What I learned from 100 days of rejection | Jia Jiang | TED

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7 жыл бұрын

Jia Jiang adventures boldly into a territory so many of us fear: rejection. By seeking out rejection for 100 days -- from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a "burger refill" at a restaurant -- Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings and, in the process, discovered that simply asking for what you want can open up possibilities where you expect to find dead ends.
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@KellyWakasa
@KellyWakasa 3 жыл бұрын
wow i've watched a lot of ted talks and this is my favorite one. he's so genuine, his story is so relatable and i want a burger refill
@guillecobo_
@guillecobo_ 3 жыл бұрын
Kelly you the man bro
@saarthshah
@saarthshah 2 жыл бұрын
Damn, Kelly taking up intellectual content.
@andywr.097
@andywr.097 2 жыл бұрын
always me last
@andy_v_n5893
@andy_v_n5893 2 жыл бұрын
Kelly watched smart videoss????
@cristian-mw7ol
@cristian-mw7ol 2 жыл бұрын
kelly, I love your videos man
@bluethan806
@bluethan806 4 жыл бұрын
6 years old he walked out of a classroom crying from rejection 30 years old he walked out of a classroom crying from acceptance
@jesuslovesyou7130
@jesuslovesyou7130 2 жыл бұрын
Naruto Uzumaki
@jul29919
@jul29919 2 жыл бұрын
full circle
@E--Drop
@E--Drop 2 жыл бұрын
.....@Ethan Micallef *Underrated comment* .............@@jesuslovesyou7130​ *Underrated reply*
@natskii7026
@natskii7026 2 жыл бұрын
And he spends the next 10 years to overcome his fear of acceptance
@the-based-jew6872
@the-based-jew6872 2 жыл бұрын
Acceptance but no woman. 'what a nice guy' they say. 🤗
@maii.8338
@maii.8338 2 жыл бұрын
"Most successful people do not let rejection define them. They let their reaction to rejection define themselves." Amazing TEDTalk!
@someidk6996
@someidk6996 Жыл бұрын
How can i copy this
@justindifeliciantonio5140
@justindifeliciantonio5140 Жыл бұрын
It’s not “reaction” but conscious response. If you’re afraid of rejection and you react to it, you’ll just keep running in a variety of ways (which isn’t always running away, it could just mean being more clever in how you get the other person to say yes, because it still defines as a person whether they say yes.)
@Joe-ew5zq
@Joe-ew5zq 3 ай бұрын
insightful
@grepgrok8735
@grepgrok8735 8 ай бұрын
1. Don't run. Stay engaged. 2. Ask "Why?" 3. Relate to their emotions and mentions their doubts 4. Just ask for what you want 5. Embrace rejection
@aj7cool7
@aj7cool7 2 ай бұрын
Beautiful summary
@sevenaries
@sevenaries 2 жыл бұрын
"Never reject yourself before they reject you" - Me 2021
@Noukz37
@Noukz37 2 жыл бұрын
"If they reject you, just eject them" - Me 2021
@fabrizio9818
@fabrizio9818 2 жыл бұрын
"Never ask who I am or what my name is, don't even say it." - Mama, Joe. (1942 - 1969)
@virgilebonnaud5525
@virgilebonnaud5525 2 жыл бұрын
@@fabrizio9818 ok Mike
@normalbuerger
@normalbuerger 2 жыл бұрын
So many people just don't let others get to know them. Instead they present a list of all the (assumed) reasons to not like them at the very first encounter 🙄 I hear people refer to “humility/modesty” a lot these days, almost inflationary - this is certainly not what it means, though
@bobbybecker7348
@bobbybecker7348 2 жыл бұрын
Such a good way to put it
@nicedog1
@nicedog1 6 жыл бұрын
Rejection hurts because it makes us doubt ourselves but the worst thing is ‘inaction’. As long as you are moving forward, you are doing ok.
@aungar2403
@aungar2403 5 жыл бұрын
My Dad's words to me. Golden!
@jamesrussell2936
@jamesrussell2936 4 жыл бұрын
I _loath_ inaction.
@80americarlos
@80americarlos 4 жыл бұрын
nicedog1 exactly. I totally agree. Perseverance!
@80americarlos
@80americarlos 4 жыл бұрын
nicedog1 mind if I use your quote? And how did you receive your understanding of “Rejection”? -it is true.
@colejackson9415
@colejackson9415 4 жыл бұрын
so fucking true
@JinjiSayson
@JinjiSayson 2 жыл бұрын
Please also take note of this lesson he imparted: “And then, I learned I could fulfill my life dream by asking.” That is an underrated statement. Learning how to advocate for yourself, because you know you deserve the best is a very important life skill.
@knifeyonline
@knifeyonline 2 жыл бұрын
That's not advocating for yourself. Advocating for yourself is convincing people of your worth, not getting stuff while also being worthless. Everybody has something to contribute, not enough people actually contribute.
@gennarorusso9959
@gennarorusso9959 2 жыл бұрын
@@knifeyonline the key point is that he advocated for himself while also really trying to give his best. You can see it pretty clearly in the videos he posted: in the doughnut one he asks expecting a "no" and was caught by surprise when the cashier actually helped him. That probably helped him a lot to see his goal: not asking absurd requests and doing nothing about it but asking weird questions and backing his requests with his own capabilities. Like what happened with the lesson in University, where he came prepared with Powerpoints and everything. I hope I explained myself as English is not my first language.
@knifeyonline
@knifeyonline 2 жыл бұрын
@@gennarorusso9959 I was replying to the comment and not the video. "You deserve the best" is bullshit losers say to themselves and become jealous of everybody else. The truth is, you deserve whatever you earn, and it's based on how much effort you put in. If you think "You deserve the best" by default, then why even work? You should just be given everything for free if you deserve the best.
@gennarorusso9959
@gennarorusso9959 2 жыл бұрын
@@knifeyonline I didn't say otherwise. "You deserve the best" shouldn't be the same as "I should get whatever I want without proving myself".
@knifeyonline
@knifeyonline 2 жыл бұрын
@@gennarorusso9959 the best means it's something better than everybody else gets or has gotten. Everybody can't have the best, if everybody had it then it would be average... the average is never the best by definition.
