just sooo amazing.❤️ And I wanted to ask Valeria, how did Gary propose???

This is validation of my belief that men are terribly emotionally fragile, no matter how old they are.

I’ve never laughed so much in a Q&A as much as this one. Gary is such a good husband. Both of you are lucky to have each other.

Yes please!!! More couple related videos. I absolutely love them.

Thank you so much!! Being at the right place in your own life and being content with yourself is CRUCIAL in order to be a good person to ourselves and to be a good partner as well. It all comes with time and experiences.

I loved so much what Gary said when it comes to beauty and kindness! He is so right, beautiful ladies are everywhere but what's inside them it's more important than the outside!

Was waiting for this. So excited!!

Gary is an incredible catch! Good choice, Valeria!

I love you guys and the realness in these q&a's 🥺❤ role models for sure

GAary is a sensitive soul! Both of you are so perfect for each other!

You guys get the same questions EVERY TIME! But you kill it every time with your magnificent wisdom. I've been married eight years and love my husband SO much and I feel so blessed to have him in my life. Marriage is a wonderful blessing.

omg I can listen to u 2 forever, pls do more videos together!

very appreciated! Thanks for making this video!

This video gived me the most important relationship material ever lol, loved it💓

You keep taking my phone chargers had me 🤣💜💜

Fantastic video! Maybe you could make some storytimes about your previous relationships + advice.

Gary reminds me so much of my husband. This conversation is great❤

Why was he so angry with the first question?? She s completely right obv she wanted to see if they are compatible

uhhh I have been waiting for this video for sooo long YAYYYY !! LOVED IT, thank you guys! Pleaseee more videos like thissssssss

Live for your q&as with Gary!

U guys bringing sunshine to our lives 😍😍❤❤

You both are funny but equally calm. Just watching you brings such a good energy. You are the Papaya of the relationships, tasty, good looking and healthy!

So nice to see an example of a healthy relationship :)

Really love what Gary said about conflict resolution and not raising your voice in arguments with your partner - totally agree that it takes away that feeling of 'attack' and makes any conflict easier to resolve and understand!

I believe it was very normal that eventhough you were super in love and you engaged after two months, you lived together for a while to reinforce that you're compatible. We did the same with my husband and it also worked out lovely, but there are cases where that doesn't happen. Love you both and love this Q&As :)

He was 40yo older guy graying with belly. All he want was 20yo inexperienced and native good looking princess which he could suck years from. You will see in years when you'll be in your 50's or get seriously sick when he will start treating you bad

I LOVE this kind of videos of you💕💕

Poor Gary, I felt for him on that first question :D

''so at what point you decided like it's ok ye ye ye he can stay'' lol that was hilarious , you hurt his pride Valeria!

You guys! not disappoint 😍😍😂😂Love y’all !! This was informative and hilarious! Seeing y’all’s love is magical 💕 thank you for letting us be apart of it. 💕💕

Lol really enjoy the bond you guys have together 💕

This was so helpful :D I have never been on a serious relationship so these tips helped :)

Omg you guys just spit true words out, I love listening to you. ❤️

I ADORE YOU TWO!! much love from Austria 😘

Yas yas yasss! Love your relationship videos!!!

Pls make more of these videos . They are amazing , i love them ❤💜

Thanks for all positive energy in all of your videos. You are right , we all have to be happy first , not waiting someone come and fulfill us. we would know who the right one, just listen to our heart.

You look really healthy and happy that s how u know that the marriage is working Happy wife = happy marriage I hope someday I can be that happy in a relationship

I love this type of vid no bullshit whatsoever like 'oh I knew he was the one when I first laid eyes on him'. It's cause this two have been through a lot that they learn from it and they were able to form into their heads that this is something I want in my the one. And by the time they met each other same values, culture, beliefs and sentiments. Fuck it we're not perfect but we can make it work! Sorry for the bad words that happens when you're passionately explaining something. Most of all, I find you two so passionate and respectful to one another. And I love and respect you even more for that!

Honestly lke this video. Thank you for putting it out.

perfect... just the right kind of mindset to make the relationship long lasting. Its a little admirable she knew this already at a young age because I wouldn't. However I deduce you practically grow together. awesome, you blend. and a woman would not play any games if she's feeling safe and secure in the relationship and a mature one that is.

I’m scared 😳

I love you guys! Your answers are so pure and truthful I truly want to achieve what you guys have. Just today I was feeling a bit sad regarding my relationship and on what stage we are as well as to our fights but I will implement not raising our voices and just to be us and making the other person feel valued

Fantastic video....the maturity and wisdom with you both is commendable. Young people need to hear this more often.....popular culture is lying to us, too many emotions and not much thinking or respect.

Love how you have build your relationship 💜💜

lmao you guys are so cute and funny!!! i loved this

Good job Gary. Engagement isn’t a trial period 👏🏼

i feel bad for her

I disagree on the thing that no one can make you happy . But yeah it s def nice to be happy on your own.

First of, looooove the content, thanks guys. About the flaws question: I think the question was not that much about focusing on the negative things, but more like: “we all know at rhe beginning of a relationship love is blind and we’re usually so happy, but then with time when hormones calm down and logic kicks in we see the flaws in each other, with a more realistic perspective and some people fall out love, so how did you guys get to “know know” each other so quickly overcoming the first in-love blindness”. That’s how I understood it

I learned a lot from this video, thank you.

Absolutely love watching the both of you. You so genuine and honest. Love it. Two beautiful people. ♥️🤗♥️🤗

Thank you for sharing your story to which hopefully a lot of people can relate. You both are wonderful human beings and Gary seems to be a top husband, very considerate and with such respectful values. Wish you a lot of happiness, but my favorite of all is still your mom 😁

I really like that this was so real and not planned or having a script. I look up to you guys! I hope and pray I will find a partner and become the best team just like you! Also I feel like Valeria loves Gary very very much. It was funny to see him a bit upset, but I know he knows how much he means to Valeria!

thank you for making this video, it really opens up my mind

Omg Valeria you look like a freaking fairy,you’re soo gorgeous 😍😍❤️

ואלריה את מהממת! היחידה שבאמת מראה את עצמה בלי משחקים בלי לייפות את החיים . תמשיכי להצליח! ❤️