Want To Improve? Give Up On Self Improvement...

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Most people overlook this, but they really shouldn't... This SLOWS DOWN your transformation!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
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Want To Improve? Give Up On Self Improvement...
How to raise your self esteem and build self confidence! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the harsh truth about self help and personal development... This video highlights the biggest self improvement traps!
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@JulienHimself Ай бұрын

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@flamingocupproductions5329 23 күн бұрын

ah, no

@Ryan-rd5ol 29 күн бұрын

Be careful with self improvement space. I broke up with my gf three years ago and was in a bad spot. I decided to work on myself and take a deep dive into finding out who I am and what I can fix this. This turned into an obsession of watching videos, buying courses, and reading bookings trying to “fix” myself. Although I learned a ton and did a lot of introspection, it turned into a very unhealthy anxious condition where I constantly thought something was wrong with me and constantly trying to “fix” it. This led to physical problems as manifestation of this thinking. Self improvement can be good for a little but at some point you have to start living your life. I have been stuck in this hole for a few years now and I am finally realizing I need to just chill. Remember everyone has things they can work on but nobody is perfect and that’s not the goal. Don’t feel bad for having something “wrong” with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Be kind to yourself!

@samuele4273 27 күн бұрын

this is so important, I deeply understand what you're saying.

@flamingocupproductions5329 26 күн бұрын

you are so spot on correct.

@flamingocupproductions5329 23 күн бұрын

@hmhm-me5wd good for you for admitting it. don't buy into any of this self-help crap. it turns people crazy and makes there mother issues more wedged inside of them. trump 2024!

@gowdesigner4408 21 күн бұрын

Amen brother. You can definitely overwhelm yourself quickly when wanting to change.

@kelseymaddox781 19 күн бұрын

Same same. You have my solidarity and I feel seen. Thank you for sharing and naming this.

@Salma-qh9ge Ай бұрын

Biggest takeaway: just do it. Do it for you for your own happiness and wellbeing not for anyone else because your success or failure doesn't have any impact on other people's lives You're not the centre of the universe

@Ryan-rd5ol 26 күн бұрын

I’m learning this the hard way. I get so stuck in making a big life decision because I’m thinking of how it will affect everyone around me but in reality nobody will even bat an eye

@Keichoula Ай бұрын

"You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink"

@JulienHimself Ай бұрын

Yep...

@W-Baloch Ай бұрын

"You can make horse learn how to drink water but not to find the water."

@whelkshuffler Ай бұрын

but a pencil must be led

@emilysmith9064 Ай бұрын

We don’t do things for no reason. If the horse is thirsty but still doesn’t want to drink and doesn’t understand why consciously, they are deeply afraid of the water’s contents on some level. This is why the first step to letting go IMO is to go right for the throat and let go of your resistance to letting go immediately when the urge to try this finally try this strikes. Every single person has a certain set of beliefs and if you are able to unwind and understand a persons deepest psychological needs wants and desires, the horse will see there’s no other path than to drink. So do some legit contemplation about what truly matters to you, find cases where letting go has worked in that instance specifically, get inspired, and let go of the fear of drinking the water in the first place !”

@haikeaintiaani9183 28 күн бұрын

Slurp sshhhllurp

@hollysquietspace Ай бұрын

To change my attention span & to slow down, I got really pissed off at myself. I would catch myself rushing or not being able to watch a long video or learn something. So I would say, NO, stop right now, put everything else away & do this 1 thing. I would force myself to watch long videos. Because I don't want to be "the others". You just really get to a point where enough is enough.

@SeveredUniverse Ай бұрын

ye i didnt grow up as an "ipad kid" but this year i knew i might get to that point of low attention span so i stopped watching shorts (i use an extension so shorts doesnt show up) and i forced myself to watch long videos and now i watched a 2 hour long video without breaks from julien. im glad MrBeast is making longer videos now since he is a major influence today

@SnugglySepticEye Ай бұрын

Same! I would wait for big things and think that that's only when I'm living! Life exists in the big and especially small!

@favour-pm9vs Ай бұрын

"no spider is coming to bite you, you have to bight yourself" These line will stay with me for the rest of my life

@buildwithbrahmi 29 күн бұрын

Very rarely do I see people making sense... But this person speaks with such amazing examples... Truly❤

@mano-destra Ай бұрын

This dude is of legend and lore.

@KN510 27 күн бұрын

So true... The endless loop of "yeah, I know I need to do this and that more" and then sit back and wait for the "aha!" moment, to get motivated. The longer you wait, the harder it is to make changes, too many years of sitting. Thank you for this and I love the shawl btw. [It's a sad feeling to post something great and get no recognition for it, but I get it...post for you, not them! ]

@KFP_Insanity 28 күн бұрын

Dude, bro, my guy... You are wise beyond your years. Loved this content!

