I wouldn't leave Mathew with a stuffed toy let alone a baby

Matthew is the reason that Emily doesn't have her daughter and you can tell. She acts just like my mum when we were in a dv situation. She needs to leave him or she'll never get her baby

Why aren't they trying to get matthew away from emily?? She's clearly in danger, not just the baby.

Poor, poor Emily, run dear, run. Focus on your daughter and getting sober,

Matthew thinking they're taking kids away because other people can have them when they're unable to get kids is just a whole new level of stupidity and lack of accountability.

The arrogance of some of these fathers disgusts me. I would never choose my partner over my child.

The couple so chilled when they've had their new born taken away. I'd be crying my eyes out and doing everything to keep my kids.

No question that Emily was abused growing up.

17:06 He’s delusional, disturbed, controlling, abusive, degrading, and out of control. No child or person is safe in any environment he is a part of. The mother needs counseling to realize that his behavior is controlling and abusive. If she wants to keep her child, he needs to be out of the picture. He’s a ticking time bomb that continuously shows that he is not able to control his behavior. Over a cereal bowl…. That’s replaceable.

WHY ISN’T ANYONE CONCERNED WITH GETTING EMILY AWAY FROM HIM???? The baby isn’t the only one in danger here!!

It's so good to see people cover a topic that is usually taboo in our culture. Thanks!

Why are they keeping Emily away from her baby? She's not abusive. She IS abused. They need to put a restraining order on him and keep him away from Emily and her baby.

Matthew's absolute refusal to accept accountability for his actions and CONSTANTLY blaming others and inability to recognize/choose socially acceptable behavior is GROSS and DANGEROUS.

Matthew can’t even behave himself for 10 minutes in a meeting without swearing and being physically and verbally aggressive. He needs to be controlled. His behaviour is atrocious! I wonder if he would be different with men, he is just as bad.

Matthew needs to shut his mouth & open his ears. He refuses to listen. Thinks he's done nothing wrong. I understand he's angry, but acting like a ignorant ass isn't going to get his child back!!!!! RUN EMILY!!

It’s rather a pity that both Emily and her baby can’t be fostered together, maybe for a few years… I know that is a bit strange to say but having been in a situation not completely different from this, it’s what I secretly wished for.

I think they need to remove this guy all together it's clear that he's controlling of her and she is intimidated by bim

40 with an 18 yr old yeah 😅

The mom that didnt show to say goodbye to her baby broke my heart. That poor little boy. And emily needs to get far away from mathew. She needs a family herself it seems.

This is one of the more depressing things I have ever watched.

I wish Emily could have someone, besides a social worker, to be a parent to HER to help her break free from Matthew, I think she has the potential to be a good mom. If he cant even keep it together in front of the very people who make the decisions about whether they have their child or not, then he surely can’t keep it together at home.

I don't know how old this video is,but I hope Emily ran from Matthew and never looked back. He sees no problem with anything he does, thinks every one else is the problem.... probably this isn't the first woman he was (at least) mentally abusing, and probably has other children out there he isn't allowed to see.

How can Emily chose him over her sweet little baby?

I been there and done that many many years ago and just follow the rules and do what you are told, don't argue just do your job and proof you can do it!! Don't give up and stay focus for your child and don't blow it!!!

Any woman chosing a man over their child has proven to be an unfit mother.

These poor little babies - they didn’t choose to be born into this 😢

42:56 that's a sick smile. He's relieved... Not sad.

my mother beat me and starved me, i called police, they called social workers, they literally went ''okay she has a room, a bed, clothes and fridge has food'' and left me there, in the end i was raped and had to endure being choked the lights out by mothers husband(stepdad) and nothing was done, she denied it happening, he denied and i was made into lying kid who was ''spoiled and clearly had it too good in life'' when i asked my mother why she didnt do anything she blammed my aunts relationship status as why allowed him to do it infront of her. I broke down and my finace saw it and he knew that i might punch my mother for saying thats the reason, but i just got into her face and said ''dont you dare blame ppl who werent there'' and walked up to my aunt and asked for her to driive me away from that house. My family didnt know that i wasnt lying since they were told that im lying for attention and they believed them till i kept on saying it more and more and when ran away, now they all believe me and dont want them anywhere near anyone. I wwas left at a rapist who beat me household where i was starved and literally abused by only having a room and fridge with food which i wasnt allowed to touch, my only meal was school lunch. im so happy to see these kids getting taken away right away

They should put a protective intervention order in place against Mathew and the baby’s mother that is what worked for me it kept my baby with me but kept me away from the problem and allowed me to care for my baby however for a while I did have to live in a young mom home but still got to keep my baby ❤❤❤and I love my kiddos soooo much I would do anything for them ! There is no MAN or person in this whole world that I would choose over my babies not EVER !

