Are you a fighter or a lover? From defensive to stone walling fighters, we're talking about conflicts in relationships and how we're working on doing better in our relationships. How do you come to sustainable solutions after a fight with your partner? Talk to us in the comments and tag a friend who will enjoy this episode. We cannot wait to hear from you! Video credits: Production: Garage Group Set: Golden Tulip Kampala Outfits: Fashion Episode Shoes: Shoe Puzzle Hair: Zuri Luxury If you found this video informative, please like it, share with someone who needs to watch it and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one. Follow us on: Instagram instagram.com/bumploveug Facebook facebook.com/BumpLove Twitter twitter.com/bumploveug?t=kR7O... #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove

As a man, Bump Love is like a cheat code into the operation of a woman’s mind and this has been further personified in this conflict resolution espisode. My marriage is richer because of this show! Well done ladies.

Rachel is blooming right infront of us. I love it. Praise God for the glow.

Ladies thanks for walking the journey and handing us the notes. One of these days we shall kwekalasa and sponsor a show as bump lovers. Yes....a show sponsored by the viewers❤.

I love it when ALL FIVE OF YOU are there. It makes me feel like my big sisters have all arrived and I'm sitting in a corner watching them spew wisdom. ❤❤❤

Pumla wabula okola reseearch.. i love how you take Bump love as an Exam… you’re always there with facts.. “ I a book, i went met a counsellor” You’re so brainy.., I stan🥰

Racheal looking sooo good, the dress, hair, make up....

I absolutely agree with Pumla. That was my take when I got married 3 years ago, you don't have to wait years to learn something through experience, you can actively learn it from an authority on the subject matter. One of my personal axioms is "whatever you've not actively learned how to do, you don't know how to do" I think this truth is elusive in relationships because we are naturally relational beings. So because we have a native proclivity to relate we think we know how to do it well. But the truth is, just because you have a propensity towards something doesn't mean you're a master at it, mastery is a result of scholarship. So because many of us don't realise we need to learn how to relate, especially with the opposite sex, we go through life wounding each other, cos the truth is we don't know what we're doing. So, to any younger bump lover on here who is still not married or in a life long commitment, one of the best things you can do for yourselves while you wait, is to actively learn how to relate within the context of a relationship. As in study, the same way you studied your subjects in school. Get the book Pumla shared from, find other resources, but by all means ACTIVELY LEARN...my absolute best resource is Esther Perel, she's a Belgian - American Psychotherapist. She's brilliant, and she has a KZfaq channel, check her out. Love and Light💖💞💫

It seems people sleep here waiting for the new episode😂. Angie's hair is great. Thanks ladies for the show. You all look fabulous

0 seconds ago Rosette, you look so lovelyyyyy, the hair the dress matches the shoes. Racheal that dress is popping! Angella, I almost did not recognize you? You look lovely? The hair is giving royalty! Manuela that hair and out fit your giving these American celebrities who always look on point on vogue, no matter how old. You look fly anyway Manuela.Love you guys thank you, for being vulnerable and letting us into a little of your personal information. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Dishonesty 💯. I detest it and can't stand someone who tells me lies

What makes this show captivating is the fact that each of these five ladies is unique in every sense and there's a way it makes the show just complete ❤❤❤

We need a bump love party 🎉

aaw Angie is right about us out here in the diaspora.. we mostly have each other so have less conflicts and have to resolve them faster

I'm enjoying Manuela's reactions 😂. She's even getting triggered as she mentions her triggers.😂

After watching this I feel so much better. I thought I was the worst in my relationship when it came to conflict. Hearing the same things shows that I need to give myself grace. I am learning and praying for self control in my relationship.

Counseling,Therapy,Sisterhood,Church in all for every episode ❤❤❤❤

Racheal!!!! I feel like I am the one seated in your chair 😢😢😢😢😢 What a healing experience to hear you literally speak out for me, in every possible way. I cannot believe this! Hope we meet and have a conversation sometime. As if it is not enough that we both cut off sisterlocks in the same week 😢 Now this! You ladies are a great inspiration. Take care of yourselves! We need you alive to stand up for us and teach us to do the same for others ❤❤❤❤❤ A heart for each of you.

I just realised that its the first time Pumla officially announced her serious relationship.whooop whooop

Nowadays, parents have taken confrontations to social media. Its so sad. Solving marital issues on socials while recording. Racheal, you are so wise as i enjoy listening to your perspective about marriage. I have taken a lot of what you have said over the years and used it in my own marriage. I also love that you used scripture to explain your solution to conflict. God bless you.

Rosette looks amazing

Kemi's approach on conflict currently, is spot on, I will adopt this, and I've heard of it before. Good job Kemi!!! ❤

A cocktail 🍸 of you 5 ladies is a visit to paradise. Your sessions are so educative and will surely better us. Be blessed.