@SnugglySepticEye Ай бұрын

Been watching for a long time but have been scared to start. Have a bunch of your videos saved on my phone when I need a reminder but really needed this one. Sums up your content! 2024 has been about change but I really needed the answer. Thank you Julian, appericate your honesty!

@Kodexj 26 күн бұрын

Thanks julien for everything. These videos are very inspiring and I often come back to them in difficult times. I had a difficult moment in class today where I had to read out only a couple paragraphs of text aloud in front of a small class of 20 ish people. And it absolutely broke me, I tried to fight the anxiety and ended up fumbling over my words and swallowing to take a breath after every 2 words. It was pretty bad, people in my class would usually laugh at stuff like that but it just went dead silent and it was fucking mortifying. After that moment, counterintuitively, I felt freer than I have in months despite experiencing the most mortifying 20 seconds of my recent life. Pressure truly makes diamonds and now I just want to keep trying it again to improve.

@ProsteKiara Ай бұрын

About not being able to focus... I always zone out during conversations

@JulienHimself Ай бұрын

Yep, not good...

@epicedits3080 Ай бұрын

@@JulienHimself Yeah me too, and it's frustrating because I keep getting distracted by one thing they said and then go on a thinking tangent.

@shadowsdawn83 6 күн бұрын

Not only was i called out multiple times but this hit home. I feel like the world will end if i take action and make the changes. At 37 I'm not getting any younger either

@forgotabhi 29 күн бұрын

i was almost going to type "this video spoke to me". I'm glad i watched the whole thing :) Thanks for these high quality videos.

@Oden309 Ай бұрын

This is exactly what I needed

@jcutie230 26 күн бұрын

Umm… WOW I am in shock at the massive improvement I experienced. If I didn’t experience it myself I wouldn’t believe it. I literally started as a 2 in self esteem and just 5 weeks of binge watching ur videos I’m at 9-9.5. U r the real deal thank u. u r helping more people than u realize. I am in complete and total awe.

@TinaDougherty Ай бұрын

Sadly, you perfectly described what happened to me after I suddenly developed severe Type 1 Narcolepsy and lost everything I'd worked so very hard for. You'd think I'd simply decided to be a lazy bum based on my family's (eventual) treatment of me. Damn good thing I'll never throw in the towel on myself 😊

@krystianurban5421 28 күн бұрын

One of the most important lessons I learned both from your videos and my own experience is that nobody changes before saying hard "ENOUGH". I've seen it in myself, I've seen it in others. No matter the resource, no matter the assurance that it's helpful - you won't deal with something that isn't *enough of a problem* to you.

@stevkelly9996 27 күн бұрын

THANK you JULIEN. What you do is unique. God keep you man

@janaburkh1392 28 күн бұрын

Thank you so much; you are accountable for your own life ❤❤❤

@HippieWitchyAsh 29 күн бұрын

Only half through. And entirely spot on regarding you only show up for you. I have that fam member that I tried to help in my way and now keep afar due to pain of seeing they desire to not really help themselves.

@TheDexter09 29 күн бұрын

Everything you just said i agreed to it and i realise it all starts by taking action.

@lyngreenhorse Ай бұрын

When he talked about short attention span i do have that and he was saying to try watch a w0 minute video without doing anything else and i was literally eating food and playing game while listening to him Its actually crazy i need to really learn to stop doing multiple things at once but i also realized its to stop me from thinking cause my brain is too busy to even think

@hugoantunesartwithblender Ай бұрын

I actually got fed up of self improvement, altought it was what made me become more social years ago. Witouth it i tought it was impossible to meet girls witouth friend in common xD Now, that i feel independ3nt, confident. Able to deal with all emotions, i dont see self help anymore. But i still follow you Julien, caus3 of tge help you gave me

@haksseupjjanehal1186 29 күн бұрын

Every video of yours healing myself ❤️ i am healing slowly but i am on my way ! Yeeah i should now not later , and in the end it all up to me , in the end i am the person who live my life ❤️ Your words are a healing and warm words 🤍✨ god bless you 🌼

@barefootjamie143 9 күн бұрын

I am so grateful for this video. I always gain from watching it and seeing what I may want to hone in on. I've watched it all of three times over the last, i dunno, year maybe. It's been a bunch of great tools and things to think about along the journey of sane living. Thank you Julien

@Ryan-rd5ol 26 күн бұрын

It’s crazy every single thing you say in your videos is true and I can see play out in different people but some reason my brain still won’t absorb the information and apply it.

