So true. Before you can think about "us", you have to know "you", but to know "you", you HAVE TO know Him. Excellent way to do the actual work of God.

Without ever dating I have a pretty good idea on this topic. I am 17 and there is this girl I've liked for almost 2 years now. Her and I talk and are really good friends, but for this whole time I have worried about it constantly, and during this past summer it really got to me and I was super depressed for awhile. I ended up talking to one of my friends about it and through a lot of conversations I eventually realized that I just needed to stop liking them for lack of a better word. I'm not really sure how to explain it. I had to decide to just let it go, and as soon as I did that day I just felt so peaceful and more happy than I had been in a long time.I still talk with her every day and I'd say we are even better friends now, but I just don't think about liking her anymore. When you date, you give up a lot of freedom that you otherwise have. I can do so many things that my friend can't because I'm single. Also you have to deal with so much else in high school that putting the extra stress on can make it unbearable sometimes. So my answer to this question is really to just wait. There is so much more of a life ahead of you, and you need to focus on you before you can focus on someone else. And before you can focus on you, you need to focus on God. I am really glad I was able to just say no, and that one word has changed the last month of my life so much. I also said how happy I always was when I was around this girl, and my friend told me something which is probably one of the most important and most valuable words I've heard in my life. "Don't put your happiness in a person." That is so true. People will fade away, and the love and happiness of people is not perfect and is corrupted. But putting my happiness on God will never fail.

Yea i changed a lot since I was 17 now I'm 24 and I think to myself what was I thinking Haha I really need to get closer to God

I’m 15 and I hope to find a guy who I can date then marry. Sometimes I worry that I’ll never find anyone, but then I try to set my focus back on God. And I pray that one day I’ll find someone. 💕

I don't think its about age its about spiritual maturity... I've met some 30 year olds who weren't ready for a relationship and some 14 year olds who were. its not about age its about your relationship with God. He wants us to have a relationship with another person so we can have a physically intimate (once we are married) where with God we're spiritually intimate.

I think that before dating, a person should consider their walk with God (just as you mentioned) and they really should pray about it and seek God's guidance before doing anything.

I think it is really important to know who you are in Christ before you get to know someone else in the aspect of dating and compatibility, and to have the maturity to support a godly relationship. Yet this maturity could come at any age for some people. My grandparents started dating when they were 14, my parents when they were 16, and both have lead beautiful, godly, and fulfilling marriages. So I know first hand that teen Christian dating can work. The topic is all very subjective but I think it does come down to maturity. Most people only find that maturity when they're older and have graduated high school, while others find it at a much younger age. It all depends on the person, their identity in Christ and what God's plan is for them.

My Brother , My heart is broken ! 😭 I can't take it 😥 . I gave my life to Jesus and followed by it I got into a girl , now I'm heart broken to say that she left me 😭😭

Thank you so much for the video!! Finally there is a modern, mature, and wise Christian that gives advice to teens like me

Thanks for this video! As a mom of four, I’m looking for some questions and answers to have ready in my pocket when the time comes. Instead of focusing on the age but the readiness of the person before dating is a great angle to look at dating as a Christian. It also helped me to see that more than worrying about the mistakes I don’t want my kids to make, I need to focus on helping them find places to nourish their relationship with God as well as praying for that. Thanks!

Im 15 and while having a boyfriend sounds so good, the ultimate goal is marriage and I don't think I'm ready for a commitment that big yet. I haven't avoided dating but I'm not actively looking atm

So God wants us to first have a relationship with Him thank you so much

This is absolutely true! As a 20 year old, I get so caught up in finding "the one" especially at church. Everyone around me is in some kind of relationship even some younger than me and I guess the pressure is high. But I've been praying about it because I know well that I'm not near ready and that it's just my surroundings that affect me. I know I have to seek Jesus first and make him the center if everything. He is more than enough and I definitely need to feel, believe and live that. Thank you so much for your insight and perspective

i would like to see videos on long term christian relationships, how much to text/ call, when to let go, how to talk about boundaries, how to spend time so that this long term relationship may results in a succesfull marriage.

wow... The video is perfect... to God be the glory*** no one can love enough bt the person compromising to love God, cannot love the other one...(bf or gf)

As a teen, this is a great perspective that I can apply to my life. Thanks!

