Men can LITERALLY be caught in 4k, and people still don't believe her or vict blame.

Who would've thought that the guy who made false rape accusations against his friend would turn out to not be a great person.

nobody is talking about the rancid misogyny from him and that really bothers me. he constantly hurled misogynistic slurs at her and called her ‘woman’ while insulting her. he’s disgusting

"they don't seem like the type of guy" lol Ah, yes, every person who's dated an abuser met their partner and thought "this guy seems like the type to abuse me" and that's what sealed the deal, right? If abusers "seemed like the type", no abuser would have a partner to abuse.

He threatened to bash his partners head in with a brick and people are still going to watch him? HUH?????

what "clout" do these people think we get as survivors? 🤔

The night I went to request an arrest warrant for my ex for physical and s*xual assault, the magistrate looked me right in the eye and told me I was lying because I waited more than 24 hrs to report it. It’s so disheartening when even the cops who are supposed to “protect and serve” make you feel like garbage.

What I’ve learned, as an abuse survivor myself, is that people are sympathetic to the idea of an abuse victim, but they don’t always embrace the actual women who come forward. I understand why I was so quiet. People think that having a good coping mechanisms is lying. What about how fake he is in public? Some can’t win. Hopefully this can get better.

"You should lie down like a good dog" gave me goosebumps. That's what my abuser told me, albeit with different words, with the silent threat of "If you don't, I'll get much worse". I actually watched that guy's videos, but I won't be doing that going forward. What he did is unforgivable.

I don't understand how anyone can say this is "clout chasing"? Victims arent paraded around getting success. They are shunned. Frankly this is the opposite of clout chasing

Let’s say she WAS clout chasing. What he said still wasn’t okay!!!! That argument is so insane to me.

82 pages of documentation is horrifying. To not only think about what she had to emotionally process while compiling that, but also what she must have left out…I can’t imagine such a doubly harrowing experience.

Men like ImAllexx should not be let within 100m of a woman under any circumstances.

i didn't realise he was even already known as problematic, thanks for letting us know what's been going on, not watching him anymore.

My ex broke his hand punching the floor, broke a door, put holes in the walls, broke photo frames and window frames. When he finally told me he was having a full blown affair (after another massive lie), I hit a wall. I spent a year being abused and it all came out. And when I point out how violent he was, he ALWAYS said "but you hit a wall too". He used it as a tactic to keep me quiet (I was scared of him when he was raging), I did it as a reaction to all of it. It makes me SO angry that an abuser will take your breaking point as equal to months and months of abuse. 😔😔

"Seperate the art from the arist" often just rewards really shitty behaviors

ah the joys of being a suvivor. You can have ALL THE EVIDENCE in the world. But for some it will still never be enough. And frankly those kinds of people makes me side eye them and their own relationships.

Some people will twist themselves in a pretzel to defend abusers.

That clip of him telling her to lay down like a good dog!? My jaw dropped. I watched him casually a few years ago and never would have guessed. That's what abusers do best though.

@20ish min PERIOD. I'm so tired of people saying "well, in most abusive relationships, both people are abusing each other" as though it somehow excused the actual abuser. Reactive abuse really shouldn't be considered abuse when the victim never would have behaved that way outside of self-defense.

When men make a claim against a woman, social media usually says “I always knew she was like that” and “This is what women are like,” whereas when women make a claim against a man they get “Are you sure you weren’t leading him on with your clothes?” and “Let’s hear both sides before we come to any conclusions.”

I watched this guy like 17 million years ago and just had a vague feeling that things were... off. Glad I decided to stop watching him!

That's the best example for people who ask "how could you not notice they were abusive?" He portrayed himself as such a sympathetic guy and "believe the victims" type of person. Abusers don't act like villians, they act like "nice people" until the door is closed

One thing that bothers me in situations like this is the public reaction “go to the police” and some say “file a restraining order”, but we live in society that always jumps to victim blaming, the police barely do anything, and a restraining order is not a force field. Victims of abuse live in fear and going to the police, filing a restraining order can and often does make the abuser angrier, many end up killing their victims because of it. Leaving an abusive situation is not easy and can lead to a life threatening situation. Anyone who thinks it’s as easy as filing a police report has no empathy or has never been abused in their lives or never seen first hand what abuse can do. It’s not that easy and speaking up about it, especially against someone with a following, takes an enormous amount of courage.

Not your baby noticing how upset you are at the 12-13 minute mark and coming to check on you. She is an angel in a fur suit.