@kagom3
@kagom3 Жыл бұрын
Rejection is often a “chance” in disguise. I got rejected by a coffee shop I applied to, 3 months later I got a job as a staff writer in a newspaper company. My ex-boyfriend fed me with constant rejection, I left him and found my current bf-who’s the total opposite of my ex. Sometimes all we have to do is accept that there are things in this world that is just *not for us*. Leave the close doors closed, let other doors open.
@megancutshaw8852
@megancutshaw8852 Жыл бұрын
Congrats!!! I love your viewpoint. May I ask how you landed the job as a newspaper writer? Did you have a portfolio of writing or how did they select you? I’m asking because I’d love to do similar.
@Mr.Chick3n
@Mr.Chick3n 7 жыл бұрын
wow I just asked a girl out she turned me down and this was the first video in my suggestion feed. thanks KZfaq.
@KKKKAAAARRRRYYYYNN
@KKKKAAAARRRRYYYYNN 5 жыл бұрын
Hi M r. Chicken, did you ask her why she said no? Little known fact about getting a yes for a date...you have to ask with specifics ..ask her "may I take you to ( specific place) on ( specific day) at (exact time)? ". Once that person has more specifics you are more likely to be offering something that the person wants and lessens their doubt.
@snowframe2995
@snowframe2995 5 жыл бұрын
@@KKKKAAAARRRRYYYYNN I did exactly that, I asked a girl "Hey, I'm going to see a movie on Thursday with a friend at 12:40, would you like to come?" (I texted her this) She said no, so I asked if she is free saturday, she said she is busy working. I'll give it a week, then ask more broadly, something like "Hey, would you be interested in hanging out somewhere, on the holidays?", so she can't go "sorry, im busy the whole holidays". (Face to face)
@jokdaris
@jokdaris 5 жыл бұрын
@@snowframe2995 Hey, how did it go? :)
@snowframe2995
@snowframe2995 5 жыл бұрын
jokdaris no luck :p
@keithreinking6670
@keithreinking6670 4 жыл бұрын
@@KKKKAAAARRRRYYYYNN you may get a yes that way if its something she wants to do , but if she isn't attracted to him which she clearly already decided. Then he is better off this way , instead of wasting time and money on her he can find a girl that is attracted to him . Hint , use your money to buy a Gym membership and work out , everyone Male and female is attracted to people l.j e that are inshape.
@Ajithkumarm107
@Ajithkumarm107 5 жыл бұрын
Rejected Continuously in 28 interviews....just to be a Software Developer in 29th Interview..Happy that I didn't Give Up...
@LorenzoMarch
@LorenzoMarch 5 жыл бұрын
hope its going well
@MisterE1976
@MisterE1976 5 жыл бұрын
Sweet,man. Congratulations. 😀
@jamisonhenry5490
@jamisonhenry5490 5 жыл бұрын
Great job, now keep working it’s only the beginning
@rogerrabbit2902
@rogerrabbit2902 4 жыл бұрын
holy pearl. top class, son. this is the positive stuff we need to read
@sfatima6380
@sfatima6380 4 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏
@LauraGammack
@LauraGammack Жыл бұрын
That was a fantastic use of 15 mins of my time. This guy is funny, inspirational, and I needed that. Feeling so rejected lately and have been forgetting to see it as opportunity for growth.
@tyromeyamaguchi9016
@tyromeyamaguchi9016 Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@val3rystar885
@val3rystar885 2 жыл бұрын
This talk is so amazing! I laughed the entire time but then I cried at the end because I realized how much Ive let my fear of rejection control my life. I felt overwhelmed thinking of the instances Ive let my fear stop me from chasing my dreams. I intend to take back control of my life. Thank you for this life changing talk!
@maxpayne4129
@maxpayne4129 2 жыл бұрын
You can do it 💪💯🔥🔥🔥
@louismarhookperuvwe4391
@louismarhookperuvwe4391 2 жыл бұрын
You can!!!!!!
@maxpayne4129
@maxpayne4129 2 жыл бұрын
@Five o’clock pervert Honestly I thought the same but if it motivates people that's cool
@user-kw9rb2bg4y
@user-kw9rb2bg4y 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you! Been there and still are I think, but we are improving :)
@maxpayne4129
@maxpayne4129 2 жыл бұрын
@Five o’clock pervert facts
@elleste886
@elleste886 6 жыл бұрын
if burger refill becomes a thing, it's because of this guy
@CellGames2006
@CellGames2006 4 жыл бұрын
Howard Schultz might put greeters at his Starbucks just to speed up his 2020 campaign... that 5 million views sounds hot.
@computerbiscuit
@computerbiscuit 4 жыл бұрын
I peed a little lol
@31Sparrow
@31Sparrow 4 жыл бұрын
bottomless burger refills plz
@nwilt7114
@nwilt7114 4 жыл бұрын
I'll take one hamburger and gladly pay you on Tuesday.
@marzipancutter8144
@marzipancutter8144 3 жыл бұрын
All you can eat buffets are a thing. Thank you Jia I guess.
@traveel9409
@traveel9409 4 жыл бұрын
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” -Michael Scott
@mannyechaluce3814
@mannyechaluce3814 4 жыл бұрын
or was it Wayne Gretzky ? :D
@traveel9409
@traveel9409 4 жыл бұрын
@@mannyechaluce3814 ;)
@carolinecady5505
@carolinecady5505 4 жыл бұрын
@@mannyechaluce3814 it was obama
@Lucid_Insomniac
@Lucid_Insomniac 4 жыл бұрын
Wayne Gretzky
@dmstretchtv224
@dmstretchtv224 4 жыл бұрын
Traveel how tf did u forget this
@727Joshy
@727Joshy Жыл бұрын
“When you get rejected in life , when you’re facing the next obstacle or failure , consider the possibilities - don’t run. If you just embrace them , they might become your gifts as well.” - Jia Jiang
@stalincat2457
@stalincat2457 6 ай бұрын
I embraced the rejection and got the gift of a restraining order 👍
@partygirl5698
@partygirl5698 10 ай бұрын
Some of the fastest 15 minutes I've ever spent. Everything was so heartfelt, relatable, and real. This was amazing and exactly what I needed to see.
