"What if my therapist is working harder than me?" 87 AKA

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Ask Kati Anything podcast 87
Audience questions:
01:14
1. You’ve mentioned several times that a therapist shouldn’t be working harder than the client, but what if they are? How do you address a client who has run out of motivation to get better? ...
08:34
2. I struggle a lot with comparing myself to other people who seem more happy, successful, talented, and so on, than me. I know that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ but doing this is automatic to me, like a reflex. Being told not to compare myself to other people is like being...
20:17
3. I was recently diagnosed with Psychological Non Epileptic Seizures, can you explain what exactly this is and how something psychological can turn into the physical. Thanks Kati, have a great day! (video link: • What are Psychogenic M... )...
27:50
4. I was wondering (and I hope this isn’t too insensitive). It seems that everyone is struggling with their mental health to an extent. But if it’s so common, why does my therapist tell me that it’s okay that I can’t just push mental health aside, when everyone else has to just get on too?
51:08
5. I have a question about therapists showing emotion in session. Last week I was talking to my therapist about my suicidal ideation and some rituals around attempting. Her response after I explained what was going on was that it makes her sad and she teared up and ...
53:45
6. I feel like I don’t know who I am. I’m so used to mirroring people and reflecting their emotions rather than actually feeling it that I no longer feel like me and at times I don’t really feel like I’m real. I don’t know what my values in life are, my desires, hopes or just in general ...
1:11:52
7. Does attachment to your therapist always have to stem from childhood wounds? I am really attached to my therapist, but I don't have any history of emotional abuse or neglect in my childhood. My mom was present and there for me my whole life up until my twenties (a few years ago) when she left and wasn't there for me, and that's when my therapist came into my...
1:20:39
8. Hi Kati! Happy belated birthday 🥳 Can we get some pupdates? No questions from me, really. Just want some Roxy news. Now go take a vacation please...
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@Katimorton 2 жыл бұрын

Good morning everyone! :)

@anniekate76 2 жыл бұрын

Hello!

@hii-rk9xz 2 жыл бұрын

Hi! It's 6pm here 🥰

@sarabooen96 2 жыл бұрын

Morning:) very very early morning mind u in Australia, 3am lol

@renamoda5450 2 жыл бұрын

Good afternoon! It seems you uploaded 2 videos in less than half an hour.Well done!!Also,question number 2 is something i've always meant to ask you,and now someone else did it for me! :)

@lisasnoozy3749 2 жыл бұрын

Good afternoon! Finally sitting down for a break today! Have a great weekend! 🥰

@anniekate76 2 жыл бұрын

Timestamps: 01:14 1. You’ve mentioned several times that a therapist shouldn’t be working harder than the client, but what if they are? How do you address a client who has run out of motivation to get better? ... 08:34 2. I struggle a lot with comparing myself to other people who seem more happy, successful, talented, and so on, than me. I know that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ but doing this is automatic to me, like a reflex. Being told not to compare myself to other people is like being... 20:17 3. I was recently diagnosed with Psychological Non Epileptic Seizures, can you explain what exactly this is and how something psychological can turn into the physical. Thanks Kati, have a great day! (video link: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/op-Kia10m8fIcZs.html )... 27:50 4. I was wondering (and I hope this isn’t too insensitive). It seems that everyone is struggling with their mental health to an extent. But if it’s so common, why does my therapist tell me that it’s okay that I can’t just push mental health aside, when everyone else has to just get on too? 51:08 5. I have a question about therapists showing emotion in session. Last week I was talking to my therapist about my suicidal ideation and some rituals around attempting. Her response after I explained what was going on was that it makes her sad and she teared up and ... 53:45 6. I feel like I don’t know who I am. I’m so used to mirroring people and reflecting their emotions rather than actually feeling it that I no longer feel like me and at times I don’t really feel like I’m real. I don’t know what my values in life are, my desires, hopes or just in general ... 1:11:52 7. Does attachment to your therapist always have to stem from childhood wounds? I am really attached to my therapist, but I don't have any history of emotional abuse or neglect in my childhood. My mom was present and there for me my whole life up until my twenties (a few years ago) when she left and wasn't there for me, and that's when my therapist came into my... 1:20:39 8. Hi Kati! Happy belated birthday 🥳 Can we get some pupdates? No questions from me, really. Just want some Roxy news. Now go take a vacation please...

