No she realized he wasn't gonna stop loving the side chick.she offered they all stay together. This has been offered to me personally but I'd never degrade a woman that way. when I decided to leave my ex, she didn't want to let it go,a few months later, she offered to stay with me knowing I was moving on with someone else. It was desperation and I told her she deserved to be with someone who can put up with her. She's now married with a kid.

🤔

A Chisolm exactly

D. Corey trying to figure out why this response starts with a “no” only to restate the same thing already imparted 🤔

EXACTLY!!!

Queen Lex - Is it that bad out there now where a woman just won’t leave and settle for the guy to bring a side chick into the marriage? What message is being sent to the men that support this garbage? If you want more than one wife, go to a country that supports that, but don’t destroy our culture and women with that foolishness. I guess my concern is this will become a normal thing.

Bryan Beeman I’ll be honest: I think it really is that bad out there and I’m HAPPY to be off the market lol. We’ve lost a sense of self, responsibility, structure and respect. Everyone receiving the message is in trouble: men, women and children. Now I won’t tell anyone to go another country (I hear your passion but exiling people is harmful on many different levels- my opinion of course) but I will tell people to evaluate this stuff from all sides and look at what the negative results could be. We have to strengthen our community and core ✌🏽🖤

Bryan Beeman I’d be OUT because this couldn’t work for me.

Queen Lex - When I made that statement about them leaving the country and going somewhere else that supports that garbage, I meant it. I’m sure that no father, mother, or grandparents in this country would want their daughter to experience this at all. We even see in the Bible how these types of relationships complicated marriages. Sarai and Abram and Hagar. Jacob, Leah, and Rachel... JESUS said male and female from the beginning. Man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife (not wives). Why would He say that?

Bryan Beeman you’re entitled to your opinion and feelings I just don’t share the same which is ok ✌🏽

Exactly. Some women love to hold on to garbage.

That part..nailed it

Right

Y'all rather be lied to and cheated on.

Right!!

Say it again

MirrorMommy oh stop your belly aching! This is a beautiful situation!!!!

playaflyJOE27 😬😭

@@PlayaflyJoe27 FACTS lol

I was thinking the exact same thing !

@Yoshiyahu Yisrael No. If the married person cheat they commit adultry. Their the ones that made the vows

Where does it say for better or for worse on a marriage license?

You wasnt at that wedding. Sit down and take notes.

@Yoshiyahu Yisrael Fact.... A man can have more than one woman.

Charles Merchant a man can have a million women but all parties must be in agreement.

Yes, we are definitely living in the last days. Good is evil & evil is good. Ass backwards if you ask me 😒

TD Wilson yeah should ask her permission or never cheated on her

Last days of what ... I heard that when I was 5 years old and I will be 44 years old this year

Y’all killing me with that last days rhetoric. We keep discovering the earth is older than we thought

djbmp i think she meant biblical sense that world is getting worst that Jesus eventually come back

Big 🧢

Well most women accept anything cause of self esteem issues fellas unfortunately it's only going to get worse stay single

finally someone with sense in the comments

Right. All he did was cheat. There's a lot of manipulation going on here.

Yup me too I agree. If we stay together after infedelity, and decide to go to poly, it won't be with her

These other women doing all this talking like their the only 1. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Same!!!

Exactly. She has low self-worth...well they both do. He doesn't respect either one of them to degrade them like that and he never will have respect for them. They're sharing a whole clown🤡.

@@shayemoore not really…..polygome been going on for thousands of years

@@tti4919 I don't give two fcuks how long polygamy has been going on, what I said still stands. ANY woman who agrees to this wickedness has no self-worth. Her self esteem is in the toilet. Those "men" that existed back then didn't respect women. They were mere property and that's it. This woman should've left him. Women hold the power in relationships today but some choose to give it away to their trifling man.

He cheated, she accepted it but then she moved a step further to view the other woman as her sister wife & invite her into their home to parent their children….

