For being available for others all the time...this is one of my worst habit...will surely work upon this.... thankyou my mentor.❤

I need to set boundary by following 1. To say "NO" directly 2. Not accepting disrespect from another person 3. Not to become very nice. 4. love myself ❤

Mastering others is strength. But Mastering yourself is true power - Lord Buddha 😊

Disrespecting your own friends in the name of fun is the most disgusting attitude ever

Once me and 2 other friends were together. They were drinking, I wasn't. Eventually they felt hungry and wanted to go the nearest fries shop. So we went. After reaching the shop, one guy said that he had already given me the money to buy the fries, which he had not. And then they started staring at me with sus eyes, as if I was taking advantage of their drunken state. I felt so guilty for no reason and ended up giving the whole amount from my pocket. That was one of the very first big blows to my self respect. We were students back then, so buying fries for 3 people was quite costly as well. I felt so resentful about this afterwards. Spent 3 nights thinking about it. Then I contacted them and asked them to check their wallets and let me know if they really had given me the money or not. They were like "we don't remember, not sure, it's okay". And for one of the very first times in my life I said "NO. Check it now and if you're not sure, then give me MY money back". I took the money back and never said yes to their invitations anymore.

1.Not always available for anybody Self priorties. 2. Don't be too nice. 3. Say "No" Direct. 5. Don't accept disrespect in your life . 5. Respect yourself &take seriously yourself. 6. Set boundries. 4.

Being introvert is also a crime god committed while making me. I can't say anything and people can't stop saying anything

So true, good analogy empty space people dump garbage. We need healthy boundaries from people who dump their toxic emotion onto us.

I stopped myself for being very nice ,and people call me you have attitude. Idk when and how I start becoming nice to others, but now I literally want to leave this planet Earth

no one has said this before in my life that i don't need to be good to everyone... i truely needed this, in order to be in good books of everyone i always do things that i personally feel disgusted about... time to change

This lady is talking to the points and these points are the golden rules for How to mentally stay fit!

completely agree with you. few days ago i become a friend who was toxic in nature on the name of fun. I'm 30 and at this age i got selected for a govt job. he was also in training with me. he called me "budha" in front of his friends( my friends was also there). i immediately stopped him and make him understand that i will not tolerate this. I'm polite and humble that doesn't means i will take whatever you throw at me. that day i knew how to take people's comments on me and yes i say "no" when my work is still left on the desk and someone wants me out there. i prioritise myself and now i havr time for myself to enjoy the moments i missed earlier.

You can't truly help someone unless you help yourself first. Same with Love and Respect.

1 - help करना, 2 - अच्छा बनना की बीमारी, 3 - लोग काम में नहीं आते, 4 - राजमा चावल नहीं हूँ में, 5 - No बोलो, 6 - बुरा मत मानना 7 - boundaries create 8 - Mental Peace.. ❣️

Very correct, and really appreciate your thoughts and speaking these out openly. I have been at the receiving end for many years and just can't take it anymore, and I really appreciate you sharing this with the world and believe me some of us are LISTENING!

have always believed that my strength lay in being helpful and available to people every time. However, recently, my eyes were opened wide when I realized that nobody respected me, and everybody took me for granted. As a result, I have started telling myself not to approach people to help them unless they truly deserve it. I prioritize my dreams and refuse to give up my priorities for the sake of others.

Most of the time we fail in setting boundaries because we don't want to appear rude to others. But trust me people, the ones who have boundaries themselves will understand what you're doing and would never poke you saying how rude of you! But those who have a mental garden full of garbage, they'll pick some of it and throw it in yours when they see you building a wall around your garden. Cause they love doing it. But don't you dare stop at that time. You keep going, and keep building your boundaries. Afterall, it's your garden and you are the one responsible for it's cleanliness not others. Thankyou so much Neha ma'am for speaking about this issue. That's why we love you.

She is 💯 correct . If we just continue to "be nice" to someone and unwillingly keep doing things for their favour despite knowing they don't have any respect for us .. bonds are meant to break . And only we ourself will be left on the crying end .

What she said here is absolutely true. Specifically in terms of friends and frieship. Younger once need such advice!

