Yes. The speech was not empathic at all. It gave me a bad feeling.

@@Mira20153 Cool ability, I think however you mean, "empathetic."

Interesting I would think that would motivate them to stay alive. Men need to feel needed.

@@JFCotman Better to be wanted than needed, if someone only needs you, then there's no telling whether they actually care about you, or just what you provide.

@@supernauta81 exactly. This is what I came to say. It's my case.

We can see how hard it was for her and for her family when he killed himself. But why did no one see how he was in pain everyday, for how many years?

Marriage is a wonderful thing but u need to have other friends. So many married couples get so weird when they isolate.

Same.

@@gsue33 Some people extort their spouses with their emotional intimacy when trying to get what they think they want. Then the other one feels trapped and alone in his own home and marriage.

@@deyahdn3 Go back to your incel MGTOW channels

how much torture it is

@@kirstieb8025 ... Unstoppable pain !.😟😔

Yes!! Totally true

Yep, i used to be opposite of depressed. I used to be high on life, on cloud 9 always, super happy, motivated, and have delusions of grandeur. Then this depression hit me and its very painful, very painful. I never even thought something like that would happen to me. I thought was indestructable. But i believe in God and will get treatment and get out of the hole. Never give up, no matter what, the Good Lord is with us. Let us all go to heaven, amen.

Facts 😢

We are with you brother. My heartfelt condolences

You should lead a healthy life. If you have children, give them attention. I know, it sounds hard at this point but life goes on, and we struggle, life is struggle and struggle is joy.

Hope you will recover soon brother,Sorry for your tragic loss

I am so sorry brother

All things take time but grief is forever. It may subside but on any given day even if you "get over It" it can hit you out of nowhere like a freight train. Just don't go down the road of blaming yourself. Im sure there's a million reasons you could have and find of how it's your fault how you could of done something anything to save her to give her reason to live but depression does work that way. You could have everything you ever wanted the perfect life the perfect family and depression could let you not even see it and be a broken person. Be a light in the world and cherish her name. When you speak of her death celebrate her life. Remember all the good times and know she would want you to be happy. I have been suicidal for 10 years and every attempt has been unsuccessful. God must not be ready for me. I always hesitate because of my son. And my father...it's it's hard to explain when you don't know how it feels it's easy to say just get over it. Just get better. Be more positive stop thinking so negatively. I'm here if you need to talk. Talking don't help it makes it worse at least for me. Love you man seriously I hope you caj pick up these broken pieces and try to move on with your life.

The best reply yet!!

This. And i agree.

Thank you! Somebody gets it!

Exactly. Just snap out of cancer. Just snap out of your broken jaw. Severe depression is a horrendous life threatening condition. Until it's understood and treated as such, there will be horrid outcomes.

Dammmnn that's deep but it rings very true, I should know.... 💔😢💔

Yeah, the worst advice is to stay alive for others. It shifts the attention from the suffering person to the people around them and makes the suicidal person even less important.

There is nothing any of us can do in the face of someone determined to kill themselves. Lori Prichard's story is sad, but she could not have saved him.

Yes, because it heaves blame on already full shoulders. And it takes away a possible solution without giving any better one. It's the tyranny of guilt.

totally agree, people who say that it’s “selfish” are just invalidating their feelings

@@emi1ypayne which in some cases may have been a major contribution to the problem in the first place. Few suicidals feel completely worthless for no outside reason.

Same

I feel like had your wife not paid attention to you, that may have driven you over the edge. What I despise about this video is that despite saying suicide isn’t selfish, she still somehow blames him! I can bet my last dollar that he’d expressed concerns - albeit in bits (because when you’re that low it takes a lot to fully open up) and he was ignored or made to feel like a bore! A therapist listening to you is not the same as a loved one listening to you. It’s why celebrities with all their money to pay for the best therapists in the world still commit suicide. One of the key elements of depression is the lack of an intimate human connection. If you don’t feel connected to anyone - like someone really cares, it’s easy to give it up because they’ll be better off anyway since you’re not that important. Women attempt suicide more but don’t go through because their complaints are taken seriously and they’re given the help and emotional support they need. Men on the other hand are either ignored or ridiculed! I’m glad your wife showed up!

You are a brave person. I too was molested, have Ptsd, depression and not protected from the age of 4. Some days the pain is so great, I can barely breath. Thank you for sharing and giving me a safe place to tell my truth. I wish you the very best of everything. May God heal your broken heart.

@@dea784 not brave. I just felt my mind closing in on me. I knew what was next. I didn't want to leave my family. I still feel the pain, but try to remember what I'm doing now.

Good for you!!! It's such a selfless, brave act to open up like that! I don't know you personally, but I'm very proud of you! You are a wonderful example for those suffering. Keep fighting! Keep loving! Life is worth living when you have help because you opened up. Thank you for posting your story!

LUCKY YOU. Many are dead allready so you need a adjusting about your condition

Agreed.

You are correct. It starts to attack you when you are experiencing things like grief, loss of control, freedom and alienation. Get professional help quick, tell as many people as you can, read your bible or whatever gives you strength, write down what you are grateful for and all the things you accomplished, give yourself small goals, go back to doing things that made YOU happy (dancing, singing, hiking ,biking, painting, listening to comedy). Laugh until it hurts. Be a silly as kid, because after all, if you are happy, who cares what other people think.

