What is keeping you from being truly visible as an INFJ?

"You can't hurt me I've found peace within myself." Michael Jackson

I’ve mastered the art of not giving AF. I’ve no secrets and I do not care what people say about me. Abandon me at your own detriment, for those who have, regret the permanent loss of me, after I’ve slammed and barricaded the door…there’s no coming back and I don’t give AF. I’ve got no secrets and who am I to judge about judging?😉😂 🤗❤️🇺🇸

I actually have imposter syndrome now. Once my employer found out I was INFJ after taking the test, they began gaslighting and creating cases. I left but this happens all the time. I'm quiet so it makes people uneasy. My bf who has a software engineering degree said I carry myself like I have a doctorate even though I just have a HS diploma and life experience. The confidence I have and how quiet I can be being busy observing people unnerved people who are superficial. I see right through them and they hate it.

INTJ here. I think INFJs are very special. ❤

My new mantra is ‘Let them.’

Accept and embrace your difference, your weirdness. As you accept your differences you will find others will, too, and you will attract your tribe while avoiding those who misunderstand you. Trying to "fit in" is where INFJs constantly face rejection, so create your own space, your own world, and your own ways, and then share that with open minded people who dig your vibe. Don't try to be like others, be yourself.

Whoever has lost connection with true values has lost everything - "all is lost if character is lost "

I love how us INFJs need coaching! Im glad there are some other people out there like me, thanks internet!

This is a fabulous channel. As a 76 yr-old INFJ who didn't know that for much of my life, I appreciate this content.

This topic is closely linked to social anxiety and trauma, bad experiences from the past where we stopped going out and started avoiding people and expressing ourselves.

Dare to be seen, become a legend. People love our energy, as simple as that 👌.

When I realised that 9 out of 10 person who were saying I was weird, to me were narcissistic. They were doing this to ashamed me for clamping my abilities. So embarrassed about not being a sociality clone. And helped even more efficiently people.

Wow…I feel like God dropped this in my lap and I’m so grateful. I’m one of those people who have done lots and lots of internal work, made some progress, but my life pretty much exploded after I decided to publish my first fantasy novel a month ago. Exploded as in-my self esteem went down the drain as all my insecurities were dredged up and basically reinforced with mixed reviews and feedback. Rejection is my biggest fear, along with being invaluable and worthless. Anyway…half of me has regretted doing it, being in as much pain and agony as I’ve been in. But this video gives me hope that it’s the exact thing that’s going to heal me the most and set me free. And ultimately, I’ll do almost anything to be free of the emotional pain I’ve been in and the blocks that have held me back in life. Thank you 🙏🏼

Now I understand why I always felt so lost when I went out, as if I was an alien. As long as I was in my own space, home, I felt peaceful and had an identification but whenever I would go out, it felt like hell because nobody would think of me as someone special, even though I had such different thinking and ideas. I still feel that way but atleast I know that there's nothing wrong with me.

Fear of rejection and reprisals always hold me back. But reality is we can’t control how others react to us. This video is a wonderful message. Tough love ❤but needed.

I have been let myself seen as my pure Infj self for a few years now. Very interesting results. As excepted, some love it, some hate it, and some can’t get enough of it. Never expected this reaction at this level

Wenzes, a national treasure, nah a Universal treasure. Just on point with every character ishh❤

A person at work said I was dumb and weird and followed me with a smudge stick lol. It made me laugh and I walked away. She was furious. 😅

Fear of rejection, and fear of criticsm. For me its not that hard anymore to be authentic with friends and family, but in job life it feels really complicated and I feel like Im just at the beginning.

I don't know if this is an infj thing or not but throughout life I'm constantly improving and learning and I do feel that to some extent once people get to know this about me and see my true self that they can be intimidated by me. This has lead to many friends leaving me over the years. I feel like people seem to be resistance to change and because I'm forever changing it can bring up unusual feelings in those people.

"True community begins with the communion we cultivate within ourselves" - Lawrence Ip

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I never took the MBTI test seriously but after listening to your videos, you're clarifying a lot for me and it's surprisingly revealing. So now I'm thinking that there must be truth in it because your observations and suggestions are so relatable, compassionate, supportive & helpful. Thank you @Wenzes

When I made my big change it was a process: a change in conversational habits, and facing something that had been bothering me for a long time. I told very few people about it, but a lot of them were seeing changes - which they couldn't always explain. The steps I started didn't happen all at once, but bit by bit, things improved. And interestingly enough, I did manage to find the right people with whom I could talk about it freely. There weren't a whole lot of them, but they were key people, and that's what mattered. I know that the biggest thing that caused the change was simply doing certain things in a way that came naturally to me, and not explaining why or how. I still continue to grow, and I know a lot of the growth even now was based on the times when I made choices that harmonized with these five points you've made here. And by the way, in my experience when I am doing something my own way, I usually find out that a person who tells me, "You're weird" says it because I'm not doing it his or her way! 😄

