What I Learned As An Ex-Gifted Kid | Caroline Cannistra

What I Learned As An Ex-Gifted Kid | Caroline Cannistra | TEDxAshburnSalon

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6 жыл бұрын

Gifted children often lead double lives. Intellectually, they may seem like small, eccentric adults, and they may prefer the company of adults, but in many ways they are still children. For this reason, many gifted education experts have doubts about letting gifted students start college several years early. In this talk, you will hear about my experience entering a college environment at age 13. You’ll hear about my successes and failures, the way I interact with the professional and academic world, and what I am learning now as an ex-gifted adult. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@evecastle538 5 жыл бұрын

Try being Gifted/Learning Disabled--teachers didn't have a CLUE what to do with me but decided that yelling and embarrassing me would do the trick. I teach now because I hated my teachers.

@sab5686 4 жыл бұрын

SO TRUE

@gretchenh2180 4 жыл бұрын

This is why my gifted son wants to teach. To right the wrongs he has experienced.

@enchantedevergreen5329 3 жыл бұрын

I was lucky that the learning disability didn't affect me as bad in the gifted kid program. I didn't get yelled at because I was called "emotional and sensory problems" and blamed my lashing out or sporadic crying on. I went to a speech therapy like program but for reading. It actually helped me alot and I'm very grateful but as soon as I graduated from the program everyone expected my intelligence to rise 5 levels. Like, no???

@m2-x-n253 3 жыл бұрын

there are MILLIONS OUT THERE, MILLIONS OF KIDS out there who are INSULTED and executed off thier TALENT

@ggrugg1 3 жыл бұрын

@Sarah Bailey High School English

@krissy012p 6 жыл бұрын

"It's a choice I make every day - what type of person I am to the world." That is brilliant. We don't have to be held to what personality tests or disorders label us as. We can be who we want to be, at least to an extent.

@mamaluvbug987 5 жыл бұрын

*to an extent* is truly key, because many (family, peers, especially so called "professionals"!) are quick to stereotype, cast judgements, make assumptions & put one in a box, thus reinforcing being kept in this box indefinitely; defined by their test results & array of diagnoses (regardless of accuracy, stamped & labeled for life once applied to one's records!). This character profile is built, modified & accessed -mysteriously & only further hinders one's choices, with a lifelong domino effect, guaranteed to continue by everyone who entered their assessed parameters of one's worth, serving via induced oppression!

@Sarvebhavntusukhinah1111 2 жыл бұрын

Good

@amberpayson 5 жыл бұрын

Great TEDx Talk. I love when people acknowledge that one can brilliant with a Learning disability. Being gifted is not a learning disability, but people definitely SHOULD pay close attention to both the sociological and psychological effects of being gifted because they disable us to “fit in” with the world. We are hypersensitive, empathetic and almost plagued by a constant need to know more . I was that gifted kid who FAILED, partially out of boredom but mainly because my teachers just didn’t know what to do with me. I had too many questions and not enough answers. Choosing a major was excruciating for me; I almost felt insulted to know that learning amounted to job training . I still don’t know how I’m supposed to decide a career :/

@ldinti03 4 жыл бұрын

Taylor yours.

@Dexter-nr5hb 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I wish they would classify it as a learning disability because I *feel* disabled and I don’t know what to do with my life 😑 but that’s probably just the trauma speaking

@alicia1636 2 жыл бұрын

Personally i'm a gifted kid but I also have adhd and i'm autistic and I've Always done very Good in school but I have gotten so bored sometimes and now that i'm in senior year in high school I have a really Hard Time cause my procrastinating en attention problems with adhd are really catchibh Up to me ,before I could handle it by just spending more time om homework and being a perfectionist but It's not enough now ,luckily since I'm gifted I reatin information quite well so the timw that I do spend studying paus of well

@digiryde 6 жыл бұрын

Learning to fail is one of the most important lessons in life. Right up there with learning to persevere. I am not sure you can truly learn one without the other.

@harveylin3548 4 ай бұрын

This, being gifted young end up being inside a resource cursed eco-system.

