Sarah Mbugua pls don’t give up, God has got you xx

Sarah Mbugua from another Kenyan sister, hang in there with prayer and see if God can work His thing. As long as you are safe emotionally and physically hang in there with prayer first and listen to Him. Barikiwa. Ndoa sio rahisi but na mungu inaweza kuwa rahisi. Encouraging you from Canada. Ps: just said a prayer for you and I believe that between you and I He will hear us.

I have been reading books on relationships since I was about 21.. I've always had a desire to learn how to have a healthy relationship 👌 I want to be happy!

@@christysmith7558 Dont forget that your mate probably hasn't read, you may have major disappointment if you have high expectations, you won't know what he should or shouldn't know because you learned things that you found more important.. Give it to God!

I wonder if this bloke's God's perfect, specific and all loving will for you in the first place... and if not, I pray you don't force it. Trust me, I speak from experience

Me too~

Read the book “love and respect” by Dr eggrich

Owning what you did and truly apologizing and not repeating the behavior will show you mean it,then ask for forgiveness then sit and talk and really listen to what she says she needs without interrupting so she feels what she has to say means something to you, I am temporarily separated myself 38 years of marriage this month so I’m truly speaking from experience,when you allow her to speak without berating her you will see her heart softening and the intimacy will come back,we are also going to separate counseling to heal ourselves then we will do marriage counseling,idk your whole circumstances but mine is many years of pain and I pray daily,my Bible study group prays and so does my ARMS class ,I believe in power in prayer, you can turn this around by walking in the lord not just talking in the lord 🙏🏼

Just u being is a open door for God, 1 Peter 5:6 read that and just think on it. Anytime u follow God's word, he will give u strength and support

A great start would be to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Read your Bible everyday start in the Book of John. Ask God to guide you to a true Holy Ghost filled Church of holiness, pray on your knees, ask Jesus to forgive your sins and tell him you want to be a loving husband and would love to win your wife’s heart back. God listens to prayers like this because he’s the best healer I have ever known.

Do what you did when you courted her! Return to the first love! May God help you!

Thanks alot.☺

This is beautiful and biblical! Can’t go wrong doing these!🙌🏻🔥

Amen Pastor. Good job revealing truths straight from the bible

I wish you and your husband a BEAUTIFUL, Loving, True marriage where there's mutual respect (even during conflict), appreciation and that you care for each other as much as you care or yourselves. May you be a blessing to each other. Cheers!

Hi there. Is it still a blessing?

Really turn to God, read the Bible, be gentle with your wife, make a budget both of you do that together and don't give up. Jamaican here too. Stay strong, keep the faith.

Blaize Vevo God Almighty will retire your marriage. Don’t give up and try and watch these sermons with her if you can. It will help a lot if your both listening and reading the word of God together.

Have sex, connect and you'll start communicating more and start to listen to each other of how you view your finances and ideas will come together of how it can be remedied.

Start praying silently for your wife, every day, the Lord only can give you wisedom to act the right way. Pray for your wife, for her to see your needs. And start acting the way you are supposed to act even though your wife is still the same. Bring her flowers and love her even if you feel like she dont deserve it with her behaviour. This really really works. It worked for me, the Lord really listens to people when they desperately need Him. It also is very important to trust the Lord and give everything in His hands. It brought such wonders in our relationship I can't even describe.

Pray for her, pray for your marriage, get other men to pray for you. Admit your mistakes and listen till you hear her heart. Seek wisdom from older loving Christians that can lead you closer to God... He will not drop you... It's not in his nature

I know how you feel,alcohol has nearly destroyed our marriage,that is why we are temporarily separated,until he quits I’m not going back and my church supports my decision of setting boundaries so we can have a healthy marriage by putting each other 1st over anything else but god.

@bravoman praying for you man. I hope you continue to watch these videos.