Ive only seen men talking about Alex, FINALLY a woman’s perspective

Alice is so strong, she left and that’s so powerful for a woman in her position. I really hope she can heal from this :(

I don't like the term "reactive abuse" either because it not only blames the victim, but validates the abuser. One of the common ways abusers gaslight their victims is by finding away under their skin until they snap. If the victim doesn't react quickly or dramatically enough, the abuser will continue to poke, prod, push, and pull at the victim until they get the reaction that they want (i.e. anger) so they can use that reaction as fodder to frame themselves as the victim and the *real* victim as the abuser. So, instead of calling it "reactive abuse," I'd rather just call it what it is: a reaction to gaslighting.

alex's voice is so irritating. i literally can't stand him

19:10 do they not know that people with bpd flock to abusive people in high numbers? Her having BPD almost backs up the liklihood of her story, not discredit it!?

Do people not realize that BPD occurs from trauma and abuse?!

I also think theres a huge difference between still liking an award winning artists work but not giving them money, and being loyal to a random drama channel where the same topics are covered by dozens of other drama youtubers

Reactive abuse is such a dumb word for that honestly. Like what do you expect would happen? You don't corner a scared animal and then blame it when it bites you - getting in the face of someone will obviously make them defend themself??

Wait, wasn’t this guy outted years ago? Did he not stay outted or something? Edit: Yup, Rachel brings it up about two minutes in. Turns out he was, at best, projecting his own issues, or actively obfuscating.

This is why we don't come forward. Took me 25 years to say anything, and I still haven't named the people who raped and SA'd me.

I dont even think the whole seperate the art from the artist arguement applies here, the art IS the artist. Commentary/reaction content on youtube is built largely on the creators personality, especially the kind of videos Alex makes. His entire channel relies on his audience finding him likable and I don't think it's a hot take to say abusing your girlfriend makes you pretty unlikable, though to be fair Alex has never been very likable anyway so maybe some of his audience just doesnt care.

It’s really sad and angering to see people have more compassion for a hypothetical falsely accused man over actual survivors. I understand wanting to wait for evidence to come out, but I don’t think that has to lead to the automatic assumption that the victim is lying when they are most likely not.

The fact that there’s apparently MORE things that Alice hasn’t included is so scary. Who knows what this man could have done to her if she didn’t leave him.

This is the first time I’m seeing this and oh my god, those clips have me weeping. The evil that it takes to treat someone that way…

there's a huge Venn Diagram overlap between people who think only men can be funny, women are only valued for their appearance, abusers should be forgiven due to being funny, and victims should be doubted due to being attractive.

The thing I'll never understand about the "clout chaser" argument is... what clout? There's nothing to be gained from making these accusations. The concept is absurd. Believe women. It's not hard.

It's scary how openly he abused her. He did this shit in front of people, no shame, no hesitation. Imagine the horrors behind closed doors.

I appreciate you doing these types of videos calling out these problematic youtubers who shouldn't have a platform if there's evidence of disgusting behavior

Those clips of him yelling at her genuinely activated my fight or flight. Good for her for speaking out about it, unbelievable that people are saying she’s clout chasing when she probably just wants him to not be able to do it to anyone else

'she is too pretty' and posts photos of herself = 'see what she was wearing....'

the moment he punched his microphone and said he would "bash her head into a wall" made me tear up because I once was at the receiving end of such an action by my ex... man, that sent some shivers down my spine... I feel bad for never going to the police, it kinda feels like I missed out on something that could have helped me heal properly, but as a result I'm even more proud of people who come forward to the public with their survivor stories :)

The venomous way he hurls abuse in the livestream is haunting. And he has an audience he has influence over...

You're right about not being able to tell. My late Mum used to say, you never know what's going on behind closed doors, in privacy. The nicest chap can be a brute when the door closes. I'm shocked! I hope Alice is healing and I hope those dear kittens are safe.

As a 43 year old narcissistic abuse survivor (I am male, my abuser is female) with BPD. I can 100% say the "reactive abuse" is a misnomer. Narcissists seek out people with emotional reactivity to gain plausible deniability. After my ex left (she abandoned our kids with me too), she had me convinced it was my fault. It took a LOT of therapy for me to see what had really happened. I wish you well in your recovery and I am glad to see you doing better.