@caifancabr0n699
@caifancabr0n699 7 жыл бұрын
This was a fucking amazing TED talk
@pinkgoergefloyd8340
@pinkgoergefloyd8340 7 жыл бұрын
14:33 say it don't spray it
@tharunjain9683
@tharunjain9683 7 жыл бұрын
Carlos Reyes I truly agree man life is changing
@KindaKiki
@KindaKiki 7 жыл бұрын
Tharun Jain OZILLL
@shiwalogo2
@shiwalogo2 7 жыл бұрын
i agree, this was a GREAT talk
@FlaggingAwesome
@FlaggingAwesome 7 жыл бұрын
Carlos Reyes Absolutely. Best thing I've seen in a while!
@jerodapidap4944
@jerodapidap4944 7 жыл бұрын
I like how he turned a serious matter in life into humor
@JulyFourth1776
@JulyFourth1776 5 жыл бұрын
Necessary public speech skills in order to attract the audience's attention.
@TheMarkoPoloProgram
@TheMarkoPoloProgram 5 жыл бұрын
That’s how many comedians work.
@soioioioioioio34
@soioioioioioio34 4 жыл бұрын
well it is stand up comedy
@user-dz3ne3qf3i
@user-dz3ne3qf3i 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-dz3ne3qf3i
@user-dz3ne3qf3i 2 жыл бұрын
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@tusharpardeshi2115
@tusharpardeshi2115 2 жыл бұрын
One of the nicest and very engaging TEDx talks I've heard recently. The way he uses those anecdotes to drive home his point is absolutely brilliant. I'm positive that many people will find this talk helpful.
@tchaffman
@tchaffman 2 жыл бұрын
​​It’s one thing to celebrate your successes. It’s another thing entirely to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. Often that uncomfortable zone is where you find the most profound growth.
@georgehiggins1320
@georgehiggins1320 2 жыл бұрын
This is possibly one of the most inspiring ted talks I've ever seen.
@icecreamforcrowhurst
@icecreamforcrowhurst 2 жыл бұрын
Is that you, Bob?
@georgehiggins1320
@georgehiggins1320 2 жыл бұрын
@@icecreamforcrowhurst Tis I
@randyirajosellamas5698
@randyirajosellamas5698 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed! I loved it!
@HassanAhmed-rf9xr
@HassanAhmed-rf9xr 2 жыл бұрын
the best one ever i was so hooked kept on repeating some words .... didnt think so many would agree with me
@blessed7fold
@blessed7fold 2 жыл бұрын
100% Agreed.
@GhostToLane
@GhostToLane 2 жыл бұрын
Im gonna ask for a burger refill at every burger place now. Thank you
@toalhousecokey25
@toalhousecokey25 2 жыл бұрын
Then you get a bill for the burger refill!
@HassanAhmed-rf9xr
@HassanAhmed-rf9xr 2 жыл бұрын
@@toalhousecokey25 then you run (the only time the ted talker would allow it...)
@lokyinphotography
@lokyinphotography 2 жыл бұрын
Remember to ask why
@rz.r705
@rz.r705 2 жыл бұрын
got me laughing men
@Darkness1071
@Darkness1071 2 жыл бұрын
Take the wrapper and lay it flat on the counter when you ask 😆
@christiansookdeo8306
@christiansookdeo8306 2 жыл бұрын
For all my sales people out there: “Rejection” doesn’t become rejection once you’ve gotten over that fear. It turns from an emotional reaction to a logical pathway to success. Finding the true root of the concern, nothing to do with you personally.
@user-ll5vv7rv9p
@user-ll5vv7rv9p 2 жыл бұрын
He looks like he still struggles a little with self confidence but in the end he still managed to show this incredible lesson and just watching it makes me inspirational. This guy rocks!
@JohnDoeL337
@JohnDoeL337 9 ай бұрын
He gave a TED talk... man He s a step ahead most of us...
@tarass8737
@tarass8737 5 жыл бұрын
My teacher once told me something that really helped. She said don't be scared to ask, all someone can do is say "no", they can't do anything worse than that. I don't know why it really had an impact on me.
@lt6573
@lt6573 3 жыл бұрын
My Godmother shared the exact same advice with me in my early 20's which has helped me so much.
@bullseye6969
@bullseye6969 3 жыл бұрын
So how many men you asked out and how many rejected you?
@starfreak4999
@starfreak4999 3 жыл бұрын
my friend said the same, but the girl said 'ew' :')
@NyobcaKbn8mG2kgwbDdGmdlhIcGKMt
@NyobcaKbn8mG2kgwbDdGmdlhIcGKMt 2 жыл бұрын
@@bullseye6969 fr
@bian7744
@bian7744 2 жыл бұрын
I asked someone to give me the vape pen and they chased me away with brass knuckles.
@sushantmanandhar1387
@sushantmanandhar1387 4 жыл бұрын
Jia: Can I do a Ted talk about being rejected? Ted: Sure thing bro Jia: (wtf dude you're supposed to say no)
@JDFrates
@JDFrates 4 жыл бұрын
Sushant Manandhar classic Ted
@everangelist
@everangelist 4 жыл бұрын
His rejection got rejected!
@oreoflores7204
@oreoflores7204 4 жыл бұрын
@@everangelist I think that's what you call rock bottom?
@bigperm5027
@bigperm5027 4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@tonywalker1954
@tonywalker1954 4 жыл бұрын
@@oreoflores7204 😂😂😂😂
@GurleenKaur-tr8ry
@GurleenKaur-tr8ry 2 жыл бұрын
The only bad thing about this talk is that it ends :(
@huzefakaba3203
@huzefakaba3203 Жыл бұрын
this is one of the most helpful and necessary video for today's world, where we all are getting rejected in some or the other way. It teaches us that rejection activates the same area as physical pain in the brain and by getting rejected more, you make your system anti-fragile and come out to be stronger. This really changed my life. ❤️ 💯
@Rossilaz58
@Rossilaz58 2 жыл бұрын
"when I was 30" This man looks no older than 25
@adamantium4797
@adamantium4797 2 жыл бұрын
Youth has not rejected him
@ventithedrunk9506
@ventithedrunk9506 2 жыл бұрын
Its an asian thing, for some reason we look young to westerns
@redsus7569
@redsus7569 2 жыл бұрын
Except for women :/
@zoch9797
@zoch9797 2 жыл бұрын
You're right. People suck at guessing age. "hE lOoKs So yOuNg". No, he looks like he's 33-36.
