Tori, your eloquence is really something special. In my opinion, your compassionate presence alone contains a healing energy. If you ever created a course or did more of these types of videos to help patients directly at a large scale, I think your efforts would be profoundly successful and transformative for so many.

I feel this is exactly what I needed to learn! I have CPTSD, and developed chronic fatigue after an excessively stressful career and toxic relationship. There's all this ruminating going on in my head and dysregulation of the body. Healing has been very slow but I am still triggered a lot. I am worried when I can ever get back to a more normal life. Appreciate the way you present this information.

I had to pause the video many times to get up out of my seat and scream in gratitude for all of the nuggets in this video. So much of what you shared resonated and I thank you for producing content like this.

As a new therapist, the way you explained this gives me hope for myself and my clients. Now I feel I need a therapist.

Hello, Not sure this is the place, but wanted to tell you that your work is amazing. Having spent the past few years trying to learn from Van der Kolk, Porges, Levine, Mate about polyvagal theory, somatic therapy, IFS etc., I was blown away watching your videos. I watched hours of IFS videos after five minutes I thought “Wow, she is way better at explaining this than Richard Schwartz”. Your voice is calming, you look very nice, and the sound and video quality. Most importantly is that you don’t need a PhD to understand what you are saying. The less safe you feel, the more your parts are activated, the more compromised your cognitive function is. You have made the meaning and application more accessible than anything I’ve seen. I love the bicycle analogy. The emotional danger alarm evolves all the way to the complex patterns and schemas. It’s automatic. I don’t think to myself there was a 8% change in the angle of the pitch in the road therefore I will shift 1.7 pounds of weight to correct angle... It just happens. You also suggested the idea “I am deeper than my pain”. Another way to think of it is that I am not my pain. The pain, the event, the memory, the response, are together like a cloud. I am more like the sky. The 8 C’s. I need to be careful not to forget that I am the sky and think I’m the cloud. Caught up in the darkness, rain or whatever characteristics. I am so much more than that. In that way I like to think that I am what is before the thoughts. The place where the thoughts are happening. When I am suffering, if can recognize that it is not the information causing that state, but its a somatic response generated by the schema or parts, I can return to myself. The IFS dialog is a powerful tool to update the schemas if I can really step back from it. I found that Tara Brach’s RAIN meditation (Recognize, allow, investigate, nurture) also helpful. Often the schema doesn’t have a narrative. We can’t explain to a crying baby that it’s over reacting, it’s safe, there’s no life threat etc. In my case there were many adverse childhood events before and after I was born. The baby feels unsafe because it’s not familiar with the environment. You can swaddle the baby in a blanket or in your arms. Over time this fear response will dissipate. In the same way the more I embrace my suffering in a healthy way the better chance I have to move past it. When we identify with the schemas we feel shame, resentment, anger, anxiety and think the trigger is the cause or that is who I am the schemas become more powerful. Even in therapy or support groups we can find ourselves identifying with the suffering and finding strategies to avoid pain, but never really change the pattern or recover from the trauma. My entire life I have been at war with myself. Shame and attachment trauma have been so difficult to understand. Something to fight and cover up. Your video is very helpful in my effort to stop fighting those parts of me. The clarity of your message has been helping me to return to myself from the clouds. There may be a long way to go but it finally feel like I’m making progress. Sorry for such a long note, I didn’t have time to write a shorter one (MT)... Dean

You explained this SO thoroughly. Oh my goodness. Teaching is your calling. I've never seen information delivered so clearly and warmly.

I actually met my internal family and I was shocked to see that they were actual beings and I even recognized them it was very life changing.

I was exhausted and had given up hope of finding something that truly addressed the root of the cyclical depression I have contended with my whole life. I believe I was led to IFS and Dr Tori. Like others I found some information cumbersome and overwhelming and am elated to have found Dr Tori's videos on the subject. My whole being resonates with what she describes so simply and compassionately. I am so grateful for this gift.

I wish psychology videos were regularly produced this well. This is visually and auditorily one of the best I've ever seen.

Dr. Olds - This was absolutely brilliant. You radiate with compassion and connection. The approach is clear (practically self-evident) with a current of loving compassion. Looking forward to the rest of this series. Thank you.

Extraordinary video! Tori, you are so natural, warm and eloquent. And I gotta say, the eggs at 8:19 lightened my heart so much!

Thank you so much for giving this to anyone that needs it. I’ve never had so much break through so fast.

I just started learning abt IFS and I love how gentle and clearly you explain things.

In order to keep things simple for myself, I denied I had parts. Seemed simple right, the less parts, the less work. This only made things worse. The more I chose to focus on fitness and body image, the more I craved and ate junk food. I would sometimes freak out at the thought of having many parts, like I was crazy, so I exiled some. Then I found this approach on yet another 2 a.m. insomnia KZfaq search. Lol. I must admit that denying my parts created more suffering, so the logical approach now is to welcome them all to the party and start mingling. Lol.

