Wow Amy really hit me with “nobody else has to go to bed at night thinking about the decisions that YOU made” Thanks for some free therapy talk ladies!

At 20, I get a lot of grief about not drinking, smoking, going to parties, and not having a boyfriend. I just wish people could stop putting so much pressure on it, and let people do their own thing. Thank you for that message Amy about being on our own path, and all of you for speaking about this♥️

I wish Dani was here for this conversation 🥺 I know she had some opinions on this as well. It's so nice to see you guys open up and talk about these topics. Hope to see this more ❤️❤️❤️

I’m completely nonreligious, and this was very refreshing! I applaud your open-mindedness

Here's another important thing... Even if for some reason you didn't wait until marriage... YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR MIND!!!!

I was raised to wait until marriage. I didn’t wait until marriage but I did wait until I was with someone who I loved and who I knew loved me. I don’t regret it at all. A lot of people talk about how awkward their first time was. And while I was nervous, it def wasn’t awkward. It went about as well as I could’ve wanted it to go.

Thank you for this video. I'm 30 and I'm waiting until marriage. I get so much grief from people for my choice to wait. I have been bullied since I was a teen about my decision to not have sex, drink, or do drugs. It just blows my mind how people think what I do with my body is any of their business but I'm constantly called a prude, asked if I'm gay, asked if it's because I'm fat, and many other things. Thankfully as an adult I've learned to brush it off but when I was younger things like that hurt me so badly. I hope and pray that this video reaches the people that are struggling and need to hear these words. Thank you again for talking about this.

I’m a Muslim and it’s so hard to find people online that can talk about these things without feeling judged! I’ve definitely felt judgement on both sides .. for waiting and for ‘not being pure enough’ .. thank you so much for being so open, creating such a safe community and encouraging people to share ❤

I'm not religious at all but am a believer that everyone should be able to get along, regardless of beliefs. I have so much respect for you ladies for discussing this and being so vulnerable. I didn't know the ins and out of toxic purity culture but work with young people and see purity rings OFTEN without knowing what that entails. You are changing a LOT of young lives by sharing your stories. Thank you ❤️

I’m a woman who is very in tune with her spirituality. I’m also a woman who is very in tune with her sexuality! I made the decision a long time ago to wait until I’m married- very similarly to what Christina said- because that’s what makes the most sense for me in my life! It’s been very hard to navigate sexual urges because I grew up being taught that sex is dirty and bad. I’m finally at a place in life where I understand that sexuality is an innate part of who I am as a woman and as a human being and there is nothing wrong with having sexual feelings or desires! It’s literally a part of our biology for crying out loud! I don’t have the mindset that sex is dirty or bad anymore, but that doesn’t mean I’ve changed my mind about waiting. I still believe that it is the best decision for me, but I am sooooo thankful that I’ve done the work to deconstruct all of the shame and guilt that I grew up feeling! It’s been so healing and freeing for me!

It's a personal choice and I respect the various opinions on this. I personally feel like I'm not a wait until marriage person but I am however a wait until the relationship feels like it's going in the right direction and the commitment with each other is clear.

Thanks, this was so interesting to watch. I’m a Christian and have struggled with navigating this topic for such a long time. My husband and I waited for marriage and we’re both really glad that we did, and have no regrets. But that doesn’t mean that we weren’t impacted by the toxicity of purity culture - it’s had a lasting effect on both of us personally and as a married couple. I want to teach our kids what we believe without pushing them into a culture that seems to devalue women, crush personal autonomy, diminish consent and put such a heavy focus on sexual sin. It’s such a loaded topic and I think you handled it really well - definitely gave me a lot of food for thought! 😊

I was saving myself for marriage and was happy and had peace with my decision. Then, when I was 19, I was a victim of SA. I immediately felt worthless, felt dirty, and like my decision to stay pure had been stolen. I never respected my body again. If only I had heard something like this video then, I could've continued to stay pure despite being a victim. At the time, I thought my choice had been made for me by that man. But despise the hurt, judgement, and loss of friendships I've had to endure, I hope that somebody that might be feeling like I had will hear this and know their worth! ❤️❤️❤️

THE WHOLE NATION NEEDS TO WATCH THIS!!!