@onceuponarevenant9409
@onceuponarevenant9409 2 жыл бұрын
@@ventithedrunk9506 I guess because western people dont take care of themselves too well. plus, asian people age in the proper way, at least most that i know.
@jonathancheng8906
@jonathancheng8906 7 жыл бұрын
Last five minutes of the talk, i can't help thinking: "Did you ask TED to let you give a speech?"
@Asdfghjkl-ls1or
@Asdfghjkl-ls1or 5 жыл бұрын
Lmao ur an acc genious
@Whatupwolf
@Whatupwolf 5 жыл бұрын
Damn, Ted is a really cool guy if that's true
@anandsh127
@anandsh127 5 жыл бұрын
Haahahaa gud one
@CanisoGaming
@CanisoGaming 5 жыл бұрын
hahaha
@NightOfCrystals
@NightOfCrystals 5 жыл бұрын
Even if he did, he gave one, right?
@mr.kingsleigh1409
@mr.kingsleigh1409 Жыл бұрын
Jia Jiang, your 6yr old's trauma is already dramatically impacting lives of all these commentors and viewers. Superb. Please DRIVE this message to the 8 billion of us who still desperately need this message, YOUR message. In that alone, a life worth having lived. Blessings and thank you.
@barryduffey5587
@barryduffey5587 6 ай бұрын
Really great speech. He really uses humor to make his point, and I can really appreciate the hard work he put in to complete each task on his list of rejections. Well worth the watch.
@natsun9479
@natsun9479 7 жыл бұрын
"Sometimes you can even get rejected by lighting" LOOOL
@rqh2198
@rqh2198 4 жыл бұрын
This guy should totally start a career of stand-up comedy! He's got a natural and effortless sense of humor around him
@andyreiter6253
@andyreiter6253 4 жыл бұрын
Not really.. maybe for some chines guys that have no charm
@josephaether377
@josephaether377 4 жыл бұрын
i thini it's just that his type of personality is likable in a submissive and servile way (not bad thing). i always naturally seek to benefit these people with a smile for them because i know that alphas probably regularly take advantage.
@JulyFourth1776
@JulyFourth1776 4 жыл бұрын
@@andyreiter6253 WTF?
@jdc4316
@jdc4316 4 жыл бұрын
Andy Reiter fucking idiot
@vikrantkharatmal6171
@vikrantkharatmal6171 3 жыл бұрын
@@jdc4316 guys he's following the pattern :p
@Mia-ei4mh
@Mia-ei4mh 9 ай бұрын
Rejection is Redirection, the biggest moment in life came after I got rejected from something. I got what I needed 🤩
@Lalitajanette
@Lalitajanette 2 жыл бұрын
My God this is amazing, I had and still have fear of rejection. It was really a real-life change when we aware of ti and started to overcome it. Thank you for sharing you are so inspiring.
@daniel_najar
@daniel_najar 4 жыл бұрын
“Sometimes you get rejected by lighting” 😅
@fatimabagayan8756
@fatimabagayan8756 3 жыл бұрын
that was the funniest part lmao
@Director-M
@Director-M 2 жыл бұрын
Is it rejecting when it zaps you or when it avoids zapping you? 🤣
@beactivebehappy9894
@beactivebehappy9894 2 жыл бұрын
@@Director-M depends on the situation, if you want to be zapped and it doesn't or if you don't want to be zapped and it does...😅
@kylemedina5112
@kylemedina5112 2 жыл бұрын
Notes: - Don't run in the face of rejection, sit through and experience it. - Address any concerns the other person may have, and they will feel more comfortable with you. (ex: "Is that weird?")
@onceuponarevenant9409
@onceuponarevenant9409 2 жыл бұрын
i wish somebody on my family would had told me that 5 years ago when i quit school for not being good enough, now im 25 without a career and my parents keep giving me the death stare for my lack of success in life.
@cherry-hm2lr
@cherry-hm2lr 2 жыл бұрын
You know it's never too late to learn there's no certain age for learning you can start now And no worries, most don't work with their certificate, just learn something you love and have a field of work
@sarabary4084
@sarabary4084 2 жыл бұрын
@@cherry-hm2lr Agree
@claudiaflores3944
@claudiaflores3944 2 жыл бұрын
@@onceuponarevenant9409 Id recommend you to try to learn a new language and explore your interests, from there you might have a better idea of what youd like to do in life
@johnfoley4023
@johnfoley4023 2 жыл бұрын
@@claudiaflores3944 Agree with what you said. Where did learn a new language come from?
@elenbalyan3683
@elenbalyan3683 11 ай бұрын
The simple act of asking for what we want can open up possibilities we never imagined, and that rejection can actually lead us down unexpected paths. This talk is a great reminder that it's important to take risks and face our fears in order to grow and achieve our goals. Life is too short to be in constant fear of rejection. I agree that embracing rejection as a tool for self-improvement is necessary.
@BboyBabyCAkes
@BboyBabyCAkes Жыл бұрын
I loved this Ted Talk because of his experiment. I’ve rewatched this numerous times and I think I’m going to try to practice asking for things I actually want instead of purposefully asking for things i'm most likely to get rejected for like asking for a burger refill or planting a plant in someone’s back yard. If it’s context specific to something you actually want I feel you are more receptive to grow from these rejection experiences because you are practicing being authentic in what you desire.
@tonikpun9955
@tonikpun9955 2 жыл бұрын
I love how the Doughnut lady took it as a challenge and actually came out with Olympic ring donuts.
@HassanAhmed-rf9xr
@HassanAhmed-rf9xr 2 жыл бұрын
@johnnytheprick nope
@irinam8709
@irinam8709 2 жыл бұрын
@johnnytheprick It REALLY is!
@Mihker
@Mihker 7 жыл бұрын
Top 10 TED talk for sure
@CoatRooneyy
@CoatRooneyy 7 жыл бұрын
TED has one up for 2016; my personal favorite is the "Danger of AI"
@SheaDepmore
@SheaDepmore 7 жыл бұрын
Mihker hear, hear.
@Mihker
@Mihker 7 жыл бұрын
SlayerUK no sorry, wish i had
@yassinemachichi7074
@yassinemachichi7074 7 жыл бұрын
can you sare some them with us please ?
@Scrubbzzy
@Scrubbzzy 7 жыл бұрын
Not even close.
@arinavrabie3252
@arinavrabie3252 2 жыл бұрын
This is my absolute favorite TED talk. Hilarious and deep on so many levels. Thank you!!