So true! It's basicly a feeling that you are not even worthy of the cure. So you won't even bother.

Wow. Someone who actually gets it. It's absolutely horrendous and unrelenting.

From time to time I even don't want a cure. Sometimes I somehow want to be depressed. It's like being scared of heights, but at the same time the edge draws you in.

Reasons to live: 1. Pure spite.

May great blessings be upon your life. I'm sorry you had to face pain, upon pain, upon pain. It can be so helpful to ponder all the things you can be grateful for (the ability to walk, see, and hear, etc.) and that can spiral into changing your perspective on life. Living out of spite is no way to live.

Believe in God, the purpose of life is to go to heaven where you will be in an eternal state of bliss, beauty, and peace. Paradise is the solution to all of life's problems. Believe in Jesus and the gospels and read them. Then read the Quran, Muhammad was a true prophet sent by God after Jesus was sent. Please trust me on this.

@@Ronal-H-Mihawk This is the least helpful thing you could possibly say.

Rob, I'm so awfully sorry you feel this way man

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation HDT

I doubt it.. but sure

Yes, I read that when I was in High School. And decided to not be one of them...

@@petehoward8494 why are you here on this subject ?

It is out of control and feminism has only fueled this fire.

I believe that all of it makes us unhappy. We are used to simple lives and slow meaningful ones. We live rapidly and forcibly uniquely now. I hope you be happy in your life.

I think just existence is beautiful

@Peter Evans Having had to bury several people due to suicide, I am not willing to lay "blame" at anybody's feet, unless that person knew of the other person's suicidal ideations, and did nothing about it. Even though I have a very strange and macabre sense of humor, I don't think I could even crack a joke about somebody's suicide.

I think it's a mistake to conflate depression and unhappiness. Depressed people can be happy. Depression is something else.

@Peter Evans I think it's one of the ways people try to make sense of what's happened. Something negative has occurred. What could I have done differently to prevent this? Like when children are told their parents are divorcing they may wonder if they did something wrong or if one of their parents doesn't love them any more.

Agreed

❤️

ur so strong.

🧡

Do you suspect a reason?

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 A reason for my Dad's suicide?

I am so sorry to hear that, i wish you to peacefully accept the reality and continue your life with the knowing she suffer no more. I am in huge depression because of my addiction for years. I see no future for me, but keep fighting. We all should keep going trough life. We are not born to be happy we are born to survive.

How very sorry I am, I love you, stranger. I hope you are taking care ❤ I will pray for you ❤

​@aleksandervaradinov1210 sending you prayers and love. I, too, am also an addict, been clean from fentanyl for over a year now. I think getting clean was the first step, now dealing with all the why's and how's has not been easy. I wouldn't say I'm happy, but I can say I seem to be getting happier. I don't have kids, or a significant other... but, and it's the difference of life and death to me, I have my dogs ❤ my bonds with them make it so I never have to explain a single tear I shed. They are with me on my worst days and celebrate the good ones with me ❤ God bless

Sorry for you loss

It’s a constant battle it never goes away.

I understand

But why won’t god let me leave , I get saved every time

EvErYtHiNg I sAiD wAs WrOnG, ThEn!! I mean depressed and suicidal people, not organisms. You're dense.

I subscribed, then unsubscribed. You know this is a suicide chat right?

Wow.

I agree and also what O-O

The lady I said that to was very kind to me. I said it before I knew that. She's around here somewhere. Hi. Miss you.

That might be the most eloquent way to put that thought into words I have ever heard. Thank you

The danger is when these two reach the same conclusion. After that, the question changes. "Why not today? Why not right now?" I don't see many people talking about those questions. I think not many people live long after that shift takes place.

This has helped. Maybe more than anything anyone else has said. I'm still contemplating death. The equation looks like that's the sum, but there are a few unknown variables.

@@bordenfleetwood5773 I forgot this was an option oh no

How to stop that feeling without dying? I'm so sad and so tired.

I'm so sorry you're in pain and no one is listening to you about it. Have you tried reaching out to a physician? Please take care of yourself, you're worthy if all of the love in the world and more. I hope you're doing okay and seeking professional help.

Im sorry love i am going through the same thing and worse im in china as an intl student i just want to die but the anxiety of the expenses to die as a foreigner in china. I also imagine Jesus comforting me please help me return to my country please im begging you i havent had a decent day

I would recommend sharing some of the lovingkindness you have with a shelter, old age home, children's hospital or anything that gives of you.

@@orellefitch6832 just might do that at my whits end. Thinking bout picking up and leaving all I know to see if that helps. Including my husband.

yeah. eventually you just get tired of fighting

That's what I thought after seeing those pictures and the video of them singing Happy Birthday to him.

Lord yes. It is so scary when you recognize it

My stomach dropped when I saw him. It's like looking in a mirror.

@@desperadoGodz I felt the same, I get that same look. Like numb almost. Sorry to hear you feel like that too.

Yup. I have this look a lot.

Please don't take anyone for granted...who really cries with you together....

I'm always alone so ya nothing new

@@sagniksinha9247 ++qq+

U must be new to humanity

@@JaySantanaofficial what's this comment referring to

Me too, I'm feeling that way too. Once I saw his face, I instantly knew.

I hope you don't kill yourself... mental health (at least in America) is not something the powers that be care about.