The UK is much stricter and on top of things than the US. Our government has sold out families to billion dollar corporations instead of running public welfare themselves. These private "contractors" prioritize their earning (which is a forgone conclusion as they are private BUSINESSES) and child abuse is ignored. The government representatives who decide to contract out public welfare jobs are really siphoning billions in taxpayer money to their wealthy donors, who then turn around and donate millions to their campaigns. Same thing with privately run prisons, privately run healthcare, etc. Capitalism.

It is so different in France : we do all we can to keep parents and children together by helping the parents. Sometimes children can be removed for a short period and send to a children facility or a foster family. The final goal is to keep the social links between the family and the children the siblings. We all need a family to thrive. The best is to help the family to grow together ! Of course psychiatric and housing is help all states should be able to offer to vulnerable parents to help them become better parents and citizen !

I've known a few mothers who have had their children removed because of their partners. I understand wanting to stand by your man, but when it comes to your child, you need to always put them before a relationship. If you aren't with that person, you take away the reason for your child to be removed. Do what you need to do to keep your child in your care. You will both be better for it.

Men like Matthew will never change. They do not see their behaviour as wrong.

I hope that Emily left Matthew!

How is it possible to send 3000 texts?! That’s a truly insane person

He is not good fit for the child cus he has bad temper and don't allow him near the child and he seems to be crazy and mentally

Bro's more concerned about his daughter's bowl being smashed than he is his own daughter.

Wouldn't matter how much i loved my partner if i had to choose between them or my child i would choose my child every time

she is 18, why couldn't they take mother with child into "care"? Teach her how to parent rather than psychologically and emotionally break the mother/child bond.

bruh whats matthews problem he needs to be in jail fr

Still it's a strange system and the parents have all the rights to be concerned. Here in the Netherlands we have a fostercare system. Kids are not put up for adoption by authorities, only if the parents request it. This is how it should be. So they can keep being in touch with their kids.

Some people don't deserve kids, have them for the benefit, then open their legs and have another one so they don't have to get off their lazy butts and work, don't care who the daddy is, just to have the benefit. They are evil to mistreat a child when others yearn to be mothers, like me. Life sucks and this makes me damn well angry !😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠

Trust me now that I’m older and have grown the frick up I now understand okay they don’t want that child baby around abuse and screaming all time they don’t want that baby to be around Matthew or anyone who acts that way around a baby it’s scary for the child it’s not fair seeing their mama be abused or however !!! If MATHEW WOULD JUST SHUT THE HELL UP she would probably get that baby back 😢😢

My heart when she missed saying goodbye to him

the look of fear in that poor baby's eyes :(

100 000 kids placed per year!! There must be a problem somewhere…

From one social worker to another, thank you!

"What has IQ got to do with being a good parent? " Oh, GOD 😳

My heart is with that baby, but also with Emily. You can see it, in his face, he’s a horrible controlling person. I feel for her, I hope she can find a way to give herself the love she needs so she can be with her baby.

It is shocking how fast children are placed for adoption. Doesn’t feel right.

Wait Mathew looks and acts like he's 25 and Emily's only 18??? Tf that's a 7 year age gap🤨

And still having more children, why oh why?????

Matthew is an abuser. He doesn't need to have his kids back, but Emily definitely would have a shot if she would leave him. She needs to flee. He's probably hitting her

I feel so sorry for Emily and her daughter. Emily is a battered woman stuck in an abusive relationship. She needs saving also.

"I don't know what IQ has to do with being a good mum." 🤦🏻‍♀️

I believe that they should have helped Emily get away from her abusive boyfriend and get a job and be self sufficient and gave her back her daughter. I don't believe these social workers try hard enough to truly help, it's like they are friends and see these other families as better so their just taking babies they know they can and doing nothing to help the ones who can either eventuality take care of their children or never really got the chance to try......I feel so bad for Emily bc she deserved to be a mom and have her daughter back......