As a survivor i went to the police, i did the rape kit, i tried to press charges, hell i even had voice recordings of my abuser admitting all these terrible things he did. Not only did this not go anywhere, many people in my life did not believe it happened at all. Believe all victims, you don't know how much they have gone through to find the courage to speak out

Yeah, I’ve been talked to like this before. He tried to make me feel like everything was on me, but thankfully I cut him off. So much anger in people like this, it’s scary.

DISGUSTING!!! OMG To threaten to bash her head in??? I’m so thankful she came out about this.

As a survivor, I cannot thank you enough for this. It's like you've taken all my scrambled thoughts and made them make sense, tearing down the victim-blamers as I wish I could do. I'm so proud of both you and Alice for speaking up about your experiences, it's never easy and takes so much strength. I admire you so much for this video ❤

omg i ALSO had an experience with an officer who kept saying "are you sure this isnt your fault? are you sure that you didnt want it? what did you do to provoke him" etc and dropped the charges. im so glad you had people who were kind and understood and went back to you to apologize for that.

I've seen some of Alex's friends put out statements and particularly inabber kept reiterating to support Alice which I give props to. It seems they were left in the dark on what happened. I wonder if Alex ever threatened them the way he did to Alice.

I heard some rumblings but I had no idea he was this problematic!!! Thank you for the excellent video as always!

The fungi fridays shirt!!!

…and they all got their nads in a twist when we universally said we’d feel safer in the woods with a bear.

I used to watch Alex 5 years ago, but stopped after the Slazo situation- most of his youtube friends left him, so I took note. Now I'm really not surprised that he turned out to be an awful person. It sickens me and saddens me deeply to see what he has become.

It wouldn't matter if she was pretty or ugly, both would be used against her. If she was "ugly" they'd say she's not hot enough to be abused. I've seen it a million times.

I've been watching ImAllexx for years. He definitely *"snaps"* (best word I can use) to the point where you can tell he's not longer in control of his emotions and his emotions are in control of him. And his emotions aren't based on reality, but very fluid notions of irrelevant morales that he can bend to his will depending on how much he wants to destroy someone. Lots of red flags, but I never thought he would be this bad in real life. I always thought "he criticises other people, so surely he'd be able to catch himself and avoid doing any damage to someone in real life, even if he has emotional issues". The ironic thing is, after making videos criticising hundreds of people for almost a decade. Alex ended up being way worse than almost anyone he's criticised, and there's much more proof of it than with the people he's been criticising. My admiration goes out to his former girlfriend. She keeps a level head and seemingly mostly just uses his own behaviour against him during arguments without actually engaging in any cruelty towards him -basically just holding up a mirror to him, and it's incredibly effective. He cannot cope with her describing his true self as an ab*ser, so he immaturely just tries to ab*se her into stopping her honest interpretation of his behaviour, but it doesn't work so he ab*ses her even more. The cycle never ended. Many of us that have had narcissistic ab*sers recognise his behaviour instantly in those leaks. Wish I'd realised it earlier.

I love how supportive Kyra was being, coming up and wanting to nuzzle when she saw your distress. I know she's done that before, but it was really noticeable here. What a good girl.

God so much of what he said and did to her is so reminiscent of my own ex whos a famous artist, and I just..know no one will ever believe how I was treated, so i'm so glad shes being heard

She probably slowly released her statement to test the waters. But then sometimes you have to release what you can so that the abuser won’t potentially take advantage of the situation

i occasionally watched alex' videos on topics i knew but i never followed him, and hadn't heard of these accusations until now, and my heart hurts. listening to recordings of him threatening her was so upsetting, i got really choked up. people *still* supporting him is so absurd...

Really ironic considering he slandered slazzo for false allegations. Sounds like it was projection.

I can’t help but to feel like this vile attitude towards DV on the internet really revealed itself during Depp v Heard. I remember watching all the commentary and seeing the comments on that situation at the time, and as a survivor, all I could think was, ‘this is why I didn’t go through with the trial [with my ex].’ Even the prosecution, the people who were supposed to be on my side, told me he would drag my name and character through the mud- was I sure I could handle that? They actively pushed me to let him take a plea deal. I wound up deciding against the trial and trying to move on with my life with my new partner. I just learned about a week ago that one of the injuries from my ex resulted in a TBI that went undiagnosed for almost seven years. I regret not going to trial. So much of recovery from DV is learning to deal with the regret and desire to do things differently if you could, if you could have only seen the signs sooner. And acceptance of what life will be going forward, now that this person has affected and hurt you so fundamentally and deeply. These attitudes towards abuse- things like the myth of “mutual abuse”- are pervasive, invading everything from the internet to the justice system. I will never judge or blame someone for not speaking up or pursuing charges, it’s no wonder they don’t when this is the treatment they get. It takes a miraculous act of courage to speak up about this at all.