@@shayemoore Well said - it’s sickening

Well maybe she came to the realization that some men are built for more than one wife Society of today tells us to be monogamous but you go through history it's a pretty common theme and they made it work well, now i do afgree cheating is cheating, it would have been different if they both knew from the start

Well your bfs all good side chicks so y’all sharing without even knowing so this can work it’s out in the open not behind closed doors.

Daizy Mone't / Kraizi Daizy Live it take 2 tangle.

It's sinful adultery

Agreed, he just cheated and moved her in and the wife accepted it. She even said that when she found out they were still seeing each other, she wanted to meet with her and have a chat.

It's this podcast called "no apologies podcast" and it's a black woman dating two white men and they all live together. Definitely confusing to me, but if they happy who am I to judge? play.google.com/music/m/Iomh5ot4qbsy2e7edtkgsgxrkji?t=No_Apolygies

That's called running a train on a hoe smh....

Elohim Rules lol word

Darrell James yea she’s with white men most brothers not up for that

@@SystemChannel that chick is living the BWs dream lol. She's getting 2 white rods for the price of one😆😆. Most BW want WM acceptance so she probably feels fulfilled literally lol!

FACTS!!!!!! Like really

It's nature

@@WARxxECONOMY what’s nature?

FACTS

Yeah they should’ve rehearsed this at home, because the mistress just busted the wife’s whole lie out! It makes the whole thing seem forced!

lol

😂😂😂

Right

Exactly 😂

Ok then 🤣

Hell, you & I Both. I'm good😒😂

lol

This is true

Real talk

😁Well that proves that monogamy is just as toxic as polyamory.... And polyamory could be just as healthy as monogamy.... It all depends on who's involved.... Monogamy is nothing more than a form of jealousy and selfishness...lol

As someone who is asexual, I am intrigued by all this. it is a great option for companionship. The odds of finding an asexual man are slim so this is an excellent alternative.

Facts

Its just a new thought process for you, but if it became normalized it would help make a dent in the 20:1 women to men ratio

EXACTLY!!!😎

EXACTLY. No matter how much they propaganize this. It never works out because it is outside of God's will and driven, by lust, self-centerness and possibly narcissism... *They lying!!!*

MELO SINCE 87 do more than hug them be their first love as a man

Hug your sons and teach them to be MEN. even if you have to learn as you are teaching.

MELO SINCE 87 WORD

Well Said!!!

I brought it up.to.my man. People need to open their eyes to old traditions. Her case is different because he cheated.

YES .....unagreed upon poly

Exactly why she holds on to ( with a death grip ) the title of “ wife “

Exactly! 💯

It's not what she wanted from the jump for sure. But she loves him and if she's willing to change their relationship to maintain their family, then it aint nobody elses business.

Most women have self esteem issues they love competition with other women then when they get older they complain where all the good men at 😂

Yoshiyahu Yisrael 😂 nooo have hope❤️😅

What makes the man dusty?.... If that's the case the women are dusty as well for accepting it....lol....but wouldn't you rather people just be honest with themselves than continuing to lie? ....

@@zulu3274 low self esteem, if his wife is bisexual I get it.

@@j-emcee4420 who do you believe has low self-esteem..?... And why do you think that?...

Interesting 🤔 I've noticed most men that entertain this seem to have dealt with rejection from a woman where it seems like they have to compensate for.

lmao!!

Exactly! Makes me sick 🤢

@@jatarabrw8103 mad or not?

LMAO

The family grows

lol he is a hot mess

@@trevorbekun7039 The "family" will grow when the women get tired of that dusty bum and decide to cheat and bring in other men. They'd be fools if they didn't.

I was thinking this too, he would move her in and they would be one happy family 👪 ❤️

He is most likely cheating on you if he tried to talk to you about it and you rejected it. If my man tried to talk to me about this it would convey two things to me 1) that he's wicked, and 2) he doesn't respect me and he never will. If a man could even think about something so evil he's already disrespected the relationship and therefore I'm out.