Suicide removes the possibility that life may actually improve. Hugs

⁠@@AK20741it also removes the possibility of it getting worse….

Your life. Make a choice. I was left and hospitalised for suicide after my husband suicided and I found him. I decided I could never leave our child (then 6) like he did. Moreover, despite mental illness I will never let it win. Never. It was a choice even in my darkest, most hopeless moments. I reached out and got help, he refused to.

Me too. I wish i have courage to do it. I am praying for courage everyday.

Sadly, there doesn't seem to be a good way to do it. That's probably why I'm still alive. My friend and I are trying to figure something out that will work if need be. (hope for the best, plan for the worst)

Hopelessness...awfully dangerous

You obviously know nothing about empty loneliness of having no one to turn to... do you really think we don't kill ourselves?

Yep

You got me nailed

Loneliness is still a huge one. Hope I die this year pray for me can’t in this world

Yes! All those photos show his dead eyes......he was in pain!

Yes, he looks sad and not focused.

Thats also a diagnosis.. That the Va gives.. Dissasscciotive Disorder

Indeed

He's putting himself elsewhere mentally in order to survive.

Yo, u still alive? Just checking.👋🏽

TAKE IT FROM AN AUTISTIC PERSON. Your worth your DIGNITY as a human being is INDEPENDENT of your circumstances. There's a difference between deserve & need...many people..like her husband didn't think he deserved to be love. ..."deserve" is off topic because we NEED to be loved. Deserving,when it comes to being loved is outta topic. Depression may be guilt driven or you're annoyed about yourself or such...WE ALL got limitations. These don't make me less worth in the eyes of GOD or in HIS circle of life in nature. Who is the world...who are people...who is mainstream to judge you and determine your dignity. I understand that depression blocks our self awareness of our dignity....BUT IT'S STILL THERE just because you can't sense it THAT DON'T MEAN it ain't there.. see the difference ?

same.

Ever checked whether you mom and dad are in depression maybe they need some help as well just check once

SAME, hope you are still here.

Seek therapy work on having a good life and thank you for sharing.

Hope ur ok

That's why I hate talking about my depression because no one truly understands.

@@eltroniq1457 I understand

“All our anxieties relate to time. The major problems of psychiatry revolve around an analysis of the despair, pessimism, melancholy, and complexes that are the inheritances of what has been or with the fears, anxieties, worries, that are the imaginings of what will be.” Fulton J Sheen

Everybody in the world has exactly the same number of problems; they just have different kinds.

And now...their feet hurt from walking on rocks and gravel with no shoes.

Praying for you Wade!!!

I am so sorry for the loss of your wife. Sending you courage right now.

Wade, i am sorry to hear of your suffering. I spent the last 35 years trying not to kill myself. I still think about it all the time, what helped me was Neil Peart's book Ghost rider. Nothing anyone can say anything to make you feel better, but I hope you find peace at some point

So very sorry for your loss♥️

I am sorry for your loss

Love you brother, I cannot fathom the pain you’re in but please… never give up, peace unto you ❤️

So sorry for your loss

I’m suicidal but why on her bday that’s just not fair

That’s me

I lost my boyfriend February 26 2024 . He did it right in front of me. I have so many emotions. Idk if I have much tears left in my heart I do. I cried so much my eyes have been raw. It hurts. Ur not alone

😔

Women don't care until it's too late

Hi Greg. Sending love and light, even if you can't feel it. I hope you reach out for help.

So true! Ive been dealing with depression since the 6th grade. For whatever reason it started right after puberty. My kids are the reason I stay strong everyday but people dont understand it. Ive tried all types of medication and it seems like self discipline is the only thing that works. It's like a dark cloud over your head and its unprovoked. People will think your nagging and keep refering to try more medication because they cant handle it. I just stay to myself and journal so I wont be a burden to anyone. Just take one day at a time.

Jesus Loves you, don't give up. He makes all things new.

What if ... Reincarnation was real... and this life with all these very raw, heavy loads that we endure was the reason we came to balance these energies within our energy fields that we carry as a part of the human consciousness? What if the very real effort and struggle we face each day is to help not only ourselves but all those who carry the same struggle? Would our pain not only having meaning but a very real purpose and mission to overcome to become that light for others? What if to overcome the bully that lives within us frees us from our karmic bond we then don't have to come back to a life of struggle again but to bring the joy of breathing, to see the beauty in another, what if that other was you?

Abounding grace yes he is one pathway, there are many that all lead us back to our true nature, not to be overlooked, for there have been many to lived a god realised life

That is messed up

You know what? I understand 100% where you’re coming from!! Mental health professionals and the facilities they work for are so often more dangerous than they are helpful.

@@backpfeifengesicht980 - Yeah, I would have thought they would try to comfort him - instead he was treated like a criminal and charged $5000. So, what exactly is the message here? Don't seek help.

Get the best help you can. All hospitals, clinics and therapists are not alike. Check what services are available before you go. Check what your insurance covers. Ask if anyone knows a good therapist. etc. Excercise is good for lifting depression. Fake a smile to release some of the natural painkillers. Ask a friend to check in with you more often. Challenge the bill if bad services were provided.

My therapist wanted her cash before I even entered her room! I get that they have bills to pay. But it just reminded me that the compassion she was showing was an act she was doing for money.

