What Gary said at 6.00 - „if you think you‘re getting married and having children with somebody, and then when the marriage doesn’t work out that person should be left with nothing: don’t get married. You don’t understand what marriage means.“ WORD. I might borrow this quote as a legal counsel.

I remember as a child, I had very little exposure to divorces and broken families. Once I hit my 20s, suddenly so many of my family friends are going through messy divorces and I could see how it impacted the kids, even if they were my age at the time. Years of resentment and unresolved issues can make someone really difficult and even selfish and irresponsible during a divorce. Even then, I realized that what's worse than an angry partner during a divorce is an angry partner who cannot leave due to financial instability and is forced to remain in the marriage. That's just terrible for everyone living under the same roof. Despite being raised with a conservative upbringing, I agree with you and Gary. A prenup is important in modern marriages to safeguard the future of both parties. Even though growing old together through years of marriage is a beautiful idea, the future can be unpredictable.

thank you for sharing this in a such a healthy way! I must say, there are so many young girls watching Valeria and those vids are actually educating. Sending you love

Gary seems very dominant and he doesn't allow you to even think differently. He seems quite argumentative.

Okay, dang!! Gary had some GREAT stuff to say in this video; I loved this! Especially the emphasis on this being an equitable protection for ALL parties--that if you're committing to the love and respect and partnership of a marriage, you are also using a prenup to commit to the most equitable and respectful resolution of one, too. I've never heard of a man, or anyone, talk about a prenup in that light before. I am really impressed with you both. Wow.

Thanks so much guys for this video, it’s very informative, it’s true that for the majority of people that have little legal knowledge a prenup has very negative and “unromantic” connotations, I actually see it now under a different scope

I really respect prenups and the agreements that are made within this. It is so important for both parts to have like what Gary said a «plan for war», cause you never know what could happen! Especially in the western world, or where I live (Norway) it is so common to get divorced, and all of the «other stuff» that you have to deal with especially when kids are involved, it just makes things even harder if a pair were to split up. And this is just a way to handle it «better». Where I live, couples who only live together, not even married, are recommended to document an agreement which states what should happen if they were to split up. Kind of a prenup, or a contract, if you will! It is sad tho how prenups are portrayed as something so bad! So nice to hear this! Love it!

Am I often impressed with your content? Rarely... am i amazed with this topic and explanations ? YES! Do I feel informed and ready to accept a pre nup yes, was I before? No. Thank you both for educating us. Honestly a marriage is not just love and butterflies is also responsibility, independence and security! ❤🤗

"The best way to achieve peace, is to prepare for war" is actually the translation of latin "si vis pacem para bellum", ha ha ! 👌🏻A very wise adage ! The original sentence was found in a latin text by a military author from the 4th or 5th century A.D.

Love these videos ♥️ I think it’s good when Gary gets into the nitty gritty in these types of videos, cause the more info the better

Omg guys this is perfect timing. My partner and I are getting a partnership contract made up next month. Here in the Netherlands that’s judicial wise equal to a marriage. So these are great tips to make our conversations easier. Love u guys 😘

Being married is one of the most financially and legally significant decisions a person can make so thank you for talking about this. My partner and I are broke millennials with no financial stake in getting married but even we are both dead set on a prenup. It has everything to do with how you want your relationship to function and the safety of both partners/any children if the relationship dissolves. It’s naive to assume that marriages don’t end. Moreover, questioning the strength and longevity of your relationship shouldn’t be viewed as negative or distrustful. That being said if you have an unfair arrangement that needs to be addressed. Wouldn’t you want to find that out about your relationship beforehand instead of blindly assuming everything will work out in your favour.

Really informative video and I appreciate how open you two talk about everything! But to be honest, sometimes I really miss your videos where you just do your makeup and tell us about your thoughts, or your "girls talk" videos. I've been following you since 4 or 5 years and these videos were educating me on a different level which made me reflect and also understand me better:) Maybe you can do some of these again from time to time 😊 Love you ❤️

Very informative. An important topic to discuss since many people take it personally and think it’s thinking about the end before it began but that’s exactly what saves you from lots of headaches if you ever get a divorce. Divorced people always say „the person I divorced isn’t the one I married“ …

I think a prenup is very necessary especially if you’re thinking about having children. If one partner dies with debt it can protect you from being responsible by making a clear distinction of what is there’s and what’s yours. It’s like having life insurance. It’s important to have.

When prenups are brought up, it says alot about the relationship. People are free to make up their mind on what relationship they want. But it says alot about it.