Set healthy boundaries not everyone deserves your energy 😊✨🥰

All the points said here to set healthy boundaries in life is so true.. I could really connect to it because I have learnt to say "No" and also I don't give anyone the consent to disrespect me. What I have learnt recently is to "Love yourself first and only then you can treat people out there in a better way"

I learnt all these lessons practically through my own experiences and yes if we dnt set healthy boundaries then life will automatically make sure u fall hard get hurt shattered but once u experience these negativities u rise so high tht u nvr look back i am thankful to God for bringing this transformation in me..and guys no matter ap kitna bhi motivational videos dekh lo jb tk thokar nhi lgegi naa koi life lesson long term k liye nhi sikh paoge..its ok to get hurt kyuki hurt hone ka jb limit cross hota h then u become unbreakable and strong ...thanks fr sharing ur valuable knowledge..its really helpful in spreading awareness in society..

Thank you maam really helpful points 1) Learn to Say No 2) prioritize urself 3) Stop seeking that mein duniya ka sabse aacha person hu award 4) don't accept disrespect stand up for yourself 5) Stop accepting thrash told by people to satisfy themselves 6) Set health boundaries

Initially when i was into myself and said "no" i was labelled as full of attitude and snobbish, and now I'm labelled as too nice. And I'm literally a dumpster for people' and their insecurities. I help because it's comfortable when i see someone sad in front of me. High time, i should align boundaries. And say no. This is so good ❤

Bat to bahot sahi hai LEKIN....agar aap life me unsuccessful ho to kitni bhi boundaries bna lo disrespect milega hi milega...isliye in chhote mote disrespect ko pee jao aur khudko itna successful bnalo ki tumhare circle me sab tumse chhote ho jaye...100% sure hai ki aapki galatiyo ko bhi respect milega.

You have literally put up my whole life out here😭 I'm always there for everyone and myself when in need no one's is there to help me out🙂💔

You are right didi, I was new in the hostel and whenever my seniors called me to do anything like (download movies, turning on hotspot or give laptop mouse or to teach them to operate laptops) I did without thinking of my own priorities and this habit made it difficult to stay there but I changed myself gradually.

Dear beti Jai hind 1. U a God sent girl. The lesson taught is superb as it contains moral. .........An inner discipline . 2. I made my all soldiers to see & develop it. 3. Keep it up beti.....Chinnu 4. May Allah bless you....ameen Indian army

I agree.... Setting healthy boundaries is so important !

Well said, everyone has their own self esteem and must learn to carry it with them at all times.

Hats off to your for this video.....I always help everyone, listen to others and available to them but even then they dont respect me and mostly ignore me.

Yes ,it's so true ,I did same mistake in my life again n again..but at this time I got very beautiful lesson ..your time is so much important.

Huge respect for you, an eye opener. Plz educate us. I wish to learn more on confidence, self respect, and how to say no.

So much needed video...I have been struggling to deal with this thing for so long,I hope I'll apply things that you mentioned in this video.Thank you so much ❤

Well said young lady. Much needed. Appreciate it.

Great video ❤ What you are mentioning is people pleasing behaviour even when they don't feel it truly and when they don't have the guts to say no either, yet they do it out of fear...

Very very important content. Hats off. Literally the same scenario of disrespect as a joke from friends happening with my friend named jason. Whenever our friend group comes together every time my few friends make jokes that are hugely disrespectful towards jason and I can see kind of discomfort/shame on jason's face. I already recommended jason to talk to them at the spot or if you are not able to do this then talk in-person to other friends about this joke and warn them seriously to stop these jokes. But he kind of seems that he is scared that if he talks about this then friends will stop talking to him. Really feel so sad for jason. But now I will going to share this video with him so I hope he can get some motivation and do this.

While I was facing some setbacks and failures; those people whom I always respected and treated well, those whom I thought to be my good friends; they all made fun of my failures and talked bad things about me to other people. 24/7 they would make fun of me and were really excited to see me struggling. It hurts me so much because they seemed very closed to me. Your video is so relatable to me didi ❤.

Excellent. Well said. This video really helped me come out of becoming good to all.

Thank you so much for such a mature advice which everyone shud follow

I absolutely needed this right now, and i've got my answer, Thanks DIDI! ❤

Have watched your videos for quite sometime. Yes, self-esteem is the most important thing for an individual's happiness.

Fr the best video I've ever found on KZfaq💗 every single word touched my heart and it was actually true dw a harsh reality👀

Listening you gives me confidence that I m working in right direction and hope to be what I want ! Thank you !

Can't thank you enough You have really opened my eyes!