I hope Lisa is ok....praying for her husband's health

I do not believe in waiting until marriage but I just feel like “purity” is such a bad word to describe this…. it feels like if you don’t do wait, you’re not pure??? what does that even mean

Thank you for this video. I’m just now getting back in church with my 3 year old as a single mom. 21, Never married, not in a relationship when I got pregnant. It’s been hard to get back into church because of the judgment. Thankfully I’m in a place where I’m confident and proud of my daughter. I’m now saved again and feel more worth than before. Now waiting for marriage as well. It’s been so healing on my mind and soul and relationship with God. Thankfully I don’t have those kinds of people around me with this toxic culture.

I really appreciate this. I was sexually assaulted three time within a three month span when I was fifteen. Luckily I didn’t get pregnant, but it took me five years to even go to the police about it. My family still doesn’t know about it because I’m too scared they will judge me because my mom was very sexually promiscuous so I know they will think I had it coming. It is still hard for me today to feel as though I am still worthy to God because of a bad youth pastor who said we have it coming for how we dress or act. I am always in baggy clothes that cover me and keep my head down because I’m so terrified that if I am seen, then it will happen again. But hearing Amy and Lauren getting so emotional and Kat and Christina saying it’s not my fault and how the candy pieces is an awful illustration. It made it feel like I do still have worth and that God doesn’t look at me as some damaged, unworthy person. Also, with the consent thing, it matters because my ex wouldn’t take no for an answer and I would cry myself to sleep because I honestly just felt used. Like Kat was saying it a manipulation thing because he would get angry and punch my bed and yell at me, knowing I was severely abused as a child, and he knew I wanted to wait until marriage, but he pushed to the point I was too scared to say no. Then for so many months after it was like emotional abuse until I finally gave in. Which has also added trauma and this feeling of not being worthy. I know I can’t take my virginity back, but since leaving him I am trying to heal and recommit to wait until marriage. And my first kiss wasn’t until I was like twenty, but the social pressure was enormous and it was crazy how people looked down on my for it. Also, thank you for talking about this subject. 🖤

So refreshing to hear this discussion in a way I don’t think I’ve ever heard before. I am so grateful all of this was shared! I love how it’s not “this is what YOU should do” “this is the right thing to do” but instead sharing your perspectives and encouraging the process of questioning everything and going on this journey for ourselves. I did this for myself awhile back and unfortunately came across a LOT of toxic, deeply harmful purity culture videos along the way so I am SO grateful you all made this video and said what needed to be said ❤

Aww Amy! Sorry I heard her crying in her speech on point 3, and I'm like "give the princess a hug!" Same for Lauren, the moment I heard her sadness after Amy's turn, I wanted to give her a hug. Sorry, when someone goes sad, I wanted to reach out and make them feel better. Also thanks for today's vid, you ladies really had good points regarding this topic and I give yall kudos for it!

Yes. Thank you. This needs to be talked about.

I think part of the issue is a lack of continual conversations. Parents wait until their kid is a teen and then they briefly say sex is bad or don’t get pregnant etc. This needs to be a continuing conversation. With an explanation of why these are your families values.

Toxic purity left me in terrible a relationship for far too long. I felt that since I wasn’t “pure” anymore, I had to stay with this one person, even though it eventually be abusive. I’m so glad I found the strength to leave, and it took me a long time to realize that my worth was so much more than my virginity. I found a new partner, we’re not each others firsts, and we’ve been deeply in love for over five years, and I will never ever teach our future children to stay in a toxic place with someone because of a decision they’ve made based on their sexuality. Thank you for being so open and non judgemental. It took me a while to love myself after that relationship and rebuild my own feelings of self worth after having sex outside of marriage when I was taught it should only happen between husband and wife. It’s not a belief I hold any longer, but I respect all those who did wait. Sex is still something that is sacred and private to me, and absolutely still special. Im happy to be outside of that toxic purity culture and I respect you girls for discussing it, while also discussing that you waited. It was so refreshing to hear someone that’s waited to say, “it’s still your choice!”

Thank you SO MUCH for talking about this so with so much vulnerability and grace and kindness Christina pointed out there aren’t a lot of people online putting out this perspective and I completely agree. it’s so amazing to see you guys tackle this topic. So much love for y’all!!!