Thank You For The Knowledge..Keep It Up ..God Bless!!🙏💖💯

I totally agree with you Justin. And those 3 questions you raised are really necessary. You can imagine how hard question number 2 can be even for adults. I think Getting answers to these questions are really necessary in order to get a direction in life generally. Love this! 👍

Thank so much for clearing me🙏🙏🙏 Higher Grace sir

very lovely video bro..Thq for best advices....The questions were quite intresting

I know this video is old but I really thank you for this. I almost got myself into something I don't need to be in before I have my relationship with God worked out first. As a 16-year-old, I frequently wonder about who God will set into my life as my partner but now I realize I need to work on myself first. Once again, thank you for this.

I love your videos, such grate advice ! May God keep blessing you!

I agree in some degree. My parents met at 16, married at 21 and have been together for 20 years :) I do agree with you though. You do change as you grow so it all depends on when God has things planned :)

I really relate to what you said about evaluating who you like in high school. That's what I did, and still do. The guy I liked, well I guess you could say we're pretty compatible. Friends would even say we're a perfect match. However, I never wanted things to go further than friends because he wasn't Christian, well, no... I guess you could say he was taking baby steps in his faith. Even though we're out of high school, I still pray for him. Sorry for the rant😂 By the way, your shirt is so cool!

Don't date till you are ready to survive and fend financial for yourself. Ive had many friends who went to Christian colleges got married but after they entered the workforce for a couple years ended up in a divorce. Now on the opposite side of that perceptive I also believe that God can take any two people and make that marriage work if they both are committed to God. The road won't be easy. But it can work. Relationships take work and commitment. When you personally not stable or grounded in your belief, emotions and relationships with others around you. (which usually happens after the age of 23 or 24.) don't really need to date.

Thank you for this great insight, this video was very helpful. Your videos are brilliant, really glad I came across this channel, God bless!

Hey Justin! I would say 20 is a good age! I agree with what you have said! Nice shirt! Please pray for me to be happily single and also single and satisfied in Christ!

Hey man great video bro 👍 I dont know if you see this But i also loved your background music , what is the beat name man 💪

great video! very relevant to my life right now

This video helped me quite a bit as a high schooler! Also can you tell me what the music is in this video?

Thanks for this, I have a good friend and I think I started liking him though I know my relationship with God is good I have no idea about my calling and career and I think u are right. U just relieved me from such a big dilemma❤

sooo good!! 👍

i just came across your channel and have watch some of your videos. that are really inspiring thanks

May the good Lord continually bless your ministry.🙏🏾

This helped so much thanks ❤

Well said brother

thank you so much for advising teenagers like us

This video was very helpful to me. I would always see my other friends get into relationships and I always think why am I not with anyone. There have been times I could've gone into a relationship with someone but for some reason I couldn't bring myself to do it and I thought something was just wrong. But in actuality I am still finding myself and purpose and am not ready for the responsibility of a relationship

as a 17 year old in 2024, the fact that this video is still relevant is amazing. thank you so much for all your videos because they help me and all of the viewers a lot!

this video is very helpfull :)) I have this question in my mind every day and I didn't have a specific answer. But thank you for opening my eyes :)) 100% better to have a relationship first with God and than with someone else :))

Wow, I love your approach to this topic, will definitely add this to my modus operandi. I often ask teenage people around me this 3 question. 1. "What's the essence of a relationship" 2. "Who are you" 3. "What is your purpose" - why did God create and send you to the world.