Thank you! I've been involved in various modalities of therapy for many years. Most recently, my therapist and I have been doing parts work (and some EMDR). I've never before felt it "working" as I do now. The concept is not always easy to grasp so I was very happy to find your videos. You offer clarity, explanation, and hope that I'm on the right track. I've had a family member tell me "Well, MY therapist doesn't think much of EMDR and parts work." At first, I was really annoyed as it felt like just another attack on my attempts to become healthy and whole. But now, I'm just thankful that I've come to know my therapist and these modalities and can actually feel the difference. I've got a long way to go and sometimes it feels brutal, but it offers strength, stability and hope. These are things I haven't felt for so long I had given up. Anyway, thank you again for these videos and all of your work! It means the world to many of us! 🤗

Just sent this video to a client who has never heard of parts. I am moved almost to tears to have your very clear and understandable video available to introduce such an important concept to people. I love your tone, the way you do it and the credibility that you back yourself up with. Thanks a million.

This is the best "simple" explination of how and why we create personalities/programs/parts. Thank you for serving the world is such a beautiful way.

these videos are so informative, thank god there is people like you in the world

This gave me goosebumps as the realization set in on what I just bumped into this is life changing information and I’m beyond excited to go on this journey share this with everyone you know and love ❤️

I love the way you teach. Each piece of information is so clearly explained and each step builds on the last. You have the gift of expressing simply while honoring the complexity. You make it so accessible and your presence is inviting, respectful and grounded. Thanks so much for freely sharing this.

I am new to IFS and your videos are clear, inspiring and healing. Thank you Tori for sharing with such sweet eloquence. Your style of teaching is calm, kind and reassuring.

I have been working within the IFS model for a couple years. I am *so grateful* for this very clear video. I plan to share it with others and watch more of your videos! Thank you!!! 🤩💞

Tori, this is so helpful, thank you so much for this eloquent explanation of IFS, and your voice is also soothing. I'm a therapist and when I learned about IFS, and that's two months ago, I knew, I would be using this modality in my work with clients and my own healing.

What a beautiful way to share the approach with logical and scientific parts. Thank you.

Tori, your gentleness is so inviting. I took an IFS training and it was so confusing that it was off putting. But whenever I’ve implemented parts language into my sessions with clients it’s been impressive how powerful it has been.

I really appreciate the explanation of how to think about internal parts. I'm one of those people that has struggled with that - less because of the concept itself, but more-so as it relates to speaking to these parts as individuals. I think as a recovering addict I developed something of an aversion to it because it felt like I was supposed to be disowning or separating from some of myself whenever I'd hear someone talk about their addiction as something that was "out to get them". It's very helpful to hear a clear explanation of a more nuanced perspective that isn't so adversarial. Looking forward to watching the subsequent videos.

I'm listening to this and wondering how I'm only hearing about this now. It makes so much sense! I have a very strong inner critic which causes me to work very hard without any sense of achievement. It leaves me feeling constantly anxious, then tired. The parts model really connects with me and I'd like to learn more. You have explained it very well Dr Tori.

Thank you Dr. Olds! You have such a gift for making complex ideas easy to understand! Keep these videos coming! All of the parts of me appreciate you!

You are such a skilled teacher. Thank you for this! I am just getting started with IFS in couples counseling and your video is extremely informative for a beginner.

Dr Tori, you are like the Dr Mobeen Syed/Drbeen of psychology. You explain the complex so well that it is easy for a person with training to grasp it. Thank you for all your content.

Clearly, deeply and beautifully put. I learn so much listening to your videos Tori - I return to then often as there is so much in each. There is so much hope and warmth in your message.

Thank you! Couldn't stop crying the whole video

I've been recommended this video and series of videos for a year now by my therapist but never got around to watching it. Now that I have I'm crying. I'll take a break before watching the rest.

I almost skipped this video because I already know what IFS is, but I'm VERY glad I didn't. You see, while some parts of me feel like IFS makes so much sense, at least one part of me is skeptical and tends to look for more 'scientific' explanations of things. I love the way you explained exactly how IFS makes sense in a scientific way, and I want to go back and listen to this again but take notes this time so I can remind that part (or those parts?) when they try to dissuade me from continuing with IFS therapy. I also just love the way you explain things overall, and the amazing level of compassion in your voice and the things you say. Thank you so much for doing what you do and for creating these videos.

Thank you so much for this Tori, you explain this therapy so clearly and make it understandable.

