U cant hide it, and the more you find out about them the worse it'll get cause youll be standing up for yourself. Happening to me rn, its scary. Once u find out they literally look different in your eyes. That person you thought u knew jus dont exist, they never did. Run!

When a narcissist knows you know..... they are going to provoke you to look crazy so no one believes you.

'Monster" is not an understatement. They get worst once they know you know. It's like you are sharing your house with a Demon.

I learned to pretend not to know. Sometimes you have to play the role of the fool to fool the fool who thinks they're fooling you. That's how you set them up, by flipping the script. Don't ever let them know that you know. They'll destroy themselves eventually. It's hard to do though. Be fake nice, then ghost/block them.

The biggest mistake I made when I found out my husband was a malignant narcissist was inform him of this and try to get him to go to therapy. This of course only set me up for abuse from marriage counselors as they would side with him. Once I realized that therapy was not going to work on him I told him I was not sure I could stay in the marriage. From that moment on my life was a living hell. He didn’t even try to hide the abuse anymore and I was stuck living in the house with him an absolute terror of what might happen next. The best advice I can give anyone in this situation is to leave quietly I understand this is incredibly difficult to do because as the kind person that you probably are you feel like you should inform the person that you’re leaving, but you are not dealing with a normal person.

They start telling lies about you to others.

Narcissism hurts the narcissist more than it hurts the victim. Their hearts are closed and hardened and their whole body hurts. They can’t see beauty or feel peace. The hell of their life gets worse and worse with each wrong action

For some reason they think no one can see past their lies but their lies are too obvious and it becomes too predictable 😅

2:38 “The best way to deal with them is to leave and run.”

When mine knew I knew, he began to avoid me like a plague.

When I finally joined the dots I felt a huge sense of relief. As if a diagnosis was received. These people are sick, very sick.

Sometimes, by the time you realise their shit, they have already moved onto next destroy their next victim

ONCE YOU KNOW YOU GO! GET OUT AND STAY OUT! -HG TUDOR

Discovering who the narcissist is, is like literally pulling off their mask!

This is the deadly truth. At first it's really neat that they seem genuinely in tune with your moods. Then it turns into "monitoring" you. It's like being psychotically stalked.

My narcissistic husband tried to strangle me when I found out who he really was. Before I knew he always said “I know you better than you know you” I have so many stories. Before I knew and before KZfaq and the truth was everywhere. I married this monster twice. He stole my youth, and damaged me beyond words.

Expect to be devalued and discarded as soon as you begin to stand up for yourself or have boundaries.

Have a PLAN when leaving them,Be SILENT, NEVER let anyone know your next move especially anyone who could get your plan back to the narcissist be 1000 steps ahead of them. Put important documents in a backpack for you and the kids that you may have to grab to run out immediately ,follow your intuition if it tells you you are in immediate danger then you probably are, RUN 🏃‍♀️ For me I had to go to domestic violence shelters because I knew what I was dealing with people that are close to you in my opinion it’s best you don’t even tell them exactly where you are just in case the narcissist manages to tug on their empathy and cry etc. they cannot give out information they don’t know. What I liked about being a domestic violence shelters is you have a ton of other people to support each other they put you in classes you literally are brainwashed you see a therapist you’re not alone and you’re safe especially if you have kids. Binge watch narcissistic survivor videos on every social media , for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE,like it’s the very air you breathe, because it IS! The reason I say for the rest of your life is because relapse is a part of recovery. Take your power back living your best life is the best revenge! You CAN DO THIS! We did!

Smashed the mask! God bless all you warriors!

If you outsmart a narcissists and they are caught in the act and are cornered, they will find new supply and completely abandon you. You are no use to them.

I am a narcissistic abuse survivor who shares a child with the abuser. I made it 6 years before everything blew up. It has been 6 more years since we split and she has remarried. It still hasn't gotten much easier. There's a tinge of fear just typing this comment. The lengths these kinds of people go to make you miserable is mind-blowingly unfathomable. Considering I was discarded 6 years ago she still won't let me go. It's discouraging to say the least. I know that through my personal Saviour Jesus Christ I will triumph, but it has been a dark night for my soul. To anyone who is suffering I hate to say that you can expect more... but it's true. Put your faith in Jesus and let him battle on your behalf. Jesus is how I have made to where I'm at. Glory, honor and praise, in Jesus' name. Amen.