Im a mom. I was in an abusive relationship with my childs DNA donor. I ran with my child when she was a couples old. Had to wait until he was inebriated enough until i could pack up and leave. My child is my life. My ex is now a revolving door in prison. I would'nt change my past. But im raising my child to be brave and not to take anything from a partner never. I will always have my childs back. This poor girl (emily) needed help she was stuck in a cycle and thought that Mathew was love when he definitely wasnt. I hope she got away

Omg it's his fault she doesn't have her baby , run hun run

Nikola got clean, is desperately trying to keep housing, and is trying to get everything in order. They absolutely wrote her off from the start. With help she could be a decent parent from what it looks like. That's absolute malarkey. The baby does have a mother who cares. She also needs assistance. Why should she lose the baby because she'd need assistance? Is there something that isn't in this video that should change my mind? Because that doesn't sound right.

Why are these parents having more children so soon after losing older ones? They should get their acts together and practice birth control for awhile. There are a lot of parents in the US that shouldn’t have custody of their children.

If after loosing your 4 children you still decide to be lazy and blame everyone else except yourself than tou don't deserve to care for a little child.

"Hopefully" we'll get her back?! That is your child, blood of your blood, flesh of your flesh, your heart, your whole wide world in a tiny little being.

We need updates on these people.

Emily is a child herself, why aren’t they stepping up to help her. Her relationship is probably normal to her bc of how she was raised. She needs helps herself. Her and her baby need a home together where people can teacher her what love is and how she should be treated. This is like the children here in the US who age out of the foster care system with no family and end up in some of the worst situations bc they have no one. They end up with an abusive man who controls them and they don’t know any different. It’s heart breaking.

anyone know what this show is actually called

Reunification is absolutely key for a family. The parents that were drinking and stopped after their 4 boys were taken away never had any chance to do the 24 mths therapy and get custody of their baby before she was adopted. Yes best interest of the child is usually to stay with birth parents this system in the UK seems hugely biased and cruel. Give a mother or father sterility surgery instead of taking newborns…

Im curious what the age gap is between Matthew and Emily, younger girls with troubled backgrounds may be easier to gaslight and abuse. He should be no where near his child. I hope emily left and got custody of her daughter back.

the age gap between Emily and Matthew is fucken scary.

Wait, thats her partner!!? He looks old enough to be her father..

Wow they are real quick on adopting over there huh?

Nah as the woman I would stay behind and tell them I want out of the relationship with him so I could have my child and he can continue to throw his tantrums else where

Does anyone know what happened to Emily and Nikola?

Matthew is the biggest man child, poor Emily needs needs to run for the hills. She seemed like a loving mother to her daughter, such a shame that Matthew is stopping her from being able to mother her. Lock him up, problem solved.

Man this system seems harsh

Emily needs to get away from him now she will get her daughter back

Emily is a child having a child she needs to get away from him now no one is safe

I will never comprehend choosing a partner over a child.

The sad thing is you cant guarantee the adoption family will be any better

If CPS has been in your children’s lives you need to get help with your problems before you get your children back

I can't imagine staying with a man at the cost of my child. These poor girls are just so broken and weak. Makes me wonder what life was like for them growing up.

Why would they require an IQ test? If that were an accurate way to determine if someone can be a good parent, they’d be requiring them for all expectant parents.

Seems no matter what, they adopt the babies out!

God bless Emily, "What"s IQ got to do with it?" Also Emily "I don't understand why he does this." MISS MAAM 😭😭😭

I know they’re speaking English…

I was adopted and my childhood was so viloent i was a cronic run away and homless by age 13 and emancapated by age 16. But im from the US and our CPS is famously horrifing. Point being the whole system is screwrd.

Emily.... Social services nailed this one. You seem like you could make it with your daughter but you're dude is a mess. I have been in several very long-term relationships and I did NOT screen or answer my guys phone. Thats just weird. As soon as he said that.... nope!!

The system there is very speedy

I feel Nicola deserves a chance.

You hate the wrong person Emily

These poor wee ones :(

If you’re a parent and you’re so familiar with the system to call it an “EPO” you’ve got bigger problems.

You mean to tell me that these social services people who care so much about these babies. But they put that little boy in a car seat in a freaking snowsuit and see nothing wrong? One accident and he could be ejected from his seat. That’s so unsafe. I’d be pissed as a mother if they did that.

thankfully these services exist so babies are protected from adults being completely delusional about their parenting abilities !

I would leave Matthew he’s a horror

Emily needs to leave so she can get her baby back

Is there really more kids that need adopting than people willing? In Australia it’s extremely difficult to adopt, definitely more parent willing than children

This is sad

Emily should leave Matthew and raise her baby in peace.

Because you’re not fit to parent and wonder why they are taken away.

What cute babies thank goodness the Forster parents are very good I understand the IQ test but it doesn’t show on how good parent are social and responsible with their kids because you can be a smart adult still have big mental issues