My mother says I can date at any age, as long as we thoroughly talk about it first and my parents will debate whether or not if he's the right one for me

That was very informative and very wise suggestions. I will have to have my daughter subscribe to you also. Thank u n God bless u

Hey Justin! Not sure how I stumbled upon your videos but they've been a blessing for sure. :) Also, unrelated but I think we actually have quite a bit of mutual friends.....that sounds creepy but it's not meant to lol. Anyways, to get to the topic at hand, I myself am 24, about to finish college, have always been a Christian & gone to church & the whole 9 yards (though that by NO means defines your relationship with God, said relationship is not defined by a set of rituals), but only now do I feel God has brought me to a point where it's reasonable to start dating, when God opens the doors with the right person. I did have one relationship in undergrad with another Christian, but he was not of the same faith as me, & I did the whole over-justification-to-myself thing that so many of us do, because we want it to be the right relationship & we don't want to mess up & go through that hurt. Not my brightest decision, but--oh, did I mention I was 19/20? Yeah, college plus that relationship especially did a LOTTTT to mature me (though I'm still a work in progress! see Phil. 1:6) & to help me realize GOD MUST BE FIRST. It doesn't matter if you're both well-meaning, praying, Bible-believing Christians; if God isn't #1 in your life & consequently in your relationships, FORGET IT. He WILL lead you to where you need to be, & who you need to team up with--not just in personality compatibility, but also for the sake of ministry & of nudging each other closer to Christ as Christ leads you. But you (we) must have God first & trust Him with our lives. After all, if He loves us AND knows us more than anyone else possibly could, & He does, why WOULDN'T we trust Him to lead us to the best decision? ...boy, for a single person, I sure got a lot to say lol. Well I'm done for now xD GB!

Can you talk about flirting and flirting over social media? Thank you for this video

I actually relate to this,I am currently dating my first gf and I do feel at times that I was focusing more on us than what formed me.I love my girlfriend but also I want to explore the Lord as well and connect with Him, she's not any trouble 😄😁but I value this advice very much and I'm glad I was here to watch this.Thanks for this advice and God bless you

very useful! thanks. Could you please do a video on friendships between opposite sex? Can a trully guy-girl friendship exist without the question of dating appearing? ( being both single Christians, specially) What to do if you are confused about your feelings and intentons with a friend of the opposite sex, how to figure them out, and know What God wants from your relationship

This was like my psychology course: no answers, just questions and relativism.

I completely agree, I have been looking at numerous videos concerning dating and courting and one simple way to identify if you are ready includes do you know the three M's. Do you know your "Master, your Mission and then your Mate?" I am 20 and again Completely Agree with what was stated, I have changed dramatically in maturity (though I was already mature before) and in understanding. As women we are a help-mate to our spouse, in order to accomplish that our spouse needs to know what God is calling him to accomplish and we as women need to have a general understanding of what God is calling us to do as these two calling will intertwine and ultimately enhance the Kingdom.

some people think dating is just for having fun , well it's not fun when the relationship is over and feelings are hurt. Dating is the path to find your future partner . if that becomes only a game , your will get into many troubles .

I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 16. She was more aggressive than I was. I learned a lot from her; she helped me break out of my shell. We met at the right time. I matured which helped me later when I came to Christ.

I just feel lonely please pray for me😐

What should you do when the parents of the person you are dating don't like you and are very discouraging and only rebuke your girlfriend/boyfriend while also not demonstrating good christian ideals?

you have to know first your purpose and that is to honor and love God then He'll do the rest .. :)

What advice would you give to marriage if one continues to mature, and other emotionally remains young? I've seen many marriages that end up unbalanced, that usually ends up divorced. Waiting until 21 before getting serious, or even dating - that is probably more true for collage students. Met plenty of blue-color workers who got married right out of high school, and had a good marriage. Perhaps a better milestone - are you going through major INTULECTUAL changes? if so, better to put off relationships until you settle into the "new" you.

Hi man, I am from Ecuador, I like your videos, I would like to know: How to know who is the right person to me?

These days I've thinking about getting a girlfriend. This video helped me a lot to think and focus on what is really important. I have things to do like in my church and school. Maybe this pressure of being a teen and don't having a girlfriend lead me where I shouldn't be. God bless you all. First seek his kingdom.

When I was a teen, a pastor told me that you shouldn't start dating until you're ready to get married within two years. I thought that was pretty sound advice, although at the time I took it to mean that I could start dating around 16 or 17. I'm 25 now, and I've only started dating two months ago. I can honestly say that even at 22 or 23, I wasn't ready, I still had too much to learn.