@Zarouge 2 жыл бұрын

The mvp

@nikkimckay860 2 жыл бұрын

Anniekate76. Thank you for the time stamps helpful 👍🙂

@sarabooen96 2 жыл бұрын

thankyou:)

@insolubletoaster8133 2 жыл бұрын

I was wondering why no one had done this on these yet. Thank you.

@T.Beattie89 2 жыл бұрын

I get so excited hearing you talk about autism. I know it's not in your "wheel house" but it's a brief moment of feeling seen. So I'm very thankful. Thank you

@poohbear0320 2 жыл бұрын

Those with disabilities like epilepsy and learning disabilities always learn from society to compare ourselves to others.

@Iwasjustwondering89 7 ай бұрын

Absolutely everybody learns to compare themselves to others.

@christinemcfadyen9151 2 жыл бұрын

OMG, I so relate to comparing myself to other people, did it coming out of my mother's womb!

@mymentorjane6705 2 жыл бұрын

I get you! I work on that too. My friend has a gorgeous home and I was there this afternoon. I found myself comparing the size and furnishings, etc. Then I noticed her jewelry and her kitchen dishes…the funny thing is, I don’t want to clean a house that big, and I have a different taste in jewelry and dishes. So, As I’m talking myself out of that downward spiral, I kept asking myself, Jane, do you really want this house, that ring, these dishes? It helped. It’s more about a fear that I’m lacking something rather than really wanting what she has. Just thought I’d share that and thanks for your comment.

@ipsykd40 2 жыл бұрын

Damn that story about college sucks but is super hopeful, thanks for sharing it

@ambern1742 2 жыл бұрын

My question was number 5. Thank you for answering! I will ask my therapist now that I know it's not weird. You definitely hit the nail on the head in regards to sadness making me uncomfortable and your thoughts around that. I have CPTSD and part of my trauma involved getting beat for crying after or during SA as a child. I also think it may be because I'm afraid I can't pull myself out of the sadness on my own as well. Thanks for giving me something else to explore with my T surrounding that! This really made my day that you answered my question!

@nikkimckay860 2 жыл бұрын

Amber N. Hello I like your question and honestly would like to congratulate. you for managing to get a question though to Kati s podcast .iv been following her channel and podcasts for a long time. and I'm joined to her KATI. Facebook page group. I find alout of her video s helpful .and she gives good advice. and I always like people s comments .and I like meeting new people who share there mental health. if ok was wondering why my question never gets liked. or nobody comments any replies. be helpful for some advice be thankful because your. question got Kati s attention x

@saram5659 2 жыл бұрын

Love the podcast! Just wanted to add that it's not true that people don't compare suffering in physical illness (instead of mental illness). This is a huge problem in many chronic illness communities and face book groups for example. People feel they aren't sick enough to participate in the community when they go back to work for example, even though they are not 100% better. Or people compare diseases, especially healthy people do this ("well, at least it's not cancer") or patients comparison between how much more insurance and emotional support some illnesses get and internalizing that ("I don't have a scary diagnosis like MS, I'm just in bed with pain all day, so it's not as bad"). I hope this was useful :)

@nikkimckay860 2 жыл бұрын

Just watching this new podcast now. been waiting all week to watch and listen I needed this .just sad iv been trying for ages to get my question chosen. I try my best to explain what my question s about and .do try not make it too long I add full stops .I know it's all about how many likes you get or comments or is it about paying to have more of a chance. I love Kati s podcasts and videos. and I follow her posts I'm joined to KATI .anyway these podcasts are helpful and good advice for different health problems Kati is always my go too channel .she's helped meany people though her podcasts and videos 🙂

@nicoleleeanartist5999 2 жыл бұрын

I love the Steve Jobs outfit haha! Actually giving Elizabeth Holmes vibes 😎😎😎

@davidk349 2 жыл бұрын

What we need is to feel known, for others to make a little niche in their minds where they keep what they know about us up to date. When we know and feel they are doing that, we feel more secure. It's just a human need we have, what connects us all together. It's a survival need. If someone is thinking about us, they will look for us and get us out of danger. Just the feeling of them thinking of us as we go about our lives.