@bravoman My husband is on the same path you are. He’ll be there eventually if we don’t change. My husband and I are temporarily separated and whenever we’ve separated, even for two days, it’s changed things for the better. I’d definitely pray, pray alone and see where God moves you. He honors and loves marriage.

@bravoman Do you have a church you belong to?

@bravoman It’s not good for you to be alone. Call a church, find a church man. You can’t be alone right now.

@bravoman I’m sorry to hear that you are experiencing pain in your marriage . And I’m even more sad that u r blaming God for the wife you choose to marry... I don’t think that God had a gun at ur head, asking you to marry her on ur wedding day at the altar . He gave all of us free choice and wisdom ( if we allow the Holy Spirit to reside in us and we have “ the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom”). Last year, I had a church guy coming to me and telling me that God told him that I’m his wife. I was naive, I thought it could be ... even if I felt strange because I did not feel any spiritual connection, attraction zero ... but I said : “ if God said so, let me give him the chance and know him better”. I realized that he was trying to manipulate me big time and he was not a truly christian and also I was praying and fasting , asking God also for a confirmation ... without realizing that the lack of peace , the red flags I kept on seeing, the fact that there was no attraction at all and we had different views even spiritually - were the confirmation that he was a counterfeit . If I’d have listened to the man’s pressure to marry and give into the thinking that it’s ok not to feel anything for the man , no attraction - as long as he is from God- I’d have been fooled and honestly I would not have blamed God for that .... because He showed me red flags when I searched His will in prayer and fasting , I had no peace about that and I’d have to live with the consequences. Nevertheless , God can restore any relationship. Read the book “ Every man’s battle” and hopefully u’ll understand some of the reasons u might not feel attracted to her ( perhaps feeding the eyes with the images of other women online, on the street, magazines ,addicted to pornography, comparing her to other women, not respecting the covenant u made with her in front of God etc .... all these are stealing from ur marriage, from the attraction u would feel towards ur wife because God would honor ur decision to respect and have eyes for the woman u married). God bless you ! Pray for community , pray that God will restore ur marriage and do not give up to what Jesus did for u, do not give up to ur salvation ! No one in this world will ever be more by your side than Jesus .... no one. Don’t give up bro! Take ur broken pieces to Him . Jesus loves you☺️

I think your marriage could be amazingx youve has a lot of experience and you've grown and maturedx I'm quite young but would it not be the same as before❤️ the basics are still the samex

I understand what you mean.I lost my husband 2 years ago.All the men at my church that are my age are married.The few that aren't are really settled into being old. I don't go to bars or club as a christian and have no idea how to meet young in heart men my age.It's discouraging

LVNCSR I am glad that you divorced him. Ask God for his will and make a choice depending on you having peace in your heart or not.

LVNCSR~You did the right thing by divorcing him. You have to release men like him, they can't and won't change. 60s is still young, especially if you have a young mind and young spirit. These qualities add vitality to your life. As far as wishing God will find you a man, God will lead the way but you also have to start moving, interacting, and socializing, for only than God can send you a man. Lastly, take your time before investing too much time and attention in a man. In any man. By taking our time to get to know a man, we can avoid men who are not good or kind. Taking our time will reveal any red flags that will be presented in early courtship. Wishing you all the best in dating and mingling! 👍

Hello dear sister, your story touched my heart. He did not deserve you and in the case of adultery you had the choice to divorce. The Lord wants to give you the desires of your heart and you pray for a good God fearing husband just like I did and he can bless you with one. He did it for me. Maybe you did get remarried now, but if not go on Christian Mingle that is where I met my husband and two other friends I know. God bless you!!

Am so sorry dear, but according to the Bible. God hates divorce, however one can chose to give a certificate of divorce in the issue of adultery. And He goes on to say, if any of you remarry, you are committing adultery and that is a sin against God So, be thankful and rejoice in the Lord your God, who would you rather please yourself or God? Who would you obey, your feelings and desires or God's instructions? Your answer would determine the state of your heart with God.