My husband and I waited until marriage as well! We weren’t flawless, but definitely felt like that was the right decision for us! Thank you for sharing this message. It is SO important!!

Thank you guys for this so much. I’m often embarrassed to tell people I am Christian because of the toxicity and how people use the bible to put others down. As I grow up, I’m working on mending my relationship with God apart from how I grew up. This video is giving me so much hope as I continue this journey!!

I have watched you guys for almost 10 years and I am so happy that you guys are using this platform for good! Thank you for spreading such a powerful message!

so proud of this talk, I can’t express how comforting it is to know that others have this type of mindset and can be free to talk about traumas and boundaries. thank you.

My respect for you guys, that was already so high, has just skyrocketed. You guys handled this topic absolutely beautifully and judgement free, and I really hope that people of all ages watch this and feel empowered

NGL. I feel like this needs to be said. Lauren and amy getting chocked up about it made me wanna jump through the screan and give you all a hu. BTW missing lisa, shes so strong for what her and her hubby are going through. plus her little minion. love you all millions xxx

This is why you guys have been my role models for over 10 years ❤

This needs to be said!!! I love this favorite topic

I follow you guys for a long time, and despite of my personal opinion about it, I think it's so important that you guys are bringing this conversation here, specially because you have young people as followers, so kudos to you.

I love how intentional you all were with your words in this video. You were able to share your perspectives while still being very mindful and respectful of all sides of the conversation. Loved this vid thanks girls ❤️

Love this topic! So hard you’re right but so important. I was SA at 16 and literally lived in I’m worthless until I was 18. I was wild and just didn’t care what happened to me after that. I was not a Christian until I was 25 years old. Pregnancy is a worry for teens however I was 18 when I got pregnant unplanned and not with someone I would ever dream of having a child with. My First son changed my life forever. Of course right?! But more than that I was so heavy into drugs, unhealthy sex and alcohol. The second I found I was pregnant I stopped everything enrolled full time in college once again and got a job and my own place. I honestly told the dad I was doing this pregnancy alone or he could participate. Unfortunately I decided to marry him…an alcoholic who still did drugs. It ended in both DV and SA yet again. Then I found a man who I later understood was emotionally physically abusive. I couldn’t see it when I was with him. I was told I could not get pregnant again due to massive medical issues well surprise 1 day later and yep 💥 pregnant 🤦‍♀️ Lol! But ya know what he left when my second son was just 9 months old. He wasn’t a great husband but he IS A GREAT DAD!! I found Jesus through that divorce! I was so lost so so just emotionally an absolute wreck! I found MYSELF in Jesus and ONLY then I was I able to both give and accept true love. I now have been married for 17 years have 4 just out of this world AMAZING boys! 2 “bio” (though we don’t recognize blood 🩸 in the family) and 2 bonus sons. They are now 26,25,22 and 19! We have been so so blessed for sure! My husband has always and is still so so so patient because I still have issues with some sexual things and relationships things. Looking back I’d have loved to wait until marriage knowing how I believe now as a Christian HOWEVER my son saved my life…I mean he saved my life! And I KNOW he was a gift from God and definitely a 2x4 over the head. Now did it fully work on coming to Jesus right then absolutely not~~yet~~BUT it was part of the path that lead me to him. Still today I believe in praying those “dangerous prayers” (awesome book btw Dangerous Prayers 😉 ). I pray for patience Lol! And I pray for 2x4s because I am absolutely stubborn as can be and honest to goodness sometimes I need that 2x4 answer from God to whip me into shape. My husband still struggles because he didn’t have a father that lead the family even in the slightest. He was an alcoholic also but has since changed his life. He’s still quiet and reserved and mom runs the roost. Regardless of how I feel about their dynamics I’m tired of some Christian teachings degrading men for not being the proper and good leader of the family. It takes us both!! We are both children of God and we are honest to goodness each other’s biggest accountability partners beyond anyone else. One of My sons now has 2 kids and they neither one want to get married. Do I love it not so much HOWEVER they are adults and it is their choice. They will NEVER get judgement from me as his parent. We talk and have great conversations around it BUT I don’t push too hard. Nothing positive will come from that. Soooo those that choose to wait I think that’s awesome 👏 BUT if you don’t and even if you don’t wait and you get pregnant there is still greatness in this life for you. Every single thing we do in life eventually builds character hope and love with Jesus BUT it also equips us to help others! These are my absolute favorite Bible verses especially as a chronically ill woman, mama and wife. It’s hard to see your purpose honestly as anyone but when your sick constantly shew. I’ll share because the beauty of these 2 groups of scripture is just unmatchable imo ❤ 🙏🏻 Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us. Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory. We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Rom.5.1,Rom.5.2,Rom.5.3,Rom.5.4,Rom.5.5&version=NLT Best imo coupled with….. ❤ All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. For the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ. Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. We are confident that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in the comfort God gives us. www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2Cor.1.3,2Cor.1.4,2Cor.1.5,2Cor.1.6,2Cor.1.7&version=NLT Much love to everyone and NEVER judgement from me. Always find someone “safe” to talk with because NO ONE should ever tear you down for being open. ❤ 🙏🏻