@nikkimckay860 2 жыл бұрын

Question 4. I can completely understand and relate too how your feeling. and things are for you it's a struggle and hard for us all anyone .who suffers from depression and anxiety struggle s with things differently .some people are able to manage there anxiety and depression better. than others. some people need medication and therapy .or can get by just taking medication. or just having therapy .or stronger people I've heard say they can cure themselves. I believe everyone needs help so many people have mental health. we shouldn't judge who feels worse or has worse symptoms. or struggling more we should be kind and offer support even if we hardly know the person .we all need to be more kinda x

@LessThanThree76 2 жыл бұрын

Just a thought regarding the ”everyone is having a cold” analogy. I think that I could compare my mental status to having a cold actually. If ”everyone” was having a cold and every one of them apart from me managed to pull through it except for me, I’d be annoyed as well. Like - ”Why do I need sick days when everyone else can just cope with their cold?! I’m weak and useless.” It’s not that I’m not allowed to have that cold, it’s the fact that I can’t seem to be able to handle it as well as other people.

@nikkimckay860 2 жыл бұрын

Question 8 like the question and hearing about puppy Roxy she so sweet 🤗

@DrummerGrrrl 2 жыл бұрын

Kati, good afternoon! It's morning in Seattle but not in Austin. 🤪♥️. I also can't believe I'm up this early!

@KWatsonMUSIC 2 жыл бұрын

Aw I didn’t realize you spent a year at SCC! I used to live in Seattle and spent a lot of time in that neighborhood 😊

@dukemandu 2 жыл бұрын

Have you ever considered there are some who are psychologically terminal? That it's not likely anyone can fix them. Try tellin' em that. I've noticed doctors really hate admitting defeat. There's a lot you can fix, but there's a whole lot you can't. Some are broken beyond the limits of your field. Maybe one day, we'll fix all mental illness, but we're far from that today. If anything, I've never seen so many broken humans in my life - a damning statement on the science of psychology.

@diablominero 2 жыл бұрын

Brussels sprouts were different when you were a kid. A low-bitterness variety was developed fairly recently.

@diablominero 2 жыл бұрын

Dog breeds with shortened snouts shouldn't go on planes because they might have breathing problems. It'd probably be a non-issue for a pitbull, since they're powerful, robust dogs (the rule was written mostly for pugs and English bulldogs) but I wouldn't want to risk it with a dog I liked.

@ranicalerp7765 2 жыл бұрын

Pretending your an alien from another planet. That's such a great idea!

@vanessasarritzu853 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Kati😊Kisses from Welwyn Garden City, Uk

@DrummerGrrrl 2 жыл бұрын

What year were you at Seattle Central? I might have run into you! I went to South Seattle Community College and Shoreline Community College but I was allllllllllways hanging out on Capital Hill.

@ChannelMath Ай бұрын

well, you pay them more than they pay you, so seems fair How would you even know if they're working harder, anyway?

@Lazer5051 2 жыл бұрын

Pretty!

@user00688 Жыл бұрын

#6 53:45 1:01:09

@runlolarun8957 2 жыл бұрын

Why can't people be OK with people being in hard places though? Why is others suffering so hard on others? I mean if the situation fits I get it. But then how do you see others who might be in way more difficult places? Maybe it's alright for others to be in hard places and to not take it on ourselves or hold it against them. I get it made you better but sometimes it feels necessary just to suppress all our hardships because others can't handle them.

@mymentorjane6705 2 жыл бұрын

I understand what you’re saying, I think about being ok with another person’s suffering. The tendency is to hand them a tissue, hug them, tell them it’s going to be ok, etc. One of the greatest gifts we can give someone is to stand with them as they suffer, not trying to change or fix anything. That takes courage and selflessness to put your own discomfort and fears aside in service of another. Occasionally, if I feel compelled to say anything, I may say something like, “Lola, I am honored that you trust me to share your grief/burden/heartbreak, etc. Thank you.”

@diablominero 2 жыл бұрын

"pitbull" is in theory short for "American Pit Bull Terrier," though in practice any dog that's so much as met a bulldog gets called a pitbull.