You get mad at yourself for having been duped and then get mad at them Possibly truly hating them for the beastly way they treated you and your children. But then the true liberation process begins.

They become abusive belittling then blame it all on you even going as far as trying to make out you are the Narcissist. Then discard you no matter what you do especially if they found more supply.

You can’t study their personality - there is no personality in a narcissist.

You're only person I can listen throughout the whole video. I hate it when people just add lots of unnecessary info that has nothing to do with the topic. Thank you for getting straight to the point.

You said it brilliantly “unless you corner them in the court system and they trap them selves“ one of the biggest indicators is when all their projection & accusations get flipped - Turns out , The accuser is usually the predator in the situation

You cannot unsee what you’ve seen. Nope!

As a empath my internal tracking system ( my intuition) exposed them.. it was my human condition, the ego that kept me too long.. and I suffered because of this. I am headed home to myself, I am healing ❤️‍🩹 and moving forward.

Expect narcissistic rage!!! It is unbelievable!!!

You are a savior sir and we need the knowledge you are spilling.

I have never heard a therapist mention a psychopathic narcissist. That fits the person perfectly because I was torn between being told said person was a psychopath by a counselor and seeing all the similarities to narcissism in them. So the two can exist in one person.that really helps me.

I am so thankful for these videos. I grew up surrounded with narcissist. I became a narcissist magnet. I always felt something was wrong with me. Hearing these videos and reading the comments has helped me heal and slowly bur surely move on.

They're not as smart as they think they are. Don't waste your precious time on them. Life is too short! Learn to truly love yourself!

My ex's father was a full blown narcissist (I know he was because I had never witnessed anything like it before). I tried to slowly point out reasons why her father was a narcissist without overstepping. Until one time after visiting her family, I couldnt take it anymore, I had to let her know completely. She could not accept it. It was much easier to live a lie than to admit her father never actually loved her, but only saw her as utility for his own sake. It is a weird dynamic unlike anything I had ever seen. She is terrified of his every reaction, and constantly seeking his praise which he almost never gives. She walks on eggshells around him. But at the same time he has convinced her that she can't live or do anything without him. I have been around controlling people, he was next level beyond anything I knew existed. He tried to tell me what parking spot to park in hahahaha. That is not gonna fly, I have a basic rule with men. I do not try to control you, you do not try to control me. I do NOT like being manipulated/controlled. I grew up in a caring, albeit crazy, family so I had no idea this level of evil existed in what would seem like a normal family. When I first met the guy, he was charming, charismatic, and very talkative. It took me a couple hours before I sensed something was off. Then it only became more and more obvious even with his charismatic front.

This is exactly what happened to mev. Completely cut off. Removed everything . Ruthless.

If you break their spell, they know it and you show it, they can become super enraged.

I "dated" one for 10 months. Textbook behavior. I'd rather both my parents die again than go through narcissistic abuse.

Narcissistic rage happens, followed by living in a state of denial of what the are.

When I was experiencing this narcissism was not known about. Self preservation took care of me, I managed to get out with my child alive. I moved interstate & regularly. He destroyed me, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually & financially. He even tried to come back years later while still affecting my life. Thanks Danish for your straight talking & comprehension of this insanity.

I’m currently dealing with a narcissistic boss. When I first found out about her, she became more aggressive with her tactics. But, I just didn’t care about anything she threw at me because I knew her number. She continued her aggression to the point where she couldn’t do anything more, and then she finally left me alone. Turnover is very high in my team. So, I’m just waiting for my time to deliver the final blow. Just want her to know she messed with the wrong person.