@k4piii
@k4piii 2 жыл бұрын
I am not crying, you are... This came in such a perfect time after being rejected so many times now
@ninetyfree5967
@ninetyfree5967 7 жыл бұрын
Comfort is the enemy of achivement.
@TheWelchProductions
@TheWelchProductions 5 жыл бұрын
But it's not always bad to be comfortable.
@TheWelchProductions
@TheWelchProductions 5 жыл бұрын
unknown beauty I can still be comfortable and grow, so you’re wrong.
@TheWelchProductions
@TheWelchProductions 5 жыл бұрын
unknown beauty But what happens when you are in deep, COMFORTABLE sleep? Your body recharges, you regain energy, and you regrow the muscle you destroyed working out!
@JorgeGonzalez-nz5pf
@JorgeGonzalez-nz5pf 5 жыл бұрын
Comfort is the enemy of achievement, so get comfortable in achieving things.
@snowframe2995
@snowframe2995 5 жыл бұрын
@@TheWelchProductions sleep is for the weak
@JW-qd3ol
@JW-qd3ol 2 жыл бұрын
damn this guy really made a career out of being rejected. he needs to go talk to all the simps in the e-girls twitch chats.
@RonaldYengwayo
@RonaldYengwayo 2 жыл бұрын
😂
@RyukenXX
@RyukenXX 2 жыл бұрын
now that's not a very healthy way to look at it
@tristonmckay2382
@tristonmckay2382 2 жыл бұрын
Facts🤣
@shyfairis6078
@shyfairis6078 2 жыл бұрын
Fr
@benkleschinsky
@benkleschinsky 2 жыл бұрын
Anyone remember watching his KZfaq channel back in the day?
@FearlessLeis
@FearlessLeis 7 ай бұрын
I laughed out loud the whole way through, this was incredible .. one of my all time favs. I think the genious is that rejection can be excruciating but he added laughter which alleviates the heart. Making it so valueable. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 this made my day so much better. ❤️ The magic word is why... thats the worst part of rejection. The not knowing WHY.
@fosres
@fosres Жыл бұрын
Single-handedly one of the greatest KZfaq videos I ever watched in my life.
@enshisin
@enshisin 4 жыл бұрын
After her graduation ceremony at school, my daughter wanted to have a nice dinner at a famous restaurant. When we walked in, the waiter told us that the restaurant was fully book and asked us to come back the nextday and made a reservation first. We walked out of the door . Then I remembered something. I walked in again and asked the waiter while pointing at a reserved table : ‘when are the guests supposed to show up?’ In one hour. So i gave him an offer : if he can prepare the food in 15 minutes, we would dine and got out of there in 30 minutes. He thought for a minute and we had our dinner there. On the way out my wife asked me how I managed to do that. Without turning my head, I said : ‘I watched this stupid video by a guy named Jia on KZfaq and gave it a shot...........’
@orangeshoes
@orangeshoes 3 жыл бұрын
:))) Made me happy
@hvyi6425
@hvyi6425 2 жыл бұрын
lol! only thing is that this isn’t a stupid video :D
@seaweed6668
@seaweed6668 2 жыл бұрын
Nice try mate
@suetucker9264
@suetucker9264 2 жыл бұрын
Only, it's NOT a stupid video! It works!
@selenaramoutar7158
@selenaramoutar7158 2 жыл бұрын
Love this. Except your choice of the word "stupid". Cmon man this one "stupid" video got you and yo fam some fancy food at a fancy restaurant. :)
@barbarossa11
@barbarossa11 4 жыл бұрын
Now go and ask Bill Gates if you could buy his company
@AksamRafiz
@AksamRafiz 4 жыл бұрын
Lol
@jdc4316
@jdc4316 4 жыл бұрын
Which one?
@alexanderb4818
@alexanderb4818 4 жыл бұрын
@Alexander Supertramp he means which company
@TkGz
@TkGz 4 жыл бұрын
for a 1$
@leekei5929
@leekei5929 3 жыл бұрын
Is that weird?
@emilymiles1219
@emilymiles1219 2 ай бұрын
Amazing talk, so inspirational ! Especially since we are often taught "to run" at the slightest indication of rejection. We are even sometimes told we'd look "desperate" or it'd "harm our self-esteem" if we ever try again after being rejected. This guy offers a totally new and refreshing perspective, I like it 👏👏
@wishudbest5765
@wishudbest5765 2 жыл бұрын
This is an eye opening talk. I ran away several times with my fear of rejection. Now I know it doesnt hurt to at least ask what I want. Thank you so much.8
@fintamariaanna5858
@fintamariaanna5858 2 жыл бұрын
Props to the dude who immediately took a note of the rejection therapy website :)
@himanshug9948
@himanshug9948 2 жыл бұрын
You can tell he's been through some stuff :)
@israellerefolo7613
@israellerefolo7613 2 жыл бұрын
I immediately paused the video to make sure my brother saw that part
@kulveersinghdhanoa
@kulveersinghdhanoa 2 жыл бұрын
LOL -
@tommyfunn
@tommyfunn 7 жыл бұрын
I'll never forget being 8 yrs old in the drive-thru w/ my dad telling me that rejection is nothing to be afraid of (he IS an amazing salesperson), and then proving it by asking for a FREE large order of fries at the drive-thru speaker at McDonalds. He joked with the cashier for a second, then asked again. She laughed and said "I don't think that's possible," and my father said, "We would love it if you could do it!" and pulled forward. What do ya know...the girl hands us our order. NO fries. Then she turns to grab something else...THE BIGGEST BAG OF FRENCH FRIES I'VE EVER SEEN. It was. an. entire. bag. of. fries. All these employees start laughing. My face must have lit up. To this DAY, I've never seen that many french fries at one time. These people EMPTIED the stockroom to make this thing. Laughter abounds. A lesson learned... And somewhere, a lost french fry rests silently beneath the seat of an '88 Ford Taurus... AWESOME VID!
@tkomla
@tkomla 5 жыл бұрын
Awesome comment! Thanks for that story 😊💜
@tankolad
@tankolad 5 жыл бұрын
You have such a great father. Lucky guy :)
@itsot12
@itsot12 5 жыл бұрын
That's beautiful.