Thank you for your sharing your story and supporting Alice. After Johnny Depp and Amber Heard, people have been terrible to victims of abuse who are public. It is good to see the support.

They were only together for a year. Imagine having a page worth of evidence every 4 and a bit days of your relationship (on average), and that’s not including the stuff she didn’t manage to capture. As a survivor my heart breaks for her.

this also reminds me of the wilbur soot situation. it was so heart warming to see so many people believe shelby but also there were and still are so many cruel people disregarding hee abuse and as a survivor myself, it was so hard to read or see those at all.

I can’t imagine gaining the courage to come out online against your abuser, just to immediately be told the same things they told you by all of their supporters

"These are just Alice's experiences". My man, my dude. He threatened to bash her head in with a brick. That's pretty fecked, no matter how you look at it.

What I find interesting about the "innocent until proven guilty" defence people throw out to undermine victim allegations is that they're essentially only applying that mantra to the person accused of abuse and not the alleged victim who they are thereby accusing of defamation. What about innocent until proven guilty status? Basically they're denying that the victim went through anything at all, which we wouldn't do with almost any other crime. We don't immediately jump to disbelieving people in our lives who claim to have been burgled or gotten into a car crash accidentally just on the small chance they could be insurance scammers. But for some reason people are quick to do that with victims of abuse.

I am a domestic violence survivor, and I did go ahead and press charges - my ex was charged with 15 serious charges, some violence (assault with a weapon, aggravated assault etc) some s. assault charges - (S assault, aggravated S assault, S assault with a weapon), also unlawful confinement and counselling suicide (he told me to kill myself repeatedly - I had screenshots of some of them!) - that last one is a really rare charge because many people don't survive to contact the police. It was a 10 day trial, and I was on the witness stand for five of those days. The most stressful time of my life, especially because he kept trying to contact me in the courthouse - he would be waiting at the entrance for me to arrive. I had to be escorted to the courtroom by the sheriffs! And at the end of it all he was acquitted on a technicality... That was a real gut punch! The judge actually said that she was convinced that he did the things I was claiming but that she had no choice to acquit, and then she looked right at me and apologised for having to do so! The Bstard got away with everything that he did to me over the 15 years that we were together! He is now saying that I lied about the whole thing and he was found "innocent" - he was not. The judge acquitted hi on a technicality that is a HUGE difference! Basically, the police F.ed up on some of their evidence. Even now, 10 years after the trial, I still live in fear - he has stalked me online to the point I had to change my name, he is constantly trying to find me. He has made false claims of S. assault to the police about me (he got the dates wrong - it could not have happened at those dates and I was able to prove it). I had to move away from where I was living. I have lost jobs and friends and people I care about because of this. He has made my life totally awful because I dared to report him to the police!

Personally, I’ve said for the longest time that a woman coming forward against her abuser has nothing to gain in a society that treats abusers better than victims.

People really don't understand that coming out with stories like this gets you INTENSE backlash, it's unreasonable to assume it's for "clout" when you're more than likely to get death threats at a minimum.

Its so nice to finally hear a women speaking about this, I have nothing but respect and admiration for Alice. Absolutely hideous that people still try to justify Alex's actions when the evidence is so clear.

I haven't heard or seen anything about him for years and honestly, this type of behavior is sickening. I hope she has support and protection in her corner because speaking out about against people like Alex on the Internet can be damaging mentally and scary. I remembered what happened with the woman who came out about Jake Paul and she got so much harassment for it.

As a fellow survivor I unfollowed and blocked and soon as I found out and saw that he hadn’t made a statement ❤

The way you described it, the word I’d use for “reactive abuse” is self-defense.

My heart hurts for both you and Alice. The abuse you two went through was shitty and never should have happened to begin with. It's bad enough to attack a partner, but to use their pets as leverage is a whole different level of scumbag behavior on the part of the abusers. I'd be in tears forever if someone did that to my cat Piper. Let the healing begin. It's a painful process, but healing is the only answer. Thank you for soldiering through this video, Rachel. You're fantastic.