The drip supply this is exactly what I did and I didn't even know made it so much easier to cut them off

As I'm trying my best to exit my narc marriage I've seen this drastic intensity. I've been to jail twice over DV charges because he expected me to take all the abuse I was getting. That was back in July and August. He knows there's no turning back and he's playing with my life by not leaving and I'm not leaving my children with him. He's a great dad but I wouldn't put it past him to do something to hurt me. He's placed protection orders against me even though the judge seen why I would need one they granted it to him because I physically defended myself. Now he's purchased a gun. I feel the courts have let me down as I've tried to get placed into shelters with no hope. One thing about me that he knows is I'm going to fight you every single time and if I have too die defending myself then I will at this point because nobody else cared enough to protect me. I just know the moment I feel slightly threatened I'm doing what I have to do to survive. I've documented EVERYTHING so the courts can't say a damn thing but I'm sorry for not helping you but him. Once I become a doctor in psychiatry I'm going to help women like me who deal with this abuse with no one to have their backs. People act like we're crazy for staying not understanding that our finances have been abused too.

Well and good to say "Don't let them take you by surprise" but my narc ex-husband did things I could never foresee a human doing. We signed a separation agreement and we were both satisfied with it. He told me he was giving it to his lawyer to file with the courts, saving me that legal cost. I waited and waited for the confirming paperwork. Nothing. Finally on December 1st I get paperwork that is a separation agreement that left me with nothing but the shirt on my back and order to vacate our jointly owned house in 3 weeks, the day before Christmas Eve! This is totally legal where I live in Canada. In order to fight it, I would have to file my own separation agreement to counter it which meant getting a lawyer just before Christmas to draft up another document. I could not find a lawyer who would work that fast but God saved the day! I found he had lied on the financial disclosure and in fact had several hidden bank accounts. So I said, "No, just leave it as is and I'll see you in court. I want a judge to see the guy who would throw his wife out just before Christmas and have hidden bank accounts." He had to pay almost $1000 to get his lawyer to cancel that first separation agreement before it went to court. I filed the original separation agreement and left him.

Wow!! This is 100% what I went through. My ex narc husband left us for dead.

"Shit hits that fan abd the whole situation changes." Love it. True. Brace yourself then.

Thank you for explaining all about to understand what a narcisist is about to do.The more I understand it and the more I can relax and calm down my anger.That's why I felt to be crazy but now I know that I'm not crazy like the narcisist wants me to believe.Thank you so much

You got it all to a tee. I discovered all this the hard way.

Self preservation!! Had to walkway!! Person needs to let go! Free to live his life!!

Thank you for your direct and clear youtubes. I don't need psychobabble.

My son is a Grandiose Narcissist- I was so confused by his behaviour for the past twenty years - his actions & words increased is disrespect, abusive worse & worse. Questions weren’t answered or stonewalled or redirected at me with rocket fuel force. He kept saying to me - you are unable to learn, you keep repeating inappropriately - you’re not listening- he was gaslighting me constantly and I was in a whirlwind of frustration, dismay, hurt, asking myself what is going on. When the Light of his gaslighting illuminated his Narcissism everything may sense. That was only the beginning- I’ve had a terrible time getting away - he’s so crafty - got baited a few time but now I’ve blocked him everywhere. I am looking to move so he won’t be able to ambush me. Thank you for all your videos So Empowering!!!

They are a basket case when they know "you" know. They get very scared, nervous, and anxious. They also know that they can't count on you anymore and if they plead, whine, and cry and ask for your help, and you don't give it to them, and when you say you are fed up, they don't think you have the right to be angry.

Never face them, when you know but RUN

Never ever let them know you figured them out. Please folks. Say nothing. Otherwise if you do, expect a malice campaign. If ur dealing w a psychopath, do not attempt anything alone. Especially the court process. Hire a badass who's been through it.

It took until my mid-seventies to finally figure out that my sister is a covert narcissist. WOW! What a relief! My entire life I had been trying to coach her, help her, and she resisted everything. I saw her financially destroy her "sugar daddy" and she tried with me, but something just seemed "off" and I was guarded. I bought groceries instead of giving her cash. But Dad used to give her $20 just to go away! 🤣 I went "no contact" last month. It's sad, but I am glad I lived to the day I figured her out. Everything makes sense now! Ty!