Late to the party but I recently started doing IFS therapy and this is a very educational video that helped me understand better what's the approach and purpose. When I was introduced to it I was very confused and not sure if it was suitable for me, but I understand that "the part" of me that is resisting doing the work is just trying to protect me from looking straight at some hurtful things I need to address with love, patience, and compassion and I am giving it a try. Thank you for your video.

I've been searching for quite a while on this specific thing (to the point where I'd nearly just made my own) - content that breaks down and explains how non-shaming and easily understandable the IFS model can be. Thank you for making this and I look forward to sharing it.

Thank you for this, I’m searching for the tools to help heal myself and keep myself upright. My relationships have been hurting and the worst one of all is the one I have with myself. Long ago I mused that there must be many different parts of me, after watching your video I realized I can’t shut them all out. They need understanding. Thank you again for this inspiration and hope

Beautiful and accessible explanation of what can be an overwhelming topic. You are a natural teacher and communicator. Thank you for all your hard work - what a gift!

Thank you for this series! I've been doing IFS therapy and I've really struggled to try and explain it to my husband. I'm going to send him this series instead.

What's interesting to me is how this way of thinking is directly in line with the beliefs of the Bahai faith, which actually builds upon the HOW. Thank you for your work and insight ❤

I'm a new therapist and your video simplified what I've been reading ~ Thank you!

This is so helpful, Tori! Best explanation of the underlying neurobiology I've ever heard. Thank you for so generously sharing your wealth of knowledge and experience!

MSMFT here. I’m learning IFS right now and your video resonates so well. Thank you for creating this series! 🙏

This is SUCH a helpful explanation and introduction to IFS! I started working on IFS recently at my therapist's suggestion, but it's been hard to explain how/why it works to other people. The idea of having subpersonalities feels intuitive for me as the person actually experiencing working through trauma, but many videos on IFS do a poor job of explaining the actual scientific ideas behind why parts exist. It's often an explanation from common phrases, or abstract ideas in the popular consciousness, but explaining parts as learned ways of being and behaving that make up part of the whole of who we are feels like a more solid way of explaining the rationale behind IFS.

The BEST insight I’ve ever heard! Thank you dr Tori!

wow I think listening to her calmed some of my parts. thank you.

Wow! That is the best explanation of this type of therapy. Very clear, concise and easy to understand. Looking forward to the next videos.

This is the best explanation of IFS that I have ever heard Tori!! As a Level 3 trained IFS Practitioner Im always looking for resources for clients and for people who attend my workshops.... I love sending them to your page. I love that you dont use the usual IFS jargon. Yay, yay.

This is just what i am in need of right now. I have much work to do... I have subscribed and I will begin now learning more about IFS.

Thanks for this gentle introduction! I've never heard of IFS but recognise some concepts from it. I plan to watch more. (Thank you also for the mention of Longfellow. I'm now devouring his poetry.)

I'm 32, a former addict been clean for a year +, I'm looking to get back to therapy this time using the IFS model. I still haven't heard someone explain it that well, I'm starting IFS therapy next week and so excited ! Thank you for the informative and beautifully explained playlist you made about the topic. You're the reason I'm going back to therapy❤

Really appreciate all your content. As a professor, I also recognize how much time goes into scripting, delivering, and producing these. So smooth!

OMG you are serving the humanity with your Chanel ..💙

You're videos are not only immensely helpful but also a great map to an unknown inner world. Thank you for doing this

She has an incredible way of making very complex concepts easy to digest. There is no decoding necessary. I love her videos

I love your positive energy, warmth and intelligence ❤

I will be sharing this with my new clients! It is so helpful. Thank you.

So incredibly clear and helpful! Your work is brilliant! We are so lucky to have you!

Makes a lot of sense. Explains why even though I’ve done tons of therapy and learned to use so many skills, I’m still suffering a lot.

Bravo! Grateful to come across your channel. As an IFS trained therapist working with active duty Army, I appreciate your kind, clear presence and helpful metaphors. Excited to share your videos with my clients. You have a gift, thank you for sharing it 🙏🏽🙏🏻

I receive IFS therapy and have been learning things from your videos. Thanks so much for your clear explanations. I can't wait for the next one!

Thank you for this video. I appreciate you explaining it in such a way that is easy to understand and relate to. I love IFS but don't feel like I'm competent in applying it with my clients yet so this video really helps!

Thanks for such a clear description of IFS. I really appreciate your work in making this so easy to understand!

Thank you for making this series. In particular, thanks for being accessible without losing the details... it's important to capture the nuances around IFS, like why we call them "protectors". Becoming our own best friend is a journey, and I hope this series helps show me some tools I can use on my way.

I like your ideas helping and breaking down complex human beings.letting people understand how to keep going forward.I have brought all my family's likes into my own instead of liking my own .colors animals food.

Love Dr. Olds. Such valuable info communicated so simply.