@@shayemoore this was when we were first started dating... we been together 3 years this month.... he don’t have time to be cheating cuz he is too busy and too focus with our business that we got together.... i know cuz i does all the finances, dispatching on where he needs to go to give services. This man loves, respects me so much that he told me i earned this ring and his last name. Like i said i ruin it cuz he knows i would want another man if we do that and not only that we talks about poly and moly stuff with friends and like he said he used to do poly but once you get with a women who is a real partner and submissive you don’t need multiple women and plus that’s more money coming out of our savings if you dealing with others. We are saving money and not trying to be someone’s sugardaddies over here 😂😂😂😂

@@bosladijackie8691 If he really wanted to do poly he needed to have his stuff together on his own before getting serious with a woman because, he’d have options and would’ve been able to find a woman that would be fine with it. Not something you can do if you split bills. MEN TAKE NOTES A man can’t truly wear the pants in the relationship if his woman is his equal partner because as illustrated equal means you can be vetoed whenever they think it’s necessary. Which means he can only lead if you approve of his leadership aka he doesn’t really wear the pants. You married this man young before he fully developed as a man and his growth as a leader has been arrested because you actually call the shots and he follows you because he’s used to it now. Men need to build their own lives first and only then invite women into it, otherwise it’s constant unnecessary negotiation. Use your 20’s to develop yourself. If you want submission from a woman you “must” pay the cost to be the boss. Women only truly submit to men when they understand that he doesn’t need them to sustain his life and he has options with other quality women. If women know they can replace you easier than you can replace them they leverage it in order to get men to submit to them. Look at the above example he wanted poly but, submitted to his woman because he felt that she had more leverage to leave and find a man equal or better than him relative to his ability to find a woman equal to or better than her. Her man is in a weaker position in their relationship you can tell because otherwise they’d be poly but, they’re monogamous because that’s what the person who is actually leading in this relationship wants.

@@statsy7979 i wonder what made you think he didn’t have himself together before we got together 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂 luv he already had his stuff together, own place, car, nice savings, he was a senior director for a big roadside company making at at least $300,000 a year luv... and another thing he is turning 41 on valentines day and i be 39 on feb 18th we are not too young luv.. but he already had his stuff together... he just wanted to take a new route on opening up his own roadside business and we did awesome last year for our first year. He knows he got options and i know he got options but he is focus on something different this time and he is loving it and I’m all for it... just because a person says something three years ago doesn’t mean they still on that same level... like he just said again he is good he had been there and done that (poly)... all women comes with something... and he don’t have time for multiple women anymore cuz that’s more money coming out the pockets cuz he knows women are not free. But to clear things up he most definitely got himself together.

​@@bosladijackie8691 I'm happy to hear about my people doing well assuming he's also black. I associate the management of the finances to be a responsibility of the head of the household. Financial management is one of the main ways a man protects his family and builds his empire. I understand being too busy to entertain women though, if you're truly busy you have to prioritize and especially if you have a good woman already I'd focus on my business first as well. My fiancé and I are going through a similar situation but, we're 10 years younger. I'm 31 and she's 29, I also run a business that she helps with. We've talked about being able to meet another woman and she's okay with it under certain conditions but, I can relate to not really desiring to make time for it right now. Perhaps when the business is more established.

Explain please

@@daniellefennell3877 Because marriage is a legally binding contract. 18 states has their own adultery laws. If someone catches their husband or wife committing adultery and they can prove it. You can also be fined for it plus lose your assets and any type of prenuptial agreement will be thrown out if a divorce is filed in response to the adultery.

@@berlingray8058 that's not true. And cheating isn't against the law. You don't lose anything, it's called divorce. If the husband cheats and makes 20k a yr, and the wife was faithful making 100k yr, she would have to pay him alimony. Ex (Wendy wilkiams)

@@PCSPITTER4NY He wouldn't get alimony bc if the wife could prove that he had sexual intercourse with another woman or 'women' all financial obligations to him would be thrown out. It's the proving of sexual intercourse is what matters. Anyone can say they want to end a marriage bc of infidelity but in the eyes of the law infidelity isn't emotional cheating or catching a spouse out on a date at a restaurant. They have to be caught in the act of having sex (which is why some people hire private investigators or place hidden cameras around their house) Its the evidence that protects people from spousel support or alimony.

@@berlingray8058 nope you are wrong. Wendy Williams is a prime example.