You feel like u have the keys to the kingdom💯 It’s all a game with a Narc play it well they don’t love you so do you and make it work in your favor💯 They never leave but if you play your cards right you can cause them to leave💯💪🏽 S/O NARC SLAYER

man these videos are so eye opening. my aunt is a narcissist and growing up she completely killed my self esteem. she convinced me i was useless and no one would ever love me. she still tries to get me to talk to her but i just ignore her. thank goodness for therapy or else i'd still feel the same way about myself.

I can so relate to what you're saying. With mine I found out that he had been dating someone for 4 months at the same time as dating me. It was her that realized it first. At our age we don't meet in the parking lot and rumble. If anything we decided to have fun with it. We knew he was out of town so we went to his boat where he lives and took selfies on his bed then posted it on Facebook. After that went out for dinner and waited for the show to begin. After him realizing what had happened, then things got more intense with begging me to stay. Was not going to happen. Later I agreed to meet with him and got on his phone and noticed he had sent a message to his daughter laughing about the two of us and that we both were fighting to get him back. It just affirmed to me what he was all about. Even with him showing up with a big engagement ring, I was not going to break. Needless to say he told me to keep the ring and think about it so I can honestly say I have a really nice ring and no did not marry him. You just have to stay strong and see it for what it really is. He even tried to threaten me by showing pictures of me changing that he had taken one day to his friends. That did not work in his behalf at all as I contacted his friend's wife and explain the situation and she shut that down. He does have a new victim now and as much as I would love to warn her, it's in my best interest to stay out of it. So to all people reading this, there is a big light at the end of this tunnel and you need to allow yourself to see it! My heart goes out to everyone.

I made the mistake of discrediting everyone who told me that my narc ex was in fact a narc. I tried to rationalize behaviors, to understand, to communicate with them... Only to find out that they took my biggest fears and threw them in my face. They showed zero remorse for showing their true face to me, while pretending to everyone else, that I was the bad guy. It's been a few years and I'm still trying to work through the trauma of it all. Meanwhile, they are living their best life, moved on with someone else, and act like there never was a "we". Wish that I knew then, what I know now. I could have saved myself the worst heartbreak. Wasted so much time loving someone unworthy of even like.

In my opinion I have dealt with two narcissist on an ongoing basis they both have punished me when I am leaving the situation and I know that I am onto them. That’s a good sign that means I’m doing something right! The fact that they are that annoyed and do everything to try to lower my self-esteem maliciously say and do nasty things it got me down at first however I have reframed the way I see it. That’s GOOD!

Thanks youtube suggested me your channel, I need more light about narcissistic behavior, because I have a narc ex and he still come back from time to time, now I became more honest with him, I can tell whatever I wanna tell him because I am not afraid of him anymore. The best way to defeat narcissist is to educate yourself about narcissism, study their behavior then turn the table against them let them taste their own medicine.

I have been listening to many youtube videos on this case. many are good but yours sir, it is straight to the point, no wishy washy, concise, easy to digest and be put to practice. well done. and thanks for sharing your perspectives on this thoroughly. many people will get their knowledge and awareness lifted watching this.

Thanks to channels like yours they are being found out on a less than hourly basis. If you are reading this you like me are looking for answers. I made the mistake of telling mine I knew she is a narcissist and all hell broke loose. Best advice DON'T TELL THEM YOU KNOW!!!

He tried every trick under the sun, mainly cut me out of finances and left with NOTHING he moved bank account, got a GREAT lawyer and got justice through the courts TG judge I think he could see through him, now live in PEACE.