You did the right thing. I'm in the same boat except I'm 65. I have to start over, getting a job, supporting myself again. I know why God hated divorce. It's because He had to divorce Israel and He knows the pain of it. But I'm on the same page with you and trust that God will being me a love who will not abuse me. I learned to love myself and respect myself through all the abuse. God is a wonderful, forgiving, and faithful Father. I am not giving up on love.

I knew some rebuttal would come🙄

Please listen to all the teachings before responding! He covers all of that 🙄

Listen again beginning at 16:28 minutes/seconds. Also, parenting doesn't only apply to the mother. It applies to both parents and parenting is 24/7.

Great idea but be a husband that works and fully takes care of the kids and still have a wife that's not available. You become a doormat

Well.... Some people aren't that way. What you have between your legs doesn't define your personality or intelligence...

When someone abandons you, do not block the doorway they are walking out of. I pray that Jesus covers you and your baby to protect your heart and mind.

Praying for God to intervene in your husband’s life and bring revival to your marriage 🙏

He never claims to change them. God does.

Can a man find a woman he loves not attractive?

@@mrs.heathergrafe4330 your question is confusing.

@@nataliasolakian6717 HA HA I kind of meant it be but what I was getting at was the idea that if we love (or decide to love) someone, then our love sort of makes them attractive to us. I think "attraction" would have to be a wholistic sort of attraction rather than merely physical. I don't really know the answers - I was just raising this idea for consideration into the discussion. My husband's looks are not what drew me to him at first... and I even know of a man (a really wise one, I'd say) who asked God to help him see a certain woman that friends/family were trying to set him up with the way that God saw her (instead of just ignoring their setup attempt) and .... and after a little while he wanted to marry her (and she accepted) and they've had a long and fruitful marriage and life together.... it was not obviously 'love or attraction at first sight' for him. I don't know. Plus I do know quite a few people who have made arranged marriages where they barely get to meet before marrying work really well and statistically arranged marriages and "love" marriages are not that different in "success" rates. So that's probably my even longer, more confusing thoughts and questions on the topic. (Smiling emoji).

Absolutely not.

There's womans "argument starting logic" right there.

I don't know the specifics of your marriage but in every marriage the sexual desire tends to wane after the first couple years and then it becomes effort on both of your parts to keep the romance alive. Almost EVERY woman has a lower sex drive than her man and it is very common wives to neglect the sex. I'll bet that if I spoke to your husband he would probably say that YOU have stopped doing things that made him want to marry you also. I would not be surprised if he said that you slowed down the sex long before he stopped the romance, and then he eventually stopped the romance because he was not seeing a return on his emotional investment. So many women pretend to be into sex more than they are, into sports more than they actually are, into politics more than they are, etc and then once they get the guy to marry them the mask comes off and the woman decides she no longer needs to pretend and stops going to games with her husband, starts getting annoyed when he talks politics, and then rejects his sexual advances WAY more often than when they were dating. And then these women act shocked that all of a sudden her man is no longer buying her flowers, opening doors for her, saying sweet words to her, giving her back rubs, etc. I agree with you that marriage (especially the sexual relationship) is reciprocal, but sadly so many women are deluded into thinking that they contribute way more to the relationship than they actually do. A man can work overtime for three weeks straight and his wife will think that spending an extra hour to make him his favorite dinner makes them "even" in the reciprocation department. A woman has boring "obligation" sex with her man (where she does next to nothing but lay there lifeless) and all of a sudden she holds that over his head like he should be kissing her feet for a week and not ask for anything sexual for an extended period of time. If a women mops the floor her man better acknowledge it and praise her like she is superwoman, but if the man spends his entire Saturday fixing the family car then that was just his duty as man of the house and instead of praise he is likely to get an "its about time, I've been asking you to fix the noise in the car for weeks. do you even care that it could have broken down for three weeks?" Of course I am generalizing with my examples but you get the picture.

@@tyronebiggums1047 most women or actually lesbians

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