Don't available all the time Don't be always accha banna Learn to say no Dont take disrespect as a joke Do not satisfy their egos (being accha bnna) as they are insecure about themselves and to satisfy their insecurities they are disrespecting you as a joke

I agree I suffer and try to help all Once I could not help, they stopped talking We must set boundaries

Thank you so much for your inputs. 🙏😊

Yeah I can relate. I had the disease to please others and always ended up at the wrong side of the road. It was very difficult to get out of that mess. But at last I found the way to and set boundaries with everyone including my parents and siblings too.

Much much needed..right thing at right time ..just yesterday itself I had terrible argument..I think universe is supporting me by ur video 💯🙂

This is so relatable... Will surely work upon this... Thanks for this one.. Much needed.

Really Appreciate you cause u deserve this and you are DAMN Good. You know what I mean to say don't take it otherwise

You are absolutely correct Didi .. Many take advantage of us for being good to them I am a medical student and going to be a doctor in few years and I saw many people who took treatment without giving money many people has taken advantage for being a good and kind doctor .. But still I feel that we shouldn't bother about it because if we will start bothering about it then one day everyone will be selfish and work only for themselves and only for their own benefit .. Apni marzi se jeena sab ka hak hai lekin jo insaan sirf apni marzi se jeeta hai uss ko khudgaraz bolte hai jo sirf apne barre mai sochta hai yaa sochti hai .. ( Think about ourself is a good thing but only think about ourself is not a good act it makes a person selfish ) The best example of it can be seen in married life of a couple when both husband and wife earns together and if they share the financial expenditure equally then it's a good thing if we see it from one side but on the other side it is also very risky because if at any point of life at any stage of life one thinks that I spend more even if a little spark of it arises in the back of mind of anyone then it will completely burn the complete relationship of a husband and wife .. So it is better to do things without expecting from others .. Even it is written in bhagvat gita also that phal iccha se rahti karam kar ( do things without expecting the result of it ) .. Mai bhi ye he believe karta hu ki phal ke bina soche apna karam karu hamesha paisa naa dekho pata nii kitne logo ka bhala kar payoga mai aise kabhi soch bhi nhi sakta .. JAI SRI RAM 💗💗💗💗

Thanks for this awesome video. I felt that this video is made for me. I can relate with everything you said and I'll make follow the below points: 1) will try to say No if I don't feel good 2) will make some boundaries if the person is trying to pull down or disrespect me 3) will give more priority on my work

Hi Neha, your videos literallly got me through my dark phase and still getting through. Thank you so much!

Genuinely Thanks for this video dude 🙏

I think it all depends on where we are in our spiritual journey in life. If truly considered from an energy or vibrational point of view, whatever bad happens to us (people or circumstances) is purely and only a reflection of some insecurity or negativity within our own being that just gets reflected on the outside. This is very difficult for people to digest understandably but those who have reached any level of advancement in their human journey know it to be true. Infact what you spoke about is a very transactional, wordly phenomena which for a lack of a better word is a very rudimentary level of being. If we all start doing tit for tat then the world would become unlivable. Also, because of this self assumed position of considering - it’s only OTHERS who are bothersome and exploitative and we are so pure that we have never showcased a similar behaviour even slightly ever in our lives is so basic and un self realised a view. Please don’t take my words otherwise, as I said we’re all in different timelines in our human journeys but I only commented because what I said may be important for some people to read. Thanks.

It's actually me the personalities you are taking about.... being available for all n making everyone happy....but nowadays I m focusing more on myself n my self esteem....thanks for this kind information ❤

Fantastic narration of facts & realities of life. I would sum up " do not let anybody take you for granted. You have to safeguard your self; without hurting others". CMA RANJAN BANERJEE

recently understood how important setting boundaries is.....most important thing to protect our mental peace

I need to set all of these boundaries in my life. But one of my biggest problems is I can't say 'no' to anyone. And that's become my weakness day by day. I can feel it. Everytime I think " no problem they're my friends, chalo bura nhi mante" but no It continues in a loop. Your video gives a reality check ❤️

You are such a loyal frnd who mirrors everything in our life & try to heal us from it..Really thankful for it..I have applied almost everything from ur talks & experience & it brought ultimately peace of mind ❤ One of my request is that Pls give a solution for feeling guilty about those people who hurted us the most but still we felt that we are hurting that although we have suffered a lot from them give a solution

Just pure true talk extremely same the way u share all things are truly human things and we experience so thank u because u are our alaram of our mind .

This is so true advice for introvert people. Our whole surrounding have so many such insecure people who constantly keeps your morale down...