Yes everyone needs to know this, great video

Mine was a complete phantom. Her name was Meghan (so she said), told me she was 25. One time hanging around her family her mom referenced to her last 27th birthday to someone else, which I overheard and didn’t act like I heard it. I could feel this energy like she brought something up she wouldn’t have. Meghan quickly changed subject. I thought it was weird but maybe just a hiccup in her mom’s brain. To her family she was 28, to me she was 25 (I was younger), and to my friends her age would float between them. I noted it but didn’t bring it up. She was well traveled, used to be a flight attendant. Went to India and fell in love with yoga and being a yogi. White woman with head wraps and beads everyday. Nothing wrong with that but she definitely put on that character since looking at her older photos. She also had moved a lot (like major moves, San Franscisco- Texas- DC- Peru- India- Korea etc) That was a red flag that she could never settle down in one place. Made me feel like she was running or hiding from something. I could tell she had a very colorful past but she never wanted to talk about it, even all the cool places she’d been. The next flag was a beach day where her sister called her by a name I had never heard before (I can’t even remember the name but it wasn’t Meghan nor her middle name / nicknames). It was something so different I was blown when I saw her respond. Again, I was far enough away playing soccer that they thought I couldn’t hear. But I was so hyper vigilant at this point that my ears were perked 24/7. That one really set me off. Her sister was a hairdresser and she used to always talk about how dumb and superficial it was as a career (acting all deep and spiritual). Years later after leaving her she is now a hairdresser and has completely changed identities, once again. No wraps, no mala beads, and bleaching and cutting women’s hair. Again, nothing wrong with that, but it made me realize she just put on a personality to fit what she thought I wanted when really I’m a dude, idc do what you want. She also met me over Instagram. She did all the pursuing, slid into my dms and arranged to meet. Huge red flag now. Lord knows how long she had been stalking me after my previous break up. These people pretend to be the hunters. Instead of hunting their goals tackling challenges and problems the world faces, the hunt people and see them as a challenge to dominate them. These people will waste every last drop of your energy and do nothing with it. They’ll eat chips and fall asleep in their own drool with the energy you give them. Just thought I’d share some insights and red flags looking back in hindsight. Be safe out here. If I could go back and give my younger self one piece of advice it would be to never ignore your gut/heart feelings. Your body will be screaming at you. You will feel old, tired, exhausted, choked, numb, dissociative, rageful, annoyed. The coverts are especially difficult because what you see never matches the energy you feel from them. Mine was usually smiley and loud, unless there wasn’t a big group around, but I’d feel dead and exhausted. She’d always want to be at my house the second I got home from work. Which at first I thought was cute until I realized she was trying to suffocate me and give me no alone time. My lease was running out and she was talking about moving in together. That’s when I really started thinking about my exit. I figured out a new roommate situation temporarily without telling any of my friends/roommates. Moved out when my roommates (friends with the narc) were gone on a trip. I stayed in the new place for a month before moving states too. I literally couldn’t be around any of my friends because they were all her spies it was fucked. It took me years to digest all that happened. You’ll look back at lovey doves texts and want to vomit. It was never real, remember that.

That's so sad, most people change when you infom them of Disengagement. But things get crazy when you allow them to manipulate you then take your Power back

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Brother you nailed it

Engage not. You have to assent. Or there’s no game. The one who has the choice to play or not is dominant.

My foot coming in for a landing right on their ask.

I love your videos they have really helped me understand what narcissism is, it's been an absolute nightmare living with it, but I'm coping, well just about, it's probably the most traumatic thing I've ever had to deal with.

Social media is the epitome of narcissism and that makes this a total paradox.......

Telling my Ex what I thought he was made his abuse to me even worse. 🍒

I told my narc that "that girl" that he lived with was gone.........I saw the look on his face he knew the jig was up. I now have a sister trapped in the abuse cycle. She won't even call him a narcissist, feels sorry for him. 18 years with him its too late. I have an aunt that spent over 50 years with one and has had a total break with reality and wanders around in some fantasy. She nursed him until his death and he was evil to his last breath and tortured her to the very end. There are lots of narcissists out there.

When things happen, you will always be blamed. I've been told I'm crazy, ungrateful, lazy, fat. I weigh 55kgs, have worked for 50 years and reared 2 beautiful children. He'll rant and rage and scream "divorce". Next day, it's like it's all forgotten and nwver happened. It's very sad!!

After a 20 plus yr marriage I made the decision ,it took years of planning , detaching and not reacting. Omg he really began going crazy from my no reaction but I stayed firm. He pulled a gun police called .

I got tired in the end and began to mirror them. When I received an unkind message I used the same message back to them. When they kept blocking and unblocking me on social media I just blocked them, and blocked the new profile that sprung up. When I kept getting ghosted I completely iced them out. I just didn’t have the energy to be bothered with them any more.