Woman don’t care. They only care about themselves.

Reported. 🎉😂😂

​@@jfamo3552 🤡

Women will never ever give a damn about how many men kill themselves. Women are incapable of loving men.

Most women I know are too selfish to care about such a note. The moment you give it to them they will stop seeing you as a man, which is likely what our now deceased fellow understood too well - a no win situation

I hope you're Doing well.... Let love lead. ❤❤❤❤❤

Sorry for your loss.

Im so sorry about that man that is rough to deal with i do wish my condolences to you

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love and light

I am so sorry for your loss...I hope that you find peace.

Yeah, world’s a surreal place. People expect you to be happy or pretend like them and only care about your suffering when you’re gone. Mental illness is everywhere and I’m not talking about suicide

I have specifically told people I'm suicidal when I'm suicidal. They stopped answering.

Nope. And even if they're supportive at the start, their patience wears thinner as time goes by. No one wants to be with Mr Misery Guts, "oh woe is me". So you hide it and that just adds another straw. Plus some people are scared - like they think you're about to flip out, or that they might catch it, or they just don't know what to say and withdraw. They'll sometimes view you as less as well, given the stigma associated with mental illness. One thing that does seem to be changing is the appetite to get a better understanding of mental illness out into the public awareness.

@@davidbgreensmith And the Reason peoole are starting to take mental illness and suicidal ideation seriously: the sheer number of rampage killings. Now it's affecting them.

And now, Colorado. The colour red.

True.

You are so right, unfortunately. - Take care..., please !

You are so right. For some of us life doesn't always feel like a gift but on too many days it feels like a curse.

Thank you for staying with us. Thank you muchly, and I hope (and pray) for you that you never suffer that kind of pain/desire again.

I feel like that's victim blaming/shaming tbh

It's a very normal response, people cant understand it unless they have been through it.

People dont care if someone commits suicide, they care about how badly it make them feel... selfish fucks

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I would bet most people can be empathetic of the pain of the person who killed themself while also being frustrated with the pain they caused you at the same time. it's not one-dimensional. I agree "how dare you leave us" on its own isn't generous to the person who died, but it really does hurt being left.

I was waiting for a comment like this. While she was all teary eyed and emotional, I felt like she was still low key blaming him despite saying ‘suicide isn’t selfish’! This is what happens when you’re all focused on what your husband/partner can do for you, that you have to watch videos and read his journal to realize he was dying right in front of you. I can bet that he’d tried to open up to her but his concerns were dismissed. One of The main reasons for suicide is because the victims don’t feel like they have an outlet and that they’re being a boredom to their partners for expressing their pain. I’m sorry but I’m not very sympathetic towards her. She’s crying because she didn’t pay attention to him while he was alive and wants to play victim talking about “now I have to worry about the children”... yeah, too bad!

It's mental illness, understand? It's not supposed to make sense.

That I'm afraid is the power of the desire to hide the feeling of being weak and unworthy. Horrible Horrible exhausting,life sapping illness

You paste a smile on and say what's expected, nobody questions what they can't see.

Sometimes those close to you KNOW IT. Specially if you have talked to them about it (whether briefly or in detail) it’s just that they do not care. Or they think you’re just weak and want to play victim card. This is what happened to me. I opened up to one of my siblings and he violated my trust by making fun of the situation in front of other people that were not even my friends or people I even knew well…. 😢 I want to get away from him before I start resenting him

@@dareartes4232the last sentence is spot on 🎯

People live their loves in constant denial of the bad things going on around them. Most don't even realize it.

Dear Kathy 💔💔it must be so hard for you and the family.. wondering why,questions unanswered..wil this happen again .wil the next time be the final time..wat am I doing wrong. Your heart is so full of fear and hurt. I just wanted to reach out to you. I haven't experienced any of this but I felt wat u are feeling and I wanted to let you know someone's here for you..I am from South Africa 💗

Would you have cared if it was your husband?

C N, I am so very sorry for your loss, brother. My best friend also died by suicide on Christmas Eve back in 1997. I was the last person to see him alive in person, and I didn't see it coming either. The guilt of "failing my buddy" almost got me to join him. Please get help, if you haven't already. This burden is at least a two-man carry.

@@steveperks7054 💜💚

Cant blame him for ending his pain. Many did the same thing. Sometimes its Just too much. The War.

RIP Bryon, thank you for your service 🙏

May the Lord may keep Bryon close to Him. No matter what they say...I'm sure that He forgives those who don't forgive themselves.

I'm so sorry.

Sorry for your loss

I'm so so so sorry .

I am so sorry this has happened to you and your daughter. Life can be incredibly ly unjust. As a person who has struggled with mental illness I hope it is okay or me to help you understand your wife's pain must have been enormous. What doctors cannot see with X-Rays and cannot help with often ineffective medications is a very REAL disease. If healthy people could experience mental illness for even a minute, they would understand why your wife could not go on. I say this so you can know not to take her action personally. If the doctors cannot help, what are people to do?