@Mradenful 19 күн бұрын

6:19 is how I've been the last two years after my separation. I know it's happening and I hate it. Glad I found your videos, I am working on myself.

@Rslair Ай бұрын

There are some people who are born introverts or with anxiety disorder, also not every introverts is shy, there are non shy introverts too, this is in reply to one of your usual statements about "no one being born and is all stifled straight away", not everyone is overactive, loud, extroverted like you want them to be, accept that some people are introverts and will always be, they are okay with being born that way, i prefer a quiet, silent place than a loud one, also I'd like it if you reply back

@makaniistorm8664 27 күн бұрын

Yeah. I was thinking on him saying this but then I interpreted what he meant is that no one is born feeling ashamed of how they are. A baby will cry unashamed, laugh, be angry. You’re authentic as a baby. Some videos it seems he acknowledges that some people are just quiet and that isn’t equal to not being confident. The belief that it is unconfident to be quiet is what keeps us down. So I think he means whether you’re quiet or loud, anxious or sure of yourself, you can be happy, confident and authentic.

@Rslair 27 күн бұрын

@@makaniistorm8664 I saw somewhere in one of his video's caption/watermark, of him pinning the word "introvert" towards one of those people up in the stage with him, it's like he's trying to wash the introversion out of people, and also some people's anxiety are inherent, so they can't do much about it except to take meds that treat anxiety disorders and get support, their brain are wired that way.

@makaniistorm8664 27 күн бұрын

@@Rslair Then I guess not to take his words as gospel. He even advocates that don’t listen to him if it doesn’t help.

@Asyloom2024 23 күн бұрын

I really love your methods.😊

@timelineee 29 күн бұрын

I agree, but watching videos and not doing anything will be much better, than not watching and not doing. At least watching alone can bring you some insight on what to do. And by watching you are going towards recovery, but I agree, it's very slow if you don't actually do anything.

@NavdeepSingh-qf5eb 27 күн бұрын

It connected with me deeply. Now my ex, is a gifted writer and I was constantly pushing her to publish her book. What I needed to do was work on myself, become a Filmmaker myself. Instead, all I ever did was just push her, make her believe in herself despite I hardly had belief in myself. Surprise, surprise, we broke up and 4 months later, here I am, still figuring out how to clean my fucking room. Thanks for this reminder Julian. Fuck man, I needed it soooo bad. 🙏✨️🙈 Edit: Fucking Hell...... My room is almost clean. Mother fucker.......Fucking fuck 🙈🙈🙈

@Kyouma. Ай бұрын

15:30 This explains why visual art is (seemingly) more popular than novels. Looking at a picture takes less time and effort than reading something. A picture says more than 1000 words? Yeah, but 1000 words are not a story. They're not even a chapter

@janaburkh1392 28 күн бұрын

Thanks

@Aleks_Mechanics Ай бұрын

Notification squad Have a Great weekend!🔥🔥🔥

@JulienHimself Ай бұрын

🔥🔥🔥

@ojro2002 Ай бұрын

Julien, You are my Fortune Teller..

@isayawhaat1634 Ай бұрын

i love the statement they use self help just to know because i thiught i was trying to get somewhere when in reality im just trying to learn but never had the intention to do something and then need to learn summary am I doing this thing just to know or am I trying to get a particular thing that's what I haven't asked myself

@Kodexj 26 күн бұрын

Fit goes hard ngl

@ShivakshSharma Ай бұрын

Hey julien. Does consciously talking to myself will improve me?

@ChuckNorris-lf6vo Ай бұрын

Hi bro thx for your work very entertaining however I have to point out the Demographic crisis is a metabolic health problem and not a specific behavior problem. Plz take care.

@M0RPHOBIA Ай бұрын

"Add debth!!!"

@nickguitarfreak17 Ай бұрын

My biggest problem is that I to the core of my being hate myself. I don't know how to go about not hating myself

@oranjjjggg Ай бұрын

Do some volunteer work. Start small but be consistent with it. That will help. Then build on that with small positive acts

@anonymerdude4501 29 күн бұрын

Read the book Letting Go by David Hawkins. You need to totally accept the negative feeling you have, let it run through you instead of trying to resist it. After you felt the emotion for a while without judging it ask yoursef: Could I let this feeling go? Give a short yes or no(Answer doesnt really matter). Then ask: Would I let this feeling go? If so, when? As you continually do this with upcoming feelings, you will feel lighter and lighter and have cleared more and more negative stuck emotions. It takes a while, but once you get good at it, your life will never be the same. You can also listen to Michael Singer talking about letting go here on KZfaq.