Just walking around the mall yesterday I could hear comments as I'm walking by like, "where did he get that coat" or "how old do you think he is?" These are typically neutral comments but do people understand that we can see them staring at us in our peripheral view and that it extends to our hearing? Lol, people watchers can be the worst. 😂

Wenzes, I want to say thank you. I am both astonished (and quietely proud) of how much of what you say I figured out myself, including how to best approach it, as well as impressed at how much more there still is to digest. I also wonder what my life had looked like now if I had discovered this 30-40 years ago (I am 49). I still feel reluctance towards embracing labels and strict classifications on my condition, even if those understandings fit to a tee, and I am sticking those labels myself. The time I put any value on the labels others use is long in the past. i will purchase one of your prodcucts as a token of appreciation of what you do and what you give. I also want to extend my thanks to those in the comment section. I am perfectly fine alone. But it sure as hell feels nice to discover I am not the only one after all. Thank you, all of you.

1st 30 years living next 30 figuring it out.

Over time, I’ve realised It’s so important to grow to your full potential - to feel good about yourself and to be of service in the real world. Thanks for this content!

Ive been following Wenzes since 2020, and she still continues to be on par and deliver!🎉🎉🎉 Thank you😘 I gave my dream a shot and was shocked by the lack of support coming from my community in the way i had imagined it would. I kept thinking ppl were upset bc i changed directions or wanted to see me fail on my new venture, or doubted i was capable. I crumbled and i did step back and give up because I knew that if i had given up that easily then maybe i was approaching it from a hidden insecurity. This video answers my questions and confirms so much of what i was feeling was the cause and gives some practical guidance on how i can pick myself back up and move forward.

As an INFJ male, self-acceptance has been difficult as I'm not the stereotypical masculine man who likes weight lifting and cars, but I'm rather quite sensitive, artistic, empathetic, and sometimes I come across as quite serious and too deep and sentimental for some. But I've embraced my nature and learned that the only way to thrive is to be authentic so nowadays I try to not care about being "cool" or "normal" but just purely myself regardless of what others think

If I could take one INFJ video to a desert island it would be this one

First video of yours, really resonated with me! I’ve been reading a lot of experiences from people who does vipassana meditation and those who live like monks, and they talked a lot of things like this. I’ve feel like I’ve grown so much over the last year since I found out I was INFJ, and I can clearly see that people around me doesn’t follow where I’m headed, I’m constantly building more strength in all forms, and I’m ready to step out in the world again soon (I’m moving to a bigger city soon), after years of not meeting people much in real life.. I’m excited to be seen as a whole person and not the dozen of then and there impressions I make to be nice 😅

Thank you so much, your structure and communication of this topic is excellent and so helpful .

So very well couched. The transition to visibility is both challenging and liberating! Thank you.

I'm a big believer that we need to take responsibility to live good, rational lives. But these decisions are easier to make when we know ourselves better. When I listen to the explanations that you make, I appreciate the fact that you emphasize how we can take personal responsibility for how we handle what we were given to work with.

You are very good at this Wenzes.

Honestly, I feel ashamed when I am seen. I am afraid of letting my quirky side show. I am actually really quirky, when I'm not internalizing other people's gaze. I am so much up in my head and in my own world that I am sort of like the absent minded professor. And I know if I let that side of me show people are going to take me less serious and think that I am not dangerous or think that I am cute or whatever, and I don't really want that...

Gracias Wenzes! en verdad gracias, ahora estoy entendiendo mi ser INFJ, siempre me sentí tan fuera de todo, pero ahora mi espíritu se siente libre ...

As I watch your videos, I find myself taking deep breaths or not breathing at all...and then taking deep breaths. After nearly 45 years of life, I still don't like that this is a reality.

this video comes at a time, where I am pretty far on my self-concept journey, which made me guess if i am not an infj anymore after i am almost fine with who I am amongst other people ... but here we go...

Came to my feed at the ideal time. Appreciate you!

That’s a female perspective, not a male one. Fear is not driving force for the latter, but rather, integrity. Just cos people choose to be insulting, doesn’t translate into me being insulted.

I took the test in 1993 & they said my score was very exceptionally rare-about the top 4%. So, if only 1% of the population is INFJ, & I’m 4% of that..? No wonder I’ve struggled all my life. I’ve bounced between being very well looked up to & being the bottom of the bottom. I’m very reserved due to rejection & having had narcissists in my life. I’m now in a place where I’ve lost a lot of relationships. God is my helper!

This video is much better than anticipated. So on point! Describes the process I have been through so much! Wow...thank you so much! We'll done

You explained it so well. Thank you so much. Your videos are really helpful. Blessings to you!

Great message...timely! Your videos have changed my life. Thank you 😊

Love this: it's not reality it's a perspective.

So many "she (Wenzes) blew my mind" moments in this video.

Universe got me here 😂

I am an INJF living in Baltimore, Maryland and my lifelong obsession has been history. Now that the Francis Scott Key Bridge is siting in the Boy - the DEPRESSION that is fueled by others hater and ignorance is REALLY affecting me! No one understands and it hurts my heart.