I am sorry to hear of your loss of your wife. As the mom of a 32 yr old wife, who killed herself in their home quietly and peaceful, that her husband was downstairs n just thought she was sleeping. The only point of my comment is, my daughter did not have kids, thank God, but her 3 older siblings did. This was under 2 years ago so they were 2 girls 9 and 5, and my grandson age 13. My daughter told the 8 yr old exactly that aunt Meggie did not want to die, but she had an illness in her brain that changes her feelings. So yea now at 11 my granddaughters will openingly talk about suicide. You should always be honest with important issues, cause whe. they are older and find out truths, you've lost all their trust. Jmho

Women are permanent children. She lost her 'daddy'

There are numerous stories of people who failed to kill themselves who IMMMEDIATLY regretted the decision after they jumped off a bridge.

@@patrickmanway290 And there are numerous stories of people who _didn't..._

It's pretty selfish to kill yourself when you have a wife and kids who depend on you. For someone who has Chip as their profile picture saying hello, you certainly don't value life.

​@@SuperVladdrakulaWould you really care if your husband killed himself.

And now he's dead, where's the tragedy? People die everyday

@@mysteriousenigma6288 doesn't mean you can't shed a drop of sorrow

@@ek7407 If everything that ever lived is dead, and everything alive now is eventually gonna die, what's the point of feeling sorrow for something that's just a natural process?

@@mysteriousenigma6288 depression and isn't a natural road. I don't feel bad for anyone that died a decent death. You clearly are just a dark person with no remorse or emotion. And before you argue back "I'm not dark, I just don't focus on dead people, I have my own life" I don't focus on what's already happened, I do however acknowledge it.

@@ek7407 I'm not a dark person. I'm a Nihilist. Do you feel sad if you kill a spider or an ant? No, so why feel sorrow over humanity? People die every single day. It's how it is.

Yes. That is some of the reason voluntary euthanasia and assisted dying services are important, worldwide. They remove a lot of the fear of dying for many people that are lucky enough to be eligible.

Although I don't want to speak ill of the dead when I see someone who left their family behind, who had something so many people kill themselves for not having and people willing to help I wish I could curse the suicidal person with a form of immortality. Not one where they live forever, just a normal life but a form of temporary invincibility. I wonder what they would do if they could not die no matter what they tried.

RJL why do you feel any individual is obligated to live for others? This man spent a good portion of his life for others and when he was finally too tired he slept. His life his right. I just hope Lori can get to a point where she appreciates what he did do for her before he took what was rightfully his.

@@joshuasukup2488 I understand your perspective and in the end, it is that person's life and decision. I just can't help but think there are other and better options. It's still difficult to see someone you care being in pain and not realizing it. Also, people can be toxic with themselves, and decisions made from that mentality are already so compromised. How do we know it's truly what they want when the decisions comes from a dark place? Many people don't feel their lives or themselves worthy when in reality, they always were. Yes, in the end, it's their life and decision, but I hope, truly hope, that they find their inner beautiful voice.

My thoughts, exactly.

sending all my love your way❤ you're so strong

In front of you ? That’s shameful. What was he trying to accomplish

💔🥺

Wow I’m sorry to hear that . My ex recently took his own life & I was looking at Instagram pictures of him & he looked so sad I don’t know if I’m over analyzing because of what I know now

She slowly consumed him and pushed him over the edge.

As a woman it's difficult to believe you. Studies have shown that wives do not care if their husbands commit suicide. I hope you were got some money from it.

August?

I'm so sorry 💔

So very sorry! 😢🙏🏻

You will find a way

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

If you thought that he was "ignored", you didn't pay attention while watching this.

@@InMotionForAMillion Not speaking about him.

@@InMotionForAMillion It’s a typical case for someone suicidal

Of course you afterwards see this signs because you have now the time to specifically pay attention to these signs and look for them in photos etc. But at that time you cannot know if the person does not talk about his or her inner world at all, or, whenever doubts are spoken out, downplays these. It wasn't her fault and you have no idea how their life went.

@@2das I'm reporting you for low empathy. Guards! Take her away!

Excellent comment, this is a true fact, as I feel I’ve done everything in my power to secure my family and their lives where I feel I’ve suffered the most and that feeling how everything is expected of you to do everything for them but nothing for you. They want more and more as they take away you soul while you become empty, hollow inside with no self worth. I often felt liked or needed when actually reality was they had everything to gain while I felt into deep dispair. Most of my life I’ve been ignored and kicked around. I’m to a point in my life now that I wish I can just disappear from everyone around me. I go into seclusion in my own home for days.. there is no escaping from such people unless you take you own life in which I’ve contemplated multiple times. I’ve told my spouse on my depression for many years, everyone in my family just ignores it.. don’t know what to do anymore… too old to runaway from home now.

Excellent observation 👍🏻

You'd look haunted if you had to listen to that one blabbering every day

@@mick1gallagher The breathless, verge of tears voice is annoying.

@@stormi_sea_vvitch Do you know the magnitude of love? Seek the truth of the heart and you will humble yourself to empathy.

God bless you and your family.

Wow, I'm happy to hear you've come to peace with the situation; I'm sure that must have been a tough journey. God Bless.

I lost my father 41 years ago this July. For years I tried to forgive him, then I realised he had nothing to be forgiven for, He did not take his life, his illness did. I still miss you every single day dad Rest in Peace.

So happy for you.all they need is acceptance and understanding

Thank you. I think I might be able to get closer to acceptance of my own mother's suicide 3 years ago if I can remind myself to shift my perspective that my feelings about what happened would be as ridiculous as being angry for a loved ones succumbing to death from cancer.