You're awesome 👍👍😁 I do want to get married by the time I am 21, but I agree completely w/ the ?s that one should ask b4 diving into dating. Wonderful video & stories. To anyone reading this: God loves you & gives you purpose + I love you #stayblessed #Godgotu 😘😘😜🤗✌

Whoa, more dating tips! How many videos do you have on the subject? My $0.02: 1) Seems like the criteria you established to be ready for dating is more akin to being ready for marriage. 2) I've been married for 18 years and neither I nor my wife are the same people we were when we got married, sanctification will do that too you. Sooo...expect to grow. Its good your helping people who are thinking relationships, the world needs answers. Let's make sure we give them, in grace and truth. Keep it up!

"No man should go on his life without his woman, and no woman should go on her life without her man" the message God told me

"To become the person the person you are looking for is looking for."---Andy Stanley

I believe that it greatly depends on the person. Some should wait longer, some less. The Bible simply says that one should be past the bloom of youth. It doesn't list a specific age. I think that if a young person wanted to start dating they should really examine themselves as well as consult their parents. If they are spiritually and mentally developed, it's probably okay to go ahead. It's ultimately a personal decision.

As a sophomore in college Walking with the lord I defiantly agree with what you were saying

Hello justin! I am 17 years old and i have been in a relationship for two years now. We both believe in God and I put God before everythink, my boyfriend isn't as important as God.. Our relationship is very strong and we make plans about future and marriage. What do you think? Am I doing the right thing? Please help me, I am very confused about my age , dating and such things.

Hi this video came out a while ago but I keep coming back to it. And I honestly don't know how to let god lead my life and me change for him and him alone and not a boy that will probably not last please help me!!!

My question: What should you do if a non believer wants to be with you? i read about it that you should not yolk urself with them but if they marry you that they will be made holy because you are holy

I am 13 and I write to my future husband everyday, I have talked to God about is it okay to date someone at my age? I have a strong relationship with God and I try to think about God in everything I do...I know I’m very young, but I have all my Faith in him...I have gave up my life to him and I know this may seem cheesy I’m just very mature for my age....Anyways back to the point...I love God and I know what I want for in a guy because I look at guys in my school and I see what I don’t like and what I do....I had one of my best friends in my class I just didn’t know it yet,and so we got seats by each other and we already knew who each other were and we have talked a couple of times but now it was different I started realizing how much Faith and Love he has in God...I was starting to like him and I knew it was gonna be a big thing because I had never felt like how I do with him...Every night I prayed to God about I and I asked him is it okay to date him if I see this going somewhere? I never got an exact answer on how I wanted so went to the Bible I looked at some verses that helped me about what I was going to say if the guy ever asked me out and how to handle it...I then went to my dad on what to do..he said it’s okay..your gonna seem nervous at first because you have need had this happen to you,and you are finally going into how everything works and different things like that then after that I went to a friend who is close to my age and has gotten a boyfriend and I asked her and she said it’s okay if you truly like him do it! Then I went to my mom my mom asked me three questions right away saying Christian,Kind,smart? I said yes yes and yes 😂 I was nervous because I am not the type of person who likes to waste time and I just don’t want to hurt him or me or just end things badly if it ever happened...he asked me out and he said yes... I am talking to God and I know it’s what he’s wanting right now due to our talks...it may not be in the future but it how you learn..I just feel like am I going to be frowned upon because of that reason

Is it really possible to be in a relationship, but not have sex if you are a guy? If so, how do you prevent yourself from having sex if you dating?

The real question isnt what age but how mature the mind and spirit should be

So, what if I am 16 and the person I like is 4 yrs older? I know I obviously have to wait AT LEAST 2 yrs to date. But, what should I do in the time being. I have a strong relationship with God, and I would never let a guy or relationship keep me from pursuing Him. But what should my friendship look like with the guy? Is it ok give any impression that I like him? Would becoming close friends speed things up too much? What should I look for in him as I get to know him better? Sorry that is a lot of questions any advice is appreciated 🙂😄

Thank you 😊

The thing is in this modern society, it seems to be a normal thing to date at a very young age. I'm 14 and already a lot of my friends are in a relationship. I have decided that I'm not ready for a relationship, but that will probably seem very weird for the people around me. How do I deal with this?

Is there such things as age Gap that's to Big to be considered a Christian relationship?