@nickguitarfreak17 29 күн бұрын

@@anonymerdude4501 I just finished that book but I struggle to understand the whole actual letting go part. Like what does it mean to let go? If that makes sense

@isayawhaat1634 Ай бұрын

julien what is your take on free will i personally dont believe in it im curious what you have to say about it sense you state it has fact that we do have free will I have created my own way around the fact that I know I don't have free will to help me understand how to still orient myself properly well also creating a better moral standard and I think it's super important to realize there is no freewill

@hanksung 29 күн бұрын

I mean, I finish this whole video with regular speed, so... it's a win for me? But I don't know of that's because English is my 2nd language? But I found out that this before that I can actually turn on to 1.25× or 1.5× speed or something? But I found out that I would rather to stay in regular speed, I don't know why. I would just feel a little bit impatient for a few seconds, but after a few seconds, I'll start to tune in? But if a video is over 20 to 25 minutes, I don't really wanna watch it. It's TOO LONG for me, but if a video is... under 10 minutes or something, I would also just feel like it's not in depth enough? Like where's the depth in this video if it's under 10 minutes/THAT SHORT or something, you know? So... yeah. I guess that it's good that I actually want a 10-20 minutes videos in subjects that I wanna watch, which is more in depth, like skincare videos, etc. Dance tutorials can be a little bit longer? I guess that my mind was busying to tell me to damce with it or whatever, so that I don't have that much time to think about it? I had ever danced with a video that is 27 minutes or something. (There's a KZfaqr called MirhanTV, the person who created that channel is THE BEST looking dance teacher who teaches male dance moves that I've seen online. And his dance moves are SOOOOO FUCKING COOL, and he explains things pretty cleary, especially his older videos btw.) In fact that this video is only last for 17 minutes makes me wanna watch it. It's like a sweet spot for me, it's like the video is trying to tell me that: Click it! This video is only last for 17 minutes! The length of the video is still start with "1", and it's 3 minutes under 20 minutes!!! There are still a little bit distance to 20 minute!!! You can watch it!! (After a few seconds or slight resistance/hesitation? And I feel like I'll just spend SOOOOO MUCH ENERGY trying to learn from this type of video just makes me have a little bit more resistance?Or the demon inside me just don't want me to grow, so I imagine that I have to spend A TONES of energy watching this kinda videos in order to learn from it? And maybe the click-bait of this video helpful? It's just SOOOOO DIFFERENT from what I've heard before. I wonder wht Julien has to say about this. But actually Julien didn't talk too much about what he typed in the title, so... yeah, that's a clickbait, am I right?) So... yeah. But I think that A LOT of the videos that are ACTUALLY benefits for you are actually WAAAAAY LONGER THAN 20 minutes? And it just makes me DON'T wanna open it A LOT of times, and I'll be like: Why can't separate the videos into 2 or 3 parts or something, (when I see those videos that last for 46 minutes, 1 hour 20 minutes, or even at times that are close to 3 hours or something.) so that it'll give me more motivation to watch it!? This is how TV show works, right? So... yeah. And I actually also do think about sometimes about if you or anyone that I wanna/would like to interact with, if the things that they talk about is the response of what I commented on their videos or whatever? And I think that it's because of my loneliness, I REALLY WANT someone who can be beneficial for me to hang out around or something, someone who can also vibe with me or something. So I started to create those things around the KZfaqrs' videos that I commented on the comment section. And finding proof to prove what I wanna feel like that someone gives a shit about what I have to say. So yeah, anyways, just wanna share with you about that. (But I actually don't know if Julien actually read the comments? But yeah, anyways.)

@coachdan1235 29 күн бұрын

it's funny that you go to spider man for your analogy because it's actually more apt than you gave it credit for. Getting bitten by the spider gave him powers, yes. But that didn't make him spider man. It was the rock bottom pain of losing his uncle at the hands of someone he could have but chose not to stop that made him spider man.

@Greenko666 Ай бұрын

Hey Julien. Ever read ”The presence process”? Thoughts?

@JulienHimself Ай бұрын

Yes! Amazing book... It's actually in the "recommended reading list" that's in my online coaching. 👌

@Greenko666 Ай бұрын

Crazy things started to happen since i picked it up. Triggered in the most personal way.

@lukasbarthelme9581 27 күн бұрын

Okay but what do I do know? You say to do the work but what do you mean by that? What work do I have to do? Can you just give me a protocol I can follow? Is it journaling or what is it what do I have to do?

@lunarose9042 17 күн бұрын

Depends what your issues are and what you'd like to improve (if it's even possible). You'll work on those areas in ways that work for you. You need to figure these out for yourself.

