Do you feel you have accepted yourself?

Am now 90 years old, a widower and healthy. Found out I was an INFJ about a year ago. Did lots of research (your videos sure helped) and came to this place you describe about 3 months ago. As I look over my adult life as an INFJ, everything you speak about in your videos describes me to a T. I had a behaviour I called, "the geographical cure." Moving to a different part of Canada on the basis of leaving all my problems and frustrations behind. Then rebuilding my place in the community until I wanted to move again. About every 3 years. I could write a book about Canada, for sure. My photo should be next to any story or book entitled, "The Road Less Travelled." Three months ago it all fell into place and this video convinced me that you're so right on. Have gotten into mindful meditation, which really helps one to stay in the moment and am being more realistic with myself and who I am. Am moving one last time, not for the reasons as above, but to be near my children and grandchildren. Thank you so much for your insight and understanding. It's been a slice.

I accepted myself after horrible discard from covert narc husband. I realized I have this amazing ability ( all INFJs do) of reinventing myself into a healthier version of me and protect my energy.

Oh my gosh, I just discovered this channel yesterday and this community is blowing my mind. Every commenter writes in complete sentences with proper grammar, haha. And all very introspective and polite. I can't describe the surrealness of feeling like I walked into a room of doppelgangers! I happen to be in the middle of my own INFJ metamorphosis, so this channel has come at the perfect time. I found my people 💕

48 yr old sigma infj male that is still learning how to be myself! Your channel is truley amazing and helpful. Thank you.

I can't accept that I have to work a shitty job because I don't have the energy to build a sidehustle that maybe one day could evolve into an self-employment. It feels like a maze you can never get out of-.-

Rejecting yourself leads to the dark side. Let's listen to ourselves and others to improve ourselves.

It's called blossoming. Instead of shame, we can be the type we are, just as everyone is allowed to be the type they are. We can unfold and open our faces up to the light of truth and acceptance, at last. No longer questioning ourselves and dreading all that we are, and dreading not being free like others. We can embrace ourselves knowing it's ok to be us, and no one can take that away from us any more.

I am an INFJ, a highly sensitive person and empath with codependent tendencies. I have stepped out of a narcissistic/alcoholic marriage relationship of 52 years due to self discovery and a spiritual connection to the Self of who I am through A Course in Miracles. It has literally transformed my life to honor and love myself. I am free 🕊️

I thought I was a sociopath with a conscience until I learned about the infj type. I feel like I switched from a black and white tv to colour. 🎉

Self inquiry is so crucial for us infjs, it aint easy to accept yourself if you dont even know who you are in essence

I’m blessed to have a wonderful wife that has excepted me for my quirks for 20 years, my best friend. She finds me interesting and she loves my dedication to our home and family. I’m suspicious that she’s an INFJ too. You’re exactly right and I finally turned that corner when I turned 51 years old. Life is good. 🙂

Absolutely let go of 'something is missing'

When it comes to expressing my political views as a centrist on social media platforms, I found it liberating as I was able to be true to my own beliefs and debate effectively. (Even if I got laughed at I felt I gave them cause to reflect on some of my points as they'll process our conversation) I discovered just last week that I'm a INFJ. I'm in my early 50's mostly because of a hard dysfunctional upbringing I've learned quite a few disfunctional coping mechanisms. But thanks to my faith in God and for having a fairly strong spiritual base I believe I'm on the mend and will flourish as a fellow human 🙏 Thank you for assisting in nudging us out of our cocoons and helping us transform into butterflies 🦋

This video echoes exactly what I've been feeling for the past few months. The moment I put those thoughts into action, I gradually became happier and lighter, I've learnt to manage my highs and lows now that I've accepted the strength that I have, I know I can support myself. I have felt a shift in the way I perceive things now that I've built a healthier mindset revolving around the points you've comprehensively described. You've put it to words amazingly! This video is a gem and I'll be referring back to it frequently. ❤

Somewhere in my distant past I actually did think that I was a strong person with a lot of resources. Unfortunately, I allowed myself to be talked out of it by significant adults (and some of my "friends") in my life. As I got older I finally learned that just because they thought I was lacking, it didn't make it true. How I learned and reclaimed my strength is a whole story in itself. But it was a lot like points one, three, and five in this video. As I begin to water my own grass and create a life as you mentioned in Point 3, I learned the truth of my favorite business writer who taught the concept of "the zip the lip" theory. IOW, "If you've got something good going, don't talk about it." It's easy for me to be tempted to slip off the wagon once in a while, but I figure that if I keep my acceptance showing in my behavior, sooner or later I will feel more confident again. Watching and listening to this video has helped to remind me that it's a choice and that it can be done. Thanks for this encouraging message.