🤗🤗🤗 I can only send virtual hugs. Hope that you're better now.

Help me

@@thereisnosanctuary6184you ok?

I’ve just went through the ex at same thing with my son, it’s brutal beyond anything! Stay strong

@@robbieanderson227 far from

clearly you have never lost anyone you love to suicide.

This.

I think toxic positivity is to blame too

It sounds like this guy literally told no one in his family or his circle of friends or ANYONE that he was depressed.

@@dovie2blue They wouldn't have helped. He probably didn't have a circle. I don't.

Are you saying there is no hope? If there is no hope then all depressed people should take a lethal injection. I believe people can change and there is hope.

Well, it is kind of hard for people with depression to tell everyone else how it should be "tackled," because the ones that are the worst are already dead, and/or don't care about fixing depression.

@@matthewdancz9152 LOL! And you would know that how? People who have depression do have the ability to speak.

Are you trying to say that only another drunkards' can save a Drunkard!! I guess you can be more reasonable and respectable than that. If you have a space for others in your life, then regardless of what there opinions maybe or workable, if they care, then you should respect them. Let's face it, whatever those others are doing in their lives, it has something or reasons why they aren't depressed to date. So by hearing others experiences or opinion you may get some clues for yourself. If you are looking for a solution, look like your adamancy is a road block. Perhaps you had a pampered life without much responsibilities earlier and perhaps some changes in your environment has triggered incompatibility in you. Depressions are reasonably solution, especially if the person is ready to develop a wider canvas of life and recognizes one's insignificance. Ever heard earlier generations talking of depression. They simply couldn't afford it.

@@deepujose9050 in all seriousness, I'm not sure what you're trying to say here

I think dark thoughts are more common in teens because of less control over their own life choices. And also especially for people with a melancholy character type or disposition. If a person is angry ( choleric) they can take physical exercise. If a person is a criminal they can choose higher a higher standard of behavior ( sanguine) if they are phlegmatic ( lazy) they can create a schedule and to do list. When melancholy you can have a special pet and sing something upbeat and encouraging. Song can always be used as a weapon against discouragement. Joy comes from caring about others salvation. Sharing Truth is a lift for both. For me the hope I have is in my friendship with Jesus in His word. It’s all about becoming an Overcomer of our own weaknesses and living from our strengths. Introverts can give other things than time. And can expect from those you allow close to you to be kind thoughtful and share insight by really hearing your perspective. Please don’t expect people to be able to read your mind. I hope you can find someone you can trust to share friendship.

What a ironic name.

Hey just wanted to make sure you okay and hanging in there?

Joy you are a woman we all love you

Hope your alive and you see this

Yes my dad gets annoyed by my pain said it’s my choice I just hate being here in pain

certainly doesn't work for me. i have none.

My children. I am certain they have saved me, and still do. My best friends father committed suicide. And it still affects him 35 years later. He is a great person, however he has great struggles as well. I dont want my children to identify and suffer with the needless results of my sickness.

Correct. It is blaming the victim

I am starting to suspect that this woman may have been part of the problem. He killed himself on her birthday and perhaps he always felt he wasn't enough for her expectations, she seems very demanding. Maybe she was the bully in his brain ?

@@randomcomputer7248 She drove him to suicide.

"We were happy."

You can see sadness in his eyes . It's quite obvious he is not ok just from those couple clips. I never understand when people say " he said he is OK or he never said anything ". it's called body language and you can actually feel when someone is sad or depressed . I think people are so out of tune with their feelings and people around them. I can literally feel it when someone close to me is in pain. They don't have to say nothing . I sense it but I'm one of those people with sixth sense . I'm more sensitive towards other people's feelings in general.

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 That Part!

@@lp1643 same here

how come that nobody noticed even if he didnt confess to it?

Sorry for your loss. sometimes people want help but most times feel that no one really understands.

He wanted out of his fake life. He should have divorced and emigrated.

@Finagon Haupt I get your point, his depression drained him of energy and motivation. He saw no way out other than suicide.

@Finagon Haupt Are you depressed and suicidal ?

I call BS on the "he just wanted the hurting to stop." He (and everyone) wants/needs to be heard. They want & need to be seen and accepted and loved. That's what was missing in the relationship. You can tell by her testimony. It's a copout to blame it on a "disease" as many testimonies in these comments prove. I've read dozens of comments here where suicidal ppl got better by simply talking & sharing their pain instead of holding it in. In the talking and sharing there is love if the listeners care enough to really hear & see. In many cases, the survivors simply need to repent from their own narcissism.

@@jimwest5027you are probably not a suicide survivor, as some of us are. If you were, you would know that ending the unbearable pain is all this is about

This is a huge misconception about suicide. Many time it IS "the people you love" that you want to escape from. So true.

Think about the people who are supposed to love you. And don't.

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Yes, _exactly..._

Or the: Don't kill yourself. Someone loves you. Like, are you sure?

Sorry you suffered such a loss. Stay strong and have a wonderful life.

If your mother was in better financial shape she wouldn't have minded

Me too so true

Yeah no

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 lmao how do YOU know if it's the most hard hitting talk geordannik ever heard?

Sure she drove him to it!! She doesn't lift a finger around the home!

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 She is. Losing someone isn't easy and the fact she did a Ted talk just to transmit a message and make sure people don't make the same mistake as her is a proof of her strength.