@velvetdeyla1265
@velvetdeyla1265 5 жыл бұрын
Lead by exemple! Your father got it ;) what a good exemple to you!
@888merry
@888merry 5 жыл бұрын
Love it! Thanks for sharing.
@lindseymaleeme1606
@lindseymaleeme1606 6 ай бұрын
This is easily been the most impactful Ted Video I've ever watched. Just what the doctor ordered. Thank you
@wuzzym
@wuzzym 2 жыл бұрын
This guy really knows how to tell a story. Has a good sense of humour and knows how to keep you engaged. I didn't realize that this vid was 15 mins long!
@davemckay4359
@davemckay4359 7 жыл бұрын
Thought it was going to be boring. It wasn't.
@novemtigris3041
@novemtigris3041 4 жыл бұрын
In Jia's letter, he also mentions winning a Nobel prize and buying IBM by the age of 35. Cool guy.
@user-rd2um5ef9e
@user-rd2um5ef9e 2 жыл бұрын
sometimes I come here and watch it again when I got rejected from interviews... this is the one of funniest ted talks I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing your experience!
@neptronix
@neptronix 2 жыл бұрын
Some years ago this guy taught me to actually get out there and start asking questions boldly. It was a skill i needed at the time. After thinking about this video some, i decided to imitate it. It lead me to finally start my business. Thank you, Jia Jiang, and TED, for having him.
@kevingarm
@kevingarm 2 жыл бұрын
I've said for years that the more formal education people have, the more it is reinforced to avoid failure, when in fact failure is a necessary part of success. Jia Jiang you did the best job of illustrating this that I have ever seen! Great talk.
@SuSmallville
@SuSmallville 2 жыл бұрын
Bad example would be Elizabeth Holmes of Theranos
@RobertMJohnson
@RobertMJohnson 2 жыл бұрын
not true, Armstrong. doctors, attorneys, engineers from our top universities are incredible professionals. Getting great grades at our best schools isn't failure-avoidance in the least.
@sariahlace5944
@sariahlace5944 2 жыл бұрын
Well said
@Dave_of_Mordor
@Dave_of_Mordor 2 жыл бұрын
@@RobertMJohnson i don't think that's what he meant by failure avoidance.
@RobertMJohnson
@RobertMJohnson 2 жыл бұрын
@@Dave_of_Mordor that's exactly what he meant, Luigi. "the more formal education people have, the more it is reinforced to avoid failure" what is more "formal" than the doctors, attorneys, engineers from the top-ranked universities in the US who make the highest grades and essentially do NOT go on to "fail" but achieve great success (to your point)?
@the135joker3
@the135joker3 7 жыл бұрын
That man started off weak but he grew some balls of steel
@joshsblee
@joshsblee Жыл бұрын
This guy was so funny 😂 Highly underrated TED talk!! One of the best I've seen in a long time.
@Cherrycreamsoda1
@Cherrycreamsoda1 2 жыл бұрын
All I needed was this video to change my life. From now on I'm going to do everything I want. If you don't ask, you don't get.
@KENZOkm
@KENZOkm 2 жыл бұрын
"So grandma, how did you meet granddad?" "Well kid, he was very persistent. Like, VERY persistent."
@domri4203
@domri4203 2 жыл бұрын
So your grandfather was a "creep"
@PlaguedByEarth
@PlaguedByEarth 2 жыл бұрын
@@domri4203 Only if he was ugly.
@frustratedj
@frustratedj 2 жыл бұрын
He asked why, and boosted his chance.
@JW-qd3ol
@JW-qd3ol 2 жыл бұрын
@@PlaguedByEarth too real. go to logic jail. lol
@jadebarnes2716
@jadebarnes2716 2 жыл бұрын
@@PlaguedByEarth who wants an ugly partner ???
@bentonrp
@bentonrp 5 жыл бұрын
After this video, I asked a girl out and she said yes. I had to explain that I didn't really want to go out with her and that I was merely... Persuing rejection.
@bullseye6969
@bullseye6969 3 жыл бұрын
🤦
@bentonrp
@bentonrp 3 жыл бұрын
@@bullseye6969 ^ and that's exactly what she did to my face
@betiedu
@betiedu 3 жыл бұрын
@@bentonrp lol are you for real?
@bentonrp
@bentonrp 3 жыл бұрын
@@betiedu I didn't really do this. It was all a joke. After all, why would she say yes???
@betiedu
@betiedu 3 жыл бұрын
@@bentonrp Oh alright
@rounakstanley
@rounakstanley 9 ай бұрын
This is my favorite video on this channel so far
@LivingGuy484
@LivingGuy484 2 ай бұрын
One of my favorite talks to this day, I hope I can remember to be brave and keep going forward just like him
@GFmanaic
@GFmanaic 7 жыл бұрын
Jokes on you, I have 29 years of rejection !
@xxuncexx
@xxuncexx 7 жыл бұрын
I accept you.
@arthurdent6256
@arthurdent6256 7 жыл бұрын
You're a cool dude.
@arthureb715
@arthureb715 7 жыл бұрын
GFmanaic lol scrub 😂
@aliasbrush2
@aliasbrush2 7 жыл бұрын
Still got a long time to go then... (38 here)
@eaglestregnth
@eaglestregnth 7 жыл бұрын
beat me to it
@samiaziz5050
@samiaziz5050 7 жыл бұрын
He seems so genuinely happy with his life now, teaching about rejection and social change. I rarely see that much fulfilment on someone's face, when he talked about the book and teaching near the end.
@tonyswe9463
@tonyswe9463 5 жыл бұрын
Sami Aziz agree. He seems so genuinely happy with his life.
@michellep1555
@michellep1555 5 жыл бұрын
his grandma is happy that he's finally a teacher after all :D
@carebestie
@carebestie 11 ай бұрын
That was simply amazing, thank you for sharing your story and how you used your fear of rejection as a learning experience for all of us. Many of us struggle with fear and rejection and our dreams suffer the consequences, I love your simple method of application.
@shreeshchhabbi
@shreeshchhabbi 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the refreshing talk! I have always observed that if I knock the door multiple times when I really wanted something, I have always got what I wanted. But I keep forgetting it due to that 6 year old child that kept getting rejected in childhood. We really need to suppress that pessimistic child in us and get the optimistic child out.