It's a super topic! I (19) have decided to keep my mental, physical and emotional purity for my future husband, the one God has chosen for me. Thanks girls for covering these topics too! Blessings

amy's speech will always repeat in my head. this video is so much more meaningful and powerful than you girls would think. thank you for speaking about this matter. god bless your kind souls.

YES! I so respect you all for talking about this and thank you sooo much for not being afraid to share your beliefs on it, especially since they're so counter-cultural! I love how you explained everything and just gave some great questions for everyone to think deeper about. 👏❤

I’m 13, so all this stuff I don’t really think about a lot, but this was still really helpful and gave me a good understanding of some things I’ve been wondering, so thankful that y’all are open about things like this, I love you guys more then anything! You guys changed my life. ❤❤❤

i love when you preach about healthy dialogueand no judgement because you're the only ones i trust and believe

Thank you for speaking the truth and sharing your faith! I pray my children’s generation hears and sees things like this and lives the right lifestyle

As someone that is not religious and doesn't personally believe in waiting till marriage (I respect those that do) but I feel like s3x is definitely meaningful and powerful regardless. It makes me feel powerful and confident as a woman knowing that I am making my own choices and doing something that makes me feel good both physically and mentally. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with s3x before marriage and sharing yourself with more than one person through your lifetime because it allows you to learn so many things about yourself that you otherwise may not and can also be helpful in things outside of just s3x. I did wait longer than most (I was 21) and I am definitely a much more happy and confident person now than I was before I started having s3x. That being said, it is obviously important to be safe. ❤️

Purity culture is probably one huge reason why some people get married so quickly. Could be that they don’t want to be shamed if they want to take their relationship to the next level or can’t wait

This video felt like a mini-podcast! That was such an interesting topic and I agreed with all you said, even if I'm not religious! The amount of time I clapped alone in front of my screen screaming "Preach !" was insane ! Also, I'd like to thank you for showing a healthy and good side of religion that I thought disappeared. I sadly only see the toxic side of the media, mostly the internet. Having your videos and takes on those kinds of topics is very refreshing, I don't see enough religious people talking about it!

I very much agree with everything y'all are saying. I didn't grow up in the christian culture as a child. but when I found the Lord in college and now 9 years in, that culture has easily come on me as a single adult. A have a strong passion to be a part of helping the church change and actually address purity culture in the way that is more to how Jesus would. That women have sexual feelings just as men, that shame shouldn't be the tool, and that there is always restoration. AND if the church continues to not want to talk about it, then we are going to continue to be educated about sexuality by our culture around us, and that is NOT what we want. Let's normalize these conversations. You ladies are doing great, and I'm so thankful for you using your platform to bring this message to more people.

As far as the first question about whether it has has meaning, I feel like it can be very individual. I would imagine for most people sex is something that is emotional, vulnerable, intimate, etc., however not for everyone. I think it’s important to remember that people experience sex drive, sexual attraction, and sexual desire in different ways and combinations. This gets even more complex when paired with the multitude of other forms of attraction such as romantic, sensual, platonic, which will also have their own distinctions between desire and attraction. It is also important to remember that just because you don’t understand how people experience people and the world, it doesn’t mean they are lying, confused, or a possible experience for some people. I think these are just some important things to consider when discussing this question.