Bro good... I just escaped a delusional psychotic narcissist. Every stage he mentions is spot on... she made me pay a big price for leaving her... so glad for videos like this.

This video resonated so much to me. It explains everything I've been going through. The more I know about this person, the worse it gets. Now I am willing to learn everything about this person. Only to see the red flags of others, who engage in this type of abuse. Thank you so much. Have a blessed day.

I was with my partner for 6 years and the 1st 5 years was intense love-bombing and wonderful sex from her. On the 5th year, I became aware of NPD and started observing her personality and eventually, confirmed my suspicions. When I started to draw boundaries by not allowing her to check my mobile phone and being more vocal instead of agreeing with her all the time, she "demoted" my status in the relationship to "friend"/"family member" status and just a bed-mate without any intimacy. It's her way of punishing me, ignoring my presence , minimal contact and being away the whole day only back in the evenings for bed. She is doing power play with me and to let me know who is in control in the relationship. Basically, isolating me completely. I am still living with her but slowly planning my exit as I need to untangle all the links we have had i.e. finances, properties, etc.... I am now using the grey-rock method to distance myself from her.

God is with me. Idc, they can do what they want..... God is on my Side. & the Victory is MINES 🌟🌟🌟

♥️ Your efforts to protect and serve us are greatly appreciated.

Seek protection in the justice system, that's what I recommend and I've been thru by their parental alienation, and it's helping to shut their mouth up.

They have to blameshift onto you to keep themselves from seeing their own shit! Hold our ground the crap will be known eventually...

Yes, they are predators!

I wish I had known to expect this. It was like X had gone mad. X looked perfectly sane to everyone else, but I could see in their eyes, they way they would smile and smirk at me. X hated me. I thought X would be more than happy to see me gone. I think I would have preferred to have been beaten to a bloody pulp, but that would make X look bad. I just never, even after all that time, never expected such a calculated campaign of sadistic revenge. X must have enjoyed it very much. It was a virtuoso performance. Hats off to X. If I had any idea what was going to hit me I would have left everything behind, packed my bags and run for it.

I literally want to stand up and celebrate you for being a straightforward line in a psychotic loop of thoughts. You are giving prisoners keys here my love and you are wonderful. I'm in stage 2 of leaving. The fallout. But this is my 3rd time in a lifetime of leaving a parent in their own misery. I Gave up scapegoat badge and I'm recovering my finances to slither away myself.

The problem with me is that I didn't see it. I was hung out to dry and I was lost. Anyone who says that it's easy to heal? I don't see it. I'm still fighting with myself constantly on a daily basis. I have my good days, though. Getting things out in comments helps. I have to look past that mask and remember who she really is. It's strange how people, narcissists, who are so miserable are seemingly always on top of the world. I guess that's just another slap to the face of their victims.

My goodness…. You are speaking my life!!!

Thanks for the advice 🙏

This was so good and right on time! Thank you 🙏

So glad u were in my feed today !👊👍

This is my husband description,thank you you helping me so much to understand him and to learn to protect me i can’t divorce we are over 65 now and financially we are not poor but bat i can’t tell we are rich I’m not ready to change everything for now I’m learning how to make my life great even on this situation and I’m optimistic i can be stronger than him , and Lord Jesus Christ is with me always

To everyone here who was almost been killed leaving. I am so so sorry and please give yourself a break for the ptsd you definitely have afterwards. Soon though you will see that was a bubble in time and space but it is not how "the world abroad is" not even close. We run to each other for help. Like this kind man making a safe space for us to seek information ✨️

My sister is a full blown pathological liar. She's 40 years old and lies to family members that we pick on her. When she's caught out in her lies, she literally has no shame in her face! She seeks attention from everyone 24/7 and I don't understand why she has such a fan base of family and friends who side with her, even though she's known as someone who doesn't have a moral compass... Its crazy!

Thank you for your guidance and care. Your energy instils peace.

Brother i really thank you..thank u very much for saving my life..u r helping lot of people to leave those toxic people and lead a healthy life again...

I thank Jesus for you Danish!

Danish, thank you so much for your content. It is helpful, to the point, and I could listen to your voice forever. :)

thank you for your healing energy you give so generously