@@kelvinblunt6051 It still was a wicked, selfish, and sinful practice started by men. Doesn't matter if it was in biblical times or now.

Oh my God I was just discussing this with a friend like sin is become the new normal. It’s crazy.

@@kelvinblunt6051 Boy there is a reason why we are called Christians and not jews get your facts right or keep quiet

Ewww... thats the facts that people don't wanna hear

@@shayemoore wow smh you people just cannot accept the truth how life should be...

Yes

See but it’s weird because usually the man is doing stuff with both of them Nd one on one but the woman is supposed to do it with each other to that’s why in this case it’s weird

In poly she can

Its all about agreeing what type of relationship a person wants, and finding somone/people compatible with that relationship model.

No Man would do that Stop it!

Don’t be sad for a choice that was educated and thought out

She didn't have to she's chosen to settle for this is the sad part because obviously she doesn't look happy if you ask me but who am I they might be

@@thomasharris5151 it wasn't though... mistress spilled the truth that he was cheating. And by trying to be okay with taking the power that she's okay with it but it never happened until he cheated and then wouldn't stop contacting her.

@@MissBezy she could leave, she chose it….

She always looks that way... like most woman look pissed even when they should be happy.

Anthony Well if they going for it, life about you settle for, if you want better job apply for it, having one woman is Americanize way of thinking

How are they kids and they have been married 20 years?

Just like kidds involved in gay marriage... Whats your pointe!?

Facts

This is the weakest argument ... if that's the case don't get married or date black women cause that could be your sister or cousin.

MsRESPECT90 : What “behavior?” He’s not faking. He’s living the way men of color have traditionally lived. Monogamy is unnatural. Most people would prefer it, just like many people would like to engage in similar-age incest with cousins but don’t because of social norms. I’ve got a cousin who raised the topic of incest with me, and hinted that she would do it if I was down and could keep my mouth shut. Everybody has that one cousin or relative that they find sexually attractive. Most people will deny it.🤷🏽‍♂️

@@DeCurtaRican I was with you up until the incest part. Seek professional help, good brotha.

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@Chelle Chelle I respectfully disagree, their children appears to love the decision and their father being truthful about his relationship. Truth is needed

@Chelle Chelle what's functional for your family is functional for your family. Truth be told whether you want to acknowledge it or not every family has some dysfunctional characteristics. If you are suggesting the social norm is what defines what's functional then you would have to adapt to the shift in society every few years. What's consistent throughout all is the truth, which is functional

Mike Mushipe what’s degraded? Black people where living like this before white people came along and told us it was wrong!

@@talkwithqueentia9036 would you personally do this yes or no ?

Mike Mushipe yes, I would!

@@talkwithqueentia9036 I respect your point of view,but let me just tell you that love is so much better when its just two people.

@@mikemushipe6023 according to you

They hate each other and he just eating it up.

Nidiraa Bingo

Sis I just got out of relationship where my boyfriend wanted that. I had to bounce.

My current boyfriend whom is the love of my life and the father of my child brought this up and says he’s gonna act on it and that he would love for me to be apart. Says he wants for us to look for a wife together

Also has a “work husband” on the side. 😴

@@alenarice7855 well at least he’s letting you know and not just cheating on you.

I want one wife

I'm saying! That situation just seems awful.

A lil louder for the people in the back!!!

@@CrystalReneeMusic why do you suggest that?

A lot of Baby mamas have no self worth

Backshot Barbie word lol MFs be average at best but want a female to put up with above average shit

Backshot Barbie better b Bill Gates rich lol

So basically you have a price on your morality. No surprise, every woman does.

@@mistahjay8598 Excuse you sir.. No not every woman does.

💪👏👏👏👏👏👏likes dones and meat

They sleep in the same bed… Of course they have 3somes.

she means they get along.

Didn't David have 4 Wives?

Christopher Catchings not at all. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Aisha Wynter-Horton nah that’s where it’s fucked up

I dont think she wants one she's fully invested in that man or quiet as kept she's been cheating on him and she feels guilty so thats why shes so accepting...