My father was loved by everyone he met. He was horribke behind closed doors. It was like when the sun went down you lived with a wild rabid animal. Yet every adult around me thought i was a lying brat of a child for trying to get away from him

the videos of alex speaking and genuinely triggering , i warn anyone to use extreme caution when searching for those clips

God, it's really jarring seeing those clips of Alex behaving that way! I used to watch him some years ago, and although he could make some kinda rude jokes he mostly gave me the impression of someone who'd be kind of awkward and timid in person - I'd have much more easily expected him to be a victim of domestic abuse than a perpetrator! Really goes to show you don't truly know who a person is.

I recently was recommended him from the algorithm and began to watch his content. I knew nothing of his life before. After what I know now, I can't in good conscious continue to watch him.

Thank you for speaking about this, I had no idea! Hope his girlfriend gets out safe ❤

I’m not on KZfaq enough anymore to see what this platform has become. That poor girl. He speaks just like my father did to my mother. I will not support any of that group, and I’m disappointed I didn’t know all of this years ago when I bought merch. Very upsetting and I’m so glad you brought this to light. I never would’ve known…

I'm so sorry to hear of your experience with the police. I had a slightly similar situation where after being harassed all summer they gave my abusive ex a warning to not contact me, and he still tried so I let the police know and the officer on the phone kept saying "oh it sounds like he just misses you, I don't think he means any harm" I started crying on the phone and hyperventilating and my mum just took the phone off me and went off on the officer. When even the people who are supposed to protect you refuse to see what you're telling them it's such a gut-wrenching feeling.

I used to watch his content around 2020 disgusted by what he has become

I get so easily confused on that part of the Internet thanks for this. I never wanna end up supporting abusers and it gets so hard to sort actual shit from the weird fake allegations like Slazo and Kwite.

This is the perspective I was waiting to hear. Thanks for speaking out and providing a survivor's view of this. Also, the docs are utterly damning. There is no context he could give that'd clear his name.

I love how much you talk about this issue, thank you for being such a pillar of strength for all victims of DV and always standing up for what you believe in

Im glad that you do this kind of video, Rachel. Evil thrives in silence and calling it out helps purge it from the world.

I was told to record my abusers when people found out what was happening. I did but then got so afraid of what would happen if they found out i deleted everything. Mostly because the people who were meant to help me told me i was adding unnecessary stress to my abuser by speaking out.

I lost respect for him when he slandered Slazo. I didn’t expect this shit to come out.

Not surprising at all after what he did to Slazo. One who does something like that to someone they call a friend is one who has no qualms doing horrible things to someone they claim to love.

There is no justification for the videos. He’s got some sort of mental issue, and I would be terrified to be around him. I’ve seen comments talking about how unintimidating he is. When you are dealing with a person that flies off the handle at the littlest thing, it is scary. It doesn’t matter if he’s a weak looking British guy when he’s threatening violence.

I'm still pissed off he got away with what he did to Slazo. I didn't care for Alex before that, but I still watched collab videos he was in before that, but that was it. I refused to watch even collab videos from channels I used to like. I ended unsubbing from everyone who still publicly supported him after that. There were more that happened that were shady than the Slazo thing, too. I'm glad people are talking about this!

It annoys me that generally respected KZfaqrs, like James Mariott and Memeulous and Kurtis Connor still associate with him.

On the topic of "clout chasing" - I once read, "Do you know the names of any of the Cosby accusers? What about Kevin Spacey's?" and never forgot it. For all that victims are accused of just "seeking attention" with accusations, it never actually earns them fame - the names of victims are rarely remembered, just the accusation itself. Of all the ways to get clout, to get remembered, it seems like speaking about abuse does not seem to be very successful. Also, the idea that women just want clout and attention and that the way they choose to do that would involve cribbing off a powerful / popular man reeks of sexism; like a woman can't POSSIBLY get attention any other way except by getting via a man. it's just very silly. There's so many risks that come with an abuse accusation especially of someone with a following - including cops and the legal system, the stigma of being a victim, harassment, being targeted by fans and doxxed, so on. Nowadays if you want clout, you can just, yknow, start a drama channel like everyone else. Even reprehensible methods like saying slurs or insane conspiracy theories work to get attention if someone believes "even negative press is good press" - but abuse accusations actually have a legal weight to them, and often result in genuine death threats and harassment by fans, so a lot of people motivated for attention do not touch them. It's just not worth it. It kinda implies another underlying assumption that women will not only lie to get fame, they also do so *completely irrationally* - lying despite the immense amount of legal and physical danger it could put them in and the many, many other safer and more effective ways to get attention, money and fame.