I listened to part of this, then finished the 2nd part on the podcast today. I just had to leave a comment on the video. I have never felt more seen, validated, not alone, EVER in my life until I heard this podcast. I’m a 25 year old UPS driver & you guys had me crying on my route today because I had never felt so understood in my life. Reading off comments on sexual assault, I thought was going to be triggering, but man, y’all did it perfectly. Not only the comments that you chose to read, but the commentary back. Y’all are absolute sweethearts and I was at a complete loss for words. I still am. I just knew I had to comment and say thank you from the bottom of my heart, thank you. ♥️ After years of therapy, I had never been told what you all said today. Thank you so much

I am so excited for this video.❤ I'm a 20 year old girl and I'm saying myself for marriage and I cannot wait to receive your imput of the topic.🙏

On another side of thoughts, I know a couple of younger girls, just turned 21, who think they are losers or lame because they are still virgins at an “old” age. It makes me sad that they feel shame for being virgins.. ans like pressure to have sex because they believe it’s “lame” to not have sex young.

Thank you so much for making this. I’m so tired of people using religion to be sexist and bigoted.

Such a needed conversation! I'm so glad yall decided to talk about this💕

This has probably got to be one of the most important videos I've ever seen. So glad you took this topic up

Respect to you girls for using your platform to talk about what matters even if it isn't easy. Thank you for that. I'm curious to hear more of your own personal journies and stories about purity and how you came to that decision. Also wish I could hear Lisa's take!!

Thank you all for speaking up on this topic! ♥️

I absolutely thought that you aligned with some of the toxic purity. I am so grateful you made this video. Especially with people like… cough cough… girl defined… on the youtubes…. So proud and so much love for this video

I think it’s so important as people who support and have advocated for waiting until marriage for you all to address the toxic parts of that mentality!

Thanks for sharing y’all’s point of views. This conversation was so needed!

When I was growing up in said toxic culture, a lot of people who were SA'd (or hadn't waited) saw it as "too late" for them, and in response began to almost hyper-fixate on sex. It was the thought of, "Well, it already happened, and because that makes me worthless now, I might as well drown myself with it." They thought if they were gonna be thrown away anyway, then they should "play the part". It was utterly heartbreaking but as a victim myself, I remember thinking the same at one point. You guys were spot on with a lot of what you were saying, but I also know that a lot of people wonder about the aftermath of "not being pure" and what that means for them now. That would interesting to hear about from your point of view.

This is amazing! I grew up in purity culture and have come out of it feeling the exact same way as y'all. So grateful you're using your platform to share this message'

Thank you for sharing your side of this topic. Every word was so true and meaningful to hear. Thank you for being yourself and sharing that with us and helping us. I love watching your videos and this is just amazing. Always watch the podcasts and I love it. I love you girls so much ❤️

I have been a follower and subscriber for years but I haven’t actively watched your videos in a year or so. I just saw this video in my subscriptions and I’m so happy I took the time to click on it. I respect y’all so much more now knowing that you don’t support such toxic beliefs. Thank you for speaking up about something so important! ❤️ TW : SA/Rape I was raped in 2013 when I was 14 or 15 years old. I wore a purity ring until then. I truly thought that after that, I was dirty and used up. So I continued to let men use me for a few months after (before going to therapy and realizing I was wrong) because I thought the damage was already done and I couldn’t take it back so I might as well go ahead and go wild and crazy. I also thought it had to be my fault because I was wearing shorts. I wish I had someone I looked up to back then to tell me these same things. If you are reading this and you’re in a similar position, please know you’re not dirty or unworthy of love and respect. And above all else, please know it’s not your fault. ❤️

I have a friend that is completely stuck in toxic purity, unfortunately it has been affecting our friendship because I always feel like she's judging everyone. Seeing this video gave me hope that she will get better someday, when you're a teen you just believe in whatever people say to you

oh wow , thank you so much for this video. I have only just recently left my church because of this topic and I was SA last year in the church which is where you’re meant to be safest!! I now go to an amazing church and am so happy God got me out of that culture , but I’m so glad you guys have voiced this on your platform because other people may not have given church a second chance after that xx

I'm a practicing Catholic and experienced a lot of what y'all discussed. Thank you for shedding light and showing the middle ground.