This video is fire🔥🔥🔥🔥! You just beautifully and very firmly clearly put out the gist of how to have self respect in society ❤

Thanku for this... for the first time i am commenting here I do watch all yours vedioes n whatever you telling, teaching, guiding is very appreciatable.....these thing which u shared us today Is somewhere in me also ...now I am gona take action n improve this thing... thanku Neha dee🧿❤️😘

As u are explaining, it seems my soul is talking to me . Thank u so much 🙏🙏🙏. Hari bol .

Aap itni achi batei karte ho. Thanq! 😔U r so so right. I wil set boundaries from now on

Staying away from the negative people who make u feel less

You and your content never disappoints !! Thank you so much for such nice videos !!

I needed to hear this. Thanks 😢😊

aap ki trah aapki batain bhi dill mei beth gayi aaj.

Right! Everything you said in this video 👍 Niceness leave karo.. kindness is fine because in truly being kind we don't expect anything in return.. and we inherently cannot be kind to everyone. And yes, don't be afraid of letting people go when they hurt you. Don't hold grudges, simply LET GO. Let them be.

Stop being nice and help people everytime Thanks di for reality check!!❤😊

I would completely maintain distance with a toxic people in my life 😊…. Thanks for your meaningful words!❤

Superb❤❤❤, this was amazing and so bang on honest , I totally agree and resonate with each and every word you spoke, got goosebumps with somethings you stated...have been through it and now I know what I felt to do was not wrong , as this is exactly the voice I had but sometimes didnt use it to get validation. Love your honest talks and great videos. Big fan of you , and hope your channel is super successful ❤👌😊

Being a South indian I don't know hindi ... I just followed ur captions ❤... this video is very revelant to my life sis😃keep posting more

I will learn to say 'NO' to that work which i never want to do but due to some pressure from my closed ones, I force my inner self to do that... Thank you ma'am for talking on such kind of topic which people don't take seriously but let themselves hurt at the same time 🌸🙌

Uhhh , I really needed this video , thank uuuuuuu

Truth well said , thank you for advice

Thank you so much di for this video ❤️❤️🤗😍❣️

I have learnt to say 'NO' in my life not politely but directly in a straight forward way. Its really very tough to cultivate and maintain this habit in today's life.

Very well said, I really accept this,

These are extremely important points to be beared in mind. Help yourself first then help others. Don't let anyone disrespect you. Learn to say no, set boundaries. Don't underestimate yourself by comparing with others. Stop being too nice, soft and gullible.

Very well said. I like German people ( as i am in Germany ), 'cause of this reason. They are pretty clear what they want to say. They are very careful and helpful as well. I have learned this from them. Yes, it's not our culture to say no to others. but sometimes it creates complicated situations in our daily life.Thanks for sharing

Each and every words you said in this video is totally made me think about my own life. I can relate to each and every sentences of yours. Thankyou for made me realise. This is what i always used to think but i was unclear ki kya hoga agr mai aisa ki toh.. agr logo ki help ni ki toh ye toh galt haina...aur agar krti v hu toh mujhe kahan help milta unse.. But now i am totally clear about this ki i have to make myself my own priority. I will listen this video daily so that i can change my this habit and it will go to my subconscious mind. Thankyou ma'am. You are just amazing. Thankyou for clearimg my all question which were running on my mind. But ma'am if i will be unavailable to people bcz apne kaam mein busy thi fir uske baad ek gulit hota hai ki mai uski help ni kr payi.. usse kaise bachu?

I went all through this and I can totally relate!! Good video

*i woke up today , open yt, see this video , click this video- its totally relatable to me. thanks for the best advice*

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Qualitative content with vast knowledge ❤😊

Not accepting disrespect from other Would be my first boundary ❤

Very helpful and accurate...I think these are the reasons for most of the part of mental issues faced by kind hearted people.. You explained it really wElll...Salute and Thanks❤❤❤❤❤

Di i m not available 24*7 for everyone...... Thanks di

Saying no..coz it's must.. otherwise people consider someone's time as trash..also being kind..❤

Yeah u have a point actually being nice is not that nice and sadly truth is people respect toxic person more than nice person

I needed this so desperately

❤ thank you for sharing your wisdom and thoughts 🙏

It is one of the best video see in my life.Thank you so much.

Thank you. This was much needed. Learned a lot😊

Excellent and effective presentation!! So simple so friendly explanation of a complex sub-subject. Thank you 🙏