@wordart_guian 5 жыл бұрын

At times I Just wish giftedness was not such a taboo. I wish i wasn't supposed to feel guilty of thriving. I wish "society" wouldn't dismiss us as "bragging" when we really are not, and also dismiss us when we're complaining about our very real problem. When I entered middle School I had high hopes. I hoped in the School I was going to I would be actually able to make real friends, because There would be other kids like me, and they would understand me, and the teachers would too. I was told I was wrong, That I had absurd expectations, That others gifted kids were well integrated, That Giftedness doesn't really matter except for getting good grades and good grades are undeserved when you're gifted, That I was privilèged, That my comportment was wrong, That I was annoying and That no one cared about my "uninteresting" interests. That I should make an effort to be normal like everyone else, and That I should pass unremarked. I was bullied. Nah, harassed. Bullied is not strong enough of a term. Bullies told me I was alone, friendless, and That I should kill myself already. What I've lived through no one should have to live it.I'm in 12th grade, and I've just discovered I'd been lied to. That I wasted 5 years of my life believing lies. I discovered many other kids in my class were gifted, That they were my friends, and That they were definitely as quirky and socially awkward as me, because quirks and awkwardness come from overexcitablities, dyssynchronia and think process différences, and are characteristics of giftedness. That giftedness definitely matters in life, and That you Can talk about it with concerned friends. That they all have actually interesting interests That they talk about when between them, and That they really are more than the "normal Person" façade they put on. That we are actually sharing jokes together, That I get them and That they Are actually funny. That most of them were bullied in middle School, because of their différences, and thought they were the only ones because that's what they were told. That they told the teacher once they were happy That I was finally talking to them. I discovered I was not uninteresting as I was told. That I can actually have friends. And That I didn't have to adapt one bit to "the Real world", because Real friends only like the Real you. With quirks and all.This Is knowledge no gifted Child should be denied.

@michellerericha3127 5 жыл бұрын

My son is gifted.... has had some great teachers and not some great. Right now his teacher doesn't know what to do with him because she does so much extra with him but... she has to teach the other kids too. He gets bored and distracts class. Can't skip him because he is new to the school.... test scores are off the chart. 97th percentile in the Nation.... in gifted and talented programs math club music. Still bored. Comes home and studies a college anatomy book. I want to home school him but also I'm a single mom with another younger child. And everyone says don't homeschool him. I'm lost.

@klara4199 4 жыл бұрын

βωρδάρτ hello, i understand how you feel and I have gone through approximately the same problem of not fitting in without anyone actually acknowledging why I was different. It is very unfair an makes loneliness happen. Btw I see that you’re using a French keyboard, are you a French speaker? Dans ce cas, est-ce que tu viens de France Belgique ou de Suisse? Moi je parle aussi français hehe

@wordart_guian 4 жыл бұрын

@@klara4199 de france (désolé je réponds tard)

@klara4199 4 жыл бұрын

@@wordart_guian saches que je te soutiens depuis la Suisse, on m'a fait comprendre que j'étais bête, superficielle, ennuyante, tout ce que tu veux car je n'étais pas moi meme et ils ne voyaient qu'une facade qu'ils ne comprenaient pas. Je pense que si on réalise qu'on est beaucoup mais discrets, et qu'on n'est vraiment pas seuls dans cette situation, on peut se remotiver à vivre cette surdouance pleinement. Sans chercher à s'intégrer avec des gens plus simples qui nous tirent vers le bas. Je sais pas si tu avais besoin d'entendre ça ou pas mais ça m'a aidé personnellement de l'écrire hahah. voila bonne continuation

@tdfefdsa4656 5 жыл бұрын

I though this was going to be about how you started your life off as being diagnosed as gifted and eventually stop 'being smart' and fail because your primary school did not know how to deal with gifted kids so you're basically ruined because you never learned how to learn or work. I would have been very interested in such a topic.

@EmpireRamzes 5 жыл бұрын

sounds like what happened to me, typically there's a small window for being gifted then everyone catches up

@mariahhart1087 4 жыл бұрын

Ramzes Empire exactly😭

@applejuice8271 4 жыл бұрын

Same!!