There is something about the tone of this video, can’t put my finger on it. Just because you didn’t have the same memory, doesn’t meant you need to react or speak to your partner that way 🤷🏻‍♀️

Val. You're such a wise person. I was confused with all the thoughts with my wedding coming up soon. But your video helped me a lot. Thank you for sharing sensitive stories.

This has been my favorite video of yours of ALL TIME! I am single, but having this knowledge and awareness is so important going into a relationship and marriage. You both did such a wonderful job not only in breaking down what a prenup is but also what a strong, loving and healthy relationship / marriage should be. Thank you! 🙌🙏 PS I love you Valeria but Garry shined bright light a diamond in this video and I am here for it!!! 👏👏👏 phenomenal insight 🙌 feel free to get as specific as you like in the future. It’s so appreciated. ❤️ Love you both.

My heart goes out to you Valeria. Stay true to youself and ensure you have an equal voice. Your opinions matter and always, always trust your gut.

I absolutely love Gary and the way he explains things so easily 👌

My mom always said: A prenup is solid foundation for your marriage. Its a really good way of sitting down with your partner and talk about everything the future will hold. Some marriages fail (specially young) because they realize they don't have the same views like for example in children and their education.

wow, I am obsessed with you two. THESE CONVERSATIONS ARE NEEDED

Me encanta que ustedes se refieren a su matrimonio no solo como una pareja, si no tambien como compañeros de vida y trabajo, un equipo con una meta clara. Bravo 👏

It hilarious cuz I just whatch that reel this morning 🤣 btw I really miss the family vlogs especially maxiboo :(

I really enjoy watching your videos together about marriage, business etc. I'm glad you guys are tackling the stigma around prenups and educating people about them. ❤

I respect this video and the conversation had between the two of you. It was solid good advice, and I agree, pre-nups aren’t bad. Do I believe everyone one should get one, no but hey, good job painting it in a better light guys!

What I love about prenups is that you write them when you are IN LOVE with your partner. Indeed, there are filled with goodwill. You care about, protect and defend your beloved partner.

Very educating video! Thank you for your opinion. Still I am getting a kind of passive-aggressive vibe from Gary which I hate because I “know” that he is not that kind of person and it’s probably just because he is very confident… but he does not interact with Valeria at all and gets easily offend, he acts like a strict teacher who needs his students to understand the given information because the time is running off. Valeria instead is really relatable and takes her time and is chill. I would really love to see both of you interact more and respond to one another’s opinion. Don’t get me wrong, I am just describing how it seems to me and the feelings I am felling with it because it makes me feel uncomfortable getting something taught in the way Gary is and that is my issue but I just wanted to share it with you. I absolutely admire both of you, am so excited for your podcast and I feel like I can learn a lot from your mindsets.

I have a friend who lives with her sister and before they became housemates she drew up a contract. The contract was a good way to discuss things and make sure they were on the same page before conflict arose. (Her sister is a lawyer). I think prenups can function in the same way- making sure both parties on the same page and making sure there’s a contingency plan in case anything happens. Marriage is a legal contract and a pre-nup allows you to tailor that contract to what your relationship needs. That said it’s super important for both parties to have their own lawyers. So I’m glad you raised that. Never sign anything without asking a lawyer that isn’t working for the other party.

I think discussing how the prenup has possibly changed over time as Valeria became extremely successful and potentially the larger bread winner.

i'm not even in a realishionship right now, and i just watched this whole video. That's how much i love this channel.

Another good way to ‘prepare for war’ so to speak, is to get to know your partner for a while before commitment. Watch how they deal with conflict, money etc. In my personal opinion it’s much better to marry someone who you know will act with integrity (and you too) in the event of separation because they’re a good person. Not marrying someone who in the event of divorce has to be forced into things because of a contract. It shows you don’t know them enough to trust they’ll do right by you

These videos are honestly so educational! My parents never talk about stuff like this, its very taboo in my culture to talk about money in general. I don't understand people who think youre relationshio is weird, you seem like a very balanced healthy couple and a great rolemodel. You're kids are very lucky! :)

So if the prenup states that you get to keep everything you made before marriage, but everything made after marriage is split 50/50. That would put Valeria at an extreme disadvantage because she was so young when she got married she hadn’t had a chance to start making her own money. Then when she started her social media empire that’s now making A LOT of money she still has to split that 50/50? Whilst Gary gets to keep his assets from pre marriage. Gary has really won the jackpot here; a beautiful wife who has given him 3 boys whilst she started an extremely lucrative business.

Oh, I wish Gary had continued his explanation, I was invested. Lol (11:53) 😍🤩👏🙏

In Mexico this so normal. You have to decide when you are about to get married whether you want to split everything or separate the assets acquired before marriage. We are getting married next year under that separate assets scheme.