Thank you sir you helped a lot but how can l just end the relationships

what if your a sophomore in high school and really like a girl that you have known for quite some time now. I feel like I have a very strong relationship with christ, but I also want to learn what the qualities of a future spouse would be? I also meet this person at a retreat that our church does designed for adults, but they pick like 10 very dedicated high school volunteers that are all on very similar paths.

What should I do if the pressure is much from guys am just 2oyrs and I have zeroed my mind in dating anyway

Isnt it that you cant date until youre 16, but as a group, and at the age of 18 you can be a couple?

What if you start dating your life long best friend

I agree to an extent.because my.partner and I.both motivate each other to get closer to god and yes we still make.mistakes.but.we learn. From it and it brings us closer to.each other and God.as well

I just started dating someone, after watching this video I'm afraid I've made a mistake. I'm only 16, and honestly, I'm not sure we're ready for anything serious. Is there any way we can have a more relaxed kind of dating? For example, stay group dating? I feel like dating may help us, even if it doesn't work out, to grow spiritually... What do you think would be a good idea for this kind of situation?

money is what scares me most about relationships, im a senior in highschool and a welder by trade, i basicly get paid a few bucks off minimum wage, and money is always what women seem to want, just last week on a mission trip in a van , 4 girls in the back were talking about how they are not going to mess around with average christian guys, they said they r going to marry someone rich so they can buy expensive clothes, i was a little frustrated, christian girls who want only rich guys not average Godly men like me, this is probably why i wont get married, women want money it seems

But what if your already dating and your trying to build your relationship with god is that also ok?🤔

I just turned 18 today 🎉🙃 And I've never dated anyone 😅

I’m turning 14 soon and I want to start dating. My cousins are younger than me and are allowed to date bc they are boys but my mom won’t let me even try. So for now I want to just wait until I’m 16-17 bc that’s when I’ll be able to drive.

I have a few principles. I see a Biblical man as one who is masculine. That means he feels responsibility to lead, provide for, and protect women. He must have a strong, personal relationship with Christ. He must have leadership skills, the ability to adequately protect a woman, and the ability to adequately provide for a woman. He must also feel feel responsible to do these things. Prior to seeking a relationship with the opposite sex, his focus should be on maturing as a man and developing his own walk with Christ. But, he should not pursue such relationships before he is ready. Though God can still work and make you ready if you start too soon, it's a far more unnecessarily difficult process.

Question! I totally see your point, Justin, that we need to be rooted in Christ first before pursuing a relationship. But if I'm content in Christ, why would I want to date? just a thought.

I wish to start a channel like you..A christian channel. All I have is a nikon coolpix l340 camera and a htc mobile and also a tripod. Can you provide some advice or any video of yours where I can learn from you?

Should teens ne in a committed relationship...i heard from a christian point of view i need to know if it eight or wrong or so

True!...But according to some..They Find it silly when two teenagers date just coz they’re too young...however,the Big Question is-What Does God Say About Dating?Like is it okay to start when u’re a Teenager or Does he say that we should wait??....btw..i really found some of your advice constructive..however,i’m still in a bit of doubt

hey! im kinda late but i like this dude but i dont want to date him. how do i still be friends with him without leading him on or myself?

God Bless You, Emily and all of your viewers in King Jesus' Name! You are Awesome! This is a super helpful video! I am sharing this to my personal FB! Love you and your Emily in Christ My Brother 💖✨💪👑✨💕

yes jesus should be the first i am scare of relationship with the opposit sex. i am 26 and im not dating yet advice me please want to date but scare to hurt because i may see someone i think conpatible an later find someone i think more compatible. please advice me

I'm 40 and I haven't started.

My granddaughter just got married at 23 and her parents decided but she was in college them and they told her no you cannot get married until you are at after Kali so her and her boyfriend got engaged in 2016 they just got married last January in 2018 so they've been engaged for a really really long time they're very compatible but she's even going for a very long time so which is good and they had to wait no kissing no hugging no nothing they had the day out of Christian parents around them all the time

Thank you

What a lesson.

How can one get over a crush as a christian

Would it be okay to let the person you would like to date know that you recognize we both probably are not ready to date for marriage and maybe we can wait till then?

Instrumental in the background?