@joettaharris4230 3 жыл бұрын

@@EmpireRamzes , that is not what gifted is. People don’t catch up with gifted folks.

@inessa5923 3 жыл бұрын

@@joettaharris4230 I used to be a gifted, grade-skipping student. Then I arrived at a point where I realized that there are instances where studying is required - where breezing through and winging it because "you're special" won't do the trick. I burned out and now I'm BEHIND all the "average" kids. So, yes, you definitely can catch up.

@lightnightsky 2 жыл бұрын

Being a "gifted" kid with undiagnosed ADHD is a different kind of pain

@grantjonathansanford6174 6 жыл бұрын

Very inspiring talk Caroline. Thankyou for that gift.

@dr.hemanginipatel1590 3 жыл бұрын

Learning to never stops is one of the most important lessons in life.

@dr.rutvishah3100 3 жыл бұрын

very emotional and wonderful talk on various aspects of gifted child's life.

@intrepidtomato 5 жыл бұрын

That was excellent. I had a similar experience, except that I didn't go to college early, I just skipped a year. The label gifted really is not useful later in life. It took me a lot longer than it took you to understand special needs (I consider myself highly sensitive, so sensitive to sounds, too many stimuli etc) and that asking for help was okay. The label can be a bit of a self imposed prison.

@goodstorylover 4 жыл бұрын

Very informative talk for me as a person working in education. The trouble is you need to put a pupil under some label for him to reach the kind of enrichment he (she) needs. I would love to have a solution for this. It is really helpful to get the opinion from the "other side" so to speak. All the best, Caroline.

@aubrieross7831 5 жыл бұрын

You are very inspirational. Thank you for this. Truly amazing!

@dinbandhuprajapati3885 2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting talk on various aspects of gifted children's life.thank you

@dr.shuvojitmondal2503 3 жыл бұрын

This video clarified the various intellectual of persons. Nice to watch.

@shailja9894 3 жыл бұрын

very informative and inspiring talk .Thank you caroline.

@dr.sumaiyashaikh6849 3 жыл бұрын

Again an insightful TEDx talk... and about self-analysis..

@madhushreemukherjee1255 3 жыл бұрын

Motivating talk.Thank you for the session.

@dipankardas46 3 жыл бұрын

VERY interesting talk on various aspects of gifted children's life.

@noahlow3552 3 жыл бұрын

Fellow gifted people. I need help. I can relate completely to all the struggles she shared. I am diagnosed with bipolar and now I suspect ADD, I have a IQ of 149 and pretty sure my bipolar, inability to concentrate and gifted ness are all connected. I am slow and disorganised, always the last to leave class or go to recess. I am not as accomplished as the speaker who was able to achieve great academics feats at a very young age. I am 28 now and no where near achieve the goals I want like getting married, I am attracted to guys, I want to buy a house, a car, have a great career and learn and do well in many hobbies. I think one thing I lack is the perseverance to hone a skill, I give up too soon. I also feel like i have learning disability in school and often got embarrassed and even yelled at. I resorted to a life of drinking, drugs, promiscuity but Jesus found me and I completed change from quitting smoking, having stable finances, having great friends who love and want to walk my journey together with me and I am much more happier and sociable as a person. My bipolar is also much more controlled and stable as compared to my days in polytechnics where I even dropped out 3 times and got psychologically bullied. How can i make good use of the fact that I am incredibly gifted and become the top 1%? I have very big dreams

@apotheticallyautistic73 4 жыл бұрын

I relate 250% and have seriously so much more to contribute. I have autism adhd ptsd anxiety disorder. My head works exactly as urs does. But for me persoanlly my life experience has been so very different in comparison. If we could collaborate.... wow

@juthikabiswakarma 3 жыл бұрын

Such clear perceptions at such a young age!

@amitapatel2822 3 жыл бұрын

A very good lecture is given by a nicest personality. Thank you so much mam.