Sorry

Jesus Christ is the only real relationship you (or any man) can have on this earth that will never fail you..in what is best. The day I said out loud, Lord I no longer want to live, I heard an audible whisper right behind my ear. He is very real...so are the Angels that surround us. Obviously, devils are real too. Say out loud, (Jesus Christs blood won over all you devils) and they run.. Also speak, "I shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the Lord." "No weapons formed against me shall prosper."

Your better off trust me

ur my age and i have only had impulses of killing my self. After that i was afraid of my self..

I am all alone, both parents die in my arms. Mother at 16 father at 24. My gf left me when i went in depression. I am all alone in this world. But i live, i live because i made a promise to my father, he asked me to never give up and take care of my sister. People say you have to live for your sister, which i do. But its so tough. No one understand, not a single relative or extended family want to talk. Life is just endless suffering.

medicine help

There are things to help. Come on now.

Father's who commit suicide are so selfish. If you can't stay alive for your kids, you are basically saying I don't care enough about my kids to stay alive for them. My depression is more important then my kids to me. When you have kids, you HAVE something to live for!

@@patrickmanway290 I'm sorry for your misunderstanding that everyone has a choice and for some it's just to hard to stay. We must not judge others by their choice as we are not inside their heads. Take care mate

@@patrickmanway290 so mothers are allowed to take their lives and abandon their children but men have to stay and suffer? Man just be quiet

There is no GOD

@@Ashish00ash Narcos, given the condition of the world today I certainly understand why you would feel that way. God is all things, the good "and" what we perceive as the bad. Thank you for the note.

@@macbeavers6938 To be honest the past was worse. IIf you were a minority or female or LGBT the past is just overall worse. So there is covid that sht will be done and away with. So there is unemployment get better (Ik lol yes easier said then done. reason why I am here lol ) but still work at it we will make it.

@@Turnpost2552 Your words are Gold AU! I will have my boy give your hubby a spiritual hug! Happy New Year! Adonai

Carolyn Brown interesting yes understanding is indeed the key, men do not process their thoughts and feelings like women, their needs are very different. Have you heard of the queens code by Alison Armstrong, she has a website understanding men and women and how we as women emasculate men in very subtle ways, this has changed how I interact with my husband and sons.

@@elizagoodytwoshoes8348 No I haven't, what is it?

Carolyn Brown if you find Alison Armstrong on you tube and her website all the information is there. If you watch her on you tube you can glean a lot of information. She wrote a fictional story called the Queens Code and even though it's not a literary best seller the information is vital.

@@elizagoodytwoshoes8348 Thank you, --I will certainly check this out.

You'd be surprised how people ignore those expressions. Or focus on symptoms: alcoholism, laziness, anger.

Exactly accurate.

I feel it now

Yep. Sometimes you get so tired of scrambling to keep your head above water you have no energy left. Some of us retreat to our beds. Others can't even face that any more.

@@thereisnosanctuary6184 You are not alone in this grey pit. Have you no one to talk to, though ?

I'm poking my head out. I only attract people to the pit to use as ladders.

Good comment.

‘Later that night I held an atlas in my lap Ran my fingers across the whole world And whispered Where does it hurt? It answered Everywhere Everywhere Everywhere. Warson Shire

Dennis is so spot on, on so many things.

So tragically true😔

There are more tears than smiles. There is more sea than earth. One day the insupportable grief of mankind will sweep over the land and an ark will float on that liquid expression of misery.-John Morlar(The medusa touch)

So very true...

you are on youtube. You are not depressed.

i’ve lost 6 family members to suicide. it sounds like a lot of struggling to deal with and it is. but people still have the audacity to tell me that they did it either for attention or just to be selfish. each family member of mine who took their life, has a story. and every story is valid. please don’t let anyone convince u that it’s selfish. depression isn’t just disconnecting urself from the people that love you, it’s also saving yourself from what hurts you. u are so worthy of so many things babe. don’t let some uneducated person on mental health try to tell u how ur emotions work.

@@addisonbonin813 wow 6 of your family. Watch the ones left behind.

@@SelfImprovement1111 i definitely am much more open minded and aware of my surroundings. after living with my stepdad for years before he ended it all, i was able to identify and pick up on some things he did that were hinting he was suffering. i use those small things he used to do and watch out for it in the people around me. we have a small family so it’s rlly just me, my mom, and my two sisters. i think my mom is the one mostly effected by everything. it’s hard to hear but i walked in on her trying to take her own life because she felt like they were all her fault. she’s working on herself now, dieting, working out. she’s found herself and she truly is the happiest i’ve ever seen her in a really long time. it makes me happy to know that i don’t have to worry as much anymore.

@@addisonbonin813 I’ve seen some depression being treated medical. Off course If it isn’t physiological then something is bothering that person. But in your case I’d have to say that there’s a high chance it can be treated medically. Such a large number of your family has been affected by it so it could be genetic.

@@addisonbonin813 you need to get rid of those people out of your life if they say that.

I am grateful for your dog too and look forward to the day that your unique gifts shine in this world.

Michael Hoffman thanks for sharing your story bro, excuse the name, I'm a male just wanted to point that out. I'm 34 and I too suffer from depression since the age of 12 people say you should talk about it but it's difficult to do nowadays, people will ghost you or down play you because of it. As a male you have to be strong at all times and that's impossible, depression is nooooooo joke so if you want to talk just let me know bro.