Been single for 5 years and love my time alone. ❤

I am INFJ. I’ve struggled with this, I didn’t know what was wrong and I was seeking that while there was nothing wrong. I thought I would find that blemish, fix it and finally fit in and be happy. And what truly making me happy right now is seeing that no blemishes are in my personality. And that what was the only thing that finally let me develop. Thank you for your video! I needed that a few years ago a loot. I hope everyone needing this video will find it💛

I will never find that missing part in the outside world, I will find it inside myself. Those are words I need to remind myself of everyday. Thank you for your wisdom, Wenzes. At age 50 I am learning who I am through your video’s. INFJ to the max ❤️!

The process is slow but I do my best.

Once I accepted my anger and stopped feeling sorry for myself, the switch in my head flipped. I was like bruh, I'm done with peoples bullshit.

I got to a point that I had too! ❤ Fellow Infj Step into Yourself. Don't attach or minimise Make it a reality ❤ This is what your Soul wanted And see the Blessing . For Real!! Use your skills in a healthy way❤❤ It's a Super Power. But use it to focus on your fundermental truth ❤❤ We Are Leaders We Are Creators ❤ Thankyou

In all infj podcasts channels I resonate with you it’s like you are addressing my subconscious thanks a lot ❤

Oh my...I have felt for years that something is missing thus always searching, fixing....feeling consistently broken. Thank you.

Do I feel I have accepted myself? Yes. It sure took me long enough though. There for a while I had thought I had to be accepted by others in order for it all to work out for me. Accepting myself and finding out my capabilities has been good for me. Also being single and having all this time to pull it together, make improvements, and learn more has been helpful in living that epic INFJ life.

Thanks a lot coach ... ❤❤❤ I am approching 67 & after so long ... glad that finally I understand my self better that i am an INFJ. My husband had passed away 3 years ago & I feel sad that no one could understand me ... as if I am a sick person. Now I live alone but very independent, healthy, strong & active woman. Just when when I got 66 on last Nov'22, I decided to be a better version of my self on every aspect. I am very spiritual muslim. I thankful & grateful for who I am now, after long list of life problems in the past.

I have been on a self discovery journey for what feels like my whole life and I am 18 years old. I have been struggling to find something I am passionate about and I am in constant fixation/ hyper analyze of myself and the world around me and it's hard for me to be present. There's almost a whole that I dig myself into emotionally and I feel like I am struggling to find a way out of it. The feeling of something "missing" is very valid and I am on my journey to accept myself and my true nature.

You are Awesome…. I am finally getting to understand myself!!! ❤❤❤

Love your videos. I am really realizing my INFJ qualities. It would be great to see a video on INFJs in retirement. Its scary finally seeing my INFJ traits at work, but I’m getting ready to retire and don’t know how I’ll use those skills.

Yup I accept myself. I’m free! Woo hoo! 🤯 love me or leave me! Hahaha 🤣 my calendar is a suggestion, a pointer, the needle on a compass that points to the constantly changing magnetic north. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Thank you Wenzes! 😊

Love your videos. I can so relate to the feeling like something is missing. I am always searching, reflecting, fixing, analyzing myself so many decades it seems authomatic.