@wesamshraah3631 2 жыл бұрын

i am not gifted , i am kind of familliar with logical and reasoning stimmulation , the way that relives boredom , but there is something flow inside me a deeper explanation lies inside the mind , saying that there is in the environment something close as a higher energy of conciousness would say that its in gifted people could you see a higher consciousness rather than logic or reasoning ,

@awesomnesstothemax13 Жыл бұрын

A lot of the “negative side effects” of being gifted are just traits. Perfectionism, hyper focus on curiosities, extreme criticism is not what happens because your separated…it’s how these gifted kiddos are.

@777gnom 2 жыл бұрын

As a level 3-4 this was the best thing I could find to develop my self further on

@jk2010kj 3 жыл бұрын

Well highlighted aspects about gifted kids!

@ananddhirbassi1906 2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting talk on various aspects of gifted children's life.

@apotheticallyautistic73 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for speaking out I need this in australia

@ijayita 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent speech.Thank you.

@aravindlaniya4357 2 жыл бұрын

Very informative session. Thank you so much.

@DipikaPatel-em9ly 2 жыл бұрын

Very inspiring talk. Thank you

@khushbeerdhaliwal3931 3 жыл бұрын

wonderful talk. great session

@lisamariefamily 3 жыл бұрын

This was excellent and very helpful.

@dr.ankitaleanwala1035 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience.. Mam

@dipalpatel6342 2 жыл бұрын

Inspiring speech. Thank you.

@dr.taniachakraborty 3 жыл бұрын

Great to listen.

@dr.amalendusamanta 3 жыл бұрын

different sides of gifted child are nicely explained

@pravinbhaskar5634 3 жыл бұрын

this lecture clarified the various intellectual of persons

@melissakayrussell9202 5 жыл бұрын

This was awesome

@aartipradhan4387 3 жыл бұрын

Inspiring and motivating talk.

@dr.dineshpatel6253 3 жыл бұрын

Very inspiring talk Caroline.

@rupanbaro5849 3 жыл бұрын

Wonderful presentation.

@MRAJA-di3vl 3 жыл бұрын

wonderful presentation

@rajneeshgupta5200 3 жыл бұрын

good presentation on learning of gifted children

@shamprasadvarijaraghu6878 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video.

@Sanjaysubbaedu 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome video...enjoyed thoroughly.

@user-lb4mk8bq3b 3 жыл бұрын

Very much motivating talk

@rajarsheegupta591 3 жыл бұрын

Motivating talk. Thanks.

@manojpandya974 2 жыл бұрын

Very Inspiring talking, Thankyou

@vijaynagpure5716 3 жыл бұрын

Great inspirational talk.

@dr.manishraval4934 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this talk

@apurbamandal4102 2 жыл бұрын

Very good session Very inspirative Thank you🙏🙏🙏

@alkagawas87 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for informative video.

@roobiyakm3940 3 жыл бұрын

Nice Tok this presentation help us to know the differently abled people and how they make their world

@dagobertopinto 5 жыл бұрын

Bravo! Congratulations!

@dr.vrushaliwagh1682 3 жыл бұрын

Very informative and wonderful lecture is given by Mam...Thank you mam.

@satishdake308 3 жыл бұрын

What I Learned As An Ex-Gifted Kid is very much useful video. Thanks

@user-yd2mw2nn2d 8 ай бұрын

Excellent information

@kishorwagh1166 3 жыл бұрын

Great information Thank you so much

@rakeshmakwana950 2 жыл бұрын

inspiring and informative session...

@Pamungkas 5 жыл бұрын

thank you

@bhaginapatel4264 2 жыл бұрын

Inspiring speech thank you

@dr.vijaypatil848 3 жыл бұрын

Great in spirational talk

@hansabensonara7765 2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting talk, thanks

@charmiparekh3418 2 жыл бұрын

Informative session...

@sushcharpe 3 жыл бұрын

Her own experience is very important in life

@vadhianarendra7552 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sharing interesting session.