Aisha Wynter-Horton that’s what I want to know

No. She needs to remain faithful

Sweetheart woman are not the same as men! Woman can’t have multiple partners only men! A woman may have many options but she will get a attached to only to one man! Wake up out of the lies and fake ideas of doing what men are birthed to do! 💯

Most women have self esteem issues then they complain about where the good men at smh leave their a**for the streets where they belong to pookies and ray Ray's

To spread awareness about the life style most people are aready doing it but arnt in the know lol

Prettysmile Det she talking about she seen it on tv smdh she slowwww

@@backshotbarbie2035 🙄😒😂Ok... like WTH

Prettysmile Det they expose LGBTQ

That's your opinion

@Tasheri agreed!!!

@Yoshiyahu Yisrael I don't believe that. All men do not cheat.

@AKAT1980 It is a fact that there's so much cheating going on among couples. However, that doesn't mean that everyone cheats. There are people, both men and women, who value marital vows and family. Sadly, individuals who cheat outnumber those who don't. Again, everyone doesn't cheat.

@AKAT1980 ok, I see you're point now. Yes, I agree with that. It's quite sad.

Women are jealous? Yes like men certainly are ..

Facts. The judges be sitting home alone! But 1st thing out of their mouth is they are alone because they choose to be, homegirl chose not to be alone and do the 'til death do us part'. Yea.. that part.

So what if your wife wants another man would that be okay?

Winona Ryder During mating season A bird receives many offers but only settles in one nest built the most sturdy for her offspring comfort & safety by the strongest male. Peacocks are entertained by many males but only the strongest male w/ the prettiest display of feathers will get to reproduce w/ her at a time. Younger stronger (usually brothers) lions who are ready to mate; together kill off older Lions & their cubs so that they can sew their own seeds & will eventually separate to prevent commingling of cubs & wives & to take control of more territory. As viscous as this sounds... it natural! If every male lion started kissing & humping on each other it would make headlines because it’s unnatural & the species as we know it would go extinct w/o human intervention. Even if you wanted to use the queen bee example... yes she is the queen of the hive & yes she has multiple sex partners but her existence is that of mere subjugation than rulership! She is tended to by the worker bees fed by them, has her waste disposed of by them but she rarely leaves the hive & is subjugated to a life of pregnancy until she is killed by the male bees n replaced if she makes mistakes in the breeding process! I can go on for days! We purport to be the smartest species of the animal kingdom but unlike the others we go against nature! No other species have their 12 yr old boys saying they are girls or Women wanting to be Men or in YOUR case PLAY men! Nature not only provides us w/ what we need to survive but shows us what is natural! & in our selfish ignorance we turn a blind eye to the truth. A man & his sons in his village provided food shelter & protection from outsiders! Whatever his wives needed, when food supply was short, When the roof leaked he was responsible! Modern times has left most of the task of men of yesteryear to we fix it fast service companies, women working like men in fields manly fields & daddy government taking care of the majority of women. Although alot may have changed but some primitive biological things remain! Why do all men cheat? It’s not because he doesn’t love you. Want you. Care for you. Need you. It’s Because their practicing what’s innately in them since the dawn of time & Eurocentric Christian ideology which most black women have adopted opposes NATURE!. Your question alone proves that your frequency is unnatural & off balance! Our thought systems as melanin beings were always poly... never mono in nature from the appreciation of the spirits to the many forms of relationships we have in society. I could go on for days! Sorry for the novel... would had rather spoke to you in person. BlessUp

PressurebussPipes & makesDiamonds 💯 no lies here

​@Ron Price and if you understand the heart of God, btw, the point of reading the bible, you'll see this is not his will. These were traditions of men, recorded in the bible, not his will. The heart of God as it relates to relationships is spelled out with Adam and Eve, respectfully. God bless.

Facts

Jemel Moore 😂

@Lift1One hey I'm with you whatever way you can rationalize this finesse that works out so well for men I'm all for it LOL.. so yeah I agree with whatever you said

@Lift1One if you want to be the advocate and the mouthpiece for this Lifestyle by all means convert as many as you can Lol... write a dissertation for all I care LOL 😂💀😏💀

I suggest you write a book and title it "It takes a village" 😂😂💀💀

@Lift1One Man U won lol Now write the Damn book and I'll see you in Barnes and Nobles.Go head now

Julius Barber both!