Gary's father ripped that line off from the Romans: A wise man in times of peace prepares for war. - Horace Si vis pacem, para bellum If you want peace, prepare for war -Vegetius

Very Important information!! Amen & Thank you Valeria & Gary ❤️🕊❤️

Great video by both Gary and Valeria 💞

this is the content the internet needs more of! Wouldn’t expect anything less from you Valeria💗

So interesting to contrast this with my Catholic view/background. If one is Catholic, getting a prenup would actually be grounds for annulment/invalidation of the marriage contract. Basically: if you get a prenup before marrying, you didn’t even really get married because you didn’t *actually* promise to be bound (contractually!) until death . Since that’s what a marriage contract *is* for Catholics, a prenup makes contracting marriage literally impossible lol (Of course there are civil divorces and merely civil marriages, but once a *valid* marriage contract is signed you will be bound by it in the eyes of the Church/God for your whole life, until at least either you or your spouse dies). Us Catholics take this “one flesh” and “until death do you part” thing prettttty seriously. Marriage is kind of nuts! But wonderful!

Hello Valeria! This is such a superb video. You both have such wonderful, and mature advice. You both are so amazing. Thank you for this video. Love you so much Valeria! Love,Janice and Larry Watson Pittsburgh PA USA

This video is bizarrrrroOoo... something about the way Gary reacts doesn't sit well with me. He seems like he's trying to prove something to himself via this video. Doesn't feel like an honest / open Q & A in that sense.

Great content. Also, your style and makeup look 👌🏼

Great video, Great details on the topic by Gary! Very much appreciated. Although I wish Gary was allowed to dive more into the technical aspects. The specific details are very helpful. Valeria! Your audience is now 30 year old women!!! We now have money, not like it was 5 to 10 years ago and we were in our 20's. This day and age, our 40 year old men have no stable jobs and have been living on their mommy and daddys money! We need this advice for our own sake. The tables have turned and the *detailed* pre-nup information is important to YOUR audience, we are not 20 year old babies anymore!!!!!

Hello Valeria great vlog as always❤️💓always learning something I m glad you talk about it ...it s so taboo..I understand more what s a prenup..it s so clear now.....thank you for explaining ...so nice to see you explain together 😁 sending love from haiti❤️🇭🇹🇨🇭

I really miss your vlog i want to see all family😭❤️

You guys mostly touched on division of assets but another reason to get a prenup is division of debt. If one partner accumulates a ton of debt during the marriage, in the case of a divorce that debt will be split among both parties, even if only one of them knowingly accumulated the debt. At least it’s that way in the states

Interesting video, but I'm not sure if a prenup is only a Canadian/US thing. Correct me if I'm wrong. Because in my country a prenup is very unusual and I don't know anyone who has it. I actually didn't know what it meant until you explained it. I personally am not for a prenup, because I would then feel like being in a business relationship instead of a love relationship but I won't judge anyone who has it. My husband and I trust each other enough and can talk reasonably enough no matter the circumstances so I believe that we could figure everything out between us without a contract in case we would split up. So to each their own.

Would love to hear the disadvantages of having a prenup. The video is informative but seems very one sided. I’m sure there are ppl who have gotten prenups and regret them. It’s not always a one size fits all approach.

This is a great video, so many questions have been answered!

Life changing content, really appreciate it

I really need your advice on how to set boundaries without being rude and at what point is it too many boundaries that it’s closing you off from any opportunities

I really really appreciate this video because my partner and I are in the process of getting a pre-nup and when it was first brought up I felt very nervous about it because of how people portray it in media. I definitely felt more comfortable after getting my own legal advice but I do feel like this video has helped me understand the benefits of both having a clear understanding of what might happen in case of a break up and it will help me explain it to friends or family who have only seen it through the media.

I really like this video! I have also planned to get a prenup. Just because there is love doesn’t mean you shouldn’t protect yourself as well. I really love this style of video.

It was the Roman General Vegetius who originally said “if you want peace, you must prepare for war”. And it’s one of the original paradoxes given in an episode of The Simpsons too, lol. Interesting vid.

Contracts and couples therapy before moving in. Set out what you want in advance and have that third party involvement so nothing is misunderstood. Communication is power!

Thank you so much for this video! I’m Japanese and my fiancé is American, so I just knew the prenup is the negative thing because of movies. But I think it is better to have it in case of the breakup so that I can expect what will happen.

Love this video!I want more:)

Si vis pacem, para bellum is a Latin adage translated as, “If you want peace, prepare for war” . Gary's father is more well read than Gary gave him credit for!