@tarunsen3392 3 жыл бұрын

very impressive talk

@ameliegifford1477 3 жыл бұрын

You give me soo much hope. I'm 16, just got diagnosed with ADHD, and am "gifted" but like burnout :( I'm in my last year of school and I almost don't care anymore :(

@carolinec1369 3 жыл бұрын

Hey I hope you are doing well! Burnout is very hard to deal with but it doesn't define you at all. It's also normal to be mentally "done" with school in your last year. If you need to reach out, please don't be afraid to do that, but either way you will be okay!

@avinashkudva8592 3 жыл бұрын

Nice TED talk on gifted children

@shawttikiojha9820 2 жыл бұрын

Informative speech

@NoelsTVshow 4 жыл бұрын

Wow the subject is good. Other country only 5 or 6 subjects that's amazing here in the Philippines in. College you took 11 to 12 subject in full first semester till the end

@dr.giridharihazra173 3 жыл бұрын

Very effective session

@pareshpatel4162 4 ай бұрын

Great information Dr. Pareshkumar H. Patel Assistant Professor Government Arts and Commerce College, Kathlal, Kheda

@WeallMaharashtra 3 жыл бұрын

Great TEDx Talk

@hannanatalisa3282 10 ай бұрын

"Gifted" is a label according to what is considered a priority in education now. Because the priority now is in science and literature, so people who are faster in understanding those subjects are considered gifted. My first son knew how to cook since he was 3 years old. If school valued cooking he would have been considered gifted. But, he struggled in learning how to read, he only started to be able to read by himself when he was 10. Something interesting happened, once he can read he likes to read books and it helped him in his studies. He passed the Elementary School exams on time in grade 6 (11 years old), and he said he really enjoyed learning math in grade 6. Thankfully he isn't labelled with anything, he isn't considered behind either now and just moves on in life normally.

@sejalpatel1025 2 жыл бұрын

Informative talk

@harshitkothari4102 2 жыл бұрын

Good talk!!

@shrabanibasu3842 3 жыл бұрын

Very thoughtful

@santoshkulkarni272 3 жыл бұрын

inspiring talk

@dilshadpatel6872 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@BhaveshParmar-dh6fl 2 жыл бұрын

Thank You

@piyalighosh7469 3 жыл бұрын

Good approach

@rameshvasava4569 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@bhartisharma2189 3 жыл бұрын

great talk

@jigneshkumarlimbachiya8282 3 жыл бұрын

This lecture clarified the various intellectual of persons. From:- Dr. Jignesh Limbachiya

@angshumanchakraborty8238 3 жыл бұрын

Very informative video.

@umashankarroy7305 3 жыл бұрын

Informative video.

@renishghetiya901 8 ай бұрын

Very nice and interesting session

@anneleighsme6079 4 жыл бұрын

I was always so jealous of gifted kids, I have a perfectionist streak, and if I don’t achieve it I hate myself, and if I do it’s expected, I say this like I won’t do it again during the school year which started today, but I just wanted to add some perspective

@tasneemhadi5491 4 жыл бұрын

It's not really that great. I mean high intellectual/general intelligence usually leads to low emotional and/or social abilities, and is also associated with developing anxiety and depression later on especially if not managed properly. I loved the fact that I didn't have to study to ace my subjects until I struggled with one and felt that my value as a person was related to my grades. Generally speaking being gifted is associated with many other issues when managed badly in children which it is most of the time so try to appreciate what you have because in the end everyone has different struggles.

@ridipkhanikar6200 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting presentation...

@mukulikaray7982 2 жыл бұрын

Nicely said

@legallyrequired 2 жыл бұрын

I always wish my young ADHD self would have decided to focus on becoming amazing at math or science, rather than art and writing. It’s taken a while of dropping out of art school, trying more than several antidepressants, anti anxiety, and mood stabilizing medications, and a global pandemic to make me realize that what I have is enough. So what if I will never make past college or become a brilliant scientist, I can imagine any object or concept and create it. Out of spite for not being good enough I am an artist, and being an artist is good enough for me.

@johnnynjackcs0n226 Жыл бұрын

So you make a living for being an artist