Karen what an amazing reading - I’m definitely filled with love and I’m bathing in this energy 💚 💫 x

I am super impressed with Dr. Olds's approach. It's like re-learning IFS all over again. I am blown away at the simplicity in the complex model she presents. Wow, amazing. I am going to re-look at how I present IFS to my Clients. I have used her content in my meet and greet with new clients. I have been seeing some things that did bother me about IFS, and this may not be the spot to say anything, but I was not aware that IFS therapists were charging $250-$325 an hour (yes this does depend on where you live) for IFS sessions. I am sure they believe they are worth it, and I want to support those parts of them that are so confident. But I believe Dr. Schwartz's mission to heal the globe starts with us IFS trained practitioners being willing to make IFS affordable. People should not have to take on a second job in order to get access to it. I am super passionate about this style of therapy and believe everyone should have access to it. Thank you Dr. Olds for being so clear and helpful in your explanations. Your content is making a huge difference.

I'm glad you said IFS is not for multiple personality disorders only. I had a therapist who didn't showed me how to find my parts. Just told me I had to do shadow work but not how. I think she put into my mind I had much more unknown parts and was surprised I had too few. I'm really confused and I think I felt push about naming parts that are just feelings or character traits not parts. I think she planted ideas which were not mine. Other said identity or personality is just one and if I had parts I have multiple personality disorder.

Your voice is so calming Thank you for this

I realized I have multiple personalities and somehow ended up hearing about IFS. Well not somehow I study psychology and my algorithm is focused on it. 😂 but Psychology is just as wide a field as IT. Glad to hear this. Thank you for all you do. I love ya!!!! Liked and subscribed.

Thank you so much for this video. Both as someone who had their first real taste of parts work therapy just today for myself, and as an incoming mental health counseling grad student.

Fantastic presentation of what IFS is. Excellent presentation, deep understanding, really good

You are the best human diagnostic on the planet.

i really appreciate your videos. i’ve recently began my healing journey and found IFS. Learning about IFS has been so illuminating. Frankly, Dr. Schwartz “No Bad Parts” was a little hard for me to understand but your videos make it so much easier to take in. Thank you!

Love this. You have a beautiful way of presenting this way of working. Looking forward to the next video.

Wow. What a healing class! Thank you for it ❤

Excellent!! So glad to have this resource to share with my clients. Masterful way of weaving together the neuroscience with the practical!

Love the metaphors and way IFS is described in this video! Have already shared the idea of parallel processors :) so helpful. Thank you for sharing this Tori!

The best! Very helpful for blending the science with the emotion piece. Thanks for sharing your time and knowledge

Wow! I just returned from visiting family & felt very judgemental, out-of-sorts, stymed 😢 & this explanation of the human experience helped me feel ❤ compassionate & centered. 😅😊 Thank you! 💖

You are fantastic at explaining things, I'm excited to watch the rest of the series!!

The "dropping IQ" part literally got MY JAW ON THE FLOOR. Like what... it was not just a feeling of "being dumber" around my dad, my brain just protected me by conditioning itself?? Thank you and bless you for this video

Fantastic explanation and you are so genuine, great job!

Thank you so much for this course. So helpful.

I started this with my therapist very recently, after being very confused as to what this all really is, you made it all make sense! Ill admit, even the way Schwartz explained it didn't really click, your explanation made that lightbulb go off. I can't wait to watch the rest of your videos... however right now I'm going to listen to the part of me that's telling me it needs a nap 😂

This is such a brilliantly articulated summary of IFS (I LOVE IFS!). Your ability to so clearly and powerfully explain these concepts is such a gift. Thanks SO MUCH!😁🙏 Martin

Just so wonderfully done!

Brilliantly put and so so helpful. An excellent video series - thank you.

Absolutely wonderful 😊thank you for sharing.. exactly what I was seeking

Thank u so much for going to the trouble of rooting this wonderful therapy in science - I think it goes a long way to breaking down barriers and giving those who r more logically minded a chance to experience something new :)

I started IFS with my Therapist and I think I may have opened up too fast. But I have been seeing new health care workers and it seams like I have been opening too fast with them too.. I can relate to what you are saying.. I will save this video and subscribe to your channel.. Thank you..

Thank you so much. This hits me right in the feels, i keep getting emotional without really knowing why. Kinda like some really good punk rock. I have some figuring out to do and this feels like it's going to help. THank you thank you

Thank you. Now I have to do the work. You are a big help to me.

Thanks, Tori. That was so helpful! I'm looking forward to the next "parts" (pun intended) indeed! Fantastic.

Will be using your videos in my practice! Thank you for making them 🙏🏽❤️✝️👣🌄

I am so grateful for your videos. Out helps me to give clients education outside of session so we can focus on the parts in session. Thank you!!!!

Thank you for producing this wonderful video!

So well done Tori.