11:50. No that’s the part I needed to hear!! Give me the technical!! :)

Is her money protected from Gary? Because….surprise…the 20 year old who had nothing…now has her own money!

The moral of this video is that by the end of the day if the marriage fails you have to regret the lost money not the broken relationship. And if you think other way you are not ready to get married 🤷🏼‍♀

When I got married my husband had much more wealth than I, but I insisted on a prenup because he was retired and I still had some working years ahead of me. He also had children and I did not. There is no question what we will have if our marriage fails. A good lawyer will make sure you are protected and it's fair.

I LOVED this video!! Such a good topic and good conversation!

I loooooove you Videos so much!! Thank you Valeria !! я люблю вас 💞💖

I love your content so much Valeria. Both you and Gary have taught me a lot in a literally and social sense! It’s such a great thing to be able to create a brand that really reflects a multi-faceted woman ❤️

Gary's last few words were amazing, I hope to see/read a biography about him. He is so inspiring in every aspect we have seen him in!

Prenups remind me of a great real estate agent when buying your first home. Home buying is confusing and complicated and stressful, and a real estate agent is there to help mitigate the logistics. Imagine going through a breakup when you're married (with kids, with assets), BUT you only have to deal with the emotional side of things because the logistics are already taken care of. Yeah the break up sucks, but it would be so much worse if you had to make big decisions while going through a really hard time too.

Prenup is an act of love because with one you will take care of each other and make sure you're both going to walk away with something. To me it's also an act of respect towards the other for acknowledging their hard work and devotion from before and during the marriage.

I stand with Valeria's opinion more than Gary's: Gary Is brute rationalism and pragmatism, whereas Valeria is less dogmatic and more open as she mixes rationality with a bit of the emotional/romantic side

I felt weird watching this. I’ve been watching you guys’ videos for years but for some odd reason they don’t appear as much in my yt feed anymore. This is the first vid of yours I’ve watched in a few months and something feels off… hope it’s just in my head xx

Great topic!

Great educational video. Thank you

Lol i cant believe you just posted this.. as im about to sign mine 🤣

The edits on this video are everything 🤣🤣🤣

I don't agree with prenups but it is nice to hear your perspective. Love your videos! Xo

Thank you for the video!!!

Gary is definitely a business man. 🤣❤️

Totally logic.. when the gap is big If you see it from the other side its a way to be sure that the person is not marrying you because of money this goes for both genders whether is the guy or the girl who has more net worth

Hi ! Very informative video ! I do think that it's VERY important to do research. Ask for legal advice 😊 In France we have a legal matrimonial regime that applies if nothing else is chosen but most parties do not look carefully on what that regime entails. We have 4 different regimes + the option of a mariage contract. I am not saying that using the mariage contract road is the only good option (IN FRANCE), some regimes are very good BUT I am saying no matter what don't choose by default choose because you are aware. And do that, no matter where you live in the world. Honestly I am in law school right now and it's frightening to see some cases where people just had no idea what they were getting themselves into.

Me and my husband don’t have a prenup but having a prenup does not equate to them believing or thinking that in the future, their marriage may not work after all. This is not something you foresee when you enter marriage. If yes, then why marry? Do I believe in it? NO but I respect you couple for agreeing to have one. Again, every partnership is different so do whatever works for you! 😊

That's such a great topic. I would like to see a follow-up on the specific clauses that can be considered for the agreement. What are typical questions to cover there? Fire example, my friends got divorced and as they had issues with unexpected things. For example: - The family of a girl gave her an apartment as a present. They were using it to rent out and she was supporting her parents with that money. The guy was never involved in managing or using it. So to me it seems fair to not split it - Company gives stocks as part of a compensation plan to one of partners. After the divorce another partner wants to get it. It looks bizarre - Both partners are individually investing into stocks, ETFs, crypto etc. One partner is making wrong decisions and ends up in a negative balance. Another partner is not that risky and is saving money for retirement. I don't think they should split one partner's money between two just because the first partner was stupid. I'm sure there are many interesting scenarios partners should discuss. What are the other scenarios you advise to bring on a table?