Such a beautiful, thoughtful, loving way of bringing this to light, ladies. I am so grateful for you all! I have heard from Jackie Francois on Ascension Presents videos that the "mission" of men in the Ephesians verse is to "love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself," and then for a wife to "submit" to her husband is to be "under" this mission (sub - mission). What a good mission to be under! :)

Loved hearing your perspectives, I felt encouraged and welcomed. Thanks for that

Yes!! The world needs your voice. Thank you!

Thank you so much for opening up this conversation and giving your perspective so eloquently and respectfully!

This was a really empathetic and kind way to approach a sensitive topic. Loved the points made critisizing both sides. I completely agree. Thanks for making this video.

It's so brave of you to have talked about your opinion on this topic. LOVE U! THANK YOU!

I LOVE this video guys!!! Thank you so much for covering this hard topic, it's such a big passion for me as well! So encouraging to see you guys address uncomfortable topics in such a loving way.🙏 Love you all!!

I needed this so much... I've been feeling disowned by my own family and hearing reassurance of my worth makes me very happy I am very thanful I ran into this video

This is a very interesting topic! As someone from the UK who has not been brought up religious it kind of shocks me how much importance sex (or the first time) has in your lives. That doesn’t mean it’s not important to me, I think there’s just a different level of importance. And the topic of it being something that should have so much thought before acting on… I think in some essence yes that’s important, don’t do it until you feel comfortable with the person and you’re both doing it for the right reasons. But at the same time, having a bad experience with someone (consensual) does not mean you will never have a good experience or that that will impact your life forever? You can and will have meaningful sex lives even after being with multiple people. Obviously I’m not very educated on purity culture, and that part of this video (especially the toxic parts) did make me sad. I don’t really understand why there’s such a stigma against sex within religion specifically pre marriage. The end section of this video made me a little uncomfortable. It seems a bit like you’re pushing your personal beliefs onto viewers and I’m sure not everyone watching this is religious or has been brought up to believe sex before marriage is a sin. As someone who is not married and has not waited until marriage, I don’t think people look in the mirror at night and judge themselves on the partners they’ve had?! Life has many chapters and some chapters start and end, others continue for a long time. I don’t contemplate the partners I’ve had and regret having sex with people just because the relationship didn’t last until marriage or forever. Not bashing on anyone who chooses to not have sex before marriage, it’s 100% your choice and you should be able to make up your own mind without being swayed by religion or peoples opinions, but this whole thing of being “pure” obviously judges people who choose not to follow that path and I don’t agree with that. You’re not a bad person if you have sex before you’re married or don’t even want to get married :)

I agree on this topic 140% agree. Still saving myself for the right guy whoever he is even though I’m 44 years old God knows that I am still saving myself or knows maybe I won’t find them who knows I don’t know but God does❤

I literally thought about this for a few weeks now and all of a sudden you guys talked about this. I feel like God sent yall to me. Thank you for being the sisters i never had just thank you ❤️❤️❤️

Hey girls! I've been watching you for about 10+ years, and have always felt really connected to you all, as I don't have any sisters. I was born and raised Catholic, but grew away from it when I was about 13/14, and I remember you guys started mentioning your religion more at about the same time. I remember feeling sad, up until a few years ago, thinking that you would think less of me because of the decisions I made in life, until this video. Honestly we need more Christians like you being open about these topics, to show that there are some of you that actually get it, and are not judgemental. I loved this video, thank you for it.

Thank God you guys are addressing this type of topics. Thank you so much ❤

Ladies, you handled this sensitive topic amazingly well. Thank you for making this video. I think that it will positively impact a lot of people. ❤

LOVE YOU LADIES! Keep shining and making magic! Will keep her in our prayers.

Thank you girls for this!! As a spaniard catholic myself, I find my self always explaining what waiting for marriage because you really want to is, and debunking all this awful things that have been installed in purity culture. Love you all!!

So interesting and so important video, well done and thank you 💪 My little addition : it's never too late to ask to yourself all these questions and to change your mind. It's better to start on the path you actually want but if you didn't really take the time to think about any of this before and now you do, whatever where you are in life, it's never too late. Or if people made the decisions for you and now you want to be free and independent, in either way, like Amy said, take the time for yourself to discover what you really think is best for you. And much love and support to the survivors out there 🙏

Very respectfully discussed! I think it's really beneficial to have this perspective on the table.