I disagree, what's for you is for you. Their relationship is for them, everyone judge other people's relationship while being unhappy with their own significant other

@@jamaal9911 im not a judge, so i cant bring condemnation on them, so its my opinion on what they openly put out here.

Particularly when all involved are on the same page.

Very well said. Just got into the comment's and I expect to see a lot of people who don't understand. It's sad

I just wish they didn't have kids involved

@@anthonyrmoten ill give you that one. Kids should be left out of that type of ordeal

@Nyarlathotep im intrigued...tell me more

It's definitely THERE and not THEIRS bro....smh gotdamn pls learn how to use and place your words

There was betrayal and cheating at first, did u not hear the 2nd girl say that him and her were in an affair behind the wife's back?? They came out to her and then she accepted it.

sounds like you have personal experience...

Yoshiyahu Yisrael yeah right believe that if you want to

Surely ain't. Women have so many personalities and different needs. It takes a man to be able to deal justly and not be emotionally jarred with the mood swings, demands , and jealousy

Well said

I would kick the creep out and go after him for child support. It is completely depraved for a man to be screwing multiple women under the same roof. Any woman who accepts this is desperate and has very low self esteem.

That’s you! This man cheated on his wife than she settled. If all parties know from The jump. Cool but come on this isn’t the case. Just saying.

@@ajlive6419 the thing is that girls on here are talking like she dumb as hell for allowing another woman to be involved. At the end of the day, no matter how it started, if she loves him and decides to to make that work, that's a good thing for them. 🙏

Well said!🎯

Or be in a poly relationship without knowing you’re in one! Most people in a poly relationship now but they don’t know about the other person! So how is it bs when you can be open and honest with each without having a sneaky link

Girl, she was trying to clean it up

I caught that too😲

the sidechick practically exposed the wife on her lies lmaooo that was pretty shady of her they've probably been fighting or something

He did not commit adultery because the 2nd wife wasnt someone else's wife already. Other than that, no such thing as a man "cheating." Thats based on the biblical understanding, not the Amerikkkan bullshit that you're brainwashed by

K Banks he was cheating instead of leaving, she suggested it that way he can be himself.

Polyamory is not the same as swinging or threesomes. A lot of hetero women are poly.

Screwed up...aka fu*ked up for generation to come smh

Lift1One hypocrisy and illusion of grandeur! If nothing, your comments have definitely made me chuckle...

Lift1One thank you. I agree with you as well. Society try’s to put everything in a box. They like it when your not educated and aren’t confident in what you want in life.

Yea but is it love if the man is a simp.

Lift1One thanks. I'll check it out🙌

Right

Yeah women with multiple men. That's the only way the shit will happen.

@@shayemoore won't work...who is the daddy with more than one husband??

@@larrylove5081 Both men. And it will work. A woman can organize her husbands any way she wants. Men are sharing nowadays anyway whether they know it or not. I know three side dudes right now. The women they are with are married. All corporate women. One of the guys has been with his married girlfriend for six years. Men don't have a choice, they'll either share knowingly or unknowingly.

I agree.

Poly is not a free cheat pass. That’s the only reason why I don’t like the ignorance Bx men think that it’s acceptable to be in the streets with multiple women

Most women have no self esteem especially black women then complain when they get older where the good men at 😂 leave them for the streets where they belong 🗑️ can

Amin Jama and look at Africa...

@@nappyqueen86 Took the words out my mouth. lol.

@@nappyqueen86 the state of africa has nothing to do with polygamy. If there is one thing history taught us is no one fly high forever. This Anglo-Saxon order will come to an end just watch in next 50 years. How things turn up.

@@ashslay5558 you are looking things in the wrong glasses sis. Wear your own.

@Nyarlathotep What I am saying is. The way things started, him cheating first is unacceptable. He should have told the wife first then bring her home if she conceded then its ok. And it could've been better if he gave them two separate houses. May be neighbors.