@logictotalwar1201 Ай бұрын

Hes dress like the Real life Tyler Durden 😎 this dude is the Real Deal Folks

@Alberts_Stuff Ай бұрын

Why not watch on double speed? I still take it all in, and can pause rewind if I need to 🤷

@sergioquinche7700 Ай бұрын

What's the hurry my friend?

@Alberts_Stuff Ай бұрын

@@sergioquinche7700 There's not always a hurry, but today there was. Time is the most valuable commodity we have. By taking in all the information at half the speed gives me more time to do (and experience) other things 😊

@G0tYaa 29 күн бұрын

Hi. Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago..no drama involved (12 years together, i still have huge feelings for her. jealous etc..) and she is dating some1 new.. We should have our 2nd meet up with a drink next week to catch up how life is going. Do u think its ok to text him that "Sorry. I would like to see you but I can't at the moment. I've made my thoughts in a better direction and right now i would only woke useless dreams and hopes in my head. I need a little more time.." OR should i go for the drink, be confident etc and after that start the no contact.

@hera_139 27 күн бұрын

I think being honest about ur feelings is the most important thing. Ask yourself what you really want and do it. Even if it doesn't turn out as good as u hoped atleast you would have done your best to get what you want ..

@starseed8678 22 күн бұрын

Are the mistakes we make are meant to happen.? do we have free will on making a decision if we dont know any better or 'divine intervention' doesnt happen to avoid it.? not asking from victim mentality, just puzzling cause everytime i go back to the time of the mistake I realise I coudnt do any better cause i didnt know.. anyone has a clue..?

@User98681 Ай бұрын

Hey Julien. Have you gone through an ego death process? The past 4 years have been an intense awakening partnered with a dark night of the soul. My consciousness has been born again. I feel I’m on the right track but have never heard you speak on this topic.

@HoekWax Ай бұрын

I'm sure he did, he doesn't talk about it in this way but for example he talk about seeing the world through the paradigm of "having", "doing", "being", when you're in the being paradigm and fully present to the moment, you're not in your ego. Also it's completely okay to be in your ego, being frustrated about being in your ego would be a en ego thing, which would be fine also

@User98681 Ай бұрын

@@HoekWax yes I agree with that. I am no longer in the dark night of the soul stage. That lasted 2 years for me. Initial awakening was about 1.5 yrs and I’m 6 months in the 3rd stage of the void. Have you had a spiritual awakening experience similar to mine? The void stage is quite difficult.

@HoekWax Ай бұрын

@@User98681 Yes I went through this, I was depressed with suicidal thoughts before because I thought nothing mattered but I took myself seriously, nothing mattered but it was happening to “me”. Now that I’m able to live beyond my ego (even though I still identify as my ego sometimes and that okay), I still come to the conclusion that nothing happens but in a good way. In the way of the spirit of creation and of loving the process. Nothing matters but it’s not happening to “me” anymore (because there is no “me”), now nothing matters so that fun, play, joy, love, happiness can arise just because. Not for a reason. Just because it’s beautiful. It’s easy to reject that when you see the atrocities of the world but those are in truth not necessary, it’s junk of the mind that then becomes a reality in the material world. This comes to life when people identify with their egos. We can forgive them when we realize that we did the exact same and will sometime keep doing it without realizing it, even after ego death, which is not really death, more of a slow dissolution of it. Thinking that you ego is dead could validate your ego, maybe give you pride. In truth there is no “you”, there is just life happening through you, through me, through cats and plants, … The world doesn’t have to look any other way than how it is, don’t try to impose your wishes on it and instead enjoy, enjoy the void, or don’t, you don’t have to do anything. Anyways I guess it can be some food for thoughts, it’s great that you are going through this and remember to never take yourself seriously because in truth, even when you forget it, there is no “yourself”, there is just life.

@HoekWax Ай бұрын

@@User98681 You should read or listen to the book "Letting go" by David R Hawkins, same for "The power of now"

@AllLegs 26 күн бұрын

What books you recommend read to me?

@TR-nh7xf 20 күн бұрын

This is How You Heal by Brianna Wiest & Level Up by Rob Dial. Hope these help. Have a nice day!

@wischi4985 29 күн бұрын

You can try teaching people everything about self improvement, but if this person hadn't had his Fuck-This-Event (FTE), he won't be willing to change. What was your FTE?

@Yimpa_Joy 29 күн бұрын

❤😊

@kevinparent8843 28 күн бұрын

Merci de faire ce que tu fais Julien. I began to meditate and focusing more on myself. I try to ask myself the good questions and let go. But its not easy to know from where to begin