@Missbergdorf
@Missbergdorf 5 жыл бұрын
I've watched this so many times and still laugh, it never gets old. This is the TED Talk that turned my life around, and trust me when I say I've watched too many to count. For a few years now, I have "practiced" almost every day -even with really small attempts at getting rejected- and it really changed my life. Better career, better entourage, a loooot of money saved and opportunities created.. I feel so grateful that I once stumbled upon this video and encourage y'all to do the same !!
@Adarrra13
@Adarrra13 5 жыл бұрын
really? sounds interesting.. do you have some blog or just what were your rejection ideas?
@MXxx-uc8bh
@MXxx-uc8bh 4 жыл бұрын
Stllbn emm 🤔
@TheMarioMen1
@TheMarioMen1 4 жыл бұрын
Stllbn damn you’re stunning how are you even suffering from rejection? I’d never reject ya 😉
@MeetMyGreenBud7
@MeetMyGreenBud7 4 жыл бұрын
@@TheMarioMen1 boy you need some water
@at5286
@at5286 4 жыл бұрын
Stllbn girrrrl good for you! Cheers to the women who find their strength in this world! Now light the path for others, were all meant to learn and teach 🙏
@DSchae2165
@DSchae2165 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 55 and I still struggle with my inner child's rejection issues. I could've been a famous writer by now. I could've been a great artist by now. I could've been someone of great importance changing the world by now. But no. I am not. Now my internal excuse is "I'm too old to start now", and I struggle with that every day when I still try to move forward to being what I want to be.
@thejumpingnomad2485
@thejumpingnomad2485 2 жыл бұрын
Time will pass no matter what we do. So in five years from now do you want to be a 60 year old still struggling or do you want to be the best 60 year old in the world at writing? Best wishes.
@asmodeus1234
@asmodeus1234 2 жыл бұрын
embrace rejection, I just called a girl I assumed made up an excuse to end a date. Turns out that she really did have to deliver something, and now we're setting up another date in the near future!
@JamFlexx
@JamFlexx 2 жыл бұрын
D.K. as long as you are at peace with yourself, there is no need to be 'famous' or 'someone of great importance'. You are enough, & have every reason to be happy.
@frankcrank6262
@frankcrank6262 2 жыл бұрын
@@JamFlexx I FULLY second this comment...by far one of the greatest replies I've read. In a world full of unreasonable expectations, so many people feel like failures because they weren't #1 at something, or the richest, or the skinniest, or the buffest, etc, etc. One of the biggest realizations is that everyone in this world is just trying to get through life. If we make it easier for others instead of looking out only for ourselves, then that is success, and that is a life well lived.
@JamFlexx
@JamFlexx 2 жыл бұрын
@@frankcrank6262 well said brother .
@Moonlight50667
@Moonlight50667 2 жыл бұрын
This was fantastic thank you so much Jia Jiang! I will put this into practice I'm tired of being terrified of rejection 🙌🏼
@JRspeaking
@JRspeaking 2 жыл бұрын
Rarely do these videos keep my attention all the way through. Jia Jiang knows how to deliver. He keeps you laughing and thinking.....
@tyyoung6953
@tyyoung6953 2 жыл бұрын
Saw this video recently. I went down to a local bar and drank a couple of beers, then before leaving I asked to speak to the manager and I told him how much I liked the placed and asked if he could give me beer on the house... No joke he actually brought me a beer on the house! Thank you Jia Jiang for the burger refill idea, it may not work on burgers, but it certainly worked with beer.
@NoGufff
@NoGufff 7 жыл бұрын
I think I speak for many subscribers when I say, "This is why we subscribed".
@woofelix8138
@woofelix8138 Жыл бұрын
As a Chinese saying goes, "As long as you don't feel embarrased, it is for others to." 只要你不觉得尴尬,尴尬的就是别人
@WalkingIntrovert
@WalkingIntrovert Жыл бұрын
I get this video recommended every now and then. And I watch the whole thing every time.
@tarpee4045
@tarpee4045 2 жыл бұрын
"Sometimes you get rejected by lightning" Man, this must have been how Zuko felt
@Okwiiishadowrogue
@Okwiiishadowrogue 2 жыл бұрын
He said “lighting” but I get it
@BeeVloggingComedy
@BeeVloggingComedy 5 жыл бұрын
If a talk makes you stop what you are doing and focus on the speech its really unique. This is my favourite TED X talk !
@trudytriad4574
@trudytriad4574 4 жыл бұрын
It was super hilarious too
@buenoweiboy6501
@buenoweiboy6501 2 жыл бұрын
True man, its hilarious and engaging at the same time
@jeremygwoods
@jeremygwoods 2 жыл бұрын
This is probably one of the most life-changing Ted Talks I've seen (and I've watched a lot of them).
@elim02
@elim02 2 жыл бұрын
Okay this is the best TED talk I’ve seen so far
@alexandraj582
@alexandraj582 4 жыл бұрын
Everyone in life will experience some type of rejection. 'Rejection does not define you. The reaction after rejections defines you'. Great TED talk
@Wanderlust1972
@Wanderlust1972 7 жыл бұрын
i got rejected from a job interview, but it helped me learn what i did wrong, i interrupted the interviewer. What a great lesson I learned from my rejection!
@xshadowscreamx
@xshadowscreamx 2 жыл бұрын
I made a huge mistake and forgetting to learn the history of the company; I was so worried about everything else I forget one of the basics.
@bigcam34woods92
@bigcam34woods92 2 жыл бұрын
The weight of regret is far more than the weight of rejection
@Sky_403
@Sky_403 2 жыл бұрын
One of the best and simplest and practical and satisfying TED talk I ever watched ❤️❤️Thank you man!!
@MrLuigiFercotti
@MrLuigiFercotti 4 жыл бұрын
I never asked for anything, and had huge fear of rejection. Self reliant to a fault. But you can't do it all yourself.
@aloooo1256
@aloooo1256 2 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@itskarl79
@itskarl79 2 жыл бұрын
Same EXACTY here
@wrldtrvlr4vr
@wrldtrvlr4vr 2 жыл бұрын
Same. Being a lone wolf is hard sometimes
@DK-ki2fh
@DK-ki2fh 2 жыл бұрын
@@wrldtrvlr4vr Actually, being a lone wolf is literally all I have ever been and it's my safe space. Doing everything yourself due to lack of trust towards others actually has helped me. I know it doesn't work for everyone, but being a lone wolf is the most rewarding since you don't get assistance from people.