Angie giving rich older aunty vibes❤❤❤❤❤

The look on all you ladies face when angie said ‘even that day i was rushing back to twetegeka’ 😂😂

In my home, there was not much confrontation but I am so confrontational, I also fear. My triggers are: 1. Disrespect from men 2. Unfairness/injustice 3. Nonsense/unseriousness/mediocrity 4. Lies/hypocrisy/pretence 5. And others that really depend 😂

Since I'm singular and have no experience in relationships plus I was raised by a single mom that being said, I have never experienced conflicts apart from neighbours and other people. Therefore, I will enjoy the comments and the show thank you ladies. ❤

As for Angie pouring water on the bed 😂😂😂😂I dint see it coming 😂😂😂

I understand Racheal on consulting a guy view. I recall my husband and I arguing over and over about the car. He always wanted to drive my car and not his. Yes I know we become one after marriage but somehow it would really annoy me because I felt like he was just using my car to show off. Lo and behold when i consulted our bestman, he told me openly that even he himself would steal my car. its a guy ego thing. So i learned to approach the issue from that perspective instead of killing his ego.

Yo right Rosette! I have learnt that the devil is not happy with marriage,i learnt to exercise self control not to throw words anyhow because comparing my personal person am troublesome. Am not good at comforting but when he does i get to say what is on my mind. What has helped on my side,is self control ,listening and talk after not forgetting praying about it. Thank you ladies and dont forget to bring a male version with( Andrew kyamagero,Mr Mulondo, Ben and Baby KuKu) Thanks & keep serving love from a bump lover 4rm KGL❤

Some people view conflict as a sign that you are not meant for each other. They don't realize that the fighting stage can last as long as it does for different couples.

"I guess as I resolve and work through stress by stepping back and focusing on myself, you do so by ending things." and that's the last time we spoke😂.so thank you ladies for sharing on how best we can resolve conflicts amicably as this has left me in a better place to handle considering that I feel healed and ready to move into another relationship and Rachel, thank you for teaching me better vocabulary and for being a calm lady.

49:05 Similar to my story. Getting married, I thought my hubby would be my safe space, I thought if I cried, he would hug me and hold me but I quickly realised that he didn't know how to deal with such emotions. 😂. I realised that he is not a bad person but he just doesn't know how to deal with such emotions. Most people grew up in survival mode and life hardened them so much that they expect their partner to just suck it up. That's why it's important to have a community and other trusted people who can be a support in ways where your spouse may not be gifted. With the obvious boundaries ofcourse. And just like Manuela, when I stopped crying, the soft side of me went with it. I feel like there are depths of vulnerability I would have loved to reach but I have since blocked them. I haven't had a cry in years. I miss expressing myself through tears 😭

I've grown to become a fighter because I faced lots of suppression (not being heard) while growing up

One thing I like about this program is that I can not watch it without a note book😊 Thank you for the educative conversations your really helping me grow better. I am just in my early 20s and this is grooming me to be a better version of me. Kudos 👏

Manuela has given me laughter; her strategy for dealing with male aggression is for World Cup

Manualla in this episode u win bby😂😂😂😂😂

Meanwhileee😭😭 Manuela’s story about the thieff HAD ME CRYINGGG!!!😭😭😂💀💀💀 As per I could not breatheee..

Rosette’s make up look ❤️❤️❤️ It’s giving glowing skin

Angie you're right, u get drained and eventually give up but just find coping mechanisms

OMG, i just got on that Holy spirit part for Ranchel and waoooo... Ladies, it is a game changer.. the holy spirit is so real. Sometimes i even send a text when my data is so enough and on but going back i find the msg not yet sent and i have mastered to acknowledge its the holy spirit speaking and i will just delete for all ... My husband will say, whatever you have deleted, thank you because i am sure it was going to ruin my day😂😂😂

I like that Manuella has described the course of « Ndoha » that described the way of resolving conflict

You guys are just so amazing, thanks for going over and above for women, nothing can equate to your sacrifices,may the almighty bless all of you abundantly 🎉

This episode just came in at right time when I needed to hear this

Thanks Pumla Just know those words are going to save many marriage Self control Speak out your feelings Avoid criticing

I really love the fact that Men are Logical and us Women omg we are too emotional bump love ❤️ you are so incredible

Thank you ladies for such a rich rich episode and also for sharing your experiences and lessons so freely it’s truly empowering. Thank you all

Hello bump lovers. I always enjoy listening to you ladies. This topic today has been touching. Some of us we stomach things, before we know it explosion happens. Thank you for opening our eyes. I’ve learnt that I have to communicate appropriately and avoid fights. Love you 🥰 ❤❤❤❤❤ And that point of noting down those issues, is key. It calms you down in a way.

Manuella never disappoints me 🤣 dia u are not alone , we are many here who have so many triggers lol

We appreciate you guys 🙏🙏,,, thanks for the show

weekly dose indeed...Thanks ladies 😍

sweet episode❤thank you ladies for this❤

I genuinely invest in data to tune in and learn from your episodes, as each one offers valuable insights. Thank you for that!

Rosette's one liners resonate....alot I love you for that you are so naturally bright Rosette..

Eh, thank you for this ladies. You've heped me. Thank you for your honesty.

You guys are so self-aware 😊 ❤ Thank you for the vulnerability and the amazing advice !