Thank you for sharing! A service animal is such a great idea. I wish you an abundance of love.

Hope things get better for u and you stop feeling this way. Will pray for u before bed today 👍

Hey man just want to check in on you, how’s it going!

I thought robin williams committed suicide because he actually had an illness that was gonna take his mobility and life away from him, not just because he had depression. You can look it up, her wife said it

@Dale Weiss sorry for your loss. Yeah, easy in hindsight to see that there was something wrong.

A lot of comedians are highly depressed. It's how we joke to hide the hurt. We feel like we must always be on and entertaining. It creates a lot of pressure. God bless those who hurt in secrecy, and to the families they leave behind.

Jesus Loves you, don't give up. He makes all things new.

@@Monxtv When a health issue is offers the prospect of getting worse over time or is terminal, that is a very understandable cause of depression. It certainly applies to Williams. However, I believe he was depressed or prone to depression even before he found himself with progressive dementia. Remember what Williams was: a comedian and actor blessed with one of the quickest wits in the world, one of the few that could hold his own in the company of the legendary Jonathan Winters. The idea of becoming ordinary and then less than ordinary must have terrified him as well as depressing him.

Please don’t leave yourself behind :(

Im trying.

keep going as best as you can okay? sure, i may just be some stranger but, please do your absolute best to keep going. wether its going for another year, another month, another week, another day, or even down so bad you have to convince urself to keep going minute by minute. keep pushing. the promise of what the future might hold doesnt take away from the pain you are in now, and i understand that. but if youve made it this far, i know without even knowing who you are, that youre strong. i mean, youve made it all this time, and ur still going despite everything? thats the definition of resilience. i understand no words i can tell you will remove or change the pain you are in, but pain is a resource as much as it is a curse. youve just proven yourself to be resilience incarnate, and are strong beyond belief. knowing that, im sure you can take your pain and use it to improve. sometimes even a perspective change can save your life. if u have 6 bad days a week you may feel like life is almost nothing but suffering, but if u manage to strengthen yourself and look towards that one good day? you can start seeing the bad days as preperation for the good one, and you get to spend that one good day however you want! and, even if you right now are in a position where things are really tough, and it feels like life itself is collapsing around you... breathe. its okay to breathe, even if everything that you thought could keep you going is dissapearing infront of you, remember that you can always breathe. its okay to take a step back, and look at things for however long you need, before going back to the quiet violence in your mind. you arent alone. and, even if you get so isolated that you have absolutely no one left, and it feels like ur only company is the voice in ur mind trying to convince u to take ur life? even then, remember that that voice is only there to try and help you, and its simply just as confused and lost as you are, yet it keeps yelling to try and support you, despite saying all the wrong things. you arent alone, and people will help you if you ask, in time they will, i promise

I have a great brother myself, who I love the most out of my entire family. Everytime I don't get to see him for a while I miss him a lot. So I can in a very slight way understand your pain. I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know you or him but from how you described him he sounds like a fantastic guy. I believe in you, not to completely move on from your brother because of his tragic death, but to keep him as a permanent good memory for the rest of your life.

I know how you feel. :(! MY sister took her life in June, 2018. Not a day goes by, I don't think of her! There were no signs, no addictions, no issues we thought! Please, take care and stay strong.

How you describe your brother is exactly how I would describe my father. I regret the same things as you too. My dad took his life 3 days before christmas in 2016 and I still feel the guilt of not making that call or something i should or could have done that might have stopped him. But one person said to me that even if you can stop them on that day it is very likely to happen on another. Once someone has made up their mind. And he never let us know how serious his depression was either so we never got that chance to help. At least now my dad is free of pain and the torture of his own mind working against him. But I wish every single say he didnt do it..he has missed so much and we miss him.

Just remember it is not your fault. He was sick. I have had depression and please trust me when I say. It is not your fault. Take care. Love from Holland.

Im so sorry, he loved you and he was a great human being 🤍

And the hardest part is knowing that they will. Knowing that there is no winning for us in this life

It’s something we are forced to learn eventually.

You're good enough. Always.

@Thomas that's not true. And I think I can speak for many women too. Having feelings is human and talking about (negative) feelings strengthens the relationship more.

@Thomas if some people have found someone who cared about them before you will too. Someone out there is there for you maybe as a friend maybe even as an stranger but you can’t give up. It’s hard sometimes but I believe in you

You are a woman and in no time you will get over him. Studies have shown that women don't really care when their male partners kill themselves. I hope he left you some money.

True story. I completely understand what you mean. It helps so much to let somebody elae in already

Suicide or sleeping with my wife? Tough choice and life is so hard. These ppl....

I wouldn't trust a friend or a potential spouse with any of that, especially not the latter. She'd surely leave. Help most of the time is just drugs, they drug you up so you feel numb to it. For many there's nothing that can really be said to them.

@@DarthABBA "If she can't handle me at my worst, she doesn't deserve me at my best."

@@alexp.9327 ?

"the world wants you to stay and suffer. I don’t understand that" The world is hopelessly broken, what's there to understand?

The world is selfish and oblivious. It doesn't care if you are hurting. All it wants is you to abide by its rules and suffer, it wants you to fight constantly like there is a trophy to be won at the end of it