Another awesome video Wenzes! And you’re absolutely right! When you accept yourself, you become the most insanely strong version of yourself you didn’t even know you could be. It’s so freeing! I would much rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I’m not. 👍🏼 I hope you have an amazing weekend! 🙂🌹❤️👍🏼

At a certain point in my life, before I knew anything about the MBTI and the fact that I am an INFJ personality, I proclaimed to myself: I don't care what anybody thinks about me.... I'm just me. Or one time I saw a cute tee-shirt on a little baby that said:. God Made Me...and He Don't Make Junk!!! So, I am a 59 year old single Christian woman who loves God and loves others around her. I have had to take the attitude that "I don't care what people think of me.". Especially other Christians!!!! Or almost anyone. I pray for others, I pray for myself and always to do the best I can. You and your channel have taught me a lot about me... it's absolutely wonderful to know that I am not alone in what I go through. But according to the lesson today, it's fine to be alone.... that is how I grew up, pretty much by myself. I am not alone since I take into account what Jesus said in Matthew 28:20...: "I am with you always to the very end of the Age." How comforting is that, from the Creator of the Universe!! Thank you for all you do.... realize that God is using you to encourage the world around you!! Miss Monique 🙂🌷🙏💗

This is what happens in my life now a days. Thank you.

Yes I have accepted myself I figured out I'm loved and loveable for who I am exactly I'm done people pleasing I'm 27 y/o INFJ-A finally assertive to be my true sincere self and I'm fully into interdependence now

Acceptance of self is much more constitutive of Fi convergence as opposed to the INFJs Fe divergent pairing. The INFJ does not 'play a role' - role playing is much more indicative of the ISFP who can solidify their identity based upon archetypes (whether fictional or otherwise). In the MBTI community, Fe is commonly conflated with 'being who others need me to be'; as an Fe dominant, who is heavily invested in Jung's work, I can positively state that this is not an accurate depiction of Fe; Fe is simply the externalised perception of 'subjective' (not pertaining to a value judgement) data, nothing more and nothing less. 'Showing up authentically' is going to be a bit of a misnomer for Fe conscious types unless they have extensively developed their Fi dip function and this will be contingent upon the perceiving function to which is assigned and, whether this is in the divergent or convergent position. The recognition of an 'authentic' self is generally quite elusive for Fe conscious types and this is not to say that they are duplicitous in any way (indeed I am an Fe conscious type). People really need to go back to basics and ascertain precisely what each of the cognitive functions are to avoid the dissemination of misinformation, albeit which is well intended. The INFJ isn't 'known for looking forward' - Ni, intrinsically, has nothing to do with future projection (in case of the ENFJ, Ni in the authority position does have a future orientated 'quality' to it however). 'Starting to live in the moment' is much more the aspiration of a convergent ISFP; contrary to popular MBTI belief just because ISFPs are Se authority types does not mean that they will not struggle to engage in tangible reality if their Se-Te divergent pairing isn't sufficiently developed. You're right, lack of external change and progression for the ISFP can be a scary prospect; they are all about manifesting their Ni-Fi in concrete Se reality which appears to be being conflated with the INFJs Ni-Se axis. 'A great meal with a friend, a great conversation with your mother' - this appreciation is indicative of the ISFPs divergent Se-Te (the realm that is abided by/observed/rigid). Sure INFJs can appreciate such Se-Te pursuits but it is not their modus operandi. The 'made up world' again, not in a derogatory sense, is representative of the vague impressionist world of Fi-Ni whereas the INFJs Ni-Ti inner world is much more of an internal logical dialogue as opposed to a primordial ooze. I admire the ISFPs transformational capacity. It's worth mentioning, again, that INFJs aren't necessarily sensitive to others indeed they can present with very much of an aura of the ENTJ; they can actually be quite assertive and play devils advocate due to their capacity for logical prediction. This feeling of 'needing more' is akin to an Se authority function; the INFJ to the contrary is actually quite content extrapolating in Ni-Ti land and keeping the products of their theorising to themselves. I hope this is taken in the manner it was intended in an educational capacity; if I can reach one person who is actively searching for their true cognitive type then I will be happy. I've travelled the path of ascertaining my type and realising I was wrong on many occasions, there's no shame in that. ENFJ, 5w6.

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Thanks for sharing! This video resonates with me. Things have been tough, but I'm still coping with all the changes I've faced and my current situation. I was just saying the other day how I'm tired of worrying about what other people think of me or what they say, and especially those across social media who don't know me or never met me in person. Why allow strangers to control your thoughts and emotions? It doesn't make sense and it's a waste of energy. People will always have different assumptions, judgments, and perceptions about you, but that shouldn't change how you feel about yourself. True happiness comes from within. I personally believe I'm responsible for my own happiness, and I don't need anyone to make me happy. I thank God I'm made up this way, though it might seem strange to the majority of society. But one should already be happy with their self before anyone joins their inner circle. If not, you'll still be unhappy and dissatisfied even with the company of others.