It's a weekly dose indeed😊😊😊

Communicate your feelings, dont express them ❤ Thank you Pumla !

Thank you, ladies, for the show.....This was a very eye-opening episode, l loved it😊

Fridays are sorted. Manuella i missed you in the last episode. The vibe😂😂

You ladies look exquisite and thanks for this episode. I have always wanted to communicate to hubby but all the times I did, he didn't get it or understood me and this made me feel even worse than it was before, I now know better

Great Job ladies!!!🎉... much love from me. I am now addicted to your channel!!! Watching you from Dubai ❤❤❤

This was such a great piece, thank u ladies

Manuela my soul sister.....its almost as if you're reading from my pages many times..and then today you were so spot on with the 2 triggers it's crazy!

Thanks Ladies for the great talk.. I can resonate with it 100%. In every relationship , you have to look at your self first , work on yourself to be the better version of you , the rest will be history.

This was a great convo bump love! Thank you

Thank you ladies for this masterclass👏👏👏👏

Kale the way I look forward to bump love.Ladies you are all so beautiful,smart and amazing.This episode has helped save my marriage

Wow this is so good guys. Thanks for the information you always delivery to us. You guys hv made me grow in my marriage no more crying like Rachael

Some of these episodes i have to watch twice because there is so much to learn. Thank you ladies!

I can’t get enough of bump love always. There are times I find my self watching an episode more than once. Thanks bump love, so inspirational and educative

Rachel is such a host❤❤ So perfect at it. 👌🏼

I didn’t expect Angie’s submission

One marriage councilor once said. As parents, we have to let our kids (depending on age) see some conflict. So they learn that things happen, how to resolve n form proper habits... Hearing Mauela, Angie, it now makes sense

I here Angie's side of view about talking about it there and then but the most hurtening thing is to be with a person who is not realizing the wrong he has done however much u talk about it

The radiance🥰😍😍 i love it, y’all look amazing,, now let me watch the show

Am with you Pumula. Dishonest it's with wrong people that comes our ways.

This has been so insightful, it significantly means conflict exists everywhere even with ownself. I always thought my neighbor has a better relationship than mine but we are all in this together, the ideology is to make it work. Thank you ladies for this insightful episode. We need part II of this episode from the men's side. Again thank you

This was my episode❤ thanks ladies

These are beautiful stories. Thank you ladies ❤. As a person I hate disrespect and Comparing my worth all the time.

Thank you so much ladies ...i feel uprehended that i use some of the mentioned points to manage my conflicts

am have very high self control. a number of times i keep quite and come back to that issue when i have thought through everything. It has even helped with my friendships.

I really grew up from a violent family. My dad would physically fight with my step mum. Throw sauce pans, plates, literally anything to each other. But none of their actions has affected my married life. I have been married for 7 years now but how i handle conflict is really different. I am a lover so i love talking talking and talking about things. What triggers me though is an unaccountable person/partner. Accountability in terms of finance and what someone has done during the day or probably what you intend to do in a day, week or month. Otherwise, thank you for building the nation

Oh my God. So so interesting ,I laughed my heart out. You are all so wonderful

Great conversation ladies Thanks for sharing. I am always looking forward to Friday for another conversation.❤

Pumla thank you for ur nuggets always. To all the ladies at bump love every time I think damn the previous show was insightful there you comeback with a bang. Thank you I appreciate you 👏🏽

Thank you ladies, always excited when I get a notification. Well me and my fiance, we met on the 1st of June 2021, and every 1st of the month we celebrate and discuss how our relationship is taking both of us. This keeps helping us understand each other, our expectations, things that look like lag us behind..this has kept us friends...so sometimes during conflict, I remember this is my friend and I want my friend to stay..so we put in the work. I also didn't know some men (mine especially) are so onto wearing the ring all the time...its just an engagement ring, but because we celebrate these days, I see the importance of how much he embraces the ring on my finger....I think we are growing stronger everyday with this....and pssschhh its long distance btw and I am loving it. 😊

I have picked so many gems from this episode.Thank you ladies❤

This must be your best episode so far. Depth and context at its best 👌

This is a full package. Always grateful to you ladies 🙏

Brains at work here ❤❤thanks ladies for always sharing knowledge

Thank you ladies for this show.I didn’t want it to end.So much to learn

Such a good conversation with such beautiful women. This is definitely gonna be a referral episode❤

In this life I need to meet Pumla and we just laugh about life 🙌

Thanks for the show ladies

😂😂 wabula ladies ur hilarious, thanks for sharing ur personal stories. They are educative and entertaining

Ladies this was a Fantastic show❤❤❤ . Thank you for sharing your lives with us. You are helping so many people especially those of us that are hungry for the knowledge. God bless you

Oh my goodness 😂😂😂😂😂 You ladies have made my evening today 😂 You're all amazing ladies. LOL❤️❤️

Goshhh!!! I loved this episode and it’s such great timing!!! Was literally recently thinking of how my parents handle conflict has greatly impacted me and I was wondering the toll it will take when I do get into a relationship. Because can’t lie, I know a toxic trait was built within me…

thank you ladies, you are so amazing and this episode was definitely helpful