Отличный подход возьмём на заметку 📝

Missed you ❤️

I am planning my marriage and well this has been a good thing to give a look before to start

I don't know what it is but i just feel so disconnected with this channel now. May be it's because my core values of life are different...or something else also... But anyway Wishing you well Valeria

I have just one question. Where did Valeriya get that t-shirt? Love it😍

too much cold calculation involved (too much of a mathematical approach)when it comes to entering a marriage with prenup (i have to STRESS in my opinion )because you marry someone when you LOVE them so much you do not care about anything especially about the business or money , you marry someone when you BELIEVE you truly know the other person so much that you are proving you are ready to take the leap of faith and risk everything, nothing else matters, that's why you say the vow (in my eyes) . if you need a contract - you need reassurance , you are not ready, you predict a failure in your head, you do not believe enough, don't marry if you're have doubts and 'what ifs'.. or that you even THINK that the other person expects!? anything from you in terms of money- BUT its how (I STRESS )-- I -- was raised - that vow and true love and marriage raise above the money , that true faith (im Christian and i understand not everyone is and i respect that) does not need contract - that would be contradiction .Well done for sharing a piece of your life though and if you happy - you do you:)

I find it hard to have a baby face and my partner is 20 years older. It feels like he is the only one aging. Does that ever bother you? You are so youthful, but so confident, would love your advice to get over this stupid insecurity!

This video makes me uncomfortable. In California, when you divorce, you split everything 50/50. That’s what seems the most “equal” and “fair.” The person bringing the prenup to their partner is inevitably going to be the one who wins, b/c the contract was designed *for them.* In many cases, that person will end up with the “power” in the relationship and an unhealthy dynamic will develop. Very glad everything has worked out in this case but I can’t with men trying to justify protecting their own butts in the name of “equality” and “fairness.”

With English being my fourth language, i really thought y'all were talking about prenut untill you gave the definition lmao I'm so embarrassed of myself 😭😂

As a follower from the early days I feel that the content is not my cup of tea anymore.. so sorry to say that 🙂

Very beneficial talk. Is it only on my end or some weird audio sneaks in in every bit of the video?

Also, if you are sooo in love that you don’t think you’d ever split. Then the prenup would never come into action😂 so why not

Hey. This is the second video in the youtube-universe I have ever commented on, so it is probably going to be a big one. Skip if desired. Interesting video! I was very curious to see the comments. A lot of people get angry (also in this case) about talking in a business like tone about "this romantic event of love". Sure, most people get married because they love each other but the getting married part is on it's own only the biggest contract of your life (well, if you do it once). The fact that this contract is so over-romanticized makes a lot of people get very emotional about prenups. But why? Getting married myself very soon, I noticed how a lot of people flipped out about the idea and compare it to not having trust, lack of love etc. But if you really really think about it, it is actually a very nice thing to do for your spouse if you have good intentions. Having a prenup means that you make non selfish decisions for the future at possibly the most loving point of your relationship. And not only for yourself, also for your children. So what is the harm? I compare it to having full car insurance (living in Europe, not obligated). Is my fiance accusing me of being a bad driver for suggesting I have one? No. Will I get in a car crash soon? Not planing on in. Could it still happen? Yeah. I think most people would not take a suggestion to have a full car insurance personally, because buying a car is obviously in no way a romantic event. So yeah, it is just a cultural stigma, that unfortunately leads to broken families be more broken after a long process of who gets the grandmas toaster. Just get the "marriage insurance" guys. Ok, rant over. P.S. Before anyone starts with assumptions, my parents are divorced, my spouses parents are still married, he suggested the prenup, I gladly accepted. Also English is not my 1st language. Try not to be nasty I have a cold. On a different note - Valeria and Gary, you seem very smart and considerate, have a beautiful family and seem to have a good base for not needing to use your prenup; wishing you all the best in the future. xo

I think is a matter of culture and personal beliefs is about how do you understamd marridge and life... there isn't a "right" or "wrong" choice, there is the right or wrong choice for each kind of cuople. What you are describing is what is know in Spain a " separación de bienes" ("separated properties") witch means what you create while during the marrige is split between both partners. And not having a prenup is not bad, If you and your partner have the same way of looking at at marrige... that is , if you truly believe in the bows " whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours".... the same goes with " in sickness and health"... Again, is not about what you have (money, properties etc) is about what you believe in and what kind of marridge you want . I would never marry a person that wouldnt want to risk everything for me, because I expect from my partner the same im willing to give, RICH OR POOR

Really like this thanks for this video topic

A prenup can be a very useful way for the partner who has less to protect themselves. Not all states have the same laws and people should not just assume that the courts will give them 50% of everything. Especially if the other person can claim that they got the bulk of their wealth prior to the marriage. If you marry someone who is a lot wealthier and they offer you (and your children) a certain lifestyle then a prenup can really protect you if things go bad. I would get really specific around the level of income and assets you would expect if you separate. Without a prenup the wealthier person can really lawyer up and/or hide assets, or god knows what else. Its really nice to believe that the person you are in love with today will always have your back, but statistics say otherwise. Protect yourself and don't naively believe that yours is the perfect relationship that will stay perfect forever.