This was the best weekend I could ever imagine having Thanks to Cimorelli and their inspiring words of wisdom And listening to their beautiful music 😭 Thank you so much Cimorelli for the time and effort you put into this video It means the world to watch your videos

Saturday is my favorite because I get watch and listen to Cimorelli all day long

thank you for talking about this!!! I couldn’t agree with you guys more. this subject totally needs to be talked about.

I’m a Catholic woman that has been shamed due to purity culture. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this. It’s so important that we as religious people speak against this. ❤

Praise the Lord!!! It's beautiful to see women out there who don't think men need to fall at their feet but also women who understand that women need to have a voice. "You are a child of God, and that is your identity," amen preach sisters preach! Amen raise our children to be pure but DO NOT condemn those who have made mistakes. Oh my gosh there was so much that you guys said that was so true! I definitely can see how the quiet quiet life I have lived has made my relationship difficult a little difficult because I was told that everything secual was bad before marriage. I wouldn't even say that I would just say it wasn't spoken about. And my boyfriend came from a Christian family that did have these discussions so it has been a huge culture shock for me. So thank you for having the courage and platform to talk about this. Being this is definitely fighting for Christian values, I pray this stays up a long time because unfortunately I see our culture dividing even more than it is.

AMAZING!!! Thank you for using your voice for good.

it’s so refreshing and just so comforting to hear you guys talk about this. MANY people needed to hear this so thank you guys so so much❤❤❤❤

This is amazing. I have never heard it said any better. Thank you for posing these questions!

As someone who has definitely *not* been part of purity culture I'd say Sex and meaningfulness might be compared to a hug? Like you can hug a bunch of people, maybe because you just really like hugs and they feel nice, but they don't have to necessarily mean anything further than "I just like hugs", where as in if you hug a friend, a lover, a family member, the hug might be more meaningful because of your connection to this person.

Periodtttttt. I feel like this topic is so important yet so unspoken. Man this culture is so godless nowadays and I’m so grateful that you guys are willing to speak up about it!

Amen! Thank you for speaking about this publicly. I do know people having these conversations more and more often. Toxic purity culture messed me up more than I knew for a long time. I have been working for years to rewire the damage it has done in how I view myself, my body, others and their choices, s3x, dating, etc. I’m still working through it. But I’m so grateful God has opened my eyes more to the things that have damaged me so that I can be more receptive to His healing mercy.

I am speechless and don't know how to express what how I feel about this video, but it is speechless in a good way because yes I think it is so important that you are talking about this topic and I agree with everything you said in this video. Thank you for talking about this and discussing it in a positive and respectful way.

OMG I loved this video so much. Thanks a lot for sharing!!!

I deeply needed this video I have had many questions that you answered thank you so so much This video made my day

I am personally a spiritual, one with the earth/universe kind of gal, was raised going to church and vacation Bible school etc.… I didn’t wait until marriage however I 100% appreciate Christina‘s questions because it’s very important! I have the opinion that doing that with just anyone isn’t good, you swap energies and you are actually doing a vulnerable thing with someone you may or may not know. Whether you process your emotions or not, it is an emotional and spiritual thing to do with a person. I know many women who have gone celibate and did in fact wait until marriage for their person and I think a lot of women or even men, go through that point where they don’t want to give up their bodies and emotions and spirit to just anyone. They want a connection. Love. I appreciate you girls so much for sitting down and speaking about this.

This is a great conversation handled so sensitively. You discussed issues that are either hidden or when spoken about there is only one answer and both sides can shame you for not coming to the right conclusion. Whether you are religious or not this video is so helpful for parents and children.

Respect is key. There are plenty of meaningless/not “sacred” experiences I can have that would leave me feeling disrespected and regretful (like a bad experience with customer service). Both people being intimate should, yes, consent to what’s happening, AND they should respect each other. I believe this holds inside and outside of marriage.

I think this is so interesting and love that you’re bringing up these topics. I personally did not wait until marriage and have no regrets but I also had I think somewhat of a rare scenario where I was in a relationship for a long time and had so many in-depth conversations about sex before ever doing anything. I was a teen and the way my girlfriend and I treated sex was very uncommon and different from the people around us.