Thanks you Wenzes! I needed this! Your video's are helping me a lot getting my epic life!! ^-^

Thank you- I am still in the caring what people think phase

Thanks. This topic seems like one of the most important, because pursuing life as our true selves is one difficult thing, but then knowing the reactions to expect as a result, how those reactions affect INFJs, and techniques for handling those reactions is very helpful--including encouraging. Courage to be our true selves is something discussed across cultures throughout millenia. What does Wenzes think about Stoicism aligning with INFJ types?

I just laugh at them cause its funny to me 😂🤭 when they try to put me down, make fun of ne, mock. When they try to bring up my past I tell them " my bad, i forgive myself for my bad ways but im not there anymore" and roll my eyes

I needed this. Thank you ❤

I appreciate your wonderful wisdom, thank you 🤍

I needed this. Thank you!!

This means a lot and also came at a time when I'm struggling with this issue! Thanks for sharing this, Wenzes! ☺

I really love your advices. Very Empowering ideas you have. Do make more advices for fellow INFJ people. 😍😍❤❤

I really need to talk to an INFJ, just one conversation to ask for a judgement about something that i feel guilty about. anyone? please let me know and i would appreciate it very much because it's gonna help me with self realization.

Just out of curiosity, I've noticed KZfaq has made changes to cards and video links for in-video pop-ups, and I don't think any of you have noticed. The video you reference at the end of the video actually pops-up a minute and a half before your queue. I have noticed this, because these pop-ups cover-up the video in the most inconvenient places and times. I mention this only because I want to know if you all have even noticed, or if you review your videos before-hand to make sure they display correctly, or if you just "Spray and Pray."

Thank you so much , that was very insightful You ve got a new subscriber 🌹😇🌹

I'm such a old INFJ I make it easy for people to know what to expect from me, and I don't care what they think or say, I'm used to it.

Thanks!

Your videos help me so much❤

This is a fantastic video ❤ thank you Wenzes! 💫

Hmm. But we are supposed to have some level of engagement. Ive put my book out thrre 4 years and 200 followrrs and still extremely low to no engagement. I want to reach certain folks and certain avenues and have taken steps to connect with people in those areas. Its discouraging because people dont understand anymore it seems what healthy engagement is

Amazing content. Thank you!

Thank you so much for all of your work! I’m blessed to be experiencing this point in life 💕

Wait I can have epic life?!!!

"The slave is waiting for a reward. The happy person rewards himself." - Pavel Nováček "The system is creating slaves." - Jaroslav Dušek What is nice about these quotes, you can be manipulated at work, feeling like nothing you do is good enough, even if you make all the plans 100 percent. or you can be manipulated by social media algorithms and nonsense, or by corporate media. But only when you abandon yourself, only then is it a problem. You would abandon yourself and others, you can not give love to yourself and others. because in the materialistic 3D world, nothing will be good enough. Go out, enjoy nature, the sun, the fresh air, and exercise. It's for free and nature will never make you feel that you are not good enough. The body is listening to you, therefore you should listen to your body, to feel joy, happiness, and gratitude for yourself and others Scientists prove that it makes you look younger and live longer because it activates enzymes called Telomeres and it increases the immune system of the body.

I am very interested in INFJ women.

Being an INFJ is tough as s###, mentally. Its exhausting. Wenzes state of mind is my aim, as everything she says is who i am, with frightening accuracy. She knows how to fix our gifted, yet messed up minds lol.

This is such great advice. ❤

Amazing! Thank you!

Subconscious programming and projection- confront my feelings, right

I have a new statement: Fit OUT

great video

Talking right to me.

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Ich liebe diese Sendung!

Not only does she have my personality type, she pretty much speaks with my accent as well. Go figure

Yep we do stick out. I try to blend but it doesn't work. I get the odd looks no mayter what

🤣 it pisses a lot of people off, but its oh so weight lifting lol

Thank you

Whats tge problem with being weird?

I built sigma on top of my INFJ to deal with and advance the developed sense of mission/self. I really love to analyze then advocate, but also recede to recharge. I still love adventures in ideas and learning. I am now 61. I am respectful, but forthright. I stay fact-based, and as objective as possible. This keeps me away from dialoguing about me, just advocacy.

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Question; why does it feel , that’s a circle of babbling of con friction .

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INFJ 1% HD Reflector 1% It'd be interesting to know how many INFJ's are also Reflectors in the Human Design system 🤔

Question ; why do we feel , that was just a babbling circle of constructive suggestions .

Inspiring message; some people deliver a message and are long gone before the feedback arrives! Light is faster than sound! God bless you infj sister! 🩸❤️🌈🔥🔥🔥👍

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Don’t even judge yourself “ I did not said it Thad is on the Holy scriptures if you read thad books 📚 the right way ‼️❤️🖥️🤩🤩 11:30

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