@allmightynimore9151
@allmightynimore9151 7 жыл бұрын
This is one lively audiance. Some other audiance would have kept quit on all of his jokes.
@JiaJiang
@JiaJiang 7 жыл бұрын
allmightymhingo I've always wanted to do an eulogy.
@OutRightYeti-FB
@OutRightYeti-FB 5 жыл бұрын
Thats Portland for you
@liamliu9745
@liamliu9745 5 жыл бұрын
Just like TED audiance?
@nannaed7833
@nannaed7833 2 жыл бұрын
He’s hilarious tho for real
@jher699
@jher699 8 ай бұрын
“The people who really change the world. Who change the way we live and the way we think are the people who were often met with rejection. “ -jia jiang
@afrilifewealth8743
@afrilifewealth8743 2 жыл бұрын
What an inspiring talk. Defo one of my favourites. His delivery, content, and above all poignant message.
@tusenbensen334
@tusenbensen334 7 жыл бұрын
It's weird that this would show up right now, I started a similar project just a week ago (not knowing about this person which om now very interested in). I have a really difficult time just talking to people for the sake of it, and I thought that is a massive roadblock in my life. So I made this game, where every school day on the bus home, I have to sit next to a stranger and just talk to them. It's terrifying, but I see myself getting less scared, so it might be working :)
@yoXneo
@yoXneo 7 жыл бұрын
Tusenbensen cool! That's sorta what I'm doing too this year to face my social anxiety! Good luck! 👍
@AM-sh7hb
@AM-sh7hb 7 жыл бұрын
Tusenbensen Do many of them actually talk back? Good on ya for getting out of your comfort zone :)
@PortalStorm4000
@PortalStorm4000 7 жыл бұрын
If someone insults you, agree with them. Their reactions are funny, and you can make some good inside jokes. Because I'm drunk on oxygen.
@adrianaavila8853
@adrianaavila8853 7 жыл бұрын
That sounds amazing!!! I would love to know how it all works out.
@tusenbensen334
@tusenbensen334 7 жыл бұрын
YoAntoNeo Thank you, and good luck with what you're doing Too ^-^
@ClemensAlive
@ClemensAlive 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, yes and double yes! Here's a little story from my life: When I was 17, I was the most bullied kied in school - BY FAR! I then saw that something like a community on that new platform called "KZfaq" was building. (It was 2010) So I also started making videos.... I got laughed at by a couple of HUNDREDS of students EVERY DAY...but I didnt quit. I thought: "When you all hate me anyways, there's no point in quitting." 5 years later I had one of the most successful KZfaq channels in Germany. (It's this one :) ) Then I retired from beeing a KZfaqr and started as a consultant for social media strategies in 2017. I got rejected exactly 68 times until I signed my first customer for 200$ (lol). Today I have clients all over the world. (Silicon Valley, Atlanta, Berlin,...you name it) Don't let rejection define you. It is nothing personal. In fact, If I would not have been rejected that often, I would not have known what my niche target group even needs...I would just sit there and call myself a failure all the time.
@kaitlyng7850
@kaitlyng7850 2 жыл бұрын
That's amazing! Congrats!!!
@FelixDaHousecat11
@FelixDaHousecat11 2 жыл бұрын
Your story is amazing :) I hope you continue to grow, you deserve it.
@wholelottamemesyes9426
@wholelottamemesyes9426 2 жыл бұрын
Deine Flachwitze Videos waren der Hammer :D
@pyttpytts2690
@pyttpytts2690 2 жыл бұрын
Well done
@sophon238
@sophon238 2 жыл бұрын
Brilliant, you are an inspiration
@charonegilmore8802
@charonegilmore8802 Жыл бұрын
Wow, not only is Jia inspirational and helpful in his journey and story, just being his natural,, authentic self, I found him to be one of the funniest stand up comedians I seen in a very long time . I just want to give him a big hug.
@goodnight4923
@goodnight4923 2 жыл бұрын
He has good sense of humour. His speech is really spectacular.
@Luftgitarrenprofi
@Luftgitarrenprofi 7 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety, tried this and asked a girl I liked if she wants to go out with me. I ended up in the hospital due to severe hyperventilation and cardiac arrhythmias. My class is now making fun of me, calling me a psycho and the girl is one of them. Guess I should've started with something potentially less stressful.
@alegnahench5514
@alegnahench5514 7 жыл бұрын
Feuerbringer awww dont give up😉
@alegnahench5514
@alegnahench5514 7 жыл бұрын
Feuerbringer i will date u (in an uncreepy way)😂😂
@mathew633man
@mathew633man 7 жыл бұрын
damn.... i thought i had it bad. it takes a lot for me to feel bad for someone and you did it. don't worry bro. i will always be here for you. i know you are a nice guy just misunderstood.
@mathew633man
@mathew633man 7 жыл бұрын
damn.... i thought i had it bad. it takes a lot for me to feel bad for someone and you did it. don't worry bro. i will always be here for you.
@keynesthetic2275
@keynesthetic2275 7 жыл бұрын
Well...
@itskarl79
@itskarl79 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like I could cry. Imagine that, a grown man at 42 crying over a TED talk. I loved this message, and am so thankful for hearing it.
@ycleped
@ycleped 2 жыл бұрын
Half your age here and feeling the same...
@JamFlexx
@JamFlexx 2 жыл бұрын
emotions don't care what age you are
@itskarl79
@itskarl79 2 жыл бұрын
@@JamFlexx Just saying, why couldn't I learn this sooner in life?
@kevinz2738
@kevinz2738 2 жыл бұрын
@@itskarl79 do you mean about being rejected, or emotions?
@itskarl79
@itskarl79 2 жыл бұрын
@@kevinz2738 being afraid to ask, for fear of rejection.
@compugab
@compugab 3 ай бұрын
It’s a very inspiring lecture. I’m doing a similar thing right now with socialisation because I was not very social up to the pandemic. I gave myself a couple of social challenges. One of them is writing 100 comments on KZfaq (this is #7 😊)
@srishti1870
@srishti1870 2 ай бұрын
Great job! I'm so proud of you
@divsib
@divsib 2 жыл бұрын
This turned out to one of the most inspiring Ted talks I've ever listened to. Not sure how I missed watching this earlier.
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