Yeah it's awesome I'm not tripping on people trying to feel me make me feel small anymore like they do that because they're insecure and I get it

I’m a horticulturist and I water my own Grass is my new catchphrase… Or rather, may I borrow it as a catchphrase…non commercial? 😉 and u blow my mind so smart so self aware so young…how?

I am in this place of acceptance ;)🎉 and I highly recomend that ❤

I absolutely do accept myself ❤❤❤❤❤❤

I think the trauma comes from 0 to 2 years , usually before we remember . I just figured out of narcissistic my mom was , i got the mirror out and forgave her . I am not even sure i am infj anymore . Freedom ! I am just sad it took me 50 years.

Yes I've accepted myself, but not when I was young, I'm 59 years old.

👌🏻 you nailed it!

You're awesome, throw your fears out the window. Another great one 👍❤️

People are painful. They come at you like steamrollers, and dedicated human grenades. All while wearing the disguise of wife/mother, so I can say whatever I want to. Security and status quo from sleeping with a man, walks all over you in the work place.

You are so bang on that am amazed. ❤

I enjoyed this video! Thank you for the transparency and honesty, because you were able to translate the thoughts. “Water you own grass.” That statement alone is exactly what I needed to hear.

I see invisable things now, that Wenzes has help me calibrate my abilitiies... alot.

💯❤️‍🔥🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼Yes!! I‘ve been through this exactly the last months 🤩 Transformation completed ✅☺️✨

Your words are music to my ears and right on time! Thank you for helping me recognize exactly where I am and my next steps. I guess I will be learning to paint my kitchen. 😮😊

Cool!

Very great Video again ! I'm on the Best way to accept myself. I changed a lot in my Life. But it took time to realise that the biggest Thing in my life were unhealthy friendships and relationships i have because I hollowed my self out and be so foccussed on others than me for such a long period in my life. And i am so thankful to you for your Videos which helped me a lot to understand myself better. now in my 30 's i improved a lot in my life. I had to learn to Focus on myself and my goals and select unhealthy friendships. But do I accept myself ? Sometimes i think I am selfish or I have guilt when I say NO to others.but yes to me. But i learned that i have only this Energy which i have to be careful for. Sometimes i have doubts because of my retreats I need, when friends and family want me to be arround but i need selftime. But then i am gentle and kind to myself because its a long life process and i have time . I can maintain that gratitude and mindfulness is the key which helps me more and more to live in the moment. To feel that I can reach everthing i Want because i have the Power and its my life and I want to be open for everthing in life.

Yes!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

It's all true ✔🌹

What's the motivation to improve if we think ourselves perfect just the way we are. Maybe we should be realistic and acknowledge we are all very flawed and not worthy of everyone's respect and admiration. Maybe that is earned?

Conversation with my neurodivergent chocolate girl magic mother is great 😃💯👍🏾

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I did find self love and axceptance on who I am, 10 years ago, when I began to pray to God for protection, bcs I'm highly sensitive, it came automatically and I can feel the differens before and after praying ‼️I'm a Heyoka Empath who's Clairvoiant wt warm hands, when I saw a video about INFJ Heyoka, it was accurate‼️🎯◾🔺JazzyT.

Amazing🥰

Oh yeah, there is something missing in my life, idiots not harassing me for being my authentic self. Hating me for being beautiful, creative, intelligent and original without a group of people aggreeing with what I am doing or not. Duh.

Yes if you like me cool if you don't you know not everybody's got good taste so there's that

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Repetitive Sweet dreams Roll playing ideas Spiderwebing imaginations. Genius Genie future creating dreams to reality Subconsciously sweet dreams Collect the seconds of time with no distractions the path to the subconscious. Programming bedtime stories

If you don't love yourself, how do you expect anyone else to love you? This is obvious stuff that applies to everyone not just INFJs. Work on your personal development then worry about your personality type :)

Isn't made up...well might have made it and am fine with myself. The rest of you I am not too sure about

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This came at the perfect time 🤍 thanks Coach!

Thanks!

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